ACompendium

ofPositivePsychology
Quotations

MarcelloSpinella,Ph.D.
RichardStocktonCollegeofNewJersey
VersionUpdated:May17,2012

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Contents

1. WisdomandKnowledge
Cognitivestrengthsthatentailtheacquisitionanduseof
knowledge

Creativity
[originality,ingenuity]:Thinkingofnovelandproductivewaysto
conceptualizeanddothingsincludesartisticachievementbutisnotlimitedtoit
Curiosity
[interest,noveltyseeking,opennesstoexperience]:Takinganinterest
inongoingexperienceforitsownsakefindingsubjectsandtopicsfascinating
exploringanddiscovering
Judgment&OpenMindedness
[criticalthinking]:Thinkingthingsthroughand
examiningthemfromallsidesnotjumpingtoconclusionsbeingabletochange
one'smindinlightofevidenceweighingallevidencefairly
LoveofLearning:
Masteringnewskills,topics,andbodiesofknowledge,
whetheronone'sownorformallyobviouslyrelatedtothestrengthofcuriosity
butgoesbeyondittodescribethetendencytoaddsystematicallytowhatone
knows
Perspective
[wisdom]:Beingabletoprovidewisecounseltoothershavingways
oflookingattheworldthatmakesensetooneselfandtootherpeople

2. Courage
Emotionalstrengthsthatinvolvetheexerciseofwilltoaccomplishgoalsin
thefaceofopposition,externalorinternal

Bravery
[valor]:Notshrinkingfromthreat,challenge,difficulty,orpain

speakingupforwhatisrightevenifthereisoppositionactingonconvictions
evenifunpopularincludesphysicalbraverybutisnotlimitedtoit
Perseverance
[persistence,industriousness]:Finishingwhatonestartspersisting
inacourseofactioninspiteofobstaclesgettingitoutthedoortakingpleasure
incompletingtasks
Honesty
[authenticity,integrity]:Speakingthetruthbutmorebroadlypresenting
oneselfinagenuinewayandactinginasincerewaybeingwithoutpretense
takingresponsibilityforone'sfeelingsandactions
Zest
[vitality,enthusiasm,vigor,energy]:Approachinglifewithexcitementand
energynotdoingthingshalfwayorhalfheartedlylivinglifeasanadventure
feelingaliveandactivated

3. Humanity
Interpersonalstrengthsthatinvolvetendingandbefriendingothers

CapacitytoLoveandBeLoved:
Valuingcloserelationswithothers,in

particularthoseinwhichsharingandcaringarereciprocatedbeingcloseto
people
Kindness
[generosity,nurturance,care,compassion,altruisticlove,"niceness"]:
Doingfavorsandgooddeedsforothershelpingthemtakingcareofthem
SocialIntelligence
[emotionalintelligence,personalintelligence]:Beingaware
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ofthemotivesandfeelingsofotherpeopleandoneselfknowingwhattodotofit
intodifferentsocialsituationsknowingwhatmakesotherpeopletick

4. Justice
Civicstrengthsthatunderliehealthycommunitylife
Teamwork
[citizenship,socialresponsibility,loyalty]:Workingwellasa

memberofagrouporteambeingloyaltothegroupdoingone'sshare
Fairness:
Treatingallpeoplethesameaccordingtonotionsoffairnessand
justicenotlettingpersonalfeelingsbiasdecisionsaboutothersgivingeveryonea
fairchance.
Leadership:
Encouragingagroupofwhichoneisamembertogetthingsdone
andatthetimemaintaintimegoodrelationswithinthegrouporganizinggroup
activitiesandseeingthattheyhappen.

5. Temperance
Strengthsthatprotectagainstexcess

Forgiveness&Mercy:
Forgivingthosewhohavedonewrongacceptingthe

shortcomingsofothersgivingpeopleasecondchancenotbeingvengeful
Modesty&Humility:
Lettingone'saccomplishmentsspeakforthemselvesnot

regardingoneselfasmorespecialthanoneis
Prudence:
Beingcarefulaboutone'schoicesnottakingunduerisksnotsaying

ordoingthingsthatmightlaterberegretted
SelfRegulation
[selfcontrol]:Regulatingwhatonefeelsanddoesbeing

disciplinedcontrollingone'sappetitesandemotions

6. Transcendence
Strengthsthatforgeconnectionstothelargeruniverseandprovide
meaning

AppreciationofBeautyandExcellence
[awe,wonder,elevation]:Noticingand

appreciatingbeauty,excellence,and/orskilledperformanceinvariousdomainsof
life,fromnaturetoarttomathematicstosciencetoeverydayexperience
Gratitude:
Beingawareofandthankfulforthegoodthingsthathappentaking
timetoexpressthanks
Hope
[optimism,futuremindedness,futureorientation]:Expectingthebestinthe
futureandworkingtoachieveitbelievingthatagoodfutureissomethingthat
canbebroughtabout
Humor
[playfulness]:Likingtolaughandteasebringingsmilestootherpeople
seeingthelightsidemaking(notnecessarilytelling)jokes
Religiousness&Spirituality
[faith,purpose]:Havingcoherentbeliefsaboutthe
higherpurposeandmeaningoftheuniverseknowingwhereonefitswithinthe
largerschemehavingbeliefsaboutthemeaningoflifethatshapeconductand
providecomfort

7. OtherRelatedTopics

BenefitFinding&PostTraumaticGrowth
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Savoring
Meaning&Purpose

*QuotedfromtheTheVIAInstituteClassificationofCharacter
Strengths:
http://www.viacharacter.org/VIAINSTITUTE/Classification.aspx

WisdomandKnowledge

Creativity

Creativityisallowingyourselftomakemistakes.Artisknowingwhichonestokeep.
ScottAdams

Adams,S.(1996).
TheDilbertprinciple
.Boxtree.p.324.

"Imaginationismoreimportantthanknowledge.Knowledgeislimited.Imaginationencirclesthe
world."
AlbertEinstein

Vireck,G.S.(1929).WhatlifemeanstoEinstein:AninterviewbyGeorgeSylvesterViereck.
TheSaturday
EveningPost
,202,p.117.26October.

"Geniusmeanslittlemorethanthefacultyofperceivinginanunhabitualway."
WilliamJames

James,W.(1892/2001).
Psychology:Thebriefercourse.
Toronto:CourierDoverPublications.

"Thewaytogetgoodideasistogetlotsofideas,andthrowthebadonesaway."
LinusPauling

Brian,Denis.(2000).
Thevoiceofgenius:conversationswithNobelscientistsandotherluminaries
.Newyork:
BasicBooks.

