MINISTERUL EDUCAIEI, CERCETRII I INOVRII

COLEGIUL NATIONAL MIHAIL SADOVEANU PACANI

LUCRARE DE ATESTAT
LA LIMBA ENGLEZ

CANDIDAT: MONEAGU TEFAN-DRAGO

PROFESOR COORDONATOR: prof. DULCEANU
ELISABETA

2015

Table of Contents

1. Argument.....3
2. Introduction.....4
3. TEEN LOVE AND ONE-WAY LOVE..5
3.1.
Reciprocity in teen love...5
3.2.
One-way love...6
4. MARRIAGE LOVE AND CHASTITY..7
4.1.
Being different.7
4.2.
Pre-marital virginity.8
4.3.
Mature love..8
4.4.
Rational love9
4.5.
Family love.10
5. IDEAL LOVE AND PLATONIC LOVE..11
5.1.
Platonic love...11
5.2.
Ideal love11
5.3.
Eros, Agape, Philia and Storge......12
6. FINAL CONSIDERATIONS............................13
6.1.
Importance of love in adolescence.....13
6.2.
Need of love...13
7. Bibliography...14

TEEN LOVE, MARRIAGE LOVE AND

IDEAL LOVE

1.ARGUMENT
During time, love has been described by artists in many ways. I have
decided to write about love because I consider that love has changed my
life.
One of the most important benefits of love is that it teaches a person to
share. It may seem easy, but love involves sacrifice. We all are a little
selfish and it is not easy to pass over our selfishness. However, it is
possible to teach ourselves to love more, but for that we must be less
selfish.
Love can be found at the age of adolescence. At this age, romantic
relations involve many challenges. These challenges are an obstacle and a
way to learn how to love. We learn to love from adolescence meeting new
problems. One-way love is one of the problems had by many adolescents
of these days.
marriage love means more than a powerful attraction for someone. The
husband and wife make a loyalty oath until death. The children are
another part of a marriage. But the supreme purpose of marriage are not
children. Which is the supreme purpose of marriage? If a teen going to
records of acts of civil status to get married is asked for the supreme
purpose of marriage he would respond immediately: Happiness. And he
would be right because we are not designed to live alone. We are
designed to communicate with others, and marriage is a wonderful way of
communicating and learning to share. The problems of marriage appear
when the husbands do not communicate at a normal level.
There are persons who have an ideal love for someone. Loving an idea
is ideal love. This idea may appertain to a person, but also to a form of
art. Platonic love means a non-sexual and chaste love for someone. The
beauty of the other person inspires my mind and my soul and directs my
attention to spiritual things. The term platonic has been named after
Plato, the first to describe this kind of love.

2. INTRODUCTION
The definition of love in the Collins Dictionary is:
Love = (noun) 1.a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
2.a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child,
or friend 3.sexual passion or desire 4.a person toward whom love is felt;
beloved person; sweetheart.5.(used in direct address as a term of endearment,
affection, or the like): Would you like to see a movie, love? 6. a love affair; an
intensely amorous incident; amour
7. sexual intercourse; copulation.
Love has many synonyms: tenderness, fondness, predilection, warmth,
passion, adoration, affection, devotion all meaning a deep and enduring
emotional regard, usually for another person.
Love may apply to various kinds of regard: the charity of the Creator, reverent
adoration toward God or toward a person, the relation of parent and child, the
regard of friends for each other.

3.TEEN LOVE AND ONE-WAY LOVE

3.1. Reciprocity in teen love
True love between two teens means reciprocity. If they truly love each other,
they will give up their selfishness. When you become less selfish, the other one
will become less selfish too. You say to someone: I choose you. And the
answer is: I choose you too. This is a sign of a true love.
There are persons who build in imagination a perfect partner. They are
fascinated by the image inside their minds, but they forgot that the imagined
partner is not real.
An example are the girls who fall in love with music stars, TV presenters and
they even write letters to them, they become fans. What means this love?
This is a sick love which drives crazy a person.
We need to receive feed-back at our feelings. The need of feed-back means the
recognition of our love. The recognition of our efforts gives a sense to our
feelings. Feelings shared without a response cannot be named love. Our efforts
and feelings are possible only when we exit from our comfort zone. The escape
from our selfish and comfort zone involves an extraordinary effort.

3.2. One-way love

Unshared love is named one-way and it is given to a person which refuses to
return it back. It is hard to love without getting back love because this love
consumes effort and time. If we refer to God, He loves us letting us decide if we
return His love back.
However, a teen does not have experience in love. As a novice, the adolescent
is not prepared to love without getting love. It will seem impossible and
paradoxical to an adolescent.

4. MARRIAGE LOVE AND CHASTITY

4.1. Being different
In our times, nudity is a form of publicity. As a consequence, virginity is seen as
a condition from which you must free. From another point of view, chastity is a
virtue which brings benefits. Being chaste now is a hard thing, because you
meet many obstacles and is easier to yield to temptation.

