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INTRODUCTION
The paper is organized as follows: Perspectives on defining psychological intimacy are discussed, which is followed by a review of recent empirical
studies of intimacy, and the theoretical framework for the current study.
The research methodology of the current study is summarized. A definition
of psychological intimacy, the dependent variable, based on the reports of
participants is presented, followed by the definitions of the independent
variables that contributed to reported psychological intimacy in recent
years. The findings are presented, including a chi-square analysis of those
variables related significantly to psychological intimacy in recent years,
correlations of the independent variable with the dependent variables, a
logistic regression analysis of factors that contribute to psychological intimacy in recent years, and an examination of the qualitative data that help
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ships mature (White, Speisman, Jackson, Bartos & Costos, 1986). Schaefer
and Olson (1981) considered intimacy to be a dynamic process which included emotional, intellectual, social, and cultural dimensions.
Helgeson, Shaver, and Dyer (1987) asked individuals to describe instances where they had experienced feelings of intimacy with members of
the same and opposite gender. Self-disclosure, physical contact, sexual
contact, sharing activities, mutual appreciation of the other, and warmth
emerged as the major themes. Sexual and physical contact were mentioned
frequently in describing intimacy in heterosexual relationships, but rarely
mentioned in describing relationships with members of ones own gender.
Participants definitions were not specific to either romantic or platonic
relationships, so it is difficult to delineate what components of intimacy
apply to different types of relationship.
Monsour (1992) examined conceptions of intimacy in same- and opposite-gender relationships of 164 college students. Self-disclosure was the
most salient characteristic of intimacy, followed by emotional expressiveness, unconditional support, shared activities, physical contact, and lastly,
sexual contact. It is important to note that the low ranking of sexual contact
in this study may have been due to participants describing platonic, rather
than romantic, relationships. This study also focused (like others) on short
term relationships of young adults.
In studying the characteristics of relationships that had lasted an average of 30 years Mackey, OBrien and Mackey (1997) reported that sense
of psychological intimacy emerged as a significant predictor of satisfaction
between partners. Across same- and opposite-gender couples, participants
described intimacy as the verbal sharing of inner thoughts and feelings
between partners along with mutual acceptance of those thoughts and
feelings.
Relatively little is known about nonverbal communication as an aspect
of intimacy. Prager (1995) suggested that a glance or a touch may have
great meaning between partners because of the mutual recognition of
shared, albeit unspoken, experiences. However, it is less well known how
nonverbal factors influence the development of intimacy in ongoing relationships (Berscheid & Reis, 1998). It appears reasonable to assume,
however, that metacommunications in the form of nonverbal messages
must be congruent with the exchange of words, if a sense of psychological
intimacy is to develop and be sustained between two individuals. At a
minimum, metacommunications at a behavioral level cannot undermine or
contradict words that may be used to enhance a sense of psychological
intimacy between partners in a meaningful relationship.
Sexual involvement between partners in a relationship is another aspect
of intimacy. The phrase intimate relationship has been equated with
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or those with a feminine gender role identification would label their friendship as intimate more than men or people with a more masculine gender
role identification (p. 103). The findings of Parks and Floyd support their
argument that sharp sex (sic) differences in interpersonal behavior has
always been scant (p. 90). While helpful, this research, like many studies
of intimacy, was conducted with a young adult and homogeneous sample
that were reporting primarily on short-term relationships.
The extent to which men and women define and express intimacy
differently remains ambiguous, not unlike the concept itself. Men may
value shared activities as an instrumental means to experiencing relational
connectedness that may lead to a sense of psychological intimacy, while
women may place greater value on sharing thoughts and feelings about
themselves. Even if these processes differentiate the meaning of intimacy
to men and women, they cannot account for temperamental, contextual, or
intervening factors in relationships at different points over their life spans.
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(Slater & Mencher, 1991). Elsie (1986) found that lesbian partners tended
to merge emotionally, as compared to gay male partners who maintained
emotional distance from each other. Mackey, OBrien and Mackey (1997)
found that a sample of lesbian couples together for more than 15 years
valued autonomy within attachment and rejected the idea of fusion in their
relationships. Although these discrepancies may reflect gender differences
within the context of these committed relationships, they may also be
affected by how attachment and autonomy were defined operationally and
how they were measured in these studies. Moreover, there is the issue of
clarifying self-disclosure, fusion, and differentation as elements in psychological intimacy, especially in lesbian relationships.