"Imaginationisbetterthanasharpinstrument."
MaryOliver

Oliver,M.(2003).Yes!No!
Owlsandotherfantasies:Poemsandessays.
Boston:BeaconPress.

"Discoveryconsistsofseeingwhateverybodyhasseenandthinkingwhatnobodyhasthought."
AlbertSzentGyorgyi

Good,I.J.,Mayne,A.J.&MaynardSmithJ.(eds.)(1962).
Thescientistspeculates:Ananthologyof
partlybakedideas.
London:Heinemann.


Curiosity

"Anintellectualissomeonewhosemindwatchesitself."
AlbertCamus

Camus,A.,(1963).
Notebooks,

19331942
.(P.M.W.Thody,Trans.)NewYork:AlfredA.Knopf

Nottoknowisbad,butnottowishtoknowisworse.
WestAfricanProverb

Gleason,N.(1992).
Proverbsfromaroundtheworld:1500amusing,witty,andinsightfulproverbsfrom21landsandlanguages.
Secaucus,NJ:CarolPublishingGroup.

Ihavenospecialtalents.Iamonlypassionatelycurious.
AlbertEinstein

LettertoCarlSeelig(11March1952),EinsteinArchives39013

Curiosityislyinginwaitforeverysecret.
RalphWaldoEmerson

Emerson,R.W.(1897).Progressofculture,in
WorksofRalphWaldoEmerson.
London:GeorgeRoutledge
&Sons.

Disciplineandconcentrationareamatterofbeinginterested.
TomKite

Benson,M.ed.(2008).
Winningwords:Classicquotesfromtheworldofsports
.Lanham,Maryland:
TaylorTradePublications

"Howmanycommonthingsaretroddenunderfoot,which,ifexaminedcarefully,awakenour
astonishment?"
AugustineofHippo

Augustine.(2004).
ConfessionsandlettersofSt.Augustinwithasketchofhislifeandwork
.(P.Schaff,Ed.)
Whitefish,Montana:KessingerPublishing.


Judgment&OpenMindedness

"Whereobservationisconcerned,chancefavorsonlythepreparedmind."
LouisPasteur

Pasteur.L.(1854).Lecture,UniversityofLille(7December).

"Sitdownbeforefactasalittlechild,bepreparedtogiveupeverypreconceivednotion,follow
humblywhereverandwhateverabyssesnatureleads,oryouwilllearnnothing."
ThomasHenryHuxley

Huxley,L.(2000).
LifeandlettersofThomasHenryHuxley:Byhisson.Volume1.
ChestnutHill,MA:
AdamantMediaCorporation.

Loyaltytopetrifiedopinionneveryetbrokeachainorfreedahumansoulinthisworldand
neverwill.
MarkTwain

Twain,M.(/1991).Consistency,in
TheCompleteEssaysofMarkTwain.
CharlesNeider,ed.DaCapoPress.
(Originalworkfrom1884).

"Theruleisperfect:Inallmattersofopinion,ouradversariesareinsane."
MarkTwain

MarkTwain.(1907).
Christianscience
.NewYork:Harper&Brothers.

Hewhoknowsonlyhisownsideofthecase,knowslittleofthat
JohnStuartMill

Mill,J.S.(1859/1991)
Onliberty
.Gray,J.&Smith,G.W.eds.London:Routledge.

"Travelisfataltoprejudice,bigotry,andnarrowmindedness,andmanyofourpeopleneedit
sorelyontheseaccounts."
MarkTwain

Twain,M.(1911).
Theinnocentsabroad
.NewYork:Harper.(Originalworkfrom1869).

"Theproblemwithcertaintyisthatitisstaticitcandolittlebutendlesslyreassertitself.
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Uncertainty,bycontrast,islullofunknowns,possibilities,andrisks."
StephenBatchelor

Batchelor,S.(2010).
ConfessionofaBuddhistatheist
.NewYork:Spiegel&Grau.

"Thetruthyoubelieveinandclingtomakesyouunavailabletohearanythingnew."
PemaChdrn

Chdrn,P.(2010).
Thewisdomofnoescape:Andthepathoflovingkindness
.Boston:Shambhala
Publications.

"Thebestofideasishurtbyuncriticalacceptanceandthrivesoncriticalexamination."
GeorgePlya

Plya,George(1957).
Howtosolveit
.GardenCity,NY:Doubleday.

"Disagreementshakesusoutofourslumbers,andforcesustoseeourownpointofviewthrough
contrastwithanotherpersonwhodoesnotshareit."
R.D.Laing

Laing,R.D.(1984).
Thepoliticsofexperienceand,Thebirdofparadise
.NewYork:Penguin.


LoveofLearning

"Themindisnotlikeavesselthatneedstobefilled,butratherlikeawoodthatneedstobe
lighted."
Plutarch

Plutarch,Super,C.W.(tr).(1910).
Plutarchoneducation:embracingthethreetreatises:Theeducationofboys,
Howayoungmanshouldhearlecturesonpoetry,Therightwaytohear.
Syracuse,NY:C.W.Bardeen.

"Inthebeginner'smindtherearemanypossibilities,butintheexpert'smindtherearefew."
ShunryuSuzuki

Suzuki,S.(1970)
.Zenmind,beginner'smind
.Boston:Shambhala.

"Tobefondoflearningistobeneartoknowledge."
Confucius

Confucius.(1971)
Confuciananalects,Thegreatlearning,andthedoctrineofthemean
.(J.Legge,
Trans.).NewYork:DoverBooks.(Originalworkfromca.500B.C.E.)

"Isn'titapleasuretostudyandpracticewhatyouhavelearned?"
Confucius

Confucius.(1990)TheAnalectsof
Confucius.
(A.C.Muller,Trans.).UniversityofTokyo.Retrievedon
January28,2011fromhttp://www.acmuller.net/condao/analects.html(Originalworkfromca.500B.C.E.)

"Beastudentsolongasyoustillhavesomethingtolearn,andthiswillmeanallyourlife."
HenryLathamDoherty

Doherty,H.L.(1923).
PrinciplesandideasforDohertymen:Papers,addresses,andletters,vol.3.
New
York.Nopublisherindicated.

