Tejero and His Ladies

The Story of Tejero and his AfroAm, EuroAm and MexAm Ladies in
Polygyny
Names and places have been changed to protect the guilty and the innocent,
the screw ups and his victims, in an effort to practice Romans 14 polygyny.
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By Tyler
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I have known Tejero for a very long time, and I still can bring myself to
speak to him and pray for him. He means well but he really needs the
Lord's help since he messes up so often. Tejero has not had a very good
track record as a polygynist, especially as a Christian polygynist. In fact
Tejero hasn't been very successful maritally, but the Lord Jesus seems to
have him under construction (Hebrews 13:20,21) so he seems to be learning
how to be a better husband as time goes on. It has not been an easy road for
his ladies. Tejero was so screwed up when he married his smart and
incredibly beautiful AfroAm Lady L. With his head still screwed up from the
sexual abuse he experienced in his early childhood, still burdened down
with the heavy load of feeling inferior, inadequate, fear of failure, and an
unhealthy load of self-contempt and disrespect, he marries this awesome
and world class Lady L. Tejero and L considered polygyny by including P
who had brought them together, but Tejero's and Lady L's marriage
collapsed into tragedy before that could happen. When Lady L became so
depressed that she became suicidal, her parents came and got her, and
helped her divorce Tejero. 12 years later she died tragically in her childhood
bed in her parent's house.The story of the tragedy is at the end of this
document.
Then there was Lady E, courted at age 18 by 29 year old Tejero, married to
Tejero at age 19 and pregnant within two weeks of the wedding. Tejero was
still pretty screwed up but after his tragic experience with Lady L he was
driven to an incredibly miraculous experience with Jesus during a time of
prayer and fasting and he learned that no matter how he felt or what he
thought of himself, the most important thing for him to do as husband and
father was to really Love his wife and children. He determined to Love them
that way to the best of his ability, and called on Jesus to enable him to Love
in Jesus' Way.
***1 Cor 13:4 Love<26> has long patience, is kind; love is not
emulous/envious; love is not boastful, insolent and rash; is not arrogant,
puffed up or conceited, 5 does not behave in an ungodly manner; does not
seek its own or insist on its own way; is not irritable, easily exasperated or
provoked; is not resentful and does not keep a record of wrongs or take
account of evil, 6 does not rejoice at iniquity/unrighteousness/wrongdoing
but rejoices with the truth, 7 [God/LOVE] always/daily, thoroughly and
patiently<3956> endures<4722>; always/daily thoroughly<3956> believes,
hopes thoroughly always/daily<3956>, always/daily thoroughly and
patiently remains, perseveres, and abides<3956>. 8
God/LOVE/affection/benevolence never drops away, never is driven out,
never fails, falls away or becomes ineffective<1601>; but whether
prophecies, they shall be done away; or tongues, they shall cease; or
knowledge, it shall be done away. . . . .
13 And now faith, hope, God/LOVE <26> remains, abides, continues,
endures and is present<3306>; and the greatest of these is LOVE<26>.
Well Tejero still had the monkeys on his back but he was learning how to
deal with them, by the grace and interventions of God. Tejero has a terrible
history of straying from the Master and His flock when he doesn't pray as
he ought, and that straying includes stinking thinking. Well Tejero got it
into his head that he was under Deut 22 and 1 Cor 7 command to marry any
free-to-marry woman that he had breast contact with, even if it was no
more than a hug or an accidental brush by. Well one night when in
Inglewood he was walking home in the dark after checking on his stored
car, and he found a hopelessly drunk and helpless woman at a bus stop. He
felt he couldn't just leave her there because she could be greatly abused or
even killed by an evil doer who might come by. So Tejero called a cab and
got her to her house. Since she couldn't walk by herself, Tejero had to hold
her up and often carry her.
In the process of doing that he accidentally or unavoidably pressed her
breasts. Tejero, with his stinking thinking, thought that he was under
command to marry her if she was free to marry. Well he wrote Sincere
Greene and told her that. Sincere liked the sound of that and decided to join
Lady E with Tejero in Christian polygyny. Lady E had given birth to their
first child recently and the though of Sincere joining the family was greatly
distressing, but Lady E was now a mother and hopelessly committed to
Tejero so even though it grieved her deeply, she cooperated and even did
her best to make Sincere feel welcome and at home. But when she was
alone in her bed and Tejero was with Sincere at night, especially when
Sincere and Tejero were having sex, she cried and cried long and silently.
Sincere was a sweet, kind and thoughtful person and when she saw the
sorrow and grief in Lady E's eyes as she tried to make Sincere feel welcome,
she decided that she couldn't cause that much grief, told Tejero she just
couldn't bear doing that to Lady E and returned to her Inglewood home.
Tejero and Lady E have often wondered if he has a child somewhere in
California by Sincere.
++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++
Lady E left Tejero after 15 years and three children. I knew there was no
hope of reconciliation.
Tejero was floundering emotionally and spiritually and very horny as usual.
One day at the Linda Vista supermarket he met Lua Nguyen, a single
mother refugee from Viet Nam. Their relationship grew from courtship to
commitment and they became marital and Tejero was thinking of moving
in with Lua. Lua confided in Tejero that when she was in the refugee camp
that she had to prostitute herself to get food for her and her children, that
she had been with over 100 men. Tejero figured the past was the past and
not an issue for them. Later Lua told Tejero that she didn't believe Jesus
and the Bible because Jesus didn't answer her prayers. She threw her Bible
in the trash. Later Tejero discovered that she was having sex with another
man and walked away from the relationship. Tejero was a mess
emotionally, financially and spiritually.
During a wonderful divorce recovery group series Tejero met wonderful DT

and fell madly in love with her. They committed to each other maritally and
had some very hot marital sex. Then she put him in a situation where he
had to choose between being with her or being with his AfroAm-EuroAm
daughters for Thanksgiving and Christmas, because her dad was a racist
bigot. He chose his daughters and they broke up and reconciled two very
painful times. He couldn’t do it a third time because the emotion of the
anguish and agony of breaking up with her affected his mind so badly he
felt he was going to lose control of his mind. He fled from what he thought
could destroy him, his grief over having to choose between a woman he
loved with all of his being, and his beloved daughters who mean more to
him than his own life. She was trying to force him to choose between her
and them and the struggle was more than he could bear ---- so he fled. She
went on an married another. As far as Tejero knows, he might still be
maritally bound to her, but he put that possibility in the Lord's hands and
asked Him to deal with it and make it all right.
Tejero called out to Jesus because he was so incredibly horny he knew he