The achievement of a sense of equity has been associated with mutuality in decision-making among heterosexual and same-gender couples (Howard, Blumstein, & Schwartz, 1986), and equity has been identified as a
central value in relationships that last, especially in those of lesbians (Kurdek, 1988; Schneider, 1986). When partners in a relationship have felt
relatively equal in their capacity to influence decisions, decision-making
has been characterized by negotiation and discussion (DeCecco & Shively,
1978). Fairness in decision-making over roles, household responsibilities,
and finances have been linked to relational satisfaction and potentially to
perceptions of psychological intimacy.
In a recent study, Kurdek (1998) compared relational qualities among
heterosexual, gay male, and lesbian couples at 1-year intervals over a 5year period. These qualities were levels of intimacy, autonomy, equity,
ability to constructively problem-solve, and the ability barriers to leave the
relationship. Of particular interest to our research were the scales that
purported to measure intimacy. Although there were many similarities
between the three groups on other measures of relational quality (i.e.,
problem-solving and conflict management styles), lesbians reported higher
levels of intimacy than partners in heterosexual relationships (p. 564).
That finding resonates with other research on intimacy in relationships and
has been attributed to the relational orientation of women. The valuing of
mutuality rather than of autonomy within relationships (Surrey, 1987), may
nurture the development of psychological intimacy in womens relationships.
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been together for many years, such as those in this study, compared to
couples who are at the beginning of a loving relationship. The meaning
and expression of psychologically intimate communication may also vary
between ethnic and racial groups, males and females, and partners in heterosexual and same-gender relationships. Given the potential connections between physical and psychological well-being, the quality of relationships and
the demographic reality of an aging population, research into psychological
intimacy among a diverse group of older heterosexual and same-gender
couples is timely.
METHOD
A semistructured interview format was developed and pretested by
the researchers. The resulting interview guide consists of focal questions
that were designed to elicit how participants viewed several dimensions of
their relationships. Collaborative researchers conducted additional pilot
testing and provided feedback that led to further refinement of the interview guide.
The guide, which was used in all interviews, was divided into four
sections: the participants relationship; social influences, including economic
and cultural factors; the relationships of the parents (all participants had
been reared by heterosexual parents); and experiences of participants and
views of their relationships from the early to recent years. The recent
years, the focus of this paper, can be categorized as the last 5 to 10 years
prior to the interviews. The early years are the years prior to the birth
of the first child for couples who had children, or the first 5 years for those
without children or who adopted children after being together for 5 years.
The interview structure was designed to acquire in-depth information
from the point of view of individual participants, to develop an understanding of how each partner adapted over the life span of their relationships.
An open-ended style of interviewing allowed for freedom of expression,
to elicit information from the perspectives of participants about interactions
with partners. The approach, which adapted clinical interviewing skills to
the needs of the research, explored the experiences of individuals within
relationships as they remembered and reported them.
The interviewers, advanced doctoral students with extensive clinical
experience, were trained in the use of the interview guide. They were
respectful and accepting of the uniqueness of each participants perceptions.
Their empathic interviewing skills were a valuable resource in collecting
the data (Hill, Thomson & Williams, 1997).
The interviews were held in the participants homes, which provided
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view passages were coded for relational themes, which were then developed
into categories (Strauss & Corbin, 1990).
Initially, a research team (two women, two men) coded eight transcriptions blindly and individually. Detailed notes were kept and categories
were generated. A relationship coding sheet was developed and used in
subsequent coding of eight additional interviews. As new categories arose,
previous interviews were recoded in keeping with the constant comparative
process. Having both genders involved in that process helped control for
gender bias and contributed to the development of a shared conceptual
analysis. A scoring system was developed to identify themes that evolved
from each section of the interviews. There were over 90 categories in 24
topic areas for every participant.