"Ifyouwereteachingandyouweren'tlearning,thenyouprobablyweren'tteachingwell."
JohnFrancis

Francis,J.(2008).JohnFranciswalkstheEarth.TEDTalk.Retrievedon8/3/2011
from:
http://www.ted.com/index.php/talks/john_francis_walks_the_earth.html


Perspective

"Nothingevergoesawayuntilithastaughtuswhatweneedtoknow."
PemaChdrn

Chdrn,P.(2005).
Whenthingsfallapart:heartadvicefordifficulttimes.
Boston:Shambhala
Publications.

"Theyearsteachmuchwhichthedaysneverknow."
RalphWaldoEmerson

Emerson,R.W.,Edwin,I.ed.(1844/1981).Experience,in
Emerson'sEssays.
NewYork:HarperCollins.

"Flexibilityisaformofpracticalwisdom,anintelligencethatlivesinthepresent,thatknows
howtoreadtheslightestsignofchangeandthenhasthefacilityandpliabilitynecessaryfor
adaptingtothenewconditions.Thiskindofwisdomcomesfromunderstandingthatwecannot
controleverysingleelementofourexistence."
PieroFerrucci

Ferrucci,P.(2006).
Thepowerofkindness.
NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

"Tohimwhoseelasticandvigourousthoughtkeepspacewiththesun,thedayisaperpetual
morning."
HenryDavidThoreau
Thoreau,H.D.(1854).Waldenor,lifeinthewoods.Boston:TicknorandFields.

"Theonlymedicineforsuffering,crime,andalltheotherwoesofmankind,iswisdom."
ThomasHenryHuxley

Huxley,T.H.(1868).
Scienceandeducation,vol.3
.NewYork:D.Appleton.

"Menarewisenotintheirexperience,buttheircapacityforexperience."
GeorgeBernardShaw

Shaw,G.B.(1905).
Manandsuperman
.NewYork:Brentano's.

"Ifyouwanttomakeanapplepiefromscratch,youmustfirstcreatetheuniverse."
CarlSagan
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Sagan,C.(1985).
Cosmos
.NewYork:BallantineBooks.

"Whenwetrytopickoutanythingbyitself,wefindithitchedtoeverythingelseinthe
Universe."
JohnMuir

Muir,J.(1992).
Theeightwildernessdiscoverybooks
.Seattle:TheMountaineersBooks.(Originalwork
from1869).

"Whenyourmindisnarrow,smallthingseasilyagitateyou.Makeyourmindanocean."
ThubtenYeshe

Yeshe,T.(2003).
Makingyourmindanocean
.Boston:LamaYesheWisdomArchive.

"Thetestofafirstrateintelligenceistheabilitytoholdtwoopposedideasinthemindatthe
sametime,andstillretaintheabilitytofunction."
F.ScottFitzgerald

Fitzgerald,F.S.(2009).
Thecrackup.
E.Wilson,ed.NewDirectionsPublishing.(Originalworkpublished
1945).

"Wisdomtendstogrowinproportiontoone'sawarenessofone'signorance."
AnthonydeMello

DeMello,A.(1989).
Oneminutewisdom
.NewYork:Image/Doubleday.

"Wisdom...hasaprofoundlypositiveinfluenceonlifesatisfactionindependentofobjective
circumstances."
MonikaArdelt

Ardelt,M.(1997).Wisdomandlifesatisfactioninoldage.
JournalofGerontology:Psychological
Sciences
,
52B
,P15P27.

"Wisdom,Iknow,containsapowerfulcharm,
Tovanquishfortune,or,atleast,disarm."
Juvenal(DecimusJuniusJuvenalis)

Juvenal.(1806).
ThesatiresofDecimusJuniusJuvenalis,secondedition
.(W.Gifford,Trans.)London:W.
Bulmer.

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"Awisemanisoutofthereachoffortune."
ThomasBrowne

Browne,T.(1831).
Religiomedici
.Oxford:J.Vincent.

"Themostmanifestsignofwisdomisacontinualcheerfulness:herstateislikethatofthingsin
theregionsabovethemoon,alwaysclearandserene."
MicheldeMontaigne

deMontaigne,M.(1905).
TheessaysofMicheldeMontaigne
,Volume2.(C.Cotton&W.C.Hazlitt,eds.)
London:GeorgeBell&Sons.

"Calmnessofmindisoneofthebeautifuljewelsofwisdom.Itistheresultoflongandpatient
effortinselfcontrol.Itspresenceisanindicationofripenedexperience,andofamorethan
ordinaryknowledgeofthelawsandoperationsofthought."
JamesAllen

Allen,J.(2005).
Asamanthinketh
.NewYork:Cosimo,Inc.

"Wisdomandgoodnessaretwinborn,oneheart
Mustholdbothsisters,neverseenapart."
WilliamCowper

Cowper,W.(1900).
Expostulation
.London:MacmillanandCo.

"Nooutwardthingnothing,nobodyfromwithoutcanhurtmeinside,psychologically...When
IrecognizedallthishowfreeIfelt!...AndIjuststoppedhurtingmyself.Nowsomeonecoulddo
themeanestthingtomeandIwouldfeeldeepcompassionforthisoutofharmonyperson,this
sickperson,whoiscapableofdoingmeanthings.Icertainlywouldnothurtmyselfbyawrong
reactionofbitternessoranger.Youhavecompletecontroloverwhetheryouwillbe
psychologicallyhurtornot,andanytimeyouwantto,youcanstophurtingyourself."
PeacePilgrim
PeacePilgrim.(1991).
PeacePilgrim:herlifeandworkinherownwords.
SantaFe,NM:OceanTree
Books.

"Theultimategoalofyogaistoalwaysobservethingsaccurately,andthereforeneveractina
waythatwillmakeusregretouractionslater."
T.K.V.Desikachar

Desikachar,T.K.V.(1999).
Theheartofyoga:developingapersonalpractice
.Rochester,Vermont:Inner
Traditions.

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Courage

Bravery

"Thebravemancarvesouthisfortune,andeverymanisthesonofhisownworks."
MigueldeCervantesSaavedra

Cervantes,M.(1993).
DonQuixote.
Hertfordshire,UK:WordsworthEditions.(Originalworkfrom1605).

"Courageisresistancetofear,masteryoffearnotabsenceoffear."
MarkTwain

Twain,M.(1894).
TheTragedyofPudd'nheadWilson
.CharlesL.Webster&Company.

Lifeshrinksorexpandsinproportiontoone'scourage.
AnasNin

Nin,A.(1969).
ThediaryofAnasNin:Volume3,19391944
.(G.Stuhlmann,Ed.)Boston:Harvest/HBJ.

