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Anxious
Are You Making
These 7 Mistakes?
Alex P. Keats
by
Author, Born To Be Happy
In my opinion, the first step most people miss when dealing with high or
generalized anxiety, panic attacks, phobias and compulsions is the importance of
how they feel about it. How you feel about what is actually happening in your
experience and what you say to yourself about whats happening determines
whether or not youll transcend that experience, or stay stuck in that experience.
As we discuss Mistake #1 shortly, Ill share my personal story and how I kept
creating more anxiety and depression for myself. For now, the answer or solution
to any problem we encounter is right before us if we just look. In other words, if
theres a problem theres also a solution just waiting to be discovered. And when
we look, we must be looking in the direction the solution already is.
For example, if my actual experience tells me that I feel lousy whenever I blame or
condemn myself, Im looking in the wrong direction when I engage in judging
myself. In fact, I am attracting more of what I dont want, reinforcing what I seek
to eliminate if I condemn and judge myself.
I start to notice a very noticeable and consistent pattern: I cannot escape the
inevitable consequences of the direction in which I am looking. Therefore,
I am wise to recognize which directions hurt and which directions heal.
Having the self-honesty, humility and courage to continue to look in the directions
that free instead of enslave is critical, for you get what you pay attention to. If my
experience tells me I suffer whenever I argue with reality, then Im looking in the
wrong direction if I resist what is. In other words, if what I really want is peace,
then I must stop arguing with reality.
If I am aware that I have the kind of anxiety that is excessive and destructive or if
I have the kind of phobia or compulsion that paralyzes me, or makes me do things
that I know arent rational then I am looking in the right direction if I first accept
those feelings, in order to rise above those feelings. If I believe the thoughts in my
head and the feelings in my body to be real and true, then I must experience that
directly. I cannot escape that. I may try to escape that in a variety of ways, but I
cannot.
If I continue to resist, hate or run from those feelings, I set myself up for
future pain and suffering. Its as if I am saying to the Universe (or The Law
Of My Own Experience) Please send me more unwanted, painful
experiences!
It does not care if something is for the highest good or not; youll get what youre
vibrating. The Universe has no other choice but to give you what you ask for, so
ask for that which is in harmony with healing. Its listening, whether you want it to
or not. This report is a reminder that your orientation the direction in which you
look makes all the difference. Working with yourself (and not against yourself)
is the key that unlocks the cage of suffering, ultimately setting YOU free.
This report is a reminder that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. This
report is a reminder that NOW is the time to leave your anxiety behind for good.
Not later, but now. Your anxiety may want you to put this off for al later day, but is
there a better time than now to REALLY address it like never before? Lastly, can I
assume you arent looking for ways to cope with or manage your anxiety, but
that youre looking to cure it permanently?
If you think youre the only one struggling with anxiety, think again. You are in
the company of almost 20% of the population, or 40 million people in the US
alone. Thinking youre the only one facing chronic anxiety and that no one
would ever understand what youre going through is not only untrue, but also
detrimental to your recovery. Why? Because when you think youre alone in your
struggle, you rob yourself of the confidence to take the steps necessary to
overcome your anxiety. Personally, I can remember feeling that I was alone in my
depression and anxiety and looking back, its clear to see how maintaining that
belief sustained my anxiety and depression. Picture a guy sinking in quicksand,
with no one around to toss a lifeline. That was my situation. I was living a life of
quiet desperation and it didnt have to be that way.
There wasnt anyone around to throw a rope because I made it that way. In shame
and self-blame, I pushed everyone away. I didnt want anyone to see me that way.
I was embarrassed and humiliated and I felt weak and less than. In my false
pride, I let anxiety and depression hang around WAY too long. Basically, I was
ignorant and it wasnt until I realized I wasnt alone that I felt empowered to do
something about it. I dont want you to make the same mistakes I did. The reality
is I worked against myself, not with myself. The point is this: When you think
youre alone in your struggle, its as if youre at the bottom of a mountain too steep
to climb. You think youre at the bottom of a mountain no one can climb, even
though many already have.
Dont make the mistake of thinking youre alone; it only reinforces what you seek
to be rid of. Knowing so many just like you overcame their anxiety gives you the
motivation and inspiration to take the steps towards recovery. Guess what? Its
good to know this one fact: You Are Not The Only One!