Once the Relationship Coding Sheet was developed, each interview
was coded and scored independently by two raters (one male, one female),
who noted themes and categories as they emerged from the transcripts.
One of the authors coded all 216 interviews to ensure continuity in the
operational definitions of variables and consistency of judgments from case
to case. The agreement between raters, determined by dividing the number
of identical judgments by the total number of codes, was 87%. Cohens
kappa, used as a measure of interrater reliability, ranged from .79 to .93.
When discrepancies occurred the raters met to discuss their differences
and to re-examine the original transcripts until a consensus was reached
on how a particular item was to be scored.
HyperResearch software (Hesse-Biber, Dupuis, & Kinder, 1992) enabled the researchers to perform a thorough content analysis of interview
transcripts (totalling over 8,000 double-spaced pages) and identify, catalogue, and organize specific interview passages on which categorical codes
were based.
In the second or current phase of the study, we re-examined the codes
so as to prepare the data for quantitative analysis. Many variables were
re-coded into dichotomous categories. For example, psychological intimacy
was originally coded into three categories (positive, mixed, and negative).
Because we were interested in understanding factors that contributed to
psychological intimacy during recent years, the positive category was retained and compared with a recoded mixed/negative category. Vignettes
from the transcripts are used in the following pages to illustrate the meaning
of psychological intimacy to participants during recent years.
Data-Analysis
The coded data from the scoring sheets yielded frequencies that were
analyzed using SPSS software. Chi-square analysis was used to examine the
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Psychological Intimacy
Mixed/Negative Positive %Totals
.45
.37
.55
.63
100
100
1.46
.49
.21
.29
.51
.79
.71
100
100
100
12.93*
.54
.09
.46
.91
100
100
54.02*
.19
.57
.81
.43
100
100
20.05*
.39
.15
.61
.85
100
100
15.63*
.54
.20
.46
.80
100
100
14.98*
.58
.17
.42
.83
100
100
28.88*
.39
.12
.72
.93
100
100
16.81*
.42
.19
.58
.81
100
100
11.15*
.44
.10
.56
.90
100
100
35.52*
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Phi
Coefficients
Gender
Gender orientation of couples*
Communication
Conflict
Conflict management style of partner
Decision-making
Equity
Sexual relationship
Importance of sex
Physical affection
.03
.17
.50
.30
.27
.26
.37
.28
.23
.39
Approximate
Significance
.67
.05
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**
**
Note: *the contingency coefficient for this 2 3 table also equaled .17 (p .05) **indicates
a significance level of .01
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cally intimate with their partners, a sense of peace and contentment permeated their remarks. This definition, derived from the participants reports,
resonated with components of psychological intimacy identified in the literature review of this paper.
Coding this variable involved an assessment of responses to questions
that asked each partner to talk about their relationships. These questions
included a range of topics such as what the partner meant to the participant,
how their relationships may have been different from other relationships,
how participants felt about being open with their partners, what words best
described the meaning of the partner to a participant, etc. Of particular
importance were questions that elicited responses about the quality of
communication such as, How would you describe the communication
between you? Communication was coded positive in recent years when
participants spoke positively about their comfort in carrying on discussions
with their partners about a wide range of issues. Otherwise, communication
was coded as poor/mixed. Positive communication was essential for the
development of psychological intimacy. Although positive communication
could be present without having a sense that the relationship was psychologically intimate, at least in a theoretical sense, the two factors were correlated
substantially (phi .50). Therefore, we decided not to include communication as an independent variable in the regression analysis. Psychologically
intimate communication captures what we are referring to as psychological intimacy.
When responses reflected themes of openness, reciprocity, and interdependence between partners, psychological intimacy was coded as positive. Opposite responses were coded as negative/mixed. A lesbian participant discussed the meaning of psychological intimacy in the relationship
with her partner that had lasted over 20 years:
I feel like I can be who I am. Now, she doesnt always like everything about that.
But I can still be that way, and I dont have to pretend. Thats never been something
that weve had to do. I would be horrified if that had to be. I just cant imagine
what thats like . . . I dont see us as fused. Its important to me not to be. I dont
like it. I dont think its healthy . . . I dont want to be in a relationship like that.
