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HYPNOTIQUE 41
Years

HYPNOSIS : 41

NOVEMBER 2014

TRANCE : 5

VALUE IN VALUES
By Mr S Narayanan
A young man used to grumble that he misplaces and loses his
pen very often. Hence he used only very cheap pens so that he need
not worry about losing them. However, he was deeply worried about
his carelessness and sought the advise of his friend. The wise friend
suggested him to buy the costliest pen that he could afford and see
what happened. He reluctantly agreed and purchased a 22 carat
Cross pen.
After six months the friend asked whether he continued to misplace
his pen. The young man replied that he was very careful and protective
about his costly pen and was really surprised how he had never lost
it. He was extremely happy that the simple advise had changed him
so drastically. The friend explained to him that the value of the pen
made all the difference and that there was nothing wrong with him as a
person. This is what happens in our life too. We are careful with things
which we value most and careless with things that we do not value.
If we value our health, we will be careful about what and how we
eat; If we value our friends, we will treat them with respect; If we value
money, we will be careful while spending; If we value our time, we
will never waste it. If we value relationship we will not break it. If we
value our parents, we will always treat them with care. Carefulness
is a basic trait all of us have. Carelessness only shows what we
dont value.

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41
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THE TWO MOST IMPORTANT WORDS TO

YOUR DEVELOPMENT
By Kent Sayre, Author of Unstoppable Confidence
Im going to explain to you the two most important words to your
development. You will benefit from these words by integrating them
into your vocabulary and applying them.
START
The first word is start. To reach the end, you have to have a
beginning. Start things up. Let me tell you something you probably
already know but maybe hadnt thought about really consciously
until now. Many people describe their goals as When I become X
or When X happens where X is the condition theyre waiting for.
Just get up and get running. If you want to do something well, its
worth doing badly at first. Its the way we all learn. My philosophy
is to just start up and go for it. When I take one step, the next step
will be revealed to me. Sure, I may not know what the heck Im
doing and yet I believe in myself enough to figure it out. If I dont
know what to do, I have the second most important word to lean
on, which Ill describe sooner. Just take one step. Promise yourself
to take one small action every day.

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Again, there wont be any perfect time. Shoot, I can wait years
for the stars to align, for the ocean tide to be low, for my astrological
sign to be aligned with the moons of Jupiter and so on and so forth
until I get the right sign to begin. But meanwhile, Im burning up
my most precious commodity; my time.
When you burn up your time, its like youre taking the present
that the Universe/God/The Great Spirit is giving you and slapping it
away. And you can never get it back. My point is to just start doing
something. Do it badly if you must and just say, Hey, Im going
to find out some of the ways this wont work and when I run out
of ways it wont work, Im going to succeed. Its true. Run out of
ways NOT to succeed and youre bound for success.
Think about something you do incredibly well now. This could
be at your job, at home, with your hobby, with your family, or in
sports. At some point in your past, you probably werent as good
as you are now, right? You may have even been downright rotten.
What happened? You kept at it and you got better and now youre
successful at it. Well, anything you want to do well now but arent
so red hot at is just the same experience repeated.
Youve got all the resources in you to do it. This is undeniably
true. Youve been less-than-excellent in the past and now you are
excellent at something. You learned one skill which means you
can do it again, now. And right now! Not tomorrow, not the next
day. Now, now, now, now.
HELP
So after you get up and running, you may run into snags. Snags
are obstacles you meet on your journey to success. Still, I commend
you for using the first word start to get rolling. Now here comes
the second most important word to your personal development
ever. Are you ready? It is help. Help, to me, is a near magical
word. You can summon others to help you achieve what you want.

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Ask for help early and often. For whatever you want to do,
achieve, or solve, there is someone or something out there who not
only knows how to help you but who WANTS to help you too! They
may have already handled this challenge youre facing. Stubborn
pride will cost us a lot because we wouldnt ask for help from others.
We think we can do it all alone. We waste time fumbling around
while another person could have immediately helped us.
Any worthwhile pursuit will have snags along the way. So get
help when you find them. Defeat the snag and move on to bigger
and better things. And when you get help, pass along your expertise
to others so that everyone benefits.
There you go. Start and Help are the two words that will put
you on the path to achieving your every goal and living the life of
your dreams.
Congratulations. As you imagine leading your dream lifestyle,
you can picture it now so clearly, and tell yourself how great a
job you did, as you feel wonderful with this powerful sense of
achievementyou can remind yourself that you did it because you
got started and you asked for help along the way.

