Text the Romance Back

Frequently Asked
Questions

by Michael Fiore
www.texttheromanceback.com

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Text the Romance Back

FAQ
As you can imagine, I get a LOT of questions about Text the Romance
Back. (Actually, I get a lot of questions about just about everything
having to do with love and relationships.) Let me just answer some of
the most common ones here.

1. Ive sent my guy a bunch of texts, even

some steamy ones, but hes never responded.
What do I do?
Take a deep breath and chill out =-)
OK, more seriously. This is actually a really common question and not
getting a response, at least at first, isnt that big of a deal.
Theres basically three reasons a guy (or girl) wouldnt respond to your
texts.
A. He or she didnt get the message. Maybe he left his phone at home,
maybe it ran out of batteries or maybe (for some unknown reason)
your text just didnt go through. Heck, maybe hes one of those weird
guys who just doesnt text.
B. He or she was too busy to respond during the day. Its weird to
us hyper-connected folks, but there are some people out there who
are actually 100% focused on work when theyre at the office.
C. He or she got your message but was confused by it, or thought
it didnt sound like you and didnt know how to respond.
This is actually the most dangerous of the three options, and usually
happens when your partner has already emotionally or intellectually
checked out of the relationship in some way or if youve both let the
romance in your relationship dwindle away to almost nothing.
Plain and simple, if the man or woman in your life isnt used to getting any kind of emotional, romantic or erotic affection from you, then
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suddenly getting these deep, funny, cheesy, sexy texts can be VERY
confusing and can really put them on edge.
If youre putting the effort in and it doesnt work right away, the key is
to NOT FREAK OUT.
I always say that romance is a marathon, not a sprint. A lot of people get
great results with TRB the very first time they use it (and they end up
raving on my Facebook wall) but I also get emails from men and women
every day saying it took a few days or a few weeks for their partner to
warm up to the idea and to realize this wasnt a trick.
The magic of Text the Romance Back comes from using the system consistently, making these little games a part of your regular life and realizing that having an amazing relationship takes long term, consistent
work. Even if it makes your thumbs a little tired.
So what do you do if your partner doesnt respond?
Simple. Wait a while, mix up your game and then try again.
Now I dont want you to send the exact same message again.
Instead, dig through the manual a bit, find a different formula or concept and hit them up that way. If a Curiosity Magnet didnt work, move
on to a Appreciation Text or a Sensual Compliment. If that doesnt get
you a response (or an appreciative thanks later that night), go for broke
with the Text Massage script or by doing some Digital Foreplay.
My recommendation would be to send one or two texts a day even if you
dont get any kind of response at all. Be persistent. Let them get used to
the idea that this is a new way you want to keep in touch. Tease them.
Seduce them.
If youre persistent, they SHOULD start to open up and to even start
enjoying this little game with you.
If you STILL dont get a response, then ask them about it next time you
see them. Just say Hey, did you get that text I sent you =-).
If they say something like Yeah, but I thought it was meant for somebody else. or Yeah, what was that about? just look at them with a
smile and say Nope, it was meant for you. I just wanted to let you know
how important you are to me.
(Cheesy, but effective.)
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And then keep it up the next day. If you do this with confidence and let
them get used to it, you should hopefully get great results.
And if you dont. . . theres work to do in that relationship. This should
be part of it.
Tangentially, I often send texts to my girlfriend and get no response
whatsoever. Nothing. Nada. But I know she gets the message, so I send
them anyway. You should too.

2. How long do I have to do this? Once the

romance is back Im done, right?
Heh, this is a question I only ever get from guys who seem to think that
rebuliding romance is a bit like rebuilding a truck (once youre done,
youre done, right?).
The short answer is that you should make the Text the Romance Back
methods a regular part of your relationship. Its a great way to keep in
touch and keep connected while youre both off being busy with your
lives. Does that mean you should be texting EVERY day ALL day long?
No, not at all. Like anything, theres going to be ebb and flow.
Honestly, its a little like surfing. As you do this enough youll start
getting a feel for when its time get the motor running a little bit more.
Is there a special event like a birthday or an anniversary coming up?
Have you not been able to spend enough time together? Time to bust
out TRB.
Some of my clients actually put reminders in their calendars to do this
kind of thing. But even just a simple Youre an amazing woman and I
love having you in my life sent every once in a while can do absolute
wonders to a woman.
So how long do you have to do this? Just shy of forever, but it takes like
10 minutes a day and youll have amazing sex, incredible connection and
the kind of relationship all your friends will be jealous of. So hopefully
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3. Mike, I read through Text the Romance