was under the 1 Cor. 7:1,2,3,5,9 commands to marry and he had just fled
from the woman he thought He would be married to for the rest of his life.
He called out to Father and admitted to Him that he had failed miserably in
choosing his own lovers and wives, that he wanted and needed to obey His
command to marry, that he would marry whoever He chose and he asked
Him to bring together both himself and the lady he should marry.
Weeks later, while at his easy and comfortable teaching job, he found
himself with nothing really important to do that day and found himself
under compulsion to call the district office to see if they needed a substitute
teacher anywhere. His supervisor and peers thought he should stay and
have an easy day, but he couldn't rest and have peace of mind until they
called to see if a sub was needed somewhere.
Finally they gave in, called and found that just then a school in the ghetto
was in desperate need of a substitute since the regular teacher couldn't
finish the day. Tejero landed up being there for three days. In another class
there open shouting, insulting and reviling had broken out between the
teacher, the students and the parents. They let the teacher go, and asked
him to take her class for the rest of the year. He accepted. These events
were not by luck or accident, but were being worked by Him who works all
according to the counsel of His own will (Eph 1:11).
A couple of weeks later it was time for his class to spend a week in the Lab
class. He took his class as scheduled and met the teacher of the Lab class.
He thought she was a pretty cute little Irish Canadian, tried to make
conversation with her even though he knew she wasn't his type, and found
her to be totally uninterested. He learned later that she thought he was a
fat, balding and old man who wore polyester priest pants (she was raised
Catholic). Since she didn't respond, he figured he had done his duty of wife
hunting for the day and went on about his business. Sometime later that
period he passed by her desk again while supervising his class and she
asked him where he had taught. He told her he had been teaching at
Christian schools. She had been recently born again in Christ and was open
to dating Christian men, few and far between though they be, so she opened
a conversation with him. He invited her to go to church with him because
he had found that a good way to weed out the unacceptable marital
prospects.
During that same time his wife hunting had involved a very sweet and
lovely MexAm lady, a teacher, but after they had dinner together she had
told him that she had already given her heart to another but thanked me for
considering her for marriage. God had closed the door. He had made a date
to walk the moonlight surf line at the local beaches with another, a nurse,
but at the last minute she told him she was called in to work that weekend
and would not be able to walk the beach with him. Another closed door.
Father does a great job of shepherding his kids.
So that left Lady W and their church date. She and her daughter met Tejero
at church that Sunday and they enjoyed the service together. They began to
talk frequently on the phone. He decided to do his best to discourage her by
telling her all his problems, that he was searching in his horniness for his
Rebekah at the well who would become his wife and have hot sex at least
three times a week, that his mother was into seances, Ouija board,
astrology, reincarnation; that his brother was a practicing New Age
sorcerer/channeler with his own personal demon ("spirit guide"); about his
sister's outrageous conduct as an airline stewardess dating her flight
contacts; and about his three AfroAm-IndiAm-EuroAm daughters. After
two weeks of going to church with him and hearing his testimonies and all
about his crazy and complicated family members, she decided she would
give him the Dear John "Thanks, but no thanks" deal the following Sunday
after church.
So they met at church again and were enjoying the praise and worship. She
was planning on how to break the word to him after church, but had really
got into the service. As they stood to praise and worship the Lord, she had
put her hands on the back of the seat in front of her. He affectionately
reached over and put his hand gently on her hand, and noticed an
emotional reaction, her eyes opening wide and the hair on her arms
standing up straight. He didn't find out til after the service, but when he put
his hand on her hand her whole body felt like it had been electrically
shocked, her body hair stood up and she got goose bumps and heard a
strong and powerful voice tell her, "You chose your first husband. This is
the husband I have chosen for you." Her mouth dropped open in wonder
and amazement. Tejero thought she was just deeply moved by the worship.
After service He walked her out to her car. Just before she stepped off of the
curb to get into her car, she turned to him and said, "I'll be your Rebekah.
I'll be your wife." He was dumbfounded and amazed, mouth hanging open
in shocked surprise. They hadn't even known each other and been dating
for more than a month. She was tickled with his response and drove off
with a big smile on her face. He felt he had stepped into a time warp. The
world seemed muted, distant and in a haze. In this trance like state of
shock, amazement and wonder he finally found his way back to his car, sat
down and tried to understand the meaning of what had just happened.
They were engaged a month later after a very unusual exchange in the
parking lot outside the restaurant in a Fashion Valley parking lot. In the
restaurant they were discussing becoming engaged. After they finished
eating and they were in the parking lot in that moonlit night, He told her
that there was one more obstacle to their becoming engaged. He told her
that since he was a genuine Jesus believer, and if Lady E was a genuine
Jesus believer, that he was maritally bound to her for life, until death ends
their marital bond (Mark 10:1-12; Rom 7:1-3; 1 Cor 7:10,11,39). He told her
that if Lady E was genuinely saved it would be adultery for him to maritally
repudiate Lady E to marry her (Mat 5:32; 19:1-19; Mark 10:1-12). He knew
that polygyny (one man with more than one wife informally, unofficially,
privately and discretely) was not sin and was legislated by Jehovah-Jesus in
Ex 21:7-11; and Deut 21:15-17. He knew that God never portrays Himself as
sin or as a sinner and that God can't sin, so when He described Himself as
having two wives in Ezek 23, he knew God did not consider polygyny to be
sin. He knew that USA, state and federal laws (Rom 13) allowed a man to
practice polygyny as long as he did it informally, unofficially, privately and
discretely, as in Rom 14:20-23. Lady E agreed to let him formally and
officially divorce her since she didn't want to be married to him anymore,
and he was careful to make it clear to Lady E that the divorce in no way
ended or voided their marital covenant or bond. If she ever wanted to be his
wife again he would readily accept her back, but she would have to share
him with Lady W. He told W the only way they could marry was if he was
careful not to maritally repudiate my marital bond with E, and that he
would have to accept E back maritally if she ever wanted to be reconciled
and reunited with me -- in polygyny.
W said she had to think about it, so she did so in complete silence for five
minutes in his arms. It was a beautiful clear and moon lit night, but those
were very tense five minutes. Finally she told him she would marry him
anyway, because she was quite sure E would never want to be his wife
again. They became formally engaged.
Feeling guilt about having fled from Lady DT without any explanation or
word, Tejero went to her house to try to explain what had happened and
apologize for no word or explanation. They landed up having their hot sex
which thoroughly confused both since he was now engaged to Lady W and
Lady DT had no desire to share him with Lady W. That was the last time
they saw each other. Lady W was seriously tempted to break off the
engagement and dump Tejero, but after a couple of weeks and being
assured Lady DT was out of the picture at last, she was reconciled to Tejero.
From that point on they had a glorious courtship and wedding.
Lady W became his wife and after five years kicked T out for turning her
son in for flagrant and persistent probation violation and for his having
become so depressed about their unresolvable marriage problem. Her
verbal abuse of her kids and her rages at them had so alarmed and
disturbed Tejero, that within a year of the wedding, he woke up one
morning to discover that he had absolutely no physical or passionate or
sexual desire for LadyW. Touching her skin was like touching the skin of a
stranger. He was unable to have an erection by her, and had to close his
eyes and remember his marital experiences with his previous wives to have
and maintain an erection to orgasm. Tejero didn't have the heart to tell her
since she had made it plain to him that her first husband broke her heart
and tormented her telling her how unattractive and undesirable he thought
she was. When she kicked him out and as he left the front door that last
time he considered the marriage to be over.
After being kicked out one cold and rainy night Tejero met AfroAm Lady Q
and her son, offered and gave them a ride home because of the cold and the
rain. He met her other two children. They became platonic friends and
Tejero committed himself to helping them with transportation and
whatever money he could afford to give to them. When LadyW discovered
that he had befriended and made commitments to Lady Q, she demanded
that in order to be reconciled to her he had to break off his relationship
with Lady Q. Tejero required as part of any reconciliation, that Lady W join
him in his ministry of service to this needy family. Lady W refused and that
ended any attempt at reconciliation. When Tejero told Lady Q that
reconciliation had failed with Lady W and that he needed to be married
(1Cor7:1,2,3,9), Lady Q said she would gladly be his concubine, his
unofficial and exclusive marital partner, but that she had no desire to
replace Lady W and only wanted to share me with Lady W. We went
marital.
Tejero moved to a different county for his new job, but commuted on his
days off to be with Lady Q. For three years on those weekends it was
sometimes Tejero & W, sometimes Tejero & Q and sometimes T & W & Q.
Q never wanted to break up T and W, so often she would step back and go
inactive so T & W could try to work things out, but since T felt bound by his
marital commitments to Q, it didn't work out for T & W to reconcile
permanently. Q refused to move and live with T where he worked because
she was afraid to leave the area she knew so well, and didn't want to be so
far from her mother, but continued on with T on his days off when he
returned to her town.
Lady Q and Tejero they had to experience their polygyny after the manner
described in Romans 14:
***Romans 14, here paraphrased for application:
'1As for the one who is weak in faith, welcome him, but not to quarrel over
opinions, or doubtful issues. . .1 Accept and welcome anyone who is weak in
faith, but don't argue about or pass judgment on doubtful and disputable
issues, opinions and reasonings [like those about polygyny] . . . . 19 So then
let us pursue what makes for peace and for mutual upbuilding. 20 Do not,
for the sake of [polygyny], destroy the work of God. Everything is indeed
clean, but it is wrong for anyone to make another stumble by what he
[does]. 21 It is good not to eat meat or drink wine or do anything [including
polygyny] that causes your brother to stumble. 22 The faith/conviction that
you have [about living in polygyny], keep it between yourself and God
[privately and discretely]. Blessed is the one who has no reason to pass
judgment on himself for what [form of marriage] he approves. 23 But
whoever has doubts [about what he does, including polygyny] is
condemned if he [does it], because the [doing] is not from faith. For
whatever does not proceed from faith is sin. 15:15: 1 Now we who are
strong have an obligation to bear the weaknesses of those without strength,
and not to please ourselves. 2 Each one of us must please his neighbor for
his good, in order to build him up.
After 3.5 years and W refusing to reconcile permanently and Q refusing to
live with T, causing T to be geographically separated from Q and W for 4
days and 5 nights a week for those long 3.5 years, MexAm LadyD came into
the picture. Tejero had met D at the Vons market, where he was drawn to
her as he watched the delightful interaction of her with her three little ones.
There was something dynamic, charming, enchanting and exciting about
the way she acted and behaved. Tejero asked her if she needed work
because he needed a housekeeper at least once a week to save him from his
mess. Lady D became T's housecleaner and after 6 months of her weekly
house cleaning T came to love dearly D and her six children.
Lady W had told that he had a year to clean up his act, get rid of Lady Q and
get his head straight maritally. For four months Tejero did everything he
could to show her that her rages, her verbal abuse and her oppressive
codependency was wrong and sinful. Lady W refused to hear it or consider
the possibility that she had a problem and finally told Tejero to stop
sending/giving her stuff about her , verbal abuse and codependency. Tejero
decided that if that was the case, he hoped she would divorce him because
he still had absolutely no sexual desire for her, was able to respond sexually
by her, and he was ready to move on. He gave up trying to help her get right
and gave their relationship to Father since it was obvious He was the only
One who could fix it at that point.
So there was Tejero alone and wifeless in his little studio apartment. Lady Q
still refused to move and join him and he was having horniness problems
those five nights he was alone. T told Lady D about W and Q and the
possibility of Lady D becoming his own "concubine" woman and him
helping her financially. Lady D had no desire to come between T and Lady
W, and only wanted to share T with Lady W. Lady D thought it over and a
couple of weeks later decided to accept T as her own man as long as they
didn't live together because she felt her kids wouldn't understand. So D
came on board, their physical intimacy slowly and deliberately increasing
as in courtship, as things grew steadily worse between T and W, and Q
continued refusing to live with T. Because of her children, Lady D and
Tejero agreed that they would have to experience their polygyny in the
manner described in
Romans 14:
******Romans 14, here paraphrased for application:
T was praying hard that Jesus would make of these relationships what He
willed for them, to let him see W and Q and D as He sees them, and to
conform their wills to His will in the matter of their relationships. Eight
months after W's ultimatum, and a few months after Lady D became his
concubine, Lady D was afflicted with a horribly painful migraine affliction
just when D and T were preparing to move into the most intimate phase of
their relationship and consumate it sexually. That painful experience scared
T to heavy duty prayer for D and the commitment to back off to "good
friend" status since that was what he believed was needed for D to be
healed. This was his own foolish reasoning and was totally wrong, but
definitely delayed the consummation of their relationship.
After a month of weekly hospitalizations and powerful medications, D