TRICKS OUR BRAIN PLAYS ON US

(A few examples of how our mind works subconsciously)
Think the decision you just made was based on the careful
evaluation of evidence? Find out if it was actually just your
brain playing tricks on you.
Most of us like to think we are in total control of the decisions
we make and that we know the underlying causes of our beliefs
and actions. In most cases, this is probably the case sometimes
however, there are psychological aspects at play.Take a look at
the following games our mind likes to play:

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You are more likely to say you enjoyed something if you

paid a lot of money for it.
This means that if you paid Rs 500 for a theatre ticket, you
are more likely to say you enjoyed it (even if you didnt) than
someone who paid Rs 100 for the same show. This is caused by
a phenomenon known as cognitive dissonance. Explained simply,
this occurs when your situation/actions/convictions contradict your
true belief.
So, when your actions (in this case paying Rs 1000 for a theatre
ticket) contradict with your beliefs (I know how to get good value for
money at the theatre), the only way to escape cognitive dissonance
is to change your belief regarding how good the play was.
You believe a price ending in 99 is cheap because of the
shape you make with your mouth when you say it.
Of course a price that ends in 99, such as Rs 499 will at first
appear cheaper as it is slightly cheaper than Rs 500. But another
more interesting reason why we are drawn to these prices is due
to the shape our mouths make when we say it. Words that force
our mouths to open wide are associated with large shapes, while
words that are smaller and more angular (i.e. tiny, mini, petite)
are associated with small things. A price ending in ninety-nine
therefore makes us think of a small price.
You are more likely to like a piece of art if the artist has an
unusual name.
A recent study revealed that when judging the merit of an
art piece we were partly influenced by the name of the artist.
Participants were split into two groups and were given the same
poem (attributed with two different named authors). It was found
that the group with the poem written by an unusual name found it
more creative than the group with a more common named author.

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We make financial decisions based on an illogical general

rule.
Lets imagine you have spent Rs 1.00 lac on a ticket to Italy
for the weekend. A few weeks later you book a Rs 0.50 lac ticket
to Spain for the weekend. You think you will enjoy the Spain trip
more than Italy. Later, you realise you have booked the two trips
for the same weekend and need to cancel one of them which
would you choose?
Over 50% of people would choose the more expensive Italy
trip, even though you think youll prefer Spain. This is because the
more you have invested in something (money, time, effort etc.) the
more reluctant you are to waste it, even if doing so would bring
you more happiness.

WHAT HAPPY COUPLES KNOW

By Purvaja Sawant, Courtesy : Times of India, Sep 9, 2014
Couples from across the globe share four basic rules of a happy
marriage. And guess what? Love and understanding arent top criteria
on that list!

In a world of instant gratification and quick-fix so lutions, when

someone talks about the `secret to a successful, happy marriage,
one is bound to snigger. After all, isnt `happily married an oxymoron
today? However, when relationship expert and author of Happy Wives
Club, Fawn Weaver, interviewed 10,000 happily-married couples from
110 countries across the world, she was quite surprised to find that
love and understanding werent topmost on a couples list to keep a
marriage going strong. She identified certain habits that happy couples
have in common across societies.We talk to experts and decode them.

