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Take-Aways
Most people dont know what others including their bosses and co-workers really
think of them and their contributions to the workplace.
Begin every business relationship by inviting the exchange of truthful opinions with
respect to the task at hand and how people perform it.
Specify how youd like to interact with other people before trouble arises.
When you supervise new people, explain how you plan to guide them.
Dont guess how colleagues feel; ask them to share their thoughts and frustrations.
Avoid email. To build relationships and discuss your needs, communicate face-to-face.
When you give feedback, provide clear examples and ask recipients for their thoughts.
Stay calm and stick to the facts when offering feedback. If you are emotional, delay
speaking for 24 hours. Awkward or self-conscious feedback is better than none at all.
Tell employees what you, not others, think about their actions. If you mention other
people, your staffers will tune you out and focus on those who betrayed them.
How others see you is more important than what you say.
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What You Will Learn
In this summary, you will learn:r1) How to create honest and supportive business relationships, 2) How to share your
work concerns more openly, and 3) How to give effective feedback.
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Review
Communication consultant Shari Harley says todays workplace lacks crucial candor, and she tells you what to
do about it. Everyone would enjoy healthier business interactions if they spoke their minds honestly and openly,
and knew that their co-workers would do the same. Harley shares several simple steps to help you initiate and
nurture more honest office communication. Her points are quite clear, even when her text proves repetitive.
getAbstract recommends Harleys insightful and useful tips despite whatever initial awkwardness following them
might generate and recognizes that even if you cant be completely honest with absolutely everyone, a more
straightforward workplace remains a worthy goal.
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Summary
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Ask More. Assume
Less.
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The fact is were all a
bunch of wimps. Even
our closest friends
dont speak up about
the things we do that
disappoint them. They
dont want to cause
conflict, hurt our
feelings or damage the
relationship. But when
someone does not speak
up, the relationship is
damaged anyway.
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You are in charge of
your career success and
satisfaction.
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Taking the time to
ask about another
persons working-style
preferences is a rapport
builder. Emailing a
list of questions is not.
Asking these questions
is as much about having
the dialogue as it
is about getting the
information.
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Starting relationships
by giving permission to
give you feedback may
feel a little weird...The
important thing is to
get out in front of your
relationships.
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If you want to be
sure people get really
defensive, give vague
feedback.
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should you schedule a meeting, drop by unannounced or phone? When something urgent
happens, can you interrupt them? If an issue arises during non-working hours, can you
call before or after work and until what time in the evening? What working behaviors
get on their nerves? How do they tend to act when irritated? Discuss these questions in
person, never via email. Face-to-face discussions build your relationships.
How to Create Candid Managerial Relationships
Tell your employees your expectations from the start. When you supervise new people,
explain how you plan to guide them. State that you will share positive and negative feedback
to help them achieve work-related goals. Being open builds trust.
Be careful about making assumptions or failing to communicate. Author Shari Harley
accepted a position as a representative for a training firm. She didnt know a lot about
selling, but she was willing to move to Fort Collins in northern Colorado. About a month
after her move, her boss, who was based on the other side of the state, called her. He was
angry. He wanted to know why Harley wasnt attending weekly meetings in his office.
Harley told him that she was busy setting up things in Fort Collins and her boss said, Its
very clear I cant trust you. Harley was apparently supposed to stay near him to complete
three months of training. No one had told her that. Her boss assumed that she knew and
had defied him.
Candor Questions
Set aside a 90-minute meeting or two 45-minute meetings to ask new staff members the
following questions. Heed their responses. If you dont have time for all of the questions,
focus on the first two: 1) Name three things that would entice you to stay with the
company. 2) Name the one thing that might make you leave. 3) Name three things you
need to feel fulfilled in a position. 4) What is your favorite activity? 5) What would you
like to do, but have never done? 6) Name one or more skills youd like to strengthen.
7) Do you prefer to have your efforts touted publicly or privately? 8) Where do you see
yourself in one year or in three years? 9) Why did you take this position, and what do
you hope to achieve? 10) What worries you? 11) What do you do when you feel frustrated
and need support? 12) What can I tell you about myself? 13) What else would you like to
share about yourself? Close with: Any other questions?
A Strong Start
As you offer new staff members details about their job, unit of the company and work group,
context. Team members need details that help them navigate how things work in your
organization. You provide this type of insider information, for example as someone joins
your family for a holiday meal when you say, My dad cant hear out of his left ear, so
make sure you always speak into the right one. Or, Uncle Al is a die-hard Mets fan, so
dont mention the Yankees if you want dessert. When you share information that senior
managers already know, you grant new workers a strong start.
When Harley first met her new boss, he shared no insider or contextual information. After
several weeks, Harley was stunned to discover that a new co-worker detested her. The coworker cornered Harley outside the conference room and screamed, Just who the hell do
you think you are coming in here and! The list consisted of tasks Harley had been hired
to do. She learned that the angry woman thought she should have gotten Harleys job
even though no one else agreed. This tense situation could have been avoided if someone
told this worker that she was wrong for the position and would never get it. Harley would
have proceeded with greater care had she known how her disgruntled co-worker felt.
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Violating a managers
expectations, even
expectations she
hasnt shared, creates
awkwardness and
frustration from which
it can take months, if
not years, to recover.
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Set expectations
with your internal
and external clients
at the onset of your
working relationships.
Rather than expecting
everything in
your office to go
well, assume that
breakdowns will
happen and plan for
them.
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Did you know that
99.9% of employee
turnover is predictable?
If an employee quits
and his manager is
surprised, the manager
doesnt know his
employee as well as he
thinks he does.
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If you want to take
charge of your career,
invest time in your
business relationships.
Ask questions about
what people need, want
and are expecting from
you. Its that simple.
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How others see you is more important than what you say. Dont assume that all is well
just because no one says otherwise. Stay gracious and remember to say thank you. Your
appreciation will always motivate others.
Gossip undermines relationships. Be true to your word, honest and forthcoming. If a
situation deserves an explanation, provide an accurate one. You dont have to tell your
employees everything. But if you dont comment on major events, workers will busy
themselves with counterproductive explanations of their own. For example, if John leaves
the company and no one in authority explains why, rumors may circulate about illicit affairs
or theft.
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Provide feedback when someone wants to know what you think or when you want to help
someone improve their work habits. But also know when to shut up. Dont say anything
when you are upset and want to vent; when you dislike someone and need to let him or her
know; or when you arent asked to review co-workers, but you think they should hear your
opinion, too. Never embarrass a co-worker in front of others.
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Savvy employees know
that they also manage
their bosses. When we
dont manage upward,
our careers stagnate.
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Gossip is talking
about another person
so as to alter how
others think about that
person.
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Gossiping breaks
trust.
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Consultant Shari Harley founded Candid Culture, a firm that teaches honest communication.
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