To the anxiety and panic attack sufferer, theres one common characteristic that
stands out above the rest. Its the belief that the disaster thoughts, fears and
sensations suggest real and present danger. Forgive me for stating the obvious,
but isnt this why anxiety, panic attacks and phobias arent any fun because we
think theres real cause for concern? The reality is nothing could be further from
the truth. This is whats so crazy about this condition. Its the Great Pretender,
and it has us concluding that if it feels real, then it must be real. Its like a dream
that feels real, until we wake up. Its like nightmare that feels real, and the only
way we know it isnt real is by waking up. Fortunately, theres another way to
wake up and see that there is no real cause for concern.
You know how you can be awake inside a dream (lucid dreaming) or a nightmare
and know youre dreaming, or having a nightmare? By the way, a nightmare is still
a dream, isnt it? Anyway, when youre conscious and know it isnt real, doesnt it
give you the ability to enjoy it more, even the nightmare? Well, you can be lucid
during a panic attack or high anxiety. Being awake inside your anxiety is simply a
matter of remembering that the images and sensations being projected are as real
as the dream or nightmare you had when you were sleeping. Some may think this
is an oversimplification, but it isnt. Some will say this isnt so easy, and I agree.
This is all about being conscious and aware of what is real and true, because
when you can tell the difference between real and unreal, youre FREE.
Armed with the knowledge that you presently have a condition that pretends there
is real danger present, refuse to believe it when it tries to tell you theres danger
present. Its just doing its thing; let it. This doesnt mean to resist it; it just means
not to believe it. BIG difference! Allow it to unfold, because like all experience, it
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will pass. The next time youre afraid and convinced there is reason to be
concerned for your safety, or reason to be afraid, look and see if you can find any
evidence that points to real danger being present. Its important that you are
honest with yourself about what you find and then to tell the truth about
what you find. Remembering that theyre just untrue thoughts and sensations
gives you the capacity to relax and notice whats really happening within you.
Dont make the mistake of believing that youre in any real danger the next time
panic or anxiety arises, unless of course a speeding truck is bearing down on you!
Instead, just as the scorpions nature is to sting, notice its in your anxietys nature
to trick you into believing theres something legitimate to fear. There isnt.
Have you noticed that any time you go to war with yourself, you lose? Its a very
consistent thing. Weve been taught that if we dont want something in our
experience, we should resist it. This strategy implies that avoiding what we dont
want is smart, but it rarely is. Why? Can you ever feel good if you resist what is
actually happening in any moment? You cant! Can we see that the only problem
we ever have is when we want something different than what we got? Youve
actually been conditioned to think its a good strategy to resist what you dont
want and allow what you do want. Its the number one reason you attract more
pain and suffering. But dont believe me, find out for yourself.
Its true that our basic human instinct is to avoid pain and gain pleasure, but who
said it is always a wise instinct? Were not talking about running from dinosaurs
back in the stone ages here, but we are talking about basic human emotions like
fear and anxiety. The reality is, what we resist indeed persists. Real knowledge
comes from experiential validation and not just something we arrive at in our
head. Confirm this in your actual experience, its much easier than you might
imagine. Whenever you go to battle, you lose is one of the many great paradoxes
that operate in your human affairs.
Dont make the big mistake and go to battle with your anxiety. Instead, allow it to
run its course. See the wisdom in accepting what is ALREADY happening, AS you
look to solve your problem. The truth is you can only transcend what you accept,
not what you reject. All the Saints and Sages have been telling us this for eons.
Can I get a little metaphysical on you? Yes, you say? Literally everything is energy
that vibrates at a certain frequency. From the computer screen youre looking at,
the chair youre sitting in, the music you listen to, the food you eat, the thoughts
you think, and to the people you choose to spend time with, its all energy. The
quality of your life is determined by the quality of the thoughts and activities you
engage in and you can never escape the associated vibration of the energy you
expose yourself to. Listen to music that isnt uplifting, and you wont feel uplifted.
Spend time with people who arent positive, and you wont feel inspired. Eat
unhealthy food that doesnt give your mind and body energy and you wont feel
energized. Consume excessive amounts of alcohol or stimulants and you wont be
at rest. Wallow in negativity and walk around feeling like youre constantly under
a rain cloud.
If we really do get what we pay attention to, we need to be aware of where were
placing our energy and attention. This is even more critical for the anxiety sufferer
since their basic wellbeing has been compromised. You can ill afford to go about
your day largely unaware of what you expose yourself to. Youre just asking for
more of what you dont when you do this. Congruency is power, so identify what
you want and act accordingly. It can take some time re-training where you place
your focus, but its a habit well worth the effort. What you focus on expands.
