A tip to reconcile between peoples conflicting hearts

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Here is a Quranic verse that guides us to a tip that we can use immediately to reconcile between
those people who have enmity and hatred toward each other. First, a little background. During the
prophets time, Aws and Khazraj were two warring tribes in Yathrib (now called Medina).
Approximately, couple of years before their acceptance of Islam the two clans were hard core
enemies and had enormous levels of enmity and hatred for each other. During one of the battles
(Battle of Buath) both tribes seemed set to annihilate each other.The Aws were supported by the
Jewish tribes of Banu Nadir, Banu Qurayza, and by the Arab Bedouins of the Muzayna tribe. The
Khazraj on the other hand were supported by other local Bedouin tribes. During the battle, the Aws
and their allies initially had to retreat, but then they counterattacked and defeated the Khazraj. During
the battle, the leaders of both forces were killed.

However, after their acceptance and embracing of Islam, both tribes developed feelings of strong love
and brotherhood for each other. This unity developed despite their history and long-standing traditions
of mutual enmity. Sheikh Moududi states in his tafseer that to have such severe enmity turn into deep
cordiality and brotherhood within a quite short span of time and to have such enemies unite together
so closely was doubtlessly beyond the power of any mortal. Were anyone to depend on worldly
factors alone, it would have been impossible to bring about such an achievement. The prophet
(s) and his companions witnessed this miracle of Allah when the hearts of two warring factions came
together with mutual feelings of love, brotherhood, and respect.
Allah says in the Quran:

and joined their hearts. Had you given away all the riches of the earth you could not have
joined their hearts, but it is Allah Who joined their hearts. Indeed He is All-Mighty. All-Wise.
Quran (Surah Al-Anfal: 63).

The simple yet powerful lesson we can take from this verse is that in cases when there is a need to
reconcile between the hearts of two Muslims (or parties), we should sincerely pray to Allah, as He
alone can guide our hearts. This tip may seem simplistic but a sincere Dua can bring harmony and
love to the hearts of the warring parties more than any other worldly tactic. Whether its hatred
between two friends, brothers, spouses, or any other family members, a sincere Dua to Allah will
surely bring results faster and reconcile between their hearts more than any other ingenious plans.

You can also use the following Dua that the prophet (s) used to help remove feeling of bitterness from
our hearts.

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1Mariam

JazaKAllah. Very inspiring.

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2shehu

muhammad gana

Allahu Akbar! May we be guided aright, ameen.

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3Sameena

JazakAllah Khair. Needed very badly these days. Amazing and disappointing, but Muslims too
need to be reconciled with each other.The nafs is taking such a strong hold that quarrels and
differences have become very common. May Allah Guide us constantly Aameen

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4Ahmed

Quite true. It is indeed Allah that puts love between the hearts. Love is a divine blessing, and
from what the verse says the worlds riches could not purchase itits priceless.

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5Amina

Jazakallah khair! May Allah guide us all to the right path. Amin

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6Gene

Im a little confused. Does one have to accept Islam as their religion to have peace with
followers of Islam? Or can just living a God centered life be enough? I ask with complete
sincerity.

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7Hassan

God centred life? the idea is if there is a God -which certainly is- who creates us and every
thing around us, and then he gives us a free will, to choose his way for our success (by
submitting to him as he directed in his own words in Quran) or to do the opposite. In other
words, doing any thing else from his clear instruction to humanity in terms of Islam, is
basically giving importance to our own wishes over his implicit commands, logically it counts
indirect rejection of his orders. (Only Allah knows the best).

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8Khaliq

Bux

Hi Gene, Allow me to humble attempt to present simple values from a muslim perspective.
Islam as a starting point means Peace. Whenever we start to read the Quran, we start by
saying In the Name of God, the Compassionate, the Merciful, and this becomes a habit in
anything that we do. Anyone who submits to will of God, is a muslim. God ask of us to come
to common terms with one another. Also, that there is no compulsion in religion. Safety for
the non-muslim living in a muslim country is guaranteed. When living in a community we also
have duties towards our neighbours, regardless of religion, and i could go on giving advice
from the Quran. Living a God centered life for a muslim, is to lead to a practical life, with
duties to our fellow beings, and seeking Nearness to God through our actions. Life is
interdependant. Say hello to a muslim and you will be pleasantly surprised by their warm
hearts. As a start, i invite you to read the Quran.