Its important to me, for us, to be individuals, as well . . . Shes my best friend .
. . Theres a peacefulness about that . . . I can be whoever I am. I can say stuff
to her that I would never say to anyone else. There are parts of myself that I dont
particularly like, and I dont really share with other people, but its OK to share
with her. Shell take them in. Shell understand where its coming from.
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like the other one a lot . . . There was a bond early on, in part because it was a
different kind of relationship . . . we were isolated for a long time, but that experience also bonded us . . . I can be much more vulnerable now . . . I look to her
for help with it, which wasnt something I knew how to do before.
The responses of these four partners reflected several themes that were
central to understanding and defining psychological intimacy. One theme,
openness, reflected a sense of comfort in being ones self, to be able to
reveal and say things to a partner that one felt could not be said to others;
the use of the expression, best friend, was often used by participants in
describing this reciprocal dimension of their relationships. The second
theme, interdependence, referred to maintaining separateness within the
attachment to a partner. Maintaining interpersonal boundaries in these
relationships apparently helped to sustain a sense of psychological intimacy;
that is, individuals felt safe in revealing their inner thoughts and feelings
because they could count on a partner to respect their separateness and
to accept, if not understand, them. Third, psychological intimacy was not
a constant in relationships but a sense or a representation in ones mind
that one could confide in a partner if one needed to discuss personal matters.
For both women and men, themes of connectedness, separateness, and
mutuality were apparent in their responses, although men tended to emphasize proximity and women mutuality.
INDEPENDENT VARIABLES
In selecting the independent variables, two criteria were used:
1. The variable had to be identified in previous studies as a significant
factor in shaping psychological intimacy.
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FINDINGS
Cross tabulations were done for all research variables with reports of
psychological intimacy in recent years. Personal and demographic factors
did not have a statistically significant relationship to psychological intimacy
during recent years (i.e., p .01). The gender of participants was not related
significantly to psychological intimacy, neither was the age of participants
(categories 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s). The number of years together (1519,
2029, 3039, and 40 or more) was not significant. Indices of socioeconomic
status were not significant: gross family income (5 categories, from $25,000
to $100,000), and level of education (less than college, and college graduate graduate or more). Other social factors that were not significantly related
to psychological intimacy in recent years included religious backgrounds
(Protestant, Catholic and Jewish), race (white and non-white), and whether
couples had children.
Table I shows the relational variables that were related significantly
to psychological intimacy in recent years (p .01). More than 9 out of
10 participants described their relationships as psychologically intimate in
recent years if they had also reported positive sexual relations and physical
affection. Eight out of ten participants felt psychological intimacy in recent
years was significantly associated with minimal relational conflict, a confrontive conflict management style in ones partner, mutual decision-making, a sense of relational equity and a continued importance of sexual
reactions in their relationships.
Table II shows the phi coefficients of a correlation analysis between
the dependent variable and each of the independent variables. A substantial
correlation was found between psychological intimacy and the quality of
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SE
Sigf
Exp(B)
1.47
.49
1.96
2.24
1.16
.74
.65
.92
.67
.43
.05
.45
.03
.01
.01
4.34
.61
7.09
.11
3.19
.81
1.29
.79
.18
1.63
2.63
.62
.52
.49
.51
.47
.90
.19
.01
.10
.72
.01
.01
2.24
3.62
2.20
1.20
5.12
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Table IV. Logistic Regression Coefficients for Variables Associated with Psychological Intimacy in Recent Years: Gender Substituted for Sexual Orientation
Variable
SE
Signf
Exp(B)
Gender
Conflict
Conflict management
style of partner
Decision-making
Equity
Sexual relations
Importance of sex
Physical affection
Constant
.81
1.86
1.39
.47
.60
.46
.08
.01
.01
2.25
.16
5.63
.87
1.36
.60
.42
1.73
2.94
.61
.51
.47
.49
.45
.80
.16
.01
.20
.39
.01
.01
2.38
3.91
1.83
1.53
5.63
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LIMITATIONS
Qualitative modes of data collection based on in-depth interviews
conducted are an effective tool for studying elusive phenomena, such as
psychological intimacy. The richness of data elicited through the method
used in this study is quite different from data collected through other means,
although there are concerns about validity and reliability, as well as the
nature of the sample.
