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How to be

a great
coach
Video #3

By: Christy Whitman


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Vid #3 How to be a Great Coach

Hey, its Christy again from the Quantum Success Coaching Academy I hope youre loving the
series so far.
In the last video, we started building our solid foundation for becoming a coach and
hopefully youre excited about the possibilities and are starting to envision yourself living a life
of purpose, freedom and abundance.
If you didnt get a chance to watch that video yet, I would recommend going and watching it first.
Okay, so in this video were going to take it to the next level, and I am going to share with you
three things.
1. The Top Ten Attributes of Successful Coaches: What do you need to already have
and what can you develop in order to really succeed as a coach.
2. 4 Formulas for coaching effectively
Just learning these 4 formulas alone, will make you a more effective coach, so be sure
to pay attention and take notes if you like. As a matter of fact, below this video is a
PDF learning sheet that you can download and use to follow along if you like.
3. Finally, were going to talk about some very important distinctions about
coaching that will set you apart from all the rest.
Well discuss the difference between:
ww Being a Coach VS
ww Being a therapist VS
ww being a friend with good advice.
Look, its really easy to fall into the trap of feeling like a therapist or friend and Ill show you how
to always be a life coach for your clients and how to draw boundaries and keep them.
This is a key distinction that most new coaches fail to grasp and their businesses and clients
suffer from it.
So, if youre ready
Then lets get right to it.
First, what are the ten attributes of being a great coach?
Being a Coach means taking on a very skilled role. The International Coach Federation also
has a comprehensive list of core competencies which they believe must be met for someone to

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be called a Coach.
Coaching can be a very rewarding option for people. It is the ideal choice for people who:
1. Like to work with others
2. Desire to see people excel in their lives
3. Are prepared to let others do the talking
4. Have an open mind
5. Are creative in their thinking
6. Are prepared to be tough with people
7. Are prepared to be honest with people
8. Are enthusiastic and happy individuals
9. Have their lives well sorted in the areas they plan on coaching on.
10. Are interested in continuing to learn and grow

Ten Attributes of Successful Coaches


By the way, dont worry if youre not living this way in your life now, a lot of this can be learned
with proper coach training.
1. Have a strong sense of self, value themselves intrinsically, are confident and show up
authentically.
2. Willing to evolve and develop themselves.
3. Listen at the deepest levels, know how to filter out their own emotions, judgments and
conclusions.
4. Genuinely curious about people, have a healthy sense of humor and humility.
5. Live from high personal integrity, walk their talk, tell the truth, know how to get their
own needs met.
6. Open to, not attached to outcome, can make themselves blank for the clients agenda
and solutions to emerge.
7. Financially stable, think and act like an entrepreneur and business owner.
8. Balanced in life, have a strong support system.
9. Have good boundaries, knows that the client knows what is best for them.
10. Intuitive, courageous, creative, willing to take the chance of being wrong.
Like I said, dont worry if youre not living this way now. I will show you how to live this way in
your life and trust me, not only does your coaching grow to a new level your personal life will

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shift dramatically when you live this way everyday.


So the next thing I want to chat with you about is the four formulas for being a great coaching
tips:

Formula #1 - Authenticity
To be an effective coach, the very first thing you have to do is start from that authentic part of
who you are.
Your own inner being is your primary tool for being a great coach.
Your inner being is that non-physical part of you that old, wise part of you.
When I start a coaching session, before I get on a call, I dont prepare anything.
I dont say, Okay, Im going to talk to them about this process and that process. I connect with
myself. I connect with my own inner being.
That way, I put myself aside and allow my authentic being to show up and be the guide, be
thecoach.
Thats when you are going to be your best coach when youre coming from your authentic being.
Your own strengths and skills, your own life experience and your own intuitive sense are enough
to make you a phenomenal coach.
Consultants and therapists are the experts.
And that is something that I really want you all to understand that there is a distinct difference
between coaching and consulting, or even therapy.
One of the key distinctions is that coaches dont need to know more than their clients do.
Let me say that againYou dont need to know more than your clients do.
Coaching is about listening to and responding to your clients, rather than advising or fixing your
clients.
So many coaches think, I need to fix the client.
I need to make it all better for the client.
You dont have to. Its not a coachs job.
Thats a therapists job; thats a consultants job; thats a psychiatrists job.
Its not a coachs job.

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Formula #2 Powerful Questions


Asking powerful questions that lead the client to the answer.
The greatest thing you can do as a coach is to ask powerful questions, because its ultimately the
clients that have to come up with the answers.
It is easy to tell someone what to do, but it is a skill to be able to refrain from giving your advice
and ask questions of your clients so that they come to their own answers.
Whenever you give advice to a client, you are coming from your own perceptions, beliefs and
attitudes, and it may not be the right direction for the client.
But when you focus back on your clients by asking them powerful questions like:
Is that empowering or disempowering you?
They are able to turn the focus back on themselves, and go within and discover what is real and
true for them.
Powerful questions like:
What would your life look like if everything were working?
The clients get to go within and be creative, and decide what they want to create in their own
lives.
You, as a coach, get to support that vision instead of creating the vision for them.
Let the clients do all the work.

