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Sexua| 8ehav|our
Chapter 6
Chapter S: 144-147

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Iantas|es
- acLual pasL experlences, purely lmaglned experlences, or a
mlxLure of boLh
- sponLaneously, or be lnLenuonal
- random, durlng masLurbauon, or whlle wlLh parLner(s)
- less consLralned by soclal consequences Lhan overL sexual
behavlour
- elaboraLe or slmple
- fanLasy versus reallLy
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Iantas|es
reva|ence
- college-aged women: 3 umes/day
- college-aged men 7 umes/day
- meLa-analyses: 93 of people sexually fanLaslze, on average,
same raLes for men and women
- WlnLers eL al. (2010): women 98.1, men 99.6

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Sexua| 8ehav|our
Women Men
sexual lnLercourse 93 96
oral-genlLal sex 84 94
havlng lnLercourse ln unusual posluons 83 89
havlng more Lhan one sexual parLner aL Lhe same ume 79 89
uslng aruclal devlces for sexual sumulauon 73 63
belng ued up or bound durlng sexual acuvlues 74 31
uslng aruclal devlces for sexual sumulauon 73 63
forbldden lover or mlsLress ln sexual advenLures 71 69
dresslng ln erouc garmenLs 67 36
homosexual fanLasles 63 (32) 44 (30)
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Iantas|es
Women Men
belng forced Lo submlL Lo sexual acLs 60 42
anal lnLercourse 47 73
belng sexually degraded 38 26
forclng a parLner Lo submlL Lo sexual acLs 33 48
fanLaslzlng LhaL you are of Lhe opposlLe sex 32 30
belng a prosuLuLe 32 18
maLeswapplng fanLasles 29 44
whlpplng or beaung your sexual parLner 23 28
dresslng ln cloLhes of Lhe opposlLe sex 18 20
havlng sexual relauon wlLh anlmals 13 14
degradlng a sex parLner 14 31
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Iantas|es
8enehts
- safe sexual ouLleL for explorlng sexuallLy
- en[oymenL of experlences LhaL are noL soclally accepLable/
permlsslble
- lncreases sexual arousal
- when shared under Lhe rlghL clrcumsLances, enhances sexual
experlences
- menLal rehearsal
- beuer sexual ad[usLmenL
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Iantas|es
otenna| Neganve Cutcomes
- gullL, shame
- lnLruslve fanLasles
- fanLasles and lllegal behavlour
- sharlng fanLasles wlLh an unrecepuve parLner
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Iantas|es
kape Iantas|es
- counLerlnLuluve, glven whaL rape enLalls
- ln women, raLes range from 31 Lo 62
- frequenLly occurrlng ln 9 Lo 17
- ln men, approxlmaLely 30
- Lyplcally durlng masLurbauon and/or lnLercourse
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Iantas|es
kape Iantas|es - 1heor|es
- blame avoldance - conlcung ndlngs
- openenss Lo sexual experlence
- deslrablllLy
- male rape culLure (femlnlsm)
- blologlcal predlsposluon Lo surrender (anlmals)
- sympaLheuc acuvauon

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Masturbanon
- sexual pleasurlng, Lyplcally of oneself, Lhrough manual
sumulauon (wlLh parLner[s] - muLual masLurbauon)
- Cnan|sm - Cnan, Lhe 8ook of Cenesls

masLurbauon and lllness:
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- loss of sLrengLh
- loss of memory
- nervous and menLal dlsorders
- loss of vlslon
- lmpoLence
- gouL
- rheumausm
- headaches
- cancer
- sLerlllLy
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Masturbanon
keverend Graham - graham cracker
Lo help conLrol sexual urges and
deslres

