Sane Sex Life and Sane Sex Living

H.W. Long
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Tit"e' Sane Sex Life and Sane Sex Living
So#e Things That ("" Sane Peo%"e )ught To *no! (bout Sex +ature (nd
Sex ,unctioning- .ts P"ace .n The /cono#y )f Life, .ts Pro%er Training
(nd 0ighteous /xercise
(uthor' H.W. Long
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(s !e have #oved do!n the ages, no! and then, fro# the re"igious
teacher, the states#an, the inventor, the socia" !orer, or fro# the
doctor, surgeon, or sexo"ogist, there has been a FCvox c"a#antis in
desertoC.F >sua""y these voices have fa""en on unheeding ears- but
again and again so#e de"ver in boos, so#e student of #en, so#e
ins%ired, se"f&effacing, or a"truistic one has taen u% the cry- and
at "ast unthining, unheeding, su%erficia", se"f&satisfied hu#anity
has turned to "isten.
(ristot"e by the sure inductive #ethod "earned and taught #uch,
concerning the sex re"ations of #en and !o#en, that it !ou"d %rofit
us today to heed. Ba"Gac, Luther, Aiche"et, S%encer, and "ater, at
our very doors, *rafft&/bbing, ,ore", B"och, /""is, ,reud, Ha"", and
scores of others have added their voices. ("" these have seen !hither
!e !ere drifting, and have #ade vigorous %rotests according to their
"ights. Aany of these %rotests shou"d have been heard, but !ere not,
and on"y no! are just beginning to be heeded. Such %ioneers in the
fie"d of %ro%er, hea"thfu", ethica", re"igious, sane dai"y sex "iving,
have been Sturgis and Aa"cho!, !ho ta"ed earnest"y to an unheeding
%rofession of these things, and no!, . have the honor to !rite
an introductory !ord to a boo in this fie"d, that is sane, !ise,
%ractica", entire"y truthfu", and uns%eaab"y necessary.
. can endorse the teachings in 1r. Long's boo #ore fu""y because .
have, for near"y a Buarter of a century, been ho"ding si#i"ar vie!s,
and dis%ensing si#i"ar, though %erha%s "ess ex%"icit, infor#ation.
. no! fro# "ong observation that the teaching is !ho"eso#e and
necessary, and that the resu"ts are universa""y u%"ifting. Such
teachings i#%rove hea"th, %ro"ong "ife, and %ro#ote virtue, adding to
the ha%%iness and "essening the burdens of #en, on the one hand- on
the other, reducing their cri#es and vices. ( boo "ie this !ou"d
have %roved inva"uab"e to #e on #y entrance to the #arried state- but
had . had it, . #ight not have been forced to acBuire the no!"edge
!hich enab"es #e no! to state !ith a"" so"e#nity, that . %ersona""y
no! hundreds of cou%"es !hose "ives !ere !reced for "ac of such
no!"edge, and that . #ore inti#ate"y no! hundreds of others to
!ho# verba" teaching a"ong the "ines he has "aid do!n, has brought
ha%%iness, hea"th and goodness.
1r. Long advances no theories- neither do .. He has found by studying
hi#se"f and other %eo%"e, a sane and sa"utary !ay of sex "iving, and
fear"ess"y has %rescribed this to a "i#ited circ"e for a "ong ti#e. .
congratu"ate hi# for his %ers%icacity, te#erity, and !isdo#. He offers
no a%o"ogy, and there is no occasion for any. He says, F("" has been
set do!n in "ove, by a "over, for the sae of "overs yet to be, in the
ho%e of he"%ing the# on to!ard a divine consu##ation.F That is, he has
deve"o%ed these ideas at ho#e, and then s%read the# abroad, or, he has
found the# abroad and brought the# ho#e- and they !ored.
. a"so s%ea so#e!hat Cex ex%erientiaC and have so#e inti#ate %ersona"
no!"edge of #any of these things. Therefore, . advocate his doctrine,
the #ore readi"y, and #aintain that hu#anity needs these ideas as
#uch today as !hen A. =u"es Le#aitre !rote his "ate introduction to
Aiche"et's CL'(#ourC. He said' FC." ne %arait %as, a%res Buarante ans
%asses, Bue "es choses ai""ent #ieux, ni Bue "e "ivre de Aiche"et
ait rien %erdu de son a&%ro%osC.F T!enty years #ore have e"a%sed
and things have not yet beco#e #uch better. ,ran sex ta"s "ie 1r.
Long's teaching are as a&%ro%os today as !as Aiche"et's boo !hen it
!as !ritten, or !hen, after forty years had %assed A. Le#aitre !rote
his introduction.
.dea"is# is right, and !e a"" a%%rove it- so #uch so, that #any of us
cannot see that u"tra&idea"is#, extre#is# in right, Hit is foo"ish
to atte#%t to attain anything better than the bestI #ay be !rong.
>ndoubted"y, entire devotion to the #ateria" and %hysica", is a"so
!rong- but !e never #ust "ose sight of the %a"%ab"e fact that, un"ess
!e have a %ro%er, stab"e, natura", !e""&regu"ated %hysica" or
#ateria" foundation, !e #ust fa"" short of a"" idea"s. Pro%er %hysica"
adjust#ents enab"e the rea"iGation of rea"iGab"e idea"s. >nrea"iGab"e
idea"s are chi#eras %ursued into futurity, !hi"e a !or"d that shou"d
be hu#an and ha%%y !aits in vice and #isery. . gather that 1r. Long
be"ieves that reducing this vice and #isery, and increasing hu#an
ha%%iness and i#%roving hea"th are suitab"e !ors !ith !hich to
co#%anion a faith in the (rbiter of our destinies.
.f thus he deve"o%s his idea of the integrity of the universe, . agree
!ith hi# fu""y. His boo, since it de"ineates the nu#erous detai"s of
a nor#a" sex "ife, can be so"d, thans to our %rudish %ub"ic, on"y to
the %rofession. . be"ieve it shou"d go to the "arger %ub"ic as it has
gone for#er"y to his s#a""er co##unity.
.n s%ite of i#%erfect idea"s the )rient has endured, !hi"e !e of the
)ccident are fast beco#ing decadent. We, by "earning so#ething of
the art of "ove, and of the natura" "ife of #arried %eo%"e, fro# the
Hindoos, #ay %er%etuate our civi"iGation. They, by ado%ting the best
of our transcendenta"is#, #ay reach higher deve"o%#ent than !e yet
have attained.
The ti#e has co#e for a boo "ie this to co##and the attention of
#edica" #en, since no! an a!aened %ub"ic de#ands fro# the#, as the
conservers of "ife and the directors of %hysio"ogica" "iving, ex%"icit
directions in everything %ertaining to the %hysician's ca""ing, not
o#itting the inti#ate, intricate, "ong taboo and disdained detai"s of
sex "ife and %rocreation.
W.,. 0)B./, A.1.
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By 1r. W.,. 0obie, author of FThe (rt of LoveF
+eed for facts about sex and "ove&&Present ignorance of sex
re"ations&&Sex infor#ation i#%roves hea"th, %ro"ongs "ife, %ro#otes
virtue, adds to ha%%iness&&,ran ta"s needed&&This boo describes
detai"s of nor#a" sex "ife, describes art of "ove, gives ex%"icit
instructions %ertaining to inti#acies of sex "ife.
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(ns!ers %rob"e#s of sex "ife in the de"icate re"ations of
#arriage&&Aost %eo%"e too ti#id to revea" reasons for their sexua"
difficu"ties&&*no!"edge in a boo "ess e#barrassing to gain&&+ever
before cou"d %eo%"e find facts they !anted to no! #ost&&This boo
%re%ared es%ecia""y to he"% husbands and !ives to "ive !ho"eso#e sex
"ives&&Gives the# facts a"" #arried %eo%"e shou"d no!&&/x%"ains
ho! to use that infor#ation to #ae #arriage a success&&/s%ecia""y
va"uab"e for ne!"y!eds if read on honey#oon&&Those no! #arried !ho do
not get on !e"" together !i"" find in this boo re"ief fro# suffering
and !oe.
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Wrong teachings about sex&&;hi"dren brought u% in ignorance on sex
#atters&&+o infor#ation given by %arents, schoo"s, churches&&But
chi"dren !i"" find out even if they go to !rong sources&&So#e one #ust
te"" the truth&&This boo does it.
TH/ (0G>A/+T (+1 TH/ .+,)0A(T.)+
>nti" recent"y it !as a cri#e to give no!"edge concerning sex
re"ations&&Sex no!"edge denied through se"fishness or %rudery&&This
is !rong because sex is of highest i#%ortance to hu#an beings&&.""s,
cri#es, #isfortunes are resu"t !hen %eo%"e are forced to be ignorant
of no!"edge they need&&;onde#ned to suffer tortures !hen they #ight
enjoy de"ights&&Sex is c"ean and natura"&&(t "ast sex no!"edge #ay
be given free"y&&(dvice in this boo gained fro# %ersona" and
%rofessiona" ex%erience.
TH/ ;)00/;T A/+T(L (TT.T>1/
1efinite infor#ation no! given !hich !i"" he"% husbands and !ives
to find %er%etua" and increasing ha%%iness a"" their "ives&&1uty of
brides and groo#s to acBuaint the#se"ves !ith each other's sexua"
needs&&+o #an or !o#an shou"d be asha#ed of the sexua" #ae&u%&&They
shou"d be %roud of their sexua" functions and viri"ity&&0ead the boo
!ithout sha#e or shoc&&Gaining honest truth about these #atters is
#ost essentia" to "ife.
TH/ S/? )0G(+S
Aa"e sex organs are %enis and testic"es&&SiGe and for# of %enis !hen
at rest and during sexua" excite#ent&&Position of testic"es&&Why one
teste is "arger&&Pubic regions in #en and !o#en.
,e#a"e sex organs are vu"va, vagina" %assage, !o#b, and
ovaries&&Length of vagina" %assage co#%ared !ith distended %enis&&SiGe
and for#ation of !o#b&&Position of ovaries.
,>+;T.)+ ), TH/ S/? )0G(+S
Pri#ary %ur%ose of sex in the hu#an race&&Life is the resu"t of union
of t!o forces&&Birth the sa#e in hu#an beings as in other for#s of
"ife&&Process of conce%tion in fe#a"e&&Ho! fe#a"e ovu# is ferti"iGed
by #a"e&&When %uberty begins and ends in !o#en.
Aenstruation, its cause and #eaning&&When ovu# #ay be
i#%regnated&&)rigin of s%er# in #an&&Pur%ose of %rostate g"and&&What
se#en is&&,or birth of ne! "ife union of #a"e and fe#a"e sex organs
necessary&&G"ans %enis in #an and c"itoris in !o#an are FexcitingF
foca" %oints&&;"i#ax of coitus.
>se of sexua" organs to %roduce offs%ring sa#e in #anind as in
ani#a"s&&)ne !ay in !hich hu#an beings differ fro# ani#a"s in sex
re"ations&&;oitus %ossib"e in ani#a"s on"y in FruttingF season&&.n
hu#an beings coitus enjoyab"e at any ti#e&&What this difference #eans
to ha%%iness&&The basis of rea" success in #arriage&&Aarried %eo%"e
can reach highest conditions of !ed"oc !hen they no! and %ractice
!hat is right in sex&&+o FrightsF conferred in sex re"ations through
the cere#ony of #arriage.
1ifferent vie!s of sexua" re"ations for %ur%ose of ha%%iness&&Pad"ocs
to %revent exercise of sexua" functions&&/ffect of fa"sehoods about
sex re"ations&&.nnocent brides and goody&good husbands&&1ifferences
of o%inion by brides and groo#s "ead to terrib"e !rongs on #arriage
night&&,a"se teaching often resu"ts in the Fra%e of the !edding
nightF&&Ho! definite no!"edge %revents this shoc to bride and #aes
for %erfect b"iss&&The second ind of coitus reserved on"y for hu#an
beings can bring highest %hysica", #enta", and s%iritua" !e""&being.
TH/ (;T ), ;).T>S
;oitus consists of four %arts or acts&&Where ninety&nine
one&hundredths of a"" #arried troub"es begin&&>sua""y husband's fau"t
due to ignorance or care"essness.
,irst %art of act of coitus&&1ifference bet!een #en and !o#en in ti#e
needed for sexua" readiness&&Wo#en usua""y s"o!er&&Prostatic f"o!
and %re&coita" secretion&&;oitus har#fu" !hen either %artner not fu""y
ready for sexua" union&&Taing ti#e #ost i#%ortant feature&&S%ecia"
infor#ation for ne!"y!eds&&Wo#an's fear of Fso#ething ne!F and of
%regnancy&&Husband shou"d not insist u%on FrightsF&&/vi"s !hich
fo""o! this !rong attitude&&True #arriage based on #utua" "ove&&*ey
to #arried ha%%iness&&Aarried "ove needs continua" care by husband and
!ife&&.nstructions for %erfor#ing first %art of act of coitus.
Second %art of act of coitus&&Aany %ositions %ossib"e&&Best
%osition&&.nstructions for %erfor#ing second %art of act of coitus.
Third %art of act of coitus&&( co##on #istae #ade by #any !ives,
es%ecia""y young brides&&+eed for co#%"ete freedo# on %art of
!o#an&&Length of ti#e reBuired&&Si"" and intensity needed by husband
and !ife&&.nstructions for %erfor#ing third %art of act of coitus.
,ourth and fina" %art of act of coitus&&When done correct"y greatest
of a"" hu#an ex%eriences&&What ha%%ens to the #an&&What occurs in the
!o#an&&+o connection !ith %ossibi"ity of %regnancy&&1esigned by nature
es%ecia""y for !o#an's satisfaction and %"easure&&S%ecia" instruction
for husband and !ife&&0evie! of a"" the four %arts of the act of
coitus.
TH/ ,.0ST >+.)+
S%ecia" conditions !hich #ust be considered !hen bride is to
have first sexua" congress&&Her state of #ind&&+eed for better
acBuaintance&&What both bride and groo# shou"d no! about the !o#an's
sex organs- !here "ocated, %arts, ho! constructed, sensitivity&&Ho!
sha%e and siGe of #outh indicate sha%e and siGe of !o#an's sex organs.
The hy#en or F#aidenheadF&&Aeaning of its %resence or absence&&Ho!
it #ay be re#oved !ithout danger or %ain&&,irst union shou"d be
acco#%"ished by #utua" desire and effort&&;hances of conce%tion in
coitus&&1esire for chi"dren.
The right to have chi"dren !hen !anted&&( #atter of choice&&1ifference
bet!een infanticide, abortion and %revention of %regnancy&&Ho! husband
and !ife can te"" !hen there is no danger of i#%regnation&&( ru"e
of coitus !hich shou"d never be vio"ated&&What infor#ation about
%regnancy #ay be gained fro# #enstrua" %eriod&&Aost !o#en have t!o
!ees of Ffree ti#eF each #onth&&,reedo# fro# fear an acco#%"ish#ent
!hich adds to ha%%iness of #arriage.
TH/ (0T ), L)@/
Aust be "earned and #astered because %artners in #arriage often
not #atched %hysica""y or %sychica""y&&)rdinary cases of %hysica"
#is#atching&&1ifference in siGe of sex organs #ay %roduce unfortunate
resu"ts&&Ho! to discover %hysica" #is#atching&&Ho! to correct
it&&.nstructions for overco#ing %hysica" #is#atching.
Psychica" #is#atching&&1ifferences bet!een #en and !o#en cause for
great dissatisfaction if not no!n and corrected&&.nstructions for
correcting %sychica" #is#atching if husband is at fau"t- if !ife is
at fau"t&&/xtending ti#e of first %art of coitus&&.nducing %re&coita"
f"o! in !o#an&&/ssentia" that first %art of coitus be continued unti"
!o#an is ready for second %art&&+ecessity for husband to no! !ays to
extend ti#e of third %art of coitus&&F*ee%ing the ca% onF&&What !ife
can do to correct %hysica" and %sychica" #is#atching.
Sex sti#u"ation is right and !ho"eso#e&&.nstructions if nor#a" sex
re"ations are i#%ossib"e&&S%ecia" infor#ation on sex sti#u"ation for
brides and groo#s&&@a"uab"e addition to sex no!"edge.
;).T>S 0/S/0@(T>S
( #enta" and s%iritua" "ove e#brace&&,u"fi""#ent of
courting&&S%ecia""y va"uab"e during ti#e !hen !o#an is not
FfreeF&&@a"ue of sexua" sti#u"ation if not carried to excess.
,reBuency of coitus&&Aen !ho !ear the#se"ves out&&Wo#en !ho !ear out
their husbands&&Ais#atching in sexua" te#%era#ent and desire&&Ho!
to correct it&&Wo#en !ho are anesthetic to sexua" desire, and ho! to
overco#e it&&.#%otence in #en.
Ho! "ate in "ife can coitus be %racticed !ith benefit to
hea"th&&1anger of !ithho"ding sex functioning&&Sex organs ab"e to
function unti" "ate in "ife&&Sexua" desires in !o#en after Fchange in
"ifeF&&Proof that (rt of Love #ust be "earned and that it can bring
"ife"ong ha%%iness.
;L/(+L.+/SS
+eed for ee%ing body c"ean, sexua" reaction&&Parts of body !o#an
shou"d be s%ecia""y carefu" to ee% c"ean&&Portion of body #an shou"d
be s%ecia""y carefu" to c"ean&&/ffect of #outh and ar#%it odors.
P0/G+(+;$
;o#%"ete ho#e !ith chi"dren su%re#e attain#ent of "ife&&Begetting
chi"dren shou"d be de"iberate choice by %arents&&Pro%er ti#e for
begetting chi"dren&&1anger of !aiting too "ong to have chi"dren&&When
first chi"d shou"d be born&&(t !hat age of %arents shou"d chi"dren be
born.
.s coitus !ise during %regnancy&&Ho! the (rt of Love %rovides for
this ti#e&&Passions of !o#en during %eriod of %regnancy&&;ri#ina" for
husband to co#%e" coitus u%on !ife un"ess desired by her.
;)+;L>S.)+
Boo !ritten !ith %ur%ose of he"%ing "over on to!ards divine
consu##ation&&T!o fina" instructions&&Beco#e #aster of the (rt of
Love&&Learn science of Procreation.
(bout #arried %eo%"e !ho cannot have chi"dren&&( guide to
ha%%iness&&;hief facts of true #arriage.
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CTo Ae#bers of the Aedica" Profession into Whose Hands This Boo Aay
;o#eC'
The fo""o!ing %ages are #ore in the nature of a #anuscri%t, or
heart&to&heart ta" bet!een those !ho have #utua" confidence in each
other, than of a technica", or strict"y scientific treatise of the
subject in hand- and . cannot do better, for a"" %arties concerned,
than to ex%"ain, just here in the beginning, ho! this ca#e about,
and !hy . have conc"uded to "eave the co%y %ractica""y as it !as
origina""y !ritten.
.n co##on !ith near"y a"" #e#bers of our %rofession !ho are engaged
in the genera" %ractice of #edicine, . have had nu#bers of #arried #en
and !o#en, husbands and !ives, %atients and other!ise, !ho have co#e
to #e for counse" and advice regarding #atters !hich %ertain to their
sex&"ife, as that %rob"e# %resented itse"f to the# %ersona""y. (s !e
a"" no!, #any of the #ost serious and co#%"icated cases !e have to
dea" !ith have their origins in these de"icate re"ations !hich so
often exist a#ong !edded %eo%"e, of a"" c"asses and varieties.
,or a nu#ber of years . did !hat . cou"d for these %atrons of #ine, by
!ay of confidentia" ta"s and the "ie, #y ex%erience in this regard
%robab"y being about on a %ar !ith that of #y #edica" brethren !ho are
engaged in the sa#e ind of !or. .t is need"ess to say that . found,
as you have doubt"ess found under the sa#e conditions, #any obstac"es
to %revent satisfactory resu"ts, by this #ethod of %rocedure. Ay
%atients !ere often so reticent, or ti#id and sha#e&faced, that it !as
freBuent"y difficu"t to get at the rea" facts in their cases, and, as
!e a"" no!, #any of these !ou"d, for these and other reasons, concea"
#ore than they revea"ed, thereby ee%ing out of evidence the #ost
vita" and significant ite#s in their individua" cases. ("" these
things, of course, tended to #ae bad #atters !orse, or resu"ted in
nothing that !as rea""y !orth !hi"e.
(fter so#e years of this sort of ex%erience, and #editating #uch on
the situation, . ca#e to the conc"usion that a very "arge %ercentage
of a"" this troub"e !hich . and #y %atrons had to go u% against, !as
a"#ost entire"y the resu"t of ignorance on the %art of those !ho ca#e
to consu"t #e- and because no!"edge is a"!ays the antidote for not
no!ing, . ca#e to the conc"usion that, if it !ere %ossib"e to F%ut
these %eo%"e !iseF !here they !ere no! so uninfor#ed, . #ight at
once save the# fro# a dea" of har# and #yse"f fro# #uch troub"e and
annoyance.
,urther than this, . re#e#bered once hearing a !ise #an say that often
F!hat cannot be said #ay be sungF- and . rea"iGed that it is eBua""y
true that #uch !hich !ou"d be a!!ard, or e#barrassing, if said to a
%erson, face to face, #ight be got to the# in !riting !ith i#%unity.
This . found to be es%ecia""y true of #y !o#en %atients, so#e of !ho#
#ight beco#e sus%icious of a !rong intent fro# the things said in a
%rivate conversation, !hen they !ou"d have no such fears or doubts
if they read the sa#e !ords fro# a %rinted %age. .t !as these
considerations !hich first suggested to #e the !riting of the
fo""o!ing %ages.
Sti"" other reasons !hy . did as . did !ere as fo""o!s' $ou see,
at once, if you sto% to thin about it, that the !riting out of the
no!"edge . %ro%osed to i#%art !as rea""y a #atter of necessity for
#e, because of the Csaving of ti#eC !hich !ou"d thereby be secured. To
get any resu"ts that !ou"d be !orth !hi"e in these #atters, . !ou"d be
reBuired to te"" about ever so #any things concerning !hich they !ere
tota""y ignorant- and to te"" about ever so #any things, by !ord of
#outh, to each individua" %atient, Ctaes ti#eC&&ever so #uch ti#e, if
the !or is !e"" done, and it had better not be done at a"" if it is
not !e"" done. So . rea""y !as forced to !rite out !hat . !anted to
teach these %atients of #ine.
(nd "et #e say further that . !as co#%e""ed to !rite these things out
for #y %eo%"e as . have !ritten the#, because, in a"" the range of
"iterature on this vita" subject, . ne! of nothing !hich !ou"d te""
the# just !hat it see#ed to #e they ought to be to"d, and !hat they
ought to no!.
(nd so it !as that . !rote the #anuscri%t !hich is no! %rinted in the
fo""o!ing %ages. . did not !rite it at first just as it no! stands,
because ex%erience sho!ed #e, fro# ti#e to ti#e, !here #y first
efforts cou"d be #odified and i#%roved. So !hat is here %resented is
the resu"t of #any %ractica" de#onstrations of the rea" !oring va"ue
of !hat the #anuscri%t contains.
Ay #ethod of using the co%y has been so#ething as fo""o!s' (s . have
a"ready suggested, !hat . have !ritten has been %re%ared for the so"e
and ex%ress %ur%ose of he"%ing husbands and !ives to "ive sane and
!ho"eso#e sex&"ives&&to give the# the reBuisite no!"edge for so
doing- no!"edge of the#se"ves and of each other as sexua" beings- the
correct ideas regarding such right #anner of "iving- to disabuse their
#inds of !rong sex&teaching, or no teaching at a"", of ignorance,
or %rudery, or care"essness, or "ust&&in a !ord, to get to the# the
things that a"" sane #arried %eo%"e ought to no!, and to he"% the# to
%ractice these things, to the best of their severa" abi"ities.
HPerha%s . ought to say that there is not a "ine of !hat . have
!ritten that dea"s !ith the subject of venerea" diseases, any of
the#. This fie"d is a"ready so !e"" covered by a "iterature es%ecia""y
devoted to this subject that it needs no !ord of #ine to #ae it as
satisfactory as %ossib"e, as far as discoveries regarding the sa#e
have %rogressed. Ay atte#%t is to!ard #aing #arriage #ore of a
success than it no! is, under existing conditions- and !e a"" no!
that there is a "i#it"ess fie"d for ex%"oration and ex%"oitation right
there.I
S%eaing so#e!hat genera""y, . have found !hat . have !ritten to be
of s%ecia" va"ue to t!o c"asses of #y %atrons' ,irst, to the
Fne!"y&!edsF- and, second, to those !ho have been #arried for a "onger
or shorter %eriod, and !ho Fhave not got on !e"" together.F ( !ord or
t!o regarding each of these'
.t is a !ise o"d saying that Fan ounce of %revention is !orth a %ound
of cure,F and in no other ex%erience of "ife is this so true as in
the i""s to !hich #arried %eo%"e are %ecu"iar"y subject. Aany a ne!"y
!edded cou%"e have !reced the %ossibi"ities of ha%%iness of a "ife
ti#e on their Fhoney#oon tri%F- and it is a #atter of co##on no!"edge
to the #e#bers of our %rofession that the great #ajority of brides are
%ractica""y ra%ed on their entrance into the #arried re"ation. ,urther
than this, !e a"" no! that these things are as they are chief"y
because of the ignorance of the %arties concerned, rather than because
they de"iberate"y #eant to do !rong. They !ere "eft to trave", a"one
and unguided, over !hat !as to the# an unno!n !ay, one that !as
beset !ith %itfa""s and %reci%ices, and !here dangers "ured in every
for!ard ste% they too. .t is to these that . have found !hat . have
!ritten to be a great he"% at the ti#e of their ut#ost need- and the
thans . have received fro# such %arties have been beyond the %o!er of
!ords to ex%ress.
(s to just !hen it is best to %ut this infor#ation into the hands of
young #arried %eo%"e, #y ex%erience has varied !ith the %ersona"ity
of the %arties concerned. .n so#e cases . have %ut the co%y into their
hands so#e ti#e before their #arriage- in others, not ti"" so#e ti#e
thereafter- but, as a ru"e, . have got the best resu"ts by %utting the
#anuscri%t into their hands just at the ti#e of their #arriage, and in
#ost of these cases the greatest success has co#e fro# their reading
it together during their honey#oon. Ho!ever, this is a #atter on !hich
. do not care to advise, and regarding !hich each %ractitioner #ust
act to the best of his o!n judg#ent.
)nce #ore' Because it is not safe to assu#e that young #arried %eo%"e
are a"ready %ossessed of the Cdetai"sC of the essentia" no!"edge
!hich they ought to %ossess, and because such Cdetai"sC are the Cvery
heartC of the !ho"e #atter, . have #ade these detai"s as si#%"e
and ex%"icit as %ossib"e, #ore so than #ight see# necessary to the
%rofessiona" reader. But #y ex%erience has %roven that . !as !ise in
this regard, as these very detai"s have saved the day in #ore than one
case, as the %arties !ho have re%orted to #e, after having read !hat
. have !ritten, have freBuent"y testified. So#eti#es a bride and
groo# !ou"d ee% the co%y for a fe! days on"y, giving it but a sing"e
reading- but, as a ru"e, they have been anxious to retain it for so#e
ti#e, and to read it again and again, es%ecia""y so#e %arts of it,
ti"" they !ere !e"" %osted on a"" that it contains. . found, too, that
those !ho had received he"% fro# the reading of the #anuscri%t
!ere g"ad to te"" others of their friends of the benefits they had
received, and that thus there !as a constant"y !idening circ"e.
)f course, not a"" young #arried %eo%"e are ca%ab"e of reading this
boo !ith %rofit to the#se"ves or anyone e"se- but #any of the# are,
and these ought to have the %rivi"ege of doing so. $our o!n good sense
and ex%erience !i"" deter#ine !ho these "atter are, and these you can
favor as they deserve. .t is because of this situation that this boo
can on"y be used %rofessiona""y that it needs the guiding hand of
an ex%ert %hysician to insure its reaching on"y those !ho can be
benefited by its reading.
(s to the other c"ass of readers, those !ho have not got on !e""
in the #arriage re"ation Hand !e a"" no! that the na#e of these is
"egionI #y ex%erience in getting to the# !hat . have !ritten has been
Buite varied- but, on the !ho"e, the resu"ts have been good&&#any
ti#es they have been #ost exce""ent. )f course, it is harder to
correct errors than to %revent the#- but as #ost of the errors . have
had to dea" !ith a#ong this c"ass of %atients have been #ade through
ignorance rather than other!ise, . have found that the estab"ish#ent
of no!"edge in the %re#ises has genera""y brought re"ief !here before
!as on"y suffering and !oe.
(nother !ay in !hich . have found the co%y to be of the greatest va"ue
!ith these cases of unsatisfactory #arita" re"ations is the fact that,
often, by the %arties Creading the co%y togetherC they have co#e to
a #utua" understanding by so doing, and have estab"ished a C#odus
vivendiC !hich cou"d not have been attained in any other !ay. When
such %arties see their doctor sing"y, either of the#, a %rejudiced
vie! is very a%t to resu"t, and they !ou"d se"do#, if ever, co#e
together to consu"t a %hysician regarding their troub"es. But the
Creading of the boo togetherC #aes a condition of affairs !hich is
very a%t to !or out for the best interests of a"" %arties concerned.
;ertain"y, this is true, that in no case has the reading of the boo
#ade bad #atters !orse, and in #any cases, Hindeed in near"y a"" of
the#I it has been of unto"d va"ue and benefit to the readers.