Back and some of this stuff just seems kind of
cheesy and I just cant imagine myself saying
this stuff.
Thats not actually a question, but its a comment I get sometimes.
And you know what? Its absolutely 100% true, a lot of the stuff in TRB
can seem REALLY cheesy and earnest and devastatingly sincere and a
bit frightening to say. And thats why it works so very, very well.
Not to get on a soap box here, but being cool all the time is one of the
reasons so many of us are miserable in our everyday lives. Were all so
worried about being detached and unbothered and hip that we forget to
actually connect with anybody around us or to actually live our lives.
As I like to say when I do media interviews: ROMANCE IS NOT COOL.
Being in love is not cool.
Seducing a woman and making her understand how much you adore
her is not cool.
Showing a man how powerful and sexy and masculine you think he is
is not cool.
But heres my question for you:
Do you want to be cool or do you want to be happy?
The fact is this cheesy stuff has helped thousands of couples all over
the world, and Im willing to bet that if you let go of your fear and your
need to be cool and actually send even just a simple Appreciation text
thats really from the heart youll be astonished by the results.
So, yes. Its cheesy. But it works.
Of course it can only work if you screw up your courage, pull out your
phone and use it.
And even if your man or your woman says wow, thats cheesy that
doesnt mean they didnt get the message. That doesnt mean it didnt
crawl into their brain and release a whole bunch of dopamine.
This stuff works. Trust me. Im a professional. =-)
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4. Mike, this seems really simple. Isnt a

lot of this stuff just common sense? I mean,
couldnt I have figured out a lot of this stuff on
my own?
Sometimes folks are a little shocked at how simple a lot of the TRB texts
seem. I mean, Appreciation texts arent complicated at all, right?
A lot of guys particularly seem to expect some kind of weird Shakespearean poetry, or ways to hypnotize your man or woman into loving
you. And instead I give you this advice on how to appreciate your partner, how to objectify your partner and how to bring up your favorite past
experiences. . .
There seems to be this idea that if something is simple it cant be effective.
But oftentimes the simplest phrases and concepts are the most powerful. (I mean, heck, every Beatles song out there was written with just 4
chords, right?)
So yeah, some of this stuff seems simple (though the Relationship Time
Machine, the Text Massage and Digital Foreplay arent simple AT ALL,
and you could totally hurt yourself trying to wing it with those.)
But ask yourself this: All of this simple and common sense stuff. . . were
you doing it before I told you to?

5. Mike, I tried sending a few of these texts to

my ex. We havent talked in a few months, and
I was hoping to re-open communication and
make him realize how much he misses me. Is
there anything thats guaranteed to get him to
respond?
Great and common question. Actually, I have an entire other training
program about this very topic. Its called Text Your Ex Back, and its
(frankly) excellent, with a really high success rate. You can learn all
about it by going to http://www.textyourexback.com.
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That said, my core piece of advice for getting an ex back is this: Your
old relationship is dead, and you can never go back to the way things
were. If you really want your ex back, you need to let go of your old
relationship and focus on creating a whole new relationship with the
same person. Thats exactly what Text Your Ex Back teaches you to do.
Theres a small amount of overlap between TXB and this program, but
if you really want to know how to bring that special guy or girl back into
your life, thats the program for you.
(Tangentially, if you and your boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife are on
the verge of divorce, TXB can do wonders for you. Its much more focused on broken relationships than TRB is.)

