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The Golden Rule of Natural Game;

Immaculate state, Rites of Passage and the
Nimbus.
The golden rule of natural game is: whatever you feel, she feels.
Welcome to the natural game article that is the basis of everything you do in your
socio-emotional life. It is important to note the golden rule of natural game is at the root
of everything in natural game and not a tactic that you can deploy or implement.
The golden rule of natural game is deeper than that. Its not a move or a routine, it a
deep core phenomenon that will govern whether anything you say will work. The
golden rule is the ultimate and defining factor behind whether or not you get the girl. A
= HV + E, If you feel good you are attractive because you offer good emotions. This
come when you re alignment with your natural self with is inherently high value.
As a result of hundreds of internal and external emotional stimuli you have gone
through the word experiencing many different emotional feelings. Most of the time
these confuse and overwhelm you causing you to feel horrible and out of control.
These feelings steadily erode your happiness in life. This includes eroding your
success in the game, your social life and with women.
When I refer to whatever you feel I mean the emotional feeling you experience during
the interaction combined with the thoughts that influence your emotional state.
Basically, how you feel and what you think.
Broken down even further, whatever you feel is the sensation your body and
unconscious is exposing your conscious to and what your reticular activation system
(you conscious attention) is focused on.

Two separate things that will be individually examined, but both are intricately and
unavoidably linked. If you dont take responsibility for feel your body and conscious
mind can overpower you and control how you feel. Or you can implement will power
and take responsibility for how you want to feel.
When I refer to she feels in reference to whatever you feel I mean what emotional
state you influence the girl with and the impression that you consciously make on her.
Simply, how you make her feel and what conclusion she will form about you.

Some of the variables that govern what you feel are the following: State, frame, ego,
self esteem, your biology, your current physical status, your expectations of yourself,
your perception of others expectations of you, your relative comfort zone, your
contextual comfort zone and many others.
All of these things are different perspectives of the same object that is your state of
emotion. A lot of people from different schools of thought come at this from different
angles. Until you look at all the variables collectively you will fail to see the bigger
picture and examine state incorrectly. It is imperative to understand that all these
elements are intertwined and to examine one element is to examine all elements.
For example, your state can dictate your self esteem, while in a different circumstance
your expectations of yourself can bruise or inflate your ego. I will look at many how you
feel variables individually before building up to a bigger holistic picture. Once we have
that established we can then begin to understand the influence it has on you and the
viral influence it will have on others around you.

But the focus question is how does this help you get girls? As mentioned in most of my
other articles if you feel good the girl will feel good. The primary goal in everyones life
is to have a good feeling while simultaneously avoiding bad feelings. You want to
perpetually feel good. If you can be a perpetual source of good feelings to girls while
simultaneously inspiring a fear of loss you are going to be extremely naturally
attractive. This is pure and non-manipulative attraction.
You want to get into a headspace where you CANT HAVE BAD FEELINGS. that way
the golden rule of natural game states that you CANT NOT be attractive. This is the
goal of immaculate inner game. This is not to be confused with a false and forced good
feeling which is as transparent as glass.If you constantly feel good all the other skills
and mindsets relevant to natural game will fall into place for you. The golden rule of
natural game is that important.
Achieve a perpetual good feeling and you will become extremely attractive to more
girls than you can even handle.

The golden rule of natural game starts on a biological level; gender

polarity.
Feeling good is essentially a biological and chemical state governed by your bodys
hormones. This is a natural process which plays a significant role in natural game.
With good hormones you feel good and with bad hormones you feel bad.
A good feeling is like walking through the world with ease without a care in the world
and even a natural euphoria. A bad feeling is the sick feeling you get in your chest and
abdomen when you lose state, get dumped or feel down. The feelings you experience
is a result of the processes of your viscera.
The viscera is the name given to your internal organs that are part of the innervated
network that is your peripheral nervous system. When you get the feeling of heartbreak
you get an acute heart sinking feeling while on the other hand when you feel euphoric
you experience an Im flying feeling. While many factors play a part in defining your
state, its your brain that dictates the majority of the feelings you experience in your
viscera controlled by nerve impulses.
You brain regulates the hormones that are released in your body triggering the feelings
that you have. The hormones that are released are a result of your thought process.
Your thoughts process is a product of your mindset. Your mindset is your

understanding or perception of the world. For most people their mindset is socially
conditioned.
When you are unnaturally socially conditioned your mindset will give you a negative
self perception and negative world views. This perception will generate massive
amounts of negative thought processes. These thought processes will catalyse
hormones that give you negative feelings in your viscera. You feel bad about yourself
and you feel unhappy. If you feel unhappy the girl will feel unhappy and she will not be
attracted to you.
But if you have a natural, non socially conditioned mindset you will have positive
feelings. Positive feelings are your default natural state. Positivity, self esteem,
optimism, self assurance and mojo are all your natural mindset before they are
confiscated from you by social conditioning.
A positive mindset is the origin of thoughts that catalyse hormone release that cause
you to feel good all the time. Think of a little kid as an example as he runs around
doing whatever he wants feeling happy.
Its not until young children are disciplined to not be happy by social conditioning that
their internal compass is forced out of alignment with their default natural happy self
and pushed into the direction of social conditioning.
If your thoughts, which also give rise to your actions, are in alignment with your natural
default male mindset you will always feel good. When this is the case the golden rule
predicts that you will make women around you feel good. If you always feel good then
you will make any girl you ever meet feel good. You are perpetually attractive and
inescapably (CANT NOT BE) a sexworthy man.
Dont forget that the things that give you a good feeling are acutely different from what
gives women a good feeling. Im talking purely in terms of emotional and innate good
feelings. On a more complex level people can feel good temporarily when they think
they are supposed to.
When you get the deeper happy feeling you feel fulfilled. Sometimes you see people
who dont seem happy, but they are satisfied with their situation in life. It is a deep
happiness. When you are fulfilled it is a much more powerful feeling than happiness.

For a male example of happiness and fulfilment take the instance of a farmer. The
farmer works hard for little to no wealth. He is the manager and king of his ranch, hes
always growing and planning the kingdom that is his property and assets. The buck
stops with him and hes the bearer of massive responsibility. Hes decisive, light
hearted and self assured through experience.
The farmer is simple but hes fulfilled. This is a much deeper good feeling than the
socially conditioned good feelings of wealth, friends, status, fame or fortune that were
erroneously lead to believe will fulfil us. A man is fulfilled when he has responsibility
and a woman to look after.
In the case of women good feelings and fulfilment mean something completely
different. Take for example the farmers wife. Shes not wealthy nor does she have the
money for cosmetics treatments over pedicures and superficial gossip. She works in a
support capacity at a far lesser output than the men around her. She diffuses conflict
when there are confrontations.
A woman is only really satisfied when those around her are happy, well fed, clean and
at peace. She is generous and proud to be so. She is caring and catering and looks to
help others achieve success. This is female nature and the good feelings that come
from that give a far deeper happiness and fulfilment than the superficially of status,
money, skinniness and MySpace profiles that girls are lead to believe will give them
fulfilment. A women will feel fulfilled when she is taken responsibility of, chosen by and
taken care of by a worthy man.
In short, a man feels good when he is on his path, positive-dominant (woo + intent)
and living in the moment. Contrastingly a woman feels good when she is whisked up in
the adventure, along for the ride and living the emotional rollercoaster that is being
involved with an involve-worthy man.
An involve-worthy man is one who is fulfilled and who lives in congruence with his
natural masculine self. Men are motivated by the good feelings that come from
adventure, building, dividing and conquering whereas women are motivated by
harmony, love, family and nurturing.
Evolutionarily men and women go together perfectly. Women are designed to bring
people together. The females that tamed the wild men the best would survive. The
men that divided, conquered, killed and adventured more than all the others would

have passed on their genes. Its the eternal yin and yang that continues to drive natural
selection to select quality genes.
[Though this sounds sexist against either men or women is not the intention, many
things will make either men or women happy, but at the deepest level of fulfilment there
are specific gender roles that are naturally preset. In the context of natural game I refer
to the deeper evolutionarily preset emotional states. Of course in this day and age
cognitive will power, drugs and psychological disorders can nullify a persons naturally
preset desires. While all men and women consciously choose to some extent what
they do and dont like, deep down all will recognise the truth in what I am saying.]
If you are in alignment with your natural masculine mindsets you will automatically
behave in ways that make you feel good. Naturally, this also makes women feel good.
Naturally this is very attractive.
The way a women is attracted to you and the way she gets good feelings from you can
be described metaphorically by the way you are drawn to and entertained by a good
movie. Attraction is a combination of high value plus a full range of emotions. If you
notice a movie that you perceive presents itself well you become exited and aroused
and are inspired to see it. The movie is high value because it looks quality and enticing
the from the outset. These factors all stimulate good feelings.
If the plot of the movie is good and there is a range of emotions experienced by the
audience as a by product of a well made movie (expression) it will be a very
entertaining and arousing experience. It will even make you feel comfortable as it takes
responsibility for you as you relax and watch it.
While watching a movie, you are fully aroused and experience a full emotional work
out. This is the same process a woman goes through when she is becoming attracted
to a man. When a woman sees a man she thinks she might like she becomes exited.
Then, as she speaks with him and he doesnt try to impress her, he just expresses
himself, she gets a good emotional work out. She feels very good.
When a man takes pride in himself, has self assurance and is unstifled in doing
whatever he wants to do he will perpetually feel good. He will give the women around
him a massive range of emotions. Hes doing what men do while girls involved become
aroused by it. This is the natural way each gender feels good.

[This is a skill called being involvement worthy. Once mastered you cannot be blown
out of set. An article on this skill set is under construction and will be published on this
blog soon.]

The golden rule operates on a deeper biological level; neuroanatomy.

In your mammalian brain there is an ancient subconscious evolutionary part of your
brain that automatically decodes non verbal signals. Non verbal communication was
the only means of communication for millions of years. This complex grey matter
device allows you to communicate non-verbally with other mammals almost
telepathically.

A lot of people use their cognitive brains to over think and outsmart their otherwise
accurate instinctive social intuition. Usually the cognitive brain causes people to
misinterpret communication incorrectly by overanalysing it. This cognitive overanalyses
causes social confusion and sends signals to the girls around you that you lack social
calibration and social confidence. This gives rise to bad feelings for you and hence, the
girl.
Think about the last time you had a conversation with your pet dog or cat. Even though
that mammal has never spoken a word to you, you as a mammal yourself you can
instinctively tell how it feels very clearly. For example you know when a dog is tired,
scared exited or timid. This goes the same for people when you stop trying to

overanalyse what they are saying with words and tune into the accurate natural and
ancient non-verbal communication channels.
When you travel to places where people dont speak your language you become more
attractive and your game instantly goes to the next level. When interacting with people
from other languages you focus more on pure natural emotional communication that is
universal language amongst all humans.
With this simple non-cognitive and illogical communication good feelings are quickly
aroused like the twists and turns in a good and unpredictable movie. In this natural
communication the natural good feelings arent stifled by social conditioning which
exists only when two people are speaking the language in which they were taught to
be socially conditioned. That is why people love travelling and talking to exotic
members of the opposite sex.
The brain uses ancient and complex structures called mirror neurones to get a reading
of how the other person is feeling in order to quickly determine whether the person
might pose a threat or be a source of value.
According to world renowned neuropsychiatrist Louanne Brizendine M.D, author of
The Female Brain, women unconsciously use mirror neurones to literally internalise
your physical state to form a sense and perception about you. This obviously was very
important in an evolutionarily sense because for millions of years mammals didnt have
the convenience of spoken words and language to ask about danger.
Louanne Brizendine M.D. says that women have a near telepathic ability to sense
what you are thinking and feeling. This ability evolved due to gender polarity, men
being able to manipulate their surrounds with physical force while women had a limited
ability to do so. If a women could sense whether she was in some kind of danger from
the people around her she would have a massive evolutionary advantage and pass on
her genes.
When you approach, a womans automatic processes kick in and the mirror neurones
will cause the girl you are approaching to unconsciously mirror and internalise your
body language, breathing rate, posture and in some instances muscle tension. Women
literally unconsciously adopt your approaching body language in order to make an
instantaneous judgement about what sort of guy you are.

A woman will be compelled to feel whatever you are feeling at the point when you
approach her and even beforehand as you begin to cross the room towards her. If you
are nervous you will make her feel nervous, if you are confident you will make her feel
confident. When you approach a women you influence her with whatever you are
feeling at that point in time.
When approaching women this automatic psychosomatic reaction has several
repercussions. Firstly the girls can tell what sort of a guy you are long before you even
get near them, meaning that they are sure to be attracted before you get to her if you
are an attractive guy who is feeling good.
If you are a crappy guy with ego and low self esteem then that would be communicated
long before you get close to the girl you are approaching. The girl will have formed and
in depth emotional opinion about you before you have even opened your mouth. If
youre a bad dude at your core you dont even stand a chance. Unless you are a
master manipulator of Oscar wining magnitude.

Once you get to the girl and you begin to talk to her she is then going to be in a
position where she really cannot avoid adopting your state be it good or bad. As a
random stranger approaching a girl she will have all senses tuned to who you are and
what you are trying to propose to her.
If you are going to approach you need to be aware of this and take the necessary
responsibilities.

Simply, if youre in a bad state youre going to be blown out very quickly but if youre in
a good state not only will the girl want to talk to you she will want you to stick around so
she can revel in the good feelings you are bringing her.
When you feel good all the time you will notice that the girl will start GAMING YOU and
pursue you to continue interacting with you to get more and more good feelings from
you.

State becomes reality becomes state; male and female sources of

state.
Moving away from the deeper scientific level of state influence the golden rule can be
understood in more conversational terminology familiar to pick up and general
psychology.
On the level of natural emotions and sociology mans source of state is different from a
womans source of state. A man has to take responsibility for drawing state from within
whereas women will be influenced from state surrounding her in her environment. Men
are internally influenced whereas women are externally influenced, that is to say men
are proactive and women are reactive.
In a nightclub men often stand around clasping a beer in low state. They are both
stifled and looking for an external factor to pump their state that will never come. On
the other hand when a girl is in a night club she is state pumped to the point of frenzy
with things like music, lights, alcohol, friends, guys drama all influencing and
stimulating her state. Girls go to the club because it is a source of fun and state, guys
traditionally go to the club because there will be girls there.
Furthermore think of a girls bedroom compared to a guys bedroom. Girls get their
state from their environment so they tend to keep their rooms stimulating and hygienic.
This means most girls rooms will have posters, pictures, candles, music, trinkets,
perfumes et cetera to simulate them and keep them feeling good. The reason why girls
like things to be hygienic is because when things are dirty they will literally internalise a
feeling of dirty. This applies to hygiene, not tidiness or messiness.
Contrastingly think of a your room as a guy. Functional, if you didnt have anyone to
impress or manage impressions of you wouldnt really care if the room stank, was
mouldy and had dirty clothes lying around. Even if you are in an unhygienic or

undesirable environment it doesnt have much influence on your state because you
state is sourced internally.
Carl Jung, a famous psychologist said that perception is projection. Perception and
projection are one and the same thing. This is the same as saying that feeling is
influence or that influence is feeling. One and the same thing, but two different
causalities.
What a man feels becomes his influence, what influences a women becomes her
feeling. As you can see this underlying gender polarity phenomena is at work all the
time. When you have a feeling it becomes influence, it influences the feelings of the
girls around you. Whatever you feel, she feels. The golden rule of natural game cannot
be escaped.
On a cognitive level this is true as well. Perception is projection. How you feel and what
you think are intrinsically intertwined. In the same way that men are naturally different
in terms of feelings and influence the same pattern is evident in terms of perception
being reality. For men perception becomes reality and for women reality becomes
perception.

People are always pinging and getting a sense of self by being labelled and seeking
validation from others. A persons reality is a result of their constructed self (ego),
which is a product of their sense of self. If they think they are cool because everyone
tells them they are that forms their reality. In this case reality dictates their perception.
For guys their reality is forced upon them by social conditioning. So, in most cases
reality (social conditioning) becomes perception (chode way of thinking about
themselves).
This is true of women. Their sense of self is like a societal mirror. Society defines their
value evolutionarily through their face value. At a snap decision a women is judged to
have value based on her appearance. This judgement system is reality impacting on a

womans sense of self. For socially conditioned guys and women, in an evolutionary
sense, people (reality) around them force them to think a certain way about themself.
People in their reality force a self perception onto themself.
For a man who is not socially conditioned, is natural and has no ego he can continually
work towards whatever he wants to become. That is to say, he can set a goal of an
image for himself and work towards it. The more he dedicates his mind to it, the more it
self-fulfils and the more it becomes true.
What he believes of himself (his perception) becomes his reality when it accepted by
the people around him. By this same token what he projects onto weaker minded betamales and females usually become true. In their reality external sources define who
they are, this includes natural alpha males dictating who and what beta males and
women are. Alpha males are very influential.
So, naturally men have urges to adventure, divide, concur and take what they want.
This happens because no one prevents it from happening in their default state. Their
desires become reality.
When alpha males do what they want in interactions with women and beta males the
women and beta males fall into their FRAME and take what the alpha male projects
onto them as being true. Because of alpha males, reality becomes perception for
women and beta males.
Perception (alpha male) becomes reality (what alpha male does and what he projects
onto others) becomes perception (women and beta males internalise what is projected
onto them by alpha males).

What this means in field is that if you take responsibility for who you want to be, and
who you want to be is in alignment with your natural alpha self, people more often than
not will see you how you see yourself. They form a sense of the world based on what

alpha males project into the world. The way you see yourself, women and beta males
will see you that way as well. Its almost hypnotic. Whatever alpha males think, females
and beta males think.
Emotionally the same casual chain is going on but on a deeper level. Your sense of
self is deeply implicated in the way you feel on a moment to moment basis. If you are
alpha and living in congruence with what you are as a man you will feel good. If you
are beta you will be living out of alignment with what you are as a man and feel very
bad. Step to a girl as a beta male and you will feel bad and make her feel bad.
Approach a girl feeling good about living in alignment with your masculine alpha-male
self and you will make her feel good.
Good feeling becomes reality. You influence the world with how you feel and it
becomes the girls feeling. She feels good because you as her environment influence
her state. You get the girl.
Whatever you feel, she feels.
You can achieve this really easily, you just need to take responsibility for your state and
content of though. It requires will power in the same way a diet requires will power. If
you dont have the capacity to exercise will power you simply dont deserve success
with girls.
The all encompassing difference between you being an alpha male and beta male is
your ability take responsibility for how you want to think about yourself and how much
you are going to let your natural good emotions be compromised. If you are lazy you
will live a sad and lonely life and you will feel guilty about getting girls with canned
lines.
If you take responsibility you will get quality girls, you will feel you deserve quality girls
and you will keep quality girls in your life.

Welcome to the real world; the Conscious implications of the golden

rule in field.
It is extremely important to understand the conceptual structures, gender polarity and
biological science of natural game to give you confidence in the underlying automatic
processes behind what you are implementing. But what is even more important is

understanding how this works on a real world level and how it is going to help you to
become very good with girls.
On a conscious level there is massive amounts of useless cognitive noise occupying
your headspace. This is commonly known as being inside your head. This is
especially apparent if you are in a headspace where you are trying to assimilate what
you are reading and learning about social dynamics with what you are actually putting
into practice in field.
These conscious thinking processes are highly detrimental for your field results. I will
go over the things that that will consciously cause you to feel bad and cause the girl
you interact with feel bad.
Sometimes you wont even be aware of some of the things proposed but once
enlightened you will begin to recognise how the these conscious things can be
detrimental and take control of them. Once aware of them you can negate them early
and prevent negative thoughts and feelings. Therefore preventing yourself from
transferring negative thoughts and feelings to the girl.
The most prominent and evil force occupying your conscious headspace is the old
enemy the EGO. Think of your conscious space as RAM on a computer. When you are
consciously trying to maintain ego by dedicating headspace to projecting a certain
imagine while simultaneously dedicating headspace to managing the prevention of
making a bad impression your conscious headspace is going to be massively
burdened.
The conscious mind is the human part of the brain that is strapped on top of the
emotional brain. Your natural brain is an inherently attractive thing that is constantly
giving you impulses to act naturally which would actually be expressive and attractive
behaviour.

The conscious evolved brain interferes with the ancient natural brain. In the ancient
brain there is the blueprint of how to get girls. The conscious brain second guesses the
unconscious impulsive brain and causes you to act indecisively which will result in your
behaving with a lack of confidence and being unattractive to girls.
This conflict continually occupies your conscious headspace acting in the same way a
virus would on a computer. Instead of running smoothly and decisively which would
result in confident attractive behaviour you are compromised as a result of your own
internal conflict. Internal conflict makes you feel bad. If you feel bad the girl will feel
bad.
This destructive self doubting process is extremely obvious in the case of ego
projection and protection.
In the case of ego projection you are always worried and looking to be validated in the
way you want others to see you. Instead of relaxing socially and feeling good you are
always concerned, nervous and anxious as to whether or not people see you the way
you want them to see you. This can give you massive internal conflict, make you feel
very bad and then influence the girls you talk to with a bad feeling.
In the case of ego protection you are always concerned, anxious and nervous as to
whether people might try and label you or interpret you in a way that you dont foresee
that could potentially be a bad thing. So you dedicate you headspace to taking actions
that arent natural but actually directed towards introverting yourself, treading on
eggshells and being afraid to make a bad impression. Of course if you are always
suffering the internal conflict of ego protection then you will feel bad and influence the
girls you talk to with a bad feeling.
On another level if you are feeling bad because of ego protection and ego projection
you will be reactive and live in other peoples frames. When this is happening you dont
give the girl emotions because you are reacting to her and nor are you higher value
than the girl because you are reacting to her.
Ego can only live in a person when they are in a thinking headspace. Dont think, lose
ego.
You didnt have an ego before you began to think. Plus, if you approach a girl with an
ego she can sense you are second guessing your natural self. In addition to

influencing the girl with a bad feeling when you second guess your natural self then
you communicate to girls that your natural self isnt good enough.
Girls automatically think that if you need to impress an ego onto her you must be
second guessing what you are as a man and she is put into the headspace that you
are less of a naturally attractive man that you should be.
On the dark side of things ego can give rise to a good feeling and a strong reality. As a
guy, if everyone all your life projects onto you that you are cool or attractive, if you
werent already aware of that you will begin to identify with it. You will perpetually feel
good on a shallow level because everyone always influences you with good feelings.
But, when you cold-approach you will still be looking for validation from the girl. In
social circle situations a guy with a big Im cool and attractive ego feels great in that
context. But, if a strong ego guy cold-approaches out of that context he wont have that
good feeling that he gets from his social circle and his powers of positive influence will
be dashed.
Sometimes though, arrogant egotistical guys have such a strong reality as continually
reinforced by those around him that he believes it so strongly himself that when he
meets a new girl she can become influenced by his self perception and see him in the
self aggrandised way he sees himself.
This is evident in examples of sports stars, cool kids at school, thugs and gang
members. Also, its rare to find natural and non egotistical guys in the world so the
strong reality guys often get girls by default.
Even furthermore, because egotistical guys are always in and out of relationships they
seem like big players because they often burn themselves and their partners in
relationships. This continued playerism and verbal promotion of their Im a player ego
make them seem a lot more successful with women then they actually are.
Even if a guy gets a good feeling from the strong sense of self that comes with
continual reinforcement of player or cool ego he is a fish out of water when cold
approaching. What usually happens is that he will approach the girl, seek validation
and look to impress upon her that hes really cool.
If a guy approaches seeking validation he is taking value and reacting to her, which is
unattractive. He does something special to show her that he is special. When he tries

to impress her by demonstrating how cool he is he will communicate the he isnt cool
just as he is. Unattractive.
When this process happens the good feelings that the egotistical guy formerly had
comes crashing down. Ego is the Achilles heel of state. What seemed so strong can
be destroyed instantly when exposed to its weakness. In the case of cold approaching
ego weakness is not being validated by the girl he talks to. His state will plummet, he
will feel terrible and become a repulsive-black-hole influence to others around him.
In contextual cases ego can be fine as long as the context exists. Robbie Williams will
always be validated by anyone who is aware of the world music stage. The Prince of
England will always be validated by anyone who recognises the British Empire.
Take the world music stage away or the British Empire and Robbie Williams or Prince
of England will lose their contextual value Achilles heel style. If you want to take
advantage of this phenomena become a club promoter, club DJ or an internationally
famous rock star. Your image will play the game for you.
Tim is brilliant from the cold approach and the coolest guy I ever met. No ego.
Combine this with him being the most well known club promoter and best DJ for
hundreds of miles around and you have a FUCKING POTENT combination. People
project amazing things onto Tim, but he doesnt buy into them. He maintains a natural
sense of self that is naturally attractive. Tim is very happy guy and influences the girls
around him with copious amounts of good feelings.
Basically ego driven conscious headspace will give rise to the dirty high form of
happiness. The dirty high feeling is always motivated from a place of neediness and
lack and can never be satisfied. Therefore it will never be as good a feeling as
fulfilment. The dirty high is on a hair trigger of susceptibility to destruction that will not
only make you feel bad, but plunge you into a pit of misery. Ego fails to give the deeper
feeling of fulfilment in the same way that money or fast cars dont really fulfil a man.
Some famous pick up artists are well documented examples of the ups and down of
ego driven happiness and despair. This will give rise to massive inconsistency and
frustration. As your results begin to spiral downward because of your bad feelings and
the influence you give to others. This process usually leads to hate of and exodus of
the game.

One of the biggest consciously born good feeling killers in the game is your fear of
being discovered as a guy who is using the game. Instead of walking around happy
and having fun and influencing the girls you talk to with a good feeling you walk around
feeling embarrassed and ashamed.
If you are using game as a band aid over a bullet wouldnt and have no intention of self
actualising and becoming a better self through self actualisation you deserve to feel
embarrassed and ashamed. You will influence the girls you talk to with feeling of self
disrespect and low self worth. They probably wont even respond to you when you
approach them.
Another bad-feeling inducing phenomenon that you will be conscious of, but have
difficulty understanding, is cognitive dissonance. Cognitive dissonance is anxiety that
occurs when what you do is out of alignment with who you are and what you believe.
For example, anxiety from cognitive dissonance would occur if you said you hated your
country of allegiance and wish you belonged to the population of your rival nation.
If you go into set and you say and do things that are out of alignment with what you are
(your inescapable nature) and what you believe (your nurture) cognitive dissonance
will make you feel flustered and anxious. Negative feelings will arise that will influence
people around you with negative emotions.

In field this will happen if you use someone elses lines as a compensation for a lack of
self trust. It can also happen when talking for the purpose of impression not
expression. The worst feelings of cognitive dissonance anxiety will arise when you say

things deliberately to manipulate and take value. All these things make you feel bad,
will influence the girl with bad feelings and make you unattractive.
Conscious manipulation and lines dont work. in terms of being attractive to girls
behaving in alignment with your natural self does work
Sometimes in set you will have approached in an unconscious headspace, acting clear
headedly in the moment and operating through the mode of expression. You feel good
and influence others with good feelings. But in the case of you learning the game often
you find your doing better than expected and all of a sudden think whats next? This
gives rise to a feeling of panic and uncertainty which will quickly be transferred to the
girl.
Be in alignment with the guy you are. Be willing to block out any logical and conscious
sabotaging thoughts and ride the interaction as long as it will go. It will give you a
feeling of excitement and recklessness as you get further into unchartered territory. As
you get more intimate with the girl you will get more exited. These feelings are
transferred as well.
If you for some reason you fuck up the interaction you will get a scar and learn
something from the interaction. Metaphorically, if you live in alignment with your balls
you ride the skateboard all the way to the bottom of the hill, endure thrills, impress
yourself and get the girl. If you fall off you will get a scar and learn a lesson.
Remember, chicks dig scars.
Lot of guys escape their consciousness in social situations by drinking. Biologically
drinking nullifies your cognitive brain and allows your emotional brain to express itself
freely. Sober for most guys means impression, drunk for most guys means expression.
But girls recognise that guys get drunk because they cant access their naturally
attractive self while sober. In most cases drinking will make a sad guys bad feelings far
more evident. Drunk approaching is a deal breaker.
If you have a few drinks it can be an effective means for an inexperienced natural
gamer to access the naturally attractive part of their brain. If you dont drink more that
the legal driving limit you will generally find the right balance. You will feel great and
uninhibited and give that same feeling to the girl. Most people, especially girls, are
socially conditioned to associate alcohol with fun times. On that level drinking can
contribute to influencing girls with good feelings.