Althoughtheworldisfullofsuffering,itisalsofullofovercomingit.
HelenKeller

Keller,H.(1903).
Optimism
.NewYork:T.Y.CrowellandCompany.

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Perseverance

"Falldownseventimesgetupeight."
JapaneseProverb

Galef,D.(2000).
Evenmonkeysfallfromtrees:ThewitandwisdomofJapaneseproverbs
.North
Clarendon,Vermont:TuttlePublishing

"Ihavelearnedthisatleastbymyexperiment:thatifoneadvancesconfidentlyinthedirection
ofhisdreams,andendeavorstolivethelifewhichhehasimagined,hewillmeetwithasuccess
unexpectedincommonhours."
HenryDavidThoreau

Thoreau,H.D.(1854).
Waldenor,lifeinthewoods
.Boston:TicknorandFields.

"Nothingintheworldcantaketheplaceofpersistence.Talentwillnotnothingismorecommon
thanunsuccessfulmenwithtalent.Geniuswillnotunrewardedgeniusisalmostaproverb.
Educationwillnottheworldisfullofeducatedderelicts.Persistenceanddeterminationare
omnipotent."
CalvinCoolidge

Coolidge,C.(2001).
ThequotableCalvinCoolidge:sensiblewordsforanewcentury
.(P.Hannaford,Ed.).
Bennington,Vermont:ImagesfromthePast.

"Courageandperseverancehaveamagicaltalisman,beforewhichdifficultiesdisappearand
obstaclesvanishintoair."
JohnQuincyAdams

Adams,J.Q.(1802).
Anoration,deliveredatPlymouth,December22,1802:Attheanniversary
commemorationofthefirstlandingofourancestors,atthatplace
.Boston:RussellandCutler.

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Honesty

Itiseasiertofightforone'sprinciplesthantoliveuptothem.
AlfredAdler

Bottome,P.(1939).
AlfredAdler:ApostleofFreedom
.London:FaberandFaber

Ifyoutellthetruthyoudon'thavetorememberanything.
MarkTwain

Twain,M.(1935).
MarkTwain'snotebook
.(ed.AlbertBigelowPaine).NewYork:Harper&
Brothers.(Originalworkfrom1894).

"Themanwhospeaksthetruthisalwaysatease."
Persianproverb

Fitzhenry,R.I.(1993).
TheHarperbookofquotations,3rdedition
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"Welieloudestwhenwelietoourselves."
EricHoffer

Hoffer,E.(1955).
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.NewYork:Harper.

"Integrityhasnoneedofrules."
AlbertCamus

Camus,A.(1991).ReturntoTipasa,from
ThemthofSisyphusadoheresays
.NewYork:VintageBooks.
(Originalworkfrom1954).

"Whenoneispretending,theentirebodyrevolts."
AnasNin

Nin,A.(1973).
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.(P.K.Jason,Ed.).Chicago:SwallowPress.

"Noman,foranyconsiderableperiod,canwearonefacetohimselfandanothertothemultitude,
withoutfinallygettingbewilderedastowhichoneistrue."
NathanielHawthorne
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Hawthorne,N.(1850).
Thescarletletter
.Boston:Ticknor,Reed&Fields.

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Zest

"Nothinggreatwaseverachievedwithoutenthusiasm."
RalphWaldoEmerson

Emerson,R.W.(1841).Circles,from
Essays:Firstseries
.Boston:JamesMunroe&Co.

"Wheresoeveryougo,gowithallyourheart!"
Confucius(K'ungfuTzu)

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TheethicsofConfucius:thesayingsofthemasterandhisdisciples
upontheconductof"thesuperiorman.
NewYork:G.P.Putnam'sSons.

"Ifeelmyheartglowwithanenthusiasmwhichelevatesmetoheavenfornothingcontributes
somuchtotranquillisethemindasasteadypurpose,apointonwhichthesoulmayfixits
intellectualeye."
MaryShelley

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"Enthusiasmisthatsecretandharmoniousspiritwhichhoversovertheproductionofgenius."
IsaacDisraeli

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Theliterarycharacter,5thedition
.London:E.Moxon.

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Humanity

CapacitytoLoveandBeLoved

"Mythreewordsummaryofpositivepsychology:
Otherpeoplematter
."
ChristopherPeterson

Peterson,C.(2006).
Aprimerinpositivepsychology
.Oxford:OxfordUniversityPress.

Theultimatelessonallofushavetolearnisunconditionallove,whichincludesnotonlyothers
butourselvesaswell.
ElisabethKublerRoss

ElisabethKublerRothFoundation,http://www.ekrfoundation.org/quotes.php

"Friendshipimproveshappiness,andabatesmisery,bydoublingourjoys,anddividingour
grief."
JosephAddison

Addison,J.(1888).Friendship,
Essaysandtales
.London:Cassell&Company.

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Kindness

"Whenyouaregoodtoothers,youarebesttoyourself."
BenjaminFranklin

Wright,E.(1990).
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.Cambridge,Massachusetts:Harvard
UniversityPress.

"Alovingpersonlivesinalovingworld...Ahostilepersonlivesinahostileworld...Theworld
thustendstobeyourmirror."
KenKeyesJr.

Keyes,K.Jr.(1975).
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"Noactofkindness,nomatterhowsmall,iseverwasted."
Aesop

Baker,R.F.,&Baker,C.F.(III.)(1997).
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OxfordUniversityPress.

"Benevolenceisthecharacteristicelementofhumanity."
Confucius

Confucius.(1869).
TheChineseclassics:LifeandteachingsofConfucius
.(J.Legge,Trans.).London:
Trbner&Company.

"Theresnosuchthingasasmallactofkindness.Everyactcreatesaripplewithnologicalend."
ScottAdams

Adams,S.(1995).Akindword,
DilbertNewsletter,
#9.AlsopublishedinCavanaugh,B.(1998)
Sower's
seedsofencouragement:Fifthplanting
.p.46.Mahwah,NewJersey:PaulistPress.

"Whenyouhaveonceseentheglowofhappinessonthefaceofabelovedperson,youknowthat
amancanhavenovocationbuttoawakenthatlightonthefacessurroundinghim."
AlbertCamus

Camus,A.(1998).
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Marlowe&Company.

"Abitoffragrancealwaysclingstothehandthatgivesroses."
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ChineseProverb

Zubko,A.(2000).
Treasuryofspiritualwisdom
.NewDelhi:MotilalBanarsidassPublishers.