began to come right and T and D related as intimate friends with no
marital/sexual intimacy. Ten months after W's ultimatum Q decided to
change the relationship to just intimate friends with no marital/sexual
intimacy. Ten and a half months after W's ultimatum W miraculously
became aware of her verbal abuse, oppressive codependency and diligently
sought to be free of it. Ten + weeks after W's ultimatum, with Q and D out
of the marital picture and W's verbal abuse dealt with, T and Lady W were
reconciled.
Almost a year later T met Lady N, a starvation skinny and wrinkled widow
who looked and acted 70. It was a 110 degree summer day in the desert that
day and Tejero saw walking down that hot sidewalk what he thought was
the saddest woman he had ever seen in his whole life. She looked so sad and
looked as if the weight of the whole world was on her skinny little
shoulders.
I couldn't bear it and circled back, parked 30 yards ahead of her, got out of
my car and waited for her. When she got up to where I was I asked her if I
could give her a ride to get her out of the heat. She declined looking at me
as if I were Jack the Ripper West Coast. Then I took out a piece of paper
and wrote my phone number and gave it to her, telling her that if she would
ever like to have lunch with me at the time and restaurant of her choosing,
she should give me a call. Two weeks later she called and we had lunch. I
began to visit her for a couple of hours before I went home after I had
finished my last day at work, trying to do the James 1:27 thing of visiting
and helping widows. She had tragically lost both her adult son and her
husband within weeks of each other and was emotionally crushed. I learned
that she was a very devout Christian lady, though eccentric, and came to
respect her and her devotion greatly.
During one of those visits N indicated that she had come under command
to marry, not managing her sexual needs well enough (1 Cor 7:8,9), but no
godly man wanted to marry her with whom she could make a marriage
work. She is a devout Christian and knew she could marry only a godly
believer but there were no eligible godly believers who could manage
marriage with her.
T knew the Scriptures where the widows are supposed to remarry, and are
under command to remarry if they are having problems managing their sex
lives in a godly manner (1 Cor 7:8,9 and 1 Tm 5:14 and Deut 25). When it
became apparent no other believing godly male would step up to the plate
and be marital with N, seeing her under command to marry, knowing he
could meet her marital needs, and believing he should meet her needs since
no one else was going to do so(1Jn 3:14-19), T decided to be her own man to
meet her commanded need of marriage, hoping W would follow his lead. N
accepted T as her own man (1Cor7:2,3,4,5) and they covenanted maritally,
entering into a solemn and written marital pact. Because of her children
and her involvement in her church, Lady N and Tejero agreed that they
should experience their polygyny in the manner described in Romans 14:
******Romans 14, here paraphrased for application:
In all of this T had learned that he would have to act if he as a godly man
became aware of a widow who was supposed to remarry, and was under
command to remarry if she was having problems managing her sex life in a
godly manner (1 Cor 7:8,9 and 1 Tm 5:14 and Deut 25). If it became
apparent no other believing male would step up to the plate and be her own
man with such an under-command-widow, Tejero seeing her need and
knowing he could meet her needs and believing he should meet her needs
since no one else was going to (1Jn 3:14-19), he decided he would have to be
her own man to her to meet her need, and doing so would not violate his
wedding covenant with Lady W. Tejero knew that he could meet the marital
needs of Lady N and not fail to meet his obligation to maintain his current
level of intimacy with Lady W.
*** 10 If he takes another wife to himself, he shall not diminish her food,
her clothing, or her marital rights." Ex 21 ESV
Tejero believed that if it did not violate wedding covenant with Lady W, if it
didn't diminish Lady W's marital rights of intimacy, of sexually having him
(1 Cor 7:2,3,4,5; Prov 5:19), and yet Lady W "steels her heart against" him
and Lady N as he sought to meet the legitimate need of the widow, he
decided he would have to follow David's example with Michal, and go on
maritally dancing to the Lord with the needy widow and leave his hard
hearted wife to God to deal with. The husband has the lead in the marriage,
and if he is able and free to minister to a legitimately needy one, if his wife
chooses to be like Lot's wife and not follow her husband but look back on
her old selfish ways and become dead salt, or if she chooses to be like
David's wife, Michal, and ridicule and belittle her man for serving God and
so steps out of God's blessings, then such a wife has to live with the
consequences of her choices. Every godly wife has the celibate separation
option if she chooses not to follow her husband because of the way he
believes he should serve and obey Jesus.
You might say that such a course of action is a violation of the Word in Rom
14 because the wife who refuses to follow her husband's lead in such a
ministry to a widow is offended, stumbled and grieved by his service to such
a widow. It is the command of God to visit and minister to the needs of
bereft women and children (James 1), to give the hungry something to eat,
to give the thirsty something to drink, to give shelter to the homeless, to
clothe the naked, to visit the sick and imprisoned ones (Mat 25:30-40) and
to plead the cause of the widow (Isa 58). Jesus did this with the sinners of
His day and offended the Pharisees and Saducees in their hard heartedness.
These kinds of service are commanded and if they offend a hard hearted
person, then that is on the head of the hard hearted. The godly must not
stop obeying Jesus in such services because the ungodly are upset with the
godly for doing so. If a "godly" wife is offended by her husband's doing of
such services when he sees legitimate needs and has the wherewithal to do
something about those needs, while continuing to meet her legitimate
marital needs according to 1 Cor 7:2,3,4,5; then such a hard hearted wife
has joined the sorority of Lot's wife, David's wife Michal, the Pharisees and
Saducees, and the husband must go on with the Lord in service to such
needy people, even if it means she chooses to go on without him. At least
that's the way I see it. Jesus told us we aren't His servants unless we love
Him more than our selves and our wives.
***Lu 14:26* “If any man comes to me and does not hate [the sinful flesh,
the natural hearts and minds, the self will, the rebellion, the old dead spirits
and sins of] his father, and mother, and wife, and children, and brothers,
and sisters, yes and his very life, he can be no disciple of mine.
W didn't want T to have another woman of his own, yet W knew and knows
N to be a godly woman, actively serving the poor, other widows, the
handicapped, prisoners and the fatherless and evangelizing in the
community. Since N lives out of her area, and T and N are together out of
her area, she decided she could live with it, but only because of N's
exceptional character. W followed his lead because he makes her feel so
loved, so cherished when they are together. She declared she had never felt
so loved and never had better sex than with T, and her lady friends are
tempted to envy because of the loving affection he lavishes upon her. Even
their marital counselor said that if 80% of his clients did what Tejero does
to and for Lady W, they would get over their marital problems. The
counselor admitted that even he couldn't bring himself to do for his wife
what Tejero does for Lady W almost nightly.
When T is with N, W enjoys peace and quiet [no constant radio/tv/music]

and an orderly house for a few days while busily and actively pursuing her
time consuming career. When T is with W, N is busily engaged in ministry
to fatherless children, the poor, other widows, the handicapped, prisoners
and evangelizing in the community. Everyone seems happy with the
situation, even Q and D who were still intimate nonmarital and nonsexual
friends with T.
+++++++++++++++++++++++ LATER +++++++++++++++++++++++