6. Ive already used all the texts in Text the

Romance Back. Now what do I say?
First off, you give yourself a big pat on the back. If youve used EVERYTHING I gave you, it really shows that youre committed to getting this
romance thing down.
If youve used everything I gave you here, youve got two options:
1. If you grabbed the Text the Romance Back Cookbook upgrade after
you ordered TRB, youll have literally HUNDREDS of new texts to
play with.
2. Its time to learn to fish on your own. Honestly, my goal with TRB
isnt to just give you dozens and dozens of texts you can parrot and
steal. I mean, I dont mind doing that, but what I really want is for
you to internalize the lessons and structures of the texts I give you
so you can start improvising and using your own.
Whether youre a man or a woman, straight or gay, married or single,
the key to creating great texts is to have FUN with them, to be honest
and sincere (and even a little bit cheesy) in your texts and to not be
afraid to tease your partner.
I recommend you go to the well with some of the done-for-you texts
on a regular basis. Over time youll internalize the core structure Im
giving you and youll find it gets easier to make up your own romantic
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7. Im single. It seems like TRB is really written for folks in relationships. What do I do?
The first version of TRB was, indeed, aimed squarely at folks who were
married or coupled. Thats who I thought I was writing for. But over
time I discovered that a LOT of people who were buying the program
were divorced, single or dating and just wanted to bring romance back
into their LIVES (not into any specific relationship).
Thats why we added in some special stuff for folks who are dating or
single into the program.
That said, Id say MOST of the texts and text formulas in this manual
can be used VERY effectively with someone youre just dating.
Really quick, heres some dos and donts:
Curiosity Magnets - Great way to open a conversation with a new
love. No restrictions.
Appreciation texts - Be careful, Appreciation texts can come across
as WAY too strong to somebody you dont know that well. Save
these for when you know he or she has some emotional investment in you.
Sensual Compliments - Totally fair game for a new relationship.
Oh, and for the ladies reading: This stuff is INSANELY powerful
when used on guys. Most guys are NEVER objectified by a woman.
We want to be. I swear.
The Relationship Time Machine - Not really applicable with something new. See the section on texting when youre single for ideas
on how to use variations on the Relationship Time Machine.
Text Massage - Nuclear. Use it. Youll melt any woman you use
it on, and if you ARE a woman the man you use this on will be in
awe of you.
Digital Foreplay - GREAT for singles. Honestly, I perfected these
techniques when I was single myself.
Long Distance Love - Great way to keep in touch while that new
girl or guy is on a trip.
Bait Questions - AMAZING with a guy or woman youre just dating.
Guys in particular, USE THIS STUFF.
Got it? Good.
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8. What if my partner doesnt text?

OK, Ill let you in on a secret. . .
Its not the TEXTING that makes this stuff work =-).
I know, I know, shocking. Ive had many, many clients adapt the TRB
material to email, Skype and even face-to-face conversation with great
results. (Some of them even contributed testimonials at the very beginning of the manual.)

9. Mike, youre a scammer and I hate you.

I bought your program and used one of your
texts on my wife but she still wont forgive me
for cheating on her with her sister and her best
friend.
(This is a much edited and shortened version of an actual email I got.
You should see my inbox. Its crazy in there.)
Occasionally I do get emails from folks looking for a miracle text. . . that
one simple text thats going to save their marriage, change who that guy
or girl in their life is or help make those big fights fade away.
And honestly, while Im very good at what I do, theres no text in the
world that can immediately cause a woman (or a man) to forgive you for
cheating or some other major transgression.
Getting past that kind of betrayal takes time and effort and a lot of conversation and some actual penance for being a douchebag. (Douchebag
is a technical term.) That said, using some of the more connected concepts from TRB (like the Relationship Time Machine and Appreciation
texts) over time can really help a lot.
But if your relationship is in a real crisis, I really do recommend you go
to couples counseling and really try to talk things out.

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10. My guy is a workaholic who is gone 13

or 14 hours a day most days. Ive sent some
flirty texts, but he doesnt seem to get the hint
that I want him to come home early. How do I
make him pay attention?
Short version: You stop hinting and start seducing him.
Long version: If youre a woman, you probably already know that guys
arent the most subtle or perceptive creatures in the world and in your
kind of situation hinting is really just doing more harm than good.
Hes so distracted by work that hes just NEVER going to get the hint.
You need to be 100% explicit, bold and confident with your guy. Dont
make him read between the lines or read your mind (he wont). Just flat
out tell him what you want and tell him what you want him to do.
And even be a little dirty and direct about it.
So what I recommend is that you slowly start turning the heat up on
him during the day. . . (See the manual for how to do that. Text Massage
works great.)
And then hit him with something like. . .
You: The kids are gone, Im laying in bed with nothing on
but a smile, I wonder how fast you can get home so I can
$#$#$ your #$>$ out.
Yes, I know thats not romantic or coy, but sometimes you just need to
go for the jugular, especially with guys.