(nd because these things are so, because !hat . have !ritten has
%roved its !orth in so #any cases, . have fina""y conc"uded to give
the co%y a "arger fie"d in !hich it #ay be used by other #e#bers of
the %rofession besides #yse"f. . confide it to #y fe""o!&#e#bers in
the %rofession fee"ing sure that they !i"" use it a#ong their %atients
!ith !isdo# and discretion- and #y ho%e is that their so doing #ay
yie"d for the# and theirs the #ost exce""ent resu"ts !hich have co#e
to #e and #ine, on these "ines, in the years that have gone by.
Perha%s . ought to say that the so#e!hat uniBue ty%ogra%hy of the
boo, the "arge %ercentage of ita"ics, and not a fe! ca%ita"iGed !ords
that a%%ear in the %ages, co#es fro# a du%"ication of the co%y . have
used !ith #y %atients. . !rote the origina" co%y in this !ay for the
sae of giving s%ecia" e#%hasis to s%ecia" %oints for #y readers,
and the resu"ts attained . be"ieve !ere very "arge"y due to the
ty%ogra%hica""y e#%hatic for# of the boo. (%%earing in ty%e in this
!ay, it gives a sort of %ersona" touch to !hat is thus %resented to
the eye of the reader, and the tendency of this is to estab"ish a
heart&to&heart re"ation bet!een the author and the reader !hich cou"d
not be attained in any other !ay.
("" through the co%y . have avoided the use of technica" !ords, never
using such a ter# !ithout ex%"aining its #eaning in %"ain /ng"ish
in the !ords that i##ediate"y fo""o! it. . found this an abso"ute
necessity in !riting so that the "ay reader cou"d understand, in
saying things that !ou"d %roduce resu"ts.
. #ight say, a"so, that the F.ntroductionF to the rea" subject #atter
of the boo, . found necessary to !rite as it is "arge"y to get #y
readers into a %ro%er C#enta" attitudeC for a reasonab"e recognition
and understanding of !hat fo""o!s it. There are so #any !rong
teachings and biased ideas in the %re#ises that these had to be
counteracted or re#oved, to a degree, at "east, before the rest of the
co%y cou"d be right"y read. Ay ex%erience is, that the %reface, as it
stands, has been the #eans of %utting the readers of the boo into a
right #enta" attitude for its successfu" study and consideration. ,or
the good of the cause it is !ritten to serve, and for he"% to those
!ho need he"% in the #ost sacred and significant affairs of their
"ives, #ay the boo go on its !ay, if not rejoicing in itse"f, yet
causing rejoicing in the "ives and hearts of a"" !ho read !hat its
%ages contain.
H.W.L.
S(+/ S/? L.,/ (+1 S(+/ S/? L.@.+G
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(+ /?PL(+(T)0$ .+T0)1>;T.)+
( %ious ;hristian once said to #e' F. find it hard to reconci"e sex
!ith the %urity of Providence.F He never cou"d understand !hy God
arranged for sex any!ay. Why so#ething e"se #ight not have been done.
Why chi"dren #ight not have co#e in so#e other fashion.
Loo at the har# sex has invo"ved. Aost a"" the devi"try of history
that !as not done for #oney !as done for sex. (nd even the devi"try
that !as done and is done for #oney had, and has sex bac of it. Tae
sex out of #an and you have so#ething !orth !hi"e. God #ust have been
short of ex%edients !hen God, in sex, conceived sex. .t certain"y
"oos as if the 1ivine fe"" do!n this ti#e. (s if infinity !as at
the end of its tether. (s if the ade%t creator for once !as caught
na%%ing, or for once botched a job.
So !e had #y %ious friend. (nd !e had #edieva"is#. (nd !e had the
ascetics. (nd heaven no!s !hat e"se. Too #uch sex so#e %"aces. Too
"itt"e sex other %"aces. So#e %eo%"e s!earing on and so#e s!earing
off. The %rostitute giving a!ay that !hich !as #eant to be e%t.
The virgin ee%ing that !hich !as #eant to be given a!ay. ( force
contending !ith a force. 1ra!ing in o%%osite directions !hen they
shou"d be %u""ing together. Through it a"", #otherhood #isunderstood.
(nd fatherhood #isunderstood. The body chea%ened to the sou". (nd the
sou" chea%ened to the body. /very chi"d being a s"a% in the face of
virtue.
Have you ever tried to see !hat this ca#e fro# and goes toJ This
%hi"oso%hy of vu"gar denia"J This %hi"oso%hy of !a""o!ing surrenderJ
The ;hristian strea# has been %o""uted. .t has gone dirty in the age
of hush. We are su%%osed to ee% our #ouths shut. We are not to give
sex a!ay. We breed youngsters in fata" ignorance. They are a"!ays
asing Buestions. But !e don't ans!er their Buestions. The church
don't ans!er the#. +or the state. +or the schoo"s. +ot even #others
and fathers. +obody !ho cou"d ans!er ans!ers the#. But they don't go
unans!ered. They get ans!ered. (nd they get ans!ered !rong instead
of right. They get ans!ered, s#utched instead of !ashed. They get
ans!ered b"as%he#ous"y instead of reverent"y. They get ans!ered so
that the body is sus%ected instead of being trusted.
( boy !ho no!s nothing ass a boy !ho no!s nothing. ( gir" !ho no!s
nothing ass a gir" !ho no!s nothing. ,ro# nothing nothing co#es. Aen
!ho have been such boys no! nothing. Wo#en !ho have been such gir"s
no! nothing. ,ro# nothing nothing co#es. They have beco#e fa#i"iar
!ith sex circu#stances. They are %arents. They have done the best
they ne! ho!. But they never "earned sex. They never rea"iGed its
funda#enta"s. They never !ent bac to, or for!ard to it. They !ere
"ost in a !i"derness. They existed !ithout "iving. They too sex as
they too !hisey. They breathed an at#os%here of hush. They had got
%ast the ascetics. But they had not got to be #en and !o#en. They
didn't refuse sex. But though e#bracing its %rivi"eges, they sti""
see#ed to regard it as so#ething not to be g"oried in. The "east
said about it the soonest #ended. Aothers and fathers !ou"d say to
chi"dren' F$ou'"" no! about it soon enough.F Teachers !ou"d say'
F(s your Buestions at ho#e.F Ho#e !ou"d say' FWhat ever started you
thining about such thingsJF
The chi"d goes about !ondering. What's the #atter !ith sex that
everybody's afraid to ta" about itJ What's the #atter !ith #y body
that . dare not #ention itJ Ay body see#s very beautifu" to #e. . "ie
to "oo at it. . "ie to fee" it. . "ie to s#e"" it. But .'# a"!ays
hurried into #y c"othes. Ay body is so #ysterious"y %recious . #ust
tae care of it. But ho! a# . to tae care of it if . don't get
acBuainted !ith itJ
. find that having a body has so#ething to do !ith being a father and
a #other. . !ant to be a father. . !ant to be a #other. But ho! can
. be a father or #other if so#e one !ho no!s doesn't te"" #e !hat
%recedes fatherhood and #otherhoodJ . shou"d %re%are for it. Ho! can
. if a"" the boos are c"osedJ Ho! can . if . a# b"aned every ti#e .
ex%ress #y curiosityJ .s there no one any!here !ho'"" be honest !ith
#eJ
.f . "oo at sex right out of #y o!n sou", it see#s "ie so#ething
!hich God didn't fai" !ith, but succeeded !ith. Lie so#ething not
%o""uted, but %urified. Lie so#ething having everything, instead of
on"y an occasiona" thing, to do !ith "ife. But the !or"d shaes its
head. The !or"d is nasty. But it %uts on airs. The !or"d has eaten.
But the !or"d says it's best to starve. ,o"s !i"" say they've got to
be %arents. But they say they !i"" regret it. They say sex is here.
They say !e're u% against its #andates or its %assions. But "et's
be as decent as !e can !ith the indecent. Let's not "inger on its
#argins. Let's not overstay our dissi%ation. Sex is "ie eating. Who
!ou"d eat if he didn't have toJ To say you enjoy a #ea" is carna". To
say that you derive so#e sense of ecstasy fro# %aterna" and #aterna"
desires is a confession of de%ravity. Sex at the best is a sin.
Sex at the best is "ie ste%%ing do!n. That sex #ight be an ascent.
That sex #ight be the on"y #eans of gro!th and ex%ansion. $ou never
su%%ose thatK $ou on"y assu#e %erdition. $ou are afraid to assu#e
heaven. . #ay tae %ride in that !hich . #ay abstract fro# #y anato#y.
. #ust not a""ude to #y body as fran"y as to #y sou". . #ust !ithdra!
#y body fro# the %ub"ic eye. ,ro# discussion. ,ro# its instinctive
avo!a"s. )ur bodies #ust be coffined. Treated as dead before they are
born. 0egarded as conveniences. +ot as essentia" entities. The body is
on"y for a "itt"e !hi"e. The sou" is forever. But !hy is that "itt"e
!hi"e not as ho"y as foreverJ They don't say. They cava"ier"y sett"e
the case of the body against itse"f.
So it goes. /nd"ess vivid %ortraya"s cou"d be #ade of the ano#a"ous
situation. The #ore you "oo at the #ess !e've got sex into the !orse
it see#s. CSo#eone's got to %each.C So#eone's got to te"" the truth.
.n a !or"d of "iars !ho are hushersJ .n a !or"d of hushers !ho are
"iarsJ CSo#eone's got to te"" the truth.C So#eone's got to give sex
its due. C$ou can't give s%irit its due unti" you give sex its due.C
$ou can't acce%t one and cast aside one. They go together. They are
inse%arab"e.
$ou refer to body and sou" as if you ne! just !here one sto%s and the
other co##ences. Aaybe neither sto%s and neither co##ences. Aaybe they
are not t!o things but t!o na#es. Aaybe !hen you %ut a body into a
grave you %ut a sou" there too. (nd #aybe you %ut neither there. .t's
not so easy to say.
. can't see anything in the things you ca"" s%iritua" #ore #arve"ous
than !hat you ca"" the %hysica" birth of a baby fro# a #other. Aaybe
you no! a"" about it. . don't. . no! nothing about it. To #e it's
#ysterious. To #e it's the su%re#e de#onstration of the s%iritua".
Ho! that a baby co#es fro# a #an and a !o#an. . !ant that e%t c"ean.
.t starts c"ean. Why do !e corru%t itJ $ou !ho dis%arage it corru%t
it. $ou ascetics any!here. $ou "ibidinous roues any!here. $ou corru%t
it. By your excesses. $ou !ho never say yes. $ou !ho never say no. $ou
corru%t it.
$ou %arents. $ou %rofessors. $ou %rudes. This is addressed to you.
What have you got to say about itJ $ou have tre#b"ing"y c"osed the
Buestion. . !ou"d coo""y o%en it. $ou have rebued God by si"ence. .
!ou"d %raise God by s%eech.
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TH/ (0G>A/+T (+1 TH/ .+,)0A(T.)+
+o a%o"ogy is offered for !hat is said in the fo""o!ing %ages, but
a brief ex%"anation is virtua""y necessary to #ae c"ear, fro# the
outset, the reasons !hy it has been !ritten.
.t is one of the chief characteristics of the hu#an race that
the no!"edge acBuired by one generation can be %assed on to the
generations that fo""o!- and that, in this !ay, %rogress in the
better#ent of "ife's resu"ts and the ada%tation of #eans to ends can
#ae a steady and re"iab"e advance.
Such a #ethod of evo"ution and gro!th is not %ossib"e in the vegetab"e
or ani#a" ingdo#, !here CinstinctC is the on"y #eans for the
trans#ission of acBuired no!"edge. .t is this feature that
differentiates #an fro# a"" other created beings.
But here is a curious fact' .n one rea"# of hu#an ex%eriences, in a""
;hristian civi"iGed countries, it has been considered !rong, even in
so#e cases being counted a cri#ina" offense, %unishab"e by fine and
i#%rison#ent, for anyone to #ae any record of, or trans#it to
anyone e"se, any no!"edge that #ay have been acBuired regarding sex
re"ations in the hu#an fa#i"y.
To be sure, there has been %reserved, fro# ti#e to ti#e, a body
of C%rofessiona"C no!"edge of this sort, #ade and %re%ared by
%hysicians, but Cconfined strict"y to that c"ass of %eo%"eC. +o
atte#%t has been #ade to disse#inate such no!"edge a#ong those !ho
#ost need it&&the co##on %eo%"e. )n the contrary, every %ossib"e
effort is %ut forth to ee% such no!"edge fro# the#. This is !ho""y
at variance !ith the %ractice regarding a"" other for#s of hu#an
no!"edge, !hich is to s%read, as !ide"y as %ossib"e, a"" no!n data
that have so far been obtained.
There is not s%ace, in this s#a"" vo"u#e, for %ointing out the reasons
for this ano#a"ous condition of affairs, but the chief cause of its
status, %ast and %resent, is grounded on t!o sources' The first of
these is a bruta" se"fishness !hich has co#e over to #odern ti#es fro#
a savage %ast- the second is a sort of %ious %rudery.
The resu"t of these causes has been to #ae the !ho"e subject of sex
in the hu#an fa#i"y, !ith its functions and #ission in hu#an affairs,
together !ith its %ro%er training, disci%"ine and exercise&&to #ae
a"" these things CtabuC, so#ething to be asha#ed of and ignored
as #uch as %ossib"e, and a"" the no!"edge regarding the# that one
generation has been %er#itted to trans#it to those !ho co#e after, #ay
be su##ed u% in these !ords, na#e"y FCThou sha"t notC.F
+o! it goes !ithout saying that, in the very nature of things, Ca""C
this is just as bad as it can %ossib"y be. ,or, of a"" %heno#ena !ith
!hich the hu#an race has to do, that of the highest i#%ortance, so far
as the !e""&being of the race is concerned, is that !hich has to do
!ith sex in #en and !o#en. ( "arge %ercentage of a"" the %hysica"
ai"#ents in #anind and !o#enind arise fro# errors in sexua" "ife,
and these are but trif"es co#%ared !ith the #enta" and s%iritua"
disasters !hich co#e u%on hu#anity fro# the sa#e source. .t is
%robab"y true that #ore than one&ha"f of a"" the cri#es that are
co##itted in the civi"iGed !or"d are #ore or "ess direct"y connected
!ith sex affairs, and there is no so co##on a cause for insanity as
sex aberrations.
(nd near"y a"" these i""s, cri#es and #isfortunes arise because of
CignoranceC in the #atter of sex in !hich the ran and fi"e of the
race are forced to "ive. ,e! of these ever acBuire any %ositive and
definite no!"edge in the %re#ises, and if they do "earn anything
for sure, Cthey ee% it to the#se"vesC, ins%ired to do so by a fa"se
be"ief regarding the rightfu" trans#ission of such no!"edge- or, by
a fa"se #odesty, or %rudery, they are e%t fro# te""ing to anyone e"se
!hat they have discovered or found to be the truth in these #atters.
(nd so the %eo%"e stu#b"e a"ong in ignorance of these vita" affairs
in "ife, generation after generation, re%eating the errors of their
%redecessors, and no %ositive %rogress being #ade as the years go by.
Because of this state of affairs #i""ions of hu#an beings die every
generation, and other #i""ions suffer the tortures of the da#ned !hi"e
they "ive, !hen they shou"d enjoy the de"ights of the e"ect, and !ou"d
do so if they on"y ne! the actua" facts in the case, and !ou"d act in
accordance !ith the no!"edge that ought to be #ade theirs.
But there are not !anting signs of the ti#es that there !i"" s"o!"y
co#e a change in these conditions. The fact is that the inte""igent
!or"d is beginning to e#erge fro# a condition of confor#ity to the
say&so of so#e one su%%osed to s%ea !ith authority, and to co#e into
a rea"# of obedience on"y to a "a! that has a scientific basis of
actua" no!"edge for its foundation.
,or unto"d ages the sex re"ations of the hu#an fa#i"y have been
directed and deter#ined by the c"ergy and by CtheirC teachings and
%ronuncia#entos regarding !hat !as fit and right. There is no need of
saying hard things about such a fact- neverthe"ess, it is true that,
for the #ost %art, a"" the dicta of these #en have originated a#ongst
those !ho ne! nothing of the CscientificC conditions regarding the
subject on !hich they issue their #andates. So did the b"ind "ead the
b"ind, and the ditches of the %ast years are fi""ed to overf"o!ing
!ith the dead bodies and sou"s of #en and !o#en, !ho, for this cause,
have fa""en therein.
This #ust not a"!ays beK .t is neither !ise nor right that the
essentia" #atters of hu#an "ife shou"d a"!ays re#ain a stu#b"ing b"oc
and a roc of offense for the chi"dren of #en. We are co#ing to see
that sex is no #ore unc"ean and to be denied a scientific no!"edge
of, than any other %art of the hu#an body&&the eye, the ear or
!hatsoever. ,urther#ore, the ran and fi"e are beginning to c"a#or
for a no!"edge of these #atters for the#se"ves. This is sho!n by
the freBuency of artic"es that dea" !ith sex in #any of the best
ne!s%a%ers and #agaGines in the civi"iGed !or"d, and by si#i"ar
discussions in the "iterature, the !ors and scientific boos that no!
go into the hands of the co##on %eo%"e. .t a"so sho!s in the atte#%ts
that are occasiona""y being #ade to introduce the subject of sexua"
hygiene into our %ub"ic schoo"s and other educationa" institutions.
FThe !or"d do #oveKF
.t is for these reasons&&because it is right to transfer to you and to
those !ho co#e after, the sex no!"edge that has been acBuired by the
author, by reading scientific and %rofessiona" "iterature u%on the
subject, by conference !ith #en and !o#en !ho no!, and by %ersona"
and %rofessiona" ex%erience, that !hat fo""o!s is !ritten.
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So #uch by !ay of genera" re#ars regarding the subject in hand. .t
is #ore the es%ecia" %ur%ose of !hat fo""o!s, ho!ever, to treat of the
#atter of #arriage in %articu"ar, Cto say so#ething definite to young
husbands and !ives that sha"" be of rea" benefit to the#C, not on"y by
!ay of starting the# out right in the ne! and untried !ay u%on !hich
they have entered, but to he"% the# to #ae that !ay a rea"#
of %er%etua" and ever increasing joy to both %arties concerned,
throughout its entire course, their !ho"e "ives "ong.
Be it said, then, first, that it is the duty of every bride and groo#,
before they engage in sexua" co##erce !ith each other, to acBuaint
the#se"ves thorough"y !ith the anato#y and %hysio"ogy of the sex
organs of hu#an beings, both #a"e and fe#a"e, and to #ae the
acBuire#ent of such no!"edge as dis%assionate and #atter&of&fact
an affair as though they !ere studying the nature, construction and
functions of the sto#ach, or the digestive %rocesses entire, or the
nature and use of any of the other bodi"y organs. F;"ear and c"ean a#
. !ithin and !ithout- c"ear and c"ean is every scra% and %art of #e,
and no %art sha"" be he"d #ore sacred or %referred above another. ,or
divine a# ., and a"" . a#, or contain.F
+o! the nor#a" young #an or !o#an !ou"d do just this, !ou"d %ursue a
study of sex in this !ay, !ere it not for the fact that they have
been taught, ti#e out of #ind, that to do this is i##odest, not to
say indecent or %ositive"y !iced. They have "onged to be %ossessed
of such no!"edge, a"" their "ives- in #ost cases #ore than any other
for# of !isdo# that it !as %ossib"e for the# to #ae their o!n. But
its acBuire#ent has been %"aced beyond their %ossib"e reach, and it
is on"y by the #ost c"andestine and often nasty #eans that they have
attained !hat "itt"e they no!. But the Buotation #ade in the "ast
%aragra%h, sounds the ey note of !hat is CrightC in this #atter,
and the first effort #ade by the reader of these %ages shou"d be to
estab"ish in hi#se"f or herse"f the Ccondition of #ind !hich these
"ines e#body.C
(nd it had better be said, right here, that for #ost young %eo%"e this
!i"" be found to be no CeasyC thing to do. +or shou"d the reader fee"
asha#ed or chagrined, or at odds !ith hi#se"f or herse"f if he or she
finds such condition of affairs existing in his or her case. ,or it
is nothing for !hich they are to b"a#e. .t is a #isfortune and not
a fau"t. .t is on"y the resu"t of inherited and incu"cated Hthe !ord
incu"cated #eans Ciced inCI ideas to !hich a"" F!e"" bredF youths
have been subjected for centuries- the idea being that the c"oser they
!ere e%t in the rea"# of innocence, !hich is on"y another na#e for
ignorance, the better FbredF they are. (nd to %ry one's se"f "oose, to
brea or tear one's se"f a!ay fro# such a #enta" vie! and condition
as heredity and such years of rigorous restraint have deve"o%ed, is no
s#a"" tas. .ndeed, it often taes #onths, and so#eti#es years, !ho""y
to rid one's se"f of these dee% seated and %o!erfu", !rong vie!s and
%rejudices.
0e#e#ber this' that Cto the %ure a"" things are %ure.C But do not
#ae the #istae of thining that this #uch abused sentence #eans that
%urity #eans Ce#%tinessCK .t does no such thing. )n the contrary,
it #eans Cfu""nessC, to C%erfectionC. .t #eans that one shou"d be
%ossessed of the right ind of stuff, and that the stuff shou"d be of
su%re#e Bua"ity. So, in studying to obtain a no!"edge of sex organs
and sex functions, in the hu#an fa#i"y, the reader shou"d not try to
divest hi#se"f or herse"f of a"" sex&%assion and desire- but, on the
contrary, to #ae these of a sort of !hich he or she can be C%roudC,
rather than Casha#edC of, rejoice in, rather than suffer fro#.
So, then, "et the reader of these "ines, first, get a correct C#enta"
attitudeC to!ard !hat is about to be said. Banish a"" %rurient
curiosity, %ut aside a"" thought of sha#e or shoc, Hthese t!o !i""
be hardest for young !o#en to overco#e, because of their training in
fa"se #odesty and %rudishnessI and endeavor to a%%roach the subject in
a reverent, o%en&eyed, conscientious s%irit, as one !ho !ishes, above
everything e"se, to no! the honest truth in these #ost essentia"
#atters that %ertain to hu#an "ife. Get into this fra#e of #ind, and
Cee% in itC, and !hat is here !ritten !i"" be read !ith both %"easure
and %rofit.
)nce #ore, for !e #ust #ae haste s"o!"y in these de"icate affairs, if
the reader shou"d find hi#se"f or herse"f undu"y excited, or %erha%s
shoced, !hi"e reading so#e %arts of !hat is here !ritten, so that the
heart beats too fast, or the hand tre#b"es, it #ay be !e"" to sus%end
the reading for a ti#e, divert the #ind into other channe"s for a
!hi"e, and resu#e the reading after one has regained %oise and #astery
of one's se"f. That is, FCee% your headCF !hi"e you read these
"essons, and you !i"" be a"" right.
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TH/ S/? )0G(+S
(nd no!, having given these cautionary directions, the !ay is c"ear
for the #aing of definite state#ents and the giving of %ositive
instruction.
Here, then, is a brief descri%tion of the sex organs in #an and !o#an.
(t first, on"y the na#es of the %arts !i"" be given, !ith such s"ight
co##ents and ex%"anations as are necessary for #aing this %art of the
subject c"ear. ( detai"ed setting forth of the functions and %ro%er
exercise of these organs !i"" be given "ater.
The sex organs in a #a"e hu#an being consists, broad"y s%eaing, of
the %enis and the testic"es. ("" these are "ocated at the base of the
abdo#en, bet!een the thighs and on the for!ard %art of the body. The
%enis is a f"eshy, #uscu"ar organ, fi""ed !ith #ost sensitive nerves,
and b"ood vesse"s that are ca%ab"e of extension to a #uch greater
degree than any of their si#i"ars in other %arts of the body. .n a
Buiescent, or unexcited condition, in the average #an, this organ is
fro# three to four inches "ong and about an inch or #ore in dia#eter.
.t hangs "i#% and %endent in this state, retired and in evidence not
at a"". .n its excited, or tu#escent condition Hthe !ord tu#escent
#eans s!e""ed, and is the technica" !ord for describing the erect
condition of the %enisI it beco#es en"arged and rigid, its siGe in
this state being, on an average, six or seven inches "ong, and fro#
an inch&and&a&ha"f to t!o inches in dia#eter. .t is a"#ost %erfect"y
cy"indrica", s"ight"y thicer at the base than at its for!ard %art.
The testic"es are t!o idney sha%ed g"ands, not far fro# the siGe of
a "arge hicory nut, and are contained in a sort of sac, or %ocet,
ca""ed the scrotu#, !hich is #ade for their co#fortab"e and safe
carrying. The scrotu# hangs direct"y bet!een the thighs, at the base
of the %enis, and in it are the testic"es, sus%ended by vita" cords
that are sus%ended fro# the body above. The "eft testic"e hangs a
"itt"e higher in the sac than the right, so that, in case the thighs
are cro!ded together, one testic"e !i"" s"i% over the other, and so
the danger of crushing the# !i"" be avoided. This is one of the #any
!ays !hich the Aaer of the hu#an body has devised to insure the
%ro%er %reservation of the vita" organs fro# har#, a fact !hich
shou"d ins%ire a"" hu#an beings !ith %rofound reverence for this #ost
!onderfu" of a"" "ife for#s, the beautifu" hu#an body, the Fte#%"e of
the Ho"y S%irit.F
The %art of the body u%on !hich the sex organs, #a"e and fe#a"e, are
"ocated is no!n as the %ubic region. .t is covered !ith hair, !hich,
in both sexes, extends !e"" u% the "o!er be""y. This is no!n as %ubic
hair, and in genera" corres%onds in Bua"ity and Buantity to the hair
u%on the individua" head, being coarse or fine, soft or brist"y, to
#atch, the head covering, in each case. This hair is usua""y #ore or
"ess cur"y, and for#s a covering an inch or #ore in de%th over the
!ho"e %ubic region, extending bac bet!een the thighs s"ight"y beyond
the rectu#. .n occasiona" cases this hair is straight and si"y, and
so#eti#es gro!s to great "ength, instances being no!n, in so#e !o#en,
!here it has extended to the nees. ( !e""&gro!n and abundant su%%"y
of fine %ubic hair is a %ossession high"y %riGed by !o#en, of !hich
they are just"y %roud, though fe! of the# !ou"d acno!"edge the fact,
even to the#se"ves. +one the "ess it is a fact.
The fe#a"e sex organs, s%eaing genera""y a"so, are as fo""o!s' The
vu"va, or out!ard %ortion of the %arts- the vagina" %assage- the
uterus, or !o#b, and the ovaries. ("" but the first na#ed "ie !ithin
the body of the !o#an. The vu"va is #ade u% of severa" %arts !hich
!i"" be na#ed and described "ater. The vagina" %assage is a tube, or
cana" "eading fro# the vu"va to the !o#b. .n "ength and dia#eter it
corres%onds a"#ost exact"y !ith that of the %enis, being six or seven
inches in de%th, and ca%ab"e of a "atera" extension !hich !i""
readi"y ad#it the entrance of the #a"e organ !hen the t!o are brought
together. The vagina" %assage o%ens into, and ter#inates in the
uterine, or !o#b cavity.
The !o#b is a %ear sha%ed sac !hich is sus%ended in the !o#b cavity
by cords and #usc"es fro# above. .t hangs, nec do!n!ards, and is, in
its uni#%regnated condition, about t!o and a ha"f inches in dia#eter
at its u%%er, or !idest %art, ta%ering to a thin nec at its "o!er
end. .t is hard and #uscu"ar in its Buiescent state, fi""ed !ith
de"icate and #ost sensitive nerves and ca%acious b"ood vesse"s. (t its
"o!er, or nec end, it o%ens direct"y into the vagina" %assage.
The ovaries are t!o in nu#ber, and are situated on each side of, and
above the !o#b, in the region of the u%%er groins. They are s#a"", fan
sha%ed g"ands, and are connected !ith the uterus by s#a"" ducts !hich
are no!n as the fa""o%ian tubes.
(s a"ready stated, the exterior %arts of the body, in !hich the fe#a"e
sex organs are "ocated, are covered !ith hair for their adorn#ent and
%rotection.
Such in brief, are the #a"e and fe#a"e sex organs in hu#an beings. (
further descri%tion of the# and their functions and %ro%er use !e are
no! ready to consider.
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TH/ ,>+;T.)+ ), TH/ S/? )0G(+S
.t hard"y need be stated here, for it is a #atter of co##on no!"edge,
that the C%ri#aryC %ur%ose of sex in the hu#an fa#i"y is the
re%roduction of the race. .n this res%ect, considered #ere"y on its
#ateria", or ani#a" side, #anind differs "itt"e fro# a"" other for#s
of ani#ate "ife. (s Whit#an says, !e see Fevery!here sex, every!here
the urge of %rocreation.F The f"o!ers are %ossessed of this Bua"ity,
and !ith the# a"" vegetab"e for#s. .n the ani#a" ingdo# the sa#e is
true. ("!ays F#a"e and fe#a"eF is everything created.
(nd the chief facts in re%roduction are %ractica""y the sa#e !herever
the %heno#ena occur. Here, as every!here e"se in the !or"d, !hen a
ne! "ife&for# a%%ears, it is a"!ays the resu"t of the union of Ct!oC
forces, e"e#ents, ger#s or !hatsoever. These t!o e"e#ents differ
in nature and in function, and each is inco#%"ete and !orth"ess by
itse"f. .t is on"y by the co#bining of the t!o that any ne! resu"t
is obtained. .t is this fact that has "ed to the #ost suggestive and
beautifu" %hrase FThe dua"ity of a"" unity in nature.F
Aany centuries ago an o"d Latin %hi"oso%her !rote the no! ce"ebrated
%hrase, C)#ne ex ovoC, !hich, trans"ated, #eans Ceverything is fro# an
eggC. This is %ractica""y true of a"" "ife&for#s. Their beginning
is a"!ays fro# an ovu#, or egg. .n this res%ect, the re%roduction of
hu#an beings is the sa#e as that of any other "ife&for#.