Whenweunderstandthatthesecretofhappinessliesnotinpossessingbutingiving,bymaking
othershappyweshallbehappierourselves
AndrGide

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Journals
,O'Brien,J.,tr.Champaign,IL:UniversityofIllinoisPress.

Thisisthetruejoyinlife,thebeingusedforapurposerecognizedbyyourselfasamightyone
thebeingaforceofnatureinsteadofafeverish,selfishlittleclodofailmentsandgrievances
complainingthattheworldwillnotdevoteitselftomakingyouhappyIamoftheopinionthat
mylifebelongstothewholecommunityandaslongasIlive,itismyprivilegetodoforit
whateverIcan.
GeorgeBernard

Shaw,G.B.(1903/1987).
Manandsuperman
.NewYork:VikingPenguin.

EverythingisgiventomeandIpassiton.
PeacePilgrim

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SantaFe,NM:OceanTreeBooks.

"Beginningtoday,treateveryoneyoumeet,friendorfoe,lovedoneorstranger,asiftheywere
goingtobedeadatmidnight.Extendtoeachperson,nomatterhowtrivialthecontact,allthe
careandkindnessandunderstandingandlovethatyoucanmuster,anddoitwithnothoughtof
anyreward.Yourlifewillneverbethesameagain."
Augustine"Og"MandinoII

Mandino,A.(1990).
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"Wherethereisnolove,putlove,andyouwillfindlove."
St.JohnoftheCross

Peers,E.A.(2003).
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Whitefish,MT:KessingerPublishing.
[LetterwrittenonJuly6,1591,fromLettersXXII(worksIII,296)]

"Howeasyitisforonebenevolentbeingtodiffusepleasurearoundhimandhowtrulyisakind
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heartafountainofgladness,makingeverythinginitsvicinitytofreshenintosmiles!"
WashingtonIrving

Irving,W.(1819)."TheChristmasDinner,"
TheSketchbookofGeoffreyCrayon
.NewYork:C.S.Van
Winkle.

"I'veneverknownanyhumanbeing,highorhumble,whoeverregretted,whennearinglife's
end,havingdonekindlydeeds.ButIhaveknownmorethanonemillionairewhobecame
hauntedbytherealizationthattheyhadledselfishlives."
BertieCharlesForbes
ForbesMagazine
,September15,1946.(Quotedinv.158,nos.6101996)

"Nomatterhowlittleyouhave,youcanalwaysgivesomeofitaway."
CatherineMarshall

Marshall,C.(1993).
ThebestofCatherineMarshall
.(L.E.LeSourd,Ed.)ChosenBooks

"Nothingthatyouhavenotgivenawaywilleverbereallyyours."
C.S.Lewis

Lewis,C.S.(1952/2001).
MereChristianity
.SanFrancisco:HarperSanFrancisco.

"Nomanisanislandentireofitselfeverymanisapieceofthecontinent,apartofthemain
Anyman'sdeathdiminishesmebecauseIaminvolvedinmankindandthereforeneversendto
knowforwhomthebelltollsittollsforthee."
JohnDonne

Donne,J.(1624/1959).
Devotionsuponemergentoccasions
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"Untilheextendsthecircleofhiscompassiontoalllivingthings,manwillnothimselffind
peace."
AlbertSchweitzer

Schweitzer,A.(1949).
Thephilosophyofcivilisation
.(C.T.Campion,trans.)NewYork,MacmillanCo.

"Compassionforourselvesisthebasisforcompassiontowardothers."
HenepolaGunaratana

Gunaratana,H.(2001).
Eightmindfulstepstohappiness
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"Thus,livingwithcompassioncompletelychangesyourlife.Ittransformsanordinarylifeintoa
transcendentone.Itelevateseverythingyoudo.Yourentirelifebecomestotallydifferenthighly
meaningfulyourheartisfull.Yourheartisnotemptyandneitherisyourlife."
LamaThubtenZopa

ZopaRinpoche,LamaT.(1998).
Virtue&reality:MethodandwisdominthepracticeofDharma
.Weston,
MA:TheLamaYesheWisdomArchive.

"Iamconcernedthatmanyamongyouaremoreconcernedaboutmakingalivingthanmakinga
life.Youarepronetojudgesuccessbytheindexofoursalariesorthesizeofourautomobile
ratherthanbythequalityofourserviceandrelationshiptomankind."
MartinLutherKingJr.

King,M.L.Jr.(1997).
ThepapersofMartinLutherKing,Jr:Birthofanewage,December1955December
1956
.(C.Carson,Ed.)Berkeley,California:UniversityofCaliforniaPress.

"Acompassionatelifeisoneinwhichourresourcesareusedtooptimumeffect.Justasweneed
toknowwhenandhowtogiveourselvesfullytoatask,soweneedtoknowwhenandhowto
stopandrest."
StephenBatchelor

Batchelor,S.(1997).
Buddhismwithoutbeliefs.
NewYork:RiverheadBooks.

"Wewillfindthatkindnessisawayofmakinglesseffort.Itisthemosteconomicattitudethere
is,becauseitsavesusmuchenergythatwemightotherwisewasteinsuspicion,worry,
resentment,manipulation,orunnecessarydefense.Itisanattitudethat,byeliminatingthe
inessential,bringsusbacktothesimpicityofbeing."
PieroFerrucci

Ferrucci,P.(2006).
Thepowerofkindness.
NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

"Ultimately,itisallverysimple.Thereisnochoicebetweenbeingkindtoothersandbeingkind
toourselves.Itisthesamething."
PieroFerrucci

Ferrucci,P.(2006).
Thepowerofkindness.
NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

"Peoplewhogivewillneverbepoor."
AnneFrank

22

Frank,A.(1998).
AnneFrank:Thebiography
.(KimberR.,tr.&Gies,M.contrib.).NewYork:Holt
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"Noactofkindness,nomatterhowsmall,iseverwasted."
Aesop

Baker,R.F.,&Baker,C.F.(III.)(1997).AncientGreeks:creatingtheclassicaltradition.NewYork:Oxford
UniversityPress.