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9Saima

Iram

Also, dear Gene, these Du as must come from the depths of the heart and with a sincere
trust and belief in the Might of Allah Subahanahu wa Taalah alone. If that does not originate

from a sincere trust in Him (alone), it would not be accepted by Allah. And Allah is All-knowing,
and All-Hearing. He knows your deepest secrets hidden in your heart even if you dont submit
or believe in Him.
Once you sincerely believe in Allah and put your trust in Him more than in anything else in the
world (even yourself), youve automatically embraced Islam, the path of the Truth, from
heart.
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10ashraf

alaydeross

very inspiring for all our Muslim Umma

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11farheen

Thanks you so much i was also in need of this

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12Adebayo

Nurudeen

This is educative! Jazakum lahu aeran!!!

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13Zainab

Alhamdulillah thank u. You r always handy with such, when in need. Jzk

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14Rukayyah

Jazakallah khairan. What a good job!

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15Cubtan

Jazaakumulaahu khayran, May Allaah reward you for the great article. we will benefit from it
inshaa allaah

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16Dr.

Khalid

its the need of the hour. we talk about peace but fight amongst ourselves on small petty
issues & shaitan gets a chance to sow the seed of enemity in our hearts aginst our brothers &
sisters.
JazakAllah for guiding
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17Elly

Salam 3leykom, I can not read arabic yet please can someone translate that Dua (with the
red hearts next to it) into arabic with english letters (transliteration). I would appreciate help
from brothers and sisters out there?

Peace and blessings to you all.

Salam
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18Saira

Hey Elly,

I dont know if you will see this or when you posted your question, but here is the best I can
do. (If any other Brother or Sister can do it better please post.)

Allahumma Allif Bayna Quloobina (1)

Wa Aslih Dhata Baynina (2)
Wahdinas Suboolas Salaam (3)
Wa Najjina Min Adhulumati ilan noor (4)

In the word Aslih in line 2 its a hard sounding h by the way. And the dh in some of the
words is sounded by placing your tongue at the bottom of your front teeth.
Hope this helps.
Waalaikumassalaam

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19Khadijah

bint Yahya

Saira,
Jazaka Allah khair for your your kindness in this dawah of transliteration. I appreciate and
thank Allah for your kind heart. This is very helpful.
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20Elly

Salamo 3leykom Saira, Thank you so much for providing the transliteration to the above
Duaa, really appreciate it. May Allah grant you blessings and fulfill all your duaas inshallah.

salam

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21abdullahi

wako

truly inspiring. may Allah always guide to the truth always.

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22Lamin

Bojang

AlhamdulillAh,it is very true that Allah did not left anything untold in the noble Quran, even
simple principles of conflict resolutions.

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23Abdulmu'min

Yusuf

Assalamu alaykum. Its quite a great job done; as these days, our muslim brothers and sisters
develop unnecessary hatred for one another for no reason or whatsoever. Its quite amazing

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24Wallahi-JFK

JazakAllaahu taala! May Allah swt grant Maulana Maududi Jannatul Firdaus, ameen.

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25zubaida

Abdul Aziz

Assalamu alaikum,

very inspiring.If people can understand this, love and affection between brotherhood is more
valuable than the money ,pride and egos. May Allah save us from the wasawis of shaitan.
Indeed, he is the worst enemy of man kind.

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26shariq

ahmad

subhanallah, alhamdulillah

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27Musah

Salaam,
Is very good and inspiring, may Allah guide us and make it easy for us and bless you to.
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28Mohammad