Dr. ke||ogg - conLrol sexual deslres
wlLh dleL of slmple foods,
especlally gralns, proponenL of
devlces and bandaglng Lo sLop
chlldren from Louchlng Lhelr
genlLals
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Masturbanon
- 1972, Amerlcan Medlcal Assoclauon declares masLurbauon Lo
be a normal sexual behavlour
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- 1994, uS Surgeon Ceneral !oycelyn
Llders removed from posL: masLurbauon
naLural parL of human behavlour, should
be LaughL
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Masturbanon
- CaLhollc Church, ln 1999: sull morally wrong, buL no longer a
morLal sln
- Selnfeld
- uk nauonal PealLh Servlce !" $%&'() ' *'+ ,--.( /0- *12/1%
!3'+4 campalgn ln Shemeld

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Masturbanon
reva|ence
Sexua| 8ehav|our
Women Men
erson eL al. (1989)
new ?ork
83 93
Psu eL al. (1994)
SouLhern Callfornla
71 83
8elnholLz eL al. (1993)
kansas
42 73
LelLenberg eL al. (1993)
vermonL
43 81
MesLon eL al. (1996)
vancouver
48 80
WlnLers eL al. (2010)
Canada
89 99
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Women
Women ln
8elauonshlps
Men
Men ln
8elauonshlps
noL AL All 11.2 9.7 1.3 1.2
Less 1han Cne
er MonLh
12.9 14.4 2.2 2.7
1-2 er MonLh 14.3 13.8 4.3 3.2
1 er Week 13.9 17.4 12.1 13.4
2-3 er Week 24.8 24.0 23.3 26.9
4-6 er Week 12.1 10.7 22.3 21.3
1 er uay 6.3 3.9 22.3 20.3
2-3 er uay 2.0 1.9 9.2 8.0
4 Cr More er
uay
.3 .2 .9 .4
Irequency
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Masturbanon
ke|anonsh|ps
common mlspercepuons:
- people who are ln sexually sausfylng relauonshlps
don'L masLurbaLe
- people ln relauonshlps who masLurbaLe are sexually
dlssaused wlLh Lhelr parLners
- people who masLurbaLe whlle ln relauonshlps are
masLurbauon/pornography addlcLs
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Masturbanon
ke|anonsh|ps
people ln relauonshlps who masLurbaLe:
- are more llkely Lo be saused physlcally and emouonally
wlLh Lhelr sex llves
- Lyplcally have more sex wlLh Lhelr parLners
- are more llkely Lo be beuer sex parLners
- may slmply be sauaung a hlgher sex drlve/needs

- muLual masLurbauon and masLurbaung for each oLher
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Masturbanon
ke|anonsh|ps
- mosL oen reporLed by female parLner
- becomes a problem when lL sLarLs lnLerferlng wlLh Lhe
relauonshlp
- sex dlerences ln physlologlcal response

may be lndlcauve of:
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- fear of re[ecuon
- poor communlcauon
- sexual dlssausfacuon
- lack of auracuon
- relauonshlp problems
- anxleLy
- lazlness
- boredom
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Masturbanon
8enehts
- sexual self-dlscovery
- release of sexual Lenslon/frusLrauon
- resoluuon of sexual problems
- sausfylng orgasm
- lmproved aecL
- ln women, rellef from mensLrual paln
- ln men, reduced rlsk of prosLaLe cancer and hearL dlsease
- compensauon for dlsparlLy ln couple's level of sex drlve
- safe sex
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Masturbanon
Women
- huge dlverslLy ln Lechnlques, lncludlng varlauons ln lnLernal/
exLernal sumulauon
areas of sumulauon may lnclude (buL are noL excluded Lo):
Sexua| 8ehav|our
- cllLorls
- labla
- vaglna
- perlneum
- anus/recLum
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Masturbanon
Men
- generally, some verslon of sLroklng Lhe sha and glans of
Lhe penls wlLh hands
- clrcumclsed versus non-clrcumclsed
- humplng plllows, bed, eLc.
areas of sumulauon may lnclude (buL are noL excluded Lo):
Sexua| 8ehav|our
- sha
- glans
- scroLum
- perlneum
- anus/recLum
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Masturbanon
- masLurbauon classes
- lnfanLs/chlldren and masLurbauon
- auLoerouc asphyxlauon
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artnered
- Lradluonal approach Lo sex - procreauon
- role of conLracepuon
- women's rlghLs movemenL
- gay rlghLs movemenL