Formula #3 Focus on the client


The focus must be on the client, rather than on solving his/her problem.
So many times we go in and try to think of how we can fix the client.
Instead, you must focus on the client.
Im sure you have been in a situation where youre trying to tell someone something, and
theyre not really listening to you because theyre in their minds thinking of how theyre going
to respond to what youre saying, or how they are going to fix your problem, and so theyre not
deeply listening.
When that happens, you miss out on so many opportunities as a coach because youre not
focused on what the client is saying.

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With coaching, its really important to:


1. Listen to what the client is saying, but also
2. Feel the vibration
I know youve experienced this what it feels like when people are in a really high vibratoryplace
Theyre excited about something; theyre describing something that excites them.
Their energy is really high.
But then they might say,
I really want to sell my house, but this real estate agent I have is just horrible, and she cant
seem to get . . .
Their energy drops.
You can feel the difference between high and low energy.
And as a coach, thats where you need to be actively listening. You need to be really intuitive.
I dont mean that you have to be psychic or anything
I mean that you have to listen to what they are saying, and get really connected to their energy
level as well.
When did this client dip?
Why did this client dip?
The answers to these questions can help you illuminate for your clients what theyre saying
that made their energy drop.
Its not your job as a coach to fix the client.
Please, please, please get that!
Its not your job to fix the client.
Your clients have all the answers within themselves.
A good coach reminds their clients of their own infinite wisdom, helps them see from a different
perspective, and helps them come to their own conclusions and solutions.
So your job as a coach is to hold your clients in a very safe space and see the higher visions of
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See them already being that success that they want.


See them being those worthy and deserving people that maybe they dont feel that they are.
Hold them in that higher light.
And when your clients then come to their own conclusions, theres a bigger impact and a bigger
energy shift.
I have to tell you, there are so many times when I work with clients, that Ill know immediately
what the issue is for them because Ive been doing this for a long time.
And I can easily say to clients,
Well I know what it is for you you just dont feel like youre enough, or you dont feel like
youre deserving, or maybe you are trying to make up for XYZ.
I can say those things, and clients will say, Yeah, right, yeah.
But its not as impactful as when clients come to those conclusions themselves
When they get it themselves, theres a huge energy shift and thats when a big impact happens.
Its so much easier when we come to the conclusions ourselves than when somebody just tells
us.
So thats what youre doing as a coach, and thats why its so exciting!
This also allows your clients to take personal responsibility because the solutions were their
ideas, and there is accountability. And with that accountability, your clients are able to get closer
to their goals.
So when you tell your clients,
This is what I want you to do: I want you to start writing out six times a day the different things
that you need to do for your business to move you forward.
Your clients will most likely agree to that, but they wont stick to it because they didnt essentially
come up with the solution themselves.
Let me explain:
I, myself, am like a lot of people where
if you tell me what to do and I dont want to do it, I dig my heels in.
Dont tell me what to do!

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If I come to my own conclusion, such as:


I really need to take a step forward, like a quantum leap in my business, and I really need to take
some action
Then Ill do it.
So, the coach could say,
Hey, I have an easy process that would really help you in your business can I tell you aboutit?
Id naturally respond with, Sure, Id love to hear it!
Im now receptive and willing to do what the coach asks of me, because ultimately, it was my
idea to make some upgrades in my business.
So remember, you are not there to fix your clients.
Okay, on to the final formula

Formula #4 Being NOT Doing


This one pulls the first 3 together into a complete formula for success.
Any endeavor is accomplished more easily and effectively when your focus is on being rather
than doing. I mean you are a human being not a human doing. You may be trying to do all the
right things, but if you are not being yourself you wont make an impact.
Consider the powerful result when you shift your focus from doing to being.
Doing coaching:
ww trying to solve your clients problems for them
ww creating the goals for your client
ww Giving you clients advice
ww thinking about what your going to say next
ww struggling to tell people about your coaching
ww trying to manipulate clients to hire you
ww being attached to outcome
ww feeling overwhelmed with the process

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Being a coach:
ww Being with your client
ww Listening to your client
ww Giving sample sessions
ww being authentic
ww being open to outcome
ww trusting its working
ww holding the vision for your client
ww helping clients have a total vision of their lives instead of tunnel vision
Being an effective coach is much easier when you are being a coach instead of doing coaching.
Your authentic part of who you are is always present and available to the client when you are
being rather than doing. That is when coaching is not only effective, but fun.
So remember,
You are there to:
ww Create a safe space
ww Ask powerful questions
ww Listen to them
ww Guide them in creating their own solutions
ww BE their coach
If you follow these simple steps, your clients will:
ww See amazing results in their lives
ww Continue to want to be coached
ww Love you
ww And refer you to all of their friends
Okay, now lets talk about some very important distinctions for being a successful life coach vs
being a therapist, friend, consultant, or even supportive spouse.