+o! in this %rocess of %roducing a ne! "ife&for#, the fe#a"e is a"!ays
the source of the egg, out of !hich the ne! creation is to co#e. This
egg, ho!ever, is inferti"e of itse"f, and #ust be given "ife to, by
#ing"ing !ith its ger#, an e"e#ent !hich on"y the #a"e can %roduce
and su%%"y. This e"e#ent is technica""y no!n as a s%er#, or a
s%er#atoGoa. .ts function is to ferti"iGe the dor#ant ger# in the
egg %roduced by the fe#a"e, and thus to start a ne! and inde%endent
"ife&for#. This "ife&for#, thus started, gro!s according to the "a!s
of its beco#ing #ore and #ore, unti", at the ex%iration of a fixed
%eriod, !hich varies great"y in different ani#a"s, it beco#es a
co#%"ete young individua", of the nature and ind of its %arents.
The ferti"iGation of the ovu# in the fe#a"e is ca""ed conce%tion-
its gro!ing state is ca""ed gestation, and its birth, on beco#ing a
se%arate being, is ca""ed %arturition. .n its gro!ing condition, and
before its birth, the ne! young "ife for# is no!n as the foetus.
+o! it is the ferti"iGation of the ovu# in the fe#a"e Hand fro# no!
on, it is on"y of the #a"e and fe#a"e in the hu#an fa#i"y that #ention
!i"" be #adeI by the #a"e, in the !o#an, by the #an, that is of
su%re#e interest and i#%ortance to both the %arties concerned in
%roducing this resu"t. Ho! this is brought about is substantia""y as
fo""o!s'
(s a"ready stated, the inferti"e ovu#, or egg, is %roduced by the
!o#an. Such %roduction begins at !hat is no!n as the age of %uberty,
or !hen the hair begins to gro! u%on the %ubic %arts of the fe#a"e
body. The ti#e of the a%%earance of this %heno#enon in fe#inine "ife
varies fro# the age of nine or ten years to fifteen or sixteen. The
average, for #ost gir"s, is fourteen years of age. (t this ti#e
the for#ation of ova, or eggs, in the fe#a"e body begins, and it
continues, in #ost !o#en, at regu"ar interva"s of once in t!enty&eight
days, exce%t during %regnancy and "actation, for a %eriod of about
thirty years. 1uring a"" this ti#e, under favorab"e conditions, it is
%ossib"e for the ovu# %roduced by the !o#an to beco#e ferti"iGed, if
it can #eet the s%er# of the #a"e.
.n a genera" !ay, this #eeting of the inferti"e ovu# of the !o#an !ith
the s%er# of the #an can be brought about, as fo""o!s'
The ova are %roduced by the ovaries Hthe !ord ovaries #eans egg
%roducersI !here they s"o!"y deve"o% fro# ce""s !hich originate
in these g"ands. When they have reached #aturity, or are ready for
ferti"iGation, they %ass out of the ovaries and do!n into the !o#b, by
!ay of the fa""o%ian tubes. (s a"ready stated, such %assage of the ova
fro# the ovaries into the !o#b occurs every t!enty&eight days, and
it is acco#%"ished by a #ore or "ess co%ious f"o! of b"ood, a sort of
he#orrhage, !hich carries the ova do!n through the fa""o%ian tubes,
and de%osits the# in the !o#b. This b"ood, after %erfor#ing its
#ission of carrying the ova do!n into the !o#b, esca%es fro# the
body through the vagina" %assage and is cared for by the !earing of
a bandage bet!een the thighs. This f"o! of b"ood continues for about
five days, and is no!n as a #enstrua" f"o!- and this ti#e in a
!o#an's "ife is no!n as the #enstrua" %eriod. .t is so na#ed because
of the regu"arity of its recurrence, the !ord C#ensaC #eaning a
C#onthC. .n co##on %ar"ance, these %eriods are often s%oe of as the
F#onth"ies.F
(fter the ovu# has reached the !o#b it re#ains there for a %eriod of
about ten days, after !hich, if it is not ferti"iGed during that ti#e,
it %asses out of the !o#b into the vagina" %assage, and so out of the
body. But if, at any ti#e after it is ri%e for ferti"iGation, that is,
fro# the ti#e it begins its journey fro# the ovaries to the !o#b,
and !hi"e it is in the !o#b, the ovu# is #et by the #a"e s%er#, it is
C"iab"eC to beco#e ferti"iGed&&conce%tion is %ossib"e. These are facts
of the Cut#ost i#%ortanceC, to be thorough"y understood and e%t !e""
in #ind by a"" #arried %eo%"e !ho !ou"d "ive ha%%i"y together, as !i""
be hereafter sho!n.
So #uch regarding the fe#a"e %art of the #eeting of the ovu# and the
s%er#. The #a"e %art of this #utua" act is as fo""o!s'
The s%er#, or s%er#atoGoa, originate in the testic"es. /ach s%er# is
an individua" entity and Csevera" thousandsC of the# are %roduced
and in readiness for use, Cat each #eetingC of the #a"e and fe#a"e
generative organs- and if Cany oneC of the count"ess nu#ber co#es in
contact !ith the unferti"iGed ovu# in the !o#b, conce%tion is C"iab"eC
to resu"t.
These s%er#s are so s#a"" that they are not visib"e to the naed eye,
but they are readi"y seen by the use of a #icrosco%e. .n sha%e they
#uch rese#b"e tad&%o"es in their ear"iest stages.
(t the base of the %enis, !e"" u% in the #an's body, there is a "arge
g"and !hich surrounds the %enis "ie a thic ring, and !hich is ca""ed
the %rostate g"and. .t secretes a #ucous f"uid !hich "oos #uch "ie,
and is about the consistency of the !hite of an egg. ;"ose to this
g"and, and a"#ost a %art of it, is a sac, or %ocet, into !hich the
#ucous secretion fro# the %rostate g"and is %oured, and !here it is
e%t, ready for use, in %erfor#ing its %art of the ger#ina" act.
+o! it is the business of this #ucous f"uid, !hich co#es fro# the
%rostate g"and, to for# a Fcarrying #ediu#F for the s%er#atoGoa !hich
originate in the testic"es. There are s#a"" ducts "eading fro# the
testic"es into the %ocet !hich contains the %rostate f"uid. These are
no!n as the se#ina" ducts, and through the# the s%er#atoGoa %ass
fro# the testic"es into the %rostate %ocet. Here they #ing"e !ith the
%rostate f"uid, in !hich they can #ove about free"y, and by #eans of
!hich they can be carried !herever this f"uid goes. The co#bination of
%rostate f"uid and s%er#atoGoa is ca""ed Fse#en.F
Seen under a #icrosco%e, a sing"e dro% of se#en revea"s a #u"titude of
s%er#atoGoa s!i##ing about in the %rostate&carrying #ediu#. .t is in
this for# that the vita"iGing #a"e e"e#ent #eets the fe#a"e inferti"e
ovu#. This #ass of "ive and #oving ger#s is %oured a"" around and
about the region in !hich the ovu# "ies !aiting to be ferti"iGed, and
every one of the# see#s to be Frushing about "ie #adF to find !hat it
is sent to do, na#e"y, to #eet and ferti"iGe the ovu#. The #anner of
de%ositing the se#en !here it can co#e in contact !ith the ovu# is as
fo""o!s'
.n order that this #ing"ing of the #a"e and fe#a"e sources of "ife #ay
be %ossib"e, it is necessary that there be a union of the #a"e and the
fe#a"e generative organs. ,or such #eeting, the %enis is fi""ed !ith
b"ood, a"" its b"ood vesse"s being distended to their ut#ost ca%acity,
ti"" the organ beco#es stout and hard, and severa" ti#es its dor#ant
siGe, as has been a"ready to"d. .n this condition it is ab"e to
%enetrate, to its ut#ost de%ths, the vagina" %assage of the fe#a"e,
!hich is of a nature to %erfect"y contain the #a"e organ in this
en"arged and rigid condition. >nder such conditions, the %enis
is inserted into the !idened and distended vagina" %assage. )nce
together, a #utua" bac and forth, or %art"y in and out #ove#ent, of
the organs is begun and carried on by the #an and !o#an, !hich action
further en"arges the %arts and raises the# to a sti"" higher degree
of tension and excite#ent. .t is su%%osed by so#e that this frictiona"
#ove#ent of the %arts deve"o%s an e"ectrica" current, !hich increases
in tension as the act is continued- and that it is the #ission of the
%ubic hair, !hich is a non&conductor, to confine these currents to the
%arts in contact.
+o! there are t!o other g"ands in these organs- one in the #a"e and
one in the fe#a"e, !hich %erfor#s a #ost !onderfu" function in this
%art of the sexua" act. These are the Fg"ans %enisF in the #a"e and
the Fc"itorisF in the fe#a"e. The first is "ocated at the a%ex of the
#a"e organ, and the other at the u%%er&#idd"e and exterior %art of the
vu"va. These g"ands are covered !ith a #ost de"icate cutic"e, and
are fi""ed !ith high"y sensitive nerves. (s the act %rogresses, these
g"ands beco#e #ore and #ore sensitiGed, and nervous"y surcharged,
unti", as a c"i#ax, they fina""y cause a sort of nervous ex%"osion of
the organs invo"ved. This c"i#ax is ca""ed an Forgas#F in scientific
"anguage. (#ong #ost #en and !o#en it is s%oen of as Fs%ending.F
)n the %art of the #an, this orgas# causes the se#en, !hich ti"" this
instant has re#ained in the %rostate %ocet, to be sudden"y driven
out of this %"ace of de%osit, and thro!n in jets, and !ith s%as#odic
force, through the entire "ength of the %enis, and, as it !ere, shot
into the vagina" %assage and the uterine cavity, ti"" the !ho"e region
is "itera""y de"uged !ith the "ife&giving f"uid. (t the sa#e ti#e,
the #outh of the !o#b o%ens !ide- and into it %ours, or rushes, this
Ffather stuff,F entire"y surrounding and f"ooding the ovu#, if it be
in the !o#b. This is the c"i#ax of the sexua" act, !hich is ca""ed
Fcoitus,F a !ord !hich #eans, going together.
With the #yriads of s%er#atoGoa s!ar#ing about it, if the vita" %art
of the ovu# co#es in contact !ith so#e one of the#, any one of !hich,
brought into such contact, !i"" ferti"iGe it, conce%tion resu"ts. The
!o#an is then %regnant, and the %eriod of gestation is begun.
This is a brief descri%tion of the act of coitus and of the #eans by
!hich %regnancy taes %"ace. .t is, ho!ever, on"y a s#a"" %art of the
story of the sex re"ations of husbands and !ives- and, be it said, a
CveryC s#a"" %art of that, as !i"" no! be sho!n.
(s has a"ready been said, this use of the sex organs, #ere"y to
%roduce %rogeny, and so insure a continuance of the race, is a Bua"ity
that #anind shares !ith a"" the rest of the ani#a" ingdo#. .n a""
essentia"s, so far as the #ateria" %arts of the act are concerned, the
beginnings of the ne! "ife in the hu#an fa#i"y differ not a !hit fro#
that of any other #a##a"s. .n each case the ovu# is %roduced by the
ovaries of the fe#a"e, %asses into the !o#b, is there #et by the se#en
fro# the #a"e, ferti"iGed by the s%er#atoGoa, and so the foetus gets
its start. This is the universa" #eans by !hich the beginnings of a""
ani#a" re%roductive "ife taes %"ace.
But there is another %hase in the sex "ife of hu#an beings, !hich is
Centire"y differentC fro# that of a"" other ani#a"s, and !hich #ust
therefore be considered beyond a"" that needs to be said regarding the
act of coitus for re%roductive %ur%oses on"y. This !e are no! ready to
consider and study.
+o! in a"" ani#a"s, exce%t hu#an beings, the act of coitus is on"y
%er#itted by the fe#a"e, Hit !ou"d see# is on"y C%ossib"eC for herI
!hen the ovu# is %resent in the !o#b and ready to be ferti"iGed. C(t
a"" other ti#es, a"" fe#a"e ani#a"s, exce%t !o#an, are %ractica""y
sex"essC. Their sexua" organs are dor#ant, and Cnothing can arouse
the#C to activity. +ot on"y do they fai" to sho! any desire for
coitus, but if an atte#%t shou"d be #ade to force it u%on the#, Cthey
!ou"d resist itC to the ut#ost of their strength.
But !hen the ovu# is %resent in the !o#b, these sa#e fe#a"e ani#a"s
are beside the#se"ves !ith desire for coitus. They are then s%oen of
as Fin heat.F (nd unti" they are satisfied, by #eeting the #a"e and
%rocuring fro# hi# the vita"iGing f"uid !hich !i"" ferti"iGe their
inferti"e ovu#- or, fai"ing in this, unti" the ovu# %asses a!ay fro#
the#, out of the !o#b, they no! no rest. (t such ti#es they !i""
run a"" riss, incur a"" sorts of danger, do every %ossib"e thing to
secure %regnancy. The thousand&and&one !ays !hich fe#a"e ani#a"s use
to #ae no!n to their #a"e #ates their sexua" desire and needs, !hen
in heat, is a #ost interesting and !onderfu" story, a record #ade u%
of facts !hich !ou"d be !e"" !orth any student's no!ing. But as a""
such no!"edge can readi"y be %rocured fro# boos !hich are !ithin the
reach of a"", there is no need of noting the data here.
But no!, Cin !o#an, a"" these things are differentKC (s a #atter of
fact, the %resence of the ovu# in the !o#b of a nor#a""y #ade !o#an
C#aes "itt"e, and, in #any cases, no difference !hateverC as regards
her status concerning the act of coitusK That is, !o#en are never
Fin heat,F in the sa#e sense in !hich other fe#a"e ani#a"s are. To be
sure, in so#e cases, though they are rare, so#e !o#en are conscious
of a greater desire for coitus just after the ceasing of the #enstrua"
f"o!- that is, !hen the ovu# is in the !o#b. But such cases are so
infreBuent that they #ay !e"" be counted atavistic, that is, of the
nature of a tendency to return to a %revious #ere"y ani#a" condition.
,or the #ost %art, it is true of a"" nor#a" !o#en that the %resence of
the ovu# in the !o#b #aes "itt"e difference, one !ay or another, in
regard to their desire for, or aversion to, the act of coitus.
+o! the fact of this re#arab"e difference in the sex&status of !o#en
and the sa#e Bua"ity in a"" other fe#a"e ani#a"s "eads us to a great
nu#ber of interesting, not to say start"ing, conc"usions, so#e of
!hich are as fo""o!s'
.n the first %"ace, the %heno#enon c"ear"y estab"ishes the fact that
sex in the fe#a"e hu#an being Cdiffers, %ronounced"yC, fro# that of
a"" other fe#a"e "ife. ,or, !hereas, a#ong a"" fe#a"es exce%t !o#an,
coitus is Ci#%ossib"eC, exce%t at certain ti#es and seasons, a#ong
!o#en the act can not on"y be %er#itted, but is as #uch %ossib"e or
CdesiredC at one ti#e as any other, regard"ess of the %resence or
absence of the ovu# in the !o#b. That is Hand this %oint shou"d be
noted !e"" by the readerI there is a C%ossibi"ityC, on the %art of
the fe#a"e hu#anity, for coitus, Cunder conditions that do not at a""
obtain in any other fe#a"e ani#a" "ifeC.
This is a conc"usion !hich is of such far&reaching i#%ortance that its
"i#its are but di#"y recogniGed, even in the c"ear thining of #ost
#arried %eo%"e. The fact of such difference is no!n to the#, and
their %ractices in "iving confor# to the conditions- but !hat it a""
#eans, they are entire"y ignorant of, Cand they never sto% to thin
about itC.
(nd yet, Cright here is the very center and core of the rea" success
or fai"ure of #arried "ifeCK (round this fact are grou%ed a"" the
troub"es that co#e to husbands and !ives. (bout it are gathered a""
the joys and uns%eaab"e de"ights of the ha%%i"y #arried&&the on"y
tru"y #arried. .t is these ite#s !hich #ae a no!"edge of the rea"
conditions !hich exist, regarding this %art of #arried "ife, of such
su%re#e i#%ortance. .f these conditions cou"d be right"y understood,
and the actions of husbands and !ives cou"d be brought to confor# to
the "a!s !hich obtain under the#, Cthe divorce courts !ou"d go out of
businessC, their occu%ation, "ie )the""o's, !ou"d be Fgone indeed.F
The first conc"usion, then, one that is forced u%on the thoughtfu"
#ind by the fact of this difference in the sex %ossibi"ities of !o#en
and other fe#a"e ani#a"s, is, as a"ready stated, but !hich is here
re%eated for e#%hasis, that coitus CcanC be engaged in Cby !o#enC !hen
C%regnancyC is CnotC its %ur%ose, on her %art- and that Cthis never
occurs in any other for# of fe#a"e "ifeKC
.n vie! of this fact, is it too #uch to raise the Buestion !hether or
not sex in !o#an is designed to fu"fi"" any other %ur%ose than that of
the re%roduction of the raceJ True it is, that the Con"yC function
of sex in a"" other fe#a"es is #ere"y that of %roducing offs%ring&&of
%er%etuating its ind. >nder no circu#stances does it CeverC serve
CanyC other end, fu"fi"" any other design. CThere is no %ossibi"ity of
its doing soCK
But one can he"% !ondering if it is not true that, !ith the existence
of the C%ossibi"ityC of engaging in coitus Cat !i""C, rather than
at the bidding of CinstinctC a"one, there has a"so co#e a Cne!C and
CaddedC function for the sex&natures that are ca%ab"e of engaging
in such before&unno!n ex%eriencesJ To a fair&#inded %erson, such
conc"usion see#s not on"y "ogica", but irresistib"eK That is in vie!
of this conc"usion, it natura""y fo""o!s that sex in the hu#an fa#i"y
is C%ositive"y designed to fu"fi"" a function that is entire"y unno!n
to a"" other for#s of ani#a" "ifeC. (nd fro# this, it is but a ste% to
the estab"ish#ent of the fact that Csex exercise in the hu#an fa#i"y
serves a %ur%ose other than that of re%roductionCK
+o!, this fact estab"ished, a !ho"e !or"d of ne! issues arises and
de#ands sett"e#ent. (#ong these, co#es the su%re#e Buestion' CWhat is
the nature of this ne! ex%erience that has been conferred u%on hu#an
beings, over and above !hat is vouchsafed to any other for# of ani#a"
"ifeJ What %ur%ose can it serveJ Ho! can it be %ro%er"y exercisedJ
What is right and !hat is !rong under these ne! %ossibi"itiesCJ These
are so#e of the issues that CforceC the#se"ves u%on a"" thoughtfu"
%eo%"e, Cthose !ho !ish to do right under any and a"" circu#stances in
!hich they are %"acedC.
)f course, here as e"se!here, the unthining, the ha%%y&go&"ucy and
the Fdon't&give&a&da#n,F can b"under a"ong in a"#ost any&o"d&!ay.
But they can, and !i"", rea% on"y the re!ard !hich a"!ays fo""o!s
b"undering and ignorance. .n these days of scientific c"ear&thining,
!e have co#e to understand that Csa"vation fro# sin co#es by the !ay
of %ositive no!"edge and not at the hands of either ignorance
or innocenceCK .f husbands and !ives ever attain to the highest
conditions of #arried "ife, it can on"y be after they Cno! and
%ractice, !hat is right in a"" their sex re"ations, both for
re%roductive %ur%oses and in a"" other res%ectsK +ote that !e""CK
(s things are no!, es%ecia""y in a"" civi"iGed countries, and
%articu"ar"y a#ong ;hristian %eo%"e, this CsecondaryC function of sex
in the hu#an fa#i"y, !hi"e b"ind"y recogniGed as a fact, is none the
"ess abused, to a #ost sha#efu" degree. ,or ages, the !ho"e situation
has been "eft in a condition of #ost de%"orab"e, not to say da#nab"e,
ignorance- and no honest endeavor has been #ade to find out and act
u% to the truth in the %re#ises. Husbands and !ives have engaged in
coitus Cad "ibitu#C, utter"y regard"ess of !hether it !as right
or !rong for the# to do soK They have taen it for granted that
C#arriageC conferred on the# the CrightC to have sexua" intercourse
!henever they chose, Hes%ecia""y !hen the #an chose,I and they have
acted according"y. This is es%ecia""y true of #en, and the %ractice
has been carried to such "ength that the right of a #an to engage in
coitus !ith his !ife Chas been estab"ished by "a!C, and the !ife !ho
refuses to yie"d this FrightF to her husband can be divorced by hi#,
if she %ersists in such !ay of "ivingK .t is such a fact as this !hich
caused Ar. Bernard Sha! to !rite' FAarriage is the #ost "icentious
institution in a"" the !or"d.F (nd he #ight rightfu""y have added Fit
is a"so the #ost bruta",F though it is an insu"t to the brute to say
it that !ay, for brutes are never gui"ty of Ccoitus under co#%u"sion.
But a husband can force his !ife to sub#it to his sexua" e#braces, and
she has no "ega" right to say hi# nayKC This doesn't see# Buite right,
does itJ
+o! there are severa" different !ays of vie!ing this ne! and added
sexua" %ossibi"ity in the hu#an fa#i"y, na#e"y, the act of coitus for
other than re%roductive %ur%oses. The ;atho"ic church has Ca"!aysC
counted it as a sin. Po%es have issued edicts regarding it, and
conc"aves of Bisho%s have discussed it and %assed reso"utions
regarding it. There has a"!ays been a difference of o%inion u%on the
subject a#ongst these dignitaries and authorities, but they a""
agree in one res%ect, na#e"y, that it is a CsinC. The on"y %oint of
difference has been as to the extent or enor#ity of the sinK By so#e
it has been reconed as a Fdead"y sin,F %unishab"e by eterna" he""
fire, if not du"y abso"ved before death- by others it has been he"d
to be on"y a Fvenia" sin,F one that #ust a"!ays be confessed to the
%riest !hen coitus is engaged in, and !hich can be %ardoned by the
%ractice of due %enance. CBut, a"!ays, it !as a sinCK
The Protestant church has never issued edicts regarding this #atter,
but, for the #ost %art, it has tacit"y he"d to the ;atho"ic teaching
in CtheoryC, !hi"e universa""y C%racticingC the reverse, in actua"
#arried "ife. Protestants have "ooed u%on it as a necessity, but have
taught that it !as Cregrettab"eC that such !as the case. They have
he"d, !ith Pau", that, Fit is better to #arry than to burn.F (nd #ost
of the# have chosen the #arriage horn of the di"e##a.
(#ong so#e /uro%ean nations, atte#%ts have been #ade to #ae it
i#%ossib"e for husbands and !ives to cohabit exce%t for re%roductive
%ur%oses. .n one of these nations, %ad"ocs !ere used for %reventing
the act. ( s"it !as #ade through the foresin of the %enis, and
through this s"it the ring of a %ad"oc !as %assed, #uch as an
ear&ring is %assed through the "obe of a "ady's ear. The %ad"oc
!as #ade so "arge that it cou"d not be introduced into the vagina"
%assage, and so coitus !as i#%ossib"e !hen it !as !orn. .t cou"d on"y
be re#oved by the #agistrate into !hose hands the regu"ation of this
%art of the citiGens' "ife !as given. S%eci#ens of these %ad"ocs are
sti"" to be seen in /uro%ean #useu#s.
+o! the terrib"y i##ora" thing in a"" this !ay of "iving has a"!ays
been the fact that it Cco#%e""edC %eo%"e to continua""y Cvio"ate their
consciencesC, by C%retendingC to Cbe"ieveC one thing and constant"y
C%racticingC the reverse of their %roc"ai#ed be"ief. That is, it "ured
the# into C"iving a continua" "ie, and such can never be for the good
of the sou"CK .t goes !ithout saying that the sooner this abo#inab"e
!ay of "iving can be ended, the better it !i"" be for a"" %arties
concerned&&the individua"s !ho are the victi#s of such fa"sehood, and
the co##unities of !hich they for# a %art.
,ro# a"" this it fo""o!s that the first thing every ne! husband and
!ife CoughtC to do is to Csett"e c"ear"y in their o!n #inds the issue
as to !hether it is right or !rong for the# to engage in coitus for
any other than %rocreative %ur%osesC. Having sett"ed this %oint, one
!ay or the other, then C"et the# conscientious"y act according"y. ,or
on"y so can they "ive righteous "ivesCK
.n sett"ing this %oint, so far as avai"ab"e authorities for the young
%eo%"e to study and consider are concerned, these are a"" CagainstC
coitus exce%t for begetting of off&s%ring. ("" the F%urityF !riters
and Purity Societies are ranged together on the negative side.
Lie!ise are a"" the boos of Fadvice to young !ives and husbands,F
es%ecia""y those addressed to young C!ivesC.
+o! a"" these FauthoritiesF base their !ho"e argu#ent u%on the %ure"y
Cani#a"C facts in the %re#ises. Probab"y a certain 1r. ;. is #ore
"arge"y read for infor#ation on these #atters than any other author,
es%ecia""y a#ong young !o#en. He has !ritten a "arge, and fro#
the vie!&%oint he taes, a very %"ausib"e vo"u#e- and it is very
extensive"y advertised, es%ecia""y in %a%ers !hich young !o#en read.
The resu"t is that it has co#e to be a"#ost a standard authority in
these affairs.
1r. ;.'s argu#ent is, ba"d"y, as fo""o!s'&&HaI (#ong ani#a"s, the
universa" %ractice is a sing"e act of coitus for each begetting of
off&s%ring, HbI Hu#an beings are ani#a"s, HcI Therefore, hu#an beings
shou"d on"y engage in coitus for re%roductive %ur%oses.
To this sy""ogis# he adds a coro""ary, !hich is, that, therefore, a""
sexua" co##erce in the hu#an fa#i"y, for any other than re%roductive
%ur%oses, is C!rong.C These are his texts, so to s%ea, and through
severa" hundred %ages he %reaches, Cdon't, don't, don't,C ser#ons. The
entire vo"u#e is one of denia" and %rohibition. He %roc"ai#s the act,
even for the one %ur%ose he a""o!s to be right, as "o!, and in itse"f
degrading, to be engaged in on"y after F%rayer and fastingF and
F#ortifying the f"esh,F and even then, in the #ost %assion"ess, and
on"y done&because&it&has&to&be #anner- as a #ere #atter of duty- to be
%er#itted by sufferance- joy"ess, disgusting in itse"f- a so#ething
to be avoided, even in thought, other than it is a necessity for the
continuance of the race.
C.t is fro# such data as this that thousands of FinnocentF brides
annua""y #ae u% their #inds as to !hat is right or !rong in the
#atter of sexua" intercourse.C
.n doing this, #ost of these young !o#en are %erfect"y conscientious,
and !ant to do the right thing, and there are t!o ite#s in the count
that natura""y "ead the# to acce%t 1r. ;.'s teachings as correct. The
first is, that it coincides !ith a"" they have ever heard about such
#atters- the second, that the 1octor f"avors a"" his text !ith a
re"igious Bua"ity, of the a""eged #ost sacred sort. He instances
saint"y !o#en !ho have "ived the #ost ascetic "ives, and !hose
re"igious status !as achieved because, and by #eans of, their %erfect
chastity. .n fact, this !ord FchastityF H!hich he trans"ates as entire
renunciation of the !ho"e sex natureI beco#es the test !ord of his
!ho"e treatise, and its %ractice is u%he"d as the true road to a""
goodness and virtue.
+o!, near"y a"" !e""&bred and cu"tivated young !o#en are natura""y
re"igious Hand not a !ord shou"d be said against their being soI and
they are anxious to ti#e their "ives to everything that the highest
re"igious de#ands %rescribe. .t is, therefore, #ost natura" that,
being thus taught by an authority for !hich they have the highest
regard, they enter #arriage !ith the Cfixed o%inionC in accordance
!ith their teaching. Ho! cou"d it be other!iseJ
)n the other hand, a fe! young husbands, indeed none but no! and then
a Fgoody&goodF H!ho usua""y turns out to be the !orst of the !ho"e
"ot, in course of ti#eI, are !i""ing to Fstand forF any such theory,
#uch "ess to "ive any such "ife as this theory !ou"d i#%ose. These
Fdon't care !hat the boo says,F and, fro# the #anner of their
bringing u%, fro# a"" they have "earned or heard by hearing C#enC ta"
about #arried "ife, H!hich is usua""y of the #ost vu"gar sortI they
have co#e to the conc"usion that #arriage confers u%on the %arties the
CrightC to engage in sexua" co##erce at !i""- and, es%ecia""y, that
the husband has the CrightC to the body of his !ife C!henever he
choosesC. ,or, indeed, does not the "a! give hi# that rightK (nd so
"ong as one Fee%s inside the "a!F !hat #ore cou"d be asedK $ea,
veri"yK What #ore cou"d be asedJ
So it is that C#ost brides and bridegroo#s go to their #arriage bed
!ith the #ost !ide"y diverse vie!s as to !hat is right and !rong in
the %re#isesC&&as to the "ife they !i"" "ead in their ne! estate. The
young !ife is for F%urityF and Fchastity.F The young husband, driven
by a %assion !hich he has "ong he"d in thra"", in the be"ief that he
can no! give the fu""est vent to it, !hen he has got !here such re"ief
is %ossib"e, is "ie an excited hound !hen it seiGes its %rey, !hich
he fu""y be"ieves he has the right to dea" !ith as he %"easesK What
!onder that, in vie! of a"" these circu#stances, the #ost extensive
observer of #arriage&bed %heno#ena shou"d !rite' FC(s a #atter of
fact, nine young husbands in ten %ractica""y ra%e their brides at
their first sexua" #eeting.F ;ou"d anything be #ore horrib"e, or
cri#ina""y !icedCJ (nd it is a"" so need"essK .t is a"" the resu"t of
ignorance, of Finnocence,F and the !orst of fa"se teaching. The %ity
of itK
True, these unfortunate conditions are often #odified by F#other
nature,F !ho ins%ires the bride !ith curiosity, !hich, in a #easure,
contro"s her in s%ite of her fa"se teachings, and !ith %assion, !hich,
to a degree, !i"" assert itse"f over and above a"" fa"se #odesty, her
re"igious scru%"es and her fear of %regnancy- and so she C#ayC co#e
through the ordea" of introduction to the act of coitus in a fair"y
sane condition of #ind, even though she #ay have %ractica""y been
Cra%edCK But, too often, the resu"t of such first contact is Ca shoc
to the bride fro# !hich she #ay not recover during a"" the subseBuent
years of #arried "ifeCK (nd Fhere is !here the troub"e "ies,F for
unto"d thousands of #arried #en and !o#en, a"" over the civi"iGed
!or"d, to&day. (nd it #ight a"" be so differentK .t ought, Cin every
caseC, to be a"" so differentK But if it ever does beco#e different,
Cno!"edgeC has got to tae the %"ace of FCinnocenceFC on the %art of
the CbrideC, and of CignoranceC on the %art of the Cbridegroo#C, both
of !ho# #ust be CtaughtC to FC*no! !hat they are aboutCF before they
engage in the sexua" act, and be ab"e to #eet each other sane"y,
Crighteous"y, "oving"y,C because they both CdesireC !hat each has to
give to the other- in a !ay in !hich neither c"ai#s any CrightsC, or
#aes any Cde#andsC of the other&&in a !ord, in C%erfect concordC
of agree#ent and action, of !hich #utua" "ove is the ins%irer, and
Cdefinite no!"edgeC the directive agent.
