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How This Conflict Resolution
Presentation Should Be Used (1)
Most adults consider ourselves to be very rational
and intelligent.
intelligent. However although many of us
may have good IQ (Intelligence Quotient),
Quotient), a vast
majority have poor EQ (Emotional Quotient) and
are unable to express ourselves and handle
relationships with other people satisfactorily the
moment we are under emotional tension or stress
stress..
Then we become a liability to all who are
unfortunate enough to be near us
us..
.. Is there hope?
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How This Conflict Resolution
Presentation Should Be Used (2)
One primary reason for this is that we *fail to
realize* that once emotions overcome us us,, it
is then very, very hard for us to think and
act rationally
rationally.. Therefore, when we first
read these guidelines, we’ll probably think
them to be too simple or just common
sense..
sense But wait a moment! “Common
Sense Ain’t So Common When We’re
Upset!” And it’s not a licence to hurt
others, physically or emotionally either!
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How This Conflict Resolution
Presentation Should Be Used (3)
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How This Conflict Resolution
Presentation Should Be Used (4)
Is there a relationship?
Working Personal
Both?
Relationship? Relationship?
Is it mutual?
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The Billion Dollar Question
Is it mutual?
A relationship DOES exist
ONLY IF it is Mutual
Mutual..
Not otherwise!!
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The Billion Dollar Question
Is it mutual?
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The Billion Dollar Question: Is it mutual
mutual?
?
This concept is the heart of this Conflict Resolution system – please deliberate upon it deeply
deeply..
Question A
(A1) Do I really respect that person?
OR
OR
Do I want to terminate my
Do I want to begin a relationship Do I want to continue/modify a
relationship with that
with that person? relationship with that person
person?
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The Billion Dollar Question: Is it mutual
mutual?
?
This concept is the heart of this Conflict Resolution system – please deliberate upon it deeply
deeply..
Question B
(B1) Does that person really respect me?
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The Billion Dollar Question: Is it mutual
mutual?
?
This concept is the heart of this Conflict Resolution system – please deliberate upon it deeply
deeply..
If a MUTUAL relationship
is thus established,
then only does the question
of Conflict Resolution arise.
Only then should any action
be carefully taken…
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The Billion Dollar Question: Is it mutual
mutual?
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The Billion Dollar Question Is it mutual
mutual?
?
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< Sub-
Sub-Point > Illusory ‘mass
‘mass opinon’
opinon’ ?
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Well-known Nigerian
Well-
Car Bumper Sticker:
LET TH
THEM SAY!
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The Billion Dollar Question Is it mutual
mutual?
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The Billion Dollar Question Is it mutual
mutual?
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The Billion Dollar Question Is it mutual
mutual?
?
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As a matter of interest….
(According to ancient Vaishnava
philosophy, all loving relationships
must always have Krishna (God)
in the centre of the relationship.
Then the relationships will always be
pure and will even continue life after
life.)
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The Billion Dollar Question Is it mutual
mutual?
?
And if there’s
no (mutual) relationship
then there’s absolutely
no problem!
problem! >>>
What does that mean?
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If the answer is NO to Either
Question (A) or Question (B),
then no relationship exists.
What do I do in that case?
There’s NOTHING to do, so far as
Resolving the conflict goes – there is
NO relationship existing! Under NO
circumstances should you confront the
other party about this issue, nor behave
badly towards them
them..
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If the answer is NO to Either Question (a) or
Question (b), then no relationship exists.
What do I do in that case?
“Success Is Relative?”
More Success
Success……………
…………… /…
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…… =
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…More
Relatives!!
Relatives
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If you have two relationships
with the same person, do
remember to deal with
each relationship
SEPARATELY –
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– you may have to help the
other party to become
mature enough to do this.
Otherwise one of the two
relationships must be
terminated.
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ReLaTiOnShIpS
How DO they happen?
Establishing Bonds (Commitment)
Cultivating The Relationship (Ground
Rules)
Maintaining It (Quality
time/communication + Conflict
Management). Some useful skills to
think about:
Good Communication Skills & Principles
Giving up gossip
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ReLaTiOnShIpS
How DO they happen?
Listening Skills
Anger Management
Solving All Problems Immediately
How to Find Peace
The Nasty Letter + 3 Days
Handling Our Negative Emotions
Objectively
Terminating It (Resume civil cordiality)
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ReLaTiOnShIpS
How DO they happen?
To build on a relationship
and resolve conflicts, there must be
GOOD COMMUNICATION based on:
1. Trust
2. Honesty
3. Expression of Feelings
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ESTABLISHING A RELATIONSHIP 01
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ESTABLISHING A RELATIONSHIP 05
Terminate all unnecessary relationships –
life is too short for unnecessary
conflicts. Don’t expect everyone to be a
dear friend. Treat them as acquaintances.