The real world continued; the UNCONCIOUS implications of the golden

rule in field
You will be very aware of your conscious brain and often very frustrated by it. You are
exposed to it loud and clear. It is the continual noise of your conscious brain that stifles
your unconscious brain. Your unconscious brain holds the key to natural game. It is in
your unconscious automatic brain that you find your blueprint.
Before I delve into the working of the unconscious brain and the implications it has on
how you feel the most important fact pertaining to your unconscious brain is that its
default state is to FEEL GOOD.
If you default state is feeling good, feeling good can revert you back to your default
state as well. This is the key to accessing your natural game.
Times when you feel good is a good indicator that you are running on your natural
autopilot unconscious brain, meaning you will be in alignment with your natural self.
Good feeling is natural state, your natural state means good feelings. Find your natural
state and you will always feel good and be perpetually attractive to girls.
Your unconscious natural state is referenced in many different ways and has many
different names.
We are referring to your natural default state when we say outside your head, in state,
self esteem, offering value, nimbus, core confidence, confidence, alpha male,
alignment with your natural self, and elite congruence. All these things are signposts
for essentially one and the same thing. All labels point toward your natural default
state. In this happy, confident, alpha, congruent, self-esteem-state you feel good.
Really, really good.
You will influence the girls with a really, really good feeling.
Guys with this trait are a rare and valuable entity and very quickly recognised by girls.
Come into alignment with your natural state and you will find you will be more attractive
than you have ever known. People will begin to treat you the same way they treat
model quality girls.
Compared with the many obstacles and negative influences imposed by the conscious
brain you will discover the unconscious natural brain is very simple. Simply, you dont

have to achieve a good feeling. You already have it. When you dont have a good
felling it is because the unconscious brain is overshadowed and polluted be the
conscious brain.
To counteract the influences of the conscious brain and unleash the natural and good
feelings that stem from an unstifled unconscious brain there are a few things that are
important to internalise.
Self esteem is a natural thing and we conversationally understand self esteem to mean
good feelings. To have self esteem is to be fulfilled. To have low self esteem means
you are not fulfilled.
But it is an anomaly that a you can have poor self esteem but have a fleeting good
feeling. This comes when you get external ego validation when you can feel good for a
moment but still wont have that deeper feeling. This could be described as a band aid
over a bullet wound.
When you develop an ego it suppresses your pre-existing self esteem. This happens
because you have been forced to believe you are something that you are not. When
you believe that you are something that you are not you continually look for validation
of what you think you are and your good feeling are fickle and sporadic. This will
directly correlate with your results with women.
With ego based happiness sometimes you will get a woman onto a few dates or maybe
even sleep with her but you will struggle to keep her as she will soon see your weak
low self esteem core hiding behind your false PUA or chode ego.
When you move away from an ego based reality and you come into alignment with
what you are you have total congruence. Once the ego is shed you are left with pure
self esteem. When you have pure self esteem you are in congruence with your natural
self you feel good and influence the girls around you with good feelings.
In this circumstance of elite congruence what you do is only an expression of what you
are. When what you do is in total alignment with what you are then you have the rare
and noble trait of INTEGRITY.
Instead of using tactics and trickery to convince women you are something that you are
not you can simply go in and be yourself knowing that is all that you need. (As you
really do bring your full and unstifled natural self). This is what PUA mean when they

refer to you being your best self. Instead of having to learn a law degree worth of pick
up skills and tactics you can go into field and navigate situations simple-mindedly as
they present themselves.
Going into field with a head full of confusing trickery and manipulation will make you
feel confused, weighed down and embarrassed. If you feel weighted down, confused
and embarrassed when you approach girls you will influence them with a blatantly
negative-value taking feeling.
When you study Real Social Dynamics you are undergoing a process called self
actualisation. In conversational language that translates to mean that you are learning
about what you really are and you are learning and changing to fulfil you true potential.
When you self actualise with Real Social Dynamics you are learning things and
exposing yourself to experiences that will help you realise your true self. Your natural
masculine self.
As opposed to walking into a bar with sneaky tricks up your sleeve belonging to a
secret sociality you walk into the bar knowing that you are more self actualised than
anyone in the room, men and women included. With this comes an inherent sense of
confidence and good feelings.
When you study self actualisation you engage social situations and social interaction
with people feeling amazing as you know you have taken responsibility for being the
best self you can be. If you are currently going out and feeling any lesser than other
people that you are interacting with snap out of it. Realise that if you are reading this
article you have the logical right to feel significantly more proud of yourself socially than
other who have not read this article.
Once you make personal harmony with the fact that self work and responsibility entitles
you to feel on top of the world you will feel extremely empowered. Furthermore, self
actualisation is in congruence with what you are as a man because men are always
moving forward, exploring and growing.
Approaching girls knowing that you have taken massive responsibility for yourself and
are continuing to become the best self you can be will give you feeling of extreme
empowerment. With great responsibility comes great power.
Approaching girls feeling empowered and resourceful will radiate an extreme self
assurance and obviously a very good feeling. Girls are very attracted to guys who

embrace their self actualisation because that type of guy feels extremely good about
himself.
The foundation of feeling good in field is knowing who you are. Who you are is a
combination of what you are and what you do. What you are is present, positive
dominant and a man of action. Line these three things up and not only will you feel
good, but you will experience nimbus. The epitome of naturally arising euphoric good
feelings. You will influence girls with this same feeling.

To access good feelings take responsibility for getting into the moment, that is to say,
becoming present. When present in the moment you dont have a chance to think
about anything else. When present you dont have a chance to think and hesitate
causing you to act attractively with conviction. Presence is a literally empty headspace
where there is no self sabotaging thoughts occupying your consciousness.
How you can do this is simply talking to a lot of people, being extroverted and
physically interacting with your environment. We call being interactive with your
environment being outside of your head. This is because instead of thinking to
yourself and self sabotaging you are continually in the moment navigating the world.
Interaction with the world will bring your focus to whatever is in front of your face. When
you focus on what is in front of you your headspace will not be occupied by negative
conscious influences. When you are dumb in a state of no thinking everything you do
will become fun. If you have fun, you will influence girls with fun.

Being present also pertains to the classic three second rule. If you approach instantly
there is not enough time for your mind to begin to manufacture conscious reasons why
youre not good enough or begin to make excuses as to why you shouldnt approach.
When you approach instantly you dont feel bad, you influence the girl with good
feelings and therefore are attractive to the girl.
Positive-dominance (woo +intent/assertiveness with a smile) is the core description of
what it means to be a man. When you are positive, you obviously fee good. As a man
you feel great when you are in a leadership position, when you have responsibility and
when you are making decisions.
When you feel good you will spontaneously assume a leadership position, take
responsibility and make decisions. While youre feeling good, the woman will feel good
because she likes a man who is a leader, who takes responsibility for him and her and
a man who is decisive over himself and her.
Furthermore, she will like the decisive, leadership qualities because they are
spontaneous, unpredictable, emotionally spiking and hence arousing. Attraction is a
combination of high value plus a full range of emotions.
To round out the behavioural traits that bring you into congruence with yourself as a
man you need to be a man of action. When you are moving forward as a man you feel
good. Contrastingly when you regress or stagnate it can frustrate you to the point of
madness. With girls you obviously feel good when you are moving things forward.
When you are making a move or escalating. Interestingly, even though girl doesnt
always submit to your advances she will respond well to it and like you for being the
man you are supposed to be. You make them feel good when you look to move things
forward even if things dont actually advance. The fact that you have the balls to take
that action is emotionally arousing in and of itself.
If you make a move and the girl doesnt and will not take part in your advances then
that shouldnt compromise your path. You want her to be involved with your path, not
the path itself. With enough declined advances you will lose interest and continue on
your path leaving her in your wake.
Its usually at this point that she realises that you were a source of such good feelings
and becomes motivated not to lose that source of good feelings. You not being around

anymore leaves her with a bad feeling. Soon enough she will be texting you to find out
what you have been doing.
When you simultaneously implement presence, positive-dominance and you take
action you come fully into alignment with what you are as a guy. If you deliberately get
present you will spontaneously be positive-dominant and start to take action.
When you deliberately implement positive-dominance you will spontaneously become
present and start to take action. When you deliberately start to take action this is an
expression of positive dominance and the fact you are interacting with the world means
you will have to become momentarily responsive and hence come into presence.
When you implement one of you natural behaviour traits as a guy the other traits will
automatically come into alignment as well. As stated above, when you implement any
of these natural traits you feel good and as a result you make the girls feel good. Align
all of your natural traits and you feel extremely good. You get the NIMBUS.

The golden rule of Natural Game; The power of the NIMBUS.

The NIMBUS is a term coined by Jeffy to describe when you are in a primal euphoric
state. When you have NIMBUS everything you touch turns to gold. If you have
experienced nimbus you will know the unique and powerful feeling it brings. It is
something that could be described as being in the zone or on fire. You can do no
wrong because nimbus is one and the same thing as pure natural game. NIMBUS is
the holy grail to amazing success with women.
NIMBUS can be mistaken with a dirty egotistical high. The high experienced by guy
with NIMBUS is a polar opposite to the high felt by ego validation. When you get a
good feeling from ego validation it is because everyone else around you is giving you
good feelings.
When you have NIMBUS you feel good because you have a lot of good people to
influence. You are like a siphon pouring outwards turning water into wine.
As stated earlier a good feeling that is stronger than happiness is fulfilment. The more
people you can influence as a man the more fulfilled you will be. This is another way of
saying if you take responsibility for yourself AND for many others you feel extremely
good as a man. Complimentary to this phenomena women love to be influenced by a

man who has the capabilities to take responsibility for himself and many others. That
would be a very high value man.
Influence many people and you feel good beyond happiness, you feel fulfilled. The
more you get fulfilment by expressing your natural behavioural traits of presence,
positive dominance and taking action the better you will feel. The euphoria of this good
feeling is overwhelming. It becomes a drug for girls who, by nature, are influenced by
whatever state they are exposed to.
If you are a better source of good feeling that any other person as a source of feeling
you will be very attractive to women.
In this nimbus state at the height of your good feelings you will become mildly deluded.
You will think youre the best guy in the world, that all the girls love you and that you
can do no wrong. Of course, this deluded sense of self serves to drive evolutionary
natural selection. When you are in this state you are most likely to confront other guys
for their girls and be with as many girls as you can.
When you have NIMBUS and are in a deluded state of mind your reticular activation
system (your focus) will not even notice things that dont please you. You will think you
are the coolest guy in the world. When you perceive this you will influence girls with
this feeling as well. Whatever you feel, she feels.

Two ways to achieve a good feeling if you are socially conditioned.

Remember that feeling good is your default state. To look to learn to feel good is to
deny that you feel good in the first place. To find your natural good-feeling self it will not
be a case of building towards it or forcing but rather a case of letting go of your
socially conditioned self and allowing your natural self to emerge.
If youre not feeling good it is because of social conditioning and ego, social
conditioning causes the pretending to be a chode ego. To perpetually feel good you
need to transcend social conditioning and the ego that comes from it. There are two
ways to do this. One is with nimbus and being present. The other is via a rite of
passage. See the two graphs below.

In both instances you can see that you, the blue line, are born with little anxiety. In an
infantile unconscious state you dont have the capacity to feel anxiety other than reflex

anxiety. When a person has low anxiety levels they are high value, calm and therefore
considered to be cool. This is taken away by social conditioning.
Throughout childhood and adolescence you are socially conditioned and forced by the
world around you to think of yourself as something you are not. This is you forming the
pretending to be a chode ego.
In this headspace you are constantly trying to impress a cool impression onto the
world. This means you constantly have conscious stress and anxiety. While socially
conditioned you are constantly trying to defend against others impressing a bad
impression onto you. This means you constantly have stress and anxiety.
Biologically you are being forced to adopt a false idea of yourself that is the polar
opposite of what you actually are. You were born positive-dominant but social
conditioning persuades you to adopt a negative-passive ego for yourself. This
fundamental incongruence between what you are and what you do leads to constant
anxiety from cognitive dissonance. Under social conditioning you constantly struggle
and react emotionally to the unanswered question who am I?
As shown in the graphs, once socially conditioned you always have higher anxiety
levels then women. This means you are less cool than women, lower value and are
perpetually unattractive.
Contextually if you have confidence through ego validation then in that context alone
you will be cooler than the girls and attractive. Otherwise, most guys drink, so do girls.
When guys drink their conscious brains become nullified, they become present and
cease to second-guess themselves and become attractive.
While when women drink they begin to question themselves more and their physical
desires become unstifled by the nullification of their conscious brains. Contextual
confidence and drinking plays host to 90% of modern day pick-ups. Which are rare
from cold approaches nonetheless.
The first way you can get a really good feeling while learning natural game is if you
experiences the nimbus. Sometimes, usually with the assistance of alcohol, you might
stumble onto nimbus and have a great night. On a night you have nimbus you are
having fun and so present that your mind isnt confounded by negative conscious
thoughts.

On an on night you can do no wrong and you will have amazing success because you
will have less anxiety than women and therefore be cooler, high value and attractive to
them. But, once the night is over you will snap back into bad-feelings ego mode. In
some cases you might start to form an Im a huge pimp ego which will lead to a
massive state crash the next time you go out.
If you have enough nimbus nights you will soon become very familiar with that good
feeling and it might even become a constant thing. But in most real world cases for
someone who doesnt know better a nimbus night will elicit a pimp ego. For most guys
one good night is followed by about thirty bad nights and massive inconsistency.
If you do have a one night stand with girl on a night you are lucky enough to have
nimbus you might have difficulty keeping her around because as you snap back to
reality after the night she will realise you arent as much fun or the guy she thought
you were. This also explains the extreme amount of phone number flakes that come
from high energy night club game.
Even though you were fun there and then on the night its not who you usually are
because you have the reality of pretending to be a chode. When you call she expects
to hear cool fun club nimbus guy, but she gets a version of you that is pretending to be

a chode. You gave her good feelings in the club, you gave her bad feelings on the
phone.
She will also have an intuition when shes having fun with you in the club that youre on
a kind of TEMPORARY HIGH that is unstable and inconsistent. She had fun in the
moment, but she isnt going to waste her time with a guy who is just pretending to be
his natural fun self, she wants a guy WHO IS his natural fun self .
This is the same for guys who get numbers and put girls into a good mood when they
are on an ego trip. She will have fun there and then but clearly understand he is not
the source of good feelings, he is just revelling the good feeling being projected onto
him. Even then, girls themselves are socially conditioned to think that being with that
sort of guy will make them happy.
Even though hooking up with a big ego guy will give a girl happiness it will never be as
deep as fulfilment. Realise girls are in fact socially conditioned as well. Ensure the way
you behave is socially calibrated and doesnt transcend their reality and thus limit your
potential to pick up.
The second way to get that really good feelings is through self actualisation. This will
result in a perpetually good feeling. If you undergo identity level change, namely, a rite
of passage you will get a perpetually good feeling so that you instantly and naturally
influence all the girls you meet with a good feelings.

In ancient societies the rite of passage was when a boy became a man. There was a
good reason for this because if they didnt undergo this process then they would never
really make the transformation, become self reliant and become a source of reliance
for the women around them.
Prior to conquering the rite a passage a boy would experience anxiety over who he
was and question whether he could conquer the rite of passage or not. But, once he
put himself to the test and conquered whatever the rite required he would no longer
concern himself with external factors. Self reliant he wouldnt have a care in the world.
He would perpetually feel good and be instantly attractive to all women that he met. He
would be enough just because he is his masculine self.
Even though rites of passage may involve vastly different things and vastly different
challenge levels the rites would result in a boy seeing himself as a man and cause him
to behave as one. Once this inner game is established he feels less anxiety than the
women and children around him. A rite of passage graduate would see himself as
higher value and influence others to see him as high value. A rite of passage graduate
would have all the inner game he needs to be extremely attractive to girls all the time. It
would become what he is.

The basic purpose of a rite of passage is to convert a boy, a guy who has other people
take responsibility for him (socially conditioned ego), to a man who takes total
responsibility for himself free from the influences and constraints imposed by others
around him (self actualised self esteem).
A rite of passage tests your emotional limit and pushes you to the brink of your comfort
zone. If you can journey to the edge of your comfort zone and return back in one piece
you will know without a doubt that you can handle yourself in any situation and thus
have no anxiety in life.
If you are a rite of passage graduate, when others try to impress onto that you are
other than a man it wont even register. You will have no need to try to make a special
impression on people because you know what you are. You realise that simply making
the impression you are a man is the best impression you could possibly make.
In this headspace you have no anxiety, you feel good and you perpetually influence
girls around you with a good feeling.
This is the function (among others) of the Real Social Dynamics bootcamp.

The process of transforming from inconsistent good feelings to

consistent good feelings; Identity Level Change, the rite of passage in
modern times.
In modern times there is no such rite of passage that clearly transforms a boy to a
man.
Basically it would involved you questioning everything you know and pushing yourself
to the edge of your comfort zone. You would definitively move away from a reality
where everyone takes responsibility for you and you take responsibility for yourself and
your reality.
This means you need to let go of the externally formed pretending to be a chode
reality, pushing your comfort zone and rebuilding your reality as defined by you. This is
shown in the graph below.

As a socially conditioned guy you would reside somewhere on the bottom right hand
side of this graph and women would reside somewhere on the far right side of the
graph.
You live in a reality where external forces take responsibility for who you are. You will
have a strong, albeit, externally driven reality. As mentioned above this reality is false
and an susceptible to unpredictable crashing when something happens that is beyond
your reality. Like getting blown out. Your capacity to feel good is volatile and unstable.
In an ego based strong reality you can feel sporadically happy but not fulfilled. Where
as in an ego based reality a woman can feel fulfilled and deeply happy. If you are
approaching women feeling less good than they are you will never be attractive to
them.
To undergo the modern day rite of passage you need to push you comfort zone and
leave the reality you have always known by defying the external forces that define who
you are. You need to go against social conditioning and the safe comfort zone that was
your pretending to be a chode ego.

But, in doing this you leave your comfort zone and experience extreme anxiety as you
move away from the familiarity of what you have always known. On this graph it would
be depicted as moving from the bottom right side of the graph to the centre of the
bottom of the U curve when your reality is at its weakest.
Its at the bottom of the U curve that you reach the inversion point between a reality
where others define who you are and a reality where you define who you are. This is
the absolute brink of your comfort zone where you feel most vulnerable. Experience
your threshold of vulnerability and survive and you cease to experience anxiety in the
future as you realise you can deal with anything.
This is the indifference threshold.
This could happen by chance from a culmination of emotional events over the course
of your life or it can happen quickly if you are exposed to situations of extreme
emotional stress. Things like death in the family, childbirth, near death experiences or
jail time. Facing and overcoming these things serves the same purpose as a rite of
passage and leaves you with no anxiety about any situations.
You are confident you can deal with anything and influence everyone else that you feel
confident to deal with anything.
On your own you will only tentatively explore the anxiety inducing experiences that lie
outside your comfort zone. When things get tough outside your comfort zone you will
quickly retreat back to your socially conditioned comfort zone. Even if you experience
or achieve things outside of your comfort zone the socially conditioned reality that has
been pulled over your eyes will reject anything but the reality you have always known.
On your own you wont know what it means to be outside of your comfort zone. You
almost certainly wont push yourself so far beyond your comfort zone that you reach
the brink of it and cross the indifference threshold. An experienced coach can quickly
push you to that frontier and help you confront your comfort zone when you would
otherwise retract. A coach will push you to achieve something that you would have
great trouble achieving on your own.
On introspection you will realise that you are actually far more badass than you
realise. Its just your social conditioning forcefully blocking you from realising you are
then man you are. It takes external approval from a credible source to verify that you

can in fact let go of the socially conditioned reality and begin to define your own reality
the way a man naturally does.
The verification that you survived the rite of passage is the last externally accepted
influence that plays a part in defining who you are. That influence essentially gives you
permission to be yourself. This is the process of bootcamp.
In modern times this would equate to you ceasing to be identified by what people
impress onto you and ceasing to try to make an impression onto others. Self
actualising and feeling good free of conscious or external constraints.
When you actually let go of the socially conditioned reality and accept that you have
been to the frontier of your comfort zone and back you will realise that you are in fact
the man you are supposed to be. You realise that your game game CANT NOT be a
ten.
Feeling perpetually good is a muscle; the responsibility of building it and exercising it.
To make the transformation from boy to man, from having responsibility taken for you
to taking responsibility for yourself, is like building a muscle. Biologically being a man is
your default state, but you actually have to take action to come into your power as a
man. The best way to form the muscle is via a rite of passage. The way to strengthen
and retain that muscle is via congruence tests.
The identifiable stepping stones between your externally defined reality and your
internally defined reality come in the form of congruence tests. Pass a test and you
grow in your internal centeredness, fail a test and you regress to chode ego. That is
also to say, at any time you could be taking responsibility for yourself, or letting others
take responsibility for you.

When you pass a test you solidify your reality as internally defined. But between the
time you are being tested you have the potential to be moving towards situations where
those congruence tests arise.
Congruence tests are automatically generated by women to figure out if you are an
alpha male and attractive or if you are a beta male and unattractive. Conceptually
congruence tests are like a gym where you can work out. The more you move away
from your comfort zone the more intense the test will become. Once you pass the most
intense tests you begin to relinquish others influences and responsibility over you. You
cross the indifference threshold and begin to form a stronger and stronger internally
defined reality.
The more you internally define your reality the stronger your core confidence becomes.
With this comes a good feeling. The better you define your own reality the more
emotionally unreactive you are to congruence tests. Nothing takes away from you
feeling good. The more youre not reacting to others reality the more you assert your
reality onto others. You establish higher value and women become emotionally
aroused as they react to you. The less you are looking for validation from impression
the more you simply express yourself and have fun. When you have fun you feel good.

Core confidence, unreactive, assertiveness and unreactiveness. Congruence with

what you are which leads to fulfilment and a perpetual and influential good feeling. The
best thing is, because you are internally centred there is no Achilles heel that could
instantly destroy your reality. Your strength of reality and resulting feeling of fulfilment is
a conceptually 100% self defined. You are perpetually high value, you influence others
because they dont influence you. You are perpetually attractive.
You always feel extremely good. No one can take that away from you. Welcome to
consistency.
Only you can sabotage your self-defined reality by being lazy and regressing back to
socially conditioning. A force that is constantly attacking you.
The more unreactive you are, the more assertive you are, the more core confidence
you have the more value you offer the more attractive you will be. The potential of inner
game is overwhelming.
In a lot of cases it is your potential that is scary, not you failure. Your potential is
unchartered territory while failure is familiar comfort zone.
When you define your own reality you might not always feel euphoria but you will
always have a baseline of good feelings as a function of fulfilment. Importantly, you will
never feel bad. Therefore you will never be unattractive because no one can take away
your natural what you are. You sense of who you are and the temporary happiness
can be taken away from you if you define yourself externally with ego.
If you never feel bad and have an egoless, natural, baseline, constant good feeling you
will certainly always be a sexworthy guy. Its from this baseline that you have a instant
slip stream to the NIMBUS euphoria. Ego based nimbus is fleeting, sporadic and
volatile. Self esteem based nimbus is steady, constant and internally manufactured.
Ego based nimbus is like fireworks. Self esteem based nimbus is like hot coals or a
laser beam. A steady and unwavering source of congruent good feelings. The power of
a self esteem based nimbus is proportionate to the influence it has on others.
For a guy who truly defines his reality achieving a nimbus feeling that is instantly very
attractive to girls is as simple as going into a social situation. Having nimbus at your
finger tips is the holy grail of natural game.

When you self actualise by shedding the constraints and influence of external factors
you mindset changes. Instead of having a mindset where you are constantly
concerned and stressed you have one that is carefree, easy-going and cool.
You are always higher value and attractive to the girls you talk to.
Your mindset stimulates your pituitary gland which regulates the hormones in your
body. Because your mindset is good you body feels good automatically. Because you
automatically feel good the mirror neurones in the womens brains are triggered when
you approach them and influence their reality. Because you feel good you influence the
girl with a good feeling. You are attractive.
You realise your game CANT NOT be a ten. Girls wont see you as anything less.
Whatever you feel, she feels. This is the golden rule of natural game.
Alexander~
Brizendene, L., 2006, The Female Brain, Morgan Road Books, ISBN 0-7679-2009-0
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The Attraction Equation for Picking Up Girls

From Cold Approach. A* = HV + []E
The attraction equation is a teaching mechanism used to help decode the
phenomenon that makes up attraction during cold approach pick up. Attraction is a
naturally occurring phenomenon, but in this socially conditioned world we live in your
innate perception of attraction is suppressed. So you can use this equation to
understand attraction, trust yourself more, and internalise being naturally attractive so
your cold approach pick up games becomes something you you ARE, not something
you you have to actively think about. Going from being socially-conditioned to
naturally-instinctive.
First of all drop the terminology of attraction and forever more substitute the word
attraction with arousal. Arousal is a word that can be practically understood in social

situations where the term attraction has been so warped by mass media that its
impossible to understand enough to be attractive.
Being arousing is much easier to understand, and then do.
Arousal can also be understood as being stimulating, interesting or exciting. Its a much
milder word than attraction, becuase being attractive to a girl requires milder behaviors
than what the word attraction has come to mean
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Be Attractive What It Means To Be Attractive

When Cold-Approaching.
Why is it important to be attractive to women during cold-approach pick-up?
Its important to be attractive to women during cold-approach pick-up because
attraction triggers an instinctual evolutionary reaction in women that compels them to
want to become intimate with you. If you want to get the girl, you have to be attractive
to her.
Women sense the world through two filters. Their conscious socially-conditioned filter
and their subconscious instinctual filter. You need to understand this and fulfil both
levels of attraction to achieve attraction and compel a woman to want to become
intimate with you.
Thats why its not enough to just be impressive in a socially conditioned way with
money, status, a good job and good looking. Nor can being a ruggedly attractive,
strong or powerful and masculine. You need to tick both boxes.
Womens attraction process works differently from you as a guy. On first impression,
instead of automatically thinking a guy is attractive or not, she automatically
categorises a guy as not her type or interesting and might potentially be attractive
call it potentially attractive.

NOT a straight up categorisation of attractive unless you already has status or are the
exact archetype of a guy she thought was attractive before you met her. From cold
approach Im assuming that youre not in a pre-perceived attractive archetype.
But most of the time women are so inside their heads with social conditioning that their
thought are filled with self-conscious trains of thought that they dont even get to the
stage of categorising guys as not their type or potentially attractive. On cold approach
this mean that 90% of the time you will not get a reaction where the girl appears to be
attracted to you. Understand and embrace that fact and dont get down when you dont
get positive external reinforcement from women on cold-approach.
For women, there are many more potentially attractive guy in their lives occupying
their perception than there are attractive women in a (sober) mans life. So, women
seem to have a far greater abundance of selectivity with mates then men do. But it
wouldnt be accurate to say that women have more abundance then men. Women
have much more potential abundance than men. Beta males have no abundance.
Alpha males have massive abundance because they can fulfil potential attraction in
any woman with time and logistics. Many average women might be potentially attracted
to the alpha males, but the (sober) alpha males only get attracted to a select few of the
women. There is not a direct man-woman abundance comparison here.
If you are not categorised badly and a girl sees you as potentially attractive its almost
meaningless until you take action.
Potentially attractive means that a woman perceives you the same as dozens of other
guys that she might meet that day, and dozens of guys she already knows and is
potentially attracted to. Women are socially-conditioned to not be slutty so they tune
out their potential attraction to plenty of new guys they meet even if that guy is
exceptional. What that means for the cold-approach is that even if you are potentially
attractive type of guy, the woman is blocking it out form there start negative reactions
from cold approach. So what you have to do is spend a little more time with her, have
exceptional value (later article in attraction series), or exceptional understanding of
arousal dynamics (later article in the series) open her eyes to her potential attraction
for you. In short to do this: be high value and have long interactions with plenty of face
time.
What does potentially attractive mean and how do you turn the potential attraction into
actual attraction that leads to the girl becoming compelled to want to be intimate with
you?

Potential attraction, plus time spent together leads to actual attraction. Triggering
evolutionary feelings of desire for intimacy (get the girl).
Time spent together establishes two key things.
One HV. That time that you spend together establishes an inevitable man to a
woman dynamic (remember Im running with the assumption that youre well on the
way to internalizing that theres no reason why youre not enough). In the man to a
woman dynamic the woman will react to you more than you do to her, meaning that
your actions cause arousal (interchangeable word with attraction) in her and the way
that she behaves around you is based on her own SELF GENERATED arousal in her
mind and emotions in regards to you. Time spent together means man to a woman
dynamic where you react less to her than she does to you. Triggers feelings for desire
for intimacy.
Two E. Spending time together (chatting up girls) builds trust and opens up the
emotional bandwidth; the wider the connection, the stronger the exchange of emotion,
the richer the arousal. With a good understanding emotional dynamics you can
accelerate this bandwidth fast, and therefore accelerate attraction fast.
So to be attractive to women you need to have a strong sense of self, and a wide
range of expression, both physical and verbal. This causes direct arousal from your
influence to her perception AND causes her to create arousal on her own toward you
on her own when youre not there.
With converting potential attracting into actual attraction then youre well on the way to
getting the girl. The hard part is getting past the social conditioning and then using
www.alexattitide.com knowhow to establish proper man to a woman relationship (HV)
and express emotions cleverly to create arousal (E)
I dont want to get ahead of myself with extra content before next weeks article. Watch
the video closely to take in more implications and remove your misunderstandings so
you can get on with being attractive and inspiring attraction to get more girls next time
youre out cold-approaching!
Question please let me know below!
[Bonus Video Below]
Alexander~

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Be Attractive From The Start How To Make

The Right First Impression With Girls.
Categorisation.
This article is part of a series on attraction.
This article will focus on how attraction works in the categorisation process. We use
the term categorisation, but this dynamics is commonly known as the first impression.
Sidenote: (this is how categorisation is spelt in Australia, the letter Z is used in North
American categorization)
The overall concept of categorisation is to understand that girls dont even make first
impressions a lot of the time, theyre actully so introverted and preoccupied with what
theyre doing that they dont notice unfamiliar people enough to form an impression.
When they actually do categorise you theyre extremely definitive, casting you into
absolute alpha or beta categories; either I could definitely see him as the type of guy
Id hook up with or not giving any thought to the idea of hooking up with you
whatsoever. When girls dont categorise you as attractive they dont consciously think I
wouldnt hook up with that guy that thought doesnt even enter their mind. You dont
enter their mind.
Being badly categorised can be converted to good categorisation, but its much easier
to make yourself the type of guy whos categorised well then trying to turn around a
bad categorisation.