Such a first #eeting of bride and bridegroo# !i"" be no ra%ing affair.
There !i"" be no shoc in it, no dread, no sha#e or thought of sha#e-
but as %erfect"y as t!o dro%s of !ater f"o! together and beco#e one,
the bodies and sou"s of the %arties to the act !i"" #ing"e in a unity
the #ost %erfect and b"issfu" that can ever be ex%erienced by hu#an
beings in this !or"d. This is no drea#K .t is a #ost b"essed rea"ity,
!hich a"" nor#a""y #ade husbands and !ives can attain to, if on"y they
are %ro%er"y Ctaught and educatedC, if on"y they !i"" "earn ho! to
reach such b"issfu" condition.
Ho!ever, such great"y desired status is not to be had for the asing
#ere"y. C.nstinct can never bring it about- FinnocenceFC !i"" never
yie"d such a resu"t- and CforceC, or the dec"aration of a FCrightCF
in the %re#ises !i"" forever banish it to the rea"# of the
never&to&be&rea"iGed. .t can on"y co#e as a resu"t of c"ear&headed
thining, scientific investigation, honest study, !ise and righteous
action under the given conditions- and, above a"", Ca "ove, each for
the other, that no!s no boundsC. ("" these things C#ustC obtain,
Con the %art of both %arties concernedC, or the desired resu"ts can
CneverC be attained.
Having said !hich, here sha"" fo""o! so#e suggestions as to ho! such
estate #ay be reached by the readers of these %ages.
But first, "et us finish 1r. ;., and a"" of his tribe&&banish the# fro#
a"" our reconing in these #atters, forever.
(s a"ready sho!n, this argu#ent has not a "eg to stand on. These
!riters treat the !ho"e situation as though #en and !o#en !ere C#ere
ani#a"sK Aen and !o#en are far #ore than #ere ani#a"s, and God hath
#ade the# soCK (nd for these reasons !e !i"" have res%ect for #en and
!o#en as CGod has #ade the#C, rather than as 1r. ;. and the F%urity
"eaguesF say God Cshou"dC have #ade the#K
(s a #atter of fact, the secondary function of sex in the hu#an fa#i"y
is so#ething Cfar aboveC #ere ani#a"ity- it is so#ething that #ere
ani#a"s no! nothing about, that they can never ex%erience, or in any
!ay attain to, and these Cfunda#enta" differencesC in the %re#ises
re#ove the !ho"e issue fro# the rea"# of co#%arison !ith any for#s or
functions of #ere ani#a" "ife. (s !e"" reason that ani#a"s never eat
cooed food, and so #en ought never to eat cooed food Hand there are
so#e %eo%"e !ho do so reason, strange to sayI or that ani#a"s do
not !ear c"othes, and so #en ought not to !ear c"othes&&as !e"" #ae
these, or a score #ore of co#%arisons, bet!een the hu#an race and #ere
ani#a"s, as to try to co#%are the# in the ite# of their sex functions.
.n on"y the sing"e fact that, on the %hysica" %"ane #ere"y, coitus
for the %ur%ose of %rocreation is co##on to a"" ani#a" "ife, #anind
inc"uded, is there a %oint of co#%arison bet!een hu#anity and the
brute creation. CBeyond that %oint there is nothing co#%arab"e bet!een
the t!oCK (s !e"" say that because beasts can hear, therefore they
can co#%rehend and enjoy a Beethoven Sonata, or because they have eyes
they can de"ight in a %icture by ;orotK
This is on"y another !ay of saying that sex has functions and uses in
the hu#an fa#i"y that are entire"y a%art fro# the %ossibi"ities of a""
other ani#a" "ife&&functions as #uch above #ere ani#a"ity as #usic is
above #ere %hysica" hearing, as %ainting above #ere %hysica" sight.
These facts forever u%set and overthro! a"" the theories of 1r. ;. and
;o., they entire"y e"i#inate the !ho"e bunch fro# any %art or "ot in
the issue on !hich they have essayed to s%ea !ith such authority,
but !hose #ain %oint, !hose essentia" e"e#ents they have Centire"y
#isunderstoodC, and hence have treated in a !ay that is !ho""y at
variance !ith the truth in the %re#ises, and it is the truth that !e
are "ooing for.
)nce #ore Hfor it is !e"" to go to the botto# of this #atter !hi"e !e
are about itI the honest truth is, that Cit is the universa" %ractice
of the hu#an race for #en and !o#en to cohabit for other %ur%oses than
re%roduction, and it has a"!ays been soC, since #en and !o#en !ere #en
and !o#enK .t is true a#ong the #ost savage and barbarous tribes of
the earth, and it is #ore e#%hatica""y true of the high"y civi"iGed
%eo%"e in a"" "ands and c"i#es. (nd is it reasonab"e to su%%ose that
such a universa" %heno#enon shou"d CnotC have been intended to be as
it isK (s !e"" say that a%%etite for food is a #istae, one that ought
to be e"i#inatedK
(gain, the ex%eriences of #en and !o#en, a"" over the !or"d, %rove
that, !here this act is engaged in %ro%er"y, according to the "a!s
that obtain in the %re#ises, Cit conduces to the highest %hysica",
#enta", and s%iritua" !e""&being of the %arties concernedC. .ndeed, it
is beyond doubt true that the #en and !o#en !ho have never no!n this
#ost %erfect of a"" hu#an ex%eriences, have never reached the su##it
of hu#an attain#ent, have never arrived at the %erfection of #anhood
and !o#anhood. Length of "ife, hea"th of the highest sort, and
ha%%iness, the #ost de"ectab"e&&a"" co#e, these and #ore, to #en and
!o#en by this route, Cif it is right"y trave"edC. He"" and da#nation
resu"t if that road is !rong"y trodK
(nd that's !hat #aes the #anner of trave"ing it so i#%ortant.
@.
TH/ (;T ), ;).T>S
Strict"y s%eaing, the act of coitus shou"d be considered as co#%osed
of four %arts, or acts, of one co##on %"ay, or dra#a. +ot that there
is a shar% "ine of de#arcation bet!een each act or %art, for the
CfourC rea""y b"end into ConeC co#%osite !ho"e, !hen taen together,
seriati#- but there are Cfour %hasesC of the act !hich #ay !e"" be
studied se%arate"y, in #aing a detai"ed revie! of a sexua" #eeting of
a #an and a !o#an.
These four %arts are' CfirstC, the %re%aration for the act- CsecondC,
the CunionC of the organs- CthirdC, the #otion of the organs-
CfourthC, the orgas#.
.n !hat i##ediate"y fo""o!s, these CfourC stages of the act of coitus
!i"" be studied and traced in detai", !ith the ut#ost care, in the
ho%e that such %ursuit #ay resu"t in the best %ossib"e good to the
student.
0egarding the CfirstC %art of the act, "et it be said that here, above
a"" other situations in the !or"d FChaste #aes !asteC.F CPut that
do!n as the #ost funda#enta" fact in this !ho"e affairKC 0ight here is
!here ninety&nine one&hundredths of a"" the troub"es of #arried "ife
beginK (nd the fau"t, right here, is usua""y Hthough not a"!aysI !ith
the husbandK But he doesn't #ean to be bad. +ot once in a thousand
ti#es does he de"iberate"y %ur%ose to do !rong. He is si#%"y the
victi# of undirected and ungoverned %assion, and of an CignoranceC
!hich resu"ts in stu%id b"undering, or care"essness, or
thought"essness. What such a husband %ractica""y does is to rush
b"ind"y and furious"y a"ong a !ay he no!s nothing of, but !hich he
has been "ed to thin he has a CrightC to trave" C!hen and ho! he
!i""CK The ordinary figure of a Fbu"" in a china sho%F can but faint"y
describe the s#ashing and grinding to %o!der of the #ost de"icate
situation that can occur in a"" hu#an ex%eriences, that resu"t fro#
such action as this. .dea"s that have touched heaven are tu#b"ed fro#
their "ofty %"aces and ruth"ess"y crushed to ato#s- ho%es that !ere
beyond the %o!er of !ords to ex%ress go out in des%air- drea#s beco#e
a hideous night#are- and "ove, !hich !as as %ure as crysta" !aters, is
#uddied, befou"ed, and #ade into a cess%oo"K C(nd a"" this because of
ignoranceC or care"ess hurrying, of #aing haste !here the ut#ost of
ti#e, caution and inte""igent care shou"d have obtainedK
(s has a"ready been ex%"ained, !hen the act of coitus is to be
engaged in, the sex organs of both the #an and the !o#an undergo great
changes. B"ood rushes to a"" these %arts, in co%ious Buantities,
ti"" they beco#e gorged. The resu"t is that the %enis is en"arged to
severa" ti#es its dor#ant siGe, and the vu"va and vagina shou"d,
and !i"", under right conditions, undergo si#i"ar changes and
transfor#ation.
CBut there is usua""y a great difference in the "ength of ti#e it
taes for these changes to tae %"ace in #en and !o#enC. )n the %art
of the #an, as soon as his %assion is aroused to any considerab"e
extent, the %enis at once #aes itse"f ready for action. .t
Ftu#esces,F or s!e""s itse"f hard, a"#ost instant"y- and, so far as
its #ere %hysica" stoutness is concerned, is as ready to enter the
vagina then as ever, even if it has to force itse"f in.
)n the other hand, the tu#escence of the %arts in !o#en is usua""y,
Hes%ecia""y as gir"s are rearedI not infreBuent"y, a #atter of
considerab"e ti#e, not infreBuent"y severa" #inutes, and no! and then,
of Cha"f&an&hour or #oreCK This is not a"!ays so, for in so#e very
%assionate !o#en they are ready for action a"#ost instant"y. .ndeed,
there are so#e !o#en !hose sex organs tu#esce if they Hthe !o#enI even
touch a #an&&any #an&&and occasiona""y a case occurs !here a !o#an
!i"" ex%erience an orgas# if her c"othing brushes against a #anK Such
cases are, of course, abnor#a". But, Cfor the #ost %artC, it is true
that !o#en are C#uch s"o!erC in #aing ready for the sexua" act than
#en are.
(gain, as the organs beco#e ready for the act, nature has %rovided a
#ost !onderfu" #eans for bringing about their easy and ha%%y union.
Both the #a"e and fe#a"e organs secrete and e#it, or %our out, a sort
of "ubricating f"uid !hich covers and so#eti#es a"#ost f"oods the
%arts. This is a c"ear and "i#%id substance, that "oos #uch "ie the
!hite of an egg, and is #uch "ie the sa"iva that is secreted in
the #outh, on"y it is a thicer substance. ;he#ica""y, it is a"#ost
identica" !ith sa"iva. That generated by the #an is ca""ed F%rostatic
f"o!-F that %roduced by the !o#an F%re&coita" secretion.F
+o!, if ti#e is given for this f"uid to be secreted and exuded, a""
the %arts beco#e covered or saturated !ith it, and they are ad#irab"y
eBui%%ed for easy union. The g"ans %enis is then covered !ith the
s"i%%ery f"uid, and the vu"va and a"" the !a""s of the vagina are
"aved !ith the substance. (t the sa#e ti#e, the vagina" !a""s have
!idened and gro!n soft, and a"" the %arts of the vu"va H!hich are yet
to be na#ed and described in detai"I are in "ie condition. The resu"t
is that, though the %enis be !hat #ight at first see# of such siGe as
to #ae its entrance into the vagina i#%ossib"e, as a #atter of fact,
such entrance is %erfect"y easy, !hen the %arts are fu""y ready to be
joined. CBut not before or other!iseKC
So here is !here the troub"e co#es. .f the husband is in haste, if he
does not !ait for the !ife to beco#e ready to #eet hi#- if he forces
his "arge, hard %enis into the vagina before either is fu""y ready
for such union&&!hen there is no %rostatic f"uid on its g"ans, and the
vagina is shrunen and its !a""s are dry&&if coitus is engaged in in
this !ay, it is %erfect"y easy to see that Con"y disaster can resu"tCK
The !o#an is hurt, so#eti#es #ost crue""y, and the #an in rea"ity gets
on"y a beast"y gratification fro# the act. C)f a"" bad things in a""
the !or"d, such #anner of coition is the !orstCK
(nd so, in this CfirstC %art of the act, the one fore#ost thought to
re#e#ber and observe is, Ctae %"enty of ti#eKC
There is another reason !hy, on the %art of !o#an, this ti#e shou"d
be extended, es%ecia""y !hen she is a bride and inex%erienced in these
#atters, and that is, that her Finnocence,F and a"" her education,
#ae her fee" that she is Cdoing !rongC, or at "east %er#itting a
!rong thing to be done, and this ho"ds bac the %ro%er gro!th of her
%assion, hinders the tu#escence of her sex organs, de"ays the f"o!
of the %recoita" secretion, and so ee%s her fro# beco#ing %ro%er"y
%re%ared for her share of the #utua" act.
(gain, her fear of %regnancy #ay sti"" further retard her co#ing into
a %ro%er condition. .ndeed, this "ast is the a"#ost co##on cause for
her fai"ing to be in readiness for #eeting her husband. ("" of
!hich ite#s #ust be taen into account by both husband and !ife,
and inte""igent"y, "oving"y dea"t !ith, if the best resu"ts for both
%arties are attained.
(s regards the ite# of %ossib"e %regnancy, s%ecia" note !i"" be #ade
of this feature "ater on. .t is here %"aced in abeyance for the ti#e
being, because its consideration can be better %rovided for after so#e
other %oints have been studied.
+o! the one easi"y understood Hand as easi"y %racticed as understoodI
direction as to !hat to do by !ay of %re%aration for the act of coitus
is' Cdo as "overs do !hen they are Fcourting.FC (nd everybody no!s
!hat that isK (nd note this&&that Cnobody ever hurries !hen they are
courtingKC They de"ay, they %rotract, they di""y&da""y, they Ffoo"
around,F they %et each other in a"" sorts of %ossib"e and i#%ossib"e
!ays. They iss each other&&F"ong and %assionate isses, they again
and again give and receiveF&&they hug each other, nest"e into each
other's ar#s&&in a !ord, they F%"ay togetherF in a thousand&and&one
!ays !hich the Fgoody&goodsF dec"are to be !rong, and the co"d&b"ooded
ca"" nonsense or foo"ishness, but !hich a"" C"oversC no! is an
Cuns%eaab"e de"ightC HFuns%eaab"eF is the !ord, for !ho !ants to
Cta"C !hen these b"issfu" ex%eriences are going onKI.
+o!, these things, and the "ies of these things, in "i#it"ess su%%"y,
shou"d a"!ays %recede the act of coitus. .t is right there that this
%art of the first act of this !onderfu" four&act dra#a or %"ay shou"d
be !rought out, and if they are o#itted or disregarded, the %"ay
!i"" end in Ctragedy, !ith a"" the "eading actors "eft dead u%on the
stageCK
+o! the chief, if not the on"y, reason !hy this %art of the su%re#e
act of #arried "ife is not a"!ays %re"uded in this !ay is found in
the Cfa"se vie!C of !hat the C#arriage cere#ony #eansC, and a !rong
i#%ression as to !hat it confers u%on the %arties !ho say FyesF to
its %rescri%tions. That is, the co##on idea is, that the taing of
F#arriage vo!sF besto!s certain CrightsC and i#%oses certain CdutiesC
u%on the ne! husband and !ife. .t is thought that such cere#ony #aes
certain acts CrightC !hich !ou"d Cother!iseC be C!rongC, and that it
estab"ishes the CrightC to engage in such acts, C!ith or !ithout any
further consu"tation or consent in the %re#isesC. .t #aes "ove a
#atter of CcontractC, a so#ething Cbound by %ro#ise and %"edge rather
than a free and unfettered effusion of the sou"C.
The resu"t of this is that, !hereas, before the #arriage cere#ony both
the #an and !o#an tae the ut#ost care to do everything in their %o!er
to increase, #agnify, and retain each other's "ove, after they
have been granted a F"icense,F and the #inister has %ut their hands
together and %rayed over the#&&after this, they both thin they have
a FCcinchCF on each other, that they are bound together by a bond that
cannot be broen, a tie so strong that it !i"" need no further "ooing
after, but !hich !i"" Fstay %utF of its o!n accord, and !hich
#ay therefore be "et to shift for itse"f fro# the hour of its
%ronounce#entK +othing Ccou"d be further fro# the truth than this isC.
(nd yet it is a co##on fee"ing and be"ief a#ong young #arried %eo%"eK
+or is it any !onder that this shou"d be so. The very for# of the
#arriage cere#ony and contract tends to #ae it so. The fact that
#arriage originated as a for# of s"avery, and that #uch of its
origina" status yet re#ains&&a"" these things tend to estab"ish these
!rong ideas regarding the estate, in the #inds of the %arties to it.
+or are the evi"s that co#e fro# such !rong vie! of #arriage a""
confined to one side of the house. )n the contrary, they are
about even"y divided bet!een husbands and !ives, !itness a fe!
i""ustrations, as fo""o!s'
( cou%"e had been #arried about a year. They had no chi"dren, nor
!ere there %ros%ects of any. The husband !as beginning to s%end his
evenings a!ay fro# ho#e, "eaving his !ife a"one. )ne evening, as he
!as #aing ready to go out, his !ife said' FWhat #aes you go out
evenings no!, and "eave #e a"oneK $ou didn't use to do itKF (nd the
husband re%"ied'
FWhy, you don't do anything to #ae it interesting for #e no!K $ou
used to %ut on your %rettiest c"othes !hen . ca#e to see you, fixed
u% your hair be!itching"y, had a s#i"e for #e that !ou"dn't co#e off,
!ou"d sing for #e, read to #e, sit on #y "a% and %et #e and iss #e,
and no! you never do anything of the ind.F (nd before he cou"d say
#ore, the !ife res%onded' FC)h, but !e are #arried no!, and it's your
duty to stay !ith #eKCF
What !onder that the husband !ent out of the house, s"a##ing the door
after hi#K The !onder is that he ever ca#e bac.
(gain' ( !o#an !ho !as a graduate of a fa#ous /astern ;o""ege and
!ho had taught for a nu#ber of years, !ho !as fro# one of the Ffirst
fa#i"iesF in the east, and !as counted as a "ady of the highest
cu"ture and refine#ent, fina""y #arried a Western business #an. )n
their brida" night, as they !ere retiring, the #an "aid his hand on
the !o#an's bare shou"der, and she thre! it off, and said' F1on't
be disgustingK . #arried you because . !as tired of taing care of
#yse"f, or of having #y re"atives tae care of #e. $ou are !orth fifty
thousand do""ars, and one&third of a"" that !as #ade #ine just as soon
as the %reacher got through his c"osing %rayer, and you can't he"%
itK That's the truth, and !e are #arried, and you can #ae the best of
itKF
These are both truthfu" ta"es, nor are they the on"y ones of the sort
that cou"d be to"d.
)n the other hand, these are #atched !ith acts of ignorant and
care"ess young husbands, !ho do dastard"y deeds to their brides
because they thin Cthe "a!C and the CcontractC give the# the rightK
There is no need to go into detai"s. The !ho"e evi" is revea"ed by the
!ords of the !o#an just Buoted' FC)h, but !e are #arried no!C.F
These records, and a"" "ie the#, "ead to the re#ar that C#arriage
confers no rights, to either the bride or the bridegroo#, in the
highest #eaning of the !ordC. So far as its out!ard and for#a"
observance is concerned, #arriage is #ere"y a sort of %rotection for
society !hich has gro!n u% through the years, and !hich is %robab"y
for the best, for the %resent, things being as they are. But it shou"d
be !e"" understood that it can CneverC "ead to Ctrue ha%%inessC if it
is vie!ed and uti"iGed C#ere"yC on its C"ega" and for#a" side. True
#arriage is based on #utua" "ove- and #utua" "ove can never be traded
u%on, or #ade an ite# of for#a" agree#ent and contract.C Peo%"e #ay
contract to "ive together and to cohabit, and they #ay faithfu""y
carry out their agree#ents- Cbut this is not #arriageCK .t is si#%"y
C"ega"iGed %rostitution, bargain and sa"e, for a consideration. .t is
b"as%he#y to ca"" it by the sacred na#e of #arriageKC
Tru"y does Tennyson say' F,ree "ove !i"" not be bound.F .ndeed it
cannot beK .t #ust re#ain forever free if it stays at a"". (nd if the
%arties to it try to bind it, the #ore chains, fastenings, %"edges
and agree#ents they %ut u%on it, the sooner and Buicer !i"" it esca%e
fro# a"" its ho"dings and f"y a!ay and Cstay a!ayCK
(nd so, to co#e bac to !here !e "eft off Hfor !e said there shou"d be
no hurrying or haste hereI "et #arried %eo%"e understand that the ey
to #arried ha%%iness is Cto ee% on FcourtingF each otherC. .ndeed,
to #ae courting continua""y gro! to #ore and #ore. 1uring the !ho"e
extent of #arried "ife, never neg"ect, #uch "ess forget to be "overs,
and to sho!, Cby a"" your actsC, that you are "overs, and great sha""
be your re!ard. 1on't as ho! to do thisK $ou no! ho!, !e"" enough.
1o itK
(nd be carefu" CnotC to do anything that a carefu" "over ought not
to doK This direction shou"d be heeded by both husband and !ife. Aae
yourse"f beautifu" for your husband, )h, !ife, and ee% yourse"f so.
(s bet!een the %ub"ic, or your friends, or society, give the# !hat of
yourse"f you can s%are, after you have given to your "over a"" that
you can besto! u%on hi#, or he can !ish you to besto!. 1on't give
to everybody and everything e"se, church, society, !or, chi"dren,
friends, or !hat&so&ever&&don't give Ca""C of yourse"f to these, and
"et your husband Ftae !hat there is "eft.F 1on't do that, as you
va"ue your #arried success and ha%%inessK 1on't say' F)h, but !e are
#arried no!,F and "et it go at thatK
The beautifu" and de"icate f"o!ers of #arried "ove need to be !atched
and tended !ith the #ost si"fu" care, Ccontinua""yC, by both husband
and !ife. Treated in this !ay, they !i"" not on"y be fragrant and
"ove"y through a"" the years of !edded "ife- but as, one by one, the
b"osso#s shed their %eta"s and change their for#s so that "uscious
fruits #ay co#e in turn&&as these changes tae %"ace, ne!, #ore
beautifu" and #ore fragrant f"o!ers !i"" continue to the very end of
the "ongest #arried "ife. 1on't ever forget this, or doubt it, as you
ho%e for ha%%iness in the #arriage stateK Aind !hat is here said, and
act according"y Ca"" the ti#eC&&days, nights and Sundays.
+o! if these truths are thorough"y incu"cated, Ficed inF so fir#"y
and dee%"y that they !i"" never Fjar "ooseF or get a!ay, !e !i"" #ove
on.
So, then, the CfirstC %art of CeveryC act of coitus shou"d a"!ays be a
CcourtingC act, in !hich there shou"d be Cno hasteC, but in !hich the
%arties shou"d FC#ae de"aysC,F as =ohn Burroughs says.
(nd this shou"d be added' that, for #arried "overs, courting has a far
!ider range of %ossibi"ities than it has for the un#arried. Previous
to #arriage, there are conventiona"ities and c"othes in the !ayK (fter
that, neither of these need be in evidence, and this #aes a "ot of
difference, and a"" in favor of the best resu"ts, if right"y used,
and #ade the #ost of. )ne hard"y need to go into detai"s here, Hthough
this #ay be done "ater on in this !ritingI. .f the "overs !i"" be as
free !ith each other unc"othed as c"othed- if they !i"" utter"y ignore
a"" conventiona"ities, and do !ith and for each other anything and
everything that their Ci#%u"sesC and Cinc"inationsC suggest, or
their desires %ro#%t- if they !i"", C!ith the ut#ost abandonC give
the#se"ves u% to %etting each other in every %ossib"e !ay that C#other
natureC has %ut !ithin their reach- if they !i"" hug and iss and
Fs%oonF and F%"ay !ith each otherF just as they !ant to do&&if they
!i"" do this, and not ChurryC about it&&then, in due course, they
!i"" successfu""y execute the Cfirst actC of the great %"ay they are
%erfor#ing- the sex organs !i"" beco#e fu""y ready for the union they
are both "onging for- the F%rostate f"o!F !i"" have added to the erect
condition of the %enis- the !a""s of the vagina and a"" the area
of the vu"va !i"" be en"arged, soft, f"exib"e and #ade s#ooth and
s"i%%ery by a #ost generous su%%"y of the F%re&coita" secretionF and
everything !i"" be in C%erfect readinessC for the next %art of the
%erfor#ance, na#e"y the union of the organs.
(nd here it beco#es necessary to say so#ething about the %osition of
the %arties in #aing such union. There are a "arge nu#ber of these
%ossib"e, so#e of !hich #ay be noted "ater, but here, on"y the #ost
co##on one !i"" be considered Hit is said there are #ore than forty
different %ositions %ossib"e in this actI.
The #ost co##on %osition is for the !o#an to "ie f"at on her bac,
!ith her "egs s%read !ide a%art, and her nees dra!n u% so that the
ang"e #ade by the u%%er and "o!er %art of the "eg sha"" be "ess than
a right ang"e. Her head shou"d not be too high, there shou"d be no
%i""o! under it.
.nto her ar#s, and bet!een her s%read "egs as she "ies thus, her "over
shou"d co#e. His body !i"" thus be over and above her, and Che shou"d
sustain hi#se"f on his e"bo!s and neesC, so that "itt"e or CnoneC of
his !eight #ay rest u%on her. .n this %osition, face to face Hand
it shou"d be noted that on"y in the hu#an fa#i"y is this %osition of
coitus %ossib"eK (#ong #ere ani#a"s, the #a"e is a"!ays u%on the bac
of the fe#a"e. They&&#ere ani#a"s&&can never "oo each other in the
eye and iss each other during the actK This is another #ared and
very significant difference bet!een hu#an beings and a"" other ani#a"s
in this regardI it is %erfect"y natura" and easy for the organs to
go together, !hen %ro%er"y #ade ready, as here&before described. The
!o#an shou"d a"so %"ace her hee"s in the nee&ho""o!s of her "over's
"egs, and c"as% his body !ith her ar#s.
The entrance of the %enis into the vagina shou"d not be too abru%t,
un"ess circu#stances are %erfect"y favorab"e for such #eeting and it
is Cthe !ish of the !ifeC that it be #ade in this !ay. .t is on"y
fair to say, though, that such bo"d and %ronounced entrance is often
Cgreat"y desired by the !o#anC, if her %assion has been fu""y aroused
at this stage of the act. Such union is not infreBuent"y of the
greatest de"ight to her, if everything is favorab"e for its being
so #ade. But, if there is any %ain %roduced in her by the co#ing
together, the #eeting shou"d be gent"e and s"o!, the %enis !oring its
!ay into the vagina by degrees, ti"", fina""y, it is entire"y encased
therein. )nce thus ha%%i"y together, the vagina and uterine cavity
!i"" sti"" further ex%and, ti"", in due order, the t!o organs !i"" be
fitted together %erfect"y, a sing"e unit, ConeC, in the highest sense
of unity.
This is the CsecondC act in this !onderfu" %"ay.
)nce !e"" together, and the organs %erfect"y sett"ed and ada%ted
to each other, the CthirdC act begins, na#e"y, Cthe #otion of the
organsC&&the s"iding of the %enis bac and forth, %art"y in and out of
the vagina, though this is not rea""y the best !ay of describing just
!hat shou"d tae %"ace. What Cshou"dC actua""y be done is, that the
Ct!oC organs shou"d engage in this #otion, !hich is Cco##on to the#
bothC. They shou"d C#utua""yC s"i% a fe! inches, bac and forth, Ceach
%arty to the #otion doing a fair ha"fC.