Give all respect and honour but don’t
expect any in return. You’ll be happy if
they do recognize you, but don’t live for
that! If by the end of our life we may
have even 5 intimate friends, we are
fortunate. Enter & Cultivate relationships
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ESTABLISHING A RELATIONSHIP 06
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
Ground Rules (confidentiality & trust 04
04))
Guiding words
words::
‘I am not put in this world
to please you,
and you are not put in this world
to please me.
I am Me
Me;; and you are You
You;;
and if, by CHOICE [not by chance],
we find each other, then it is beautiful.’
– Author not known.
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
Ground Rules
(confidentiality & trust 05
05))
c. Assure the each other of privacy and of not
discussing this issue with any third party.
party.
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
Ground Rules
(confidentiality & trust 06
06))
e. Agree to never use harsh tones or hurting words and to be
silent when overcome by anger
anger.. (But don’t give in to using
silence as a weapon!! Constantly check ourselves – don’t
give in to darker forces
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TERMINATING THE RELATIONSHIP
(confidentiality & trust 07
07))
g. Finally, even if, in the worst-
worst-case scenario, the
relationship has to be ended
ended,, that both parties
WILL make efforts to resolve it entirely &
amicably,, leaving no loose ends whatsoever
amicably whatsoever..
The test of such an end will be that no ill ill--will
nor pain should remain at all on either part,
and if in future, circumstances happen to bring
both in contact, there should be no ‘jumping
feelings’ in the heart,
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TERMINATING THE RELATIONSHIP
(confidentiality & trust 08
08))
g. but rather natural, spontaneous and genuinely
cordial exchange of greetings, as we do with
all our other acquaintances
acquaintances.. Another way of
saying this is
is:: When a friendship is ended, it
must lovingly be downgraded to the status of
a pleasant acquaintanceship,
acquaintanceship, and definitely not
to ENEMY status
status.. If some ex- ex-friend is an
enemy now, this indicates gross immaturity on
either or both parts, or that the relationship
was never fully mutual in the first place
place..
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
(confidentiality & trust 09
09))
THE {UGLY} GOSSIP FACTOR
h. Most people in this morbid material world ARE
gossip.. However, they tend to be
GUILTY of gossip
able to identify it for what it is (as gossip)
ONLY when they happen to find themselves
the wretched victim of it! Otherwise, they
think it’s just interesting news and freely
propagate it, not knowing if it’s true nor how
damaging it may be.
be.
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
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10))
THE {UGLY} GOSSIP FACTOR
h. Therefore, in keeping with the gospel of “Do
unto others as you would like others to do
unto you”, please discipline your tongue with
the following broad DEFINITION OF
GOSSIP and never, never indulge in such
ugliness..
ugliness Always uphold justice and
righteousness and you will not bring suffering
to yourself or to others
others.. The world will be a
better place!
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
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GOSSIP DEFINED
“Neither hear
hear,, contemplate nor repeat
any piece of information
about any other person (especially if that person
is a friend of yours),
REGARDLESS OF WHETHER OR NOT
THAT INFORMATION
IS SUPPOSED TO BE VERIFIED,
if it is about a subject or issue that
does not involve you directly.”
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CULTIVATING THE RELATIONSHIP
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GOSSIP DEFINED
Cut the informant off and ask, “Excuse me, but
how does this concern you or me?
If we are not involved, then
kindly let me not be party to this gossip
gossip..
If you feel concerned about it,
please go and reveal your mind directly
to the persons concerned and lay the matter to rest.”
{ This is a 100%-
100%-Guaranteed party-
party-pooper
– kills ALL gossip instantly. }
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SKILLS HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE (1)
Learn how to find PEACE.
PEACE. Without finding peace internally,
one cannot resolve any conflict with others. others. (For those
familiar with the Bhagavad Gita, it’s ‘Peace Slokas’ - 5.29 29,,
2.66
66,, 2.70
70--71
71,, 4.39
39,, 5.12
12,, 6.15,
15, 9.31
31,, 12
12..12 & 18
18..62
62)):
1ST Cut out sense stimuli – the body then becomes still,
peaceful
2nd How to then still the mind? – recite mantra [manasa
trayate iti mantra – short repititve spiritual prayer which
frees the mind from all thoughts and material influence]
3rd Deflect mind to God [His Names, Forms, Qualities,
Pastimes, Entourage etc.
etc.] & to the higher principles
operating behind the scenes under His direction
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SKILLS HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE (2)
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SKILLS
HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE (3)
An Exercise in Self Realization
Where does peace lie?
