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Re: A female has taken a liking to me (#p322362)

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PostbyRonTheElderThuDec18,201412:26pm

Herbie wrote:
SamP wrote:
How do I avoid this?

Why should you care about likings or dislikings of others?

The biological prime directive of human "reproduction" involves both physical and
psychological attraction.
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PostbyLazy_eyeThuDec18,20143:43pm

silver surfer wrote:

Just check out the higher precepts for monks. As long as there is lust, craving
for sensuality, there will not be the slightest chance for jhanic attainments...

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Say what? If that's the case, somebody had better inform all those noncelibates who attend
retreats that they're wasting their time.
And perhaps the retreat organizers are violating the fourth precept by not explaining that
jhana is out of the question for these folks.
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PostbydaverupaThuDec18,20143:46pm

Lazy_eye wrote:
silver surfer wrote:
Just check out the higher precepts for monks. As long as there is lust,
craving for sensuality, there will not be the slightest chance for jhanic
attainments...

Say what? If that's the case, somebody had better inform all those noncelibates
who attend retreats that they're wasting their time.
And perhaps the retreat organizers are violating the fourth precept by not
explaining that jhana is out of the question for these folks.

Jhana is in fact the reason why sensual pleasures lose their appeal; attaining jhana is in fact
an essential step in leaving sensuality behind, not a result of having already left it but a
result of having set it aside for an appropriate amount of time in one's own case.
Seclusion from sensual pleasures is a condition to bring about the cessation of greed and
hate, and sensuality generally. Attaining jhana is precisely what makes sensual pleasures lose
their final appeal.
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PostbyLazy_eyeThuDec18,20143:49pm

daverupa wrote:
Lazy_eye wrote:
silver surfer wrote:
Just check out the higher precepts for monks. As long as
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there is lust, craving for sensuality, there will not be the

slightest chance for jhanic attainments...

Say what? If that's the case, somebody had better inform all those non
celibates who attend retreats that they're wasting their time.
And perhaps the retreat organizers are violating the fourth precept by
not explaining that jhana is out of the question for these folks.

Jhana is in fact the reason why sensual pleasures lose their appeal; attaining
jhana is in fact an essential step in leaving sensuality behind, not a result of
having already left it.

Thanks for clearing that up, Dave!

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PostbydaverupaThuDec18,20143:50pm

Played a bit with the phrasing, but it's the same beat either way.
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