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The Pimp Your Lingo

Special Report
How To Unleash The Hidden Power Of Language To Attract Any Girl You Like!
Copyright Stephan Erdman | www.tooshytodate.com

www.pimpyourlingo.com

Hi...
Its Stephan here.
Do you know Dave?
Dave is a guy that has learned to speak like everyone else.
And when he meets people he talks to them as best as he can and hopes
that people will find whatever he says interesting and who knows...
...entertaining.
After all thats what it is about right?
In general that seems to be working fine for Dave. Because with most people
there isnt much at stake...

With women its different.


When he meets them nerves really grab him by the balls. Because around
women he must appear extra interesting in order for them to stick around,
right?
You see..deep inside Dave thinks he isnt that interesting or remarkable...and
there is nothing better than a woman walking off to drive that fact home with
Dave.
So he works harder to come up with interesting things to say...act confident if
he can, or try to look calm and in control while he feverishly searches his
brain for something original to say to impress her... or maybe he has learned
that asking questions is great..so he peppers her with a few questions hoping
that she wont notice his naked fear. But somehow his mind goes blank.
In the process his voice gets tense, his shoulders go up and he starts to act
in a way that he recognizes as me at my worst, he doesnt know what to do
about it and that makes it even harder to take anything in that she says...
his vocabulary shrinks to yes and no and great and maybe and because he is not in charge of language but it is in charge of him he feels under
intense pressure because nothing that comes out seems sort of what it
should be like...calm, confident, manly...

And all the while there that churning sensation in his stomach crushes his
lungs...

...Nightmare! And guys are living it every day!


How do I know?
Because I have been there myself.
And because now many guys like Dave email me and say things like:
I can talk to other people, friends, guys anyone. But I just dont know what to
say to a cute girl.
Every time I am around a girl I like I freeze up. I just dont know how to have
a conversation I guess.
I am not sure why...but I talk to a girl for a little while...and then I just run out
of ideas. And dont know what else to do. What shall I talk about?
or
I know there is stuff you can do with language that is powerful. I just dont
know what it is. Can you help me with that?

This really is a hot button for many men. Because nothing crushes our confidence more than feeling helpless.
And its ok to feel helpless about ballet or mathematics...but talking???
No way. We think we should be able to do it.

You have to be pretty dumb to not be able to


TALK, right?!
And thats why so many guys are not even admitting to themselves that they
may not have mastered the art of conversation as well as they might if
only...
...they learned the powerful principles contained within it.

Ok. Please listen carefully.


Language is a tool. An amazingly powerful tool.

It is an incredibly under the radar tool...If you


know how to use it.
The secrets of how to use language effectively and persuasively and in a way
that makes guys want to hang out with you and girls to be attracted to you are
not taught in school...And most guys never come across anyone that will let
them in on the principles that great communicators use to their advantage
every day...and here is the thing: Unless someone shows you what they are
you are not likely to just stumble upon them...because they are subtle and
generally unnoticed..

...but all that is about to change for you....


In this report I will lift the lid on some of the most effective ways of using language and conversation to have guys like you and girls be attracted to you...
I have called it The Pimp Your Lingo Report.
Cause thats what you can do with it. Taking the way you use language out of
the realm of unconsciousness and making it your friend (or super sharp tool)
rather than your enemy. Taking it to the next level and then some...are you
with me?
Before we get to the Lingo Pimping specifics... one important point:
Whenever someone says to me: What shall I say? what I want to say is It
doesnt matter. Just say it confidently and stand straight while you are doing
it!
Why? Because it is not useful to learn pick up lines or to tell guys exactly
what to say to a girl like a parrot. (And this is NOT what this report is about)

But that is only half the truth.


For many of us it is huge to find out what we communicate with our body language and voice regardless of the words we say. And because on a subconscious level SO MUCH depends on HOW you say what you say I was
tempted to focus on that first.