Is it in Cameron Highlands?
Can you imagine feeling very disturbed
even in a serene place like Camerons?
How many here have ever experienced
feeling very lonely while in the midst of
a crowd?
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SKILLS
HOW TO ATTAIN PEACE (3)
An Exercise in Self Realization
How many of us here have ever
experienced feeling deep peace in a noisy
place?
What does all this prove?
Where then does peace lie?
And what about happiness? Who can
define that? [4 platforms of consciousness
– 4 levels of reality – 4 corresponding types
of pleasure]
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HOW OBJECTIVELY HANDLE –ve EMOTIONS
Learn how to open up, how to find PEACE
within yourself.
yourself. Learn to air your
feelings in privacy, at the right time and
place.. (You must select a qualified
place
‘Sounding Board’ [see next slide] or
else…
else … trouble
trouble……!)
!)..
After calming your feelings, learn how to
analyze your own conduct without
blaming or hating yourself.
yourself. Separate
your thoughts from your feelings.
feelings.
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SKILLS
HOW OBJECTIVELY HANDLE –ve EMOTIONS
Select
a neutral party, who’s strong enough
not to take sides
He must not judge any party involved
He
must be sworn to confidentiality
He must not give any advice while you are
trying to come to terms with your own
feelings – it can be given later, if or when
asked for. i.e. he must know that the speaker
himself is the only important listener, and that
he, the ‘sounding board’ is merely a catalyst.
Any word spoken prematurely could cause
great pain or further damage.
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Interim Measure:
SKILLS
THE NASTY LETTER + 3 DAYS
= SOUND MENTAL HEALTH
&
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
IF YOU ARE ANGRY
ANGRY:: PLEASE BE INTELLIGENT! SKILLS
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
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ANGER MANAGEMENT
IF YOU ARE ANGRY
ANGRY:: PLEASE BE INTELLIGENT! SKILLS
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
3. Decide now
now,, while cool-
cool-headed: vow to
be sil ent every time we detect anger
beginning to surge in us.
4. Shut up. Excuse ourselves humbly. Go
work on it. Let it out somewhere else if
you have to.
5. Be honest with yourself: acknowledge
anger when it’s there.
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A TIP FOR GOOD
SKILLS
COMMUNICATION
ALL ‘PROBLEMS’ CAN BE SOLVED IMMEDIATELY
IMMEDIATELY!!
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ANGER MANAGEMENT (3) SKILLS
GUIDING WORDS
(if you hold on to them now, they’ll be very helpful to
clear your mind when your deep in some conflict.)
1. “Don’t wear your heart on your sleeve”… or you’ll
hurt yourself… Hide it and open up at the right place
and time with the right person. (& close up again when done.)
2. Don’t ever become a pretender – remember the
saying: “Above All Else, To Thine Ownself Be True.”
3. If you’ve been hurt by a friend, do be honest – you
must let him know in good time.. if not, the
relationship will not grow… problems in a
relationship are like mountains that must be crossed,
to bring us to a higher plateau – it’s natural in the
growth of loving relationships.
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ANGER MANAGEMENT (4)
SKILLS
more guiding words
4. Sometimes we hurt our beloved ones unknowingly
unknowingly..
Sometimes we do so knowingly or subconsciously.
subconsciously.
Why would we want to do that? Because we need
us:: If they
to test and find out if they still care for us
do care, they will get hurt – not otherwise
otherwise.. It helps
us to trust that person more and to overcome our
insecurities at being exposed to potential
person.. (Take care not
exploitation or hurt by that person
to be manipulative though!!)
5. Love brings with it expectation.
expectation. Expectation of
gentleness, of reciprocation
reciprocation.. Do not expect any
honour or reciprocation where mutual relationship
does not exist
exist…
…
6. {Pure Love exists only with God..
God.. See ‘trnad api
api…
…’ }
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START CONFLICT RESOLUTION IN PERSONAL & WORKING RELATIONSHIPS
HERE
Acknowledge Identify All
Are there any
Introspect & Admit Elements
relationships
Existence of & Incidents
involved?
Problem involved Ask Qn. (a)
As Early As &
Possible If ‘NO’, take Qn. (b)
Go let it out remedial
He must be with a measures
‘a sounding board’ loving friend If ‘YES’
Then
go
around Don’t sweep Deal with
one Anything each one
Don’t judge What type?
more Under separately
yourself Personal
time The carpet!
or your Or Working
Face it each
feelings Or Both?
time it
comes back
1st deal with
Separate your emotions,
Use the ‘Solve Write the your thoughts then ensure
All Problems ‘Nasty Letter’ from your your own
Immediately ’formula then sit tight… feelings objectivity
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