The categorisation or first impression is the miniscule moment when you first enter a
girls perception where she instantly and unconsciously decides if she has potential
interest in you or not. No girl can be interested in you instantly from cold approach
because she doesnt know you. If you had status or fame she could be interested in
your before you met her, but for cold-approach purposes understand that good
categorisation registers in a girls mind as potential interest, not an instant definite
interest.
The way that translates to your behaviour infield is; you need to realise that a girl is
NEVER interested in you straight away form a cold approach (unless you are what
shes pre-decided is her type which is phenomenally rare).
So youre totally correct in thinking that most girls arent interested in you when you
approach, yet thats an indication that youre on the right track. Executive coaches and
the guys I know like Sean from the Perth Crew dont get obvious interest from the very
beginning of the interaction, all the elite guys get are interactions with potential but
not yet fulfilled interest, that evolves into arousal and what you would call the girl
being interested, keen or attracted to you five to ten minutes later on in the interaction.
When I reference the common term interest that everyday guys use to describe if a
girl likes you or not, I mean; are you the cause of the girls arousal or not?
Ill talk about full arousal dynamics in later articles in this series; but if you dont get
categorised as potential interest (alpha categorisation) in the very beginning then the
girls perception doesnt start to slowly open up creating an emotional arousal
bandwidth between the two of you. When she lets this bandwidth open up to you, what
that means is shes relaxed enough around you and familiar enough with you, to let
herself be aroused by you. Arousal gets her excited, you cause her to have fun or
become emotional (Juliens Drama) and that then inspires compliance form the girl
she answers your calls, hangs out with your after the club or goes on dates with you.
If you arent getting that good categorisation then you usually have a totally flat
interaction, where the girl pays lip service to you, the interaction feels totally dead and
goes no where.
(As a side note, sets that go nowhere are such a load of shit. What the fuck are you
thinking when you perceive a set to be going nowhere? You expect that the girl is going
to be the one to take it somewhere if the set is going nowhere keep talking, keep
staying in set, keep initiating physicality and then EITHER the set will go somewhere,

or youll develop a social stamina when you can run sets longer and create more
arousal, and thus compliance. You get the girl. Never expect that the girl is going to do
anything for you to help the set move forward. Honor the 4 times rule to train your self
to run sets longer in a way that yield training and results.)
Even if the girl is aroused by you and wants to have sex with you, her way to respond
to this is to be a hard-to-deal-with brat all the way until the point when she does have
sex with you, then shes totally cool and much better company.
Ill talk about the subconscious effect that cause girls to act like brats in detail later in
this attraction series, but in short, the reason why girls act like brats is to create more
drama, which arouses them on more, creates excitement and gets them more involved
in the game. Its as though their subconscious causes them to say these
confrontational things and take evasive actions towards nice, cool guys so the guy can
handle the escalating drama, control it, cause arousal in the girl and seduce the girl.
Naturally a girls subconscious causes her to involuntarily act in a way that accelerates
interactions. Handle it stay in set and endure tests and results will come.
Its unfortunate that this behaviour takes such a bitchy form, but thats how the game
goes; fortunately its very easy to endure with a bit of patience and field experience.
So what do you have to do to ensure that give yourself every chance to be
categorised well? Here are the actions to note and implement.
The way you aesthetically express yourself is the girls first means to form a
subconscious impression of you.
In this case LOOKS DONT MATTER, but they do give you the advantage of not being
categorised as a beta male guy. If you look like every other chode guy shes ever met
then you cant blame her for stereotyping you as a chode. Im sure you do exactly the
same thing when you categorise people from your first visual impression.
With the LOOKS DONT MATTER THING, you dont need to look good or be in good
shape to get good results, but not making a decent first impression has you fighting the
long and arduous battle of turning a beta categorisation into an alpha categorisation.
Getting categorised well really isnt that hard to do. BUT combine your sociallyconditioned assumption that if a girl doesnt appear to be keen on you in the first 3
seconds then you have no chance with her with her actually not being interested in

you then youre fucked. Even when she categorises a guy as someone shes
potentially interested in she doesnt even show it in her demeanour.
To the students of social dynamics not taking pride in your looks gives you a massive
unnecessary disadvantage which only re-enforces your negative social conditioning
thatyoure not attractive. When really, youre only a few simple efforts away from being
categorised well.
You can get away with looking like a piece of shit and getting categorised badly ONLY
IF your freakish in your natural game skills. Skills of retaining the rock solid frame of
theres no reason why Im not enough having infinite things to say to keep the arousal
going, really clever verbal devices to endure tests and smooth physical co-ordination of
physical interaction. There have been times when I couldnt bathe for days due to
travel, had awful acne and I was grossly overweight that caused me to originally
categorised badly, but because I didnt come across as a player in the girls perception
I still hooked up with stunning girls because of natural game experience.
Paradoxically, if your game is TOO GOOD it can actually be better to not be
categorised as a guy shes potentially interested in. That way she doesnt instantly put
up defensive filters toward you, and is at ease with you from the beginning of the
interaction. From this dynamic, if you follow the skills of the Natural Instinct Method you
have more a friendly frame, which then incorporates chemistry through your physical
initiative and before the girl knows it, shes happy to hang out with you in isolation
where the interaction can become more intimate.
Jeffy, Tyler and Stifler have this dynamic on their side. Decades of experience make
them freakishly sharp infield, so the last thing they want to do is to appear too attractive
and thus elicit a girls player radar from the outset, causing them added annoyance of
extra tests to deal with. Instead, Jeffy dresses like a caricature with the Mullet and
Bling, Tyler looks like a cross between a geek and hiking enthusiast chode and Stifler
wears glasses with no prescription so he looks more innocent than he actually is.
I try to dress as innocently as possible; simple black shirt and jeans most of the time.
In the past when Ive combined the kinds of things I say with extreme aesthetic
expression its only caused girls to call me a player and act with extra scepticism
toward me.

The innocent aesthetic expression is the best way to not have girls putting up defensive
shields against you, too ensure the beginning of the interaction doesnt elicit
unnecessary scepticism.
To really make the point, if you were a grand master of the technical skills of a martial
arts discipline like aikido you dont need to be strong or fit to be very competitive. But,
when youre just learning aikido being strong fit and flexible is going to help you learn
the skills and match it with others who have much more experience than you. But if you
dont have around ten years of field experience, and hundreds of sexual experiences
with different attractive woman then this isnt the tact that you want to take yet.
The things you need to do to ensure you avoid a beta male not interested
categorisation (because you dont want to go out of your way to make an awesome
impression you just want to make sure youre normal and allow for potential interest
and long sets) are the following.
Physiological energy. If you feel flat then youre must less that the girl will interpret
you as potentially arousing. Check out this video here where I explain the keys of
control in detail. Only your own initiatives cause you to feel good in your body in social
situation. The reason this has girls categorising you well is because theyll
subconsciously think that your carefree and have nothing to worry about as a reflection
of your social abundance, are used to women reacting to you not you reacting to
women, and you have success in your financial life. This is superficial as hell, but its a
fact of life. Work with it.
Click here for the Keys To Control Article.
Physical initiative. The difference between friend-zone and flirt-zone is physicality A
extremely simple way to not be categorised as a beta male is to initiate physical
contact at the beginning of every interaction. Even after years of experience I still find
myself sometimes forgetting this supremely basic staple of natural game. When you
start and interaction touch a girls shoulder, and as the interaction goes on be thinking
about physical expression and physical rapport. Arousal is amplified significantly when
you combine the arousal of conversation with physical interaction. So, dont forget
physical initative or youll give yourself a massive disadvantage. In the Natural Instinct
Method the skill is listed as it doesnt matter which moves you make, it just matters
that youre a guy who makes moves that means that you shouldnt expect your
moves to work well or be liked when you first initiate them (especially when youre
learning) but it all contributes to arousal.

More detail on this point in this video and article below.

Click here for the Physical Rapport article.
Approach the set as though you expect to be there for ten hours, not ten
minutes. If you havent yet totally internalised the idea that theres no reason why
youre not enough then youll tend to approach sets in a rush, hope to make a great
first impression and want see some visual evidence that the girls interested in you, or
you walk away. Make a paradigm shift and realise that if you were going to have a
successful interaction with the girl then the interaction and following relationship with
her would go for ten hours or longer. What this means is when you approach you carry
a vibe of self importance and inherent value as opposed to the vibes of uncertainly
towards yourself and your value; which the girls instantly pick up on. Girls are receptive
in the perception, if you doubt your value, so will they, and you wont be categorised
well. If you make a point to expect to be in the interaction for up to ten hours, then the
girls pick up on that vibe to and sense that you have self-respect and you fulfil their
subconscious requirement that a guy be in congruence with theres no reason why Im
not enough.
Take a man in their life frame into the interaction this is another way to think
about enduring tests. Because girls from every cold approach will give you formality of
tests and standoffishness you need to be prepared for that from the outset. When you
go into interactions expect an inevitable barrage of tests, scepticism and noncompliance you instantly create a leadership frame over a girl that brings her with you
even if shes not being instantly friendly. Many guys fall into the trap of responding to
test formalities confrontationally which creates a you versus the girl frame when you
want a you AND the girl frame. That way, when you establish a you AND the girl
frame, shell open up to you like a friend, youll establish a connection with her (the
bandwidth) and only once you have that bandwidth arousal starts to build. With a
competitive frame shell become defensive towards you, which means no connection
and no arousal. Shell see you from behind a shield and eventually youll fall off her
radar.
Some simple social skills. Remember to ask the girls name and shake her hand.
Even hug her as well if youre in the mood. Make a point to remember names. Ask
what her name means, ask who she was named after, or the origin of her name itself.
One extra detail about her name has you remembering it significantly better. If you fail
to ask the name and shake the hand the girl never make the shift from thinking of you
as a stranger to thinking of you as someone shes familiar with.

A basic knowledge of fashion, style and cosmetics. I see so many guys on

bootcamp who are cool in their own right, but dress like theyre everyday office chodes.
Dressing like an everyday office chode is bad because thats the kind of guy the girl has
been aprroached by in a creepy way you dont want to be associated with this
stereotype. Chode aesthetic expression automatically causes girls to think that is
exactly what you are. The rule of thumb is dress to express, not to impress. Whats
important here is that youve made an effort to be expressive with your attire. The thing
that you want to avoid, the thing that causes girls to categorise you as a boring guy; is
if youve made no effort in putting yourself together. Girls can tell instantly if youve had
some fun and made an effort in the way you express yourself. It doesnt even mater
what from your fashion expression takes, it just matters that youve made specific
effort. A girls subconscious thinking works like this; I make hours of effort getting
ready, Im not interested a guy who makes no effort and looks boring and plain. if you
dont dress with a little bit of expression, if youre not a little bit stylish, then girls might
think youre not familiar with social situations, and thus, going to be a drag and a
burden to talk to. Thats the last kind of idea you want her to form before she eve starts
talking to you. Sadly, she trusts her social conditioning the same way you used to trust
yours. So accept it and work with whats going on around you to make whats going
on around you work for you.
And of course, if you dont want to be categorised badly, make sure you that you
have checked the following so many guys fuck up with these its a joke. Breath
is good, dont have body odour, clothes dont smell, dont have nose hair
hanging everywhere, dont have flakes coming off your skin, dont have dandruff
on your shoulders, dont chew (food or gum) with your mouth open. Basic, but it
could be costing you. Especially if youre an Internet guy who doesnt get out
much.
Posture. Stand up straight. You might hunch over because of excessive computer use.
If you have a hunch, a great trick to correct this is to put your arm behind your back in
your opposite pocket. That will straighten up your body until the muscles in your
posture reset over time and with dedicated gym work to reshape your posture.
Hunching isnt the thing thatll cause you to not be categorised as a potentially arousing
guy, its the stifling in your neck, shoulders and chest that prevents you form talking
loud and clear and relaxing in your core, thus having an uptight unattractive vibe. Good
posture means good vibe means good categorisation. The body language itself isnt
what shes reading about you, its your vibe beneath it. Use your posture to get your
vibe right.

So there you have it. Are you getting the picture of the kind approaches you want to
make to avoid being categorised as a guy who doesnt have the potential to be
attractive? A relaxed guy, with good hygiene, self inspired charisma through body
language, expectations that everyone will have long interactions with you, extra arousal
through physical initiative from the approach regardless of whether its smooth or not.
To an advanced guy this stuff seems simple as fuck, but to many many guys reading
this youre probably missing a combination of these things, and because you are, girls
are making automatic subconscious decisions that leave you hopeless.
Getting these basics right will simply cause the girl to categorise you as a guy whos
potentially interesting, shell engage you and start to interact with you. If you get this,
then with time in the interaction ten minutes or more the bandwidth of emotional
exchange starts to open up and the seduction can begin. Without an understanding of
the categorisation process youre completely lost. For intermediate guys, realise that
during the categorisation the girls wont show signs of interest toward you, but over
time shell hang out with you and become comfortable enough to hang out with you in
isolation later.
The best summary I can give is to understand that on your approach a girl makes a
categorisation, that its very easy to be categorised well as an attractive type of guy
and once you sense that the girl perceives you that way all you have to do is plan
logistics, give the set time so the girl can warm up to you, master having fun and
wasting time until she warms up to you enough to date you or go home with you, then
you get this girl. Understand that and they game becomes an absolute pleasure and
whoosh as once described as Jeffy and Tim, easy going and fun. The only skill you
need to bear in mind is time, patience and endurance. You are enough; your natural
attractiveness is working for you.
Arousal is a function of time. Once the girl has categorised you as an attractive type of
guy, the more time you spend with her, the more she warms up to you interest >
visceral excitement > physical turn on and compliance to hang out with you becomes
pretty much natural. Once you see the categorisation process youll stop leaving sets
when you dont need to. You have infinitely more abundance.
Get categorised well, and enjoy the process thats comes form your will power of
internalising that you are enough and youll get more girls!
More on the attraction series coming next week.

See my where Ill be next section above to attend a free live seminar, meet in person,
ask questions and hear the stories.
Alexander~
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Unconsciously Attract Girls, Use Psychological

Deep Inner Game Programming
Hey whats gong on there? Writing to you today from Perth, Australias most
ridiculously expensive city, running amok with the most elite crew of natural gamers,
Perths SK; the Sleaze Crew.
Its been a riot. Were all running around hooking up with stunning girls in cocktails
dresses, watching as other angry sluts fight guys on the street, watching guys with too
much mining money beat the crap out of each other in Burger King. This is Australia,
and Im mixing it up with a crew of naturally attractive guys that set the standard for
how the game should be played.
All the guys get insane results; hooking up with and going home with multiple hot girls
each week. These guys are pure in their congruence with there is no reason why Im
not enough. They do all this automatically. But they didnt used to.
These guys all took the bootcamp with me where we talked about an practised there
is no reason why Im not enough and the other equally important inner game notion
be unapologetic. When I first talked about these ideas with these guys it took some
time to take root, and then take total control of their actions and responses live infield,
but it did and now the result 9-12 months later are some examples of game that easily
as good as any RSD instructor. From my point of view its a beautiful thing to see the
coaching have such a profound effects on these guys and yield ACTUAL RESULTS.
Why are the ideas of there is no reason why Im not enough and be unapologetic so
vitally important for long term development in the game? Watch here (Skip right to
the 90 second mark to get into the content)

For you to be good at natural game, you need to eventually own a headspace that is
unthinking. In an unthinking outside of your head headspace you can express freely,
have fun, not get weighed down and act through your own intentions. An unthinking
headspace is to be completely unstifled and access your naturally attractive blueprint.
So the advice we give here is a simplification process that helps you access your
natural self, your natural instincts that always knew how to pick up girls, NOT ADVICE
that further complicates your social intuition.
The idea of the DOUBLE NEGATIVE is an automatically cancelling idea. Theres no
reason why youre not enough is a truth, not a lofty affirmation that requires build up in
your head.
If you think about there is no reason why youre not enough long enough your brain
will automatically file it away to be true. If you think about be unapologetic long
enough your mind will also file that one away to be true. Meditate on these ideas, write
them down and didicate some time to thinking about them each day, and watch how it
literally changes your programming.
Inner game is the manipulation of the verbal descriptions you use to describe
phenomenon in your self and the way you perceive the world around you. The way you
code your perceptions will then give you automatic interpretation through those filters
when your in socially complex situations where you need to act quickly and without
thought in the moment.
If you think about there is no reason why youre not enough the end results infield will
be action with freedom, accessing your creativity and a calmer RELAXED vibe; the
kind that automatically attracts girls.
Compared to your current inner game programming which might be incomplete;
lacking a proper understanding and trust of yourself, or confused wondering what
actually gives you value. The end result infield will be stilted and hesitant behaviour;
the kinds of behaviour that has your reacting to girls, NOT causing them to naturally an
automatically react to you arousing them and attracting them to you.
So really realise the value that this deep inner game programming can provide for you.
The way you meditate on ideas will become the long term code that your subconscious

uses to form actions and responses in the moment when youre infield. Follow the
Natural Instinct Method ideas of theres no reason why youre not enough and be
unapologetic and evolve into a guy who naturally attracts the hottest girls just like the
Perth Crew.
From what Ive seen; easily the Best Natural Game Crew in the world.
Check out Seany on www.rsdnation.com as a representative of the esteemed Perth
Crew.
Alexander~
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Use The Powers Of Patience And Endurance

To Access Personal Inspiration And Pick Up
Gorgeous Girls
Welcome back from Melbourne Australia! Im leaving my homeland for the year to
embark on the great Alexander~ Hotseat tour. Check out my schedule above to see
when Ill soon be running Bootcamps and workshops on your continent!
Ive been spending a lot of time infield recently working hard to get the very best shots
for my upcoming hotseat. When Im out recording Im taking MASSIVE
RESPONSIBILITY to make things happen, and Ive noticed that dedicated
responsibility for my interactions has helped me see the value in the girls Im
approaching in a way that I never used to.
I realized that this is something you probably completely miss, and therefore dont pick
up girls 90% as often as you could.
The simplest way to understand this insight is to take the action of staying in set up to
four times.

The Four-Times rule is first mentioned in the article displayed below, and thanks go to
Timf Bhraowhn for the revelations.
Chodes Night Out 2 Part One.
On bootcamp we have come to swear by the Four-Times rule.
Originally the Four-Times rule was devised as a mechanism to demonstrate value. We
later realized the magical effect of internal-centring that happens when you make an
effort to stay in set up to four times. This happens because as you dont let external
feedback dictate your actions more than your own intentions, and when you dont let
your self get pushed out of set too easily you start to feel more internally centred than
externally effected
And now, we realized yet another incredibly valuable attribute of the Four-Times rule;
you give yourself a chance to develop affection toward the girl, and find inspiration in
interactions when you had none before.
If you have a mindset that gives you a chance to become familiar with girls your
meeting for the first time then youll have a an opportunity to make an emotional
connection and develop a sense of appreciation for the girl that you will motive you to
take the set further and endure most testing situations, making it more likely that you
convert starts of interactions into finishes of interactions.
This give the girls a chance mindset is most important before your approach because
you probably arent even approaching girls that are more attractive, and have more
value than you realise. Prior to approaching you dont feel anything special towards a
girl youve never met. Without approaching you dont even have a chance to get up
close and personal enough to allow your emotions to organically develop affection for
the girl, and with your affection toward the girl comes your own natural motivation to
take more responsibility for the set.
There are the guys out there who are mindless approach machines. These guys are
doing a shitload of approaches because pick-up theory told them so. However, this
kind of emotion-less mechanical approaching allows no space for affection and
connection with girls from cold-approach.
You fail to realise the incredible aura that occurs when you start to get excited and
emotional about the girls youre approaching. If you overcome the mere process of

approaching and start to FEEL the romance of the interaction the interaction starts to
naturally work for you automatically. This is how natural attraction and natural game
works.
When youre emotionally excited toward the girls you interact with, whatever you feel
she feels, and the interaction becomes that much easier and enjoyable. The game can
play itself.
Then the question is; how do you find excitement towards girls that arent that dont
inspire you to begin with, so that your emotional self switches on, your inner arousal
builds and naturally effects and seduces the girl?
That answer is; give yourself a chance to warm up to the girl. Honour the Four-Times
rule.
As you start to learn cold-approach pick up its essential that you notice when your
becoming more focused on systems of social dynamics than the attractive humanbeing in front of you that is an emotional creature.
Empathy, romance and responsively to the moment comes first, noticing and applying
the skills of the Natural Instinct Method comes second.
If you commit yourself to staying in the set up to four times, going back to meet the
same girl several times, enduring awkward silences, enduring tests and enduring
logistical misfortune during the approach you give your self the essential chance you
need to start to FEEL the person youre meeting, become excited and start to seduce
that girl with a natural attraction dynamic.
You, as a guy, become more attracted to a girl the longer you know her and the closer
the physical proximity you have with her. It is an amazingly reliable and inspiring
phenomenon
But YOU have to do this, this phenomenon wont act itself out without responsibility.
Without this phenomenon working for you youll be massively disadvantaged and rarely
pick up girls because you arent finding the inspiration required to like the girls you talk
to, and you wont have the self inspired attitude that girls love in a guy.
Honouring the Four-Times rule is even more important for girls during the approach
than you as a guy because it takes longer for the girl to get over unfamiliarity and start

to warm up to unfamiliar people in social environments where they are extra defensive
to begin with.
By making a deliberate effort to give the set a chance by enduring bullshit up to four
times (or more) you give the girl a chance to see you as a real person and start to
appreciate you.
OF COURSE ITS YOU WHO HAS TO DO IT FOR BOTH YOU AND THE GIRL. Youre
the one evolving into congruence with high value; youre the one learning the niche
skill of cold-approach pick up.
As I mention in the video you can expect the formality of a sceptical and negative
response from every girl you approach, ever. So its especially important for you to give
the set the chance it needs to bridge the chasm of the unknown that happens
between two people at the start of every interaction.
The idea is to understand yourself better so you can cold-approach better and pick up
more girls.
Staying in set to give you more opportunity to like a girl is very similar to the chode
crushes that you had back before you started your Real Social Dynamics inspired
transformation.
Think of the name of a girl you once had a crush on.
On a scale of 1 to 10 how hot was the girl? Compared to one of the Victorias Secret
Angels? Probably a 7, maybe an 8.
Now think of the emotions that girl gave you, emotions like despair, self-doubt, anxiety
toward her, confusion and maybe worthlessness? Closer to 9 and 10 on the intensity
scale.
Now think back to the very first time you ever laid eyes on that girl.
If you can even remember that occasion.
It was probably uneventful and totally unemotional.
It was only after time, and the process of building up that girl in your own head that you
started to develop emotions for that girl.

This is the same for the girls who youll meet for the first time in social situations from
cold approach. Understand your emotions objectively and trust that youll automatically
warm up to the girls in front of you. When your emotions warm up, youll find inspiration
that brings your internal arousal up, in turn arouse the girl, and youll be better at
expressing yourself, cleverly enduring tests and initiating clever physical interaction.
But unlike the crush, this is a mutual and exciting exploration process that in you and
the girl experience at the same time, because you had the balls to make the interaction
happen by employing a little bit of patience and endurance, having a superior
understanding of your emotions and a rock-solid trust that time is your ally.
So go out, stay in set, let romance consume procedural pick-pick and start to realise
that the girls your walking away from need you to be a little more patient so everyone
can start to become more attracted to each other.
Then you stay in set up to four times and you get the girl.
Lots of girls.
Alexander~
http://alexattitude.com/stupid-key-to-night-game-what-most-guys-dont-getabout-same-night-lays/

Stupid Key to Night Game What Most Guys

Dont Get About Same Night Lays
In recent times Ive been focusing hardcore on the infield video. Im wired up to the
teeth in hostile environments getting shots of reality to share back with you guys in the
Alexander~ Hotseats coming this fall (Spring in the Australian Hemisphere.)
Hostile times. Its like however well prepared we can be we will inevitably encounter
drama and confrontation. The night before this video blog was made the OWNER of
the club noticed that we were bring the UNIT into the club, the ultra-covert camera rig
into the club, and said make sure you check it or hell break the camera guys arms. In
a nicely intimidating way. Problem is, that same guy who does quality control on the
front door at the start of the night also stands by the front door inside the club at the
end of the night which is a major spanner in the works for me.

What Ive learned from experience is this skip to the one minute mark to get straight
into it.
SIDE NOTE: AT THE TIME OF MAKING THIS VIDEO I had been traumatised by my
Swedish students freaking out over the notion of state and them not being in it. Theyd
become so logically bound to the idea that to have crippled them. This isnt usually a
problem, but in places like Sweden, Denmark, Norway, Finland, Russia, Germany and
Iceland it always seems to be. Gaining an awareness of state is good to gauge your
mood and great for very general self-development la Anthony Robbins. BUT AS I
MAKE THE POINT EARLY IN THIS VIDEO state is not the variable that gets you great
results its something else entirely. My apologies for the strength of my language on
the topic.
(if you are confused about the reconciliation of state and relaxing check out the TylerAlexander video focuses on the differences more here and some other videos where I
outline the value of relaxation and arousal on my channel:
youtube.com/RSDalexander)
SO THERE YOU HAVE IT, SIMPLY PUT BE THERE WHEN THEY WALK OUT OF
THE CLUB. Freaking stupid, but the most valuable thing.
So here we were on the weekend, hitting up set after set of girls, only the girls hottest
enough to be worthy for hotseat recording, hooking, escalating, making them laugh,
establishing physical rapport. But, we usually stay within line of sight of the cloakroom
to see when we can convert inside-the-club interactions into outside-the-club
interaction. But on this night we had security breathing down our necks, threatening to
break our arms for having an un-checked camera LET ALONE A DELIBERATE
INFIELD CAMERA, MIC AND RECEIVER, so we took it upon ourselves to try and
achieve the same one night stand results without being nearby the club exit to make a
move at that critical time when the girls leave the bar, when and you can connect with
them as real people outside the venue on the way to getting food, or a taxi, or when
theyre relaxing with a cigarette free from the pain of their high heels.
I experienced this intense frustration of being able to start so many sets, see them take
the form of what has turned into great closing interactions in the past, but not be able
to take those interactions towards the front door.

My alternation approach to the tried and tested ESSENTIAL step in the process of
leaving the venue with them was to try and create interactions with girls that were
strong enough that theyd tell their friends that theyd leave without them and leave with
me instead. A long shot, but it can work.
However, its very fucking unlikely to work with girls 19-23 year old girls, whove driven
30-40 minutes into the city to go to an expensive club with a group of friends, who are
irritable and tired between 3 and 6 am on a Saturday night, whore drunk and
immature.
All those variables are givens on any night out at the clubs in Australia.
Subtract the variable of me being the nice guy whos there with them when they leave
the venue and youre just another creep in the bar. Every guy in that kind of bar is an
instant defence elicitor. Defences that can be over come with good humour, but unless
the girl was really a DTF type girl before you met her, you are fighting a losing battle.
BIGTIME.
Which made me think about those newbies going out chasing girls all the time and not
getting the results you want.
ITS BECAUSE YOU DONT KNOW THE STUPIDEST FUCKING TRUTH OF ONE
NIGHT STAND GAME EVER. LEAVE THE VENUE WHEN THE GIRL DOES. SIMPLE
MAKE IT APPEAR THAT IT WAS GOOD TIMING. SHE WISHES SHE HAD GOOD
TIMING WITH A GUY OF VALUE unlike any guy whove ever in a bar ever whore
all axe murders. So they assume.
None the less, I got great clips running the Skills of the Natural Instinct Method on
many gorgeous bitchy club girls as isolated examples of skills to demonstrate to you at
my hotseat.
We went all night. And finally gave up at 8am after we thought that there absolutely
couldnt be anyone else we could possibly talk to. BUT, during the video blog a couple
of relatively attractive girls walked by that we successfully approached, number closed
and pulled to our car where we drove them to their car and were still talking with now a
coupe of days later. Attractive girls, but not really attractive enough to get us excited.
Point is never give up.

Besides not giving up, you need to spend your time in field with the people you wing
with, and the people you meet, learning how to have fun so that you can perpetually be
in a great mood whenever or wherever youre out and talking to girls.
As an equation, the longer youre out the more likely it is youre going to meet, arouse
and inspire a girl to hook up with you. The higher the percentage of that time that
youre in a great relaxed creative expressive mood the more likely youre going to get
that great girl. In short: have fun.
Accept the fact that you cant control other peoples free will. And even if you do
everything right, the really hot girls, in suburban cities, dont have a default state of the
one night stand. They have a default state of meeting a person a couple of times
before they have sex. So come into synchronisation with their reality first called
having empathy and then once youre living in connection with their reality move
towards the reality youd like to establish.
Being patient with their reality becomes one of the fastest ways to get laid. Being
willing to accept the fact that girls dont have one night stands can compel a girl to
actually have one.
BUT YOU ACTUALLY HAVE TO ACCEPT IT IN YOURSELF.
Its good when you do, because then you never have that bad feeling of not getting a
reward for your efforts of going out, approaching and growing. Instead you always get
rewarded going out and having fun. A great expectation for you to set yourself and then
fulfil every time you go out.
Then, you can transcend your own fun each time. This change in expectations will
make you an expert fun guy, whos naturally going to inspire more attention from the
hottest girls and eclipse the highest status guys.
As a side note you will never truly understand the value of free time on a weekend until
youve been a bootcamp coach! It was so fun to head out and fuck around for literally
ten hours straight, and I hope that iss something that everyone can cultivate
individually for themselves as well. Stop once in a while and think what life would be
like if you were in jail and you werent able to go out and be free in a club? You have
freedom to go out and have fun, spend time with friends, listen to music and entwine
yourself with beautiful girls every weekend.