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MARRIAGE BEFORE KIDS

Harsheen K Arora, clinical psychologist and relationship expert
says that in order to make parenthood work, couples need to make
their marriage work first. Your children get the first introduction to
what a relationship is from watching you and your spouse together.
Focussing on your relationship with your partner, especially after
you have had kids is very important.When one becomes a parent,
it becomes even more important to remember why you and your
spouse came together in the first place -the things you like about each
other, the things you like to do together -as these are the things that
keep you going even when you are in a stressful situation. Children
with happy, content parents have the best chance of growing up to
be happy, fulfilled adults. Putting your marriage first doesnt mean
neglecting your kids - it meansinvesting in the fundamental glue that
holds your family together.
DIVORCE ISNT AN OPTION
Most of the couples had decided at the start of their marriage that
they would subtract divorce from the equation, no matter what. Take
the example of Holly wood star couple Will Smith and Jada Pinkett.
Despite the temptations and pressures of celebrity life, they have
been married for 17 years and recently confessed that one of the
reasons their marriage has survived is because they didnt have a
plan B. What I found is divorce just cant be an option. Its really that
simple. So a huge part of the success for (Jada) and I is that we just
removed the other options, said Will in a TV interview.
ENHANCE THE ROMANCE
Do you laugh at couples who have a silly, daily ritual of romance?
Believe it or not, maintaining small rituals can drastically enhance,
sustain and build a more meaningful marriage. From having breakfast
together every morning to keeping aside time to watch a movie every
week, each of the couples interviewed maintained at least one practice
for years. Psychiatrist Dr Samir Parikh says, What couples refer to

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as rituals, are in fact spontaneous patterns that have formed over the
years.These rituals or patterns form because of similar interests and
understandings that partners hold, and these rituals then move on to
form a unique sense of dyad - creating an identity of togetherness.
Even when couples hit a rough patch, these patterns can serve as a
defence and continue to remind the partners about the good times
that theyve shared.
TOO MUCH EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCE IS BAD
Dr Uttam Dave, sexologist and relationship counsellor explains,
Too much togetherness can be claustrophobic for both partners.
By venturing out, they can share their experiences with each other
and build an ongoing line of communication. It will also give them
some personal space. A hobby is a very good way to unwind the
stress of daily living and return rejuvenated to the relationship. It
also keeps the heart chakra in balance, which is responsible for a
good relationship. By maintaining separate identities, couples arent
emotionally dependent on one another for their well-being, which
helps their marriage thrive.
MUTUAL RESPECT ISNT OPTIONAL
Constructive communication is the key while humbly remaining
open to each others views. Supporting and encouraging each others
individual dreams and aspirations while also having some shared
dreams. Role demarcations for shared living based on individual skill
sets with independent decision-making.Suggestions can be given, but
the final authority lies with the one whose role it is.
Agree to disagree respectfully if preferences, likes and dislikes
do not match. Strike a balance between `we timespace and `me
timespace, negotiating the dailyweekly schedule in a mutually
acceptable way. Listen to each other attentively, empathically, and
actively without any prejudice or assumptions.

- Dr Rajan Bhonsle, Psychotherapist

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THE MAGIC POWER OF SWITCHWORDS

By Shunyam Nirav, Author of Switchwords
Wouldnt it be great to have a magic wand that you could
just wave at any situation or creative project, and have it turn
out beneficially just as you wish? Actually, we all have such a
wand! However, most of us have not been aware of it, and
have never received an instruction manual for its use. (So I wrote
one!)
Your Word is Your Magic Wand
Your word is your wand. If you think about this, you are likely to
become aware that thought is creative. Intentional creative thoughts
bring about intentional desired results.
Intentional creative thoughts can take the form of images or
words, or both. We can envision an image and be grateful like its
really already so (for example, a trip to Hawaii or making a million
dollars). Or we can declare or affirm a beneficial condition or state
of affairs, in words (for example, My connection to infinite being and
infinite intelligence is always sufficient to yield me a huge financial
fortune) and be grateful also for that being so. Or we can do both
image and text together.
The affirmations or declarations that most people use are
complete sentences, but a pioneer named James Mangan in
the past century identified about a hundred single words that
are extraordinarily effective when used as an intentional creative
thought, to bring about a specific desired result.
Using a single word to create with, instead of a long
sentence (as in conventional affirmations or creative
declarations), brings a greatly increased laser-like focus of
your creative energy in this single moment of NOW.