.t is often su%%osed, by both an uninitiated husband and an FinnocentF
!ife, that a"" the #otion shou"d originate !ith the husband&&that
he shou"d s"ide his %enis in and out of the vagina, !hi"e the !o#an
shou"d "ie sti"" and FC"et hi# do it a""C.F This is, ho!ever, a
CgreatC #istae, and one that has caused an end"ess a#ount of i"" to
unto"d nu#bers of husbands and !ives. (nd for the fo""o!ing reasons'
.n the %osition just described, if the !ife has her ar#s around her
"over's body and her hee"s in his nee&%ocets, !hi"e he su%%orts
hi#se"f by his e"bo!s and nees over and above her, resting CnoneC of
his !eight u%on her, it is %erfect"y easy for her to "ift her hi%s u%
and do!n, or s!ay the# fro# side to side, or s!ing the# in a circ"ing
Fround&and&roundF #otion, as she #ay choose to do. She can thus
CoriginateC her ha"f of the in&and&out #otion&&a so#ething she !i""
de"ight to do, Cif given a fair chance.C .f, ho!ever, the #an "ies
heavi"y u%on her, ho"ding her do!n !ith the !eight of his body, the
%ossibi"ity of such action on her %art is %revented, and this resu"ts
disastrous"y to both %arties. (nd so, in this %art of the act, the
husband shou"d tae the Cut#ost careC to give his !ife the Cfu"" and
co#%"ete freedo#C to #ove her hi%s as she chooses, and as a successfu"
c"i#ax de#ands that she shou"d.
+o! if the !ife be "eft free to #ove, as just described, and the
in&and&out #otion %roceeds as it shou"d, !hat i##ediate"y fo""o!s !i""
vary in a great degree. Thus, the ti#e taen to reach the c"i#ax, or
"ast act of the %erfor#ance, #ay be a fe! seconds, or severa" #inutes,
#ay reBuire a #ere ha"f doGen #otions, or Csevera" hundredKC (""
de%ends on the intensity of the %assions of the husband and !ife,
es%ecia""y the "atter, and their si"" in #ani%u"ating this %art of
the act.
The effect of this #otion is to sti"" further excite and sti"" #ore
distend a"" the organs invo"ved. +or#a""y, the #otion gro!s faster and
faster, the stroes beco#ing as "ong as the "ength of the organs !i""
%ossib"y %er#it !ithout se%arating the#. The f"o! of the "ubricating
f"uids, fro# both organs, beco#es #ore and #ore co%ious, ti"", a"" at
once, the orgas#, or Cfourth stageC, is reachedK
.t is difficu"t to describe !hat this orgas# is "ie. There is no
bodi"y sensation that at a"" corres%onds to it, un"ess it be a sneeGe,
and this is on"y "ie it in that it is s%ontaneous, and a sort of
nervous s%as# Ha sneeGe is so#eti#es s%oen of as an orgas#I. ( sexua"
orgas# is a nervous s%as#, or a series of %u"sating nervous ex%"osions
!hich defy descri%tion. The action is entire"y beyond the contro" of
the !i"", !hen it fina""y arrives, and the sensation it %roduces is
de"ectab"e beyond te""ing. .t is the to%#ost %innac"e of a"" hu#an
ex%eriences. ,or a husband and !ife to reach this c"i#ax, at exact"y
the sa#e instant, is a consu##ation that can never be exce""ed in
hu#an "ife. .t is a goa" !orthy the endeavor of a"" husbands and
!ives, to attain to this su%re#e height of sexua" %ossibi"ities.
)n the %art of the #an, the orgas# thro!s the se#en into, and a""
about the vagina"&uterine tract. The a#ount of se#en thus discharged
at a sing"e c"i#ax is about a tab"es%oonfu", enough to entire"y f"ush
and f"ood the area into !hich it is thro!n. .ts use and action there
have a"ready been described, and so need not be re%eated here.
)n the %art of the !o#an, the orgas# causes no corres%onding e#ission
of f"uid, of any sort, that is jetted forth as is the se#en. $et the
s%as#odic action of the sexua" %arts, so far as nervous ex%"osions are
concerned, is exact"y "ie that of her %artner. Pa"%itation fo""o!s
%a"%itation, through a"" the sexua" area- the #outh of the !o#b o%ens
and c"oses convu"sive"y, the vagina di"ates and contracts again and
again, and the vu"va undergoes si#i"ar actions. The sensations are
a"" of the #ost de"ectab"e nature, the !ho"e of the !o#an's body being
thri""ed, over and over, again and again, !ith de"ights inex%ressib"e.
This, ho!ever, see#s to be the entire #ission of the orgas# in !o#an.
C.t has nothing !hatever to do !ith conce%tionC- though #any %eo%"e,
es%ecia""y young husbands !ho no! just a "itt"e about the %heno#enon,
be"ieve that it is an Cessentia"C to %regnancy. CBut such is by no
#eans the case.C ("" that is needed to bring about conce%tion in a
!o#an is the %resence of the ovu# in the uterus, and its #eeting se#en
there, and so beco#ing ferti"iGed. So far as beco#ing %regnant is
concerned, the C!o#anC need have Cno %"easure at a""C in the act of
coitus. .ndeed, !o#en have been #ade %regnant by securing fresh se#en
fro# so#e #an and injecting it into the vagina !ith an ordinary fe#a"e
syringeK
The fa"se idea, !hich "arge"y %revai"s, and !hich usua""y taes the
for# that there is no danger or %ossibi"ity of conce%tion un"ess the
orgas# is Csi#u"taneous on the %art of the #an and !o#anC, has caused
#any a !o#an to beco#e %regnant !hen she thought such a resu"t to
be i#%ossib"e, because she and her "over did not Fs%endF at the sa#e
instant. ,or the sa#e reason, #any a young husband has i#%regnated his
!ife !hen he "east ex%ected to do so, thining that because he a"one
ex%erienced the orgas#, that therefore conce%tion !as i#%ossib"e.
(gain, there are #any #arried #en and !o#en !ho do not no! that it is
%ossib"e for a !o#an to ex%erience an orgas# at a""K The !riter once
ne! a case of this ind, !here a husband and !ife, #ost inte""igent
and !e"" cu"tivated %eo%"e, "ived together for t!enty years, and to
!ho# !ere born six chi"dren, !ho, at the end of that ti#e !ere
!ho""y una!are of such %ossibi"ityK They after!ards discovered it by
accident, as it !ere, and after that enjoyed its de"ights for #any
years. There are so#e, yea, #any, !o#en !ho never ex%erience this
sensation at a"", but of this #ore !i"" be said "ater.
("" these %heno#ena see# to indicate the fact that, so far as !o#en
are concerned, Cthe orgas# is entire"y for her de"ectation and
de"ight. .t for#s no %art of the act of conce%tionC, and its on"y
%ossib"e function, beyond that of %"easure, is that, because of the
exceeding"y de"ightfu" sensations it %roduces, it #ay "ure !o#en to
engage in coitus !hen, but for this fact, they !ou"d not do so, and
that it thus increases the %ossibi"ity of !o#en beco#ing #others.
.ndeed, there is no stronger te#%tation to a !o#an to run the ris of
beco#ing %regnant than her desire to ex%erience an orgas#K But #ore of
this "ater.
(s soon as the orgas# is over, a tota" co""a%se of the husband and
!ife taes %"ace. They are tru"y Fs%ent,F a #ost ex%ressive !ord,
!hich a"one can describe their condition. )n the %art of the #an
the u%&to&this&#o#ent stout %enis, beco#es a"#ost instant"y "i#%
and shrunen, !hi"e a"" the fe#a"e organs beco#e Buiescent. ( #ost
de"ightfu" "anguor stea"s over the#- every nerve and fibre of the
!ho"e body re"axes- and a desire to fa"" as"ee% at once, co#es u%on
the# irresistib"y. (nd the thing for the# to do is to avai" the#se"ves
of such natura" i#%u"se, just as soon as %ossib"e. They shou"d a"!ays
have at hand, and !ithin easy reach, a to!e", or na%in, !ith !hich
to care for the sur%"us of the se#ina" e#ission, !hich, as soon as the
organs are se%arated, !i"", in greater or "ess Buantity, f"o! fro# the
vagina. So#e of the sa#e f"uid !i"" a"so re#ain u%on the %enis !hen
it is !ithdra!n. The husband shou"d absorb this sur%"us !hich re#ains
!ith hi# !ith the to!e", as soon as the organs are %arted, and
i##ediate"y "eave his su%er&i#%osed %osition, "eaving his !ife
C%erfect"y freeC, to do as she !i"". She shou"d arrange the to!e"
bet!een her thighs, exact"y as she !ou"d a sanitary na%in, #aing no
atte#%t to re#ove the sur%"us se#en at that ti#e, and turn over and go
to s"ee% Ci##ediate"yC. H.t is said that if the !o#an goes to s"ee% on
her CbacC, after coition, she thereby increases the C%robabi"ityC,
of beco#ing %regnant. This is a %oint that !o#en !ho great"y desire
#otherhood shou"d note. The !riter ne! one case !here a !ife "ay on
her bac for t!enty&four hours after coition and so beca#e %regnant
after a"" other #eans had fai"ed.I
+o! it #ight see# that such neg"ect, on the %art of the !o#an, to
i##ediate"y re#ove the sur%"us se#en, !as unc"ean"y and unsanitary.
But this is not at a"" true, and for this reason' CThe se#en is a #ost
%o!erfu" sti#u"ant to a"" the fe#a"e sex&organs, and to the !ho"e body
of the !o#anC. The organs the#se"ves !i"" absorb Buantities of se#en,
if "eft in contact !ith it, and it is #ost hea"thfu" and beneficia" to
the#, and to the !o#an, to have the# do so. .t is for this cause that
#any !o#en increase in f"esh, and even gro! fat after they are #arried
and so can avai" the#se"ves of this Chea"thfu" food.C (s a #atter
of fact, Cthere is no nerve&sti#u"ant, or nerve&Buieter, that is as
%otent to !o#an&ind as se#enC. There are #u"titudes of FnervousF
!o#en, hysterica" even, !ho are restored to hea"th, and e%t in good
hea"th, through the sti#u"ative effects of satisfactory coitus and the
absor%tion of se#en, !hen both these ite#s are %resent in %erfection.
)n the other hand, there are #any !o#en !ho suffer a"" sorts of i""s,
!hen these nor#a""y beneficia" factors are #isused or !rong"y a%%"ied.
The resu"ts that fo""o! a"" de%end u%on the !ay the act is done, and
its %roducts uti"iGed.
So, after the act of coition is over, "et the !o#an s"i% a FbandageF
into %"ace as soon as %ossib"e, and go to s"ee%. .f she s"ee%s "ong,
so #uch the better, so #uch #ore !i"" she be benefited by the %resence
of the se#en and its absor%tion. When she natura""y !aens, she #ay
bathe the vu"va region !ith !ar# !ater- but there is no need of, nor
is it !ise to try to c"eanse the vagina and the uterine tract by the
use of a vagina" syringe. (bove a"", never inject co"d !ater into the
vagina, es%ecia""y do not do this i##ediate"y after coitus. So#e !o#en
use a co"d !ater injection i##ediate"y after coitus. There is no surer
!ay to i"" hea"th and u"ti#ate suicide. The %arts are congested !ith
b"ood at such ti#es, and to %our Cco"dC !ater u%on the# is as though,
!hen one is dri%%ing !ith %ers%iration, he shou"d %"unge into a co"d
bath. +ature has #ade !ise %rovision for taing care of a"" the se#en
that re#ains in the vagina. Let the %arts a"one, and they !i"" c"eanse
and care for the#se"ves.
Such, then, is a so#e!hat extended revie! of the act of coitus at its
best estate, and in a genera" !ay. C.ts %erfect acco#%"ish#ent is an
art to be cu"tivated, and one in !hich ex%ertness can on"y be attained
by !ise observation, carefu" study of a"" the factors invo"ved, and a
"oving ada%tation of the bodies, #inds and sou"s of both the %arties
to the act. .t is no #ere ani#a" function.C .t is a CunionC, a CunityC
of Ft!o Csou"sC !ith but a sing"e thought, t!o hearts that beat as
one.F There is nothing "o! or degrading about it, !hen it is !hat it
ought to be, !hen it is brought to, and ex%erienced at, its highest
and best estate. .t is CGod&designed, God&born, God&besto!edKC (s such
it shou"d be thanfu""y received and Cdivine"y usedC by a"" the sons
and daughters of #en.
@..
TH/ ,.0ST >+.)+
(nd no!, a"though so #uch has been said, there is #uch that re#ains to
be said, and !hich ought to be said, to do the subject justice. So#e
of these things are as fo""o!s'
So#ething #ore ought to be to"d about the second %art of the act of
coitus, the union of the organs, !hen this occurs for the CfirstC ti#e
on the %art of the !o#an.
(t the first #eeting of the husband and !ife, if the !o#an be a
virgin, there are certain conditions !hich exist, on her %art, that
are not %resent in after&#eetings, and these #ust be understood and
right"y dea"t !ith, or the !orst of bad resu"ts #ay ensue.
)f course, at such first #eeting, a"" the %re"i#inaries %rescribed as
for#ing the CfirstC #ove#ent of the act shou"d be carried out Cto the
"i#itC. .t is not too #uch to say that these shou"d be %ro"onged for
Cso#e daysCK 1o not start, young husband, at this state#entK We"" did
("exander 1u#as, %ere, !rite' F)h, young husband, have a care in the
first overtures you #ae to!ard your brideK She #ay shrin fro# !hat
she fee"s #ust co#e- she #ay %ut her hands over her eyes to shut out
the sight- but do not forget that she is a !o#an, and so is fi""ed
!ith CcuriosityC, under any and a"" circu#stancesK (nd you #ay set it
do!n as sure, that, though she b"inds herse"f !ith her hands as she
sca"es the diGGy heights you are "eading her over, neverthe"ess,
Cshe !i"" %ee through her fingersKC So she !i"" !atch you !ith #ost
critica" eyes, and note every sho! of Cse"fishness or b"undering on
your %artK So have a careKC $ou #ay thin you are ai#ing your arro!
at the sun. See to it that it does not a"ight in the #udKF Good !ords
these, and to be heeded, co#e !hat #ayK
(s a ru"e, if the bride be a virgin, it is !e"" to C"et %"enty of ti#e
e"a%se before engaging in the fu"" act of coitusKC 1e"ay here !i""
"ead to a %ossib"e "oving s%eed, "ater on. The young %eo%"e shou"d
tae ti#e enough to get better acBuainted !ith each other than ever
before- to beco#e, in a #easure, accusto#ed to the uncovered %resence
of each other, and to the ne! %ossibi"ities of FcourtingF and F%"aying
togetherF that their ne! conditions offer. .n any case, fu"" coitus
shou"d not be atte#%ted ti"" the bride is at "east C!i""ingC. .f
she can be brought to beco#e CanxiousC for the #eeting, so #uch the
better.
(nd so, !ith %"enty of ti#e taen for #aing ready for the act, !e
co#e to the first union of the organs for a ne!"y #arried cou%"e, the
bride being a virgin. (nd here is !here an ex%"anation is ca""ed for.
The vu"va, or externa" %art of the fe#a"e sex organs, is a #outh
sha%ed a%erture, "ocated "atera""y bet!een the for!ard %art of the
thighs. .n sha%e, siGe and structure, it #uch rese#b"es the externa"
%arts of the #outh %ro%er. .t begins just in front of the anus, and
extends for!ard above the %ubic bone and a "itt"e !ays u% the be""y.
.ts entire "atera" "ength is about four or #ore inches.
This organ is #ade u% of severa" %arts, as fo""o!s' The "i%s, or
"abiae, as they are technica""y no!n, the c"itoris, and the vagina"
o%ening. The "i%s are a doub"e ro!, t!o on either side, and are no!n
as "abiae #ajor and "abiae #inor, that is, the thicer and thinner, or
"arger and s#a""er "i%s. They extend a"#ost the entire "ength of the
vu"va, the outer "i%s fo"ding over the inner ones !hen the thighs are
together. The outer %arts of the "arger "i%s are covered !ith hair. .n
thicness and Bua"ity these "abiae are #uch "ie the "i%s of the face
of each individua", a "arge #outh and thic "i%s indicate a "arge
vu"va and thic "abiae and vice&versa. The c"itoris is a g"and that
is "ocated for!ard, on the u%%er %art of the vu"va. .t corres%onds,
a"#ost exact"y, in #ae&u% and function, !ith the g"ans %enis of the
#a"e organ. The vagina" o%ening is at the rear, or "o!er %art of the
vu"va, and "eads direct"y into the vagina %ro%er.
("" these %arts are co#%osed of #ost een"y res%onsive nerves, and
they are covered !ith a thin, de"icate and exceeding"y sensitive
sin, a"#ost exact"y such as "ines the chees and the #outh. Both the
c"itoris and the "i%s are fi""ed !ith ex%andab"e b"ood vesse"s, and
in a state of tu#escence they are great"y en"arged by a f"o! of
b"ood into the %arts. The c"itoris, in this condition, undergoes an
en"arge#ent, or Ferection,F !hich is exact"y "ie that of the g"ans
%enis. So #uch as to the %hysio"ogy of this %art of the fe#a"e sex
organs, a"" of !hich shou"d be !e"" understood by every bride and
bridegroo#, though often it is not.
+o!, in its virgin state, the vu"va has another %art, not yet na#ed,
and this is the hy#en, or F#aiden&headF as it is co##on"y no!n. This
is a #e#brane that gro!s across the for!ard, or u%%er %art of the
vagina" o%ening, and so Cc"oses u%C near"y a"" that %art of the
vu"va. This hy#en is not a"!ays %resent, ho!ever, even in a state of
undoubted virginity. So#eti#es it is torn a!ay in chi"dhood by the
"itt"e gir"'s fingers, as she F%"ays !ith herse"f.F So#eti#es it
is ru%tured by "ifting, again it is broen a!ay by the use of a
"arge&siGed fe#a"e syringe. C,or a"" these reasons, it is not right to
conc"ude that a bride is not a virgin because the hy#en is not %resent
and in evidence at the first coition.C
+o! #any young husbands, and so#e young !ives, are !ho""y ignorant of
the CexistenceC of the hy#en, and of the troub"es it #ay cause at the
second %art of the sexua" act, in a first #eeting. This #e#brane is
often Buite tough and strong. .t is gro!n fast to the "o!er %art of
the c"itoris and to the inside surfaces of the s#a""er "i%s, and
it covers so #uch of the vagina" o%ening that it is %ractica""y
i#%ossib"e for the erect %enis to enter the vagina so "ong as it
is %resent. +o! if, under these conditions, the bride and groo#
Hes%ecia""y the "atterI are ignorant of the rea" construction of the
%arts, and so shou"d try to #ae a union of the organs, they !ou"d
find such union obstructed, if not i#%ossib"e- and if the #an,
%uGG"ed, and i#%atient, and %assion&driven, shou"d CforceC a hasty
entrance into the vagina, ru%turing the hy#en ruth"ess"y, he !ou"d
hurt the !o#an crue""y, %robab"y cause her to Cb"eedC free"y fro# the
!ounded %arts, and shoc her serious"yK ("" of !hich !ou"d be a score
against the husband, !ou"d brand hi# as a brute, or a bung"er, and so
tend to #ae his Fsun&ai#ed arro! a"ight in the #ud.F
The thing to do here, is, first of a"", to no! the situation and to
ta" it over, and carefu""y, de"icate"y, do the best that can be done
about it. .f the conditions are fu""y understood by the bride and
groo#, they can, in a"#ost every case, by !oring and #oving together
carefu""y, overco#e the obstac"e, re#ove the hy#en !ith "itt"e or no
%ain or "oss of b"ood.
(s a #atter of fact, !hen the ti#e for #eeting co#es, if a"" the facts
are no!n, and the husband !i"" ho"d his erect %enis sti"" and steady
against the hy#en, the bride !i"" so %ress against it, and F!igg"e
aroundF it, that Cby her o!n #otionsC, she !i"" brea the #e#brane and
so be rid of it. She no!s ho! #uch %ain she can endure, and !hen the
%ressure is too hard she can re"ieve it by her o!n actionK (nyho!,
!hat is done Cshe doesC herse"f, and so can never charge u% against
her husbandK
.t is a rare case in !hich, by #utua" !i""ingness, and desire and
#utua" effort to re#ove the obstruction, it cannot be e"i#inated
!ith satisfaction to both bride and groo#. .f, ho!ever, carefu" and
!e""&executed efforts fai" to re#ove it, the services of a surgeon
shou"d be %rocured, and he, by a very si#%"e and a"#ost %ain"ess
o%eration, can re#ove the difficu"ty. But never, Cno neverC, shou"d
it be bruta""y torn a!ay by the force of the husband, and !ithout the
fu"" !i""ingness of the !ife. CAar this !e""C. (s a #atter of fact,
the !ise and %ractica" thing for every bride to do, !ou"d be to go to
a surgeon a fe! days before her !edding, and have hi# re#ove the hy#en
for her. Such o%eration is near"y %ain"ess, and is very easi"y done.
Sti"", to do this #ight raise a doubt of virginity on the %art of the
husband and so this is a %oint to be carefu" aboutK
The act of re#oving the hy#en is often s%oen of as Fdef"orationF&&the
tearing to %ieces of a f"o!er. The ter# is not fortunate. +othing
!orth !hi"e has been taen a!ay by re#oving the hy#en, but #uch that
is usefu" has been acBuired. (n organ that has out"ived !hatever
usefu"ness it #ight once have had has been re#oved, and its going
has #ade %ossib"e ne! and beautifu" uses in "ife. .f this has been
acco#%"ished by the #utua" desire and effort of the bride and groo#,
it is a cause for joy and not of sorro!- of de"ight and not of
#ourning. (s !e"" !ee% over the re#ova" of the ver#ifor# a%%endix as
for the destruction of the hy#en.
With this obstac"e right"y overco#e, the second act of coitus offers
no situation that ca""s for further re#ar or ex%"anation.
(nd no! a fe! !ords about the %robabi"ities of conce%tion resu"ting
fro# coitus, and so#e #atters !hich are very c"ose"y re"ated thereto.
.n the first %"ace, every hea"thy and fair"y&!e""&%rovided&for husband
and !ife shou"d desire to have chi"dren, and shou"d act in accordance
!ith such !ish. This is not on"y in har#ony !ith the %ri#ary %ur%ose
of sex in the hu#an fa#i"y, but it is a res%onse to a natura" de#and
of the hu#an sou", in both #an and !o#an. (s Bernard Sha! #aes =ac
Tanner say' FThere is a father&heart as !e"" as a #other&heartF and
C%arenthood is the su%re#e desire of a"" nor#a" and !ho"eso#e&#inded
#en and !o#en.C .t is not an Finstinct,F but so#ething far above that
Bua"ity.
Parenthood a#ong #ere ani#a"s is the resu"t of instinct, and of that
a"one, but not so in the hu#an race. Hu#an beings natura""y desire to
#ae a ho#e for the#se"ves, and a ho#e, in the fu""est #eaning of that
!ord, #eans Cchi"drenC and a Ffa#i"y circ"e.F This is so#ething that
ani#a"s no! nothing about. (ni#a" #others forget and ignore their
%rogeny as soon as they are !eaned- and ani#a" fathers !i"", in #any
cases, i"" the# as soon as they are born, if they get a chance to
do so. These facts %rove that %arenthood, in the hu#an fa#i"y, is
so#ething #uch #ore than in the rest of the ani#a" ingdo#. .ndeed,
the !ho"e #atter of co#%aring this Bua"ity, as it exists in hu#anity,
!ith that of ani#a"s #ere"y, is on"y a continuance of the si#i"ar
abo#ination of co#%aring the sex functions of these t!o for#s of "ife.
.n the rea" essentia"s of existence, they are in no !ay co#%arab"e-
and to #ae such is not on"y fo""y, but a%%roaches the %ositive"y
cri#ina". The resu"ts of doing so certain"y "ead to cri#e.
,unda#enta""y, then, near"y a"" #en and !o#en #arry !ith the %ur%ose
and ho%e of having a fa#i"y of chi"dren. They #ay not %ut it that !ay,
#ay not even acno!"edge it, even to each other or to the#se"ves- but
if #arried %eo%"e find that they CcannotC %roduce, it is a source of
uns%eaab"e regret to the# both. .n such cases, the inherent desire
for %arenthood !i"" Fcry a"oud and s%are not.F ( FbarrenF !o#an
great"y #ourns her inabi"ity, and !i"" shed bitter tears over the
fact, if she be tru"y hu#an- and an Fi#%otentF #an !i"" be %ractica""y
des%ised by a"" !ho are a!are of his inco#%etence.
(nd yet, though a"" nor#a" #en and !o#en desire to have chi"dren,
it is on"y right that they shou"d desire to have the# Cas they !ant
the#C, and C!henC they !ant the#, and not C!henever they #ay ha%%en
to co#eKC That is, sensib"e and thoughtfu" %eo%"e, !ho %"an definite"y
for the future, !ant to #ae the co#ing of chi"dren to the# an affair
of Cde"iberateC arrange#ent, and not of CchanceC.
This is not on"y as it shou"d be, but is rea""y the on"y right !ay
that chi"dren shou"d be begotten and born. Which state#ent ca""s for
a fe! s%ecia" !ords on the right of %arents to regu"ate the %roduction
of %rogeny.
There is #uch ta", in so#e Buarters, about Frace suicide,F and
the !icedness of de"iberate"y "i#iting the nu#ber of chi"dren in a
fa#i"y. Such ta"ing and !riting arouse anxious Buestionings in the
#inds of conscientious young #arried #en and !o#en !ho are desiring to
do the right thing in the %re#ises, but are uncertain as to !hat the
right thing is, and for such are the fo""o!ing !ords'
Aany years ago, an /ng"ish %hi"oso%her and states#an, Aa"thus by na#e,
discovered and announced the fact that the rate of natura" increase
in the hu#an race !as severa" ti#es greater than that of the %ossib"e
rate of %roduction of food su%%"y for their su%%ort. Scientifica""y
%hrased, his state#ent !as that Fthe rate of increase in hu#anity
is in geo#etrica" ratio, !hi"e the rate of increase of %ossib"e food
su%%"y is in arith#etica" ratio.F (nd fro# this basis, he reasoned
that, un"ess the sur%"us of hu#an %roduction !as in so#e !ay cut off
and destroyed, the !ho"e hu#an race !ou"d u"ti#ate"y de#and #ore food
su%%"y than cou"d %ossib"y be %roduced- and so, in due course of ti#e,
the !ho"e race !ou"d %erish fro# starvationK
Then he %roceeded to reason that the %ur%ose of disease, %"ague,
%esti"ence, fa#ine, %overty and !arfare !as to cut off and destroy
the Csur%"usC of hu#anity, and hence a"" these a""eged evi"s !ere
in rea"ity b"essings in disguise, and that Cit !ou"d be !rong to
interfereC !ith their rea""y beneficent !oringsK @o"u#es cou"d be
!ritten, and they cou"d not te"" the ha"f of the #isery and evi" that
the %ro#u"gation of this doctrine has done for the civi"iGed !or"d,
but there is no s%ace here for giving any such detai"s- nor need this
be done, though the state#ent of the doctrine had to be #ade to #ae
ready for !hat is to fo""o!.
+o!, is it not far #ore reasonab"e to su%%ose that, Csince the
%ossibi"ity of deter#ining the nu#ber of off&s%ring a husband and !ife
#ay %roduce has been given the#C- that since such resu"t can be, for
the#, #ade a #atter of CchoiceC, of an Cexercise of the !i""C, and
not of Cb"ind instinctC&&under these circu#stances, a"" of !hich
undoubted"y exist, is it not far #ore reasonab"e to be"ieve that it is
the C%ur%ose of the ;reatorC that the "i#iting of the nu#ber of hu#an
beings in the !or"d shou"d be brought about by Ccurbing the birth
rateC, rather than by Ci""ing the sur%"usC after they are bornK
There can be but one ans!er #ade to this Buestion, by any inte""igent
#an or !o#an.
These facts, then, estab"ish the Crightfu"ness of deter#ining the
nu#ber and siGe of a fa#i"y by every husband and !ifeC. But this does
not #ean that they are to entire"y refrain fro# cohabiting, in order
to ee% fro# having chi"drenK This %hase of the argu#ent has a"ready
been gone over and dis%osed of. But it CdoesC #ean that husbands and
!ives have a right to use such rightfu" #eans for the "i#iting of the
nu#ber of offs%ring as are conducive to the interests of a"" %arties
concerned&&the#se"ves, their circu#stances, the born or unborn
chi"dren, the state, the nation. Let the bride and groo# be !e""
convinced and estab"ished in their o!n #inds on these %oints, as
ear"y in their re"ation as %ossib"e. They shou"d be so fro# the very
outset&&C#ustC be so, to reach the best resu"ts.
The issue then %resents itse"f' Ho! can such de"iberate and !i"fu"
deter#ination of the nu#ber of chi"dren a husband and !ife #ay have,
be brought aboutJ
(nd the ans!er is, that Cit can never be acco#%"ished by care"ess and
ha%&haGard cohabitingKC )n the contrary, it can on"y be co#%assed by
the #ost Ccarefu"C and C!atchfu"C %rocesses of engaging in coitus, and
by a Cfu"" no!"edgeC of %hysio"ogica" facts, and by acting, Ca"!aysC,
in accordance !ith the sa#e. .t is no road for care"ess trave", but it
is a !ay !orth going in, for a"" that.
)n this %oint, "et it be said that a"" sane and inte""igent #en and
!o#en agree that anything even a%%roaching CinfanticideC is nothing
short of a cri#e, and that abortion, exce%t for the %ur%ose of saving
the "ife of the #other, is %ractica""y #urder.
But, !hi"e this is a"" true, to %revent the contact of t!o ger#s
!hich, if %er#itted to unite, !ou"d be "iab"e to resu"t in a "iving
hu#an for#, is CBuite another affairC.