Appreciate it.
More thoughts on the same topic to round out this weeks blog.
So let these thoughts from one of the handful of most experienced cold-approach
Bootcamp coaches in the world allow you to change you paradigm on the idea of the
one-night-stand, taking the pressure off yourself, reassessing the things you focus on
during your nights out and then lead you to get more one-night-stand results as our
experienced paradigm of one night-stand-game explains.
Im cranking back up www.alexattitude.com right about now, ready for the hotseat
launch, so subscribe in the sidebar via email for the first information about the dates
and places for the program in your city.
Alexander~
http://alexattitude.com/pick-up-girls-real-social-dynamics-mistakingintimidation-for-bad-skills-a-critical-paradigm-shift-that-you-must-have-if-younever-want-a-girl-to-be-a-bitch-to-you-again/

Mistaking Intimidation for Bad Skills; A

paradigm shift that you MUST have if you
NEVER want a girl to be a bitch to you again.
Helsinki Times

In short; your perception that a girl is acting bitchy toward you is a misunderstanding.
You are actually having an intimidating (intense/in your face/extreme) effect on her and
overwhelming her. Your perception of a bitchy reaction (evasive/stand offish/slow to
warm up/shut down/cold) has exactly the same behavioral traits as an intimidated
response. The solution; embrace emotional congruence with I am enough and realize
girls reactions are not bitchy, but rather anxious responses to you because they are
unfamiliar with you and/or perceive you to be high value. This automatic reaction is the

same way that you and everyone automatically reacts when they feel social
discomfort when exposed to someone they perceive has higher confidence (higher
status/ high value/ more influential/ less reactive) than them.
If you dont yet comprehend that, read it again until you do. If you dont understand that
intimidated reactions are misunderstood as bitchy reactions, then youre fucked. In
misinterpreting these reactions, youre on the way to hating girls and thinking they all
suck basically becoming a bitter then possibly evil guy destined to hate chicks and
hate pick up as a displacement of frustration toward yourself. Countless guys out to
learn pick up have suffered from this misunderstanding. Being drawn into hating chicks
because of this misunderstanding is the dark side of cold approach pick up. I
GARANTEE that if youre drawn into the chicks are bitches emotional headspace, you
will never become good with girls and will even become further and further removed
from enjoying social experiences. You will never grow, and you will never have success
with cold approach pick up. How sad, you loser.
There is an advanced paradigm in order to understand reactions from cold approach; I
dont have bad social skills, Im intimidating her because Im confident. This is a
positive way to interpret girls reactions, which open the possibility to have cold
approaches resulting in dates and sex WHEN IT NEVER DID BEFORE and
internalize a paradigm (mindset) that gives enthusiastic feelings towards cold approach
interactions. Doing this will infinitely perpetuate personal evolution. Once you come
into congruence with the advanced paradigm I dont have bad social skills, Im
intimidating her because Im confident, you start to evolve. You will be become more
naturally attractive (unconsciously automatically attractive) to the hottest girls, while
becoming increasingly efficient at turning meetings into consummation. You will begin
to gain fulfillment from, not be left with an empty feeling from, the relationships and/or
sex you experience with the girls you approach.
A broader way to look at this is through a Be the man in their life mind frame.
My experience in Finland gave me final clarity of this realization. For a long time, I
hypothesized that approaches need to be done with the frame of I need to be careful
and not intimidate this girl, so she doesnt become anxious, unsettled and flighty,
while vehemently avoiding the frame of Shes a stupid bitch who should be nice to me
and totally engage me immediately or fuck off and I hate her frame.

Finnish society puts almost no value on social skills and emotional interaction. Its a
place where most people (guys and girls) are extremely introverted, especially when
communicating in their third language of English. When approaching in Finland,
communication is played out in emotional nuances and very subtle vibes. On the
contrary, in scenarios where a guy speaks the same language as the girl, its easy to
only ever see interactions through the superficial meanings communicated by words,
losing all emotion and empathy in communication.
Also, if they speak differently to you (other accents or languages), you learn advanced
communication skills. When approaching in socially repressed Finland, verbal
communication is broken so ALL THAT CAN BE USED are raw emotional cues to
instantaneously respond the crutches of words arent there for your support and
guidance. This simplicity of communication violently smacks you in the face with
insights that can be applied to interactions with girls in any language, including your
own, and taught to my students to advance their understanding of communication and
therefore results in the game.
With advanced understanding of raw emotional communication, cold approach
success rates (amount of people that instantly open up to you, answer calls, have one
night stands, etc) increases profoundly back in environments where the girls youre
approaching speak the same language as you do. I, as do most of the readers of this
blog, have an advanced understanding of verbal communication from studying social
dynamics. Just add your new, advanced understanding of raw emotional cues, and you
will also become profoundly better.
In addition, understanding verbal communication TOO WELL to the point where you
lose sight of emotional interactions can also have you focusing on the wrong signals
while missing accurate communication embedded within raw emotional cues.
Finland is especially awesome for developing insights on raw emotional
communication, due to the simple fact that the girls are so fucking hot. Imagine the
sexy, slutty stereotype of Swedish girls crossed with the exotic features, tall physiques,
genetic beauty, and feminine stereotypes of Russian girls and boom; you have the
amazing Finnish girls. Include Finnish girls concurrent excitement to meet an attractive
guy and massive fear of failure to get his attention, and you have potential arousal
dynamics waiting to be realized- simply with approaching. Finland; where the girls are
stunning and attraction is already built into the interaction. Finland is Angel-land.

Even after all the exotic places Ive been and all the gorgeous club girls Ive met, from
my point of view, the Finnish girls are phenomenally beautiful. Sadly, in clubs theyre
mostly surrounded by fat, drunk, badly dressed computer playing Finnish chodes. Its a
joke how unattractive the Finnish guys are, and an even bigger joke how stunning the
Finnish girls are. Here you have girls who are scary-beautiful with almost no
experience interacting with guys, especially confident guys theyre excited and
intimidated to meet. From an English speaking perspective, this is the only place in the
world where I have found a dynamic like this.
As soon as I realized the value of the bad reactions because youre intimidating, not
because you have bad skills epiphany that is particularly unique to Finland, I thought it
very important to gain as many case studies of successfully approaching and
consummating interactions with stunning introverted Finnish girls with limited verbal
communication skills.
On a personal note, Finland is my little fairytale land. There is one other better place
than Finland for cold approach pick up (but Ill keep as a secret for myself : ) ). Finland
is a place where you can take a girl from a guy, then take his shirt as well. Its a place
where the girls agree to let you make it rain on them, on camera, to take home and
show your dad in Australia. Its a place where you can take a girl home from the club
towards the end of the night and then go back out and take another beautiful girl home
from McDonalds to make the night doubly successful.

Hot Blonde Girls in Cheerleading Costumes

Angels dancing in circles on the dancefloor

Making it rain for a video to show Dad back in Australia

Its not enough to just steal the girl from the guy, you have to steal his shirt as well.
I share my good experiences to inspire closer attention to the ideas I want to transfer
to you here, to encourage you to pursue the same levels of fun and success Im
having, or to reality-shock you into realizing you are wasting your life choding around
like a passive idiot. Take action, and pay attentionor be a chode.
If you want to attempt to perceive if a girl is receiving, you will when visiting nonEnglish speaking countries like Finland. This requires a huge shift in perception, simply
because you dont have the same verbal cues as you do home. At first, interactions
with girls comes to a grinding halt- because saying things verbally doesnt cause the

same arousal (attraction) it usually does, and the reactions they give you arent a
reflection of what youve said.
So, shed the burden of words and turn your attention away from both the things youre
sayingand the things being said (or not said) to you. Once your focus evolves from
verbal communication to emotional communication, you will grow exponentially
fast and see the cause/ effect dynamics in the interactions, ultimately leading you to
better results from cold approaches.
Once you get the emotional level of communication just by simply hanging out with a
girl, you communicate that youre attractive, express yourself while attraction naturally
happens, look past the meaningless words shes saying, and gain the intuition that the
girls become nervous and flighty under the social pressure they feel when you
approach them.
Its like muting the words in your native languages interactions. Without words, you feel
whats going on with the girl right there in front of you, maybe for the first time. Your
empathy wakes up, and your feelings perceive more accurately than words on how the
girl is receiving you. With accurate perception, you can continually respond in arousing
ways to the girl and take the interaction in the direction you want.
Once you shift your paradigm from verbal communication to emotional
communication you clearly see that the girls skeptical reactions to your
approaches ARE ACTUALLY reactions to you intimidating them not your
former interpretation that you had bad game.
Here you are reading about and practising how to become a high value guy, but, for a
long time before this reading, you may have felt like a low value guy. When you
approach girls with new high value, girls will react you in an intimidated way, but
because youve had low value emotions for a long time, youre used to interpreting
girls reactions to you as you being low value. This interpretation is based on old habits,
and a lack of experience as a high value guy.
You need to evolve all three personal dimensions of cognition, behavior, and emotion
to fully transform yourself from a Beta guy (low value) into an Alpha guy (high value). In
learning from Real Social Dynamics, you will read things which give you new ideas;
cognition, and learn to do new things; behaviours, but, if you dont take responsibility

for the emotional dimension of yourself and it lags behind in development, it will cause
a weird incongruence in you, making the emotion that presents as anxiousness; aka
thoughts of Im never going to get good with girls. You need to start to focus
on feeling like an alpha male AS WELL to make natural game work.
Until you have that realization, youll continue to have negative emotional reactions
(thinking of girls as bitches) toward girls that are avoidant towards your approaches,
which will only deepen bad habits in your Beta male self.
To transform your Beta male emotional self into an Alpha male emotional self, you
need to use willpower (which starts in your head and works into your emotions) to look
out for and acknowledge behavioural evidence in you, and the girls you talk to. This
behavioral change supports the transformed self that youre working towards.
For example, if you are taking initiative to become better guy, grow, and evolve, thats
evidence that you are becoming more Alpha. Realise this and acknowledge it to
yourself, even if your habits before studying social dynamics will still be back in the
beta male emotional space. Yet the fact is that just by taking initiative to learn about
yourself and take on new behaviours, that self initiated comfort zone push IS YOU
ALREADY BEING AN ALPHA MALE. Its easy to miss this self acknowledgement
during transformation. Focus on what helps you transform, dont fail to acknowledge
the actions youre taking to grow, or youll stay the same.
Youre a guy whos studying social dynamics and implementing new behaviours to go
out and expand your comfort zone. Youre taking on new alpha behaviours. You are
growing due to your own initiatives. If a girl gives you a non-compliant reaction the old
you will quickly think of that as I suck, and then you might develop hate towards the
girl. BUT the Alpha male that you are working towards becoming would interpret that
as the girl being a little bit intimidated and unsure of how to deal with you as an
unfamiliar encounter in her life.
If you take on the alpha male interpretation, then you will never hate her, remain calm,
remain positive, and be able to approach her over and over again until you make the
right impression to connect with her. This mode of behaviour leaves opportunity for her
to become attracted to you. You then never become self-doubting and hateful towards
her, destroying any chance of re-approaching her and forming any kind of interaction at
all.

The old Beta male you that you want to overcome used to see girls as trophies above
you on pedestals. The self that you are transforming into is a GUY ON A PEDESTAL; a
high value alpha-guy who see girls as members of the same society you live in, and
that dont have the same will power and discipline to push their comfort zones as you
do.
In the alpha reality, you are the king of your reality, the King frame, and from your
pedestal you metaphorically look downwardly (looking down) upon a girl from a place
of abundance and selection.
So many guys transforming from a place of low value dont realise that girls see guys
as higher value then themselves, or that they are intently looking for guys of higher
value then themselves. Before you approach girls, they are scouting for a guy working
towards what you want to become, simply meaning they will react to you as though
your high value. This causes their reactions to you to come across as lower value;
displaying traits like defensiveness, avoidance, fear of loss, anxiety and stifling.
Think about cold approach from the girls perspective of reality, so you can relate to her
better as the Alpha male guy you want to transform into. The girls perspective of reality
is extremely similar to your perspective of reality when you were a fourteen year old
teenager: you spend a lot of time in your head making yourself anxious, you are
constantly concerned with how you look, you compare yourself to others, and you
always read between the lines unnecessarily creating good and bad hidden meanings
that dont exist.
A girl in the bar, like you when you were fourteen, is her own worst enemy.
Understand how you can be intimidated by someone of value approaching you.
If your fourteen year old self was approached by the hottest girl in school/work/social
circle what would your reaction be? Youd just durr-out (become dumbfounded), and
not know what to say or do- especially because youd have thought she was more
confident than you. Instead of just being able to have fun and joke around, youd seize
up; dedicating all your faculties toward ensuring that youre making the impression that
you think you should have (which would be wrong), and being defensive towards her
projecting bad impression onto you, which she wasnt.

Being approached by value would have totally stifled you, and if you did speak youd
have probably said something involuntary that you didnt mean (and might regret),
because its something you heard someone from someone else or from someone in a
movie. You wouldnt even speak your own words; youd recite things youve heard.
At the age of fourteen youd have said something, then later think to yourself, why the
fuck did I say/do that? to which the answer would be; because of wavering internal
emotional states making you lack self confidence and behave with hesitation.
When a hot girl approached your fourteen year old self sure, you wanted to have sex
with her, but would you have made the moves right there and then? No, you wouldnt
have even been able to compose yourself, let alone have made a move. Like girls in
the bar, your fourteen year old self would have been too consumed with trying to settle
anxiety felt from being approached for the idea of sex to even cross your mind. Girls in
the bar dont even think about sex, even though they could very well take you by the
hand right then and there and lead you away to a hotel room. It doesnt enter their
mind. Although, with enough time and relaxation, and the guys lead it definitely can,
and maybe shell be compliant with those ideas.
Side note: drugs and alcohol can significantly dull down a girls anxiety bringing out the
self she wants to be as well.
As a fourteen year old, even if a hot girl made a move on you it was hard to comply
with it comfortably without getting inside your head, fucking up the moment and putting
a confident girl off, making her frustrated and impatient. Usually, shed take your stifled
reactions toward her advances as a bad reflection of herself.
THESE ARE EXACTLY THE SAME WAYS A GIRL IN A CLUB EXPEREINCES YOUR
CONFIDENT APPROACH IN A BAR.
So you see, when you think you have shit game because a girl didnt instantly get
down on her knees and suck your dick after approaching, whats actually happening is:
shes just getting nervous and knee-jerk defensive towards you due to the fact that she
feels intimidated by someone more confident than her.
More so, if you dont realize this, you start to think that girls are stupid bitches for not
being instantly friendly and open with you. Girls dont have time to be your best friend

in the first fifteen seconds of meeting you, because they are too consumed with
anxiousness and trying to compose themselves so to not fuck-up the impression they
want to make on a confident guy approaching them.
Sadly, when a girl meets a confident guy shes usually socially conditioned to think that
she should be just as confident back (or something), so she puts on a front of
confidence (which isnt congruent with the sweet girl that she is underneath), and she
comes off as confrontational or bitchy. In really, shes not like that all. Think about how
that same girl would be when she wakes up on Christmas morning in her pajamas and
exchanges presents with her family.
When girls drink alcohol it makes them do all these seemingly negative behaviors more
intensely, making girls seem more bitchy toward your approach. This gives you
increased feedback that can have you misinterpreting that your game sucks even
more based on her reaction.
Your game doesnt suck, youre bringing your socially awkward fourteen year old self
out in that girl. Thats a good sign that you are moving into congruence with a guy who
is cognitively, behaviorally, and emotionally an alpha male because, just by you being
you, she becomes reactive to you and aroused (attracted) to you, which will compel
her to comply with physical escalation- dates and after parties you initiate with her.
The phrases he makes me feel girly or he makes me feel like a woman is what a girl
says to describe the phenomenon they feel when like they are in the presence of a
really confident guy.
TAKE NOTE that if girls start to seem stifled from you approaching them, thats a sign
that you are making them feel internally aroused (a combination of excited and
intimidated), so much so that they become introverted and momentarily paralyzed, yet
still attentive to you. DONT THEN interpret her introversion as her not liking you, and
decide to behave more intensely towards her. Behaving more intensely will intimidate
her so much so that she will become scared and run away. A girl will always choose
flight in a confrontational fight or flight situation.
Evolve your interpretation of girls reaction to your approaches in bars. They dont react
non-compliantly to your approaches due to something that youre doing, they react noncompliantly because that is the nature of girls.

With that paradigm shift firmly planted in your mind, you need to think re-think how you
would go about approaching now that you have emotionally embraced the alpha male
paradigm that youre approaching girls from the position of value in a way that will
make them nervous and non-compliant with introversion or tests.
HERE ARE THE ANSWERS AND THE BEHAVIORS YOU NEED TO BEGIN TO
IMPLEMENT TO MAKE NATURAL INSTICTS METHOD NON-INTIMIDATING
APPROACHES WORK.
A couple of ways to describe the paradigm of approaching girls is an adoption frame,
employer frame, or a man in their life frame. How would a child you were adopting
react to you? How would an employee behave towards you? How would a girl react to
you in primitive times when society didnt provide equal opportunity for men and
women?
To have a good relationship with an adopted child, an employee, or a woman who was
totally dependent on you, you have to take on a totally different tactic rather than
impressing, pleasing or trying to knock her off a pedestal. You are already impressive
because you are confident, you are already pleasing because you are arousing to be
around (she reacts more to you than you do to her), and, YOU are the one on the
pedestal things are how they should be.
With the girls you approach in bars; you must be patient, validating, provocative; a
good leader, disciplinarian, calming and reassuring. Think about it, when you were a
Beta male you wanted all these traits from people you perceived to be higher value
then you. Now that you want to be of high value you have to behave this way, and hold
this frame with the girls you approach.
BEWARE! When you start interactions, girls will act (not be) high value, because thats
the habit theyve formed from all the chodes projecting value onto them, and what
social conditioning tells them they are. In the beginning of interactions its going to be a
high value standoff, usually meaning the girl will be aroused by you and engaged with
you, but be non-compliant towards you and test you to see if your high value frame is
unbreakable, and that you ACTUALLY ARE a man of value. High value frame tests are
your emotional gymnasium where you can build your emotional strength and
congruence with Alpha male emotional space. Growing through exposure to tests is

the actual tangible route to growth in field. Enduring tests are the small stepping stones
of personal transformation.
A frame battle is won by standoff, not by extra offense, or shutting down actions and
being defensive. In the beginnings of your interactions hold the patient, validating,
provocative, leadership, disciplinarian, calming and reassuring Im intimidating her, I
dont have shit game mind frame.
Patience is the pivotal variable here, so hold the frame. Over time and with repeated
approaches, the girl will eventually fall into her natural feminine frame. Its as though
shes giving in to you, but she quietly likes that youre the sort of guy she wants to give
into. Time is your ally is a very important variable to reconsider when you make the
beta male to alpha male evolution.
As an alpha male, be patient with the girl; shes nervous around confident guys like
you. Be patient with her as she regains her composure and relaxation in your
company. She will eventually (it could take several dates for her to feel confident
enough to be herself and start to offer more personality around you) start to show her
true self. She will look to you to lead her into thinking that it is ok to be herself around
you.
Its ridiculous to think that so many guys think that chicks are boring, so they walk
away after approaching. Well durrr you are training to be more interesting and higher
value than everyone you meet, so you have to realize that OF COURSE people arent
going to be as interesting to you as what youre doing or saying. This is not because
theyre inferior, but because you have spent a lot of time academically developing your
social skills, whereas the girls you approach have spent none. It might even be the
case that some of the girls you approach have emotional problems that you cant see
on first impression.
Be patient with the girl when you initiate physical interaction or invitations to hang out
in isolated situations. Remember when you were young and you were scared of
making moves on girls? For some crazy reason it was insanely hard to get up the guts
to make a move on a girl. If a girl thinks youre a high value guy, this is how shell fell
towards you making moves on her. Dont worry, be patient, shell become comfortable
and then comply with becoming more intimate with you.

Being validating and provocative are dynamics to talk about in arousal articles
another time, but, in short, if a girl perceives you to be a person of value, the
compliments you pay her will be very validating and thus emotionally meaningful to her.
From your perspective, its as though youre in the position of directly handing out good
emotions to commend things you like. Knowing this information, you will really make
the girl feel good to be hearing it (compliments) from you.
To be provocative is to help the girl begin to express herself around you. Its one thing
to have plenty of things to say yourself, but you also need to be able to provoke the girl
into talking and contributing in the interaction. Thats where you can use teases and
unfounded accusations in a playful way to get her to react to you and open up. The
more high value you become, the more you will make girls nervous and suppress their
expression, which is when you might inaccurately think they have boring personalities.
Being provocative helps overcome the intimidation effect that brings a girls expressive
side out, and advances the interaction from a 90-10 talking ratio to a 50-50 talking
ratio.
To be a leader in the interaction is to clearly know that if you want the set to go
somewhere its going to have to be you who takes it further, whether this be by
initiating ideas or continuing to initiate moves even when the girl isnt compliant. Some
guys might think this set isnt going anywhere, I guess this girl doesnt like me, Im a
chode, I will leave, when really the set wasnt going anywhere because the alpha male
has to be the one to lead the nervous girl. You can never rely that the girl is going to be
the one to take the set somewhere.
Think of the times you approached a girl and she gave you the quiet and attentive
treatment and you just walked away. Now you realize that there was so much more
potential there, both for a good interaction and as a chance to push your comfort zone
and further grow into familiarity of interacting with hot girls. Dont make this common
mistake again.
As a high value guy talking to people looking up to you (or wanting to look up to you),
you need to be the one to call them out, and discipline them when they are being
immature or annoying. The diplomatic expression of personal boundaries (expressing
yourself negatively or standing up for yourself) is the counterpoint of fun, positive
expressions that rounds out the full range of emotions that is the natural
communication pattern of alpha guys. This is what automatically arouses girls.

HOWEVER, the most important new behaviors of the paradigm shift from my game
sucks to I might be intimidating this girl, is being calm, and being able to reassure her.
To calm a girl, endure her non-compliance tests or any pseudo-confident front that she
projects. The best way to calm a girl is to hold your frame of relaxation and I am
enough (Natural Instinct Method), and trust that the girl is eventually going to fall into
your strong frame. With each test you endure the girl will become more at ease with
you. Time plays a big part in calming a girl that might be intimidated by you.
Reassurance is reminding the girl that everything is ok and you genuinely like her
company. Reassurance is another way to talk about the skill of qualifying the girl. From
her point of view, if she feels that you are higher value than her shes going to want to
know a why a confident guy like you chose to talk to her. Reassure the girl what it is
about her that you like, and what made you want to choose her over the other girls.
Calming the girl and reassuring the girl by enduring tests and qualification are two
dynamics that girls likes to have reinforced for the entire duration you are in any form of
intimate relationship with her. These are formalities, but still extremely important
dynamics. Guys who calm girls with strong consistent frames and are generally
reassuring are thought of as charming. Girls will agree to hang out with a guy she
thinks is charming more so than a macho or intense guy. Shell comply with requests to
hang out with someone who makes her feel comfortable more than any other type of
guy. Being charming is something that a girl is both naturally attracted to and
something that social conditioning tells her to value. Understand the paradigm shift in
this article; be that guy and spend more intimate time with gorgeous girls.
You cant be charming in the first 15 seconds of the interaction. Understand that to
build up an impression of charming takes longer than ten minutes. Be prepared to walk
away from the set, come back, or re-approach the girl later on if logistics dont permit
the interaction to work out properly the first time you attempt to engage the girl.
Everything youre reading is not things that you directly say or do, but rather principles
and inner game dynamics that you can take away. To learn these principles, think
about these ideas and allow them to settle into your cognition. Your new mind frame
will then drive your behaviors, and eventually form your emotional composition as well.
Meditate on words and phrases like patience, giving validation, being playfully
provocative, taking initiative to lead, calling out, be calming and reassuring. By writing

down these words and taking time to think about them, youre literally planting seeds
into your mind that will take root and germinate. Once planted, these principles start to
become the origin of your actions and the source of your responses when youre under
social pressure.
In becoming more Alpha, you will begin to see that you are a far cry from what might
have been your former beta male self, and that your behaviors towards girls are
changing. The opposite traits (the ones you used to have) would no longer be present;
the traits to seek validation, be reaction seeking, wait for the permission or the girl to
do something in the set, let the girl tell you how you should socially conduct yourself,
and be anxious and try to disarm the girl.
All the things you must evolve past, at all costs.
To conclude this article, lets snap back to the meta frame; the big picture.
You are a guy who is biologically designed to grow from a feminine boy into an
emotionally fortuitous man, who can establish yourself with such strength that others
will look to depend on you. If youre not there yet, you are reading these kinds of
articles to gather information and inspiration to help get you into Alpha male
congruence as quickly as possible. If youre not there yet, adopt the Alpha cognition;
emotions and behaviors you learn from mentors including Real Social Dynamics to cut
your learning curve. Your main motivation is to please yourself. Girls and women are
biologically designed to reproduce, giving them hormonal patterns that you, as a guy,
cant even comprehend, but you do need to know it makes them emotionally variable
(unstable) as hell. Girls live in a reality where they cant avoid living in brutal emotional
reaction to everything, making many of their behaviors involuntary and indecisive. A
girls main motivation is to avoid stress and anxiety, which is unavoidable in the social
world we co inhabit.
I have a frame in my mind that I want to transfer to you.
When you see a girl, dont see social dynamics. See that shes a little girl with a big
heart and lots of things to be concerned about. See that she gets constantly upset by
things that guys never even think about, and as a strong guy you can give her feelings
of calmness and security that she has trouble grasping and keeping for her-self. Know
that all you have to do to have a significant emotional influence on her life is to be

patient with her and listen to her. This allows you to connect until she trusts you
enough to let herself be herself. Ninety nine percent of the time, that fun doesnt
involve having sex due to logistics or a lack of mutual attraction.
It doesnt change the fact that all you have to do is tune into the girls emotions and
connect with her, give the interaction time, endure her tests and be patient until you get
past her social facade, and watch her come out of her shell until you see her real self.
Know that a large percent of the guys she has talked to and talks to selfishly interpret
her as skeptical, standoffish, cold, and confrontational. This reaction to cold
approaches has them thinking in a not good enough mentality, so they walk away or
get angry, or confront her by calling her a bitch.
From my point of view, and the one I want to transfer, its really easy to stand-out to a
girl in contrast to every other guy. By holding the frame, being patient, using empathy,
being strong in yourself and realizing that her non compliant reactions are intimidation
of confidence in social situations, is you exercising will power that helps her to connect
with you. You have to do this on her behalf.
Once you get a feel for the intimidated girls paradigm, the game becomes so easy
and your time in social situations becomes so pleasant. Long gone are the days of
bitches wrecking your life even if a girl is giving you attitude; it quickly dissipates into
nothing as you effortlessly see past it. You see girls as the innocent, feminine, delicate,
beautiful, sensitive people that they are. Girls can intuitively tell that you can you see
her unique traits of beauty in their personality and aesthetic expression. Theyll feel
special, and get the rare excitement of feeling girly in reaction to a person of high
value noticing them. Its the romantic revolution in action. Once you see the emotional
communication; everybody wins.
Understand the paradigm shift Im explaining here, and it will be your strength and
willpower that leads to long sets, answered phone calls, after-parties, dates, and great
relationships with the most beautiful girls who know a true Alpha male the moment hes
calm in the face of her involuntary, non-compliant reactions to cold approach pickups.

Alexander~

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Pick Up Girls: Real Social Dynamics. Physical

Rapport; Cease To Be A Freak, The Fastest
Way To Get Girls.
Got a nice little video from Japan here about the idea of Physical Rapport, Ive also
included some pictures of my times in Japan. I had a supreme experience in Japan
with the Japan RSD crew, Bombastic 2.0 on the forums is our go to guy there now.
Its a 12 girls a month city, a nice combination of models from Europe, tourists from
Australia, and of course, the unique Japanese girls. See some of the Japanese
times @ 2.24 mark in the 2010 video.
On the surface Japanese culture seems to be very introverted. Once you become
embedded in the nightlife you realise the people are just as sexual as any other
culture on earth. The Japanese cultural experiences lead to me a new idea:
Physical Rapport.
The purpose of Physical Rapport is to give the girl the inception phenomenon
where the girl forms her own idea (impulse/feeling/intention/desire) that she wants
to move the interaction forward towards sex with you. This is the fastest way to
convert cold approaches into sex (getting the girl). Getting the girl is easiest done
once the girl has made her own decision that she wants to hook up with you.
Therefore, make this your focus for the most effective way to pick up girls from cold
approach.
Tokyo Physical Rapport

Physical-Rapport-style physical interactions with girls during cold approach pickup

is a dynamic with intention to draw the girl into the inception idea. Beyond this
inception idea, practising Physical Rapport causes many other deeper
understandings of interactions with girls, bring you into congruence with I am
enough and helps you develop abundance.