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A switchword is the essence of an experience, condition, or

desired result, expressed as a single word. Declare, affirm, chant,
sing, or even just mentally intend the switchword, and like turning
on an electric lamp with a switch, the desired result reliably appears.
For example: one of the most practically useful ones is: REACH.
to find anything youre looking for, such as:
Misplaced items in the physical world (keys, papers, tools, etc.);
Forgotten ideas or information in your mind or memory (names,
numbers, etc); Solutions to problems.
Whenever you misplace something, or are searching for
something, or want to solve a problem, just persistently declare or
chant, silently or aloud, REACH. Then let yourself go wherever
you feel to, and watch yourself go directly to what you are looking
for! Some aspect of your being knows where it is, and REACH
reliably makes the connection! Practice it ... it really works! Very
useful in everyday life! Similarly...
*Whenever you want to sell something, say: GIVE.
*Whenever you want to make money: COUNT.
*Whenever you want to make something beautiful: CURVE.
*For good health, and/or for peace: BE.
*To work miracles, or for extraordinary accomplishment: DIVINE.
And about 90 more for other specific purposes! plus one masterkey switchword to do anything with mastery:TOGETHER.
Using switchwords, you can easily enjoy increased creative
power, effectiveness, accomplishment, fun, prosperity, liveliness,
togetherness, life mastery, and life satisfaction.

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TWO PEARLS
By Mr S Narayanan
Jenny was a bright-eyed, pretty five-year-old girl.
One day when she and her mother were checking out at the
grocery store, Jenny saw a plastic pearl necklace priced at $2.50.
How she wanted that necklace and when she asked her mother if
she would buy it for her, her mother said, Well, it is a pretty necklace,
but it costs an awful lot of money. Ill tell you what. Ill buy you the
necklace, and when we get home we can make up a list of chores
that you can do to pay for the necklace. And dont forget that for your
birthday Grandma just might give you a whole dollar bill, too. Okay?
Jenny agreed, and her mother bought the pearl necklace for her.
Jenny worked on her chores very hard every day, and sure enough,
her Grandma gave her a brand new dollar bill for her birthday. Soon
Jenny had paid off the pearls.
How Jenny loved those pearls. She wore them everywhere to
kindergarten, bed, and when she went out with her mother to run
errands. The only time she didnt wear them was in the shower - her
mother had told her that they would turn her neck green. Now Jenny
had a very loving daddy. When Jenny went to bed, he would get up
from his favorite chair every night and read Jenny her favorite story.
One night when he finished the story, he said, Jenny, do you love
me?
Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you, the little girl said.
Well, then, give me your pearls.
Oh! Daddy, not my pearls! Jenny said. But you can have Rosie,
my favorite doll. Remember her? You gave her to me last year for
my birthday. And you can have her tea party outfit, too. Okay?
Oh no, darling, thats okay. Her father brushed her cheek with
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A week later, her father once again asked Jenny after her story,
Do you love me?
Oh yes, Daddy, you know I love you.
Well, then, give me your pearls.
Oh, Daddy, not my pearls! But you can have Ribbons, my toy
horse. Do you remember her? Shes my favorite. Her hair is so soft,
and you can play with it and braid it and do everything. You can have
Ribbons if you want her, Daddy, the little girl said to her father.
No, thats okay, her father said and brushed her cheek again
with a kiss. God bless you, little one. Sweet dreams.
Several days later, when Jennys father came in to read her a
story, Jenny was sitting on her bed and her lip was trembling. Here,
Daddy, she said, and held out her hand. She opened it and her
beloved pearl necklace was inside. She let it slip into her fathers
hand. With one hand her father held the plastic pearls and with the
other he pulled out of his pocket a blue velvet box.
Inside of the box were real, genuine, beautiful pearls.
He had them all along. He was waiting for Jenny to give up the
cheap stuff so he could give her the real thing!
REFLECTION
So it is with God. HE is waiting for us to give up the petty things
in our lives so that he can give us beautiful treasures.
Are we holding onto things which God wants us to let go of?
Are we holding onto harmful or unnecessary partners, relationships,
habits and activities which we have become so attached to that it
seems impossible to let go?
Sometimes it is so hard to see what is in the other hand that
we should believe in one thing.................God will never take away
something without giving us something better in its place