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Coach vs Therapist/Psychiatrist
ww Both relationships develop over time
ww Confidentiality is critical in both
ww The needs and wants of the client are the focus for both
ww There are professional ethics and standards for both
There are some additional important distinctions:
ww Coaching is not appropriate as front- line support for individuals suffering from
chronic depression, anxiety, neuroses or addictions.
ww Coaching clients are well individuals who have generally accepted their pasts and
have full focus on their present and future.
ww They are individuals who take responsibility, and they will benefit from accountability.
ww Therapists and psychiatrists work with clients who need professional help to work
towards healing, recovery and issue resolution.
ww Coaches work with clients who want a detached partner to help them evolve and
enhance theirlives.
Therapists are experts in medical and behavioral sciences, and they are trained to treat
diagnosable conditions like:
ww Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
ww Addiction
ww Depression
ww Bipolar Disorder
ww Other conditions
Coaches see their clients brilliance, strengths, and areas that are in need of improvement. They
are trained to support their clients as they achieve certain desired outcomes.
Therapists are required to keep their personal feelings and thoughts removed.
Coaches use personal disclosure as a tool to help and challenge their clients.

Coach vs Friend
Whats the difference between being a coach and being a friend?
A coach holds their clients accountable for what they want to create and achieve in their lives.
As a friend, it is great to support one another, but when you try to hold a friend accountable it
can bring problems to the relationship.
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I suggest to my coaches that they coach friends only if it is a clean relationship.


Meaning the friend is coachable and looking for the role of a coach, not just another friend to
listen to his or her problems and give advice.

Coaching is NOT advice-giving.

Coaching is getting clients in touch with their own inner wisdom and power so they can
determine the right steps to take in their own lives.
Coaches dont give advice, whereas friends do.

Coach vs Supportive Spouse


Whats the difference between being a coach and being a supportive husband or wife?
As a husband or wife, it is hard to have a different perspective and to stay objective because you
are emotionally involved.
I dont coach my husband because it can cross too many boundaries.
I am there to support my husband and encourage him, but taking him through processes and
exercises becomes work instead of just being supportive.
It is very similar to being a friend.
The wife/husband usually does not want his or her wife/husband to give advice.

Coach vs Consultant
Whats the difference between being a coach and being a consultant?
Consultants advise their clients about how to solve problems.
They say This is what you do and this is how you do it. This is the next step you have to take.
Coaches guide their clients to their own solutions by asking powerful questions so that the
clients allow their inner wisdom to come to the right solution for them.
Consultants are focused on results and what they can measure. They are hired to produce a
certain outcome.
Coaches are hired to support their clients as they achieve certain outcomes.
So, What kind of training do you need be a great coach?

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Coaches come from a wide variety of backgrounds including:


ww Corporate

ww Law

ww Education

ww Health care

ww Consulting

ww And others

ww Communications
There are as many types of coaches as there are people.
You already know much of what is required to be good at coaching.
This is where your life experience, business expertise, and people skills count for something.
You might think that it is too late to start a new career, but the beauty about being a coach is
that you can take your current skills and knowledge and put that into your coaching business.
We have many examples of students with very different backgrounds and took their past skills
and brought that into their successful coaching practices. (Julie was a high school teacher and
is now coaching parents and teens. I was a sales training manager and used those skills to create
group coaching programs. Mary was a real estate sales person and now coaches real estate
professionals.) The possibilities are endless and your current life experiences allow you to be
an amazing coach.
There are presently no formal requirements to be a coach and there is no government entity
federal or state that requires you to be licensed.
While no official guidelines exist, the profession is strong on self-governance and on maintaining
high ethical standards.
Formal education, such as college or graduate school, is helpful but NOT necessary.
Coach training, however, is essential in positioning yourself as a professional.
It also proves critical in your success as a practitioner in the business of coaching.
Certification is not required in order to begin coaching clients for a fee. Good training, however,
will show you multiple ways of engaging people in positive experiences that show you at your
best. Remember, what prospects and clients care about most is what you can do for them.
Getting a certification should not be just about the certificate you receive, but the proper training
in order to be effective as a coach with each client in every session that you have.
Some individual training organization and associations offer their own certifications. Each
varyin terms of time, fees, and examinations required.

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For some programs it can take years and quite an investment to get all the pieces in place.
Be sure the program you choose feels like the right fit for you.
Chances are you already know a great deal of what it takes to be a good coach.
There is also an equally good chance that there are some things that will hold you back, or stop
you altogether, without the proper instruction.
Consider a training program like the QSCA our next semester opens for registration nextweek.
Thats it for todays lesson and I hope you enjoyed it.
Lets review what we learned today. You learned:
1. The Top Ten Attributes of Successful Coaches: What do you need to already have
andwhat can you develop in order to really succeed as a coach
2. 4 Formulas for coaching effectively
3. Finally, we talked about some very important distinctions for being a successful
lifecoach.
Listen, Im committed to you creating an amazing coaching business and in the next video, were
going to talk about one of the most important steps to doing that.
Im going to share with you the secrets to getting your first client and finding clients that are
willing to pay you top dollar for your services.
You definitely want to see this next video. I promise.
As always, I would love your feedback below and I would love to know
What is the single biggest insight you got from this video and how this affected you?
Thanks for watching and Ill see you again in a couple days.

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