.t is on"y this as%ect of the situation !hich !i"" be considered in
!hat fo""o!s.
+o!, as has a"ready been sho!n, the essentia"s for conce%tion consist
of having the ovu# %resent in the !o#b, and its #eeting the se#en
there. The coro""ary of this is, that !henever these coincidences tae
%"ace, there is a C%ossibi"ityC for conce%tion.
But in a"" Cnor#a"C cases, the ovu# on"y %asses into the !o#b once in
every t!enty&eight days- and, as a ru"e, it on"y re#ains in the !o#b
for about ha"f that %eriod of ti#e, that is, for about 25 or 2L days
in each #onth. (nd so, since the #enstrua" f"o! ceases after about
five days fro# its beginning, in about ten days CafterC its sto%%ing,
the ovu# !i"" have %assed out of the !o#b, and hence that organ
contains nothing that is i#%regnab"e. >nder these conditions, se#en
#ay be de%osited in the !o#b, !ithout danger of i#%regnation. This is
a si#%"e %ro%osition, and easy to understand if once no!n.
Ho!ever, it #ust be said that these Cgenera""yC co##on conditions Cdo
not a"!ays obtainC&&that is, they are CnotC true in the case of Ca""C
!o#en. There are !o#en !ho !i"" conceive at CanyC ti#e in the #onth,
if they are given a chance to do so. The %hysio"ogica" reason for such
%ossibi"ity is said to be this' There are a"!ays ova in the ovaries,
in varying stages of deve"o%#ent. )rdinari"y, on"y once a #onth do any
of these %ass do!n into the !o#b- but, in exce%tiona" cases, so#eti#es
these ova are so %artia""y he"d in the ovaries that, under the
excite#ent of coitus, and because a"" these %arts di"ate so #uch
during the act, an ovu# #ay s"i% its #oorings, under such conditions,
%ass do!n into the uterus at an unti#e"y season, #eet the se#en there,
and %regnancy resu"t. Such are the facts Cin so#e casesC.
Ho!, then, can a husband and !ife te"" ho! it is, or !i"" be, in
CtheirC %articu"ar caseJ
The ans!er is that they can on"y te"" by trying, and that shou"d be
done as fo""o!s'
The CfirstC sexua" #eeting of the bride and groo# shou"d CneverC tae
%"ace unti" at "east Cten days after the ceasing of the #enstrua" f"o!
in the brideK This is a ru"e that shou"d never be vio"atedC if the
%arties !ish to FCtest outCF the rea" condition as to !hether or not
the bride has any Ffree ti#e.F The chances are severa" to one that she
ChasC such "ee!ay- but the fact can on"y be estab"ished by F%roving
u%F and this can CneverC be done if any CchancesC are taen. Put this
do!n as ru"e nu#ber one.
,or this reason, it is !e"" for the bride to fix the !edding day- and,
if %ossib"e, for her to "ocate it so#eti#e during the %robab"y i##une
%eriod. (nd the nearer she can bring this day to the CbeginningC of
such %eriod of freedo# fro# danger of %regnancy, the better. ,or, if
it shou"d ha%%en that the first coitus shou"d tae %"ace on"y a
Cday or t!o beforeC the ti#e !hen another F#onth"yF !as due, such
excite#ent #ight hasten the %assage of the near"y&ri%e ovu# into the
uterus, and conce%tion #ight occur. .n !hich case, Fa"" the fat !ou"d
be in the fire,F nothing !ou"d be %roved, and the %arties !ou"d be as
ignorant as ever regarding the facts in CtheirC case.
(nd so, the CfirstC sexua" #eeting of a bride and bridegroo# shou"d be
not Cear"ierC than Cten days after the ceasing of the #enstrua" f"o!
and not "ater than three days before the next #onth"y is due. Put
thatC Cdo!n as ru"e nu#ber t!o, never to be vio"ated.C
(nd if #arriage taes %"ace before this %eriod of %robab"e i##unity
on the %art of the bride arrives, the on"y safe thing to do is to
F%atient"y !aitF ti"" such ti#e arrives. This #ay FreBuire fortitudeF
on the %art of both %arties, but it is the on"y safe thing to do. (nd
to do just that, !i"" a#%"y re%ay such !aiting. The !riter no!s of a
case !here the !edding too %"ace just three days before the bride's
next #onth"y !as due, and she and her husband !aited for #ore than
Ct!o !eesC before they #et sexua""yK But it %aid to !ait, for their
doing so %roved that the bride had Ct!o !eesC of FCfree ti#eCF in
Ceach #onth, and this !as !orth a"" it cost to find outK Tae ti#eKC
(nd no! "et it be added that it is a great acco#%"ish#ent for a
husband and !ife to be free fro# a fear of %regnancy as a resu"t of
coitus. This is a thousand ti#es truer for the !o#an than for the #an,
for it is she !ho has to bear the burden of !hat fo""o!s, if fo""o!ing
there be. The husband can Fdo the deedF and go about his business. The
!ife, if Fthe ferti"e seedF taes root, has before her #onths of care
and anxiety, and she riss her very "ife in !hat #ay co#e of it a"".
,or these reasons, she has a Cright to dictate a"" the ter#sC !hich
are "iab"e to cause her to beco#e a #other. C(nd yet she shou"d
do this !ith fu"" regard for the husband, in "ove, in true
!ife"y&!o#anhood.C )n this %oint, do not fai" to read FThe He"%#ate,F
by Aay Sinc"air. .t is a story that no bride and bridegroo# shou"d
fai" to read and study, carefu""y.
The !ho"e subject of ho! to engage in satisfactory coitus and avoid
%regnancy #ay be su##ed u% as fo""o!s'&&The attain#ent of such
a condition is !e"" !orth the #ost carefu", earnest and honest"y
%ains&taing endeavor. ,or, if such status be not reached, its "ac
!i"" be a source of end"ess contentions and differences bet!een the
husband and !ife. .t !i"" "ead to jea"ousies, Buarre"s, and a"" sorts
of #arita" !oes. But, the situation once #astered, by the #ost "oving
and accurate of scientific #ethods of %rocedure, a ha%%y #arried "ife
is certain to resu"t. )ther!ise, the F#arried stateF !i"" a"!ays be
in a condition of Funstab"e eBui"ibriu#.F So "et every bride and
bridegroo# begin, Cfro# the firstC, to try to estab"ish the great"y to
be desired acco#%"ish#ent. .f anything further on this %oint shou"d be
desired, consu"t a re"iab"e %hysician.
@...
TH/ (0T ), L)@/
(nd sti"" there is #ore to be saidK .s it not !ritten that F(rt is
"ongKF C(nd the (rt of Love is the "ongest of a"" arts, and the #ost
difficu"t of a"" for its co#%"ete #astery and attain#entKC
.t is a #atter of #isfortune, and yet one of not infreBuent
occurrence, that the sex organs of husband and !ife are Cnot !e""
#atchedC- and that troub"e, so#eti#es of a #ost serious nature,
resu"ts. When this condition is found to exist, it shou"d be treated
sane"y and !ise"y, and the chances are #any to one that the difficu"ty
can be overco#e, to the fu"" satisfaction of both %arties concerned.
.n such cases, the #is&#atching usua""y arises fro# the fact that the
%enis of the husband is too "ong for the vagina of the !ife. This is
very a%t to be the case !here the !ife is of the Fdu#%yF sort, !ith a
s#a"" #outh and short fingers, !hi"e the husband is Fgang"ing,F "arge
#outhed and "ong fingered. These are facts that ought to be taen
into account before #arriage, and !hich shou"d figure in deter#ining
!hether the %arties are FsuitedF to each other. They C!ou"dC be
regarded in this !ay, too, if they !ere genera""y no!n, as they #ost
sure"y are not. Here is another %"ace !here ignorance and FinnocenceF
get in their !or, and #ae troub"e in #arried "ifeK
.n such a case as this, the too&"ong %enis, !hen fu""y inserted in the
too&short vagina, and es%ecia""y !hen, at the orgas#, the t!o organs
are cro!ded together vigorous"y, as the i#%u"se of both %arties
de#ands they shou"d be at this %art of the act, the end of the %enis
is driven against the rear !a""s of the vagina, often furious"y, thus
stretching and straining the vagina" %assage "ongitudina""y, %ressing
against the !o#b unnatura""y, and not infreBuent"y %ushing it out
of %"ace and so#eti#es ru%turing the uterine tract serious"y, hence
causing a"" sorts of unfortunate and great"y&to&be&regretted resu"ts.
Because of such danger, the first #eeting of the husband and !ife
shou"d be acco#%"ished !ith the ut#ost care, es%ecia""y in the
CsecondC %art of the act, the first %utting together of the organs.
This is the on"y !ay of deter#ining, in each case, ho! the organs !i""
Ffit,F and ha%%y are the %arties thereto if such fit is found to be
%erfectK
But if it shou"d turn out that there is a #is#atching, of the nature
just described, the conditions can be adjusted if the right #eans are
used.
HBefore te""ing this, ho!ever, it shou"d be stated that the re"ative
siGe of the sex organs can never be fu""y judged of by the siGe of the
body of a #an or a !o#an. Aany a s#a"" #an has an abnor#a""y "arge
and "ong %enis, and #any a "itt"e !o#an has a "arge vu"va and a "ong
vagina- and the reverse of a"" this is true, in the case of #any #en
and !o#en. These ite#s in the count are a#ong the things that can
never be no!n !ith certainty exce%t by actua" tria", and this is not
%ossib"e, as things are no!.I
(nd so, if F#is&#atchingF is found to exist, in any given case, it can
be %rovided for, in #ost cases as fo""o!s'
.nstead of taing the %osition for coitus !hich has a"ready been
described&&the !o#an on her bac and the #an over and above her&&"et
CthisC be done' Let the #an "ie on his "eft side, or %art"y on his
"eft side and %art"y on his bac, facing the !o#an, his "eft "eg dra!n
u% so that the thigh #aes an ang"e of 5L degrees !ith the body, and
the nee bent at about the sa#e ang"e. +o! "et her, "ying on her right
side, #ount into his ar#s, in this !ay' Let her %"ace her right hi% in
the ang"e #ade by her husband's "eft thigh and his body, so that Chis
"eft "egC su%%orts Cher hi%sC, by being under the#- %ut her right "eg
bet!een his "egs, thro! her "eft "eg over his right "eg, %ut her right
ar# around his nec, and her "eft ar# shou"d be %"aced across his body
under his right ar#. His "eft ar# shou"d be %"aced around her !aist
fro# be"o!, and his right ar# "eft free to #ove over her body, as
he #ay choose. +o! in CthisC %osition, the #an's hi%s #ae a sort of
sadd"e into !hich the !o#an Fvau"tsF easi"y, natura""y, and !ith the
greatest of co#fort- !hi"e the #an, !ith his !ho"e body su%%orted by
the bed, as he "ies, !i"" be %erfect"y co#fortab"e, and can #aintain
the %osition #uch "onger, !ithout tiring, than he cou"d !ere he over
and above the !o#an, su%%orting hi#se"f by his e"bo!s and nees, and
!ith the !o#an's ar#s around his !aist, "ifting her body thereby, and
thus adding her !eight to his, a"" to be sustained by hi#. ( #o#ent's
consideration !i"" disc"ose the fact that this %osition has #any
%oints in its favor, beyond that of the #an&su%erior for#. The !o#an,
in this %osition, is not !ho""y su%erior, but she is %art"y on her
right side and %art"y on her be""y. Her !ho"e !eight rests on her
husband's body, but her !eight does not tire hi#, as the bed be"o! hi#
easi"y su%%orts the# both.
+o!, in this %osition, the sex organs are brought c"ose"y together and
their union is easi"y acco#%"ished. But seeK .t is Cno!C the C!o#anC,
and not the C#anC !ho has Cfu"" contro"C of such #eeting, and so can
regu"ate it to Cher "iingC, or CneedsC. Her hi%s are %erfect"y free
to #ove to!ards, or fro#, those of the #an- and so Cshe can deter#ine
just ho! #uch or ho! "itt"e of his %enis sha"" enter her vaginaKC (nd
if his %enis is too "ong for her, she can acco##odate her action to
such factK
(s for the #an, his satisfaction !i"" be fu""y eBua" to, if not
greater than it !ou"d be !ere he in the other %osition. The ease
afforded to his body, and the fact that he need have no fear of
hurting the !o#an, these things !i"" be a de"ight to hi#, that is of
rea" va"ue, and !hich !i"" #ae for his de"ectation as #uch as for
that of the !o#an in his ar#s. The in&and&out #otion is as easi"y
%erfor#ed in this %osition as in the other- and at the c"i#ax, the
organs can be cro!ded together %assionate"y, and sti"" !ithout hurting
the !o#an. ,or she, being free to #ove, can so curve her hi%s that
the %e"vic bone, the C#ons venerisC, as it is technica""y ca""ed, !i""
receive the #ost of the %ressure, and at the sa#e ti#e the ang"e !hich
is thus #ade by the re"ative %ositions of the vagina and the %enis
!i"" ee% the "atter fro# %enetrating the vagina too far, and so
!i"" %rotect its rear !a""s and the !o#b fro# a"" danger of har#. The
orgas# is just as %erfect in this %osition as in the other. .t is just
as Cnatura"C as the other %osition, and has on"y to be tried to be
%roved !orthy.
(nd no! one other %oint. H;urious ho! these detai"s %rotract
the#se"ves. But there is no he"% for it. We #ust continue, no! that !e
have begun.I
( very freBuent cause of #arried unsatisfaction is the fact of the
Cdifference of ti#eC that it taes for the husband and !ife to co#e to
the c"i#ax, the orgas#. (s has a"ready been noted, the highest de"ight
in the act co#es !hen this c"i#ax is si#u"taneous, co#es at exact"y
the sa#e instant to both %arties. But to bring this about is not easy
in a"" cases, and hence !hat fo""o!s'
(s a ru"e, !o#en are s"o!er in reaching the orgas# than are #en. This
is not a"!ays so, but it is genera""y the case. So#e !ives are so
%assionate that they !i"" Fs%endF severa" ti#es to their husbands'
onceK The author no!s of a case !here the !ife !i"" regu"ar"y
ex%erience the orgas# four or five ti#es to her husband's once. She is
a "ove"y !ife and a high"y acco#%"ished !o#an, in no sense Ff"eshyF or
F!or"d"y #inded.F The situation is that her sex organs are exceeding"y
sensitive !hi"e those of her husband are the reverse, they are Fti#edF
different"y, that is a"". The case is rare, and as a ru"e, !o#en are
Fti#edF s"o!er than #en.
(gain, after a #an has %assed the orgas# it is, in #ost cases,
i#%ossib"e for hi# to continue the act, right then and there, and
bring the !o#an to the c"i#ax, if she has not yet arrived, fro# the
fact that, !ith the ex%u"sion of the se#en, usua""y detu#escence of
the %enis at once taes %"ace, and the organ is inca%ab"e of exciting
the !o#an !hen in this condition. (nd so, if the husband Fgoes offF
CfirstC, there is no %ossibi"ity of the !ife's reaching the c"i#ax
at that e#brace. This "eaves her unsatisfied, a"" her sex organs
congested, and the !ho"e situation is unsatisfactory, in the extre#e.
)n the other hand, if the !ife co#es to the orgas# first, her vu"va
and vagina detu#esce but "itt"e and that very s"o!"y, so that it is
%erfect"y %ossib"e for the husband to continue his action, and co#e to
the c"i#ax, even if his %artner has a"ready Fs%ent.F
>nder these conditions it is easy to see that, !here the !ife is
FeyedF or Fti#edF #uch s"o!er than her husband, as is Buite often
the case, coitus is very "iab"e to be a very one&sided affair, one in
!hich the Chusband gets a"" the satisfaction, and the !ife "itt"e orC
+)+/&&Ca #ost unfortunate status for both %arties, but es%ecia""y for
the !ife.C The !riter once ne! a case !here a husband and !ife "ived
together to ce"ebrate their go"den !edding, and the !ife never once
ex%erienced an orgas#, though the husband cohabited !ith her severa"
ti#es a #onth, during the #ost of their #arried "ife. There !as no
good reason !hy this shou"d have been so, on"y that the husband !as
FBuic in actionF and the !ife so#e!hat s"o!, and they had never
synchronated their ti#e differences. The dear o"d "ady died at ninety,
never having no!n a joy that, since her brida" night, she had !ished
for. Both the husband and !ife !ere #ost exce""ent %eo%"e. CThey
si#%"y didn't no!KC )ne !as ignorant and the other innocent, and
there you are againK
+o! the thing to do, under such circu#stances, is for the %arties
to Fget together.F (nd the !ay to do this is, first, to C%ro"ong the
,.0ST %artC of the act, ti"" the !ife has not on"y caught u% !ith, but
is even CaheadC of her husband in the state of her %assion. To bring
about this condition, Cthe husband shou"d use every #eans to sti#u"ate
his !ife's sex&nature and increase her desire for coition.C Here are
so#e things he can do, !hich !i"" tend to %roduce such resu"ts'
( !o#an's breasts are direct"y connected !ith a"" her re%roductive
nerves. This is es%ecia""y true of her ni%%"es. To touch the# is to
direct"y excite a"" of her sex organs. The "i%s and tongue are a"so
thus nervous"y connected !ith these vita" %arts, and, so, if the
husband !i"" F%"ayF !ith his !ife's breasts, es%ecia""y !ith her
ni%%"es, #ani%u"ating the# !ith his fingers, or, better sti"", !ith
his "i%s and tongue&&at the sa#e ti#e, if he !i"" stroe her vu"va
!ith his fingers, es%ecia""y the c"itoris, Cand if she !i"" encourage
hi# to do thisC, by ho"ding her breast !ith one hand, shaing it about
as her ni%%"e is in her "over's "i%s- if, "ying f"at on her bac, her
husband at her right side, and !ith his "eft ar# around her !aist, she
!i"" s%read her "egs !ide a%art, thus o%ening the vu"va to its ut#ost,
and s!ay her hi%s, raising and "o!ering the# beti#es- and, since she
has a free hand, if, !ith this, she !i"" tae her husband's %enis !ith
it and F%"ayF !ith it as her "over %"ays !ith her vu"va&&if they !i""
do this, the cases are rare in !hich %assion !i"" not gro! in the !ife
to a"#ost any desirab"e extent. >nder such Fcourting,F the %arts !i""
a"" en"arge, the %re&coita" secretion !i"" f"o! in abundance- and,
in due course, a"" !i"" be ready for the second %art of the act. This
%art of coitus is, rea""y, one of the #ost enjoyab"e of the entire
%erfor#ance.
.f, %erchance, the %re&coita" secretion shou"d be tardy in a%%earing
on the %art of the !ife, so that the vu"va is dry as the husband
stroes it, "et hi# #oisten the %art !ith sa"iva fro# his #outh. To do
this, "et hi# #oisten his CfingersC fro# his #outh, and transfer this
to the vu"va, and then %roceed !ith his stroing. This #oistening the
vu"va !ith sa"iva #ay be re%eated Csevera"C ti#es, Cif necessaryC,
a"!ays unti" the f"o! of %re&coita" f"uid fro# the %arts the#se"ves
renders any further #oistening need"ess. CThe stroing of the dry
vu"va !i"" do "itt"e to!ard the arousing of %assion, or %roducing the
%re&coita" f"o!C. But if the %arts be #oistened, as above directed,
both these desired resu"ts !i"" fo""o!, exce%t in CveryC rare cases.
(nd "et no one #ae the #istae of thining that thus #oistening the
vu"va !ith sa"iva is unsee#"y, or unsanitary. .t is neither. )n the
contrary, it is nature's !ay of he"%ing to %erfection an act !hich,
but for such ti#e"y assistance, #ight never be brought to a successfu"
issue. (s has a"ready been noted, che#ica""y, sa"iva and the
%re&coita" f"uid are a"#ost identica". They are both a natura"
secretion of a #ucous #e#brane, are a"a"ine in reaction, their native
%ur%ose is "ubrication, and, as a #atter of fact, the sa"iva is
as natura" an a%%"ication to the "i%s of the vu"va as it is to the
interior of the #outh or throat. Truth to te"", the %ractice of
a%%"ying sa"iva to the genita"s before coition is very genera",
so #uch so that it #ight a"#ost be counted as instinctive. .t is
#entioned here on"y to re#ove any %rejudice that #ight "inger in the
so%histicated #ind of the reader. Such use of sa"iva is no #ore to
be de%recated than its a%%"ication in a hundred other !ays, such as
#oistening the fingers to turn a "eaf, of F"icingF one's fingers
after eating candy. Such use of this f"uid fro# the #outh #ight be
conde#ned by the Fover&nice,F but it is Buite universa""y %racticed,
and it is neither un!ho"eso#e nor unsanitary.
.t is so#eti#es reco##ended that so#e for# of oi", as s!eet oi"
or vase"ine, be used as an unguent for anointing the %arts before
engaging in coitus, but this %ractice cannot be reco##ended. )i"
is not a natura" %roduct of the %arts to !hich it is a%%"ied, it is
che#ica""y un"ie their secretions, and to s#ear the de"icate organs
!ith a f"uid that is foreign to their nature, is un!ise, unsanitary,
not to say fi"thy. .t is "ie greasing the #outh to #ae food s"i%
do!n easi"y. (nd it is easy to understand ho! such a%%"ication of
an unguent to the #outh !ou"d i#%air the taste, du"" the nerves of
sensation, and great"y interfere !ith the native and !ho"eso#e uses of
the ora" cavity.
So don't be afraid or asha#ed to use sa"iva in %re%aring the vu"va and
the vagina for the rece%tion of their natura" #ate.
(nd so, to return to !here !e "eft off, if the !ife is s"o!er
ti#ed than her husband, her %assion can be great"y increased by the
#ani%u"ation just described. .ndeed, it cou"d be very easi"y carried
to such "ength&&the "i%s and tongue %"aying !ith the ni%%"e, and the
finger&stroing of the vu"va&&that the !o#an cou"d be brought to
an orgas# !ithout the union of the organs at a""K This is a for# of
#asturbation Hthis !ord has a bad #eaning attached to it, but it is a
good !ord, as !i"" short"y be sho!n, and it has its "egiti#ate uses-
but, as a %re%aration for coition, it shou"d not be carried any
further than is essentia" for bringing the "aggard %assion of the
!o#an u% to an eBua" tension of that of her "over.I ( fe! !ees', or
#onths', %ractice !i"" enab"e a !ife to deter#ine just ho! #uch
of this for# of FcourtingF !i"" bring her to the desired %oint of
excite#ent- and, !hen this %oint is reached, she shou"d invite her
husband to Fco#e u% over,F if the first %osition is to be ado%ted for
the rest of the act- or, she shou"d thro! herse"f into her "over's
ar#s, if the second %osition is used.
=ust a "itt"e #ore&&.f, after getting into one %osition or the other,
it see#s to the !ife that she is not yet fair"y abreast of her husband
in the intensity of her %assion, "et her Csti"" furtherC see to
advance it, as fo""o!s'
.f the %osition !ith the husband su%erior is taen, "et hi#, after he
has gotten into %"ace and before the organs are united, have his !ife
tae his %enis in her hand, and, as he #oves his hi%s u% and do!n,
stroe her vu"va, es%ecia""y the c"itoris, !ith the g"ans %enis&&not
entering the vagina at once, but continuing this for# of CexteriorC
contact of the organs, for a "onger or shorter ti#e&&s"i%%ing %ast the
!ide o%en vagina" #outh, even !hen the !ife raises her thighs and,
as it !ere, begs for an entrance- tanta"iGing her to the %oint of
distraction&&ti"", fina""y, she !i"" Ftae no for an ans!erF no
"onger, but !i"", in an ecstacy, s"i% the %enis into the vagina, and
thus consu##ate their union.
.f she be far enough abandoned !ith her %assion, such entrance #ay be
#ade at a sing"e stroe, not to say a furious %"unge. But if the vu"va
and vagina are not yet fu""y di"ated, the entrance shou"d be carefu""y
#ade, gent"y #ade, as she can bear it, as CsheC !ishes it to be.
So#eti#es, yes, not infreBuent"y, in this %osition, the externa"
stroing of the organs #ay be continued to the very verge of the
orgas#, so that, es%ecia""y if the entrance can be #ade, as it !ere,
in a frenGy of %assionate de"ight, the organs co#ing into fu"" "ength
union at a sing"e i#%u"se, or rushing together&&then the si#u"taneous
c"i#ax C#ayC be reached !ith one or t!o in&and&out #otions&&or,
%erha%s the sing"e #aster&%"unge #ay !in the goa" instanterK .f so, a
consu##ation devout"y to be !ished has been successfu""y reachedK
(gain, if the !ife is s"o!, and the #an is Buic, in this %"ay for
Fgetting together,F it !i"" enab"e the #an to great"y extend and
%rotract !hat #ight be ca""ed the ti#e of his %ossib"e CretentionC,
if he can ee% the foresin over the g"ans %enis. So#e #en cannot do
this. .f they have been circu#cised, of course they cannotK But if the
g"ans %enis can be covered !ith the foresin during a"" this %"aying
together, it !i"" enab"e the husband to %ro"ong his Fretentiona"
ti#eF far beyond !hat he other!ise cou"d. So#e #en have the %o!er of
FretainingF to a"#ost any "ength of ti#e by the exercise of their !i""
%o!er, and so they can C!aitC for their !ives. .f the !ife is s"o!er
ti#ed than the husband, he shou"d Ccarefu""y cu"tivate the Fart of
retainingFC and so !ait for her. CTo do this successfu""y !i"" great"y
increase #arried ha%%inessC.
This sa#e re#ar Hee%ing the g"and coveredI a%%"ies !ith eBua" force
to the %ossibi"ities of the #an's retention after the organs are
united, and a"" through the third %art of the act. .f the %enis can
enter the vagina !ith its Fnatura" ca% on,F the husband can give his
!ife the %"easure of #any ti#es the a#ount of in&and&out #otion than
he cou"d other!ise besto! u%on her. (nd if the !ife is the s"o!er of
the t!o Has is genera""y the caseI she !i"" great"y a%%reciate such a
favor, and !i"" re%ay it a TH)>S(+1 ,)L1 by the res%onsive, reci%roca"
#otions !hich she !i"" L(@.SH u%on her CconsiderateC "over.
This is an ite# of a"#ost su%re#e i#%ortance&&this Fee%ing the
ca% onF the %enis, during the act, Cif the !ife is s"o!er than the
husbandC&&if they need to have a care, to insure their Fgetting off
together.F
(nd here is a curious fact, !hich !ou"d see# to sho! that Aother
+ature has es%ecia""y %rovided a b"issfu" re!ard for both the husband
and !ife !ho !i"" be carefu" on this %oint. Thus, if the husband !i""
be carefu" to have the g"ans %enis covered !ith the foresin Hand, of
course, this can CneverC be, if the organs are united !hen the vu"va
and vagina are dryI !hen it enters the vagina, and !i"" so engage in
the in&and&out #otion that it !i"" Cstay coveredC as the CthirdC act
%rogresses&&if this is done, !hen the c"i#ax co#es, if the t!o
Fs%end together,F the !o#b !i"" o%en its #outh as it !ere, c"as%
the foresin, s"i% it bac over the g"and so that, !hen the su%re#e
instant co#es, the naed g"and !i"" be in the #ost direct and b"issfu"
contact !ith the #ost sensitive %art of the uterusK This is a #ost
!onderfu" %rovision of nature, and to uti"iGe it, and enjoy it to its
ut#ost, is the #axi#u# of hu#an de"ightK
(gain, if after the organs are !e"" together, in the #an&su%erior
%osition, and the in&and&out #otion has begun, it shou"d be found
that the !ife is sti"" behind in the ga#e, she can gain great"y in
Fcatching u%F if she is %er#itted to CoriginateC the "arger %art of
the #otion. To enab"e her to do this, "et her husband ho"d his body
Buite !e"" above her, so that she can have %"enty of freedo# to #ove
her hi%s as she #ay choose to. (dded to this, if the husband !i"", in
"arge #easure, Fho"d sti"",F and ee% his %enis in such %osition that
it %resses against the Cu%%er %artC of the vu"va, that is against the
c"itoris, Has the %hrase goes, if he !i"" Fride highFI and then %er#it
his C!ifeC to #ae F"ong stroes,F s"iding the organs together for
their fu"" %ossib"e "ength, !ith the c"itoris in constant contact !ith
the %enis, during the !ho"e of each stroe&&a"" of this !i"" great"y
and ra%id"y increase her %assions and bring her to the c"i#ax.
)r, as a variation fro# this, if the organs can be united to their
fu""est %ossib"e "i#it, so that the base of the %enis %resses fir#"y
against the Aons @eneris, and the c"itoris and "abiae a"#ost c"as%
their #ate- and then, in this %osition, if the husband !i"" #aintain
the Cstatus BuoC, !hi"e she "ifts her hi%s hard against his, and
Cs!ings the# aboutC, in a sort of circu"ar #otion Fround and round,F
as it !ere&&this !i"" a"so great"y increase her %assion, and soon
bring her to the c"i#ax.
.n both these "ast described !ays of courting, the husband shou"d be
Cextra carefu" notC to %er#it the !eight of his body to %ress do!n
heavi"y u%on his !ife. He shou"d C!ho""yC sustain hi#se"f on his
e"bo!s and nees, and %er#it her to "ift herse"f, at "east her hi%s,
by the he"% of her ar#s around his !aist. This is no hardshi% for the
husband, if he be a true "over. ,or is he not strong, and !hat is his
strength for but to de"ight his s!eetheartJ C( true, devoted, viri"e
and #an"y "over is a"!ays at the service of his s!eetheartK To de"ight
her, is to doub"y de"ight hi#se"fC. This is another %oint of !hich
#ere ani#a"s no! nothing. There is nothing in a"" their nature !hich
res%onds to the "ie of this, in any !ay. The !ho"e ex%erience is
Chu#anC- it is %roductive of a joy, of a Cs%iritua" e"evationC, !hich
#ere ani#a"ity no!s nothing of&&can no! nothing of.