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HOW TO MAKE IT HAPPEN THROUGH DREAMS

by Ms Ananthi Karthic

The word dreams has two meanings. One is the kind that we
get when we are asleep, and the other is the kind that we make
up in our heads as the things we wish to achieve. We have no
control over the ones we get in our sleep. But the ones we make
up ourselves are entirely our choice. We can dream of anything,
but to make these dreams come true is not as easy as making
them up. But, as they say, you can never win unless you play the
game, right? So here are some tips on how to make that dream
happen.
Dreams Are Free
Heres another clich for you:. The best things in life are free!
This isnt always true. But in terms of dreaming, it is free. You can
dream to be anything you want to be. You can dream of anything
you want to have. Go on. Nobody will ridicule you for wanting or
wishing for something. Make a list of your dreams and see which
ones come true after some time. Of course, if it is something
that you want to actually happen, keep your dreams realistic and
attainable through hard work and perseverance.
Seek Help
Just like any goal, there are no shortcuts to a dream. Most of
the time, we need to learn and work hard to achieve our goals.
Also, it is best to seek help from someone who knows about your
dreams. Find someone who has been there and done that. Learn
from the pointers that will be given. Learn from the mistakes
that have been made, and be sure not to repeat them. Having a
teacher, a mentor, or guide will assure you of not falling into traps
or getting lost along the way.

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Go for It
Now that you know all about your goals, it is about time to do
something about them and go for your dreams! A fairy godmother
will not appear to make everything happen for you. No genie will
pop out of the lamp to grant your wishes. It is you who has to
choose to go for it. Accept the fact that your dream requires hard
work and a lot of possible sacrifices.
Be Brave
In the process of reaching for your dreams, you will meet a lot of
obstacles. Just like any video game, there will be villains or people
who will try to discourage you or beat you to your goal. Be brave
and fight for your dream. There may be problems and hardships
along the way, but always bear in mind just how much you want
to achieve your dream. Also, remember the triumph you aim for
and that it will be worth it.
Enjoy the Ride
The joy of achieving a goal does not only lie at the end of the
journey. As you go through your journey to greatness, always
remember to Stop and smell the roses. What does this mean?
Every day is an adventure. Be able to enjoy each day so that
whether you achieve your goal or not, you can say that the journey
was worth the effort.
Go Back to Square One
In the end, whether you achieve your goals or not, you should
never stop there. This cycle and the game of life and dreams
should never end for you. Just like any board game, you can
always go back to square one. If this dream does not work out for
you, go find a new one. Life is unpredictable. Who knows what it
has in store for you in the future? Do not get discouraged. Keep
dreaming and do something to make it happen.

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FOUR STEPS TO HAPPINESS

by Hypno Showkat Ali

Step #1: Focus on the things that bring you joy - Write down
3 things that you truly enjoy doing. It can be anything ~ reading,
writing, hanging with friends, etc. Once you know these things,
fit a chunk of time for each activity into your weekly schedule.
Doing even a few things that you love on a consistent basis can
dramatically increase your overall happiness.
Step #2: Stop over-thinking - Our minds can often be our
worst enemies. If you find yourself over-analyzing, worrying or
obsessing about a certain situation, take conscious action to let it
go. Face your emotions, talk to someone you trust for advice, do
what can be done about the situation and then setyourself free
from over-thinking.
Step #3: Take action on something - Is there something
youve been holding back on in your life? Perhaps youve been
waiting for the right moment to say something to a loved one, or
youve been wanting to ask your boss to take on a new project,
or anything else take a leap of faith and do it now! There will
never be the perfect moment, so stop wasting your time waiting
for it. The universe rewards action, so do what needs to be done,
today :)
Step #4: Follow your inner voice - Trust yourself, listen to
your instincts and believe in yourself to do the right thing. You are
an infinitely powerful being with limitless knowledge. Love yourself
and do what makes YOU feel good!

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Hypnotique Circle (Madras)

Heartily invites all its Members and Guests for the
Monthly Meeting on Sunday, the 9th November 2014
at Hotel Palmgrove, Kodambakkam High Road, Chennai - 34
* Free for Members

* Guest Investment Rs 200/-

2.29 pm : Welcome Address

2.35 pm : Self In(tro)duction by Members and Guests
2.45 pm : Pleasure Upon Pressure
Ms Rajalakshmi Jayaram,
Corporate Trainer, Bangalore
4.15 pm : Tea
4.45 pm : How Full Is Your Bucket ? Ms Swapna Nair,
Teacher, Trainer & Counsellor
5.15 pm : Interactions

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