CYNTHIA WILSON
MINISTRIES, INC.
NEWSLETTER Marriage and Family
WRITTEN BY:
CYNTHIA WILSON
Enhancement
Volume 1, Issue 2
Special points of
interest:
 Husbands Love Your
Husbands Love Your Wives
Wives Husbands, have you ever found
it difficult to love your wife?
 Wives Respect Your
There will be times that her
Husbands
behavior may seem to make it
 Appropriate Discipline impossible. The good news is
that you have it within you to
For Your Children
love her exceedingly. Just as
 Recognizing the Enemy Christ sacrificed his life for the
church and poured His love into
 Exercising Your Author- the church, he expects you to
ity in Prayer
sacrificially love your wife.
 Husbands as Leaders Jesus continuously nourishes,
protects and provides for the
church and He has laid out this
wonderful example for you.
Just as you protect yourself,
Inside this issue:
feeds yourself, pampers your-
self, you are to do the same for
your wife. Pamper her, know
what her needs, desires, goals
Appropriate Dis- 2 and aspirations are in life. See
cipline For Your that she is esteemed by you.
Children When she has done all she can
to dress beautiful, she needs to
Recognizing the 2 know from your own mouth
Enemy that she is beautiful. She needs
to know and see that she comes
first , not your mother or some
Exercising Your 2
Authority in
Prayer
Husbands, You 3
are the Leader Wives Respect Your Husbands
Wives, have you ever found it
difficult to respect your hus-
Wives, Gentle 3 band? Or have you made it a
and Quiet Spirit practice to disrespect your
spouse? As the Apostle Paul
have admonished wives to re-
She Builds Her 3 spect their husbands, it is not a
House requirement that’s difficult to
carry out. There is nothing
more that shrivels and despairs
Standing Strong 4 the spirit of a man than disre-
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other woman. Now that you
are joined as one, she is to take
precedence before all relation-
ships except God.
Develop a close and intimate
relationship with the Lord, so
that you can also have a close,
intimate relationship with your
wife. Don’t allow her to be
disillusioned and discouraged by
your lack of openness and inti-
macy. Learn what really makes
her happy. Find out what areas
that need healing in her life so
that she can experience com-
plete healing in her soul. Ex-
periencing healing in one’s per-
sonality will release a peace
within your marriage and family.
Encourage her, as my husband
did, to attend Christian retreats
so she can experience an en-
counter with God.
Provide for her financially, she
needs more than just groceries
in the house. Allow her to have
an allowance for shopping.
spect by his wife. Paul some-
how knew this would be a prob-
lem with wives. It started in the
garden of Eve. Eve decided to
disrespect God and her husband
by taking control to make her
own decisions. Choose today
to honor your husband, allow
him to be the head of the
household, praise him, esteem
him, venerate and defer to him.
Nothing gives a woman more
joy than to have monies for
more than just necessities. Get
rid of the little foxes that spoil
the vine; resentment, anger and
malice. Nothing will hinder
your prayers more than holding
on to unforgiveness. Remem-
ber to be tender, affectionate
with her throughout the day.
Let her know that you love her
verbally and with actions.
So, again I say, each man must
love his wife as he loves himself,
and the wife must respect her
husband. Ephesians 5:33
This does not mean that you
are inferior or to become a
doormat. It does not mean that
you do not have leadership
ability. We are called to be a
helpmate to our husbands.
Assist him and give your opin-
ions when needed. Be exem-
plary in being that meek and
quiet person; a woman of godli-
ness and excellence.
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Appropriate Discipline For Your Children
As a parent you
desire to see
your children
grow and ma-
ture; becoming a
responsible indi-
vidual. Discipline
is a part of loving
your children. It
is not responding
in vehement anger and rage to
“Children, obey your correct your child. Parents
parents in the Lord: must set guidelines and stan-
for this is right. Honor dards for their children to fol-
thy father and mother;
low and inform their children
which is the first com-
mandment with prom- of the consequences for dis-
obedience. Parents must be
ise” Ephesians 6:1,2
“For we wrestle
Recognizing the Enemy
not against
Husbands and wives must rec-
flesh and blood, ognize that your spouse is not
your enemy. Although, Satan
but against would rather you think that
your spouse is the enemy.