"Loveispatientandkind."
St.PaulofTarsus

Bible
.1Corinthians13

23

SocialIntelligence

"Imaginingourselvesinanotherperson'ssituationshakesupourindifference.Webeginto
realizethatinjoyandsorrow,weareequalsweunderstandhowothersfeel."
PemaChdrn

Chdrn,P.(2005).
Notimetolose:Atimelyguidetothewayofthebodhisattva
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Understandingandlovearenottwothings,butjustoneWhenyouunderstand,youcannot
helpbutlove
ThichNhatHanh

Hanh,T.N.(1987).
Beingpeace
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"Everythingthatirritatesusaboutotherscanleadustoanunderstandingofourselves."
CarlGustavJung

Jung,C.G.(1989).Memories,dreams,reflections.(A.Jaffe,Ed.,C.Winston,Trans.,R.Winston,Tran.).
NewYork:Vintage.(Originallypublished1989)

24

Justice

Teamwork

Manyhandsmakelightwork.
JohnHeywood

Heywood,J.(1867).
TheproverbsandepigramsofJohnHeywood.
Manchester,U.K.:SpenserSociety.

"Uniongivesstrength."
Aesop

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Whitefish,Montana:KessingerPublishing.(Originalworkfrom1909).

"Competitionhasbeenshowntobeusefuluptoacertainpointandnofurther,butcooperation,
whichisthethingwemuststrivefortoday,beginswherecompetitionleavesoff."
FranklinDelanoRoosevelt

McElvaine,R.S.(2002).FranklinDelanoRoosevelt.WashingtonD.C.:CQPress.
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Fairness

"Injusticeanywhereisathreattojusticeeverywhere."
MartinLutherKingJr.

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from:
http://www.stanford.edu/group/King/frequentdocs/birmingham.pdf

"Whoeverdegradesanotherdegradesme,
Andwhateverisdoneorsaidreturnsatlasttome."
WaltWhitman

Whitman,W.(1907).Songofmyself,in
LeavesofGrass
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"Ajustpersonismostfreefromdisturbance,whileanunjustpersonisfullofthegreatest
disturbance."
Epicurus

Epicurus.(1994).Fragments#28,from
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Leadership

Leadershipispracticednotsomuchinwordsasinattitudeandinactions.
HaroldS.Geneen

Geneen,H.S.&Moscow,A.(1984).Managing.NewYork:Doubleday.

27

Temperance

Forgiveness&Mercy

Ifwecouldreadthesecrethistoryofourenemiesweshouldfindineachman'slifesorrowand
sufferingenoughtodisarmallhostility.
HenryWadsworthLongfellow

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TheproseworksofHenryWadsworthLongfellow
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"Learntoforgiveyourselfaseasilyasyouforgiveothers."
PeacePilgrim

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PeacePilgrim:herlifeandworkinherownwords.
SantaFe,NM:OceanTree
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"Hewhoisdevoidofthepowertoforgiveisdevoidofthepowertolove."
MartinLutherKing

King,M.L.(1981).
Strengthtolove
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"Wecannotbekindwhilewecarrytheweightofourresentments...Wecanbekindonlyifthe
pastnolongerdominatesus.
PieroFerrucci

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Thepowerofkindness.
NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

Knowallandyouwillpardonall.
St.ThomasKempis

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(Originalworkfrom1418)

AllsortsofthingsmayleadtoamanbehavingbadlyItisawasteofenergytobeangrywitha
manwhobehavesbadly,justasitistobeangrywithacarthatwon'tgo.
BertrandRussell

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Routledge.
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Ifallmyenemieswerefreeofpain,dissatisfaction,affliction,neurosis,paranoia,tension,and
anxiety,theywouldnolongerhavereasontobemyenemies.Oncefreeoftheforceof
negativity,anenemyisjustlikeanybodyelseawonderfulhumanbeing.
HenepolaGunaratana

Gunaratana,H.(2001).
Eightmindfulstepstohappiness
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Ifonlytherewereevilpeopleoutthereinsidiouslycommittingevildeedsanditwasonly
necessarytoseparatethemfromtherestofusanddestroythem.Butthelinedividinggoodand
evilcutsthroughtheheartofeveryhumanbeing.
AleksandrSolzhenitsyn

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Thegulagarchipelago
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Youwillknowthatforgivenesshasbegunwhenyourecallthosewhohurtyouandfeelthe
powertowishthemwell.
LewisB.Smedes

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Forgiveandforget:healingthehurtswedon'tdeserve
.NewYork:Harper&Row.

IthasbeenshownthatourthoughtsinfluenceeachcellinourbodyThequalityofour
thoughtsisfeltthroughoutourorganism.Willwemakethemthoughtsofhatredandrevenge,or
ofloveandhappiness?
PieroFerrucci

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Thepowerofkindness.
NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

"Onecannotforgiveuptofourhundredandninetyninetimeswithoutitbecomingthehabit
structureofone'sbeing.Forgivenessisnotanoccasionalactitisapermanentattitude.
MartinLutherKingJr.

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Strengthtolove
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"Whenwegenuinelyforgive,wesetaprisonerfreeandthendiscoverthattheprisonerweset
freewasus."
LewisB.Smedes

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29

"Angermakesyousmaller,whileforgivenessforcesyoutogrowbeyondwhatyouwere."
CherieCarterScott

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Ifloveisagame,thesearetherules:10rulesforfindingloveandcreating
longlasting,authenticrelationships
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"Forgivenessisfreetrustisearned"
RobertEnright

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Modesty&Humility

Humilitymakesgreatmentwicehonourable.
BenjaminFranklin

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ThecompletePoorRichardalmanacks
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(From1735edition)

"Noreallygreatmaneverthoughthimselfso."
WilliamHazlitt

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Tabletalk:opinionsonbooks,men,andthings,Volume1
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Prudence

"Measuretwice,cutonce."
CarpentersProverb(unknownorigin)

Wisely,andslow.Theystumblethatrunfast.
WilliamShakespeare

Shakespeare,W.(1839).
RomeoandJuliet
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"Affairsareeasierofentrancethanofexitanditisbutcommonprudencetoseeourwayout
beforeweventurein."
Aesop

Aesop.(1868).Thesicklion,in
Fables
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"Wemustexpectreverses,evendefeats.Theyaresenttoteachuswisdomandprudence,tocall
forthgreaterenergies,andtopreventourfallingintogreaterdisasters."
RobertE.Lee

Jones,J.W.(1906).
LifeandlettersofRobertEdwardLee:soldierandman
.NewYork:NealePublishing
Company.

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SelfRegulation

"Patienceisthecompanionofwisdom."
St.AugustineofHippo

Augustine,A.(1847).Onpatience,from
SeventeenshorttreatisesofS.Augustine,BishopofHippo
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JohnHenryParker.