P"aying thus together, courting each other thus H,or, through a""
these actions, a "ine of Cco#%"ete #utua"ness #ust runCK The husband
#ay Csee#C to be s%ecia""y acco##odating hi#se"f, and a"" he does, to
his !ife's !hi#s or necessities- but, even so, this !i"" be #ore of
a de"ight to Chi#C than it is to CherC, vie!ed fro# the Cs%iritua"
%"aneC, on the %rinci%"e that Fit is #ore b"essed to give than to
receiveF&&and no truer !ords than these !ere ever s%oen&&!hi"e,
at the sa#e ti#e, the !ife, though Csee#ingC on"y to be gratifying
herse"f, to be reaching after !hat she a"one desires, yet, as a #atter
of fact, by her very so doing&&and the #ore %erfect"y, co#%"ete"y, she
does this, the better&&she is gratifying and de"ighting her husband to
the ut#ost %ossib"e "i#itI courting each other thus, the "overs !i""
"earn to Fti#eF the#se"ves together, %erfect"y, each no!ing just !hen
the other is fu""y ready, by a sort of Cs%iritua" consciousnessC, as
it !ere, and so a %erfect c"i#ax can be reached.
Tae ti#e, L/T L)@/ 0>L/ (+1 1.0/;T- B(+.SH (LL S/L,.SH+/SS- CLet the
husband ee% his head, andC TH/ W.,/ >TT/0L$ L)S/ H/0S, thro!ing it
to the !inds, to be !ho""y s!e%t a!ay by the !hir"!ind of her %assion-
fee"ing free, de"ighting, to "et it go, go, go, no one cares !hereK
1o these things, and #arried "ife !i"" be g"oriousK )f such is the
ingdo# of heaven, for the tru"y !edded "oversK
This !i"" be Fa"" Gree,F or Ffoo"ishnessF to the se"fish and
#ateria""y&#inded- but to the tru"y !ise, it !i"" be C"ife
i##easurab"eC. This is a %aradox, but it taes a %aradox to te"" the
greatest truthsK
So #uch for the act of coitus in the #an&su%erior %osition, !hen the
!ife is s"o!er ti#ed than the husband and they ado%t this #ethod,
and the acco#%anying #eans for Fgetting together.F +o!, if the other
%osition is taen, that of the !ife se#i&su%erior, in the husband's
ar#s, as he "ies %art"y on his bac and %art"y on his "eft side, etc.,
here are a fe! %oints to be noted to advantage.
Sti"" assu#ing that the !ife is the s"o!er&ti#ed of the t!o, it is
entire"y %ossib"e that !hen she has Fco#e overF and has gotten into
%osition, that she #ay not yet be fu""y ready for the union of the
organs. The very ti#e that it taes for her to get into %osition, the
changing of the %osition of her body, fro# her bac to her right side-
the te#%orary cessation of the stroing of the vu"va by her husbands's
6sic: fingers- a"" these things !i"" have a tendency to retard her
%assion, for the ti#e being, and a"" this "oss ought to be #ade good,
if not added to, before the CsecondC %art of the act is entered u%on.
(nd, in this %osition, a"" this can #ost ha%%i"y be brought about, as
fo""o!s'&&
Lying in each other's ar#s, in this CsecondC described %osition, the
organs natura""y Cco#eC into contact in such a !ay as to #ae the
further excitation of the vu"va and c"itoris #ost natura" and easy.
The s%reading of the !ife's hi%s, caused by her thro!ing her "eft "eg
over her husband's right and dra!ing u% of her "eft nee, o%ens the
vu"va !ide- and, at the sa#e ti#e, the %enis, fro# the very nature
of its %osition, !i"" "ie at fu"" "ength in the o%ening, thus
ex%osed&&not entering the vagina, but re#aining F!ithout the gateF as
yet.
By this ti#e the vu"va !i"" have beco#e en"arged and e"ongated, the
"i%s fu"" and the c"itoris erect, a"" in a state of tu#escence, and
a"" covered !ith the %re&coita" f"uid- the "i%s so distended that,
!hen thus %arted, they for# the sides of a "abia" cana", as it !ere Ha
de"ectab"e, and #ost de"icate"y s#ooth&!a""ed channe"I. +o!, in this
extended condition, !hich is fu""y as "ong as the %enis, fro# end
to end of its %ath!ay of da""iance, every %art covered !ith the #ost
de"icate"y sensitive nerve&fi"a#ents, and a"" of these in an ecstasy
of eenness to the sense of touch, and in the #ost %erfect of F"ove's
stro""ing !ay,F&&if the %enis, as it !ere, stands u% fu"" and strong,
in such fashion that it touches the vu"va at every %oint, both inner
and outer "abiae, the c"itoris and a"", for a s%ace of five or six
inches in "ength- !hi"e the %rotruded and !e""&#oistened "i%s of the
vu"va as it !ere reach out, and c"as% the#se"ves at "east ha"f !ay
around their suitor, "aving hi# !ith their "uscious isses&&in this
%osition, the !ife being %art"y above, and so, %erfect"y free to #ove
her F"ove !ayF as she !i"", she can s"ide the %ath!ay itse"f a fu""
six or #ore inches, u% and do!n, stroing a"" the area against the
%enis as she #oves- that, again, by its very %osition, being he"d
fir#"y in contact by its stiffness and stoutness- the g"ans %enis
throbbing "usti"y against the c"itoris !hen the t!o #eet at the
extre#e of the !ife's u%&stroe- she, %ausing an instant, just then,
to #ore %erfect"y enjoy the sensation- the %enis s"i%%ing %ast the
no! !ide o%en vagina" #outh, !hich reaches out at every do!n stroe to
engu"f it&&da""ying, de"aying, coBuetting, tanta"iGing, both #an and
!o#an- %"aying the ga#e in a"#ost a s!oon of ecstatic de"ight&&under
such conditions the !ife's %assion !i"" rush to its fu""est
deve"o%#ent, ti"", !hen she !i"", she can dro% her vagina u%on the
%enis in such a !ay that the Ct!o !i"" be #ade oneC, in abso"ute
%erfection, on a sing"e #ove, and fro# this to the finish it is but a
fe! #otions distant.
.n so#e res%ects this #anner of coitus, and this #eans of Fgoing off
togetherF is unsur%assed.
Which "eads to the re#ar that this %osition is so#eti#es the best for
the fu"" co#%"etion of the act. .t is the easiest of a"" %ositions,
the "east fatiguing. (nd if the !ife is tired, or not Buite Fu% to
grade,F she can enjoy an e#brace of this sort !ithout fatigue, even
to the fu"". ,or the organs can be united in this %osition Buite
%erfect"y, though the %enis !i"" not %enetrate the vagina to as great
a "ength as in the other %osition. Sti"", the c"i#ax can be %erfect"y
reached in this !ay, and it is one of the best !ays to #ae sure of
%erfect Fti#ing,F of Fs%endingF exact"y together, !hich is great"y in
its favor.
.f there is a #is&#atching of the organs, the vagina of the !ife being
too short for her husband's %enis, this is a #ost exce""ent !ay for
#eeting and overco#ing that difficu"ty.
This natura""y "eads to another #atter, as fo""o!s'&&.t #ight see#
to the reader that the different FstroingsF of the vu"va, !ith the
fingers, or the %enis, a"" the contact being outside the vagina, that
a"" of these #ethods of excitation s#ac of #asturbation, and so are
of doubtfu" rightness. .n re%"y to !hich, note the fo""o!ing'
The entire affair of coition, in hu#anity, has a"ready been sho!n
to be so#ething !ho""y above and beyond #ere ani#a"ity. .t is the
exercise of functions that be"ong Con"y to #anindC, and hence is
not a#enab"e to CanyC #ere"y Cani#a"C "a!s or restrictionsK .t is the
source of nu#ber"ess hu#an joys, and CanyC #ethod of engaging in
the act of #utua" de"ight, that is, of C#utua""y ha%%ifyingC, is
"egiti#ate and Ca"together rightC. (nd so, if the %arties choose to
increase their #utua" de"ight, if the husband !ishes to arouse
and intensify his !ife's %assion by stroing her vu"va !ith his
sa"iva&#oistened fingers, and Cshe !ishes hi# to do soC, such act is
as right and as !ho"eso#e as is coitus in the by&so#e&su%%osed&to&be
Con"yC !ay of its exercise. Let this never be doubted.
The fact is, this !ho"e #atter of sexua" excitation by #eans of the
hand, or in other !ays than the union of the organs, has received
a b"ac eye at the hands of !ou"d be %urists, !hich it in no !ay
deserves. (s a"ready noted, the !ord #asturbation has been fastened to
such acts, and then, any and every for# of it has been conde#ned far
beyond !hat the facts !arrant, ti"" the #inds of the ran and fi"e are
!ho""y #is"ed in the %re#isesK When one "oos at the situation fro#
the %oint of vie! !hich insists that Ca""C the sex functions shou"d be
under the contro" of the C!i""C, then "ight is thro!n u%on the
entire subject. Seen in this !ay, CanyC for# of sex sti#u"ation, or
auto&erotis# even Hauto&erotis# #eans Cse"fC sex&excitationI !hich is
+)T ;(00./1 T) /?;/SS, is CrightC and C!ho"eso#eCK But !e have been
taught the contrary of this for so "ong that it is difficu"t for us to
rea"iGe that it is true. CBut it isCK
Hence, if it shou"d so#eti#es ha%%en that the husband shou"d arrive
at the c"i#ax before the !ife does, and he cou"d not bring her to
an orgas# by excitation !ith his s%ent %enis, it !ou"d be C%erfect"y
right for hi# to substitute his fingers, and satisfy her in that !ayC.
)f course, this !ou"d not be as satisfying to her as it !ou"d have
been cou"d she have #et hi# si#u"taneous"y, but it is Cfar better than
for her not to be entire"y gratifiedK Aany a !o#anC S>,,/0S (LL +.GHT
L)+G C!ith unsatisfied desire, her organs congested and tu#escent,
because she has been "eftC >+S(T.S,./1 Cby a husband !ho has s%ent
before she !as readyC, (+1 TH/+ L/,T H/0K Such cases #ight be
Centire"y re"ievedC, if the %arties Cne! the truthC, and !ere not too
CignorantC, or C%rejudicedC, or Casha#edC to do !hat shou"d be done to
#ae the best of a situation.
)f course, no husband shou"d #ae a C%racticeC of gratifying hi#se"f
fu""y, and then bringing his !ife to the c"i#ax !ith his fingers. Such
a %ractice !ou"d be Cse"fishC and C!rongC. But as an Ce#ergencyC !ay
of esca%e, the #ethod is to be co##ended.
)f course, as has a"ready been ex%"ained, the husband a"!ays has the
advantage, that he can be brought to the orgas# by the insertion of
the %enis into the vagina, CafterC his !ife has s%ent, if she
arrives first, since her organs detu#esce s"o!"y, and their distended
condition %er#its such action on his %art, for so#e ti#e after she has
%assed the c"i#ax. But not so !ith the husband. )nce s%ent, his %enis
shrins to "i#%ness, a"#ost i##ediate"y, and in this condition it
cannot satisfy the !ife in the "east, #uch "ess bring her to an
orgas#.
(gain, if, for any reason, the !ife shou"d be unab"e to #eet her
husband in coitus %ro%er, because of !eaness, or s"ight i""ness,
or %erha%s so#e te#%orary soreness of the %arts, it !ou"d he"% the
situation !onderfu""y if CsheC !ou"d tae ChisC %enis in CherC hand
and F%"ay !ith itF ti"" he Cs%entC. He !ou"d "ove her for it, iss her
for it, give her his sou" for itK
C.f a bride and bridegroo# ne! enough to introduce each other to the
de"ights of an orgas# by Fs%endingF each other by externa" excitation
of the organs !ith their hands a fe! ti#es before they united the
organs at a"", it !ou"d be to their "asting !e"" being. This is
es%ecia""y true for the brideC. .f her "over !ou"d tae her in his
ar#s, even !ith a"" her c"othes on, as she sat on his "a%, in their
brida" cha#ber, a"one, and stroe her vu"va ti"" she FCs%ent,CF the
chances are #any to one that he !ou"d have introduced her to such a
joy that she !ou"d never forget it, a"" her "ife. Sure"y, such #ethod
is Cinfinite"y su%eriorC to Cra%ingC a bride, as is so freBuent"y
done by the ignorant or goody&good young husband, !ho Fstands u%on his
CrightsCKF
.ndeed, if a bride to be, !ho !as so innocent or ignorant of her o!n
sex %ossibi"ities that she had never ex%erienced an orgas#&&had never
Fs%entF&&cou"d be F%ut !iseF before her brida"&night, if she cou"d be
instructed enough to "ead her to engage in so#e for# of auto&erotis#,
bringing herse"f to an orgas# !ith her o!n hand, Cjust for the sae
of the ex%erience it !ou"d give her, and so that she !ou"d have so#e
c"ear idea of !hat she rea""y !anted, before she !ent into the ar#s
of her "over&&if she cou"d do this, in the right #enta" attitude, it
!ou"d be great"y to her !e""&being, a !orthy and va"uab"e addition to
her stoc of no!"edge of herse"f and of the %o!ers that are "atent
!ithin her. Her a""eged "oss of innocence by such act !ou"d be as
nothing co#%ared !ith the !isdo# she !ou"d gain by the ex%erience.
When innocence "eads to har#fu" resu"ts, it is ti#e it !as ended, and
that no!"edge taes its %"aceKC
(s for the husband, the chances are not one in a #i""ion that he !i""
be ignorant of !hat an orgas# is "ie before he #arries, since a""
hea"thy young #en Fs%endF at "east once a !ee, auto#atica""y, if not
other!iseK
Let it be said further, that auto&erotis#, se"f&s%ending, #ay be
%racticed by both #en and !o#en, to their hea"thfu" benefit, !hen
sexua" exercise cannot be secured in any other !ay. .t is on"y !hen
Ccarried to excessC that such action is in any !ay har#fu". The on"y
danger is, that, the individua" being a"one and having a"" the #eans
for se"f&gratification in his or her o!n hands, so to s%ea, it is
Buite %ossib"e to indu"ge in the action too free"y, !hich, of
course, "eads to bad resu"ts. CBut the act itse"f is not bad.C )n the
contrary, !hen e%t !ithin bounds, it is hea"thfu" and !ho"eso#e.
There are #any un#arried !o#en, #aiden "adies, and es%ecia""y !ido!s,
!ho !ou"d great"y i#%rove their hea"th if they %racticed so#e for# of
auto&erotis#, occasiona""y. When husbands and !ives are forced to
be #uch a!ay fro# each other, it is right for the# to occasiona""y
satisfy the#se"ves in this !ay, their sou"s fi""ed !ith "oving
thoughts of the absent one the !hi"e.
There is any a#ount of nonsense current about auto&erotis#. (s a
#atter of fact, a"" boys #asturbate, and #any gir"s a"so. So#e
authors c"ai# that #ore than ha"f of a"" !o#en engage in so#e for#
of auto&erotis#, at so#e ti#e in their "ives, and the esti#ate is
%robab"y too "o! rather than too high. But, un"ess they carry the act
to excess, they are gui"ty of no !rong. +ot infreBuent"y, they #ay
#ae the act a #eans of great good to the#se"ves. CThe sex organs are
a"iveK They constant"y secrete f"uids that need to be excreted, as
a"" other organs of the body do. They ought to be re"ieved, as their
nature reBuires they shou"d be.C .f this cannot be acco#%"ished as
the #ost natura" !ay %rescribes, it is on"y right to do the next best
thing. )n"y, it shou"d not be carried to excess. Be te#%erate in a""
things. Gratify yourse"f, but don't (B>S/ yourse"f. (uto&erotis#, or
#asturbation, shou"d never be %er#itted to beco#e Fse"f&abuse,F nor
is there any need that it shou"d ever do so. .t shou"d be
se"f&u%bui"ding, not se"f degrading. 0ight"y used it can be thus.
.?
;).T>S 0/S/0@(T>S
This brings us to another ite# in the #atter of sexua" exercise on the
%art of the husband and !ife, as fo""o!s'&&
.t shou"d be the constant ai# and endeavor of both %arties to
continua""y "ift a"" sex affairs above the %"ane of ani#a"ity, #ere
%hysica" gratification, into the rea"# of C#enta"C and Cs%iritua"C
de"ight. To this end, "et it be said at once that such a condition can
be reached, in the greatest degree, by the %ractice of !hat is no!n,
in scientific ter#s, as FCcoitus reservatus,FC !hich, trans"ated,
#eans going on"y C%artC of the !ay in the act, and not carrying it to
its c"i#ax, the orgas#. 1escribed in ter#s !ith !hich the reader is
no! fa#i"iar, it #eans, carrying the act on"y through the first and
second stages, the FcourtingF stage, and the union of the organs, and
sto%%ing thereK This #ay see#, at first thought, neither right nor
!ise, but, as a #atter of fact, it is both, as thousands of #ost
ha%%i"y #arried %eo%"e have %roved.
Going a bit into detai"s, this act of FreservatusF rea""y unites the
first t!o %arts of the act into a co##on !ho"e, #aing it si#%"y one
continuous %iece of Fcourting,F #ere"y that, and nothing #ore. .t
is a"#ost entire"y a C#enta" and s%iritua" "ove&e#brace- and in its
%erfection, it exa"ts the husband and !ife to the to%#ost heights of
#enta" and s%iritua" enjoy#ent and ex%ressionC.
To engage in this for# of coitus, Cnot near"yC the effort shou"d be
#ade to arouse the sexua" %assions of either of the %arties, as has
a"ready been described as fitting for co#%"ete coitus. CThe orgas#
is not the desideratu# in this case, but it is just a de"ightfu"
ex%ression of #utua" "ove. .t is a sort of %ro"onged and a""&e#bracing
iss, in !hich the sex organs are inc"uded as !e"" as the "i%s. TheyC
iss each other, as the C"i%sC iss each other. .t is Fcourting,F %ar
exce""ence, !ithout the ha#%ering of c"othes or conventiona"ity of any
ind.
.n this act, the "overs si#%"y CdriftC, %etting each other, chatting
!ith each other, visiting, "oving, caressing in any one or a"" of a
thousand !ays. The hands F!ander id"y over the body,F the husband's
right hand being s%ecia""y free and in %erfect %osition to stroe his
!ife's bac, her hi%s, her "egs, and %et her fro# to% to toe.
(s this %art of the act continues, it is the #ost natura" thing in the
!or"d that the sex organs shou"d tu#esce, and that there shou"d be
a f"o! of both %rostatic and %re&coita" f"uids. That is, the organs
Buiet"y and natura""y #ae the#se"ves ready for #eeting. (nd !hen they
are du"y tu#escent, are %ro%er"y en"arged and "ubricated, "et the !ife
co#e over into her "over's ar#s, .+ TH/ S/;)+1 P)S.T.)+ described, and
the organs be s"i%%ed together easi"y, de"ightfu""y, and then, C"et
the# stay soC, fu""y together, Cbut do not go on !ith the third %art
of the actC, the #otion of the organs. =ust "ie sti"" and enjoy the
e#brace, iss, chat, court, "ove, drea#, enjoyK
This union can be %rotracted to a"#ost any "ength, after the "overs
"earn ho! to do it. So#eti#es the organs #ay be together on"y a fe!
#inutes, so#eti#es for an hour, or even "onger. .f the %arties get
tired, or s"ee%y, %art the organs, iss good&night, and go to s"ee%.
("though it is not at a"" unco##on for such "overs, !ho have fu""y
"earned this art, to go to s"ee% thus, in each other's ar#s, their sex
organs united- and, in this %osition, have the organs detu#esce, the
%enis gro! "i#% and s"i% out of the vagina of its o!n accord, !hi"e
the vagina a"so gro!s s#a"" and the c"itoris subsides. This ex%erience
is #ost de"ightfu" and if once ex%erienced, once !e"" #astered by the
husband and !ife, it !i"" continua""y gro! in favor, to their #utua"
benefit.
This #ethod is of s%ecia" service during the Funfree ti#e.F .f right"y
used, it !i"" not tend to increase the desire for Fs%ending,F but
it !i"", on the contrary, a""ay and satisfy the sexua" desires, #ost
%erfect"y. .f, !hi"e "earning ho!, so#eti#es the inex%erienced shou"d
Fget run a!ay !ith,F and fee" that it is better to go on and have the
c"i#ax, a"" right. But, as ti#e goes on, the %ractice of carrying the
act on"y to the end of the CsecondC %art, !i"" gro!, and in due ti#e
be !e"" estab"ished. Those !ho have #astered this !ho"eso#e and "oving
art !i"" so#eti#es #eet in this !ay a score of ti#es during a #onth or
so, !ithout once co#ing to the c"i#ax. Such #eeting can be as often
as the %arties choose, and of as "ong, or as short duration as they
e"ect. .t is often an exce""ent !ay, to say Fgood&night-F and if,
on !aing in the #orning, there is ti#e before rising for a F"itt"e
court,F this s"i%%ing the organs together, for Fjust a #inute,F is a
#ost exce""ent !ay to begin the day. The art is !orth "earning, and
#ost %eo%"e can "earn it, if they try, Cand are of the right s%iritCK
To go bac a "itt"e' .n s%eaing of #utua" #asturbation on the %art of
the husband and !ife, this #ethod of satisfying the sex nature is of
great va"ue, so#eti#es, es%ecia""y for use during the unfree ti#e. .f,
during these t!o !ees, the %arties get F!aed u%,F and fee" the need
of sex exercise, they can satisfy each other !ith their hands in a !ay
that !i"" be a great re"ief to each. This is s%ecia""y true for
the husband- and a !ife, !ho is enough of a !o#an to thus #eet her
husband's sex&needs, !ith her hand, !hen it is not ex%edient for hi#
to #eet her other!ise, is a !ife to !orshi%K
So#eti#es, during the five days of #enstruation, during !hich ti#e
the union of the organs is dee#ed not best, the !ife can thus he"% her
"over !ith her hand, to their de"ight and benefit. CLet "ove direct
the !ay here, and a"" !i"" be !e""C.
(nd here is a curious fact' The hand of the o%%osite sex !i"" %roduce
effects on the genita"s of the other !hich !i"" CnotC be %roduced in
any other !ay. Thus, a #an #ay ho"d his %enis in his o!n hand for
a given "ength of ti#e, "onger or shorter, and no resu"t !i"" be
effected, no secretion of %rostate f"uid be #ade, at a"". But "et his
!ife tae his %enis in CherC hand for the sa#e "ength of ti#e, and the
f"o! of %rostatic f"uid !i"" at once tae %"ace. This is true !hether
the %enis be erect or detu#escent. .f the !ife !i"" ho"d her husband's
"i#% %enis in her hand for but a fe! #inutes, even though the organ
re#ains "i#%, the f"o! of %rostatic f"uid !i"" tae %"aceK The sa#e
is true !ith regard to the husband's %utting his hand on his !ife's
vu"va. Shou"d CsheC ho"d her hand there, no %re&coita" f"uid !ou"d be
secreted. With her husband's hand there, the f"o! !ou"d at once begin.
This is a re#arab"e %hysica" and %sycho"ogica" %heno#enon, and it
is one es%ecia""y !orthy of note. .t is this fact that #aes C#utua"C
#asturbation far su%erior to auto&erotis#. ( husband can thus satisfy
a !ife !ith his fingers, or a !ife her husband !ith her hand, far
better than either cou"d bring hi#se"f or herse"f to the c"i#ax a"one.
This %oint is of great i#%ort, in considering #any of the sex acts of
husband and !ife.
(s a ru"e, "et the husband and !ife do C!hatever their desire %ro#%ts
or suggests, and just as they fee" they !ou"dC L.*/ CtoC. )n"y this,
"et a"" be in #oderation. C;arry nothing to excessKC
Which suggests the Buestion often ased' Ho! freBuent"y #ay coitus
be engaged inJ The ans!er is, just as often as is desired by Cboth
%arties, but never to the %oint of !eariness or de%"etion of the
%hysica", #enta" or s%iritua" bodyC. >se good sense here as e"se!here.
We eat !hen !e are hungry, but it is !rong to gorge onese"f !ith food.
The sa#e ru"e ho"ds !ith regard to sex exercise. CSatisfy the ca""s of
nature, butC +/@/0, Coverdo the #atterC. B/ T/AP/0(T/, A(+L$, W)A(+L$K
C1on't be afraid or asha#ed to do !hat your desire and your best
judg#ent say is right. >se co##on sense, and you !i"" not go !rongC.
(nd don't !ear each other out, either both together, or the one the
other. Aany #en insist on their rights HTH/$ H(@/ +) 0.GHTSI and
great"y debi"itate the#se"ves by excess of coition !ith their !ives.
Per contra, there are so#e !o#en !ho !ear the "ives out of
their husbands by the excessive ca""s they #ae u%on the# for
sex&gratification. .n the "atter case, a #an !i"" Fgo to %iecesF #uch
faster than a !o#an !ho is over&taxed. To satisfy such a !o#an, a #an
#ust s%end at "east once every ti#e his !ife ca""s on hi#. This dra!s
on his vita" f"uids, at every e#brace- but, as has been stated, there
is no esca%e of vita" f"uid fro# the !o#an, !hen she s%ends, and so
she can reach and %ass the orgas#, ti#e and again, and sti"" not have
her vita"ity taxed. .ndeed, in so#e cases, the oftener a !o#an s%ends,
the #ore ani#ated, robust and hea"thfu" she beco#es. .n case un#atched
%eo%"e #eet as husband and !ife, they shou"d do their best to adjust
the#se"ves to each other's condition, ee%ing a"!ays in #ind the best
!e"fare, each of the other.
There are records of !o#en !ho de"ight to s%end a doGen ti#es in a
sing"e night. )ne Bueen #ade a "a! that every #an shou"d cohabit
!ith his !ife at "east seven ti#es each nightK )f course, she !as an
abnor#a" !o#an, though the author once ne! a good orthodox deacon !ho
!ou"d have been de"ighted to "ive under the ru"e of such a "a!, for
seven ti#es a night !as the "i#it his !ife i#%osed u%on hi#K He !as
a"so abnor#a".
Luther said t!ice a !ee !as the ru"e for coitus, and this is a very
co##on %ractice. +o abso"ute ru"e can be given, ho!ever, exce%t for
each cou%"e to act as they fee", ee%ing a"!ays !ithin the bounds of
co##on sense and true te#%erance.
There are so#e #en and !o#en so constituted, nervous"y, or by
te#%era#ent, that they are Cob"igedC to rigorous"y C"i#itC their acts
of coition. So#e #en cannot engage in the act #ore than once or t!ice
a #onth and #aintain their hea"th. ,or the#, the act dra!s on their
vita"ity so severe"y that it Buite u%sets the#, in a"#ost every
case. 1uring the act, they are subjected to nervous shocs, they
Fsee stars,F and undergo rigors and nervous s!eats !hich are severe"y
debi"itating. )ften, too, they !i"" "ie a!ae a"" night after
engaging in the act, and be #ore or "ess of a !rec for a day or t!o
after!ards.
So#e !o#en, too, are of a si#i"ar nature of organiGation, and undergo
si#i"ar ex%eriences. )f course, in a"" such cases, unusua" care shou"d
be taen never to reach the %oint of excess.
.t is unfortunate if %eo%"e are #arried !ho are i""&#atched in this
regard, es%ecia""y so if the difference bet!een the t!o is of a
%ronounced nature, as !hen the husband or the !ife is very a#orous and
viri"e, !hi"e his or her #ate is unab"e to engage in the act, to any
considerab"e extent, !ithout suffering therefro#. .f such case arises,
the best shou"d be #ade of the situation, the #ore robust %arty
acco##odating hi#se"f or herse"f to the inco#%etency or inabi"ity of
the other, and the !eaer one doing a"" that can right"y be done to
strengthen and deve"o% his or her infir#ity. .f this is done, Cthe
chances are #any to one that, as ti#es goes on, the %arties !i"" gro!
#ore and #ore a"ie&&the strong beco#ing #ore doci"e and the !eaer
one #ore robust. Tae ti#e, "ove each other, court and be courted, and
on"y the best resu"ts tri"" co#e of it a""C.
+o! there are so#e !o#en !ho are ca""ed Fanesthetic,F that is,
they have no sex&%assion, though the sex %arts #ay be nor#a". Aany
%hysicians dec"are that as high as forty %er cent of the !o#en C!ho
are reared in #odern socia" "ifeC are thus "acing. These !o#en engage
in coitus, though they get no %"easure fro# the act. They never reach
the orgas#, and have no sensation of de"ight fro# the act- they se"do#
secrete the %re&coita" f"uid, and hence the union of the organs, or
their #otion, are never easy or %"easurab"e. They can beco#e #others,
and often such bear #any chi"dren. Such condition is great"y to be
regretted, and #any !o#en suffer great"y fro# this cause.
.t is high"y %robab"e, though, that #any !o#en !ho are counted as
thus "acing are Cnot, rea""y, soKC Aany !o#en !i"" begin #arried "ife
!ho""y anesthetic, and, often, so#eti#e !i"" beco#e nor#a" in this
regard. CThis often ha%%ens. The %robabi"ity is that #any !ives are
not %ro%er"y FcourtedF by their husbandsC&&TH/ ,.0ST P(0T ), TH/ (;T
.S +/GL/;T/1, Cor the husband #ere"y acts on his rightsC&&cohabits
"ie a goat, a"" in an instant, anxious on"y to gratify his o!n
C"ustC- and that, Cunder such treat#ent, the !ife never gets a fair
chance to rea""y no! her o!n %o!ersC. Such cases are sad beyond
te""ing. ,or the #ost %art, Cthey are the resu"t of ignorance on the
%art of the husband, and innocence and !rong teaching&&!rong #enta"
attitude&&on the %art of the !ifeC. H/+;/ TH/ +//1 ), .+ST0>;T.)+S T)
B)TH.