+++++
Well old Tejero has his hands full again. W and N are still on board. Q is
gone and out of touch. Tejero realized that he wasn't maritally free from D
upon review of 1 Cor 7:12, 15.
***1 Cor. 7:12 But to the rest I [Paul] say, not the Lord, if any brother has an
unbelieving wife, and she is consenting to dwell with him, he should not
leave/divorce/abandon/repudiate her. . . . 15 But if the unbelieving one
separates/departs, he/she should separate/depart. A brother or a sister is
not [maritally] bound in such [cases], but God has called us in peace.
Tejero realized that even if D is not a Jesus believer, she still wanted to be
with him maritally, she had not separated herself from him, and that he
was maritally bound to her in the Kingdom of God as long as she consented
to be with him maritally. Tejero realized that he was the one who screwed
up, leaving the area, making it impossible for her to be with him maritally,
that it was he, not she, that had separated himself from her. He realized
that he needed to agree with Jesus about his sin against D, and he needed
to do the repentance of righting the wrong he had done (Prov 28:13; 2 Cor
7). He repented by forsaking the sin of his separating himself from her and
reaffirmed his pact/covenant with D. The trouble is that N wants D to be
tested for STDs before Tejero is intimate with her. In fact N told Tejero that
if he is initimate with D, she won't be intimate with him until all are tested.
W shares N's concern. D is indignant, offended and insulted that N thinks
she might have a STD from extramarital sex and so far refuses to be STD
tested, even though Tejero has offered to be tested with her. Out of respect
for W and N, Tejero has told D that he can't have any intimacy with her that
would involve fluids of the body until she is tested for STDs. D is thinking
about that and Tejero is hoping he can hold the line.
If that wasn't enough, then Q wanted back into the family. Not being a
Jesus believer, when she both didn't want to any longer dwell with Tejero,
no longer wanted to be with him maritally, and then separated herself from
him for a month, Tejero accepted that as his marital release from Q
according to 1 Cor 7:12, 15 ("if the unbelieving one separates/departs,
he/she should separate/depart. A brother or a sister is not [maritally]
bound in such [cases]"). Tejero accepted the fact that he was not Q's enemy
and still was friends with her and her kids, helping them when he could, but
he had enough sense to realize that he was maritally free from her and that
it would be a serious sin for him to be maritally yoked with her again
according to the following:
***Malachi 2: 11* Judah hath dealt unfaithfully, and an abomination is
committed in Israel and in Jerusalem; for Judah hath profaned the
sanctuary of Jehovah which he loved, and hath married the daughter of a
strange *god. 12 Jehovah will cut off from the tents of Jacob the man that
doeth this, him that calleth and him that answereth; and him that offereth
an oblation unto Jehovah of hosts.
***2 Cor 6:14* Be ye <1096> (5737) not <3361> unequally yoked together
<2086> (5723) with unbelievers <571>
Strong's 2086 heterozugeo {het-er-od-zoog-eh'-o} ; v
1) to come under an unequal or different yoke, to be unequally yoked
1a) to have fellowship with one who is not an equal: 2Cor 6:14,
where the apostle is forbidding Christians to have intercourse
with idolaters
Strong's 2218 zugos {dzoo-gos'}; n m;

1) a yoke; metaph., used of any burden or bondage
1b1) as that of slavery
A yoke is that which holds you in a condition (slavery), place
(SamsonJudges 16:21) or relationship (marriage) and keeps you under its
control or influence, even if it is against your will: Ge 27:40; Le 26:13; De
28:48; 1Ki 12:10-14; Isa 10:27; Isa 47:6; Jer 27:8-12; La 1:14; Mt 11:29, 30;
Ac 15:10; Ga 5:1; 1Ti 6:1
Marriage is a yoke in that it holds one in a condition, relationship and

perhaps even in a place, even if it is against the will of the one held in the
yoke.
Tejero knows well he is maritally yoked to/with W, N and D by

pact/covenant (Ezek. 16:8). He misses Q like crazy and delights in the
memory of her and their past relationship, but he accepts the King's Word
that he must not be unequally yoked with Q, and must remain maritally
unyoked and unbound from her since she is not under Jesus' yoke. Tejero
has a lot of praying to do.
+++++++++++++++++++++++++++Yet More ++++++++++++++++++

+++++++
>>>No wonder that, with so many wives, it must be impossible to have that
close relationship with the one that you would submit to. You are in a whole
different class of people. Three can be a group but four are a crowd and
there is no perfect intimacy and peace of mind for the ladies in a
polygynous family when there is the possibility of another lady in the
picture. There will always be the wondering about the 'Other Ones', what
they are doing and thinking, and their relationship with the husband. One
of a lady's greatest needs is security, and when anyone threatens that
security, the lady and her man have a problem. The more insecure a woman
feels, the more reassurance she wants, needs and seeks, and this can really
increase the emotional work load of the polygynist husband.
///My colleague, Pablo Tejero, presents an interesting case with his own
three women. He is a devoted and conscientious believer in and disciple of
King Jesus, as are his lady W and his lady N. During a period of weakness
Lady D became one of his own, even though she was quite beat up
emotionally, offended, stumbled, and grieved spiritually. Before meeting
Terjero Lady W was an abandonned mother of two who was struggling as a
single mother trying to get her professional career going and was just
recently born again out of her catholic background. Lady N was a tragically
widowed elderly lady who was also tragically bereft of her beloved adult
son. Even though she has a beautiful relationship with Jesus and the saints
in her church, she was heartbroken, desolate and so very lonely when she
met Tejero. Lady D was an abandoned single mother with six children in
the house, and she had been grievously betrayed, offended, grieved, and
stumbled by her former husband and the leading "Christian" ladies in at
least two churches where she very much wanted to be in fellowship and
accepted in the Lord.
///Tejero follows the African and Indian model of each of his own women
having their own place. W & N have a deep and settled respect for and
confidence in each other. Lady D is still on probation as far as Ladies W & N
are concerned because she is not settled and secure in Jesus yet. W & N
would probably be happy if Lady D stepped out of the picture, but Lady D
knows her rights maritally and in the Lord and boldly lays claim to her
marital rights with old Tejereo.
///Each one is at a different level of Spiritual growth, marital intimacy,

submitting herself and reverencing old Tejero. All three have as close a
relationship as they can handle given their different settings, one with a
very demanding and time consuming professional position, one caring for
her aged and disabled mother, the other with six children in the house. Yet
when he is with each one they not only have a close relationship, but they
appear to those passing by to have a very close, pleasant and happy
relationship. He obviously adores each one and they obviously adore him.
Their intimacy is complete in that they are completely open and available to
each other in every aspect of their lives and relationships.
///All three submit themselves to his leadership in as much as is possible

for them --- they really try and when they can't or won't they apologize for it
and feel bad about it because of their respect for him and his feelings. They
all reverence him but to varying degrees, depending on their spiritual
maturity, so of course that means that Lady N reveres him the most,
secondly Lady W who is still struggling to do better and has a big problem
with submission, and of course Lady D has the biggest challenge because
Tejero has made so many mistakes in his relationship with her, broken his
word to her, failed her confidence, and still hasn't been able to put the
pieces back together again so that they can fully resume their marital
relationship.
///For Tejero and his own ladies there is no shortage of "close

relationships" and rich and fulfilling "intimacy", with W & N having no
"wondering of the 'Other Ones'" as to each other, and not even with Lady D
since she and Tejero haven't resumed full marital intimacy yet due to his
bad decision. Ladies W & N disagree with Tejero about Lady D, but they
yield to him in the matter because they know very well that he is only trying
to do what he believes Jesus in the Bible tells him to do about Lady D. He
really believes that to wrongly offend Lady D, it would be better for him to
have a millstone tied around his neck and to be cast into the sea.
***Mt 18:6* But whosoever shall offend one of these little ones who believe
in me, it were profitable for him that a great millstone had been hanged
upon his neck and he be sunk in the depths of the sea.
***Mr 9:42 And whosoever shall be a snare to one of the little ones who
believe in me, it were better for him if a millstone were hung about his neck,
and he cast into the sea.
***Lu 17:2 It would be more profitable for him if a millstone were hanged
about his neck and he cast into the sea, than that he should be a snare to
one of these little ones.
Tejero and his ladies practice their polygyny in the way of the rich and
powerful polygynists of India, in the way of Maharani Gayatri Devi<1> and
Maharaja Jai<1>, and of the rich polygynists of Africa, where each wife has
her own residence, where each has her own bedroom, bathroom, kitchen,
dining room and living room for entertaining. The polygynist husband
commutes between their residences, and often has a residence of his own
where he can try to have a little peace and quiet to get his mind back
together again. Polygyny can be very stressful, especially if the wives are
very demanding or have real and pressing needs that he tries to help her
meet. Lady W and Lady N tolerate polygyny only because they knows it is
the only way they can have Tejero. They are careful that no one else in their
sphere of influence knows about their polygyny. EuroAm Lady W's
daughter has opposed the marriage to Tejero from the beginning. MexAm
Lady N's children, relatives and church friends would punish her severely if
her polygyny was known. From the beginning MexAm Lady D feared what
her adult sons would do to Tejero if they learned of her marital intimacy
with Tejero, and she has been very careful to keep it out of the face of her
daughters so as not to undermine their respect for her.
[<1> A PRINCESS REMEMBERS
The Memoirs of the Maharani of Jaipur
by Gyatri Devi of Jaipur and Rama Rau
J.B. Lippincott Co.; New York, 1972
My review of this is found at
http://groups.google.com/group/BiblicalChristianPolygamyPolygyny
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/PolyPolygamyPolygnyNJesus/
http://www.groups.yahoo.com/group/OrthodoxBiblicalMarriagePolygamy
2]
As of 2009, Lady D's pastor persuaded her that Biblical polygyny was only
for the Old Testament Jews of Israel, not for today, so Lady D has scaled
back her relationship to only being very good friends who have lunch
together occasionally and have weekly phone contacts.
The conscientious polygynist husband who would receive an additional wife