But then I remembered that over the years much of my growing confidence
and ability to attract and interact with girls came not just from working on my
body language and attitude...but much of my progress came when I was introduced to the amazing power of language, words, phrases, questions, answers and all the other aspects language contains.
And when I am talking about power I dont just mean their power to make
other people like me or not but also their power to influence me in a good or
bad way.
And of course our confidence, body language and even the way our voice
sounds (believe it or not) depends just as much on how comfortable we are
with what we are saying or how we are leading the conversation.
You see the truth is:

THE VERY WORDS WE SAY OR NOT SAY CAN CHANGE


OUR LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE.
Just as well as:

THE LEVEL OF CONFIDENCE AND EASE WE HAVE CAN


CHANGE THE VERY WORDS WE SAY.
So what I am saying is this:
If you dont have a clue as to the structure of language that works,
if you unknowingly use words that make you sound, feel and look
weak,
if you dont know how to create interest, connection, intimacy through
your language,
if you are boring people by talking too much or too little or by what
you talk about,
if you use phrases that ruin your impact,
if you blindly plot along in a conversation without knowing what is
really going on,

if speaking to girls scares the shit out of you because you are always
worried about running out of stuff to say,
if the whole subject of words is just a big blob with no distinctive features in your mind...
...then knowing this will ruin your confidence and sense of control, which in
turn will affect your body language and voice confidence.

No question about it!


And you know.. you might drift through your life never finding out how much
you really could have achieved if you had just been able to talk to people
and especially girls in a way that made them feel excited to be with you.
And while the Inner Game of Communication (or your communication mindset) is HUGE, and the body language and voice aspect is truly important...
what you say is at least equally important.
So in this report I will focus on language, the words, phrases and sentences
and how you can use them rather than be used by them.

Right.
One last thing: Before I let you in on the great principles and secret ninja
lingo techniques of great communicators (and evil dictators, hypnotists, politicians etc..) I need to ask you one big question that is slightly bigger
picture...but super important. Because it will underscore everything I will
share with you straight after.
Here is the Nr.1 Question Id like you to answer right now:

What is the purpose of communication?


And honestly...when I recently asked this question at a seminar I got more different answers than there are types of cereal in your average supermarket.
When you put all of those answers in a big pot and let it simmer for a few
hours without the lid on this is what it boils down to is in essence:

You want someone else to do what you want.


Mmmh..
Sounds manipulative and selfish doesnt it?
I know. Took me years to admit this to myself because I had the same reaction.
But this is it stripped down to its core.
Think about it...
When you say Ill have a beer. to a barman you want him to give you a bottle of beer open it and tell you how much. In essence thats what you want.
Easy.
When you say I love you mum you want your mum to smile, or feel loved, or
say I love you son or something else and of course with these examples it
all depends on how you say it too.
Ok. so far so good.
Here is another example.
When you say Ok no problem when someone tells you to do something that
you dont want to do...whats happening then?
Well truth be told... you want them to REFRAIN from giving you hassle and
drag you into a struggle about it, or REFRAIN from putting pressure on you.
In simpler words there is another side to what I would call the
active communication mindset which is

Wanting someone to do what you want


And that other side is:

Not wanting someone to do what you dont want

Lets call this the passive communication mindset.

This is a double negative..so in front of the law the same thing

..but in terms of mindset it changes EVERYTHING!


How?
Because it makes you focus on what you want to avoid rather than on what
you want to happen.
Most people (especially people that would see themselves as shy or introvert)
tend to operate from this passive communication mindset most of the time.
Many people allow themselves to be conditioned to avoid confrontations, upsets, rocking the boat, offending people, discussions...and end up focussing
on avoiding the bad stuff rather than creating the good stuff.

Are you with me?


I would suggest that being predominantly in an active communication mindset will serve you better if you want to be a better communicator and learn to
use language to its full potential as well as being excited about dealing with
people and especially ...GIRLS!
Please reread the previous paragraphs a few times if you are not sure what I
am talking about yet. It is one huge distinction 99% of the world are not aware
of and that alone was something I have only ever shared with private clients.
Great communicators with charisma and persuasive power are all in an active communication mindset...They might not know it consciously or call it
this...but they truly are and you can get a sense of this whenever you are
moved by one of them...

Why am I telling you all of this?


Because when you apply the principles I am going to be sharing with you in
this report you will become someone who will aim to have an impact on people. You will communicate more often with an active communication mindset.
Be prepared for this to feel a little bit more intense and exciting because you
will become aware of your own power to get responses you want. Be pre-

pared to be surprised by feeling a sense of control in conversations which


might make you feel self conscious at first because people are ACTUALLY
truly reacting to you.

So lets get into it!


Introducing the...

Pimp Your Lingo Principles


I am calling the first set of principles and tools:

Connection Factors
Understanding and using these principles will make you a great
compelling communicator with ANYONE (MEN AND WOMEN) that
doesnt need to feel worried about freezing up ever again.