Become more aware of where your attention goes, because without fail,
where your attention goes, energy flows.
Dont make the mistake of exposing yourself to all kinds of negative energy. Dont
play the victim, unaware of how you spend your day. What will it be, Metallica or
Mozart? Consciously choose to align yourself with positive energy and dont
expect to get better while exposing yourself to negative energy!
The notion that anxiety is something you have to learn to live with, cope with or
manage or a condition that you can never permanently cure is completely false.
In fact, it is ludicrous to think that you have to settle living with such a condition.
If we want to enjoy a life free from destructive and unnecessary anxiety, we must
be facing the direction of a cure and not solely the direction of time-bound
techniques and remedies that (by design) cant last. While we may enjoy the
reduction or alleviation of our symptoms for a time, we can be lulled into a false
sense of security thinking were overcoming our anxiety. In reality, we are
temporarily applying a band-aid to our wound, instead of directly addressing the
wound itself.
Clearly, there is nothing wrong with utilizing the techniques and strategies
that work for you, as long as you engage your time and energy towards a
complete cure. That IS what you want, right?
If you are drawn to positive self-talk, breathing a certain way, massage, hypnosis,
NLP, music or aromatherapy techniques, use them in the way they are intended. If
you find it helpful to breath into a paper bag when youre hyperventilating, then
use a paper bag! The point is that there is nothing wrong with FEELING better as
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long as your aim is GETTING better. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) can
work successfully in some forms of mental illness. However, because its focus is
on cognition and thinking, it falls short because it doesnt address the emotional
component. In short, CBT can be effective if used in conjunction with other
modes of treatment.
Dont make the mistake of solely putting your attention on short-term methods
that make you feel better. Get started on your mode of recovery as you use the
techniques and remedies that make you feel better. Only then do you give yourself
the ability to permanently escort it right out of your life.
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now. Seeking the support of others is a sign of strength, not weakness! When we
communicate to others whats going on with us, we cant help but feel better. You
have people in your life right now that are more than willing to support you, but
wont unless you ask them to.
Dont make the mistake of crawling under a rock and tuning the world out! You
are just as valuable as anyone else. Remember that everyone goes through a rough
patch now and then. Give another the gift of being able to support you. When
you receive, you give. Besides, youd support another in need, wouldnt you?
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Dont make the mistake of assuming your situation is a permanent one. It isnt.
You arent crazy and you arent losing your mind, either. See what is true and set
yourself free. You matter and your life counts!
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The dive reflex is activated by forcing the brain to think its submerged
underwater; it causes the brain to slow the heart rate, which in turn, helps slow
and stop the anxiety response. This is simple to do; here are two things to try:
First, try repeatedly splashing your face with very cold water until the attack
subsides. This forces the brain to believe that you are under water, which causes
the heart rate to slow; your brain will preserve oxygen in the blood by slowing your
heart rate. Why? It does not know when you will be able to take another breath!
Second, take a deep breath and hold it for as long as you can. You may feel your
heart bump as it slows and the panic subsides. Again, the brain receives the
message that you are holding your breath because you are unable to do so. This
activates the dive response in order to slow the heart rate and preserve blood
oxygen levels.
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that works by addressing the root cause of anxiety in the area of the brain
responsible for anxiety response.
The main emphasis of The Linden Method is on normalizing the Amygdala, the
almond-shaped gland in the brain responsible for producing anxiety levels. It is
here where your fight or flight reaction resides. Charles Linden asserts that
chronic anxiety is the result of the Amygdala being stuck in the ON position and
that this is the reason chronic anxiety, social and specific phobias like agoraphobia,
OCD and PTSD occurs. Hence, in order to be cured from chronic anxiety, panic
attacks and phobias, the switch must be turned off. If you asked me to sum
up The Linden Method in one just one sentence, I'd say it's a structured program
designed to retrain the Amygdala and effectively turns the switch from the ON to
the OFF position, curing you of your anxiety permanently.
Based on sound, scientific evidence that is supported by the research of top
worldwide mental health organizations, such as the National Institute of Mental
Health, it is impressive to note that a wide variety of medical doctors,
psychologists and therapists all recommend The Linden Method. More
specifically, The Linden Method is not about therapy and it doesnt use NLP,
hypnosis, subliminal programming or any other short-term remedies that typically
leave you disappointed in the end. It is, however, a holistic-based approach that
addresses the root cause of your anxiety for the sole purpose of curing your anxiety
permanently. As a result, it doesnt waste your time focused on band-aid
approaches that alleviate your symptoms for a while.
