Lisa Tupu, Stephanie RotH, & Korrin Cheatwood Ambiguity in dating, or The Hookup Culture Attachment insecurity is a major factor in modern relationship issues Attachment theory Higher rates of divorce Needs of children not being met through abuse Communication & technology Motivation for Relationship Ambiguity
If it is not clear when a relationship begins or how serious it really is, it may be believed that it will hurt less when it ends. Scott Stanley, Ph.D
John Bowlbys Attachment Theory Attachment refers to the bond between an infant and the primary caregiver Mary Ainsworth added attachment types to Bowlbys work 1. Secure attachment 2. Avoidant attachment (Anxious) 3. Ambivalent attachment (Avoidant) 4. Disorganized attachment (Anxious avoidant) Child Abuse & Attachment Disorders
What is child abuse?
What is an attachment disorder? Effects of child abuse & neglect Deficits, unstable peer relationships, low self-esteem, behavioral problems and psychopathology. lack ability to make the best choices for his or her life as a result of the emotional or physical damage from the abuse. (Cynthia Conrad PHD, University of New Haven) Divorce: Its ugly, and emotionally stressful What does a child experience when their parents separate? The loss of the everyday routine The loss of parents as they used to be The loss of material things The loss of time with parents Having two homes (maybe even feeling the need to choose) Filling the absent parents shoes Child now knows the effects that love/heartache have Child becomes independent at a younger age
Divorce and attachment
Proximity Maintenance: -Parents attention is divided/lessened
Safe Haven: -Feeling unsafe with the parental unit being broken -child becomes independent at a young age
Secure Base: -Everyday routine is interrupted/changed completely -torn between homes/not feeling like they have a home at all
Separation Distress: -Loss of material things -feeling that they need to fill absent parents shoes, or that they have to choose sides.
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