Rapport Through Language


Some great tools for creating deep rapport are
paraphrasing
replaying
keyword backtracking
summarizing.
Using these clever tools you can quickly draw a person in even if they are
stressed or nervous or havent known you for long.
They will feel heard, understood and close to you. Understanding how this
works gives you complete confidence that you will never have to think
what to say next.

If you have never come across the term rapport before... wikipedia explains it like this:
Rapport is one of the most important features or characteristics of
unconscious human interaction. It is commonality of perspective: being "in sync" with, or being "on the same wavelength" as the person
with whom you are talking.
When was the last time you noticed that a person was completely in sync
with you?
Look around you. Couples in love with each other often show all the signs
of rapport, which include body language matching, voice tone matching,
even a similarity of breathing rhythm, and true listening to each other and
picking up of words and phrases without any conscious awareness of it.
Knowing these techniques enables you to create a setting for all of these
factors to appear..
Of course you will need to get used to weaving them into your conversation as it makes sense. So I will teach you how to do this effortlessly and
elegantly.

Replacing Weak Words/Phrases


There are certain words and phrases that make us feel out of charge,
powerless, depressed and worse. They also make us sound out of charge,
powerless, depressed etc. to others AND to ourselves. Learn how to replace them with Power Words which make you appear and feel strong.
Learning about these words changed my life and will yours and most importantly makes you more compelling and charismatic.
The Power of Questions
Questions are the most powerful language tools there are. If you know
how to use questions well, what the impact of different types of questions
is, what types of questions to use when and how you will literally never be
worried about freezing up again around any girls no matter how cute. And
thats just the basics.
Advanced Language Magic
There are ways of phrasing sentences that make you very compelling.
There are many ways of stacking the odds of girls saying yes to you
purely through language. I call this language magic. For example...there
are key phrases that make it easy for people to say yes to what you are
suggesting...those key phrases would be useful to know, wouldnt they?

70-30 Principle
Less is often more when it comes to talking. By Learning to stop trying to
impress girls by talking too much and instead aim for talking no more than
30% of the time. Its far better and easier to find out interesting things
about someone else than trying to make yourself sound interesting. And a
lot of other useful stuff happens too when you do this which you will find
out about...which I will reveal to you...

Softeners
Well..think of softeners as the oil that keeps the engine running smoothly
...if you dont mind the industrial metaphor. The thing is...softeners are
small phrases that you use as a preamble or a afterthought to your main
sentence. And I guess I should tell you...this enhances the flow of the
conversation, makes it possible to create intrigue when used right, and
frames your thoughts and questions elegantly as i am sure you have just
noticed when reading this paragraph...(you probably noticed already...I
just gave you a number of examples ;-))

Attraction Amplifiers
Attraction Amplifiers are specific principles that work especially with
women to...you guessed it...amplify attraction!
Messing with Rapport
Rapport is the solid foundation of any kind of effective communication with
anyone. But its important not to be a slave to it.
To amplify attraction it can be amazing when you learn to play with it,
mess with it, and break it up by playfully breaking it. There are many ways
of doing this for example ignoring a question, turning questions around,
confounding expectations, changing the subject, ignoring her temporarily...
Keyword twisting also makes any interaction fun and truly amps up attraction. (more on that below)
Values/Belief elicitation questions..if you do this well girls will melt and
feel like they have got to know YOU well(despite the fact that you just got to
know them on a deep level)

Sensoric Language
We become alive when our senses are stimulated. If you can use words
that stimulate someones senses of vision, sound, feeling, smell or taste
they will connect with you easily and feel more alive without being consciously aware of why that is. But they know it is with you that they feel
these things.
Words women feel
There are words (especially verbs) that can be described as physical
because they are dynamic and when we hear them (especially women of
course) we can get a sensation of them in our bodies. Learn to use such
words instead of your everyday common words and make a girl feel what
you say.
Leaving gaps
Learn about the psychological principles of missing information. This technique is used widely in marketing and advertising because it works on everyone. Leaving gaps in a story is a great way of building intrigue, interest
and anticipation... Many guys are telling all in one go and dont give the girl
anything to do. This is boring and compliant. And a big mistake.
Twisted Softeners
These are softeners as mentioned before but with a twist. So how could
you use softeners as a way to tease, flirt, amplify attraction? All will be
revealed...