Physical Rapport is a component of the Alexander~ RSD Natural Instincts

Method (Natural Instincts Method). I make reference to dynamics in that article
throughout the explanation of Physical Rapport, if something doesnt make sense
re-read that article. Other principles will be written about in depth later. Ill add links
to articles about ancillary topics if you need deeper explanation. Some of those
articles exist but others dont yet exist and will be empty links that will become
active once their respective articles have been posted in the future. If there are any
questions or clarifications needed in the meantime please ask in the comments
section below. I am obliged to answer.
With Physical Rapport I intend to teach you something new. In introducing these
new ideas and repercussions I will continually compare new ideas to sociallyconditioned and game-theory conditioned ideas about physical interactions you
might have in order to relate to your understanding and contrast methodologies.
Physical Rapport is way of physically interacting with girls form cold approach that
creates a frame of anticipation and excitement. The purpose of physical rapport is
to create a physically comfortable relationship with the girl in a social space so that
she would be comfortable to spend time with you later in an isolated space. Its
controlled and limited physical escalation that leaves the girl wanting more.
Physical rapport is a form of physical escalation that allows you interact with many
different girls in a social space while not being considered a player. Physical
rapport gives you the opportunity to create social abundance discontinue intensive
confrontational escalation that might alienate people.
Physical Rapport interaction moves include handshakes, shoulder touching, hand
leading, hand games, the claw, hugs, standing in each others space and sitting in
each other space. That is all you need to have good physical interactions with a girl.
You can include other aggressive physical interaction as intermittent physical
expressions in the interaction for fun, but not to cause the girl to be attracted to you
or give you attention. You will have significantly better interactions if you use a small
amount of physicality over a long period of time than an intense amount of physicality in a

You can amass more arousal (attraction) with smaller physical

arousal over a long period of time than if you use a massive amount of physical
arousal that might scare the girl away and end the interaction.
small amount of time.

The biggest shift that I want you to get from using physical rapport is to become
non-polarising. With aggressive physicality you can easily make girls defensive and
scared. With Physical Rapport you never do anything that might cause girls to have
a bad reaction to you like running away, thinking you are creepy or becoming
defensive.
If you are going to be going out in the same place over and over you want to build
long term abundance. With physical rapport you have interactions that either create
connection or have potential to create connection later. Due to logistics sometimes
you simply cant get a good conversational connection in a club or bar. If you
become aggressive (negative/frustrated/desperate) you can burn potential
connections. If you cant make a connection on the first attempt make the same
approach again and again until you get that connection. That way you dont do
anything wrong and there is never a reason to be received negatively by girls.
From a girls perspective on your first approach attempt she will think you are just
like any other drunk guy trying to get laid and ignore you or blow you off (unless
you beat the test formalities and get through the first time). If you dont react she
wont have any reason to think badly about you. If you do this a couple of times
without ever becoming negative (aggressive/frustrated/desperate) and you keep
your chill fun vibe regardless of what happens (I am enough frame) she will
eventually come around and open up to make the connection.
Ive literally heard girls say this about my students; I have spoken to that guy four
times, hes never been weird, hes calm, he can talk to everyone around here and
everyone is cool with him Im cool with him, because he never got upset or
reactive because of the way I behaved towards him.
On the other hand if you do use aggressive physicality you can make girls very
defensive and evasive towards you. If you were to try to reapproach a girl that you
had failed to open with aggressive physicality she would have a strong negative
emotional avoidance towards you. The point is, its almost impossible to
reapproach a girl who you over escalated and freaked out and much better to keep
it cool and give it a chance again later.
occasions where aggressive physicality is appropriate; learning,
physical expressions, decisive pulling at the end of the night and beastmode.
There are some

Using physical rapport is a solid way of interacting with the girls, a of low risk-low
loss methodology whereas aggressive physicality is not as solid, more high risk-high
loss.
When you are learning game you have to gather new references experiences to
expand your reality and make you comfortable to do anything in a social situation.
At times aggressive physicality is very useful in the interaction so you need to make
yourself comfortable with it and familiar with co-ordination of physically performing
the action. Knowing the boundaries of physical confidence and escalation can be
best learnt on a Bootcamp (Bootcamp Information Page).
You can use aggressive physicality as expressions that spike arousal (attraction)
for fun at sporadically during the interaction. Physical expressions must be used
sparingly, Ive seen many guys led to believe that the more they escalate the more
the girl with like them this is not the case. The more you escalate the more the
girl will appear to react to you, but if you use aggressive physicality to cause
reaction in the girl you are actually reacting to her. Specifically, you are living in
reaction to the hope that she will pay attention to you or fix her attention on you
(hooking). The more you live in reaction of hope that the girl will pay attention to
you the more you get drawn into trying harder and harder to get her attention with
increasingly aggressive physicality. Obviously this is a dangerous pattern with
numerous negative repercussions. Beware if you see yourself going down this path
and re-adjust.
Instead, adhere to physical rapport style interaction with sporadic aggressive
physical expressions. Sporadic physical expression within physical rapport style is
a dynamic that clearly shows the girl that you are socially well adjusted and
sexually comfortable resulting in her categorising you as an attractive guy. With
sporadic physical expressions within physical rapport your demonstration of
physical-sexual comfort leads to her physical-sexual comfort and her increased
compliance to your escalation.
Run chill interactions and occasionally do something playful that is more physically
intense, like: picking the girl up, neck kissing, dipping, neck biting, embracing her
on a wall and grinding (amongst others). These moves are only permissible if you are
unapologetic, chill and relaxed (Relaxed Arousal video). These kinds of moves acutely spike
a girls arousal in that moment, but you have to be sure to retract the aggressive

physicality soon after expressing it. You never want to get the girl anywhere near
close to sexual arousal in the bar.If you put a girl into a sexually aroused state
where she feels she is involuntarily going in the direction of unintended intimacy
with you caused by your sexual escalation you may cause her to become evasive.
A girls simple reaction to unexpected seduction is evade. A girls friends simple
reaction to this is rescue and prevent friend from being a slut. Whether these
reactions are anappropriate recourse to your escalation doesnt matter, thats just
how girls react.
Use Physical Expressions to give the girl a taste of excitement, but not to satisfy
the excitement. Using physical expressions from your perspective are really fun to
influence the girl, induce tests that you can beat and watch her involuntarily react
well (excitedly) to you. You can literally witness her become aroused (attracted) to
you by the things you do which give you a satisfying sense of influence, a frame
that further arouses (attracts) the girl because that is the kind of frame she is
hardwired to be attracted to.
Dont make the mistake of overdoing the Physical Expression moves. The goal is to
have the girl wanting to get more arousal after the club therefore considering
spending time with you on at an afterparty or date not to be satisfied with the
arousal shes had from you in the club and to leave with her friends. The Physical
Rapport skills you need to develop are patience and timing for when you and the
girl would be likely to leave the club, usually sometime after the apex of the energy
of the night (Timeframes Of The Night Article.
Physical expressions are good to demonstrate to the girl that you are capable of
making whatever moves you want whenever you want. This implication is important
for inducing the inception. Once you use physical expressions and them take them
away the girl clearly knows your capabilities. This leaves her aroused (attraction)
with anticipation of when you might make the next move. Even better is the arousal
of if you might make the next move, putting through the girl through a full range of
self imposed emotions (arousal), with her becoming more attracted to you.
When it comes to the end of the night you need to be able to use physically
assertiveness to make decisive moves to take responsibility for the pull if the girl is
indecisive about going with you, letting you come with her, or leaving her friends. It
takes some intuition to know when and how to make this move.

Bootcamp (Bootcamp Information Page) will address that, or over time you will get a
good sense of intuition with your own field experience.
Beastmode does employ the use of aggressive physicality. We use the term
Beastmode as approaching decisively at the end of the night to find out who is
receptive to party and who is not. More aggressive physicality is calibrated at the
end of the night and a quick and accurate way to find out if a girl is in a party mood
or not. Only use Beastmode as a backup for physical rapport style for a short
period of time just before and after the bars closing time if you dont have a solid
connection with a girl established by that point in the night. Beastmode has proven
to be a great way to reignite physical rapport interactions from earlier in the night.
Other than these few exceptions you want your interactions to be sociable, not
aggressive.
Physical Rapport in contrast to physical aggression has many benefits for personal
growth (inner game). Physical Rapport is excellent for practising and internalising
the principles from the Alexander~ Natural Instinct Method (Natural Instincts Method) of
I Am Enough Be Arousing Not Attractive and The True Indication Of Interest
(IOI) Is Quiet and Attentive.
If you set out to, and begin to have interactions with limited physical aggression it
helps you trust thatyou as yourself are really all you need to be attractive to a girl.
Most guys are under the impression they need to do something that stands out to
validate themself. Engaging a girl without doing something to stand out gives
evidence to I am enough and helps you come into congruence with it.
If you start to have longer interactions, including the ones with intermissions (time
away from each other) you start to see the arousal dynamic much better. The
misconception is that a girl reacting to you is attraction. A girls attraction to you is
not a solid thing, but rather a potential thing (Arousal =HV + E Articlethere will be
an attraction article on this one day). Shifting to the intention of a longer timeframe
gives you a chance to see how she can warm up and cool down towards you. You
begin to see that you can use your empathy (sense of how the girl feels towards
you) to amplify your expression or retract it in response to how the girl receives
you. Longer more subtle sets help you develop the vision of arousal dynamics so
you can use it to create better connections with the girls you talk to.

Physical rapport is huge for internalising the phenomenon that The true indication
of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive. You can have a very simple
conversation with a girl for an extended period of time without much visible
affection and without forcing her to react you by being aggressive and be
comfortable with giving you her number, moving venues with you or even dating
you. As you gain better vision for subtle attraction dynamics, you change your RAS
(reticular activation system) to notice that even though the girl is behaviourally
introverted this is a sign that she is actually more drawn to you (potentially attracted
to you).
Of the skills in the Alexander~ Natural Instinct Method (Natural Instincts Method) the
Time is your Ally is what really makes physical rapport style escalation work and
is what can lead to the girl to the inception resulting in you hanging out with the girl
in isolation faster than ever, while making the interaction easy going in process.
The variable that makes physical rapport work is time. The longer the interaction,
the more the arousal (attraction) the better chance you have of hanging out with a
girl in an isolated place.
I am enough + slow and steady accumulation of arousal + trusting that you dont
need visible indications of interest from the girl + time = the girl comfortable with
you + feeling excitement towards you = hanging out in an isolated place = you get
the girl.
Physical rapport is all about time. Failure to acknowledge the role of time leads
guys to become impatient, which leads to physical aggression the problems that
come with it listed above.
The perilous dangers of impatience are frustration, rushing the girl, miscalibration
and sociopathic traits, all of which go against the golden principle of I am enough.
As soon as a girl senses any of these things you have no chance.
What you need to know is that arousal is a function of time. It takes a certain
amount of time for a girl to be aroused enough by a guy to hang out with him. Girls
go out to be aroused by a night out, not to have sex, but sex can be a part of that
arousal.

Its a fixed variable that girls will be out for the duration of the night in once place.
They go out, let their arousal build up and once they get bored they move on. Until
then it is highly unlikely they will leave. So you have a timeframe to work with, for
example 10pm until 3am.
Side note:

On extremely rare occasions I have seen girls leave for sex with a guy
they met from cold approach before the time frame. On those occasions the girl
was unattractive or very drunk. Its possible that a girl will leave before the end of
the night, but unlikely.
Side note: Sometimes

you can physically arouse a girl so much that she will be

turned on enough for sex there and then. On the rare occasion that you can
convert her arousal to sex by having a logistical way to get her alone and actually
have sex you are only going to work her into a frenzy which will fully satisfy her. If
you arouse the girl too much without the logistics to act on it then she will
experience a come down in regards to her arousal towards you. This can also
make her feel regretful for being slutty or feeling like shes losing control. This
usually results in her leaving with her friends.
Side note: Sometimes

aggressively physically arousing a girl so much that she is

turned on enough to have then and there can actually work. This is where
bathroom pulls, car pulls and other public sex can occur. If this happens from cold
approach its usually more to do with the girls risqu disposition on that occasion
than your game being good. However, if the girl does have sex with you very quickly
you can give some credit to yourself for your capability to make her comfortable
and aroused enough to act on her risqu disposition. These scenarios happen very
rarely from cold approach but are talked about far more than is an accurate
reflection of reality. This results in guys trying for bathroom pulls and heroic-game
which is very difficult for guys learning game. Guy who are learning who dont get
what they think they should is frustrating and leads to all kinds of negativity making
them aggressive towards girls. Realign your focus on typical cold approach pick up,
get better results (or some at all) and get more out of learning the game.
In the fixed time frame of the night you spend time with one girl in one interaction
and build up arousal. The more experience you get the more efficient you can be at
creating arousal. The longer the interaction with the one girl, including her friends,
the better chance you have of hanging out later. There is no point using physical

aggression to rush to pull the girl, but you can use physical expressions as a fun
way to play like youre going to pull the girl, then drop it, to accelerate arousal
(attraction).
To find which girl you want to spend that timeframe with you can go around and
start several Physical Rapport interactions, talk about the intentions for the night
and, called screening (Screening Article) and see which girls are single or not,
called the Relationship Reaction Matrix (Relationship Matrix Article).
With physical rapport you can go around starting good interactions and screening
at the same timewithout being a seen as a player. Because physical rapport is
physically sociable it is acceptable to interact with multiple girls this way while
weighing up who you want to choose to spend time building up arousal with. It is
very rare that another girl would be receptive to you if they have seen other girls
blow you out due to over-escalation. They might interact with you, but its rare that a
girl will go home with you if she, or her friends, suspect you are trying to be a
player.
You have the advantage of knowing that there is a fixed time frame of the night.
Within that timeframe you can have fun with the girl expressing a range of emotions
as per normal. The big advantage of interacting with a girl using physical rapport
style is that your only goal in the interaction is to be comfortable in each other
space, because you follow the assumption that its not worth the effort to try to
escalate the interaction towards sex until after the timeframe of the night.
Not only are you a socially well adjusted guy, once you have a connection with the
girl you dont instantly play for sex. Instead you are in the moment focusing on
bringing out your fun side. Image you are stuck in detention for some extent of
time, you have to amuse yourself so you dont die of boredom. When you embrace
physical rapport and the timeframe of the night you put your efforts into having fun
which accelerates the way you arouse the girl whereas other guys would be boring,
or waiting or pushing the girl for sex. A lot of guys even let sets go where they have
connections with the girl because they consider the girl too boring, losing the girl.
Side Note:

If you are training yourself to become more high value assume that the
girls you meet who dont study self help and social dynamics wont have the same
value as you. This can make them seem boring, especially if you bring out their

quiet and attentive side. Once you start to come into congruence with high value
you have to run the entire interaction yourself. Dont hope that the girl will interest
you, hope that she is pleasant company.
For the actual physical interaction you will be spending time with the girl you have
chosen. You will have escalated just enough that you are comfortable in each others
space. While you escalate with your girl you can also include other girls you have
already met that you didnt choose to spend the night with, increasing your value
(arousal) even more. You interact with the girl like you have known her for some
time, comfortable standing in her space or bringing her into yours in a relaxed way.
Sometimes you might play little physical games or push-pull. You include sporadic
physical expression in your interaction to keep the set interesting for yourself,
knowing that you will elicit a test that you can beat and accelerate arousal
(attraction) then you pull it back to a relaxed physical rapport frame.
In physical rapport frame youre not worried if the girl has to go and talk to her
friends, and youre not too worried about you leaving her for a moment to talk to
your friends, go to the bathroom or get a drink. In fact, this is a good thing. If you
are cooler with her walking away than she is with you walking away then you are on
the brink of the inception.
The magical idea that physical rapport is designed to spawn in a girls mind is
something like I like this guys, he seems to like my company, he has social skills,
hes not rushed, Im physically comfortable with him, I know he could make moves.
All guys like me, especially guys that get close to me. Why isnt he making more
moves? I have never experienced this before. He is very smooth and very nice.
Maybe hes not into me?! Everyone is into me! Especially the quality guys!
And the inception
Im going to get him to pay more attention to me and take me more seriously.
Maybe not then and there, but with that youre in. Once a girl has has the
inception idea her decision to get you to take her more seriously will accelerate
you and her hooking up faster than anything else from cold approach meetings.
You can get a sense that she is in this headspace when she starts initiating
contact, laughing at your jokes and asking you to take her number. Sometimes

shell say things like dont leave, watch my stuff and where do you live which is
a pretty clear indication that she interested.
Beware that she is only interested, not sold. Based on arousal theory, she will lose
arousal if you suddenly start to rush things. Once you start to rush she knows that
you want her, and it takes the anticipation (potential arousal) out of the interaction.
Hold the frame, play it out. Make sociable suggestions to hang out elsewhere as
the night goes on, logistically organise it with anyone involved and go off into the
night. Once she has the made the decision that she wants you to take her more
seriously and the longer you hold the physical rapport frame the more urgent the
girl feel about wanting to hook up with you. Overall cutting down the time from
meeting to sex, making this dynamic a fast fast way to pick up girls.
If you are going to follow this frame work I expect that it will be with a girl gorgeous
enough to want to spend that amount of time with, both before and after you have
sex with her. As you get better in the game you realise that there is no way of
knowing which girl will go all the way to having sex with you, so you stop focusing
on that and start to focus on the most attractive girls
(looks/personality/attitude/style) and seek their company. It can be worth spending
the night in the company of a gorgeous girl and interacting with her in close
proximity and not have sex because her beauty and her company is that much of a
pleasure to spend time with.
That thought gave rise to my Romantic Revolution (Romantic Revolutions Article) and
the massively accelerated attraction, abundance and quality of girls that suddenly
seemed drawn to me in life. Overall, it was the massive rock solid its all good,
chilled out relaxed arousal (Relaxed Arousal Article) frame that NEVER risked getting
me into a negative (frustrated/desperate/aggressive/reactive frame) that girls could
instantly sense and loved me for it. Or anyone else Ive seen with the same frame
for that matter.
If you first priorities are physical rapport, fun in the club and appreciating the
company of the girl you are with and she will eventually get the idea that she really
likes you and wonders why you dont like her back the same way, shell have the
inception and make it a certainty.

Sometimes the girl wont be convinced about you due to girls indecisive nature,
and you might need to make assertive moves to get everyone to the afterparty, or
into a taxi. This is a judgement call and can best be learnt from Bootcamp (Bootcamp
Information) or Hotseat (Hotseat Information).
There were times in the past where I would relentlessly harass the girl to go with
me, and then to get alone with me, and then to have sex. Eventually I might get her
attention, then get her to go with me, then get her alone with me and after a lot of
last minute resistance have sex with me, but every step of the process was a
struggle. The pushing method is not charming and less effective. I think the
pushing mode of interaction takes longer overall to get the girl. Physical Rapport style
that leads to the inception make the process smoother, easier, fun to go through,
less risky and stress free. It doesnt risk alienation and it does build abundance.
If you cant party with the girl you had chosen to hang out with that night but went
as far as to continue the interaction all the way to where she has to travel home, to
her door, or to eat with her afterwards its like an instant date that is the kind of
solid interaction the converts into a weekday date.
Compile these effects over a longer period of time and you will have a lot of dates,
casual sex partners and become very familiar with the one night stand. That
familiarisation will lead you to have them more regularly.
You have to realise that on nights out following physical rapport style interactions
will yield either getting a girl into bed or pretty much nothing, albeit a couple of
phone numbers from interactions. Sometimes there are simply no single girls to be
met who are down to party. Dont stress it. Keep at it, find better parties and
acknowledge the night of experience.
You can go around doing a lot of physically aggressive interactions and get a lot of
exciting interactions and make outs. Usually this way of going through the night
doesnt allow for the trust to build that girls need to go with you form a social
location to an isolated location. So while you might have 5 make outs, you have no
pull and no dates. The 5 make out night can be a very fun thing, but you want to be
able to make the shift to physical rapport if you want to get actual results with girls.

In conclusion physical rapport style escalation is a very effective way of turning cold
approaching into sexual interactions. It is a method governed by the Alexander~
Natural Instinct Method and something great to practise to start to internalise the
principles and skills taught therein. Its a great reality check to those guys getting
frustrated by the game and a reassurance that grabbing girls is not the answer, but
rather being nice and getting an intuition of when to grab girls (lead them, use
physical expression)is the key to getting better results.
Hope you get a lot more results using these ideas.To continue to get good at pick
up the most important thing for you is a consistent emotionally relaxed state as
advocated by physical rapport style, not the frustration and anger that plagues so many
guys.
Have fun, get better results.
Any props, questions, comments or clarifications in the comments below.
Love from Japan.
Alexander~

Pick Up Girls. Real Social Dynamics. The Keys

To Control; The Checklist That Makes You
Attractive

Exciting times for me now that Im back here in Australia! Im moving into a place with
Natural Tim himself of www.dosomethingrad.com fame. Im working on starting a
hobby photography company, and with some consistency in my lifestyle Ill finally have
an opportunity to start writing my program and books ready for release next year.
Europe was grand, but now it time to get back to business.
Today I come at you with some practical tips that you can implement immediately to
get significantly better results at the bar or during the day.
First, the purpose of the practical tips. To reiterate, your goals in reading this site is to
improve your pick up ability, you want to be able to inspire attraction in girls. To inspire
attraction in girls you must take actions that cause you to be relaxed. There are things
we know that you can to do to achieve being relaxed, things you can continually do to
control how you feel, and therefore, maintain being naturally attractive.
The the actual process you need to go through to achieve natural attraction in field is;
-Relax, Monopolise Your Emotions, Express yourself (emotional sharing/emotional
influence/ flirting/ causing arousal), girls are aroused by you
(attraction/stimulated/excited/interested), be a consistent cause of arousal over an

extended period of time(interaction), girl gets triggers that she is attracted to you, girls
wanted to spend more time with you in an isolated situation, you get the girl.
Your goal, what you want to do, is to be the source of a girls arousal. In other words,
you are interesting to her, then exciting to her, then she feels a connection with you
(interacting for an extended period of time), add physicality (kino or physical
interaction) and she will becomes physically aroused by you (turned on).
The first step in this goal is to ensure that the girl is reacting to you, NOT YOU
REACTING TO THE GIRL. If you are getting a lot of instant disinterest or if you are
getting a lot of blow outs it will most likely be because the girl can
see(feel/sense/detect your vibe) that you are reacting to her.
In simpler terms, if the girls are NOT reacting to you, and you are reacting to them,
they will immediately categorise you as an UNATTRACTIVE GUY and they wont even
give you a chance. This instantaneous judgement is based solely ON YOUR VIBE.
So, anxiousness, tension, stress, or a feeling of acute social pressure equates
to perpetual failure when practising cold approach pick up.
(Excitement, anticipation, heightened sensitivity, riskiness and butterflies are similar
emotions that will usually be present during approach and interaction. The Difference
between a GOOD VIBE and a BAD VIBE is if you are UNAPOLOGETIC (not sorry for
wasting others time)or not)
Anxiousness, tension, stress, or a feeling of acute social pressure triggers a girls
unattractive guy radar instantly and results in short answers, obvious disinterest,
running away, laughing at you or saying things like Im not interested before you can
even hook the conversation.
If you are going through the transformation process of maturation from socially anxious
guy to socially comfortable guy you simply have to face these situations head on. Just
approach and expand your comfort zone so that approaching people and running
conversations lies within your comfort zone causing no anxiety, and therefore, no
instantaneous bad categorisations(bad first impressions) by the girls you approach.

On any given night you can do a few approaches and cross a social indifference
threshold. At the start of the night you carry anxiety and receive disinterest responses.
After a few approaches your comfort zone settles down and you discontinue to
communicate anxiety, causing people to comfortably open with much more
consistency. Your indifference threshold(comfort zone) will settle quicker with each
night of experience you have.
IT IS EXTREMELY important to acknowledge the times you cross YOUR indifference
threshold (comfort zone) so that your mind can become familiar with the idea of having
no anxiety. Acknowledging your good experiences to your self expands your comfort
zone giving you the best mileage from the efforts you are making to go out and
become better at cold approach pick up.
After a period of years you will never have any social anxiety ever. Until you reach that
point you will usually have minor anxiety as if you were going to jump off a high
platform into a pool, but once you make that first jump the anxiety fades and follow
efforts become easy. When you really master the game, you are like a professional
diver and hold no anxiety whatsoever when making the jumps.
Its really important to realise that you dont combat negatively transmitted anxious
vibes through energy or getting pumped up. Overcoming being inside your head by
being extremely extroverted(yelling screaming, drawing massive attention to yourself,
being overly energetic, grabbing strngers in an aggressive way, being a general
dickhead) can work momentarily but invariably crashes as quickly as it it was built up.
Even just thinking about these behaviours causes me stress.
Stress IS a vibe of anxiety. Being pumped up and extroverted can be momentarily
engaging, but this mode makes it very difficult to keep an interaction going for longer
than 20 minutes, let along keep the interaction going over the course of the night.
Beware of the visible responses you get from girls when you get pumped up. If your
looking for those visible reactions its a sign that you lack security and self trust. Refer
to the natural instincts method (NATURAL INSTINCTS METHOD) and remember that
a girls quiet and attentive reaction to you is the true indicator that you are inspiring
attraction during your interactions.

The answer then is to become relaxed. The relaxed vibe brings you back to your
default state; a positive chilled out vibe. Having the positive vibe has girls automatically
categorising you as an ATTRACTIVE GUY solely from your approach. You make a
good impression before you even start your conversation.
Instead of being anxious, you want to become relaxed enough you become socially
indifferent to the point of boredom. Through boredom you feel compelled to take
initiative by doing things like starting conversations, talking to (flirting with) girls and
meeting new people with the intention having fun and generating self amusement.
Being in a mood that automatically(naturally) causes the same good emotions
(WHATEVER YOU FEEL THEY FEEL) in others. If you are the cause of arousal in a
girl, then the girl will be attracted to you.
How do you obtain and retain being relaxed?. The answer is in understanding the keys
to control.
Consciously remembering to do things that interrupt bad habits have a physiological
effects that lead to relaxation. Once relaxed you can control your expression and
achieve arousal (attraction).
In learning pick up, you can instantly control what you focus your thoughts on and
choose which behaviours you implement. To make a full transformation (congruency
shift) you need to align thought, behaviour AND emotion. By doing certain actions, and
focus on learned thoughts you expose your emotions to new experiences which
reinforce what you are thinking and how you are behaving making you more familiar
with the new emotional stats that you seek to internalise. Becoming more familiar with
emotional states is to bring them within your comfort zone thus changing your
emotional congruence; this is transformation.
The keys to control behaviours are physical things you can do that change your
physiological state, which change your emotional state. Controlling your emotional
state allows you to take control of your thoughts and actions. If you can control
thoughts and actions socially you can have good social skills, strong frame and
congruence. The keys to control are the root cause of coming into congruence with
being naturally attractive.
For text reference lets go over the physiological keys of control in list form

Honour The 2 Hour Rule 2HR (2 HOUR RULE ARTICLE)

Your first priority when you go out is yourself. The bar is the temple of relaxation,
designed for you to have a good time, enjoy music and interact with gorgeous girls.
Unwind first. The bar is your holiday zone, not the work zone. Like the movie inception,
if you take your time to unwind you will find yourself in that great social mood without
exactly knowing how you got there. Relax and know that the right social mood will
invariably come to you.Ensure That
Your Weight Is Balanced Through Your Heels, Not The Balls Of Your Feet.
The fastest most effective way to correct your vibe is to change the way you balance
your weight. A low value person tends to lean forward for fear of people walking away
or not being paid attention to. A high value person goes at their own pace, leans back
and uses social situations to unwind and relax. Leaning forward send uptight negative
vibes, leaning back radiates relaxed, positive easy going vibes.
Ensuring that you balancing your weight through the heels of your feet releases the
tension in your shoulders. This allows you to speak slowly, clearly and with more
resonance. Weight though heels causes you to conceptually take up more space and
gives you a feeling of freedom to take up more space while expressing yourself.
Leaning forward constricts your speech, expression and accumulates negative vibes. A
high centre of gravity and tension in your shoulders and chest leads to a negative
visceral effect on your which gives you an unnecessary urgent sense of social
pressure. This effect can cause urgent thinking resulting in you overthinking about
what you say causing you to run out of things to say or saying uncreative, unnatural
stupid things.
Note****** Girls wear high heels in many social situations. This can have negative
physiological effects that causes them stress and some of the negative traits that I
have mentioned here. Try standing and communicating as though you were wearing
high heels. Dont ever be impatient with girls if they appear to be stressed towards you,
its your job to be relaxed enough to make them feel comfortable(relaxed) with you.
Tapping Your Feet.

In any social Situation there will be music which is designed to get people to loosen up
and begin to have fun. Compare reciting the words hi, my name is XXXXX, nice to
meet you once while you are standing still and once while you are tapping your feet.
Notice that the included tapping sets your entire physiology alight putting you into a
good mood. You should instantly notice that by including foot tapping into you
physiology you smile while you speak and your eyes light up while you express
yourself. In my opinion, your primary source of good feelings come through your own
initiative, and getting into the music of the venue by tapping your feet is the kind of
initiative that causes you to feel good, unwind and have you relaxing into your comfort
zone ready to start approaching and having fun on a night out doing cold approach
pick up. I know that Jeffy and I both tend to tap our heels not our feet to get our
initiative and good mood going, but do whatever feels good for you personally.
There there are more basic ideas like stopping to take deep breathes from time to time.
Stretching your arms out to take up space and release endorphins. Bouncing up and
down on your feet or dancing motion is emotion. Talking to people. Singing and
dancing.
PLEASE REMEMBER the goal of all of this is not to get pumped up. The goal is to
relax. Being relaxed and unwound is a solid and stable thing where you are in control.
Being relaxed has been understood with terminologies such as STATE, nimbus, being
in the moment, being in the zone or whatever. Furthermore, the goal isnt to build social
momentum, that too is an unstable thing that can easily be lost. Instead you goal is to
be unwound, which is much more obtainable and sustainable. A girl unconsciously
responds automatically well if you have LOW ANXIETY in your emotional
communication during your approach and during the times she gives you the inevitable
non-compliance tests early in every interaction. Being relaxed (not in state) and being
unwound (not social momentum) are too ways to minimalize emotional anxiety. These
principles and terminologies make for easier mental pathways to obtain and retain the
low emotional anxiety that you need to have and retain low anxiety in the set for you to
be good at Natural Instincts Game.
Being Relaxed gives you monopoly over your emotions with which you can use your
emotions to be influential and expressive. You can be the source of the reactions
(influence and being arousing (attraction)) not being reactive to others around you.