It does not involve drug therapy, but it does involve scientific, practical and simple
advice that will remove your anxiety, panic attacks, phobias and OCD
permanently. This they guarantee, if you follow the program the way its laid out.
The program offers both a digital download version for under $100 and a hard copy
version mailed to your home for a bit more. If you ask me, the less expensive
version makes more sense, given that it's the same material. However, there is
something to be said for the physical version of the program, so I understand those
who prefer to have a hard copy in their hands instead.
All in all, the program includes an e-book manual of 200 pages in Adobe PDF
format, multimedia sessions including 16 audio tracks in MP3 format you can load
onto your iPod and listen outside your home, perhaps in a park or your favorite
relaxation spot - and 5 video sessions you can watch from the comfort of your
home. Realizing that ongoing support is critical, they don't leave you alone like a
baby seal in shark-infested waters, hoping you'll make it safely to shore. They offer
an unlimited one-year personal support by phone and email FREE of charge.
The Panic Attack Eliminator program/technique and the Journey out of
Agoraphobia audio program are both excellent resources and have been given
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rave reviews. Accompanying video and audio tracks provide a great complement to
the e-book manual. From my view, the power of audio/visual immersion cannot
be overstated. The fact is, when we engage all of our senses towards a specific
goal, we give ourselves the ability to really immerse ourselves in the material.
Frankly, this immersion is what's needed. Not only does this help assimilate the
material, but it speeds up the recovery process, too.
So, is there anything I dont like about The Linden Method, you may be asking?
Well, yes, there are two things that stood out for me that I dont particularly care
for. I hope I dont come across as petty (because you may not care about it) but
when you visit the main page of the site, youll find Charles Linden plastered all
over it, much like Kim Kardashian and Lindsey Lohan are every time you turn on
your computer! In my opinion (and this is an observation, not a complaint, really)
but his story is repeated a bit too much for my liking. In the end, this isnt about
him; this is about those seeking complete recovery of their anxiety. Admittedly,
they do a very good job of presenting what's in it for YOU, so maybe I AM being
petty!
You may come across wording to the effect of, This is the only real cure for
anxiety. Well, thats just plain silly and borders on insulting the intelligence of
many people. Why? Because it isnt the only way to cure anxiety and anyone
with half a brain knows this. While their approach may very well be unique and
groundbreaking, it isn't the only road to recovery. I dont know whether these two
things I didn't particularly care for are a result of trying to sell their product, but
nonetheless, they stood out for me. Since they're basically marketing issues that
don't pertain to the actual program, these things do not impact my overall opinion
of The Linden Method. Besides, I've never been one to throw the baby out with the
bathwater, unless of course, that bathwater was so dirty the baby couldn't get
clean!
I imagine that the only relevant question you have is, Can it work for me? Based
on my extensive research of almost 30 anxiety cure products available online,
combined with the hundreds of satisfied testimonials that Ive personally read and
listened to, Id have to say a resounding YES The Linden Method can work for
you. With just about a 97% success rate, its pretty safe to conclude that those who
dont succeed either didnt fully comply with the program, or for one reason or
another, arent really ready for it. I suspect that low self-esteem and self-sabotage
might play a part. As long as you dont try to reinvent the wheel and you plug
yourself into the system expecting to succeed, you'll do just fine.
Be sure and take full advantage of their support team without any guilt or shame that's what it's designed for. The only judgment you might feel is coming from
you! Theres no reason you cant be anxiety-free in the very near future. That
being said, please don't burden yourself with a specific timetable for your recovery.
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The simple truth is, you'll make a full recovery precisely when you're meant to, and
not a moment sooner. You have everything you need to succeed within you right
now - and it's only a thought that would tell you otherwise. I wish you the best of
luck, whichever product you choose. If you decide on the The Linden Method, I'd
appreciate it very much if you purchase it RISK-FREE (and at the same price)
through my link here: http://www.TheLindenMethodNow.info
Finally, I want to thank you for reading my free report. Im excited for your future, I
really am. Be sure to look out for my next email in a few days. In it, youll discover
the one thing you must realize if you are to loosen the grip anxiety has on you and
stay above water. In the meantime, be well and Ill talk to you real soon.
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