4.2. Chastity before marriage

Researchers have found that chastity before marriage offers many benefits,
including a decreased chance of psychological damage from expressing
intimacy without commitment, freedom from sexually transmitted diseases
(STDs) and unwanted pregnancies, and an increase in marital stability and
satisfaction.
According to the Centre for Disease Control, approximately 333 million new
cases of STDs are reported in the world each year. Anyone who begins a sexual
relationship believing "it can't happen to me" risks his or her health - and
possibly his or her life.

4.3. Mature love

Erich Fromm, German social psychologist considered that: Immature love
says: << I love you because I need you. >> Mature love says: << I need you
because I love you. >>. The need of love is seen as immaturely; the need to
love someone being superior to it.
You need effort to be mature when you love. The love needs to be mature, so
just mature persons can love. You can truly love if you grow up.

4.4. Rational love

Life and family are schools where you can learn to love. Mistakes are not the
end of love. Forgiveness erases all the mistakes. A superior love is the one
which passes all the obstacles that do not let me love.
Forgiveness is a form of rational love and a way to cease the conflicts
happening now in the world like the one between Islamists and Christians from
Liban. On 1st may 2015 televisions Al Jazeera and Libia Herald were showing
images with three Christians crucified in public. This is a sign that we need
more than ever forgiveness. Rational love needs forgiveness.

4.5. Family love

Maybe the most important component of our existence is the inner self. You
feel inside you when you are ready to have a family. It is an inborn need to have
a family. Love means to be in a family.
The period before 30 years is a time of maximum activity when the boy
searches a girl in his multiple social circles. He gets a job and is ready to make a
family. All is prepared for a family, so between 20 and 30 years it is very
possible to get married.

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5.IDEAL LOVE AND PLATONIC LOVE

5.1. Platonic love

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A platonic love fulfils your spiritual needs and lets you more time for your
personal activities. Humans dedicated to their passion think that marriage is a
time-consuming thing.
Some of famous personalities never get married like Jane Austen, Leonardo
da Vinci, Sir Isaac Newton, Nikola Tesla, Hans Christian Andersen, Voltaire,
Descartes, Antonio Vivaldi, Franz Kafka, Ludwig van Beethoven, Joan of Arc,
Ann and Emily Bronte.

5.2. Ideal love

Jerry Falwell - Baptist pastor - considered that When you have a godly
husband, a godly wife, children who respect their parents and who are loved by
their parents, who provide for those children their physical and spiritual and
material needs, lovingly, you have the ideal unit. The ideal love calls for effort
and it seems an impossible thing. If you want to love more you engage to be
completely dedicated to what you love.
If I think at someone who loves without any trace of selfishness, God is the
Only One who loved, loves and will love us until the end. The fight of God for
our souls is happening now inside us. Dostoevsky said: God and devil are
fighting there, and the battlefield is the heart of man. We decide the battle
choosing to aim at an ideal life fulfilled with love or to live only for our
comfort.

5.3. Eros, Agape, Philia and Storge

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Agpe ( in Greek) means "love especially brotherly love, charity. The

theologian Thomas Aquinas considered that Agpe means "to will the good of
another.
ros ( in Greek) means "love, mostly of the sexual passion. Plato
considered that ros means a love "without physical attraction." He thought
that ros helps the soul recall knowledge of beauty.
Philia ( in Greek) means "friendship". Philia is the love between friends or
the love inside a family where all are equals.
Storge ( in Greek) means "love between parents and children. It is a
natural affection which comes from itself.

6.FINAL CONSIDERATIONS
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6.1. Importance of love in adolescence

In conclusion, I consider that love for an adolescent means a help to grow up.
Teachers must know that love helps students to learn because you cannot learn
if you do not like what you learn.
The passion of learning for an adolescent is deciding if the rest of his life he
will continue to learn or if he will stop to learn at the end of the school. After
all, we need to make education a less difficult process and this calls time. You
cannot spent time on something you do not love.
Students need love from teachers, teachers need love from students and all
what we do need love, passion and effort. As the writer Anthony J. D'Angelo
said: Develop a passion for learning. If you do, you will never cease to grow.

6.2. Need of love

I am human and I need love like we all do. The need of love is inborn. Is it
hard to define love and I think at love as Saint Paul the Apostle thought in his
global definition of love (in the bottom text love is called charity )
Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity,
I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. And though I have the gift
of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have
all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body
to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing. Charity suffereth
long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed
up, Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily
provoked, thinketh no evil; Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth. (1 Corinthians, 13, 1-8)

7.BIBLIOGRAPHY

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ngrijit de Dmitry Semenik; trad. din limba rus de Adrian TnsescuVlas. - Bucureti: Editura Sophia, 2012
Collins English Dictionary - Complete & Unabridged 2012 Digital
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http://www.kingjamesbibleonline.org
Images: 1. Psyche et L'Amour by Bouguereau; 2.The Storm by PierreAuguste Cot.; 3.Wings of love by Steve Pierson; 4.
http://i.imgur.com/mERWN.jpg 5. Allegory of Chastity of Hans Memling
6. The Old Couple by Ismail Shammout 7. The Crucifixion by Flemish
School 8. A Happy Family by Giovanni Battista 9. The Haywain by
Hieronymus Bosch

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