From time to time everybody negatively reverts backward into an uptight anxious
emotional state. This happens to everyone including instructors. When this does
inevitably happen, manage it. Remember that its un unavoidable part of the game that
you just have to be prepared for. Dont even try to defend yourself against the
inevitable. Instead just stop, remind yourself that the goal is to be relaxed and go
through the check list I have talked about in the video and the notes above. I for one
will say that I feel uptight and a bit pissed off. I go for a quick walk, get a drink, take a
deep breath, alter my physiology into an arrangement that makes me feel better, give
myself some time and before I know it Im back in the mood of RELAXED AROUSAL
that has worked for me and others hundreds of times in the past.
Relax, and if youre not familiar with being relaxed, follow my instructions.
Alexander~

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Pick Up Girls; The Natural Instinct Method;

Field Guide & Transformation Procedure
Yo.
If I were to read though RSD nation as a newbie it would take me a long time to figure
out exactly what I supposed to be tangibly doing to pick up girls off cold approach.
For my own personal mind map I have very simple combination of mindset and skills
that I remind myself of that drive the social dynamics that make cold approach pick up
work. These Mindsets and skills are what I and my most successful wingmen use at
this stage of the game because it has consistently produced the best results. These
mindsets and skills are what I teach to students on bootcamp to ensure they get as
good as possible as quickly as possible.

Cold approach pick up goes against your daily social conditioning and against the
conditioning that the girls you want to talk to are subjected to everyday. Cold approach
pick up is a skill that transcends the forces of social conditioning so it is something you
actively have to do to be good at it. In having a set of skills and mindsets to work by it
will shape your efforts and focus and keep you on the right track.
Having a unified set of skills and mindsets to work with also allows for peers to work
together and give subjective feedback to each other, instead of each individual guys
being as unsure about what is right and wrong as the next. When on a Bootcamp its
our professional role to subjectively keep the students and assistants applied to the
skills and mindsets all in an effort to counteract social conditioning and give great pick
up results.
When I sit down to watch my own infield videos I hear myself almost automatically
reminding myself of the set skills and mindsets like a pre-flight check list. The times
when I dont apply myself to these ideas I find myself kind of lost or out of social rhythm
torn between being stifled and trying to do something that Im not quite sure of, leaving
my efforts misdirected and me frustrated.
These skills and mindsets have been tested on hundreds of Bootcamp students and
used personally by me for over two years to give the most efficient success. There
have been older models of basically the same ideas, but over time the semantics have
evolved to make the ideas more versatilely applicable in more situations. That is to say,
the broad titles given to the skills and mindsets are carefully chosen to shape your
behaviour but still allow space for a personal style of the skill to evolve in each
individual guy.
The skills and mindsets also cohere with Foundations, The Blueprint Decoded and
work in perfectly with the practical ideas presented in Transformations, The Jeffy Show,
The Flawless natural and Ozzies Physical Game book. They skills are just distilled to
be the most evolved practical interpretation that still allow for active thinking and
application making you a natural Alpha male. As opposed to a followed of method
which makes you a Beta Male or sociopathic.
While it will take some time to adopt the ideas and skill presented dont stress. If you
go to the gym and eat the right food you CANT AVOID getting stronger and becoming
leaner. If you follow the skills your mindsets will become true, if you meditate on the

mindsets your skills will work better. As so it goes on the congruence changing
transformation process.
This mindset and skillset combination is totally relies on the assumption of you being
able to least comprehend the idea that you are enough that is you are naturally
attractive just because you are a (hygienic) human guy. If you cant comprehend this
blindly trust what I have laid out for you and watch as you magically begin to see that
this can actually be true then later feel that you really are I am enough.
For verification, this method has worked successfully in over one hundred
consummated interaction personal reference points. As in, when reflecting what made
my closing interactions work it came back to the following mindsets and skillet that
were causality for my successes. This method has also been observed successful
interaction consummations first hand by me in over 150 instances by Bootcamp
students, social friends and Bootcamp assistants. There have been countless times
where I have observed interaction failure due to a lack of coherence to these ideas,
deductively confirming the mindset/skillset combinations validity.
But most importantly I have ten recorded scenarios where you can see these skills
tangibly working and causing success. Recordings were first used to formulate the
combination of mindsets and skills, and once the formulation was clear it was
deliberately implemented to cause success in more interactions. The recorded
interactions took place in Australia (same accent), Sweden and The United States. The
age of the girls interacted with ranged from 18 to 29.
There is a lot of verification and testing that takes place before an implementable
method can be published.
In short, the three active skills you need are to be able to talk, beat tests and escalate.
Give the escalation its due time and the dynamics should work well.
I call this the natural instinct method because its something a non-socially successful
person can consciously adopt to combat their social conditioning until this method
blends into who they are and they come back into congruence with natural Alpha-Male
behaviours. At that stage the method runs itself, even though you may need to remind
yourself of what you need to do form time to time.

The Alexander~ RSD 2010 Infield Video

Its not just a method, but a guide for transformation.
Youll notice that the method itself is exceedingly simple thats the idea. I will expand
on every single one of these mindsets and skills in future in in-depth articles.
Enjoy the method, enjoy meeting girlsand enjoy your time with them.
Alexander~ RSD
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The Natural Instinct Method
~ I am Enough. ~
- The true indication of interest (IOI) in natural game is when the girl gives you a quiet
and attentive reaction.
- Aim to be arousing, not attractive.
1. Create Initiative (Talk A Lot)
Express a full range of emotions. You are arouse others by contrasting different
emotions against each other.
By expressing what you like, and expressing your personal boundaries you will
naturally expressing a full range of emotions and be infinitely arousing.
A good way to practise expressing a full range of emotions is to use words like hate
and love.
Be impulsive, spontaneous, creative and unpredictable.
Use a balanced combination of questions and statements, over time this will become
natural.

 Too many nice emotions makes you a nice guy, too many negative emotions makes
you an asshole. A combination makes you positive assertive, a nice guy with personal
boundaries or an ALPHA MALE.
Use ideas like plotlines, stories, cold reads and misinterpretations to facilitate
expression.
Its much better to make verbal mistakes and be natural, than to be verbally perfect
and unnatural. JUST TALK, work with what youve already said, dont plan what you
are about to say.
2. Its Not What You Do, Its What You Deal With That Creates Good
Interactions (Endure Tests)
Its impossible to impress someone with what you say, you can only make an
impression if you dont let yourself get socially pushed around
The true Demonstration of Higher Value (DHV) in natural game is when you
endure/beat/pass a test.
Cool people dont demonstrate how cool they are, it becomes apparent over time
tangibly by beating tests.
Enduring testing social situations gives the set a longer lifetime, the longer the set,
the more arousal you give the girl, the better the result.
Some basic example responses of ways to beat social tests:
o Irrelevant (Credit Jeffy)
o By that you mean something else
o I love you
o Relax
o Its all good/its fine
o Ignore and keep talking

 Any time you endure a new social pressure or test (either a new success or a more
intense embarrassment) you grow. Besting testing situations are the key to personal
growth and self actualisation.
If you fail four tests in a row and you are still being told to go-away or fuck off, then its
time to move on, but its within social norms to persist up to four times and it be ok.
There are both positive and negative tests, keep going when situations look negative
and keep going even if things become uncomfortably positive. The longer the set the
deeper the connection with the girl (or friend) and the better the pick up result.
Each time you beat a test you expand you reality and become more comfortable in a
wider range of situations, being more comfortable means more personal relaxation and
more influence of arousal onto others.
Beating tests are the tangible actions to personal transformation. Exactly like working
out in a gym, endure stress in on instance to become stronger in the next.
BE UNAPOLOGETIC you are not doing anything morally or socially wrong, so dont
be in any way sorry for anything you do. Unapologetic is the key to becoming cool
3. It Doesnt Matter Which Moves You Make, It Just Matters That You Are Making
Moves. (Physically Escalate)
Physical interaction is arousing
Physicality will generate tests which you can beat and DHV
Use a combination of escalation and push, sometimes intensify the physicality, others
times let it fall away. All one time of physicality is predictable and therefore not
arousing.
The goal of the interaction is physical rapport, not sex on the floor in the bar, build
physical comfort in the interaction so that you will be comfortable enough to spend time
together later on a meet up or on the same night.

 Make outs are not good for the pick up part of the interaction, but they are good for
gathering new experiences, save the make outs until escalation can be taken much
further.
Four moves to facilitate smooth escalation are;
o Jewellery inspection
o Shoulder Push
o Brush and Lead
o Neck Kiss
Bring the girl into your space, dont invade hers, leading not intimidation.
(4.) Time Is Your Ally.
Assume that it was take several hours before you have sex with a girl, trust that things
will work out better the longer you are in the interaction.
Follow the two hour rule, no pressure or outcome dependence for the first two hours
If you are going to consummate an interaction on the first night its most likely going to
happen around dawn, so no rush, embrace the moment at hand and let time do the
work for you.
Dont rush yourself, the night or your girl, if you have it in your mind that you are
enough the relationship you are building with the person you have approached will
naturally strengthen with time.

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28 points, Article By Alexander~,

These are the first 28 points that come to mind, in no order of importance, I may have
left some things out, but there are the most common mistakes of natural game that I
see being made all the time.
1. Be yourself. Be your best self. Be a man. Take responsibility. Take action. Trust
yourself. You are enough. These are all one and the same thing. Where people get lost
is in idea of transition or change, acting out of character or whatever. Forget all that.
Being yourself means following your core purpose and purest intentions free from
socially conditioned influence. You will make mistakes when you do this, but thats
natural because interactions are subjective. Responsiveness is the answer to
interaction mistakes. Being your best self means you plus you taking responsibility in
life. Your physical nature as a man, and your nurture that is individually unique to only
you that sets you apart.
2. Be natural. Its better to be natural and do things that pick up would say are wrong,
than to do the perfect pick up according to the book. If the pickup is too perfect, if you
seem too seamless as a person you wont come off as normal and you the girl wont
take you seriously. When your being natural you make mistakes. This makes sense to
the girl. In fact, you should make lots of mistakes, you prove your worth (DHV) when
you deal with your own mistakes and other turbulence.
3. Dont calculate and micromanage. One of the first things girls look for is evidence
of the cogs in your head grinding to see if you second guessing yourself and if
yourself aware. If you are self aware, calculating your game, and trying to
micromanage the interaction the girl will instantly put you in the not alpha male
category and you are done even if you can string the set out a bit. If youre not self
aware, not calculating not micromanaging that is to say if your present, in the
moment and not self aware you communicate to the girls that you are enough and
they categorise you as an alpha male and attractive. This is what you want, its only
when you second guess yourself that you shoot yourself in the foot. So trust yourself
and keep things moving forwards for your own sake.
4. Be unapologetic. This is the key to showing you are congruence with who you are.
Even if you fuck up you didnt mean to, and you didnt intent to offend anyway.
Unapologetic is the key to getting away with anything, similar to Stifler or James Bond.
When your unapologetic you can do what you want, get away with it, and ultimately

people will react to you, you dont react to them, youre the source of a range of
emotions and stimulation and this makes you a man of value to them.
5. As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you cant get for
yourself. As a result of natural evolution men have become socially and emotionally
autonomous where as women are not. If you need people, especially women on any
level, especially for ego validation or sense of self youre being a bitch. You will never
be attractive. Remember that when you go out: your sense of self and fulfilment is
something you can achieve on your own, this is not true for a woman. Realising this is
the key to a naturals frame.
6. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn. In life, time will tick away whether you
like it or not. Time is a constant. Whatever you are doing in that constant of time will be
reinforced. If you are getting out there taking action, moving forward, taking
responsibility you will either achieve things or learn things, making way for other
achievements. The worst thing you can do with your time is nothing. Staying home, not
going to the gym, not approaching, or ejecting for a worthwhile set. If you arent
winning or learning something at every point in time in your life you will be out of
congruence with your man-of-action innate trait and you will feel bad. When you win
and when you learn you feel good. Get out there. There is no failure, there is just
competent and not-yet-competent.
7. Whatever you feel, she feels. Remember that women dont judge you on your
status, they dont judge you on your looks or even on your words. They judge you and
react to you based on what feeling you influence them with. That said, its most
important that you are always feeling good. Best way to do this is to be a man of action
with a path in life, someone who is ballsy and risk taking, someone who is daring and
someone who sets out with positive intentions. You were born feeling good with self
esteem, so you know that if you get back to natural state then you will feel good. Its
only when you try and force things or unnatural do you lose your default good feeling.
Be natural, be relaxed and you will achieve the very important goal of feeing good
most of the time, and automatically make all girls feel good most of the time. You will
be a fun guy to be around.
8. State is chill, not fireworks. This is a big one, most guys have no idea that state is
not something exciting, not something flashy or even something extravagant, the
coolest people you have known in your life and alpha males all have a chill vibe about

them. This is true state, what Jeffy calls a burning coal. It is EASY to be consistently
chilled-out or relaxed, its as simple as adopting an its all good attitude and having
some willpower to not let petty things get under your skin. If youre always operating
from an its all good attitude, and you dont get into bad state by letting people or
incidences (the external world) get to you, then simply taking actions of your own
choice (following your core) will ignite the nimbus. You will draw state from within. As a
man its when youre doing something you want to do that youre most aroused. You
influence others with this arousal and it makes you attractive. This state, unlike
fireworks state, is the infinite well and never burns out making you always attractive.
9. Others ARE socially conditioned, have empathy. It doesnt matter what you have
read or what manipulative tricks you know, IF WHAT YOUR DOING DOENST GEL
WITH ANOTHER PERSONS REALITY THEN YOUR NOT GOING TO FIT INTO
THAT REALITY. What that means is, if what youre doing as good or as slick as you
may think it is- doesnt make sense to the people you are doing it to, you will simply be
ignored or not taken seriously. Have an awareness of how those around you are
socially conditioned and be responsive to that. Start within the constraints of that, then
lead the interaction in your direction your reality. Just as important, if you continue
on, not aware that the way your approaching people doesnt make sense to them, they
will think you lack empathy and give rise to ignore responses or straight up blow outs.
Be calibrated, use your brains and your empathy.
10. If the girl isnt gaming you, youre not going to have sex with the girl. Its true
that people value something they have to work for, or something they think of as higher
value than them. And this can be confusing if you are learning cold approach pick up.
How can I approach her, then, get the girl gaming me? Furthermore, to think that you
have to game the girl implies that you are lesser than her, and this implication with
become a self fulfilling prophecy to the girl you are interacting with. After all, the way
you approach her is the way she makes up her mind about you. The way to get the girl
gaming you is in the VALUE INVERSION POINT, what some people call the
transition or the point when you go from 90/10 to 50/50 talking ratios. Go in chat, even
entertain her and arouse emotions. Then withdraw. This usually elicits a question from
the girl. Usually something chodely like where are you from? or what do you do?.
This is her gaming you, once you get this going, keep it going, answer with statements
(obviously), express yourself to inspire attraction and she will continue to game you.

The more she finds herself gaming you (unlike the way guys usually try and game her)
the more she will find herself liking you and the closer youll be to sleeping with the girl.
11. Whatever you do, DONT try for rapport. There are many levels of
communication when two people interact and there are subsets of communications
within them. To name a few there are verbal, non verbal and physical ways to
communicate; and if you want to be more technical there are logical modalities and
emotional modalities, direct or indirect. The modalities arent as important as using
them to ensure you dont try for rapport. In any interaction people automatically fall into
a role of high value and low value. If youre trying for rapport you will automatically
communicate low value, if you dont, you wont communicate low value. To try and
break rapport is tricky, and to force it is actually a form of trying for rapport. What you
will find is that when you are completely natural, as a man, you never try for rapport,
and others automatically respond by taking on a subordinate value to you.
12. The girl is down to fuck until otherwise proven innocent. And most guys shoot
themselves in the foot pretty quickly, sometimes before they even approach. Many
guys fail to realise that girls are constantly on the lookout for that special guy, in the
same way we are on the lookout for that one hot girl in a bikini. To guys, a girls looks
set her apart. But girls judge a guys behaviour, the way you behave is where your
potential to be seen as a special guy lies. So when you start an interaction deep down
shes hoping to meet an awesome guy but doesnt expect to, and she wouldnt even
know what that looks like when it ran some game on her. If you dont do anything
offensive, or socially retarded to get yourself blown out then you give her a chance to
start FINDING in you the things she wants in a guy. Interpretation of behaviour is very
subjective, and it helps that the girl is making a conscious effort in life to interpret guys
in the way she hopes to see them. So do less, stay in set, dont shoot yourself in the
foot and the you give the girl a chance to be attracted to you.
13. Proactive DHVs communicate lower value. The ideal of demonstrating higher
value is as important in the game now as it ever was. But to go out of your way to
demonstrate value to someone is really demonstrating lower value. To tell a clever
DHV story to a girl, to do a magic trick or to run some elaborate routine is
unnecessary. Proactive DHVs are the actions of man with a mindset that he is not
good enough just as he is; as opposed to a guy who just assumes value. Girls derive
their attraction to you, or not, based on your mindset (which automatically generates

your behaviours and autopilot responses). Proactive DHVs is like showing a girl your
Ferrari Key chain no good because your saying to the girl that guy hiding behind the
key chain isnt enough. If youre a cool guy the girls will know automatically, if youre
not cool they will know just as quickly.
14. Beating congruence tests is the way to overtly DHV. If you have even known a
cool person in your life you will know that it wasnt them who convinced you they were
cool, someone eluded you to the fact, or their value or coolness became apparent
when they successfully dealt with a testing situation. They dont need to convince you
theyre cool because theyre already aware they are, you only realise theyre cool once
you get to know them. These types of guys are usually extremely chill and unstifled. In
the club, what this translates to, is being nicely conversational and expressive. As you
talk to the girl youre bound to elicit congruence tests because thats what girls do, and
the way they interpret you is subjective. If you get a test, an awkward lull in
conversation, a we have to go with our friends, an I have to go to the bathroom or a
personal challenge from the girl this is your opportunity to demonstrate higher value
with a Positive-Dominant response. You overtly show you can think for yourself, deal
with tricky situations, are unreactive and you go for what you want.
15. Confidence is binary; youre either confident or youre a complete chode. You
cant be ninety percent confident. Close but almost confident really means that you
are just a bitch or pretending to be a chode. The best understanding I have of
confidence is confidence happens when you perceive that nothing holds you back.
Thats why five year old kids can be just as confident as multi billionaires or rock stars.
Its all about not having a care in the world. Girl make a very quick attraction judgement
based on your confidence which is conveyed in your behaviours. If you hold yourself
back in any way you lose. If you dont put any mental obstacles between yourself
and what you are out to achieve your confident; youre attractive.
16. Uncomfortable is the magic word. You know how many chodes complain that
with girls no means yes and yes means no, this isnt exactly true but it is true that girls
dont logically communicate what theyre emotionally feeling. Why do they do this? To
see what your made of, if you trust yourself and if you have balls. Its a pure alpha-ness
and attractiveness gauge. Most guys dont realise that girls very rarely communicate
socially in the logical and verbal realm, most of what is said becomes redundant, and
when you open your eyes to the emotional channels you will understand women much

better. Most guys take a simple no, or a lack of enthusiasm from women as gospel,
when realy its just a test. I can guarantee that you can take most sets or interactions
MUCH further than you think you can, and she wants to see if you have the balls to.
Sometimes you will be miscalibrated or you will reach your limits of the set or
escalation you will know when the limit of the interaction is when the girls uses the
word uncomfortable or any translation of that.
17. Indications of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive. Did you used to
read the old emails that advocated that a girl liked you when she licked her lips/played
with her hair/touched your arm/took off her skirt? Most did, and most guys are looking
for some kind of guidelines to when a girl likes him so he can eliminate the risk of
rejection and his chode world coming collapsing down. Whats worse is when youre
searching for traditional IOIs you set out to suck them out of the girl which makes
your behaviour even worse. Furthermore, girls rarely think to themselves yes Jessica, I
like this guy, I hope he will kiss me in the night Im sure that does happen, but if youre
waiting for that then youre not going to get the girl because you will miss your window
of opportunity. A part of her liking you is when you assume she is interested in you,
she will be attracted to a guy with that reality. So, f your still looking for a way to tell if a
girl might be interesting in becoming attracted to you look for the ones that are nervous
and attentive to you. Quiet, but paying attention to you. This is the same behaviour that
a guy would exhibit for a girl that he was very attracted to.
18. Dont know; grow. If youre coming into the community looking to learn how to
become a guy who is good with girls it makes sense to you that you need to logically
learn something in order to become a guy who is good with girls. No, the game isnt
about learning the game is all about growing. The reason why ideas, moves and
techniques can be appealing is the way they inflate your ego and your false sense of
self. Really, knowing inflates your ego, messes up your identity and suppresses your
natural self beneath it. To learn human interaction is a intuitive, intangible thing and
very difficult to measure. Unless you have academy award winning acting skills there is
no way to truly fake it till you make it with learned knowledge because incongruence
will still be communicated. Use the knowledge you are gathering from others to guide
your growth and change your mindset so you can grow into the guy that you are
supposed to be.

19. It is impossible to become a guy who is good with girls. Although the allure of
the community advertises that you can become a pimp with women and you will be
able to fuck 10s it is wrong to say that you will ever be a guy who is good with girls.
To say that, is to say that you are above the process and you are not a guy who is
going to take action. To identify with being good with girls is to cease to take action on
a daily basis and lazily rest on your laurels. If you dont take action then you will cease
to approach, cease to move things forward and cease to be good with girls. Some guys
get a sharp reality shock when they realise that they cant ever become a guy whos
good with girls. But the sooner you realise its a futile pursuit the sooner you realise
that you have to continue to take action on any given night in any given set. As a man it
is correct to identify with being a man of action because thats what you physically
and biologically are. Instead of looking to achieve the identity of being a guy whos
good with girls seek to identify yourself as a guy who is always continuing to get good
with girls. This is the road to Pick up mastery.
20. Inspire attraction, dont seduce it. Express yourself, dont impress
others. Whether or not you can be attractive to someone is completely subjective and
thus, unpredictable. You can have no idea what will turn on different people, especially
when you are cold approaching lots of them. So instead of focusing your efforts on
what will impress them and what impression you are going to make, do the things that
is sure to inspire attraction in everyone. When you shift your focus from setting out to
impress people to, instead, expressing yourself and doing the things that you know will
inspire attraction; youre reality strengthens significantly, others react to you, you
become unstifled and most importantly you have lots of fun. They fact that youre not
out to seduce attractive form women and instead are out to inspire it communicates to
women you approach that you have all the trust in yourself that you have enough and
are enough to be attractive to them. You inspire it in women, you dont need to trick it
out of them, and they come to you.
21. Be involvement worthy. The best way to go about natural game is to be someone
worthy of involvement. The best way to think of being good at natural game is to be
continually asking yourself Am I being involvement worthy?. This paradigm has
massive emphasis on responsibility, pro-activity and leading. When you continually ask
yourself am I involvement worthy you move into a head-space where you are
continually drawing on yourself to get things started, move conversations forward,
formulate ideas and extrapolate social opportunities. In accordance with other natural

game principles you know that youre not going to get the girl unless shes gaming you,
if youre conversational, assertive and making situations fun then the girls will take it
upon themselves to make the most of your time and vie for more of it. Being
involvement worthy is like wild male animals expressing themselves hoping to find a
mate. In this day and age the guy who has the most to say, is the least stifled and the
most expressive that will be the most involvement worthy and get the most girls.
22. Get yourself into state. One of the primary differences between men and women
is where they get their state from. Women get their state from their environment,
whereas men dont. Higher forces take care of womens state, but men are indifferent
to them. A mans default state is a chill relaxed positive feeling, in a noisy pumping
venue, thats your baseline, but thats not enough to be calibrated. A mans state is
proportionate to his ability to be present, positive, dominant and active. If youre not
getting yourself into state the environment will eclipse you and put you deep inside
your head. Get busy, do something positive; entertain yourself with stupid bar games.
Do something dominant; arm wrestle your friends, lead a girl by the hand, be loud or
stand up tall. Do something pro-active, open sets, move around, dance and escalate
with girls. These are the best ways to get into state. Another rule of thumb is motion is
emotion, take action and move yourself around, dance, clap your hands and bob your
knees and state will come. No one else will do it for you.
23. Keep Things Simple While Learning. Once you make a significant transformation
towards a guy who is in congruence with himself you will realise that natural game is a
minimalist thing; youre strong reality and intent leading the girl with continual
calibrated responsivity. But if you still have lots of mental noise from residual social
conditioning make an effort to keep things simple, your end goal should always be no
mind, all intuition. So when you go out make an effort to think about only three things
for once. If your new, three good things are friendly, unapologetic, draw state from
within. A more intermediate three might be assertiveness with a smile, lead, cant get
blown out from escalating and an advanced three might be every man starts equal,
be 100% honest with yourself and others, and persistence beat resistance. If you go
out while youre learning the game with truckloads of theory spinning around in your
head you will only get out of state and reverse good progress you have made. Its likely
that you would be so inside your complicated head that you dont even approach.

24. There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory. The classical notion of
having a crush on a girl is one of the most unnatural and destructive forces that
counter natural game. The Dynamics of the crush is one of the biggest limiting factors
fort guys learning natural game. To have a crush on a girl is to build up an idea of her
in your own mind that is completely fabricated and usually vastly different from reality.
People think they have a crush on a girl because having a girl who is their type
appeals to their ego and their attempt to project a particular sense of self. You dont
know a person, or a girl, until you have spent a lot of time with them. Its natural that
you treat everyone equally and dont assume anything and wait and see if you cultivate
affection for the girl or not. When you develop a crush on a girl you go into chode
mode. Even when you get the girl you have a crush on you will eventually get a reality
shock when you realise what you thought she was isnt what she actually is. All
attractive girls are good. Like flavours of ice cream, appreciate them all, and after lots
of experience then you can develop a preference.
25. For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing,
clicking. On the broadest scale of picking up girls from cold approaches socially
versatility is the most important thing. Not your skills, or your methods or structures. If
you are going to make cold approaches on strangers you need to have the versatility
and manoeuvrability in who you are and your personal boundaries in order to click with
and get into conversation with anyone. An egotistical person usually has an identity
that hold blind spots and can cause him to have friction with new people that he meets
including girls hes cold approaching. An easy going type of guy, a guy with self
esteem and no ego, isnt restrained by a reality and an identity that he is bound to or
that he feels he has to project onto others. The result is he clicks with everyone and
assumes nothing. When you are a fluid and socially versatile, egoless, guy you
become someone that everyone likes to hang out with because they are all coming
from the same headspace of trying to make an impression. When they interact with
you they will feel as though they have made just the impression they want, and you will
stoke their ego. Stoking the ego of others especially girls, leaves them wanting more of
it, people will look to you to fill their bucket with a hole in it.
26. Its incongruent of you not to be sexual. One of the things that students of
natural game most often forget is their tenancy to be sexual. A nice guy who has
undergone the transformation to sexworthy guy was once a nice guy and still harbours
reserved and stifled physical tendencies. If your an alpha male and attractive to girls,

and you dont have a physical and sexual dimension to your game, girls will become
weirded out by you and leave you cold. When you become advanced your approach
will be great and most girls will like you a lot immediately, but sooner or later if you
dont take things sexual you will miss your window of opportunity. If you dont have the
sexual and physical dimension to your game the girls will have a bruised ego that a
guy who they liked and found was attractive didnt want to make a move on her and
they will quickly disassociate with you to minimalize ego bruising. Or, they will go from
thinking you are a fun dominant alpha male, to thinking you are just a garden variety
nice guy, and no girls are attracted to a nice guy.
27. The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled not happy. The first
judgement a girl will make of you when you cold approach her is whether or not she
gets a good feeling from you. Do you increase her life experience or do you take away
from it. Its all well and good to be happy in the club, but a happy feeling is a fleeting
and superficial thing. If you have fulfillment in your life then you will constantly have a
feeling of confidence, security and positivity. Girls are not necessarily looking for a
happy feeling from guys, they are looking to him to she is he feels good, fulfilled and
secure in himself, to hang out with a guy who is fulfilled and secure in himself will give
a girl very good feelings and she will know if your fulfilled in your life almost
immediately. To be fulfilled have a purpose and a direction in life, this is to be in
congruence with always being a man of action. Others ways to find fulfillment as a man
are to positively lead others, take action and always be progressing. Simple things to
achieve to ensure you have good natural game when it comes to cold approaching.
28. There is no right thing to say, its the right thing to say because you are the
one whos saying it. This is the best possible summary of natural game, and it in
sharp contrast to traditional ideas about game. On the purest level natural game is
about being resourceful and relying on yourself. This ties in with idea of creativity,
spontaneity and turning nothing into something. Evolutionarily, it was the cavemen
who could completely rely on themselves and trust themselves not need advice or
guidance from others that set off the attraction triggers in cave womens heads. A
man who can turn nothing into something through action an responsibility has
evolutionary advantages that other dont have, and a guy like this generates natural
attraction, and is good at natural game. When you realise that there is no one right
thing to do or say at any time in the game you become unstifled in such a way that you
can do everything with conviction whether good or bad and this communicates

confidence and inspires attraction. The minute you look to others to for the right thing
to do or say you communicate all the wrong things. When you realise that there is
nothing right to say its as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, and you
establish an unwavering feeling of fulfilment and positivity in you that will make you an
elite level natural gamer.
Here are the 28 points in their entirety.
Be yourself
Be Natural.
Dont calculate and micromanage
Be unapologetic
As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you cant get for yourself
Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.
Whatever you feel, she feels8. State is chill, not fireworks.
Others ARE socially conditioned, have empathy.
If the girl isnt gaming you, youre not going to have sex with the girl.
Whatever you do, DONT try for rapport.
The girl is down to fuck until otherwise proven innocent.
Proactive DHVs communicate lower value.
Beating congruence tests is the way to overtly DHV.
Confidence is binary; youre either confident or youre a complete chode.
Uncomfortable is the magic word.
Indications of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive.