Anar

Hi Gene
Accepting Islam is not a precondition to have peace with followers of Islam. Even one does

not have to be God centered for this purpose. To be God centered or not is an individual
matter. At individual level you can see many muslims and non-muslims being good friends.
On the international level, you can see many examples of non muslim and muslim countries
friendship even those who do not believe in God and Muslims. Conflict has to do something
with injustice, hegemony and desire to have empires. At different times, different nations have
done that and are doing even now. So instead of looking to religion for peace, we have to
think about justice (which is again preached by religion). As for the example of the two tribes,
simply, when they turned to Islam they had one common leader, the Prophet (pbuh) who
could have resolved their disputes fairly. And of course, religion taught them that they were
now brothers, being enemy to each other would to a minimum lower their faith level to a very
low level.
Accepting or rejecting Islam is a serious matter. Why? Because Islam tells about a life
hereafter everlasting. This life will be either hell or heaven. So one has to carefully
understand what Islam is about. If after understanding that appeals to somebody, he/she
should accept Islam should not reject because of society pressures or because of the
religion that one got from their forerfathers.
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29Gene

Thanks Khaik! Good is good. The few things Ive read in the Quran were beautiful. May
peace, love , and grace conquer all.

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30fatima

Jazakallah khairan,very useful , effective and inspiring, may Allah guide us and make it easy
for us and bless you too.

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31Noorudeen

Jazakallah khairan, it is very informative,,,,,

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32Sana

Ya rabbul Alamin. Please help us(the Ummah) to behave righteously and guide us all to the
straight path,
-Ameen
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33Naseema

Thanks a lot. I really needed this dua. Its indeed the most beneficient Allahs blessings that I
got to read this.

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34Khadijah

bint Yahya

Dear Gene,
May Almighty God guide you to His truth and bring you closer to His desires for all
humankind. Continue to read the Quran and God willing, you will find the answers god intends
for your life. Much success to you.
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35Umm

muhammed

JazakAllah Khair. Allah indeed is the One who instills love in the hearts of His creation. This
true love will come about when we love Allah over and above everything and everyone else,
as He mentions in the Holy Quran: And those who believe are intense in their love for Allah.

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36Dr.

Zakari

Innal Laha ala kulli shaiin kadiiran! Jazakumullahu khairan. May Allah SWT increase our love
for Him and for all those He loves, Ameen.

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37Shabaan

SubhanAllah ..The ummah needs this reminder badly and all humanity!

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38Ramadhan

Jazakallah khairan. Very informative. May Allah bless you all.

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39Gnei

N Marikar

May Almighty Allah bless us all for better understanding and knowledge. Aameen!

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40Mohiuddin

A very good solution in the light of holy Quran and hadith dua
Jazaak-Allah khair for your efforts
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41shamim

Undoubtedly only Allah can unite hearts and we must sincerely make dua to Allah SWT, He is
the hearer of supplications.

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42Wali

Hammad

This has come at a time when there is discontent between one of my family members and a
member of her family, and I am grateful that I can, not only make dua for them, but to help
with such clear words for the heart.

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43Mustapha

Emigi

salam. we need to offer this prayer on daily basis to reconcile among Muslim Ummah all over
the world and our neighbors as well. JazakAllah khairan.

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44aiman

dawood

jazakAllah

I just loved this subhan Allah..it made my difficulty easy..very influencing article

it is

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45Sarah

Dear brothers and sisters, aslamalaykom

I have been struggling very hard the last year to save my family from being broken. My
husband of 5 years wants to divorce me and Im truly devastated and want nothing but for him
to stay. I have written before but I am still fighting and at this point i want to give up. I pray
everyday and make dua everyday, even when Im not praying but whatever I say or do hasnt
changed his mind. Its been a while since hes been sleeping else where in the house and
slowly hes destroyed my heart. Ive been fighting for so long that Im starting to think whats
the point anymore especially since its only one sided. I found out that hes been cheating on
me and he still hasnt stopped even though Ive asked him many times to leave her. Ive been
asking him to start to pray but he wont even do that. I pray for allah to open up his eyes and
inshallah he doesnt make a stupid move that will he will regret. Please I beg anyone that is
reading this to make a dua for my family. I have two small children and to be separated or
divorced I feel would be so hard on everyone especially my children. My husband has said

that within this week hes going to ask for a divorce from the sheik. Inshallah by then allah
opens up his eyes.

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46Eric

Christopher Foo

Thank you for the insightful article. Though I am a Catholic, I have taken a keen interest in
Islam; though my Muslim and Christian friends may not agree with me, I do see parallels
between the two. The significance of reconciliation is the basis of these scriptures in the first
place, God is love and so are we.

Eric

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