always has to be mindful of the principle given in Ex 21:10,11.
***10 If he marries another wife, he is not to reduce her food, clothing or
marital rights. Complete Jewish Bible
10 If he takes an additional wife, he must not reduce the food, clothing, or
marital rights of the first wife. HCSB
10If he marries again, her food, clothing, and privilege as a wife shall he not
diminish. AB
Consider the File in the Files section of my poly groups entitled:
AddingWivesThoughtsAdvice0908.html
"Thoughts on adding wives to your family in Christian polygyny"
The following Elihu scenario should be kept in mind by every polgynist

husband if and when he receives yet another wife or is thinking about doing
so:
###Elihu starts off having marital intimacy three times a week with his
wife, Sabrina.
### If ELIHU takes himself another [wife] , Hortensia, his wife Sabrina's
food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage shall not be lessened. This
means that three nights he has marital intimacy with Lulu and three nights
he has marital intimacy with Hortensia. He draws up and has notarized a
LLC to protect and care for his family.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife] , Safronia, and he knows that the
food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives ---Hortensia and
Sabrina --- shall not be lessened. So now six nights he has marital intimacy
with Lulu and Hortensia, one night and two weekend afternoons of
intimacy with Safronia. They have a rotating schedule that determines who
he sleeps with each night. Safronia is added to the LLC, and they qualify for
a small group medical and dental insurance plan.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife] , Mary Lou, and he knows that
the food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives ---Safronia,
Hortensia and Sabrina --- shall not be lessened. So now he has to split three
of his evenings, having a couple of hours of after dinner marital intimacy
with two of his wives for three nights, and after nine marital intimacy with
one of his wives three nights a week. He finally gets to sleep at 11. They have
a rotating schedule that determines who he sleeps with each night. By now
two of his wives have paying jobs and he is able to cut pack his work to 3/4
time. He has obtained a Viagra prescription. Mary Lou is added to the LLC
and the small group medical and dental insurance plan.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife], Harriet, and he knows that the
food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives ---Mary Lou,
Safronia, Hortensia and Sabrina --- shall not be lessened. So now he has to
split six of his evenings, having a couple of hours of after dinner marital
intimacy with two of his wives for three nights, and after nine marital
intimacy with two of his wives three nights a week. He finally gets to sleep
at 11. They have a rotating schedule that determines who he sleeps with
each night. By now three of his wives have paying jobs, two are taking care
of the children and he is able to cut pack his work to 1/2 time. Harriet is
added to the LLC and the small group medical and dental insurance plan.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife], Betty Lou, and he knows that
the food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives ---Harriet,
Mary Lou, Safronia, Hortensia and Sabrina --- shall not be lessened. So
now he has to split seven of his evenings, having a couple of hours of after
dinner marital intimacy with two of his wives for three nights, after nine
marital intimacy with two of his wives three nights a week, and Sat and
Sunday morning intimacy with his wives. He finally gets to sleep at 11 and
sleeps until 7. They have a rotating schedule that determines who he sleeps
with each night. By now four of his wives have paying jobs, two are caring
for the children and he is able to cut pack his work to 1/2 time. He had to
get a medicated lotion from the doctor to soothe the irritation of the skin on
his genital. Betty Lou is added to the LLC and the small group medical and
dental insurance plan.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife], Scherazade, and he knows that
the food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives ---Betty Lou,
Harriet, Mary Lou, Safronia, Hortensia and Sabrina --- shall not be
lessened. So now he has 3-5 pm marital intimacy with one of his wives
three times a week before dinner, has to split seven of his evenings, having
a couple of hours of after dinner marital intimacy with two of his wives for
three nights, after nine marital intimacy with two of his wives three nights a
week each, and Sat and Sunday morning intimacy with his wives. He finally
gets to sleep at 11 and sleeps until 7. They have a rotating schedule that
determines who he sleeps with each night. By now four of his wives have
paying jobs, three are caring for and homeschooling the children and he is
able to cut pack his work to on call consultant work. He continues to have
to use medicated lotion from the doctor to soothe the irritation of the skin
on his genital, but now also has to have a prescription to help him deal with
his lower back pain and spasms. Sherazade is added to the LLC and the
small group medical and dental insurance plan.
THEN
###If ELIHU takes himself another [wife], Mizriamine, and he knows that
the food, clothing, and intimate duty of marriage of his wives
---Scherazade, Betty Lou, Harriet, Mary Lou, Safronia, Hortensia and
Sabrina --- shall not be lessened. So now he has 3-5 pm marital intimacy
with one of his wives six times a week before dinner, has to split seven of
his evenings, having a couple of hours of after dinner marital intimacy with
two of his wives for three nights, after nine marital intimacy with two of his
wives three nights a week each, and Sat and Sunday morning intimacy with
his wives. He finally gets to sleep at 11 and sleeps until 7. They have a
rotating schedule that determines who he sleeps with each night. By now
five of his wives have paying jobs, three are caring for and homeschooling
the children and he no longer works for pay and helps home school his
children. He continues to have to use medicated lotion from the doctor to
soothe the irritation of the skin on his genital, but now also has to have a
prescription to help him deal with his lower back pain and spasms.
Mizriamine is added to the LLC and the small group medical and dental
insurance plan.
###THEN Mizriamine,-Scherazade, Betty Lou, Harriet, Mary Lou,

Safronia, Hortensia and Sabrina get to go to Elihu's funeral, Elihu having
died of heart failure while performing intimate duties of marriage, dying
with a tired smile on his face. After mourning his wives had a beach party
and Bar-B-Q with assorted wine coolers. At that time they decided to start a
child care and home schooling center, and look around for Elihu's
replacement.
=========== A SHORT REVIEW OF THE HISTORY OF BIBLICAL
POLYGYNY ======
EUROPEAN ROYALTY: "In modern Europe polygamy disappeared from

Jewish domestic life while among Christians it remained a tolerated
privilege of royalty until very late times. . . . "
CHARLES A. RUBENSTEIN-----------------Bibliography:Abrahams, 1.,
Jewish Life in the Middle Ages (1917);
Westermarck, E., History of Human Marriage (1901);
Spencer, H., Principles of Sociology idem, Descriptive Sociology;
Lay, Wilfrid, A Plea for Monogamy (1923)
"Polygamy was not definitely forbidden among the Jews till the
time of R. Gershom (c. A.D. 1000), and then at first
only for France and Germany. In Spain, Italy, and the
East it persisted for some time longer, as it does still
among the Jews in Mohammedan countries."
[Footnote: >28. HASTINGS DICTIONARY OF THE BIBLE;
p.583ff.]
AND WHAT ABOUT CALVIN?

"As a matter of fact, Calvinism went so far in the direction of a patriarchy
that it abandoned the mediaeval Church's view that virginity was a good,
stressed the desirability of having a large family, and seemed on the verge
of restoring polygamy. . . . Calvin, to be sure,
never licensed polygamy, but Luther agreed to the bigamous marriage of
Philip
of Hesse; and on a few occasions when the number of women available
greatly
exceeded the number of men, Protestant bodies actually legalized
polygamy.
Thus the Frankish Diet legalized bigamy to restore the ravages of the Thirty
Years War. (239)"
239. Westermarck, E. A. A History of Human Marriage. Macmillan, 1921.
REFORMATION: "In the New Testament Jesus neither condemns

polygamous unions nor advocates a change in the system.From this
noninterference attitude Luther, as late as the 16th cent.,arrived at the
conclusion that he could not forbid the taking of more than one wife."
CHARLES A. RUBENSTEIN-----------------Bibliography:
Abrahams, 1., Jewish Life in the Middle Ages (1917);
1500's *******Martin Luther