"Patienceisnotsomethingweeitherhaveorwedon't.It'sadecisionwemake,achoicewetake,
againandagain.Andthemorewerecognizepatienceasadecision,themorewearefreetomake
it."
M.J.Ryan

Ryan,M.J.(2003).
Thepowerofpatience
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"Nothingcanbemoreusefultoyouthanadeterminationnottobehurried."
HenryDavidThoreau

Thoreau,H.D.(1962).June27,1852entry,
TheJournalofHenryD.Thoreau,Volume1,18371855
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Allen,Ed.).N.Chelmsford,Massachusetts:CourierDoverPublications

"Themanwhowillsufferonlyasmuchasseemsgoodtohim,whowillacceptsufferingonly
fromthosefromwhomheispleasedtoacceptit,isnottrulypatient."
ThomasKempis

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TheimitationofChrist
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Transcendence

AppreciationofBeautyandExcellence

"Thereissomethingofthemarvellousinallnaturalthings."
Aristotle

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Onthepartsofanimals
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Therearetwowaystoliveyourlife.Oneisasthoughnothingisamiracle.Theotherasthough
everythingisamiracle.
AlbertEinstein

JournalofFranceandGermany(19421944)byGilbertFowlerWhite,inexcerptpublishedinLivingwith
Nature'sExtremes:TheLifeofGilbertFowlerWhite(2006)byRobertE.Hinshaw,p.62.

"Themostbeautifulexperiencewecanhaveisthemysterious.Itisthefundamentalemotionthat
standsatthecradleoftrueartandtruescience."
AlbertEinstein

Einstein,A.(1995).
Ideasandopinions.
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"Amorninggloryatmywindowsatisfiesmemorethanthemetaphysicsofbooks."

WaltWhitman

Whitman,W.(1907).Songofmyself,in
LeavesofGrass
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from1855).

"Ifthedayandthenightaresuchthatyougreetthemwithjoy,andlifeemitsafragrancelike
flowersandsweetscentedherbs,ismoreelastic,morestarry,moreimmortal,thatisyour
success."
HenryDavidThoreau

Thoreau,H.D.(1854).
Waldenor,lifeinthewoods
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"Allthephenomenaofnatureneedtobeseenfromthepointofviewofwonderandawe."
HenryD.Thoreau
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Thoreau,H.D.(1962).June27,1852entry,
TheJournalofHenryD.Thoreau,Volume1,18371855
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(F.H.Allen,Ed.).N.Chelmsford,Massachusetts:CourierDoverPublications

"Restisnotidleness,andtoliesometimesonthegrassunderthetreesonasummer'sday,
listeningtothemurmurofwater,orwatchingthecloudsfloatacrossthesky,isbynomeansa
wasteoftime."
JohnLubbock

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Theuseoflife
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"Thosewhoareawakeliveinaconstantstateofamazement."
JackKornfield

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Gratitude

Forgratitudenotmerelystandsaloneattheheadofallthevirtues,butisevenmotherofallthe
rest.
MarcusTulliusCicero

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"Iamconstantlythankful.Theworldissobeautiful,Iamthankful.Ihaveendlessenergy,Iam
thankful.IampluggedintothesourceofUniversalSupply,Iamthankful.Iampluggedintothe
sourceofUniversalTruth,Iamthankful.Ihavethisconstantfeelingofthankfulness,whichisa
prayer."
PeacePilgrim

PeacePilgrim.(1992).
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FriendsofPeacePilgrim.

IfIthinkofeveryoneinmylifetowhomIcanfeelgrateful,aninterestingthinghappens.Bitby
bitIrealizethatallthatIhavehascometomefromothers.
PieroFerrucci

Ferrucci,P.(2006).
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NewYork:Tarcher/Penguin.

Wheneatingafruitthinkofthepersonwhoplantedthetree.
Vietnameseproverb

RutledgeP.(1992).
TheVietnameseexperienceinAmerica
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Gratefulnessisheavenitself.
WilliamBlake

Blake,W.(1966).
ThecompletewritingsofWilliamBlake:withvariantreadings
.(G.Keynes,Ed.).London:
OxfordUniversityPress.

Writeinjuriesindust,benefitsinmarble.
BenjaminFranklin

Franklin,B.(1914).
PoorRichard'salmanack
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Heisawisemanwhodoesnotgrieveforthethingswhichhehasnot,butrejoicesforthose
whichhehas."
Epictetus

Epictetus.(1888).
ThediscoursesofEpictetus:withtheEncheiridionandFragments
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GeorgeBell&Sons.(Originalworkfrom1stcenturyC.E.)

Onebecomesoldonthedayoneforgetsthegoodthathasbeen.
Epicurus

Epicurus.(2002).Pronouncements(VaticanSayings)#19fromfromBeck,S.tr.
WisdomBible.
Goleta,
California:WorldPeaceCommunications.(Originalworkfrom4thcenturyC.E.)

"Inatleastonesense,wecansaythatotherpeoplearereallytheprincipalsourceofallour
experiencesofjoy,happiness,andprosperity,andnotonlyinourdaytodaydealingswith
people.Wecanseethatallthedesirableexperiencesthatwecherishoraspiretoattainare
dependentuponcooperationandinteractionwithothers."
DalaiLama

DalaiLama.(2001).
Thecompassionatelife
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"Whetherlifeisseenasastruggleoragiftdependsonone'sattitudeofmind,notonone's
circumstances."
CheriHuber

Huber,C.(1990).
Thatwhichyouseekiscausingyoutoseek.
Murphys,CA:KeepItSimpleBooks.

"Interestingly,thenumberofstressfuleventsinthelastsixmonthsshowednorelationshiptothe
[Gratitude,ResentmentandAppreciationTest](
r
=.04)."
PhilipWatkins&colleagues

Watkins,P.C.,Woodward,K.,Stone,T.,&Kolts,R.L.(2003).Gratitudeandhappiness:Developmentof
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"Thetestofallhappinessisgratitude..."
G.K.Chesterton

Chesterton,G.K.(1909).
Orthodoxy.
NewYork:JohnLaneCompany.

Ispentyearscursingmymiserablecommuteeachmorning.Itturnsouttohavebeenatotal
wasteoftime...Nowinsteadofthetwentyminutedrivefromhell,Ispendtwentyminutes
37

thinkingaboutandappreciatingallthemarvelinmylife...IfIaddupallmycommutetimeover
thenextfifteenyearsIcanspendmorethantwentysixhundredhoursbeingangryattheworld
orappreciatingit.Ivemademychoice.
Josh

QuotedinFoster,R.&Hicks,G.(2004).
Howwechoosetobehappy:The9choicesofextremelyhappy
peopleTheirsecrets,theirstories,2nd

ed.
NewYork:PerigreeTrade.