principalities, Dispel this lie. If there is an
area in your heart that you
against powers, have not submitted to Christ
through repentance and renun-
against the ciation, Satan can have open
access to use and control your
rulers of behavior. For example, sins of
the flesh, unresolved anger,
darkness of this jealousy, hatred. These sins
world”
Exercising Your Authority in Prayer
There is nothing more impor-
tant than exercising the power
of prayer in the home. It is
essential that husband and
wives spend quality time in
devotion. Spend time with
your spouse in the Word of
God and prayer. Wives if your
spouse do not take interest in
prayer, you must purpose in
your heart to spend time with
“Praying always with God in prayer and the Word.
all prayer and suppli- Cultivate your relationship with
cation in the Spirit”.. the Lord. Ask Him to open
Ephesians 6:18 your understanding to prayer,
Marriage and Family Enhancement
firm and consistent to exercise
discipline when children dis-
obey. We are to discipline out
of love and patience.
“Never take your own revenge,
beloved, but leave room for
the wrath of God, for it is writ-
ten, “Vengeance is mine, I will
repay,” says the Lord.” Ro-
mans 12:19. Character assassi-
nation, degrading your children
will only release fear, deep-
seated anger and bitterness
against you. “For rules to be
effective, they must be defensi-
ble, definable and enforce-
grants the enemy to work dys-
function within the relationship
for the purpose of destroying
families. Just as God spoke to
Cain about his sin of anger, he
refused to master the sin.
“Why are you so angry?” the
Lord asked Cain. “Why do
you look so dejected? You will
be accepted if you do what is
right. But if you refuse to do
what is right, then watch out!
Sin is crouching at the door,
eager to control you. But you
reading and meditating in the
Word. The Lord will be faith-
ful to honor your desire to
draw close to Him. Our rela-
tionship with the Lord is to be
close and intimate, but this
doesn’t happen by being indif-
ferent and complacent. You
must put forth effort by loving
the Word, praying and seeking
God. Prayer releases a re-
freshing peace over your soul.
It grants you the ability to fully
rely and trust God. It removes
the hindering work of the en-
able.”(Anderson). Parents build
your children up by praising
and affirming them for the
those things that are truly wor-
thy of praise. Let them know
verbally that you love them,
hug them and kiss them on
their cheek. There is nothing
like the warm embrace of a
parent reassuring that child
that he/she is very important
and special. “Fathers, do not
provoke your children to anger
by the way you treat them.
Rather, bring them up with the
discipline and instruction that
comes from the Lord.” Eph 6:4
must subdue it and be its mas-
ter.” God has given us power
to master sin and not allow
Satan to use us for his advan-
tage. “Look! I have given you
the authority to trample on
snakes and scorpions to de-
stroy all the enemy’s power,
and nothing will ever hurt you.”
Luke 10:19. We are not left
helpless and defenseless. Rec-
ognize that the enemy is here
to kill, steal and destroy. Be
alert and prayerful!
emy from your life and family.
Providing a shield and protec-
tion over your family. I can
testify that God is so faithful to
watch over His Word to per-
form it. I have interceded and
prayed for many that God have
miraculous provided healing
and deliverance. So great is His
faithfulness! “One day Jesus
told his disciples a story to
show that they should always
pray and never give up.” (Luke
18:1).
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Husbands, You Are the Leader
Husbands you were designated
and ordained by God as the
leader in your marriage. This is
your responsibility in your
family. Don’t shrink back on
your responsibilities or become
a dictator. Lovingly and sacrifi-
cially take on your role as a
leader in the home. Walk with
wisdom and know what it
means to be a leader in your
family. Just as you train for a
skill or profession to be knowl-
edgeable and effective on your
job be willing to be trained to
be the best leader, husband and
Dad in your home. This means
Wives, Gentle and Quiet Spirit
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to
your own husbands, that even if
some do not obey the word, they,
without a word, may be won by
the conduct of their wives, when
they observe your chaste conduct
accompanied by fear. Do not let
your adornment be merely out-
ward arranging the hair, wearing
gold, or putting on fine apparel-
rather let it be the hidden person
of the heart, with the incorruptible
beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit,
which is very precious in the sight
of God.” (I Peter 1-4) I thought
She Builds Her House
“A wise woman builds her home,
but a foolish woman tears it down
with her own hands.”
Proverbs 14:1
I’ve seen many examples of a
woman destroying her mar-
riage. For example, confiding
confidential information of your
marriage to someone that does
not have your best interest at
heart. So called “friends” that
are just pushing you to dissolve
your marriage are not true
being teachable. Submit to
godly counseling, attend mar-
riage enrichment seminars,
above all read the Word of
God and ask Him to enlighten
you on your responsibilities as
a leader. Take your wife on a
weekend marriage retreat and
lavish all your attention on her.
