A crucial part of Judiasm is the mitzvah to be happy. Both, on a regular basis, as well as for chagim.
In order to be truly happy, we need to be happy with ourselves. with who we are as people.
Eizahu asher hasameach bechelko LETS TEST IT OUT! Do you believe in yourself? Do you give yourself the credit you deserve? Self-esteem is an integral part of personal happiness, fulfilling relationships and achievement. This test is designed to evaluate your general level of self-esteem. This screening will determine whether you need to work on your self-image. Examine the following statements and indicate how often you feel that way.
1. You just left a job interviewThe interviewer was stern-faced and never smiled, and asked you several questions that you had no answer for. When you go home, the following thoughts go through your mind.
a) Ill probably never get a job again in my whole life. b) I knew I couldnt possibly get that particular job. I shouldnt have applied for it. c) I didnt do my best on that interview. Ill look at how I could have answered the questions differently in order to prepare for my next interview.
2. You just completed a major project for your current employer. You worked very hard on this project and expected your boss to be impressed. Instead he is critical and unappreciative. How do you react?
a) I knew I wasnt capable of doing a good job. Ill never succeed again. b) I couldnt do any better than I did. Since he doesnt like it, that means I am a failure. c) You point out to your boss how hard you worked on it and why you feel you did well. Although you cant control his reaction, you can control your reaction to his reaction. Your sense of pride in the job you did remains unshaken.
3) You just went on the first blind date youve had in years. You were interested in a second date with this person, but they made it clear they did not want to see you again. How do you react?
a) Nobody is ever going to want me again. b) I dont know why I thought someone as special as that would be interested in me. c) His (or her) loss
4) An acquaintance you barely know compliments you on the way you look. How do you react?
a) Do you need glasses? b) I dont think I look that great today, but thanks anyway. c) Thank you very much.
5) You are working and going to school and are overwhelmed by household chores. Your family is content to sit back and let you take care of everything. What do you do?
a) You take care of everything, getting more and more resentful every day. b) You scream at everyone about how ungrateful they are, but continue to take care of it all. c) You assert that your family needs to pitch in and help and delegate chores to family members.
Results If you answered mostly as, your self-esteem couldnt be much lower. Your self-esteem is caught up in believing others are worth more than you are, and there is work to be done to build it back up. Spend some time reading information for improving your self-esteem.
Results
If you answered mostly bs, your self-esteem issues are more focused on the situation at hand. There is still room for improvement. Work on keeping a journal and pay attention to what you could do better each day and in specific situations.
Results If you answered mostly cs, youre definitely on the right track! Your sense of self-respect isnt dependent on what others think of you, and you have a healthy sense that you are a person of value.
But what IS self esteem?? Why does everybody make SUCH a BIG DEAL about it??
Self esteem is how one feels about him or herself. how you think others feel about you. Do you think they like you? Or do you feel like no one values you?
I can be anything I want to be in life.
I should always be treated with respect and dignity.
I am special. I have the right to express my individuality by the way I dress. No one has the right to censor my creative spirit.
What Did You Learn? What did you learn from this story? What did it make you think about? What are some of the things the missing pieces tries to do that does not work? What happens to make the missing piece finally be happy? DISCUSS What do you feel is your missing piece? Do you feel like you have one? What is that something that you think you need in order for you to be fulfilled? The right job? The right purpose? The right house? The right friends? Have you found yourself trying to change how you look? Or the way you Dress? Color your hair? Style of clothing? Hair style? Hobbies? After school activities? In order to impress people?!
DISCUSS Have you ever met someone who seems to be fully satisfied with his or her life? Why do you think that is? Have you met people who are still restless, who keep running around always thinking that the grass is greener on the other side? That something or someone else is better. Which group do you feel like you belong to? What have you learned from this story? What are your reflections? Do you think that you feel capable of believing that you do not need a person or a thing to fill you? But that you have the ability to be whole from within yourself?
CONCLUSION: It is important to realize that it is not about the piece thats missingbut about being your own full person and finding friends that are their own people Dont be the missing people for others thats NOT a relationship. Be two people who are compatible side by side as two healthy individuals
you cant be a good friend to someone else till you are a complete person yourself with an intact self esteem, a big O veahavta lereicha kamocha You cant love others until you love yourself To Do: Look at yourself in the mirror. Look at where you stand in your life currently. Look at everything about yourself and examine them thoroughly. Are there aspects of yourself which you dislike? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally? Spiritually? Is there anything that you wish is different about yourself? If there are, what are they? Write these down.
To Do: Next, examine yourself again in the same areas and look for the aspects which you like. What do you like about yourself? Physically? Mentally? Emotionally? Spiritually? Skillsets? Abilities? Beliefs? What have people complemented you on before? What were some of your greatest accomplishments that you are proud of? When were the times when you felt really proud of something you have done? Write them down.
COMPARE Now, look at your dislikes and your likes. Realize that your dislikes are part of what contributed you to becoming the person you are today. Without them, the other parts of you which you like wouldnt have existed.
Love who you are right now, unconditionally. While you can work on addressing those dislikes and improving yourself, you need to start off from a point where you already unequivocally love who you are right now. Improving yourself will just make you love yourself even more.
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