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artnered
- sexuallLy (and preferences) can be uld
- Lype of relauonshlp
- lnuenced by whaL Lhe parLners brlng Lo lL
- sLaLe of Lhe relauonshlp
- can be complex or slmple
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Good Sex
- should be pleasurable
- should make you feel good abouL yourself
- lmproves relauonshlp(s), oxyLocln and dopamlne
- creauvlLy, exclLemenL, enLhuslasm, Laklng rlsks
- good communlcauon ls essenual
- hlsLory wlLh parLner(s)
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Good Sex
- reallsuc - Lakes work
- waxlng and wanlng
- avold xaung on performance
- condence
- maklng mlsLakes ls parL of Lhe process
- sexual compaublllLy
- doesn'L always have Lo be peneLrauve
- one parLner may noL be physlcally able
- belng Lhe peneLraLor versus Lhe peneLraLee
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8e|ng a Good artner
- non-[udgmenLal
- secure wlLh one's own sexuallLy (and free from
embarrassmenL)
- sensluve versus selsh
- wllllng Lo push boundarles

Savage Love:
- CCC - good , glvlng, and game
- Lhe CampslLe 8ule
- Lhe Lhree 8s
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In|nanng
- men lnluaLe more Lhan women
! hlsLorlcal rules
! sexual deslre
! sex dlerences ln sexual response
- problems assoclaLed wlLh non-lnluauon
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Iorep|ay?
- sexung
- lrung, eye conLacL
- klsslng (llps/oLher parLs of Lhe body)
- Louchlng
- manual sumulauon
- oral sex
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Cra| Sex
- fe||ano/cunn|||ngus
- men seem Lo prefer oral sex (glvlng/recelvlng) more Lhan women
- can be comblned wlLh dlglLal or devlce peneLrauon

- glvlng versus recelvlng
- whaL's ln lL for Lhe glver?
- power
- Lechnlque
- cleanllness/odor
- dleL
- splL versus swallow
- faclals
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Ana| |ay and Sex
- manual sumulauon, anallngus and anal sex
- anal sex as Lhe new oral sex
- fundamenLal dlerences from oral and vaglnal sex
rlsklesL sex:
1. presence of bacLerla
2. Lhln wall ussue
3. noL self-lubrlcaung
can be very pleasurable lf: well prepared, loLs of lubrlcanL, and
slow pace
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Same-Sex artners
- paradox: hlghly resLralned by socleLy (sull), whlle unresLralned
from sLereoLypes abouL heLerosexual sex
myLhs:
- all men who have sex wlLh men llke anal sex
- all women who have sex wlLh women dlsllke peneLrauon
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ush|ng 8oundar|es
- Lhreesomes
- role-playlng
- 8uSM (bondage and domlnauon,
domlnance and submlsslon,
sadlsm and masochlsm)
- pegglng
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Irequency and Duranon
- besL agreed upon by Lhe couple
- marrled couple (or long-Lerm couple): mosL commonly 1-2
umes per week
- preference for everyLhlng ranglng from a 'qulckle' Lo
prolonged sesslons
- mosL people reporL sesslons lasung 13 mlnuLes Lo 1 hour
- acLual peneLrauon - averages from 2 Lo 7 mlnuLes
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Sex D|erences
- men reporL longer ldeal lengLh of lnLercourse Lhan
women, buL boLh would prefer longer Lhan whaL Lhey're
gemng
- women wanL more emouonal closeness
- men reporL wanung sex more oen Lhan women
- boLh men and women wlsh Lhey were havlng more sex
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Sex D|erences
- men are more llkely Lo wanL more Lhan one sexual parLner Lhan
women
- women are far more llkely Lhan men Lo [udged negauvely for
havlng casual sex, muluple parLners, and havlng hlgh sexual
deslre

Sexua| 8ehav|our
- cougars, femlnlsm, Lhe new
female sexuallLy, and Lhe
double-sLandard