But if a"#ost any !o#an !i"" get the Cright #enta" attitudeC to!ard
sex&#eeting, and then can be courted, as has been %rescribed in these
%ages, the cases are Crare indeedC !here a !o#an can be found !ho is
Crea""yC anesthetic. .f you, !ife, or you, husband, are Fu% againstF
such a condition, try Fcourting,F as here!ith "aid do!n, Cin a %ro%er
#ood and s%irit, and you !i"" co#e out a"" right. There is no doubt of
itC.
)n the contrary, if the #an is Fi#%otentF there is s#a"" ho%e of his
ever co#ing out of such condition, and the chances are #any to one
that he !i"" never be ab"e to satisfy his !ife sexua""y. He #ay be
a Fgood #an,F in a !ay, but he can never be a good ChusbandC, in the
fu"" #eaning of that !ord.
)n the other hand, if a !o#an #arries for #oney, or a ho#e, or
%osition, or %"ace, or %o!er, or a F#ea"&ticetF&&for Canything but
"oveC, she !i"" doubt"ess be anesthetic Cand stay soC. She deserves
toK She se""s herse"f for a #ess of %ottage, !hoever she is. She #ay
be a Fgood !o#an,F but she can never be a good C!ifeC.
The Buestion is so#eti#es ased as to ho! "ate in "ife the sex organs
can function %"easurab"y and !ho"eso#e"y for the %arties concerned.
(nd here, as e"se!here, the re%"y can on"y be that it a"" de%ends on
the individua". But this is true, that, as a ru"e, the status of the
individua" during the years of active "ife !i"" %ersist, even to
o"d age, if the sex&functions are used and not abused. There is no
function of the body, ho!ever, !hich !i"" Fgo to %iecesF Buicer, and
ever after be a !rec, as !i"" the sex organs, if they are not treated
right"y.
(nd this !ors both !ays' .f too rigorous"y he"d in chec, Cif denied
a"" functioning !hatever, the %arts !i"" atro%hy, to the detri#ent
of the !ho"e nature, %hysica", #enta", and s%iritua"C. The body !i""
beco#e Fdried u%,F the sex organs shrive"ed, and a corres%onding
shrining of the !ho"e #an or !o#an, in a"" %arts of the being, is
very a%t to fo""o!.
)n the other hand, an excess of sex&functioning !i"" soon de%rive
the individua" of a"" such %o!er !hatsoever. ( #an !i"", in his
co#%arative"y ear"y "ife, "ose the %o!er of erection, or tu#escence
entire"y, as a resu"t of excess, either by #asturbation or fro#
too freBuent coitus- and on the %art of the !o#an, #any unfortunate
conditions are "iab"e to arise. Ho!ever, for reasons that have a"ready
been stated, a !o#an !ho is strong"y sexed, and of a %ronounced
a#orous nature, can #aintain even great excess of sex exercise
!ithout suffering such i"" resu"ts as !ou"d befa"" a #an !ho shou"d so
indu"ge. That is, an excessive"y %assionate !ife can far sooner !ear
the "ife out of a husband !ho is on"y #oderate"y a#orous, than can an
abnor#a""y %assionate husband !ear out a #oderate"y a#orous !ife.
But if the sex nature of the husband and !ife are !e"" cared for
during the years of active "ife, neither too #uch restrained or too
%rofuse"y exercised, the functioning %o!er of the sex organs !i""
re#ain, even to o"d age, !ith a"" their %"easure&giving %o!ers and
sensations intact. This is a !onderfu" %hysio"ogica" fact, !hich "eads
to a conc"usion, as fo""o!s'&&
This fact of the staying Bua"ities of the %o!er of sex functioning,
even to o"d age, is the Csu%re#eC %roof of the fact that sex, in the
hu#an fa#i"y, Cserves a %ur%ose other than re%roductionCK
,or, seeK ( !o#an "oses the %o!er to conceive !hen she reaches the
Fturn of "ife,F !hen her #enses cease, that is, !hen she is bet!een
forty and fifty years of age. (nd if %"easure in coition serves on"y
to induce her to engage in the act for the %ur%ose of increasing the
%robabi"ity of her beco#ing %regnant, if this is the Cso"eC %ur%ose
of desire for sex intercourse, such desire, such %"easure, Cought to
ceaseC at that %eriod of fe#inine "ife. CBut this is by no #eans the
caseCK .f a !ife is a nor#a" !o#an, sexua""y, and has neither abused
her sex nature or had it abused, or neg"ected, and is a !e"" !o#an,
she !i"" enjoy coitus as #uch after she has %assed her three score and
ten date in her "ife as she did beforeK She #ay not care to engage
in the act as freBuent"y as in her younger days- but if she is !e""
courted by her o"d "over, a"" the joys of the for#er days are sti""
hers, to as great a degree as ever. (nd !hat is true of her is true
of her husband, if he is !e"" %reserved, as she is, has never abused
hi#se"f or been abused.
This is a re!ard of virtue, for o"d "overs, that %ays a big %re#iu# on
righteous sex&action in ear"ier yearsK Aore than a"", Cit is a %roof,
beyond a"" Buestion, that the %ur%ose of sex in hu#anity is so#ething
#ore than %rocreation, that there is such a thing as the (rt of Love,
and that it ought to be taught and !e"" "earned by every husband and
!ife, in their ear"y #arried "ifeC.
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.t !ou"d hard"y see# necessary to be said, and yet #any ex%eriences of
husbands and !ives %rove that it needs to be said, that both %arties
shou"d tae great %ains to ee% their bodies, a"" %arts of the#,
a"!ays s!eet and c"ean. Strange as it #ay see#, #any !ives are
exceeding"y care"ess in this res%ectK .t is a #atter of co##on re%ort
a#ong #en, that har"ots tae #ore %ains to #ae and ee% their bodies,
and es%ecia""y their genita"s, c"ean and attractive, than #any !ives
doK Sure"y, this ought not to be so, and yet it often is.
(nd that it is, is on"y one #ore unfortunate resu"t that s%rings fro#
the fee"ing of F)h, !e are #arried no!.F The !ife or the husband fee"s
that there is no "onger any need of !ooing each other. ("" of !hich
"eads to !oe, !oe, !oeK The !ife shou"d ee% her !ho"e body so s!eet
and c"ean that her husband can iss her fro# to% to toe, if he !ants
to&&and the chances are that he !i"" !ant to, if she so ee%s herse"fK
.n the one case, such a caress is a bit of heaven to a husband, in the
other it is a bit of he""K .t !i"" disgust !here it ought to de"ight.
(nd !hen a !ife disgusts her husband, the end of a ha%%y #arried "ife
has co#eK
The !ife shou"d a"!ays !ash her vu"va !ith soa% and !ar# !ater before
retiring, and if reservatus is to be engaged in in the #orning, after
urination, she shou"d thorough"y c"eanse the %arts before union taes
%"ace. Let her be CeverC #indfu" to ee% her F"ove cu%F !orthy to #eet
its "over.
(nd the husband shou"d be eBua""y carefu" to ee% his body s!eet and
c"ean. He shou"d !ash the g"ans %enis thorough"y, !ith soa% and !ater,
at "east once every day, dra!ing the foresin bac so as to fu""y
c"eanse the indenture above the g"and, !hich secretes a substance that
very soon e#its an offensive odor un"ess re#oved. Both %arties shou"d
ee% their ar# %its so that they !i"" not be Fs#e""y,F and the feet
shou"d "ie!ise be e%t inodorous.
)ne of the chief objections to s#oing or che!ing tobacco is that it
s%oi"s the breath, and so #aes it offensive to the !ife, !hereas it
shou"d be #ost attractive. .n a !ord, both the husband and !ife
cannot be too carefu", in a"" !ays, in #aing and ee%ing their bodies
#utua""y attractive. (s has a"ready been said, the so"e ai# of a""
the sexua" ex%erience of a husband and !ife shou"d be to raise
the function #ore and #ore Ca!ayC fro# the %"ane of C%hysica"C
gratification and e"evate it continua""y to!ards the rea"# of C#enta"C
and Cs%iritua" de"ightC. This is a #ission of sex in the hu#an fa#i"y
that shou"d be #ade the #ost of. .t invo"ves the cu"tivation of the
(rt of Love, !hich is tru"y the art of arts, %ar exce""ence.
The secret of success in estab"ishing righteous and ha%%y sex
re"ations bet!een husband and !ife is, on the %art of the #an, that
Ca"" his actions shou"d be those of a "oving gent"e#anC. This does
not #ean effe#inacy on his %art&&he #ust be viri"e, bo"d, strong,
aggressive, %ositive, Cco#%e""ingC. (nd yet, a"" these #an"y virtues
#ust be ex%ressed in ter#s of C"oving and gent"eC (;TS. This is a
%aradox, but it is trueK
)n the %art of the !o#an, the chief ite# on her side is, for her
to attain a Ccorrect #enta" and s%iritua" attitude to!ard her
o!n sex&nature and that of her husband, and to!ard their co##on
ex%ressionC. ("" her training and environ#ent no! hinder her fro# such
achieve#ent- but if she be a true !o#an, her nature !i"" revea" the
truth to her, and if she !i"" trust to that&&do !hat that %ro#%ts her
to do, she !i"" co#e out a"" right. .t !i"" tae ti#e to reach such
resu"ts- but if she !i"" %ersist, she !i"" succeed. Let her co#e
to the rea"iGation of the fact that sex in #en and !o#en is CnotC
unc"ean, vu"gar, "o!do!n, sinfu"- but that it is Cc"ean, %ure, "oftyC,
G)1&B)0+K 0ight"y exercised, it "eads to the highest !e""&being of
both the husband and !ife- it brings the# to their %hysica", #enta"
and s%iritua" nob"est and best. Let the !ife get this vie! of
the situation, !hich is the on"y true vie!, and then "et her act
according"y, and she !i"" have attained. ( husband and !ife !ho have
reached this C#odus vivendiC have estab"ished a heaven on earth.
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1r. Long's descri%tion of F,ree Ti#eF shou"d be thorough"y understood
by the readers of this boo. Since it is %ractica""y i#%ossib"e to
conduct exact scientific tests under strict contro" Hthe reason for
!hich can be readi"y understoodI there is #uch difference of o%inion
a#ong %hysicians and sexo"ogists on this subject.
So#e say there is no such thing as F,ree Ti#e.F )thers agree !ith 1r.
Long that there is a %eriod of F,ree Ti#e.F Sti"" a third grou%
tae the conservative vie!%oint that further %roof is necessary. The
%ub"ishers offer this ex%"anation as a necessary co##ent.
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(nd no! just a fe! !ords about having chi"dren, and this treatise !i""
end.
(s has a"ready been said, every true husband and !ife !ho are !e""
enough and strong enough, and !ho are reasonab"y furnished !ith this
!or"d's goods, ought to have and rear at "east t!o chi"dren. The !or"d
needs at "east so #any, even if a"" chi"dren "ived and gre! u%, to
ee% u% the constant nu#ber of %eo%"e on the earth. But, far #ore than
this, the husband and !ife need chi"dren Cto #ae a ho#e co#%"ete, and
a co#%"ete ho#e is the su%re#e attain#ent of hu#an "ifeKC
This does not #ean that %eo%"e shou"d not #arry un"ess they can have
chi"dren- there are #any !o#en !ho shou"d never even try to beco#e
#others. But these shou"d not be de%rived of a"" sexua" joys for this
reason. )n the contrary, it is for their best good, in #ost cases,
that they shou"d #arry and so "ive nor#a" sex "ives, in a"" res%ects
exce%t %arenthood.
But, for the #ost %art, husbands and !ives CcanC have chi"dren, if
they so desire, Cand theyC SH)>L1 Cso desireC.
(nd, so desiring, the Buestion is, Ho! can they best fu"fi" such
desireJ
(s a #atter of fact, there is very "itt"e that is rea""y no!n about
the begetting of chi"dren, and the securing of the best resu"ts fro#
such action. The "a!s of hu#an heredity are, as yet, for the #ost
%art, unno!n. But co##on sense !ou"d see# to indicate a fe! things
that #ust be best in the %re#ises.
Thus, it !ou"d see# to be for the best that the husband and !ife
shou"d be in good %hysica" condition !hen a chi"d is begotten. Aore
than this, it !ou"d see# right that the act of begetting shou"d be a
Cde"iberateC, and not a #ere CchanceC begetting. Hence, in genera",
it is !e"" for the husband and !ife to CagreeC u%on a ti#e for the
begetting of a chi"d, and Cde"iberate"y acco#%"ish a sex&#eeting
for such %ur%oseC. ("though, one instinctive"y fee"s that such a
de"iberate #eeting #ight be too #atter of fact&&too co"d and for#a",
"acing in !ar# b"ood and genuine e#otion- sti"", the %robabi"ities
are that even this cou"d be overco#e, if e%t in #ind and F%rovided
for.F
0eferring to the things that have a"ready been said, of course an
e#brace !hich is to resu"t in %regnancy shou"d be one of the #ost
%erfect that can %ossib"y be ex%erienced, one in !hich, in an ecstasy
of "ove's de"ight, husband and !ife #erge their sou"s and bodies into
a %erfect oneness&&it !ou"d see# that fro# such a #eeting the best,
and on"y the best resu"ts cou"d co#e.
(nd so if the husband and !ife !i"" agree that fro# a given ti#e
on, they !i"" cease to have a care to %revent conce%tion- and then,
so#eti#e Ci##ediate"y fo""o!ing the fifth day after the beginning of
the #enstrua" f"o!C, they !i"" natura""y #eet in a C%erfect e#braceC,
the %robabi"ities are that they !i"" have done the best %ossib"e to
secure the highest attainab"e resu"ts fro# the act of begetting a
chi"d.
(s a ru"e, the %ro%er ti#e for such begetting is bet!een the CfifthC
and the CtenthC day after the beginning of the #enstrua" f"o!. .t is
so#eti#es best, ho!ever, to #ae the #eeting ear"ier than this, even
before the f"o! has ceased. So#e !o#en !i"" conceive then !ho cannot
do so at any other ti#e. (nd so, if a !ife shou"d be unab"e to
conceive bet!een the fifth and the tenth day, as noted, "et an ear"ier
date be tried. .f this shou"d fai", consu"t a re"iab"e %hysician.
.t ought to be said, too, that %utting off having chi"dren Ctoo "ongC,
is very a%t to resu"t in the steri"ity of the !ife. Aany a young !ife,
!ho has rea""y !anted to have chi"dren Cso#eti#eC, and !ho !ou"d be
great"y grieved if she thought she cou"d CnotC bear a chi"d, has e%t
%utting it off, and has done this Cso oftenC, and for Cso "ongC, that,
!hen the Fconvenient dayF does co#e, she finds that she has Fsinned
a!ay her day of grace.F
S%eaing genera""y, the first baby shou"d be born not #uch "ater than
t!o years after #arriage. There are, of course, exce%tions to this,
but it is a good ru"e to go by.
CHave your chi"dren !hen you are youngCK This is co##on sense,
it co#es out best in the "ong run, and is the best thing to do,
ninety&nine ti#es in a hundred. Then, you are nearer the age of your
chi"dren as they gro! u% than if you !aited ti"" you !ere in the "ate
thirties before the chi"dren ca#e. .f your son or daughter is on"y
t!enty&so#e years younger than you are, you can be FidsF !ith the#.
.f you are forty years o"d !hen they are born, you !i"" a"!ays be Fo"d
fo"sF to the#. Have the babies !hen you are young. .t is far better
so.
.f no chi"dren co#e fro# the #eeting of husband and !ife consu"t
a good doctor. But, in such event, if neither of the %arties is to
b"a#e&&or even other!ise, #ae the best of the situation, "ove each
other, and #ae the #ost of !edded "ife !ith !hat is "eft.
(bove a"", !ith chi"dren or !ithout Hand a thousand ti#es better !ithI
#ae a ho#e that is a ho#e. That is !hat sex in the hu#an fa#i"y, !hat
#arried "ife is for&&to #ae a ho#e. +ear"y a"" that #aes a ho#e
is centered around sex. +o t!o nor#a" C#enC can #ae a ho#eK +o t!o
nor#a" C!o#enC can #ae a ho#eK C.t taes a #an and a !o#an to #ae
a ho#e. .t taes father, #other and chi"dren to #ae the #ost %erfect
ho#e. Aae u% your #inds to have a #ost %erfect ho#e, and do your
ut#ost to reach that goa"CK
The Buery often arises in the #inds of conscientious husbands and
!ives !hether or not it is right to engage in coitus during %regnancy.
)n this %oint authorities differ, though #ost of the# ho"d against
such %ractice. The reasons they give for such adverse decision are a""
based on the sa#e o"d inferna" "ie, na#e"y, that, sexua""y, #an is
a #ere ani#a", and so is subject to the "a!s and %ractices of #ere
ani#a"ity. This is the !orst outrage ever %erfected by a fa"se
%hi"oso%hy, !hich is hera"ded as the !i"" of God. )ut on it,
a"togetherK
The si#%"e truth, is that, if the husband and !ife have C#astered the
(rt of LoveC, so that they C#utua""y desire each other, and both "ong
for sex exercise during the gestation %eriodC, it is C%erfect"y rightC
and W.S/ for the# to satisfy their Cnatura"C ;)AA)+ !ishes.
)f course, in such exercise, the ut#ost care shou"d be taen not
to %ress too hard u%on the %e"vic region of the !o#an, and in this
regard, the !ord of caution needs to be heeded, as #uch by the
%ros%ective #other as by her #ate. ,or, in the intensity of an
orgas#, she #ay be te#%ted to cro!d her body too vio"ent"y against
her husband, and so %ossib"e har# #ight resu"t. /s%ecia""y if the
husband&su%erior %osition is taen during the act, he shou"d be doub"y
carefu" not to %er#it the !eight of his body to rest u%on the en"arged
%art of the !ife's anato#y, not in the "east.
.ndeed, the safest %osition for coitus, during %regnancy is, the !o#an
on her bac, and the #an !ith his hi%s on the bed be"o! hers, so that
there is no %ossibi"ity of %ressure on her abdo#en, !hich is %erfect"y
free, in this %osition. .n this %osition, the act #ay be engaged in,
during %regnancy, as often as #utua""y desired, to the benefit of both
%arties.
Aany %regnant !o#en are #ore than usua""y %assionate during the %eriod
of gestation. This is es%ecia""y the case !hen the !ife is ha%%y in
her condition, !hen she rejoices !ith exceeding great joy that she is
on the !ay to ex%erience the divine cro!n of !ifehood&&#aternityK When
such a !o#an desires her husband in "ove's e#brace, it is crue" to
de%rive her of her "onged&for de"ight.
(gain, a !ife, un%regnant, and !hen she rightfu""y !ishes to re#ain
so, #ay be so#e!hat fearfu" of beco#ing %regnant !hen she #eets
her husband, and so hesitate to give her %assion fu"" %"ay, thereby
#issing the ut#ost de"ights of an e#brace&&but if she be %regnant,
and so has no fear on this score, she can give herse"f u% to utter
abandon#ent to her i#%u"ses.
)n this %oint, the fina" !ord is, use Cco##on senseC, in a Cs%irit of
abso"uteC A>T>(L.T$.
.t goes !ithout saying that it !ou"d be !iced, not to say a cri#e,
for a husband to Cco#%e"C his !ife to engage in coitus during
%regnancy, against her !i"". )n the other hand, #any a !ife has first
ex%erienced an orgas# !hen #eeting her husband during %regnancy. The
reason for this is that her fear of beco#ing %regnant is not then
%resent&&a condition !hich has before e%t her fro# the c"i#ax.
.t is further true that #any a !ife !i"" great"y re"ieve and de"ight
her husband if, on occasion, and as both #ay desire, she !i"" re"ieve
hi# !ith her hand- or so#eti#es, that they engage in #utua" re"ief by
this #eans during %regnancy.
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.n c"osing this vo"u#e, the author !ishes to say, as in o%ening, that
no a%o"ogy is offered for !hat has been !ritten or said here!ith. (""
has been set do!n in "ove, by a "over, for the sae of "overs yet to
be, Cin the ho%e of he"%ing the# on to!ards a divine consu##ationC.
(s a fina" direction CAaster the (rt of LoveC, !hich is Cthe divinest
art in a"" the !or"d- then study, and do your best to #aster the
Science of ProcreationC. .t is these t!o, the (rt of Love and the
Science of Procreation, that, together, #ae #arried "ife a success.
Without these, or, sure"y, !ithout the first, there can be no such
thing as true #arriage. Hence, this is the CfirstC to "earn, to
#aster. .t is !orthy of the #ost carefu" study, the #ost faithfu"
ex%eri#ent.
.t is right for %eo%"e !ho never can have chi"dren to #arry, and to
share !ith each other #utua" sex de"ights. .t is far better for
a husband and !ife, having "earned the (rt of Love, to have
chi"dren&&and a ho#e.
Thrice ha%%y are the #arried "overs !ho "ive in the s%irit of this
senti#ent, exa"ted to the highest s%iritua" %"ane- and if, out of such
"ove exchanges chi"dren are begotten and born, and a %erfect ho#e is
estab"ished, then #arried "ife is !orth "iving. God has joined such
together and nothing can %ut the# asunder.
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This vo"u#e is not so#ething to be read once, and then %ut aside and
forgotten. .t shou"d be studied, ex%eri#ented u%on, read again and
again, es%ecia""y by those !ho have difficu"ties in #arried "ife to
overco#e. (nd for Ca""C young #arried %eo%"e, it shou"d be a sort
of Guide to Ha%%iness that shou"d be freBuent"y consu"ted and its
directions Ftried outF and fo""o!ed to the "i#it.
The fact is that, in true #arriage, neither the husband nor the !ife
can be se"fish"y su%re#e. .f se"fishness asserts itse"f, on the %art
of either husband or !ife, he"" is sure to fo""o!. There can be no
true #arriage under such circu#stances, because there is no su%re#acy
in true "ove, and it is on"y true "ove that can #ae an abiding true
#arriage. .n true #arriage, such as both God and +ature design shou"d
be, there is %erfect co#radery, eBua"s !a"ing !ith eBua"s, !ith the
%rinci%"e of "ove and #utua" he"%fu"ness shared a"ie by both. Let
no reader of this boo forget these %ri#a" facts, or fai" to act in
accordance !ith the#K ,or of such is the *ingdo# of HeavenK
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+o #atter !hat boos you have read on sex infor#ation, no #atter
!hat Buestion is agitating your #ind, the infor#ation given in this
!onderfu" boo !i"" so"ve your %rob"e#. 1r. 0obinson not on"y gives a
fu"" treatise on the de"icate for#ation of !o#an's !onderfu" body, but
he a"so ex%"ains the changes !hich fo""o! the inti#ate ex%eriences
of her sexua" "ife. Aen as !e"" as !o#en #ust no! !hat these changes
are. +o one, #arried or sing"e, can afford to be ignorant of the
no!"edge contained in this !onderfu" boo. )ne !o#an !rites' FWo#an'
Her Sex and Love Life has been a "ife saver to #e. .t has %revented a
serious error that !ou"d have been a b"ot u%on #y "ife.F
( ,/W ), TH/ L8 ;H(PT/0S
0easons !hy a #isste% in a gir" is #ore serious than in a boy
Sex no!"edge of %ara#ount i#%ortance to gir"s and !o#en
The !ife's attitude to!ard the #arita" re"ations
The fe#a"e sex organs
The sex instinct
Ho! to ee% a husband's "ove
Who #ay and #ay not #arry
(dvice to gir"s a%%roaching !o#anhood
.""egiti#ate #otherhood
(dvice to %arents of unfortunate gir"s
What is "oveJ
Late #arriages and chastity in #en
Har#fu" advice to young !o#en
Birth contro"
0egarding f"irtation
What a gir" has a right to de#and of her future husband
(dvice to the #arried or those about to be
.#%ortance of first fe! !ees of #arried "ife
.nfatuation #istaen for "ove
Wo#an as #an's chatte"
(dvice to the !ife of the f"irtatious #an
The %"ace "ove occu%ies in !o#an's "ife
(bortion and #iscarriage
Three venerea" diseases
Aeasures for %revention after sexua" re"ations
Aarita" re"ations and frigid !o#an
The gir" !ho "ost her virginity
Treat#ent of steri"ity
=ustifiab"e innocent dece%tion
)01/0 $)>0 ;)P$ of this i#%ortant and va"uab"e boo at once. $ou !i""
never regret it. ;ertain sing"e cha%ters are a"one !orth the %rice
ased for the entire boo.
6(dvertise#ent:
7S/?>(L T0>THS7
1r. W#. =. 0obinson, /ditor
544 Pages
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This is one of the #ost uniBue boos ever %rinted. .ts va"ue cannot
be judged si#%"y fro# this brief descri%tion. $ou #ust read it, beco#e
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readers te"" us that it is one of the fe! boos they refuse to "end
anybody&&because they a"!ays !ant it avai"ab"e.
FSexua" TruthsF co#es as an ans!er to the re%eated reBuests fro# sane,
sensib"e %eo%"e for the honest, straightfor!ard infor#ation about
sex !hich they cannot find e"se!here. .n this boo the fu"" "ight of
scientific reason %enetrates every corner of the sex Buestion. The
%hysica" #isery and the #enta" torture caused by fa"se teachings are
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the greatest Sexo"ogists have to say about this great Buestion of
"ife. 0ead the a%t and bri""iant co##ents of 1r. 0obinson.
)ne of the #ost va"uab"e cha%ters of this re#arab"e boo is that
!hich contains a re%rint of a fa#ous "etter by Benja#in ,ran"in,
no!n as F(dvice to a $oung Aan on ;hoosing a Aistress.F ,e! %eo%"e
are a!are that this "etter exists. The >nited States Govern#ent is
said to have %aid M84,444 for the origina". This Secret ,ran"in
Letter, in the esti#ation of #any %eo%"e, is a"one !orth the %rice of
the entire boo.
7Partia" Tab"e of ;ontents7
Aisa""iances and unha%%y #arriages' an i#%ortant but never referred to
cause
Sexua" abstinence and nervousness
;oitus interru%tus as cause of nervous disease
Sexua" hy%ochondria and #orbid scru%u"ousness
1oub"e standard of #ora"ity
;ontinence in the t!o sexes
.s it rea""y i#%ossib"e to #ae %rostitution har#"essJ
( %rob"e# in sexua" ethics
/ugenics, sexua" sin, ignorance, and su%erstition
.s P"atonic "ove nor#a"J
,e#a"e sex instinct in re"ation to #ora"ity
0egu"ation of offs%ring and sexua" #ora"ity
;oitus and night#ares
1istinctions bet!een #a"e and fe#a"e sex instinct
1eath during sexua" intercourse
,a"se accusation of ra%e
Stries against #arriage in ancient ti#es
0e#arab"e ex%eri#ent in venerea" %ro%hy"axis
/ffects of #asturbation- a genuine hu#an docu#ent
( re#arab"e "etter by Benja#in ,ran"in
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7L)@/7
C( Treatise on the Science of Sex (ttractionC
By Bernard S. Ta"#ey, A.1.
L23 Pages
282 .""ustrations
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C,or#er"y ML.44C&&+)W )+L$ M8.44
Because of the thoroughness and co#%"eteness of its contents and the
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!as for#er"y restricted to %hysicians. +o!, ho!ever, this unusua""y
va"uab"e boo has been #ade avai"ab"e to the genera" %ub"ic- to those
thoughtfu" #en and !o#en !ho desire to no! the rea" truths and the
inti#ate detai"s about sex and "ove.
Partia" Tab"e of ;ontents
Love and civi"iGation
Sex !orshi%
Aa"e interna" sex organs
,e#a"e interna" sex organs
Aa"e externa" genita"s
,e#a"e externa" genita"s
,unction of testic"es, s%er#atogenesis, function of se#ina" vesic"es,
%rostate, urethra" g"ands, se#en, erection, ejacu"ation, nervous
contro", organis#
,unction of ovaries, ovu#, #enstruation, uterus, fe#a"e ejacu"ation,
function of vagina, of c"itoris, course of the sexua" act
Nua"ity of %"easure, sy#%to#s of %"easure, orgas#, sy#%to#s of
after&"ust, intensity of "ibido, duration of co%u"ation
Love and %assion, deve"o%#ent of individua" "ove, characteristic of
the idea" !o#an's "ove
/#otions of eros and "ibido in #en and in !o#en, difference in the t!o
sexes, e#otion of jea"ousy, !o#an's for#er "ove&affairs
Sexua" desires in the o"d, in infants, causes of ear"y #asturbation
.#%otence in #a"e, satyriasis, ny#%ho#ania, continence and i#%otence,
excesses in co%u"ation, %ractice of !ithdra!a", four ty%es of
i#%otencies in #a"es, fe#a"e i#%otence, frigidity, steri"ity
/ngage#ent ru"es, !edding day, %ositions of conjugation, seBue"s of
great freBuency, %ain of def"oration, conjugation during #enstruation,
conjugation during %regnancy, %re%aration of the !o#an's #u"iebra
in %artia" frigidity, offs%ring and sexua" "ife, steri"e ti#e for
conjugation
History of #arriage, %ro#iscuity, consanguineous fa#i"y, fe#a"e
chastity, adu"tery, fe#a"e #ora"ity and reason
Prostitution, c"andestine vice, injury of abstinence, ethics of
evo"ution
This vo"u#e has never been so"d at any ti#e for "ess than ML.44.
But, in order to insure its !ides%read introduction, !e offer it at a
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