Dont know; grow.

It is impossible to become a guy who is good with girls.
Inspire attraction, dont seduce it. Express yourself, dont impress others.
Be involvement worthy.
Get yourself into state.
Keep Things Simple While Learning.
There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory.
For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing, clicking
Its incongruent of you not to be sexual.
The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled not happy
There is no right thing to say, its the right thing to say because you are the one whos
saying it.
Print it out and put it somewhere youre going to read it every day.
Alexander~
PS. Longer articles on all of these in due course.
http://alexattitude.com/a-hv-%C2%B1e%E2%88%9E/

Natural Attraction; a fragmented description, Self Esteem and Ego, Alpha male
beta male graduation, emotional spikes and congruence tests.
First let me say that this article is a derivative of the Blueprint. Tyler is genius and the
RSD staff that inspired the ideas are phenomenal and fun people. This article is an
evolution of and a backwards engineered collection of ideas that will help you learn
how to become an attractive guy.
Define attraction and solve the game.

The notion of attraction is a confusing and vague principle in the seduction community
and for the most part is massively misunderstood. This is obviously a concern as
learning to be attractive is important causality to having women in your life.
This article aims to define attraction in the context of the game and help you to become
an attractive guy by eliminating behaviours and mindsets that hold you back from being
attractive. This article aims to teach you things to do that will create a means to
demonstrate your innate natural attraction.
Let me start by making it clear that attraction is not actually something that you can
actively do. It is only something that you can be. That said, you can be a certain way
that INSPIRES attraction in every woman.
In the game, the way you are is something you can take control of. The other parts are
the ways you express and celebrate yourself that allow attraction to be conducted from
you to the girl.
The notion of attraction itself isnt love, affection, sex or status. Most accurately natural
attraction is reproduction value.
Its commonly misunderstood that you can deploy specific behaviours to ensure a girl
will be attracted to you. The behaviour itself is irrelevant unless it is coming from the
right place. Attraction is not something you can inject into the girl. You have to give her
space and opportunity to assign the trait of attraction to you in the emotional centres of
her mind and her consciousness.
A lot of guys have absolutely no awareness of this idea. They continue to think that the
longer and more intense their routine stack is the more lethal their dose of attraction is
going to be for the girl. If you go over the top and divert from your own natural rhythm
you will find your actions will stifle the girls opportunity to assign attraction to you in her
mind.
That said, it is fair and true to assume that as long as you are coming from a naturally
masculine place internally, you are hygienic and you are not socially miscalibrated, the
girl will find you potentially attractive until you prove yourself otherwise. By that same
principle, usually girls will be cool with a guy to begin with until he talks himself into a
hole. Instead of just being cool and unreactive in a lot of socially conditioned cases a
guy will make a specific effort to attract the girl and instead exterminate his opportunity
for her to feel attraction for him.

This is why in so many cases when you introduce two socially calibrated friends of
opposite gender they might hit it off straight away. Men and women are designed to be
attracted to each other.
A lot of guys also fail to realise that they, simply by themselves, are enough.
The majority of the seduction industry preaches tactics and gambits that are designed
to attract girls. To indulge these tactics and gambits to attract women is to
acknowledge and internalize that you are not good enough for her to begin with.
Stepping into field disarmed by the assumption that you dont have want it takes to be
good enough with women means that you will be doomed to failure. You will never
really achieve anything more than entertaining the girls or getting forced reactions from
them. Going out with this assumption is to ensure that you will never achieve natural
attraction.
Attraction tactics appeal to the quick fix solution, ego inflation and perceived social
empowerment.
Its the old metaphor of giving a gun to an otherwise incompetent individual to make
them feel empowered and confident. The truth of the matter is that the weaponry is
only as good as the individual. To need to use the weaponry to compensate for a lack
of natural competency clearly communicates that you are not good enough as you are.
It is a communication of low value and is unattractive.
An example of this would be walking up the girl and telling her you drive a Porsche. If a
man feels he needs his perceived social weaponry instead of introducing himself he
would communicate to her that the guy who drives the Porsche isnt good enough
simply by himself. He is hiding behind something he has been socially conditioned to
believe (incorrectly in the majority of cases) will make him attractive.
These kinds of beliefs are crippling to your sense of self value and leave you
perceiving yourself to be lower value than the girl and unattractive.
Most simply, women to man attraction is a collection of emotional impulses and desires
that mirrors the emotional impulses and desires that occur when men see an attractive
women.

Natural attraction indicators are different for men and women due to evolutionary
gender polarisation. Women-to-man attraction is scale based while man-to-women
attraction is for the most part (naturally) binary.
For men attraction is inspired by aesthetic traits and a man will generally instantly feel
attraction for the women or not. For women attraction traits are behaviourally based.
Its not until a certain amount of supporting evidence of particular behavioural traits are
seen or experienced that a women becomes attracted to a man. Like a certain decibel
reading on a volume dial.
That said, a man can instantly communicate attraction to a women simply by the way
he conducts himself OR he will have to accumulate enough attractive communication
over time to reach the certain decibel point that is attractive.
Because male attraction is function of behaviour sometimes attraction can be fleeting
or a misrepresentation of how the man actually is. A good understanding of attraction
and a good set of acting skills could lead to effective manipulation of women.
A good cosmetic routine, flattering clothing or surgery could lead to effective
manipulation of men.
Naturally a man is born with all the behaviours that are attractive to female perception,
it is due to social conditioning that he develops steadfast unattractive habits.
The some traits that make a man attractive are the following:
Self trust (non-hesitant)
Responsibility for himself (doesnt displace his responsibility onto others)
A man of action (not lazy nor lacking in initiative)
A man of indifference (non outcome dependant)
Social proof (seen as attractive by others)
A man of dominance (as opposed to passiveness)
Hygiene (healthy)
A man of positivity (not restrained by negative forces)
A man unstifled by his environment (a man in control of his environment or reality)
Resourcefulness (not limited by any situation)
Intelligence (not limited in his ability to reason and think)
Traits consciously assigned as attractive. (things perceived to be attractive in the
social context)

Let me state the obvious for the oblivious: if youre not hygienic and dont have some
degree of contextual social savvy you will be considered low value. There are basic
rules to the social world. If you dont play by the rules are you simply not in the game.
All of these traits are a fragmented summary of evolutionary replication value.
Further summarised, this is a man who knows who he is and who is on his purpose.
The more a man is on his purpose, the more people react to him. When a person
reacts to something they experience an emotion, the more emotions experienced the
more attracted the person becomes. Emotions are addictive, arousing and exciting.
To react to others is unattractive, to follow your path and have people react to you as a
by product is attractive.
In terms of formula it could be stated that:

Attraction = Higher Value plus a (full range) of Emotions that are(limitless).

To be who you are and to be on your purpose causing people to react to you will
inspire women to be attracted to you. Remember however, even if you are attractive to
a girl it doesnt necessarily mean you will get any girl.
Imagine you are married or have a great girlfriend and you see Jessica Alba in a
movie. Even though you dont hook up with her doesnt mean you arent attracted to
her. This is the same for women, they cannot help be attracted to an attractive guy but
it doesnt mean that she will hook up with him. The getting part it another article about
things to do and is an outer game topic.
In short, to be an attractive sex-worthy type guy you simply need to know who you are
and follow your path more than the path of others. RSD calls this not giving a fuck
what anyone thinks of you.

A rule to ensure that you always put yourself before others is to express not impress.
To do things because it is something you do, not to take actions because you want to
retain ego or impress someone else.
In classic game putting others before you is called trying for rapport. As a man, to
value someone else more than you value yourself is unattractive. To try for rapport with
a girl before she is aware that you value yourself more than her is to communicate that
her and her path is more valuable than you and your path. This is reactive, an
impression of low value and is unattractive.
This is the same as trying to engage a set. To intend to engage someone is to imply
you need something from them. As a man there is nothing someone can give you that
you cant get for yourself. Trying to engage is a reactive frame. Having overt
enthusiasm for yourself and what you are doing will compel others to want to be
involved with you.
To inspire involvement means that you need to know who you are enough and to
know your path enough to be worth being involved with. This is what it means to offer
value. To approach trying to engage means to take value.
This means going to the club specifically to pick up women is unattractive. To go to the
club to have your own fun and involve girls in what you are doing is attractive.

A man on his path who knows who he is and what he wants in his life.

Beautiful girls have high replication value and naturally inspire attraction in men.
Therefore men naturally desire beautiful women in their life. However social
conditioning can lead men to feel they need women.
Desiring and persisting is attractive, needing and validation seeking is unattractive.
When interacting with women an action could pertain to either of these value polarised
frames. It is simply the frame of communication behind any set of actions that will
determine whether you are attractive or unattractive.
Once a man knows who he is and he values his path above all others he perpetually
communicates a persistent and indifferent frame in any social situation. If a man
derives his sense of self by external validation he projects a needy and validation
seeking frame.
It is ok to desire women but to need is unnecessary and lower value. Once you make
harmony with the notion of desire without attachment you will perpetually
communicate a higher value frame, be perpetually attractive and as a result beautiful
women will find their way into your life.
The first part of natural attraction is being higher value. The second part is inspiring a
range of emotions in the girl.

An interesting example of this rule is when a man has extremely high value from social
status or social proof (for example a rock star) that just the idea of that man himself is
enough to inspire emotions in women.
If a man is high enough value this alone can inspire emotions in a girl and render him
attractive. If a man can inspire enough emotions in a girl that alone can render him

unique and an entity of value to her. But that value only lasts as long as he has the
ability to inspire emotions in her.
The first component of natural attraction is high value (HV)
To clarify, the terms self esteem, integrity, honesty, self trust, coolness, strong
frame, unreactive, strong reality, internally centred, state and nimbus are all
essentially the same thing and are all correct alternate labels for the notion of high
value. Ultimately these are all one and the same thing that pertain to different contexts.
The self is always coming through. The girl will know if you are a high value guy long
before you approach. A good test of whether or not you are coming from a place of
higher value is if you dont get instantly blown out. If you are getting instantly blown out
it is because you are perpetually sub communicating low value before you even open
your mouth.
What most guys will find is that girls approached will be hopeful that you will be an
attractive high value guy be and will be willing to listen to what you have to say. You
generally will be going fine until you self sabotage or simply eject from a lack of
validation, indications of interest or to protect your ego.
High value is achieved when, in your reality, you and what you do are of primary value
to you. That is to also say that, other people and the things they do are of subordinate
importance to you and what you do.
But calibration is important. You and your path might be the most important thing to
you, but if who you are and what you are doing is beyond the reality of the people you
are interacting with then you will come off as weird. Calibrate and be responsive in the
moment and communicate within your recipients realities.
Who you are is intrinsically interwoven with your sense of self, your ego, your
reactivity, your internal centeredness, your state and your social status.
So, the most essential part of achieving high value is to know who you are.
If you constitute your sense of self or state from external sources who you are will
incorrectly take the form of ego. If you define who you are externally in terms of ego
you can never totally know who you are. With an ego based externally formed sense of
self you will be reactive to your reality and displace the responsibility of who you are
onto uncontrollable fluctuating sources.

If you have an ego when you approach a women you will sub communicate seeking
validation of the Im good with girls ego or Im a chode ego you have. You will be
reactive, lower value and unattractive.
In most cases peoples egos are who they see themselves as. If a persons sense of
self isnt validated immediately in the set of girls they will either feel emotional hurt from
the lack of validation or not push the interaction further so as not to risk compromising
their ego based sense of self. Result is no attraction and no girls.
If you define who you are externally by ego you will always be reactive to the girls and
hence be lower value than them. You will not be attractive.
Validation seeking is what it means to take value from people. When you approach
girls with an Im good with girls ego or the Im not uncool ego you are essentially
sucking value from them in the form of trying to get them to validate your ego. When
you interact with the girl you are communicating to her that you need her to validate
you for you to feel complete.
If you seek ego validation the girl is more indifferent than you, you care more, are more
reactive and are low value. If you have a chode ego you waste presence trying to
manage impressions that might get bad reactions. The girl is less outcome dependant
than you, it leaves you lesser value than her and you unattractive to her.

For a betas males who they are is determined by social conditioning. In for betas their
sense of self is a combination of what they are trying to project and what is projected
onto them. A false socially conditioned chode ego stands in place of their natural
selves.

To know who you are is to be egoless and a guy who takes responsibility for his reality
by living presently and trusting himself on a moment by moment basis. Free from
validation seeking or stifling effects from external sources. To be egoless is to reveal
your natural self that is composed purely of self esteem.
Who you are is essentially composed of two layers. The foundational layer is your solid
and unchanging physical nature your biological natural self (some refer to this as
your core). The second level is the expression of your natural self the way you
decorate yourself, celebrate yourself and interact with the world.

Understanding of what it means to be yourself will require another article all to itself but
a brief explanation is important here for a thorough understanding of what it means to
be naturally attractive.
Who you are is male and with that comes biological natural default settings. If you live
in alignment with your biological self you will be in alignment with your natural self. This
purely natural self can be seen in pre socially conditioned kids, buzzed drunk guys,
guys dealing with girl from other languages were social conditioning doesnt have
common language to be communicated in, born naturals or guys nimbusing.
I realised that some of the skills I used to teach on bootcamp would simply naturally
arise from guys when they were unstifled, instate or in one of the conditions conductive

to naturally attractive behaviour above. These behavioural traits consistently inspired a

phenomenal attraction.
These same behavioural traits are what all instructors have in common even though
they are seemingly very different guys.

As a guy who you are is naturally set in your DNA and it is the same for every guy. To
live out of alignment with your natural behavioural traits is have a chode ego. To live in
alignment with your natural traits is to be yourself. It is who you are. Regardless of
what happens to you throughout your life it cant be denied that your naturally innate
behavioural traits compose who you naturally are.
**As a side note, knowing who you are becomes easier with age. This is a function of
worldly experiences, internal centring and becoming increasingly emotionally
indifferent from enduring lifes emotional rollercoaster of doom.**
The behavioural traits that every guy naturally has in common are 1.Presence 2.
Positive-Dominance and 3. Escalation.

Once you come into alignment with who you naturally are everything you do merely
becomes a celebration, decoration or an expression of yourself.
These traits combined make up your nature. This is your natural default state. Your
natural default state is one of self esteem and in your natural state you feel good. As a
man in your natural state you take responsibility for your reality.
Remember, if you feel good, the girls will feel good because they derive their state from
the environment theyre in. If youre talking to you her state is influenced by you.
The way you define your reality is indicated by the radial arrows on the diagram. The
ways you decorate and celebrate yourself come from a place of strength as you are in
alignment with yourself as a man and, in contrast to ego, there is no incongruence
between who you are and what you do. You have elite congruence.
This is called coming from the right place. To be enough just as you are. To be self
assured. To take responsibility for your reality. To define your own reality.
When you understand who you are youre perpetually unreactive. Who you are isnt
defined by what others project onto you.

To have an ego would look like this.

To have an ego is to live in reaction, be lower value and unattractive.

To be naturally attractive you need to come (back) into alignment with your natural self
by shedding ego. When you achieve elite congruence with your natural self as a man
is to perpetually have the world reacting to you. You are higher value, and with each
reaction emotions are experienced by those reacting to you.
Because you know who you are more than the girls know who they are they will react
to you more and you will be less reactive than them. They react to you, you are higher
value than them and you are attractive to them.
An article on the deeper mechanics, principles and applications of self esteem and is
coming soon. Also, an in depth article about what who you are means is coming soon
as well. The brief outline here is to give you a reference of understanding of what it
means to know who you naturally are.
Back to who you are:

To understand that you cant change who you are naturally biologically and what your
default birth self esteem state is empowering. Knowing that you are who you are and
that your nature CANT BE CHANGED OR ALTERED BY EXTERNAL INFLUENCE is
to realise that you will never be in a diminished and in bad state. You can only pretend
to be a chode with chode ego. When you know who you are you will always be in state
or have dormant state, never out of state.
The only reason a guy gets in bad state is because his ego gets deflated.
Natural state = good feelings. You feel good, girl feels good and your attractive.
Chode ego = bad feelings. You feel bad, the girl feels bad and your unattractive.
The only way to be out of state is if your chode ego is compromised. If you have no
ego to diminish you cant go into a negative level of state. No one can literally get the
better of you because nothing external composes who you are. You are what you
naturally are, you consciously decide how you want to celebrate yourself.
This moment by moment celebration and definition of the self is fleeting. An ego can
only be constructed if you reference the past and derive an ego bases sense of self
from that. Or, you identify with a projected future self and derive an ego based sense of
self from that.
Ego is to displace responsibility for your reality onto external sources and derive
irrational expectations from the world around you. For example: if you have the Im a

guy who gets girls ego youll expect them to just show up on your doorstep, and you
cease to take responsibility for girl actually showing up at your doorstep.
The guy who knows who he is realises that he is no better or no worse than any other
man, he was born just the same as every other guy. He has no ego, no expectations of
himself and no expectations of the external world around him. Hes the type of guy who
thinks that if somethings going to be done right then I gotta do it myself. The buck
stops with him.
This is another way of saying what Tyler calls assuming absolutely nothing.
But a guy who assumes nothing has far more self assurance than other guys because
hes used to getting shit done and not relying on others to handle the challenge for him.
He trusts himself that when it comes to the pressure situation he can handle it. Even
when others are going to displace their responsibility elsewhere, probably onto him.
This understanding of yourself means that you dont identify with what you do, good or
bad. It simply means you can take credit for the action. For example, if you fucked up
everything in your life, that doesnt mean youre a fuck up. Take credit and
responsibility for fucking up, but it doesnt change your identity or what you actually
are.
By that same principle, if you went out for the last year and laid a girl every night you
understand that means nothing the next time you go out. You take credit for those girls
laid but it doesnt form an identity of who you are. It was just a way you expressed
yourself, celebrated yourself and took responsibility for your reality..
The minute you identify with your actions you think that your identity alone will take
care of your achievements for you. Instead of you taking responsibility for the next lay
you think that your Im good with girls ego or reputation will take responsibility for you
getting laid. This is called resting on your laurels .To do that is totally chode.
You are displacing responsibility. When you approach you are seeking validation of that
ego, you are reacting to the girl and are lower value. This identification (formation of
ego) is unattractive.
If you laid a girl a night every night for the last year by all means take credit for it. The
reference points will assist you in the future and you will be more indifferent (unreactive
and higher value) each time the situation arises in the future. However, at the

beginning of the next night you are just the same as every man. If you dont take
responsibility for yourself being attractive and escalating then you wont get laid.
Your mindset at the start of each night and at the start of each set should be every
man starts equal, and if this is going to go down then I have be the one to make it
happen. Anything less will have you ejecting early because you dont want to risk your
ego by being blown out.
If you have the attitude that every man starts equal and I have to take responsibility
for making this happen you start humble, you arent taking value because youre not
trying to validate yourself with sex.
Rather you offer value by making things happen and taking responsibility for both you
and the girl getting laid. Youre not scoring a chick out of your league and its not a
case of her succumbing to you and validating a low value guy. This makes having sex
with you a lot more attractive notion to her because you are an attractive guy.
When you start a night or set with the attitude that every man starts equal, that I have
to take responsibility if I want this to happen you go in with no ego, only self esteem.
You are playing to win, not to avoid losing. It then becomes a fun game and any
progress you make is a bonus and a thrill. Youre unapologetic about your well
intentioned actions.
Picking up girls becomes a fun game again!
Alarmingly for so many guys in the community pick up isnt about having fun but rather
proving to other guys how awesome they are and getting reputation and social
validation for their mad skillz.
Having fun in field is so much more sustainable than battling to defend your Im good
with girls ego. In most cases if you go out with this ego it will be compromised and it
will leave you feeling shit and out of state anyway. If you feel shit, the girls will feel shit.
The golden rule of natural game is whatever you feel, she feels. If youre having fun
with pickup, shell be having fun with the pickup. After all, its just a game. Shes not
unhappy because youre not apologetic for your natural preset attitude of responsibility
for picking up on the girl. Why would you be?

Its how you were designed naturally as a man. She understands that and cant fault
you for it.
In mainstream conversation this is called having balls. Guys naturally have balls, get
back to your natural default self and you will find girls will be naturally attracted to you
because you can be your natural self.
More on why approaching with any kind of ego is unattractive.

Think of ego as a compromise of your natural self, diminished self esteem and a false
ego sense of self that stands in the way of the natural who you are.
As mentioned above, to approach a girl being anything less than fully alignment with
your natural self is to present the girl with chode ego. If you have a chode ego your
natural self/self confidence/self esteem/unreactive self is compromised and you dont
feel as though you are as good as the girl.
So to compensate for chode ego you start doing things that are intended to be
impressive. This might include bragging about achievements, negging to try and bring
the girl down to a level below you or deliberately running a DHV routine.
To have to convince someone that you are good by taking extra measures is to show
that you dont regard yourself as high value to begin with. If you feel you are low value,
she will feel that you are low value. Whatever you feel she feels.
If you approach with ego you are likely to get blown out. This is a god thing because it
erodes the ego away to eventually leave only your raw natural self. Take blowouts as a

sign that you have an ego. Take blowouts as ego erosion that bring you into alignment
with who you really are. This is how the indifference threshold works.
After enough ego inspired blowouts you will let go of caring about how others react to
you because it is so frustrating, you will stop giving a fuck and make that internal shift
away from outcome dependence to centeredness. You dont give a fuck what anyone
thinks of you, you make the internal shift from low value to high value, you become
naturally attractive.
If you have nothing to hide, no ego, self trust and you are a guy who deals with the
responsibility of your reality competently on a moment by moment basis all you need is
yourself and self trust to achieve high value.
Girls will congruence test you to see if there are any inconsistencies between your
behaviour and who you actually are. If what you do is in alignment with who you
naturally are you will have no ego and no incongruence.
You will blow through the congruence tests and with each test passed it will be vehicle
by which to overtly demonstrate that you are a high value guy. More on congruence
tests and amplification of attraction by beating tests later in the article.
Living in alignment with yourself is a demonstration of higher value in and of itself.
Each of the listed components of the natural self are rare amongst guys and instantly
recognised as attractive when encountered by women.
Socially conditioned guys are polar opposites to naturals and usually exhibit the
behavioural traits of inside their head and second guessing themselves, they are
pessimistic and passive and they are men of reaction.
Below is a guide to understanding the characteristics of your natural behavioural traits
so you can further align yourself with who you naturally are in order to become more
attractive.

1. To be present is to be high value. To find a guy who is present in this socially

conditioned world is rare. A guy who lives in the moment is chilled out, unreactive and
has presence. People find themselves reacting to a person with presence. If you have
presence you will be less reactive than the people you surround yourself with you are
attractive.
A present state will result in you achieving presence. This is because, while living in
the moment, you are ultra attentive to all stimuli at hand. While present you have all of
your faculties dedicated in the moment to the task at hand. Your attention makes you
not reactive but rather ultra responsive and you will be described as the sort of guy
who doesnt miss anything or that its hard to get anything past that guy.
Being present and responsive means that you are first to take action in response to
any situation, others around you are reactive to you. You establish higher value relative
to them.
Being present means that you are a guy who is unburdened by the past and the future
and you are outside your head. With an empty head you feel good. You inspire good
feelings in the people who are reacting to you. You are attractive.
A source of good feeling and relaxation is of value to everyone.

2. A positive-dominant guy communicates higher value. He not only is a source of

good feelings as he draws positivity from within but he communicates that he is not to
be fucked with.
Positive-dominance is the essence of an alpha male. It is assertiveness with a smile,
leadership and decisiveness while others second guess themselves. PositiveDominance is an example of proactive leading resulting in others following you and
reacting to you. Others reacting to you makes you attractive.
The combination of positivity and dominance is the same as saying woo plus intent.
The four different combinations of positivity and dominance (woo and intent) define the
four different types of guys in the world. Depending on the combination and presence
of the two will determine the varying levels of attraction of each type of guy.
Understanding this will help to identify what action you need to take to become
attractive. You can gauge what type of guy you are and what attraction component you
are missing to achieve natural attraction. A breakdown of the four types of guys is at
the end of the article.
3. The third component of a naturally attractive guy is escalation. The term refers to
being a man of action, a leader and acting on sexual intent. In the set, if you are not
moving things forward they usually stall out.
If men derive their state and sense of reality naturally from within women derive their
sense of state and reality externally (socially and emotionally by nature). When women
are caught up in an emotional whim and find themselves doing something emotionally
compelling that is against their cognition they find themselves logically backwards
rationalising their actions once the deed is done.
So if you are a man of action and a woman finds herself emotionally compelled to
become involved with your actions she will logically justify what happened in hindsight.
If a women was unsure if she was attracted to you before she hooks up with you she
will likely rationalise that she was attracted to you in hindsight.
If you dont escalate physically with the girl through the different stages of hooking up
with her at any stage you might miss your window of opportunity and communicate to
her that are not 100% the escalating man that you should be.

In life as a man if you are not taking responsibility for making progress for yourself
someone will figure out how you can make progress for them.
If you are out of alignment with your escalation trait then you will find yourself
becoming physically weaker and cognitively dimmer.
In the same way if youre not taking responsibility (being a man of action) for your
reality as an alpha male then you will become a beta male and be socially conditioned
by alpha males around you or be reactive to them and perceive yourself socially
subordinate to women.
Being a man of action means that every time you take an action or a risk you have a
chance to consolidate what sort of guy you are. Every time you dont approach, dont
move the set forward or eject for no good reason you have failed to take action and
you are crystallising beta male regression. Usually this is due to the developing an Im
good with girls ego that comes from a few months in the community and a couple of
good results.
Girls are very receptive to the most prominent stimulus in their reality. If a man of
action approaches, who is willing to make decisions, takes risks, move things forwards
and keep things interesting the girl will be reactive to this. Her reacting to you means
you are higher value, you are an arousing stimulus and it makes you attractive.
**As a side note, finding the alpha male in you requires work and requires working
against social conditioning in the same way that resistance training works against
gravity. Socially conditioned guys and married guys are generally beta guys who allow
external factors to take responsibility for them.
In the case of marriage, sacrificing some alpha traits are necessary to maintain a
balanced relationship. But to be alpha, high value and to achieve attraction by people
reacting to you requires continual maintenance and responsibility for it. Like at the
gym, maintenance and responsibility for your strength will make you stronger than
those around you, whereas laziness and not making progress will yield regression and
you will be weaker than those around you.
Ultimately alpha male status is relative to other men. Being attractive is like a muscle,
take responsibility for it and you will be attraction, get lazy and displace responsibility
and you will unattractive.**

These three natural traits of all men are suppressed by social conditioning and in place
of these compromised traits stand the pretending to be a chode ego. If you are not
fully in alignment with these three natural traits you will find yourself reacting to others.
Because youre naturally born with self esteem, when out of alignment with your
natural self you will find you have low self esteem because it is compromised by
social conditioning. This feeling is the same as being in bad state or feeling bad. If you
feel bad, she will feel bad; she wont want to talk to you.
I cant stress the importance of attraction as a function of being in alignment with your
natural self enough. Keep an eye out for another article fully detailing what it means to
be who you are and what it takes to be fully in alignment with yourself soon.
When people talk about manning the fuck up they mean coming into alignment with
your naturally masculine traits.
Being in alignment with yourself means you have integrity. Its just who you are. As
opposed to fronting some bullshit ego and learning a college course worth of material
in order to try to manipulate a girl out of your league into bed. All you have to do is
bring yourself.
Being your natural self makes natural game a simple and fun pleasure.
If you are in alignment with yourself and are indifferent the girl will recognise that you
are high value long before you approach her and she will be instantly receptive. If you
have the pretending to be a chode ego and you are outcome dependant she will
recognise that you are low value and become instantly defensive and perhaps not even
talk to you or instantly test you hard core in the style of a straight up blow out.
For now, in the context of defining natural attraction just understand that to be high
value you need to be who you are naturally to achieve the high value component of
the natural attraction formula.
As a guy, when girls do girlie behaviour that is beyond our understanding we generally
tend to acknowledge that its just a girl thing, we dont bother to try and figure out why
they do it we just accept it as it. Its the same for girls. When girls see guys doing guy
guy behaviour they probably dont get what we do and probably wont try to. They like
guy behaviour it in the same way that we like girl behaviours simply because girls are

mysterious, adorable and attractive and as people they reciprocally compliment out
own lives.
The other component of natural attraction is a full range of emotions
Emotions are elicited in increments of emotional spikes. To elicit these correctly it is
important to know what an emotional spike actually is.
An emotional spike is an interactive process and pertains particularly to social and
emotional natural gender polarisation. High value is having others react to you and
being unreactive to others.
To give someone an emotional spike you can do something specifically to make them
react (impression) or it can come in the form of a people reacting to as a function of
you being a high value guy on your path.
To react to an emotional spike is to be aroused. Being aroused is the same as being
turned on or becoming exited. Tyler said one way of look at emotions spikes is they
make the vagina wet.
If your ultra good like academy award winning good at classic style of game you
can come close to rendering yourself high value just by deliberately acting in a way that
inspires emotional reactions in the girls you are interacting with. But realise that once
you run out of these little emotion eliciting techniques your attractiveness will soon
cease to exist.
The problem with deliberately making an effort to get the girl to react to you emotionally
is actually you a case of you reacting to her.
If you need to think and deliberately do things to get her to react to you, ultimately you
are reacting to her and looking for validation. We use the term the self is always
coming through the girl will realise instantly whether or not your actions are coming
from a place of indifference or emotional investment. If you are invested in the action
and expect a reaction, you are reactive and not attractive to the girl.
When you elicit a range of emotions in the girl it should be purely a repercussion of you
celebrating and expressing yourself as an internally centred guy. This is depicted in the
graphic below. You take action without any thought for a reaction. You do it for you and
not for anyone else. You are putting your path and intentions before others.