Forkindnessbegetskindnessevermore,
Buthefromwhosemindfadesthememory
Ofbenefits,nobleishenomore.
Sophocles

Sophocles.(2006).
TheGreekclassics:SophoclesSevenplays.
(J.H.Ford,Ed.TheAthenianSociety,
Trans.)ElPaso,Texas:ElPasoNortePress.

Menofilljudgementoftignorethegood
Thatlieswithintheirhands,tilltheyhavelostit.
Sophocles

Sophocles.(2006).
TheGreekclassics:SophoclesSevenplays.
(J.H.Ford,Ed.TheAthenianSociety,
Trans.)ElPaso,Texas:ElPasoNortePress.

"Begratefulforeveryhour,andacceptwhatitbrings..."
HenryDavidThoreau

Thoreau,H.D.(1962).EntryfromJuly6,1840.
Journals(18371855)
.NewYork:DoverPublishing.

Manonlylikestocounthistroubles
,
buthedoesnotcounthis

joys
.If
he
countedthemupas
he
ought,
he
wouldseethateverylothasenoughhappinessprovidedforit.
FyodorDostoyevsky

Dostoyevsky,F.(1960).
Notesfromunderground&Thegrandinquisitor
.NewYork:Dutton.

Gratitudeunlocksthefullnessoflife.Itturnswhatwehaveintoenough,andmore.Itturns
denialintoacceptance,chaostoorder,confusiontoclarity.Itcanturnamealintoafeast,a
houseintoahome,astrangerintoafriend.Itturnsproblemsintogifts,failuresintosuccess,the
unexpectedintoperfecttiming,andmistakesintoimportantevents.
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MelodyBeattie

Beattie,M.(2003).
Thelanguageoflettinggojournal.
CenterCityMinnesota.HazeldenPublishing.

Hope

"Everythingcanbetakenfromamanbutonethingthelastofthehumanfreedomstochoose
one'sattitudeinanygivensetofcircumstances,tochooseone'sownway."
ViktorFrankl

Frankl,V.(1963).
Man'ssearchformeaning
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Hopeisitselfaspeciesofhappiness,andperhapsthechiefhappinesswhichthisworldaffords
but,likeallotherpleasuresimmoderatelyenjoyed,theexcessesofhopemustbeexpiatedby
painandexpectationsimproperlyindulgedmustendindisappointment.
SamuelJohnson

Johnson,S.(1888).
WitandwisdomofSamuelJohnson
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"Wherethereisnohope,thereisnoendeavor."
SamuelJohnson

Johnson,S.(1801).
TheworksofSamuelJohnson,LL.D
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Iwilleitherfindawayormakeone.(Latin:
Autviaminveniamautfaciam.
)
Hannibal(attributed)

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Humor

"Agoodlaughandalongsleeparethebestcuresinthedoctor'sbook."
IrishProverb

"Timespentlaughingistimespentwiththegods."
Japaneseproverb

"Nonsensewakesupthebraincells."
TheodoreGeiselSeuss

QuotedinCorwin,M.(1983,November27).Authorisn'tjustacatinthehat.
TheLosAngelesTimes.

Againsttheassaultoflaughternothingcanstand.
MarkTwain

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Themysteriousstranger:Andotherstories
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Laughteristhesunthatdriveswinterfromthehumanface.
VictorHugo

Hugo,V.(1879).Lesmisrables.NewYork:AlbertCogswell.

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"Fearisthelockandlaughterthekeytoyourheart."
StephenStills

Stills,S.(1969).Suite:Judyblueeyes.AtlanticRecordingCorporation.

AmongthosewhomIlikeoradmire,Icanfindnocommondenominator,butamongthose
whomIlove,Ican:allofthemmakemelaugh.
W.H.Auden

Auden,W.H.(1962).Notesonthecomic,in
TheDyer'sHandandOtherEssays.
UniversityofMichigan

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Religiousness&Spirituality

"Apilgrimisawandererwithpurpose."
PeacePilgrim

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PeacePilgrim:herlifeandworkinherownwords.
SantaFe,NM:OceanTree
Books.

"Thisismysimplereligion.Thereisnoneedfortemplesnoneedforcomplicatedphilosophy.
Ourownbrain,ourownheartisourtemplethephilosophyiskindness."

DalaiLama

DalaiLama.(1990).Kindnessandcompassion,in
TheDalaiLama,apolicyofkindness:ananthologyof
writingsbyandabouttheDalaiLama
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Mycountryistheworldandmyreligionistodogood.
ThomasPaine

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Therightsofman
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"Whethertheuniverseiscomposedofaninfinitenumberofblindatomsoroneallseeingnature,
twothingsareclear:first,Iamapartoftheuniversegovernedbynatureandsecond,Iam
relatedinsomewaytotheotherpartslikemyself.OnceIacknowledgethis,Ishallbecontent
withanyroletheuniverseassignsme,fornothingisbadforthepartthatisgoodforthewhole,
andthewholecontainsnothingwhichisnotgoodforit...RealizingthatIampartofjustsucha
universe,Iwillcalmlyacceptwhateverhappens.AndbecauseIamrelatedtotheotherpartslike
myself,Iwillnotseekmyownadvantageattheirexpense,butIwillstudytoknowwhatisour
commongoodandbendeveryefforttoadvancethatgoodandtodissuadeothersfromacting
againstit."
MarcusAurelius

Aurelius,M.(2002).
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"Pleasantexperiencesmakelifedelightful.Painfulexperiencesleadtogrowth."
AnthonyDeMello

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"Mistakesareanessentialpartofeducation."
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Mostmeninaconcentrationcampbelievedthattherealopportunitiesoflifehadpassed.Yet,in
reality,therewasanopportunityandachallenge.Onecouldmakeavictoryofthoseexperiences,
turninglifeintoaninnertriumph,oronecouldignorethechallengeandsimplyvegetate,asdida
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"Theysay[cancer]concentratesthemind...You'rebowledoverinitiallyandthenyousay'You
knowsomething?You'vebeentakingalotofthingsforgranted.'It'snotinamorbidway.It
helpsyoualsotobelaidback."
ArchbishopDesmondTutu

CancerfreeTutusaysthediseasewasagift.(2001,December21).Reuters.

Badtimeshaveascientificvalue.Theseareoccasionsagoodlearnerwouldnotmiss.
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