It is difficult to assess the validity of the data in the traditional sense
of that concept, since we were eliciting the personal perceptions and evaluations of participants about the meaning of psychological intimacy in their
relationships at a particular point in time. The candor of participants on
highly personal matters, such as the decline in sexual relations because of
sexual dysfunctions, suggests that participants were equally candid about
other aspects of their relationships, such as psychological intimacy. By
interviewing partners separately and asking them to talk about themselves,
as well as their observations of their partners in these relationships, we
were able to compare responses to determine if there were significant
differences over common realities. For example, did both partners assess
the nature of conflict in their relationships similarly? Did a participant, in
commenting on an aspect of a partners behavior, come close to the partners
observations about the same factor? Correspondence between partners was
permitted in the study, which was illustrated in the responses to conflict
management styles, when participants were asked to describe their style
as well as the style of their partners. For example, partners who described
themselves as having an evasive style were viewed by their partners in an
equivalent way.
In a cross-sectional design in which participants are asked to report
on their life today and in the past, traditional measures of reliability are
inadequate. The meaning-of-life events and an individuals response to
these events will vary, and may even vary within the same person at different
points over the lifespan. While longitudinal designs may be superior in
contending with problems of validity and reliability, cross-sectional designs
that use interviews to uncover the meaning of behavior have the strength
of eliciting the richness in the experiences of human beings.
There is a shortfall in recoding the data from multiple categories into
dichotomous ones. This step built onto the earlier qualitative analysis by
offering a different lens through which to understand the data. To offset
the potential reductionistic effects of recoding, we have incorporated a
discussion of the qualitative data into the results. The integration of qualitative and quantitative procedures was intended to enhance the theory development objective of the research.
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SUMMARY
The study of psychological intimacy in human relationships is a
highly complex and dynamic process. Defining intimacy is a challenge,
as is the importance of specifying the operational parameters. We
defined psychological intimacy as the sense that participants had of their
relationships as a place in which they could share personal thoughts
and feelings about themselves and their relationships not expressed
customarily with others. In this definition, positive communication was
a quintessential component of psychological intimacy. We focused on
cognitive themes about the meaning of relationships to individual partners
rather than on specific interpersonal behaviors. The sample consisted of
heterosexual and same-gender couples in relationships that had lasted
approximately 30 years.
A chi-square analysis of all research variables with the independent
variable revealed that social and demographic factors such as age, race,
education, income, and religion did not have significant relationships to
psychological intimacy in recent years. That finding is important to the
process of understanding factors that contribute to the quality of psychological intimacy in committed relationships that last for many years. It may
also suggest that factors within relationships are more important than are
socioeconomic and demographic factors in shaping psychological intimacy
between partners in these relationships.
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CONCLUSIONS
This study focused selectively on a sample of 108 heterosexual and
same-gender partners in 216 relationships that had lasted an average of 30
years. The results suggested that factors within relationships themselves
had a more powerful effect in shaping the meaning of psychological intimacy
than did social and demographic factors. The data suggested that a sense
of psychological intimacy was nurtured when interpersonal conflict was
kept to minimal levels, when ones partner dealt with conflict in the relationship by initiating face-to-face discussion of differences, when one had a
feeling that the relationship was fair, and when there were expressions of
affection between partners through touching and hugging. Perhaps, a reason
that these relationships endured was that these factors nurtured a sense of
psychological intimacy that contributed to relational stability.
The data offer hypotheses for exploration and testing in future research
on lasting relationships. In addition to the factors that had a shaping effect
on psychological intimacy in recent years, subtle differences were found
between lesbian and other participants. Differences based on gender and
sexual orientation suggest a subtle interacting dynamic of these factors on
psychological intimacy in relationships that last. We suggest that a mutually
reinforcing dynamic between two women committed to personal and relational development may explain the subtle yet important differences between lesbian couples and the other couples in this study. We hope that
these findings and our observations about them will be helpful to other
researchers engaged in the study of lasting relationships.
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