As a leader of your home, rec-
ognize you can’t meet every
need of your wife. There are
needs that only the Lord Jesus
can meet in a individual’s life.
Recognizing that you are not
perfect and she is not perfect
that it was odd, that when I
started holding Bible studies
with women, how that women
could just ramble on and on
with excessive talking. Can you
imagine a spouse being disillu-
sioned by continuous nagging
and excessive talkativeness by
his wife? Whenever I start
talking and it gets to be a bit
much, the Holy Spirit reminds
me, now you need to be quiet
and mindful of your words.
Ladies, our beauty and adorn-
ment is not about how gor-
friends. For God says, he hates
divorce, but yet this has been
your focus through ungodly
advice. Gossiping about your
husband; speaking slanderous
and malicious ways about him
to others, this is a sure way to
destroy your marriage and
home. A wife that fails to be
submitted to the precepts of
the Lord and rebels against his
ways are headed for destruc-
tion. Dealing with the root
issues of bitterness can open
the door for healing and resto-
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can move out the potential for
stress and disappointment in
the marriage. There is not a
formula for being the leader;
but with Christ you can do all
things through Him as He gives
you strength. Be responsible
with the finances in the home
by being the godly steward that
God has called you to be.
Good stewardship with fi-
nances and other areas makes a ...I will lead them in
reflection on your relationship paths that they have
with the Lord Jesus. Choose not known: I will
to love the Lord exceedingly make darkness light
before them, and
and this love will pour into crooked things
your leadership ability. straight. Isaiah 42:16
“Let it be the
geous and beautiful we look on
the outside, but it is about the hidden person
inner man. A beautiful spirit on
the inside, because we have of the heart,
submitted to the Lord in obedi-
ence. We have cultivated our with the
heart in the Word and prayer.
Therefore, when we are with incorruptible
our spouse, this beautiful spirit
comes forth. This is how we beauty of a
win our unsaved husband to
the Lord. It is not by nagging, gentle and quiet
preaching and leaving scrip-
tures; we must honor God. spirit”
ration in one’s marriage. Try-
ing to hold on to one’s rights
will only continue a cycle of
dysfunction within the mar-
riage. We must let go of pride
and humble ourselves. Ladies
begin with shielding and pro- Those who follow the
tecting your marriage by sub- right path fear the
Lord; those who take
mitting to the precepts of God.
the wrong path de-
Ask the Lord to set a guard spise him.
before your mouth and keep
the door of your lips. Do as Proverbs 14:2
David did, ask God to create in
you a clean heart and a right
spirit.
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Standing Strong Against Attacks

“A final word: Be strong in the
Lord and in his mighty power. Put
on all of God’s armor so that you
will be able to stand firm against
all strategies of the devil. For we
are not fighting against flesh-and-
blood enemies, but against evil
rulers and authorities of the un-
seen world, against mighty powers
in this dark world, and against evil
spirits in the heavenly places.”
Ephesians 6:10-12.
Husbands and wives must rec-
ognize that marriage is a God-
ordained relationship and once
entered into by covenant vows,
Satan is on the war path to
destroy what God has or-
dained, whether you are a be-
liever or non-believer. We
must be proactive. Take an
offensive and defensive ap-
proach to protect your mar-
LOVING GOD riage against the spiritual at-
tacks of Satan. Now, no one
goes to war without knowing
who his enemy is and what
tactics and schemes are being
used against him. That means
husbands and wives are to
“Hold up the shield of faith to
stop the fiery arrows of the
devil.” Ephesians 6:16
become knowledgeable about
their enemy, Satan. It is done
through spending time in the
Word of God, having a teach-
able heart, asking God for wis-
dom in your circumstances.
Asking God to reveal to you
what tactics Satan are using in
your marriage to bring about
disharmony and destruction.
Some of these tactics may be
obvious, some will be subtle.
We are not to give place to the
enemy by anger, control, ma-
nipulation, complacency, jeal-
ousy. There are many sins of
the flesh that I have not listed,
but we as believers need to be
submitted to God. “Submit to
God, resist the enemy and he
will flee.” Stand strong against
the attacks of the enemy by
obedience to God, prayer,
exercising your God-given
authority. Know what tactics
are taking place and rebuke the
presence of evil forces in your
home.