On the other hand, if you are trying to elicit a range of emotions from a girl deliberately
you will sub communicate validation seeking very clearly and the girl will be aware you
are trying to make an impression on her so that she will react to you and validate you.
You will certainly get the girl to react to your lines. But unless the emotions you are
inspiring in her are coupled with the higher value spoken about above then it wont
actually be attractive.
It can also be said that if youre higher value than the girl as spoken about, but you
dont take action and actually interact with the girl, the girl wont feel emotions as a
function of you interacting with you and wont be attracted to you. But, you wouldnt
truly be a high value guy because you would be out of alignment with your escalation
trait that constitutes your natural self.
In a lot of cases all the average guy needs to do is go over, start and hold a
conversation.
There are a lot of non community guy chilling out in bars who are cool guys. They work
hard, have morals, know how to have fun and expect great things from themselves in
life. Usually, if they were to just align themselves with their escalation trait and go and
talk to the girls the girls would be thrilled.
He would have everything he would need to be attractive.

However even if a guy did start a conversation would then probably regress to being
inside their head (non-present), fall away from positive-dominance, second guess
themselves and discontinue to move things forward due to the socially conditioned
concepts of social politeness that are harboured by the masses in the socially
conditioned world.

A full range of emotions is most simply achieved by being higher value than the people
around you and having them react to you naturally as a function of you following your
path. Every time a reaction is inspired by you this is an emotional spike in and of itself,
so simply being your natural self is enough.
The infinity superscript () at the end of the formula has multiple meanings of similar
theme. Primarily it represents the fact that conversationally you have access to the
infinite well of things to talk about when you live in the moment and are unstifled by
external sources. You can materialise infinite conversation of value out of thin air and
the more you do so the more emotions you arouse. The more you arousing you are the
more women will react to you and the more attractive you are.
This infinity superscript is an indication that you will always be on your path and as a
result there is no limit to the emotional spikes that can be generated as a result of your
taking action and following your path. It also indicates that the longer the interaction,

the more rapport that is gained as a function of time spent with a girl, the more
attracted she is going to be to you.
The bracketed plus-minus symbol () means represents a full range of emotions. The
full range of emotions means that as a guy naturally on your path and naturally doing
your own thing the types of emotions will be random, unpredictable and solely a
function of your actions and your path. Because the things you do are for you the
emotional effect you have on others will be wide ranging and subject to personal
interpretation.
If all your emotions were to be positive or negative you would become boring and
predictable. The emotional spikes would no longer be spikes because they would be
expected and boring in the same a clich movie is boring.
Predictability is not arousing and does not satisfy the second component of the
attraction formula. When guys go up asking for a logical opinion opener not only are
you NOT eliciting a range of emotions with the predictable questioning , but she gets
the role of authority and this leaves you reacting to her. There are neither emotions
being exchanged nor do you have high value. The mainstream perceptions of game
are actually intrinsically unattractive.
Adversely, if you are true to yourself and act through your own masculine intentions
(assuming you have basic social calibration) the sorts of things that you would naturally
do around the people you are comfortable with will inspire attraction because it will
satisfy both components of the formula.
Think in terms of when you are with your friends, family, or a situation where you are
socially comfortable and unstifled. You will probably do things that result in a
combination of things that both irritate or entertain others. The things that entertain you
can make others laugh while they could make others annoyed. In both cases you are
arousing emotions.
If you dont do things (take actions) with bad intentions you are unapologetic. Because
you are unapologetic when something you do elicits a bad emotion its normal that you
will defend your actions to maintain your value. This is likely to arouse even more
emotions.
Sometimes we all overstep our bounds and do irritate people or hurt someones
feelings. A man living in the present who is responsive will possess empathy. Even if a

guy has irritated or upset someone if he possesses empathy he can respond quickly
and accordingly and can maintain his value in these situations.
He can deal with or amend the situation without giving away his power. Although he
might have done the wrong thing, he takes responsibility and corrects it. If you are a
man who knows who he is and are focused on your path this is not an uncommon
occurrence because people will always be reacting to you.
This is responsivity and an extremely attractive trait of a guy with natural game. After
all, even if he did do something wrong, he didnt intend it to be wrong, so instead of
being all sorry and adopting a victim mentality he is the first to respond, take
responsibility and make things right. All throughout, people are still reacting to him.
Think about the context of the in-set fuck up (which usually is only a self imposed
perception of fuck up). Maybe you did do something wrong. If you are present enough
to be responsive, deal with and amend the situation you can maintain and amplify
attraction.
Naturally, guys are anything but perfect. Realising that you dont have to be perfect to
get girls is very liberating.
Naturally attractive guys realise that social perfection is impossible, so they dont
bother trying to be perfect. They are indifferent.
When you get really socially indifferent you do stupid things just to entertain yourself.

Taking risks allows you to freedom to fuck up amend situations all the time and give
you great opportunities to amplify attraction. Realising that you dont have to walk the

pickup tight rope is a very liberating feeling as well and puts the fun back into going
out and chasing girls.
Let me go back to something very important stated above, being your natural self is
enough.
Come into alignment with your natural self and you will be enough when you are in
alignment with the man you are. When you man the fuck up
To further support this idea think about how, as a guy, your attention(your reticular
activation system) is always on the lookout for something you perceive as attractive.
This is the same for women.
In contrast to men they are scanning their radars for behavioural traits. Namely those
naturally masculine behavioural traits listed above. A lot of guys act like a chode with
their impress the girls ego or self sabotage by second guessing the things they say
and dont trust in their natural faculties in the present.
If you give a girl the option shes going to go out of her way to perceive you they way
she hopes you to be. This is the nature of looking for something attractive.
In an effort to make the transition from the average socially conditioned guy to the
naturally attractive sexworthy guy it can certainly be useful to take on the actions of the
sexworthy guy and do things consciously that a natural would do
unconsciously(naturally) to begin to realign your internal compass with your natural
state.

Below is a list of behavioural traits that you can implement to mimic an alpha man
while you are still internally unsure of yourself and more reactive to others than they
are to you.
Even though you might still harbour the chode ego implementing these actions will
move you towards the some of the habits of a naturally attractive guy. These are
behaviours that naturally attractive guys do unconsciously-competently.
Natural emotional derivatives from a guy acting in line with his own intentions include
any combination of the following examples plus more:
Fun
Excitement
Thrills
Uncertainty
Affection
Fear of loss
Unpredictability
Decisiveness
Adventure
Danger
Comfort
Affection

 Admiration
Anticipation
By implementing emotions consciously-competently with time and calibration you will
learn to execute naturally attractive behavioural traits unconsciously-competently.
Combine this with genuine indifference and you will achieve natural attraction. See the
self actualisation learning cycle diagram below.

Below is a list of emotion eliciting things you can do to get girls reacting to you and will
probably simultaneously entertain you. These actions are best served as actions of
impression, not expression.
**Note: this will not get you the girls it will only inspire attraction in girls. Attraction
combined with escalation is necessary to close**
Teasing
Sexual misinterpretation
Cold reading
Compliance ladders
Verbal and physical push pull
Using the phrase lets play a game
Nicknames
Qualification

 Anomaly effect
Teaching something
Take aways
Extreme multiple threading
Elastic snap back
Game and gimmicks
Sexual innuendo
Shock and awe
Us versus the world conspiracies
Plot lines
Emotional rapport
Beating congruence tests
Physical communication and leading
Frame controlling
Using the word babe
Verbal rhythm
Emotional content of your language
Eye contact and intensity
Story telling style.
Many others
To mimic the attractive actions of a naturally attractive guy is to practise the habits that
are suppressed within you. In the beginning you will come across as though you are
trying to be cooler than you really are, which is a form of ego. The cooler actions will
be incongruent with the not so cool socially conditioned chode ego place you are
coming from internally.
Usually when making the transition from socially conditioned beta male to naturally
attractive alpha male the execution of words and actions can seem jolty and forced.
Think of aligning alpha actions to an alpha headspace like learning to play the guitar.
At first your actions and your mind wont have the neural framework to properly
communicate, but with repetition they the neural frame work will grow strong like a
muscle. In the case of learning the habits of guitar, the skill becomes what people call
second nature.
In the case of learning something in order to realign with and reveal natural traits that
have otherwise been suppressed by a chode ego could be called realigning with
something that is first nature

The seduction industry incorrectly teaches a lot of game skills that appeal to the
average guys ego. Ideally skills should be taught as a structural framework to allow
beta guys to learn and internalise the traits and characteristics of alpha guys through
habituation.
Understand that if you consciously implement alpha traits you will originally come from
a place lower value and consciously implemented alpha traits will be like training
wheels. For the most part the traits wont come off smoothly to begin with but with field
experience you will develop calibration and social savvy.
When you first start off learning game you will be socially inexperienced and
emotionally reactive to most interactions. You will most likely partially define yourself in
terms of external feedback because you will still have the chode ego and you will tend
to take things personally. If this happens think of it as eroding the ego away and
allowing the naturally attractive guy to come through.
With enough field time you will begin to care less about the interaction than the girls
do, realise that there is no predictable pattern as to what will work or not work and
begin going to field for yourself instead of for the girls anyone else.
When you make this shift, you stop going out for the girls and you start going out for
you and your own purposes. You take responsibility for yourself and your reality as a

man and you know exactly who you are. You have spoken to enough girls to realise
that you are the only common denominator in your life.
Once you experience this indifference threshold in real life a few things happen.
You become internally centred and you genuinely give value to yourself and your path
more than those of others. You do things purely to express yourself because you
realise it is impossible to consistently impress people the way you intend to. You do
more creative and outlandish things to entertain yourself because with field experience
you have gained social intuition that makes things that used to be new and exciting
actually boring and predictable.
You discontinue to give a fuck.
You let go, you become more indifferent than the girls you talk to, you are the highest
value person in your reality.
Once you breach this indifference threshold you couple higher value with the range of
emotions
Higher value plus a range of emotions makes you naturally attractive.

Consciously implementing these emotion eliciting behavioural traits to habituates

natural attraction. With this process comes a whole other level of emotional spiking.
But to graduate to another level again you can learn to establish high value by
consciously implementing high value communication styles.
In the case of aligning your communication skills to the suppressed naturally attractive
guy inside of you it is also a case of not learning a second nature skill, but realigning
with your first nature.

Its important to understand that the way you communicate elicits a polarised value
response.
For example, if you address someone communicating low value then you put them in a
position to communicate high value right back at you. Contrastingly, if you address
someone communicating high value you elicit an autopilot response of subordinate
value. People are always pinging, especially if they are less self assured of themselves
than a guy who knows who he is.
If two people communicate at each other with high value it can be an aggressive
situation like two guys shouting face to face. Usually one will step up more
aggressively or one will back down and a value polarisation is established. If both
people are communicating trying for rapport like the weird way they talk in the Brady
Bunch family then its just fucken weird. Communication polarisation is always
established in an interaction, sometimes after a short frame battle, to establish social
order.
An article called high value communication skills that inspire subordinate responses;
communication skills that will make you attractive coming soon.
Communication skills that can be consciously implemented to mimic the high value
communication styles of the naturally attractive guy include but are not limited to the
following.
Voice tonality
Verbal sequencing
Posturing
Proximity to others
Charisma
Physical expression and communication styles
Facial expressions
Smiling
Frame control
Physical communication and leading
In the same way that implementing naturally attractive actions will move you closer to
aligning your internal compass with your natural self, consciously taking on attractive
communication skills will leave you with habits that arent second nature skills, but will
realign you with your nature and render you a naturally attractive guy.

Realise though, at first these communication skills wont be smooth and there will be
incongruence between the way you are communicating and where you are coming
from internally. This is normal during the self actualisation process. But remember,
during the transitional time of incongruence every congruence test you get gives you
an opportunity to consolidate your progression to elite congruence as opposed to
regressing back to beta male chode ego.
While making the transition from beta male to alpha male from unattractive to
naturally attractive when you interact with people it will be like you are trying to be
natural guy but the remnants of the beta guy will be showing through. So when you talk
to girls you will get lots of tests as they try to figure out which one it is.
Consciously implementing alpha behaviours, mindsets and communication skills draws
you closer to the reality and congruence with the alpha man inside you. Your naturally
attractive self.
Every time your congruence is tested you have an opportunity to move closer to the
alpha reality or further away from it.

When girls interact with a man in a beta-to-alpha transitional phase they will
experience a conflict between their emotional intuition and what they are seeing and
hearing.
On the one hand they will be getting a gut feeling about what sort of guy you are (but
probably wont trust it totally as people generally only go on words and actions as
opposed to emotional communication in a socially conditioned world). On the other
hand you will be acting and saying things that communicate you are a different type of
guy to what they are sensing. They will automatically and unconsciously test you to try
and figure out if you are what they are looking for or not.
Beat the congruence test and move towards the place of natural attraction. Eject or fail
the test and fail to clean up the mess you make dealing with it and you will have you
regressed back towards beta male pretending to be a chode ego status.
Remember though, the girls are hoping that you will pass the test because they are on
the lookout for a man of value who is rare.
When you do get these tests it is a golden opportunity to shed the beta reality and
come into closer congruence with the alpha reality. Pass the test and you get closer to
aligning your actions with the alpha born inside of you. Fail the test and you confirm the
chode socially conditioned beta reality.
Passing tests at first might require some conscious recognition and decision making,
but with each successful execution you get closer to mastering natural game and
coming back into alignment with your natural self.

Therefore, passing a congruence test is a natural game DHV. You are presented with
an opportunity to demonstrate that you are either alpha or beta. Pass it and DHV is
communicated. Fail it and DLV is communicated.
In classic game DHVs were a specific thing you would do in order to show a girl that
youre a special guy to compensate for the fact that you dont feel you are good
enough for the girl to begin with.
Nowadays you dont need to especially deploy a DHV because you live and talk to girls
under the premise and frame that you have everything that you will ever need to be
attractive just as you are because you know what it means to man the fuck up.

If there is any doubt that you are a high value guy she will try to call you on things to
quickly figure out what is going on. These tests provide your opportunity to show your
value. You will be unreactive to the girls and their tests and as a result they will react to
you.
50% of natural game is player in congruence tests.

When you get really good at the unreativeness of natural game you can deliberately
call girls mingers and go for make outs wearing stupid hats in an effort to get the girl to
immediately test you. In giving her a reason to test you it provides an opportunity to
very quickly and overtly demonstrate what sort of guy you are and as a result you
inspire attraction. This is called deliberate illogicality and is another article currently
being formulated.
An article on growing your natural game by reinforcing it through congruence tests and
passing/not reacting to them is another massive skill set in and of itself and is another
article currently on the word press. This attraction article is to be the mother article on
going from a beta male to an alpha male and what needs to be done along the way in
order to achieve mastery.
A short break down of the evolution in terms of Higher Value and Emotional Spiking is
outlined below.
The four types of guys are, creepy, tolerable, entertainer and sexworthy (naturally
attractive).

As you can see in the diagram you start your life as naturally attractive as it is your
default state and it is the same point you return to when you become fully self

actualised. This type of guy occurs twice in the social conditioning-self actualisation
cycle so I will only cover it once.
The Creepy Guy.
The first guy is the creepy guy is most usually just socially awkward. This phase
usually occurs during the impressionable teenaged years and is involves heavy social
conditioning that goes on during the high school years. Few guys get through this
period as alpha male and I can assure that few of those born alpha guys will read this
blog.

These sorts of guys are usually all escalation and sometimes kinda desperate. Think
teenager on a mission to get laid or an adult so frustrated with being a chode he has
reverted to full deluded creepiness to get girls. All dominance and all intent creepy guy
lacks in positivity and woo. This guy will usually get a very bad reaction from girls
instantly. Ideally he should conform to society before he thinks about learning finer
social skills. He is a pessimistic guy and usually assertive with his intent.
This sort of guy is characterised by the bikie stereotype. He comes off socially
disconnected and miscalibrated, but yet he still gets some hot girls. This guy has this
counterintuitive success just because he takes action when most guys in the world
never will.
He is Low value and gives negative creepy emotions and is very miscalibrated.
The Tolerable Guy.
The average guy, the polar opposite of the naturally attractive guy is the mainstream
socially conditioned guy. This is generally a normal enough guy, he goes to bar
because he think he is supposed to, he drinks for confidence and rarely if ever
approaches.

He is ultimately apologetic for everything he does with girls. The few times he does talk
to girls he will rarely move things forwards because his perception of courtship is
derived from Disney storylines. Eventually this guy will get drunk and settle for some
socially conditioned women (fat chick) and ultimately be unhappy in life and under
control.
Due to social conditioning this guy considers himself to be low value and takes little
action, the action he does take finds him outside his comfort zone which is
uncomfortable. He has low value and through inaction inspires no emotions. This is the
sort of guy who goes through life treading on eggshells. He is a passive and
pessimistic guy. He rarely gets girls.
The Entertainer Guy
The entertainer guy is where 90% of where the pickup community find themselves.
These are the sort of guys who have decided to take action in their life. He has moved
away from being a socially conditioned beta male and has made the decision to self
actualise.
These guys go out and put a lot of effort into what they say and do but pay little
attention to the importance of inner game. Entertainer guys go out and entertain girls

with the things they say and gauge their own success in terms of visible indications of
interest or disinterest.

Entertainer guys still have the chode ego and define themselves in terms of the
feedback they get. This is similar to well known entertainers Britney Spears, Lindsey
Lohan and Amy Winehouse. When an entertainer is getting good feedback they are on
top of the world and feel great, when an entertainer gets bad feedback they crash
hard. In the context of game an ego crash can mean terrible state and giving up the
game, in the entertainment industry it can mean drugs and rehab.
Because you are always going out looking to fuel and maintain the ego you will always
be reaction seeking, reactive and hence lower value. Because the entertainer guy is
playing to not lose he rarely moves forward. While its great that the entertainer guy is
getting out into field taking some responsibility for his life he will never master natural
game unless he can truly let go.
The entertainer guy does indeed inspire a range of emotions but is still coming from a
place of lower value and feels he needs to neg or entertain to equalise or establish
value.
The typical girl response to this type of guy is usually some giggling, maybe some shit
tests and after the entertainment is over shes off to look for a guy who will be less
emotionally invested in the interaction than she is. She will go and look for a guy to
game.
Its not until the entertainer guy ceases to give a fuck that he will have a chance to
master natural game.

The Naturally Attractive Guy.

To master natural game is to enter a headspace where you define your life and your
reality with alpha actions automatically. This is the case when you are born up until the
point that social conditioning begins.

Back in alignment with your nature you elicit emotions in others as a by product of your
own actions as opposed to having to specifically make an effort to do so.
The naturally attractive guys strength of reality would rival that of the most socially
conditioned or ego validated women. But the causality of his reality is inverse to the
socially conditioned. He defines it, as opposed to having it projected onto him. In his
reality he is adaptable and has manoeuvrability when an ego based person is fixed in
the role they are cast into.
This manoeuvrability that exists due to non-ego restraints means that, in his reality, he
is the highest value entity. He instantly communicates high value. People may try and
compliment him or destroy him but he will always know what he is naturally at his core
and no amount of compliments or insults will change the fact. He is perpetually
indifferent.

The naturally attractive guy takes no objective opinions to heart because no one else
knows him the way he knows him, and even if they did, no amount of verbal opinion
could change his mind set about his physically natural self that literally cannot be
changed.
Because any guys natural self cannot be altered, when he lives in line with himself,
when he mans the fuck up and drops the socially conditioned pretending to be a
chode ego everything he is doing is coming from the right place. That place is one of
elite congruence with his masculinity.
When you have these realisations you realise that you are enough when you live in
alignment with your natural self. You dont give a fuck what anyone thinks of you just
as much as you are unapologetic for the things that you do because you dont have
bad intentions. Sometimes people may misinterpret that you have bad intentions but
you hold your frame until they understand.
When a naturally attractive guy interacts with girls it is usually a very predictable
pattern.
1.Firstly, the self is always coming through, the set is receptive because high value will
be communicated before he even approaches.
2.Tests are given by the girls to ensure that the behaviours they are seeing are in
alignment with the core of the guy, his nature.
3. You freely express yourself and inspire emotional spikes. Attraction is a function of
your ability to put your personality on the line (Tim, 2005 www.naturaltim.com).
4. The set will hook because you are offering value, demonstrating core confidence,
your unreactive to tests and asserting yourself.
5. The girl becomes aroused and attracted to you by your freely expressing yourself,
moving things forward and dealing with tests.
A typical girl response to a naturally attractive guy will be stifled and nervous behaviour
in the same way as an average guy would be stifled and nervous around a very high
value girl. The girl will make a specific effort to play it cool, be less expressive,
compliant and attentive to you.

The naturally attractive guy doesnt get a crush. He doesnt form emotional feeling for a
women until she has been around long enough for her to make a lasting impression on
him.
For a naturally attractive guy the girls he interacts with is like dealing with someone
with a crush on him.
The naturally attractive guy doesnt get crushes and doesnt see new girls as higher
value than him. He realises that it would be self generated affection assigned to a
women. He realises that to have a crush or for a girl be his type is to appeal to a false
ego.
For you to have a crush on a girl is to imply that she has higher value to you, of course
once you get the girl the power dynamic changes and you have the girl shes no longer
the rare and hard to get entity she once was. Crushes are not part of a naturally
attractive guys reality(1).

Footnote1.
More accurately a natural guy is a closer first and figures out which girl is the one
most worth spending his time with after time spent seeing her as opposed to dating
her. Because he has no ego he doesnt discriminate when it comes to closing the deal.
The more he closes, the more indifferent he is and the higher value his value becomes.
High value plus a range of emotions equals attraction.

If you are a cool guy she will want to talk to you, if you know who you are and are on
your path and have access to your infinite well you will make the vagina wet.
A = HV + ()E
A high value guys knows that because he is purely his natural self he CANT NOT be
attractive in the same way that a bikini model cant not be attractive to guys. He doesnt
need to come up with reasons why he has to rationalise and believe that his his game
is a 10.
The naturally attractive guy cant figure out why his game wouldnt be a ten.
Alexander~

1. Except n the case of the Marissa Cooper, the character from The OC. But
technically its irrelevant because she isnt a real person.
http://alexattitude.com/the-self-the-natural-and-nature-vs-nurture/

he Self, The Natural and Nature vs Nurture.

Nature versus Nurture: the natural inside you, and the Identity you chose.

If you not a natural, how to become a natural? How did naturals become naturals if
they werent already that before?
If you are going to change your identity, then dont you lose your congruence and as a
result have weak inner game?
Some say that its not a case of learning, but rather unstifling. How do you implement
something that you dont literally implement?
How can all the RSD instructors, as different as they are all get consistent results. Are
they all natural? But they are all so totally different.

Tyler speaks about the dynamic existence of your identity. People change who they
are over time. Does this mean weak inner game?
There is a lot of static noise in the community. All of which is accurate but missing one
conceptual thread to tie it all together. The final piece of a puzzle that when complete
reveals a conclusive model.
My background is in science of psychology. One of the biggest issues that
psychologists of all fields are concerned with is the question of nature versus nurture?
Was the patient born that way, or did he develop that way. A result of genetics or
experience?

For example, is a gay guy born homosexual or does it develop over time? Is there a
chemical pattern to this phenomenon? In some cases people are sure they are gay
form the times of pre-school, while others arent assured or their sexuality until their
late fifties?
Usually the answer is a combination of both. In some cases totally genetic, in some
cases it is developed after normal heterosexual relationships.
Who you are, your identity is composed of two things. Your nature: genetics, your
body, physical chemical and biological (unconscious) and your nurture: your
experiences, passions, memories, interests, fears (conscious).
The guys who I have seen as the very best in the game, old friends of mine from my
football club and of the hundreds of students I have had and my elite level colleges the
absolute best are commonly of the highest integrity.
By integrity, for game purposes I refer to the notion that they have no ego. What you
see is what you get. They are totally unapologetic about who and what they are. If they
are unapologetic about it they are passionate, they have a great energy.
A person of true integrity has the tightest inner game out. He trusts himself, hes not
worried if people see the real him because, in his opinion, its great. Women gravitate

towards this. This is nimbus. Attraction is a function of your ability to put your
personality on the line.
As a side note, women read your inner game by mirroring you, as reported by Louann
Brizendine author of the bestseller The Female Brain. This is done by the girl
subconsciously mirroring your behaviour, scanning for anxieties and inconsistencies
and then feeling them in her own body. Basically if you are comfortable she will be too.
If you are exited, she will be too. Bad news is, if you are feeling uncomfortable talking
to her she will feel it to. If you feel apologetic, she will feel the same. The self is always
coming through, like it or not. Good news is if you dial your integrity attraction is not a
choice. Your value will shine through loud and clear. Just like when a guy sees a model
in a bikini climbing out of a pool. An unescapable fact of life.

The old enemy social conditioning is to blame here. You are uncomfortable because
you think you are supposed to be. Self actualisation overrides social conditioning.
Metaphorically social conditioning is like being taught to walk the wrong way.

Cognitively you were always programmed with the capability to learn how to walk, but
SC steps and forces you learn the wrong technique.
Self actualisation is the process of unlearning the incorrect technique. There is no
faking until you making it here. Its already there. Buried, in every single man.

But what is it that you are unearthing? What then is the right technique? Your nature
that if you dont accurately embrace you will never truly be congruent? Resulting in you
feeling uncomfortable and the girl feeling just as uncomfortable.
Its the same traits that every instructor has, every great natural has and what presocially conditioned boys have. Living in the moment, positive dominance and
escalation.
Three little things that if wholeheartedly understood and embraced will render you
congruent with what you were born as, leading you to be more comfortable with
yourself and resulting in the girls being comfortable around you. The traits of the
naturally attractive guy. The traits that if you werent incorrectly conditioned otherwise
would have shone through naturally on their own.

These traits are similar to those catalysed by alcohol, the pillar of the western social
world. When you drink the cognitive part of your brain is inhibited, you lose the ability to
focus on much more than what is in front of you and without a second thought you
more comfortably act on your desires.
Congruence is the KEY to attraction, it cultivates tight inner game namely making you
high value. On the nature side of things you were designed to focus on the moment, to
be assertive, unreactive and generate you own state. What we call presence and
positive dominance. The man is comfortable with who he is also comfortable to
escalate. Did you ever get blown out for escalating? Probably not. If you cant answer
that question get into the field.

Cant be congruent if you dont know what you are. Thousands of field hours with
hundreds of people have demonstrated that these are the keys to understanding the
unconscious side of your true self.
Now the other half of your true self. The side that explains why instructors can be so
different and still get consistently outstanding results. Although each instructor is
externally different, has different mannerisms, hobbies, histories and passions at their
core each possesses these key traits.
Game is a celebration of your self. But your self can be dynamic and changing. I used
to love to play football, now I love to watch go out and be social. My passions or
anyone elses are the jump start to their nimbus. Ask someone what they are
passionate about and watch as their eyes light up, the energy is amped up and they

are more fun to be around. Remember that girls draw their state from external sources,
men, you. If you have a good state, so will she.
Now, if you are incongruent with your passions, or you dont have any you will never
find the nimbus. If you are apologetic about your passions, not proud of what you are
and what you love you will always be incongruent and as a result experience anxiety
continuously. If you have anxiety, so will she.
So, what Im saying is that there are two levels to your identity, to your self, to who you
are. The next line of reasoning states that any girls you interact with will get their state
from you. Underlying these facts is the number one rule that you are congruent with
yourself(i dont give a fuck what anyone thinks of me), which means tight inner game
making you a high value guy and attractive.
Know what you were born into, embrace it and express it. It makes game very simple
and fun, especially because it will generate the sticking point of girl time management.
And enjoy expressing unapologetically what you like to do. It doesnt matter if its
aeronautical engineering or watching TV, the fact that you are proud of it, and who you
are is whats going to make you a naturally attractive guy.
Diagram time, the circle is representative of a person. On the inside is what you were
born as, what every man has inside of him, what the great guys have in common. On
the outside is the way you express yourself, your dynamic personality that you are
proud for everyone to see. Attraction is a function of your ability to put your personality
on the line.

This concept is almost exactly the same as offering value. There is no ego to this,
what people see is what people get. Integrity, no internal anxiety, hence, none for her.
Proud, unstifled expression of your self IS nimbus. Confidence happens when you
perceive that nothing holds you back.
Really simple actually.
Notice how the diagram looks like cone of a stereo speaker?
Be the music, that is all there is.
Cool.
Alexander~