11. Ive sent my girlfriend a few of these texts,

and she always responds. But I wish she would
initiate sometimes. How can I get her to start
texting me?
Great question and one I get from a lot of women, as well (because they
want their guys to pursue them like love-struck hyenas).
A couple things.
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A. Oftentimes after using the system for a while, youll find that your
partner starts initiating texts all by themselves. Even though theyve
never seen the program, they absorb enough of the core concepts to
start really having fun with you over text.
B. If that doesnt happen (and it can take a few weeks) you can hint a
bit with leading texts. . .
What I mean by leading texts are you send texts that open the door
to her sending you something cool.
For instance. . . If you were here right now, what would you do?
She might just say something flighty, or she might actually take the
bait.
C. You could just ASK her to do it.
I know, I know, that seems impossible.
But if youre in an actual relationship with this woman this really shouldnt
be much to ask. Just say Hey, Ive been using this weird Text the Romance Back thing on you for the last couple weeks and youve really
seemed to like it. I want you to do the same thing for me.
A lot of couples actually buy TRB, print it up and then go through the
manual TOGETHER. Doing the I Like Myself Game or coming up with
the things you appreciate about your partner together can be a great
time.

12. Michael, Im a little hesitant in trying

your program at this time, as my boyfriend and
I are a little shaky. Would love to hear your
thoughts.
A little shaky is actually a great place to be when youre starting TRB.
Why? Because with TRB youve got enough of an emotional remove over
texting to be able to tell him how you really feel, hopefully without the
two of you getting all emotional and angry at each other.
Heres a couple quick texts you can send:
I know things are rough right now, but I hope you know how much I
love you.
I was just thinking about the first night we met. You were amazing. It
felt like there was a magnet in you drawing me right towards you. And
its still drawing me towards you no matter what.
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13. Mike, Ive read your stuff and a bunch of

stuff by other people. Most people tell me that
I need to let the man pursue me and I feel like
doing some of the stuff youre telling me would
make me the pursuer. What do I do?
Heres my counter question: do you think doing nothing is going to get
him to chase you in the first place?
Its true that men like to chase to a certain degree, and that a woman
coming on too strong can lead us to getting bored. But a guy needs to
know youre there to be chased and know that youre WORTH chasing
in the first place.
If you read the success stories at the beginning of the main manual,
you know this stuff has worked for a LOT of women. So trust it. Go
with it. Dont overthink it.

14. Im gay. Will TRB work for me?

Yup. Typically in gay relationships theres a more traditionally masculine and more traditionally feminine partner. Figure out which side of
that divide your partner is on and text away. Itll work really well =-).

15. Michael, Ive read your stuff but havent

used any of the material yet because Im afraid
of being rejected by my girlfriend. What do I
do?
I get a LOT of this kind of message and the TRB stuff CAN seem a bit
scary to folks who have been living in Romantic Siberia for a while.
This is one of the reasons I make you play the I Like Myself Game before
doing anything else.
Relationships and romance are supposed to be FUN. If youre with a
woman (or a guy) who totally refuses to PLAY with you romantically, to
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make you feel wonderful, to desire you. . . well, thats not really a relationship you should be in.
If you bought TRB, it means you want something thats been missing
from your relationships and from your life. And you DESERVE that romance. You deserve somebody who can be your lover and your partner,
not somebody whos constantly pushing you away. (Tangentially, I spent
three years in my mid twenties with a woman who constantly rejected
me and it took me years to get my self esteem back.)
Try the stuff. You might be shocked at the positive results. And if you
dont get the results you want, it might be time to find somebody else.

16. Michael, I love your stuff, but I dont

get my guy/gal to respond the way you write
things out in the manual. What do I do?
Unfortunately theres really no way to predict EXACTLY how any given
man or woman will respond.
But you know what? At least at first, it doesnt really MATTER how they
respond.
The key with great romantic texting (whether youre a man or a woman)
is to TAKE CONTROL of the situation and to LEAD your partner. (Ladies,
the best way to get your guy to chase you is to lead him first.)
That means that if you dont get the response you wanted at first, you
just move on.
I will say this: if your partner tries to hijack your texting by talking
about mundane stuff, or if (and this does unfortunately happen) they
treat you like youre being silly by doing this, you need to ignore them
and absolutely refuse to engage with them on the mundane stuff.
Over time, youll establish texting as a romantic channel where only fun
stuff happens.
And if they ultimately refuse to engage with your or refuse to play, you
need to have a serious talk with them about why theyre in this relationship.

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And thats that.

Have a question thats not answered here? Send an email to feedback@texttheromanceback.com and well try to cover it in a future edition of the manual. (Please keep your question as concise as possible.)
If you want to interact with me directly, the absolute best way is by going
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