You can see how I cant explain all the principles in detail in a report you
are meant to be able to read in half an hour...but I want you to be able to
get going right now so here is a great great technique to turn any conversation into a bonding exercise.
Here is how to do Keyword Backtracking:

Pimp Your Lingo #1 Technique


KEYWORD BACKTRACKING

When you talk to a girl or to anyone start noticing what the keywords are
in their sentence. There will usually be a word in a sentence that is
slightly more important. (To be honest once you have played around with
this for a while..you will not need any effort to look for the keyword. Youll
just feel it. Also bear in mind...you can pick up any word you want and
weave it into your response...using the keyword is simply an added bonus)
Listening to a girl and picking up the keyword or even another word and
quoting it back is a great way of making her feel that you are listening and
truly picking up what she is saying. You may ask: Why should I have to
make her feel that I am listening if I am listening anyway?
The problem is this: Often people listen to something someone else
says..but because they dont pick anything up or refer to it when they chip
in the other person doesnt think that they listened. Honestly it matters. A
lot. People like to feel that other people listen to them. Women LOVE to
feel that you are listening to them. (This is also great because this technique actually keeps you from getting nervous because it draws your focus on what she is saying, cool or what?)

Here is the simplest example of the basic principle:


Her: its a lovely evening.. maybe we should go outside ...
You: Mmhh.. outside? Outside is good but lets take the wine with us
or
Her: I have gone home a few times last year.
You: A few times...how many times would that be?

You can use it to be playful and have fun with her...here is an example of
picking up different parts of the sentence:
Her: ... So I kicked him in the balls and that was that..he wont be back
knocking at my door soon
You: Knocking? Breaking it down is more likely. With the police behind
him!
or Kicked him in the balls?!

or That was that?? So everyone the postman brings you a love letter from
an ex you assault him?!
or whatever. Playfulness is huge when talking with girls.
By the way:
When you have fun with a woman she is likely to be having a good time. (I
know this sounds BLINDINGLY OBVIOUS but how many times do you see
guys working visibly HARD to make a girl have a good time and achieving the opposite?)

The other way of using this principle in a way that it amplifies attraction
even more is:

Pimp Your Lingo #2 Technique


KEYWORD TWISTING
And I have already done that in the last example above.
This is where you pick up a word and then twist it in a way to tease her or
make fun of a girl...or make out shy is nuts or ditzy or weird or whatever.
You need to do this with a sense of irony and playfulness..Or pretend to
be misunderstanding her.

Her: I have a problem with meeting up tomorrow..


You: When you say problem do you mean an emotional problem?
or
Her: Lets meet up tomorrow?
You: TOMORROW? You know I dont work on Sunday!
or
You: Tomorrow? Wow you are into me...!

The point is to listen, notice what word that sticks out that you want to
pick up or twist ideally the keyword of the sentence (which is the one
she stressed) and then use it to do something with it with the keyword
backtracking to deepen rapport, move conversation on and make her feel
understood and listened to and with the keyword twisting to amplify the attraction through teasing, playful picking up of stuff she says.
Ok Start TODAY.
Start listening to which words people put a stress on. Which they point up.
And play around with picking them up and either feed them back, or twist
them to playfully move the conversation forward.
Start practising on Instant Messengers with friends. This is a great playground to try out new stuff.
You will notice how much more people will react and tell you...because
they hear YOU use THEIR words...and people just feel you know them
well.
Do this with people at your supermarket. Checkout Girls usually almost fall
off their chair because they are not used to people actually listening to
them and quoting something back or picking something up they said.
Experiment and have fun..with anyone!
Once you get a feel for it and you have started to do it intuitively make it a
part of your new pimped Communication skills.

What have you learned? A hell of a lot I hope!


I know just having read this once you will have learned a rarely talked about
but absolutely crucial distinction within how you communicate (the active and
passive communication mindset) and have found out about the most important principles and tools of great communication that will make you far more
compelling with anyone and especially women.
I have literally handed you 2 POWERFUL techniques that you can start using
RIGHT NOW!
And of course even though this report is jam-packed with content that would
cost you years of study and thousands of $$ this was only a blueprint and I
couldnt even get close to teaching you how to employ most of these principles so that you become a true smooth operator with language in a highly
condensed report like this.

Watch out for my next email where I will explain another key concept to
you in detail so that you can start using it the same day to get dates and
dazzle women with your effortless smooth style.
You can become a master of language!
And you have just taken the first step..
Enjoy the process,
Stephan

PS: I recommend you print this report and read it several times to really take in the principles I have shared!

copyright Stephan Erdman | www.tooshytodate.com / www.pimpyourlingo.com