Martin Luther wrote in De Wette, II, p. 459, "I confess that I cannot forbid
a person to marry several wives, for it does not contradict the Scripture. If a
man wishes to marry more than one wife, he should be asked whether he is
satisfied in his conscience that he may do so in accordance with the word of
God. In such a case, the civil authority has nothing to do in such a matter."
1000 - 1400's: "At a later period Maimonides in his Mishneh Torah

maintains, contrary to his personal opinion, that polygamous unions from a
strictly legal point of view are permissible. Eventually, however, they were
proscribed under the authority of Rabbi Gershom (about l000), although
cases of polygamy were found in Spain as late as the 14th cent. . . . "
800s AD: "Herard of Tours, A.D. 858,

declares any greater number of wives than two to be unlawful. . .Leo the
Wise, Emperor of Constantinople, was allowed to marry three wives
without public remonstrance, but was suspended from communion by the
patriarch Nicholas when he married a fourth.">75>.75 A Select Library of
the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers of The Christian Church, Vol. V; p. 267.
FOURTH CENTURY: Consider the following from St. Augustine:"That the

good purpose of marriage, however, is better promoted by one husband
with one wife, than by a husband with several wives, is shown plainly
enough by the very first union of a married pair, which was made by the
Divine Being Himself, with the intention of marriages taking their
beginning therefrom, and of its affording to them a more honorable
precedent. In the advance, however, of the human race, it came to pass that
to certain good men were united a plurality of good wives, --- many to each;
and from this it would seem that moderation sought rather unity on one
side for dignity, while nature permitted plurality on the other side for
fecundity. For on natural principles it is more feasible for one to have
dominion over many, than for many to have dominion over one."
[Footnote: >..34 2b A Select Library of the Nicene and Post-Nicene Fathers
of The Christian Church; Vol. V; p. 267]
FOURTH CENTURY: Consider St. Augustine's point in the following:

" . . . no one doubts .. . who reads with careful attention what use they made
of their wives, at a time when also it was allowed one man to have several,
whom he had with more chastity than any now has his one wife .. .But then
they married even several without any blame . . ">65[Footnotes:>.64 Please
see THE INSTITUTES OF BIBLICAL LAW, by R. Rushdonney, p. 364. >30
(Deut. 21:15,16). >31 (Ex.21:10). >32 (Genesis 30 and 2 Samuel 7). >..65
St.Augustin: On The Trinity; p. 406.]
In HASTING'S DICTIONARY OF THE BIBLE we read

"Herod had nine wives at once.
. . Its possibility is implied by the technical
continuance of the Levirate law," [Deut. 25:5-10] "and
is proved by the early interpretation of 1 Ti 3,
whether correct or not. Justin reproaches the Jews of
his day" [A.D.] " with having 'four or even five wives,'
and marrying 'as they wish, or as many as they wish.'
The evidence of the Talmud shows that in this case at
least the reproach had some foundation."
[Footnote: >28. HASTINGS DICTIONARY OF THE BIBLE;
p.583ff.]
APOSTOLIC TIMES: In the Second Commonwealth polygamy is far from

general (cf. To bit and Susanna). Yet it survived far into the Christian era.
In the New Testament Jesus neither condemns polygamous unions nor
advocates a change in the system."
OT POST EXILE
JEHOVAH AND HIS TWO WIVES+++++++++++
EZEK 23: 1 ¶ And the word of Jehovah came unto me, saying, 2 Son of man,
there were two women, daughters of one mother. 3 And they committed
whoredom in Egypt; they committed whoredom in their youth: there were
their breasts pressed, and there were handled the teats of their virginity. 4
And their names were Oholah the elder, and Oholibah her sister; and they
were mine, and they bore sons and daughters. As for their names: Samaria
is Oholah, and Jerusalem Oholibah. 5 And Oholah played the harlot when
she was mine; and she lusted after her lovers, after the Assyrians her
neighbours, . . . . .
OT POST EXILE:"However, if polygamy was not forbidden it was not

directly sanctioned. It was a heritage from the past and it was left
undisturbed. . . . In the Second Commonwealth polygamy is far from
general (cf. To bit and Susanna)."
5th CENTURY B.C.: Godly & POLYGYNOUS QUEEN ESTHER++++++++

++++++Es 4
835+/- B.C.: JEHOIDA AND JOASH AND THEIR RIGHT POLYGYNY+++
+++++2 CHRON 24:
848 B.C. +/- POLYGYNIST KING JEHORAM++++++++++++2 CHRON

21:12+14
913 B.C. +/- POLYGYNIST ABIJAH+++++++++2 CHRON 13: 20+. 21
931 B.C.: POLYGYNIST REHOBOAM+++++++++2 CHRON 11:17 - 21
971 B.C. +/-: POLYGYNOUS SOLOMON'S SIN OF MARRYING

UNBELIEVERS +++++1 KINGS 11
1003 B.C. +/-: KING DAVID BLESSED BY GOD WITH EVEN MORE
WIVES IN HIS POLYGYNY+2 Sam.12: 7, 8
1011 B.C. +/-: KING SAUL AND HIS CONCUBINE++2 Samuel 3: 7 ¶ And
Saul had a concubine
1100 B.C. +/-: HANNAH BLESSED BY GOD IN HER POLYGYNY++++++1

SAM. 1
GIDEON, HIS WIVES AND CONCUBINE++++++++JUDGES 8: 29
OT Law and the Prophets: "Polygamy was such a well established part of
the social system that Mosaic law is not even critical of it. . . . .the high
priest could have only one wife and that a king in Israel should not have too
many wives (Lev. 21:13; Deut. 17:17;Ex. 21:10). . . . "
OT TALMUD: "According to the Talmud the right to a plurality of wives is

conceded, but the number of legitimate wives, as in the Koran, is limited to
four. The taking of additional wives is held as sufficient ground for divorce
for a woman who had previously been the sole wife. Where a polygamous
union exists, provision must be made for adequate maintenance of each
wife as well as a separate domicile. Throughout the Talmudic age not one
rabbi is known to have had more than one wife. Monogamy was held to be
the only ideal legal union; plurality of wives was a concession to time and
condition."
CALEB'S POLYGYNY****
1 Chronicles 2: 18 ¶ And Caleb the son of Hezron fathered [sons] of
Azubah [his] wife, and of Jerioth. . . .19 And when Azubah
died, Caleb took Ephrath to himself, who bore him
Hur. . . . . . . 46 And Ephah, Caleb's concubine, bore
Haran, and Moza, and Gazez. . . . 48 Maachah, Caleb's
concubine, bore Sheber, and Tirhanah.
ASHUR'S POLYGYNY****
1 Chronicles 4: 5 And Ashur the father of Tekoa
had two wives, Helah and Naarah.
MANASSEH'S POLYGYNY
****1 Chronicles 7:14 The sons of Manasseh: Ashriel, the
son born to his Syrian concubine with Machir the
father of Gilead, . . .
SHAHARAIM AND HIS THREE WIVES

****1 Chronicles 8: 8 And Shaharaim fathered [sons] in
the land of Moab, after he had sent them away.
Hushim and Baara [were] his wives. 9 And by his
wife Hodesh, [were] Jobab, and Zibia, and Mesha, and
Malcham,
OT PATRIARCHS: "The Bible, in tolerating polygamy, gives evidence that

the practice had long been an accepted social institution when these laws
were written down. In the patriarchal age polygamy is regarded as an
unquestioned custom. While the Bible gives a reason for the action of
Abraham in taking Hagar for an additional wife and, in the case of Jacob,
for having Rachel as a wife besides Leah, it only proves that polygamy as
well as concubinage, with which it was always associated, was among the
mores of the ancient Hebrew people (Gen. 16:1-4; 29:23-28). . . "
JACOB'S FOUR WIVES+++++Ge 30:26; Ge 31:17; Ge 37:2
JACOB BLESSED BY GOD IN HIS POLYGYNY
Ge 35:9 And God appeared to Jacob again after he had come from Padan-
Aram, and blessed him.
ABRAHAM'S POLYGYNOUS WIFE HAGARBLESSED BY GOD Gen 16:6-

15
POLYGYNOUS ABRAHAM BLESSED BY GOD ++++ GEN 17:1-6
POLYGYNOUS SARAH BLESSED BY GOD + + + + + GEN 17:15 + 16
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TEJERO'S DEDICATION TO HIS LADY CAMELOT:

AfroAm Lady Camelot,
of Oceacnside, California
the first wife of EuroAm TEJERO- 1968
She is “black” and so many delicious shades of brown. Her skin

looks more delicious than anything I have ever eaten. She
moves gracefully with strength and purpose in her steps,
unaware of her awesome beauty. I call out her precious name,
almost to make sure she's real and not a dream. She turns and
looks me in the eye and then suddenly smiles so radiantly I
almost lose my breath. It seems as if she glows! I drink her in
as she flows towards me with her arms open wide. The face I
see is Love.
How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with

kindness and gentleness----from which I fear no hurt or
unkindness. She laughs and it sounds like music. We
touch and my heart soars. We embrace and I put my lips on
her delicious skin. She is so delicious it is hard to keep my
mouth off of her. As the Sun shines on her clean, soft and
oiled skin I'm fascinated by the tiny tints of red, orange,
yellow and all the browns that twinkle up at me. I love the feel
of her light brown skin as my tanned skin caresses hers. She is
sooooo soft and firm, so full of life!
We look into each others' eyes, hers sparkling----we look long

and deep and our souls touch---and then suddenly it seems a
cloud of uncertainty, self-doubt, personal fears, or haunting
memories moves across her face and the lovely pools of her
eyes are troubled. I kiss her passionately and hold her ever so
close, wishing I could pull right into my heart and soul and
bathe her in my love, wanting to make it all right for her.
Hesitantly I look again hoping her radiance has returned and
Yes! the cloud has passed and her face is radiant again. What I
see in her face fills my heart. All is well. We two as one set
out together to face and deal with our world.
We faced our world together so much in love. I thought she

was so incredibly wonderful moving there before me bare and
beautiful that honeymoon night. I thought I had been given
the most wonderful queen for my heart to love. I worshipped
her in her dark beauty. How could I be so blessed? In ecstasy
she said she could make love all night long that Halloween
weekend. Halloween darkness and death covered my eyes
and blinded me. It polluted my mind and it whispered "You
are not good enough for her. She will find out that you aren't
good enough for her and she will leave you for another." The
hissing lie believed, my heart deceived, my soul backed off and
the work of death began. My queen now became my torment,
her excellence rebuking me for being so presumptuous
as to dare to mingle with the gods by loving one of their own.
My heart was chilled with fear that my wonderful goddess
would suddenly see me as I really was and her passionate
desire would turn to loathing. Couldn't she see I was all
crippled and broken inside?
The golden spell that had blessed our courtship was

cracking apart as some dark frozen glacier, one small piece at a
time. She said she loved me for my voice before we met.
When we met I was so amazed my mouth hung open in
amazement and my eyes couldn't open wide enough to behold
her glory. Her laughter rang like bells and chimes all about us.
She flowed to me and into my life. My heart opened wider
than my eyes and welcomed her in, pouring my love upon her
in every way I could imagine. She felt more loved than she
had ever felt before. She gave herself to me in our engagement
and our bodies merged into oneness as our souls had. I
accepted her love without reservation and gave her my love
without reservation. She blessed me in the same manner. I
felt my soul could fly no higher.
I forgot she was a mere mortal with a tender heart and a

history of adversities. I forgot that her heart was as tender as
her breasts. I forgot that though she was bold and out going
like her breasts, she was as sensitive as they and in need of
support and protection. Blinded by unreasoned love I thought
her to be a goddess and worshipped her, when she wanted me
to lead her in the worship of my Jesus. Blinded by unreasoned
love she thought me above weakness and fear. So when that
Halloween darkness crept into my soul, and in its brokenness
and open wounds the darkness found a hiding place, a place for
it to root and grow. By that honeymoon night my soul became
the prisoner of the fear of losing her love, fear of failing her,
fear of not being enough for and fear of losing her to another.
All she wanted me to do was just to keep on loving her as we
had since our engagement. I stepped from the glorious light of
our love into the wretched darkness of my fear. My darling
Lady Camelot couldn't believe that her prince charming was dying
within. She didn't feel the chill and darkness that had just
entered the room.
Fear leaves such devastation. In her torment she felt she was
to blame for the cold iceman that I was becoming. She sought
counsel, tried to provoke me, tried to make me jealous---each
resulting in a veil of tears for her. Then my tormented goddess
sought to kill herself if our love could not be restored. I asked
her parents to come and get her since I was afraid to leave her
alone----------they dragged her away from me as she wept
and wailed begging me not to let them take her. I just stood
there and watched. Oh God have mercy on my Welsh-Irish
soul!
The damned darkness of damned divorce crept between us.

I begged her to return, begged for forgiveness and apologized
for failing her-------but when she didn't answer for a week I
sought the loving I yearned for in the arms of another
wonderful dark queen. I had given up. I thought she would
never come back to one so unworthy as I. I felt I had to have
the love of a wonderful dark queen so that I could know that I
was still lovable, that I could know the love of a wonderful
dark queen again. My Lady Camelot came that night and found me
with the other. Her last words were "Oh no, Ron!!!!!!!! I
never had another chance with her.
Hollywood got her and messed her up so badly she had to have
a total hysterectomy and was in pain daily taking powerful
pain killers. She sought shelter and help in her childhood home
with her parents. She built her nest in her childhood bedroom,
her heart broken, her spirit twisted, her soul so gravely
wounded that no one knew if she could ever fly again-------my
Lady Camelot who had soared in the heights with eagles and falcons.
Her pain. The pain wouldn't stop.
"Oh please make this pain stop! Let me take my pills. I have
eaten and I'll just take these pain pills and lie down to rest.
Oh! My soul is so weary! When will the pain stop? To sleep,
yes sleep. I'm so tired. I'll just sleep a little. It's so good to be
home where I can feel safe, with Dad here. I love him so
much." And my beloved Lady Camelot laid herself
down to sleep in the bed of her childhood bedroom----so safe--
--safe at last.
"What's wrong! I can't think---I feel so groggy. What's

happening?! Oh God, I'm going to vomit! Help!----------"
And as she inhaled that last time-----My queen! My goddess!
My darling young wife-------------she inhaled her vomit and
died. Oh God! Dear God! Would that it were I! Oh turn back
the clock and take my soul instead! Oh God------my heart is
broken! Why should I be above the ground and my brilliant
and beautiful young Lady Camelot, my dark queen, be there beneath
the ground? Oh God be merciful to me! I feel the millstone
around my neck. I don't deserve your forgiveness but I
would die without it.
Yet she lives and is loved in the deepest depths of my

soul though the grief and pain wont let me dwell on my
wonderful memories of her and us--- My Scotch-Irish-Welsh
heart grieves over my dark Queen. God gave me a daughter
who could pass for Lady Camelot's sister, a wonderful woman, a
daughter upon whom I can pour out all the love I feel for Lady Camelot.
And God showed me what I did wrong with Lady Camelot and taught
me how not to make those terrible mistakes again. My three
wonderful daughters are the products of His Love working
through me. I lost my dark queen, and He gave me three
wonderful dark queens to help heal my grief. Thank you, Jesus!
Dear God, please heal the hearts of the family of Lady Camelot
as they and Tejero grieve over her tragic death, the loss of one
so greatly loved.
**********************************************
I lost my Lady Camelot. I failed my Lady Camelot. I called out to Jesus to
save me.
ΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩ
TEJERO'S DEDICATION TO HIS LADY E, HIS SECOND LEGAL WIFE,
and the mother of his children
Unknown to me, a mysterious young lady, looking so very sweet,

she stands there calmly and quietly between Letty and Sandra,
Sunday morning between Sunday School and Church, there in Watts.
She is black and so many delicious shades of brown. Her dark brown skin
looks more delicious than anything I have ever eaten. She
moves gracefully with strength and purpose in her steps,
unaware of her awesome femininity. In fact she didn't even think she was
attractive and she was mystified by my desire of her. At first she
couldn't even believe that I felt such deep romantic and affectionate
love for her. She was so gentle, so humble, so sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet I
could hardly keep my mouth and hands off of her. To the world she
wasn't a cover girl beauty, but to me the beauty in her eyes flooded out
and over her so that she walked in beauty to me. She filled up my heart
and I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her. It was 1971.
She turns and looks me in the eye and then suddenly smiles so
radiantly my heart leaps for joy. It seems as if she glows! I drink her
in as she flows towards me with her arms open wide. The face I see is
Love.
How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with

kindness and gentleness----from which I fear no hurt or
unkindness. She laughs and it sounds like music. We
touch and my heart soars. We embrace and I put my lips on
her delicious skin. She is so delicious it is hard to keep my
mouth off of her. As the Sun shines on her clean, soft and
oiled skin I'm fascinated by the tiny tints of red, orange,
yellow and all the browns that twinkle up at me. She is
sooooo soft and firm, so full of life!
I understand the Scriptures (Mark 10:1-15; Luke 16:18; Rom 7:1-3;

1 Cor 7:10-15,39) to declare that the marriage of two genuine believers in
Christ who were free in Jesus to marry when they married - are maritally
bound to each other in the Kingdom of God as long as they both live.
I believe that the Bible indicates that not even adultery or homosexuality
or any of the sins of Lev 18 & 20 dissolve or end a marriage of two such
people. There is no command from God in Scripture for anyone who is
genuinely saved to divorce one's marital partner. I believe that if one or
both become snared in sex sin, that the
course to follow is Gal 6:1; 2 Tim 2:24ff; Mat 18:15-18; 2 Thess 3:6-14;
1 Cor 5:3-11. If all this results in godly sorrow and repentance (2 Cor 7)
that reconciliation and restoration should follow (2 Cor 2). Carol Lynn
had left me, claiming to be a genuine child of God, and since I was a
genuine child of God by faith in Jesus Christ, I understood that we were
maritally bound for life. For me to maritally repudiate and reject Lady
Camelot and then marry Lady E would have been adultery (Matt 5 & 19;
Mark 10; Luke 16; Rom 7). So when Lady E and I got to the place where we
were considering marriage, I told her that the only way I could marry her
is if she accepted my belief that I was still maritally bound to Lady Camelot
in the Kingdom of God, and that if Lady E married me and Lady Camelot
returned to me seeking reconciliation (1Cor7:10,11,39), I would have to
maritally reunite with her, making Lady Camelot, Lady E and me
polygynists. Lady E thought about it for a while, and finally said she
didn't think Lady Camelot would ever want to reunite with me, but she was
willing to take the risk and marry me with such serious risks and serious
complications. It was 1971. Our romance was sweet and poetic - - -
We look into each others' eyes, hers sparkling----we look long

and deep and our souls touch---and then suddenly it seems a
cloud of uncertainty, self-doubt, personal fears, or haunting
memories moves across her face and the lovely pools of her
eyes are troubled. I kiss her passionately and hold her ever so
close, wishing I could pull right into my heart and soul and
bathe her in my love, wanting to make it all right for her.
Hesitantly I look again hoping her radiance has returned and
Yes! the cloud has passed and her face is radiant again. What I
see in her face fills my heart. All is well. We two as one set
out together to face and deal with our world.
We faced our world together so much in love. I thought she

was so incredibly wonderful moving there before me bare and
beautiful that honeymoon night. I thought I had been given the
most wonderful queen for my heart to love. I worshipped her
in her dark beauty. How could I be so blessed? In ecstasy we
celebrated and enjoyed each others bodies, soul and spirit. Every part of
her body was a delight and I delighted in celebrating her and pleasing
her. She was my perfect sexual helpmeet. I had learned in losing Lady
Camelot that as long as she was happy I should just keep on loving her in
every way I could, not worrying about my inadequacies. She rejoiced in our
loving and our loving filled my heart.
I accepted her love without reservation and gave her my love
without reservation. She blessed me in the same manner. I
felt my soul could fly again.
I learned that she was sensitive and in need of support and

protection, that she had a heart breaking childhood. Though I loved
her dearly, affectionately and passionately, I failed to accept her just as
she was. I failed to accept the fact that somethings I wanted her to do,
she simply could not do. I felt that she was being stubborn and
uncooperative and I began to resent this in her. Our love became
clouded by my failure to accept her just as she was and her heart began
to hurt. A root of bitterness - - - -***Holman Christian Standard
Bible Hebrews 12:14-16See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God
and that no root of bitterness springs up, causing trouble and by it,
defiling many.
- - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - - had sprung up, and its companion, resentment,
and entered the heart of Tejero and his words were contaminated by them.
She had fled the house of her parents at age 5 because of the terrible verbal
abuse of her mentally ill father, to live as Cinderella in the house of her aunt
for the next 12 years. She was harrassed by her siblings for living with their
middle class aunt on the other side of the tracks, and treated as a second
class citizen by her aunt and cousin. She fled all that mess as soon as she
could and finished her high school years living with her sister in LA.The
seeds had been planted that would break her heart and
drive her to leave me, just like she had left her parents' home and her aunt's
home. Oblivious to the pain I was causing her, I ASS-U-MEd we would be
together for ever. With much encouragement from a friend at work, she left
me the day after Christmas after sixteen years of marriage and three darling
children.
ΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩΩ
http://biblicalmarriagepolygamypolygyny.webs.com/
http://meetup.com/SanDiegoChristianPolygyny -- 17
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Poly_Polygamy_Polygyny_And_Jesus/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/OrthodoxBiblicalMarriagePolygamy2
http://www.flickr.com/groups/sex_in_christian_poly/
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LynnAndLossRecovery
http://groups.yahoo.com/group/PolyOption4ChristiansWithSTDs/
http://community.eons.com/groups/group/women-sharing-one-man-
maritally
http://groups.myspace.com/BiblicalChristianPoly - - 13
http://groups.google.com/group/polygamous_friends_of_tyler
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=6382095167
http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=2648256332
http://www.tagged.com/biblicalpolychristians
http://biblicalmarriagepolygamypolygyny.webs.com/
http://www.tagged.com/group.html?gid=748067
www.facebook.com/ronnie.l.tyler
http://www.flickr.com/groups/christian_polygyny/ - 39
http://www.flickr.com/groups/christian_polygamy/ - 48
http://www.flickr.com/groups/sex_in_christian_poly/
http://www.flickr.com/groups/christianpoly/ - - - a small poly group for
those who need privacy in their poly - request membership at
elkanahtyler@gmail.com
http://polygynouschristians.multiply.com/ - - - - 6
http://www.oldservant.u.yuku.com
http://www.kirkal.com/view_group.php?group_id=441
http://biblicalmarriagepolygyny.yuku.com/forums/66
http://biblicalpolygamy.groups.vox.com/
a small poly group for those who need privacy in their poly - request
membership at elkanahtyler@gmail.com
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The Story of Tejero and his AfroAm, EuroAm and MexAm Ladies in

Copyright © 01/14/'95; 01/12/'96;5/12/07; 3/18/'10 (Revised)

During a wonderful divorce recovery group series Tejero met wonderful DT

Tejero called out to Jesus because he was so incredibly horny he knew he

After a month of weekly hospitalizations and powerful medications, D

When T is with N, W enjoys peace and quiet [no constant radio/tv/music]

+++++++++++++++++++++++ LATER +++++++++++++++++++++++

Strong's 2218 zugos {dzoo-gos'}; n m;

Marriage is a yoke in that it holds one in a condition, relationship and

Tejero knows well he is maritally yoked to/with W, N and D by

+++++++++++++++++++++++++++Yet More ++++++++++++++++++

///Each one is at a different level of Spiritual growth, marital intimacy,

///All three submit themselves to his leadership in as much as is possible

///For Tejero and his own ladies there is no shortage of "close

The conscientious polygynist husband who would receive an additional wife

The following Elihu scenario should be kept in mind by every polgynist

###THEN Mizriamine,-Scherazade, Betty Lou, Harriet, Mary Lou,

EUROPEAN ROYALTY: "In modern Europe polygamy disappeared from

AND WHAT ABOUT CALVIN?

REFORMATION: "In the New Testament Jesus neither condemns

1500's *******Martin Luther

1000 - 1400's: "At a later period Maimonides in his Mishneh Torah

800s AD: "Herard of Tours, A.D. 858,

FOURTH CENTURY: Consider the following from St. Augustine:"That the

FOURTH CENTURY: Consider St. Augustine's point in the following:

In HASTING'S DICTIONARY OF THE BIBLE we read

APOSTOLIC TIMES: In the Second Commonwealth polygamy is far from

OT POST EXILE:"However, if polygamy was not forbidden it was not

5th CENTURY B.C.: Godly & POLYGYNOUS QUEEN ESTHER++++++++

848 B.C. +/- POLYGYNIST KING JEHORAM++++++++++++2 CHRON

913 B.C. +/- POLYGYNIST ABIJAH+++++++++2 CHRON 13: 20+. 21

931 B.C.: POLYGYNIST REHOBOAM+++++++++2 CHRON 11:17 - 21

971 B.C. +/-: POLYGYNOUS SOLOMON'S SIN OF MARRYING

1100 B.C. +/-: HANNAH BLESSED BY GOD IN HER POLYGYNY++++++1

GIDEON, HIS WIVES AND CONCUBINE++++++++JUDGES 8: 29

OT TALMUD: "According to the Talmud the right to a plurality of wives is

SHAHARAIM AND HIS THREE WIVES

OT PATRIARCHS: "The Bible, in tolerating polygamy, gives evidence that

ABRAHAM'S POLYGYNOUS WIFE HAGARBLESSED BY GOD Gen 16:6-

POLYGYNOUS ABRAHAM BLESSED BY GOD ++++ GEN 17:1-6

POLYGYNOUS SARAH BLESSED BY GOD + + + + + GEN 17:15 + 16

TEJERO'S DEDICATION TO HIS LADY CAMELOT:

She is “black” and so many delicious shades of brown. Her skin

How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with

We look into each others' eyes, hers sparkling----we look long

We faced our world together so much in love. I thought she

The golden spell that had blessed our courtship was

I forgot she was a mere mortal with a tender heart and a

The damned darkness of damned divorce crept between us.

"What's wrong! I can't think---I feel so groggy. What's

Yet she lives and is loved in the deepest depths of my

Unknown to me, a mysterious young lady, looking so very sweet,

How I love her eyes and her mouth, filled with

I understand the Scriptures (Mark 10:1-15; Luke 16:18; Rom 7:1-3;

We look into each others' eyes, hers sparkling----we look long

We faced our world together so much in love. I thought she

I learned that she was sensitive and in need of support and

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