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Playing to the desire of another to be valued and liked can be a powerful

manipulation tool.
Ive been posting a series of articles on behaviors which
persons with disturbed characters frequently display that
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not only prevent them from

developing a good sense of
social responsibility but also
frequently serve as tactics to
manipulate and impressionmanage others. Some of the
behaviors weve looked at
include rationalization,
blaming others, blaming and
vilifying the victim,
minimization, shaming and
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guilt-tripping, and overt and

covert intimidation:
Understanding
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Rationalization: Making Excuses as an Effective Manipulation Tactic

Playing the Blame Game as a Manipulation Tactic
Vilifying the Victim
Minimization: Trivializing Behavior as a Manipulation Tactic
Manipulation via Shaming and Guilt-Tripping: Using the Conscience of the
Neurotic against Them
Manipulation via Overt or Covert Intimidation
Perhaps one of the most insidious ways to favorably manage the impression of
others while simultaneously trying to get something you want from them is
seduction. Now, most of us are vulnerable to seduction techniques. Thats because
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most of us want to be liked and valued. So, when someone shows us attention or
behaves toward us in a way that invites us to feel somewhat special, we almost
never think that theyre doing so because theres something they want. Rather,
wed like to think theres something really remarkable about us that is motivating
the person to behave that way.
One of the most damaging legacies of traditional psychology is the over-weighting
it gives to peoples insecurities and fears and the relatively complete inattention it
gives to the myriad ways that they fight and maneuver for the things they want.
Everyday life is approximately 95% fighting and 5% running. But traditional
psychology is overly concerned about how and why we run, not how and why we
fight. By fight I dont mean physical violence. Rather, I mean the forceful goaldirected energy we all expend to get the things we want.
Responsible people assert themselves and fight for the
Sometimes,
things they want in direct, fair, restrained, and nondestructive ways. Disordered characters lie, cheat, and
seduction can be
sometimes shmooze to get what they want. They
very deliberate,
dont like to be denied, so rather than approach things
calculated, and
directly and run the risk of not winning, theyd prefer to
carried out in such a
approach things on the sly and catch the other
manner that the
unaware. Playing to the desire of another to be valued
other person is swept
and liked can be a powerful manipulation tool. Most of
away.
the time, this is not done with malicious intent or with

such intensity that it does any real damage. Also, most
of the time, the person on the receiving end is aware enough to know that theyre
being buttered-up and will enjoy the flattery while not taking it so seriously. But
sometimes, seduction can be very deliberate, calculated, and carried out in such
a manner that the other person is swept away. Then they can become quite
blinded about the nature of the person doing the seducing. Only after the
manipulator gets what he or she wants will their true character start to show. By
then, its often too late.
One of the most fundamental
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and life-empowering
principles I introduced in my
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that once people replace
the destructive legacy of
traditional psychology i.e.,
that everyone is almost
always struggling with fears
or insecurities with a
mindset that life is far more

about people maneuvering
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and angling for the things
they want than it is about them running, and once they realize that theres a
class of individuals best characterized as unscrupulous and exploitive fighters who
will advance their own agendas with almost complete disregard for the needs of
others, they arrive at a position to avoid being taken advantage of in the future.
This post marks the end of the series on manipulation, impression-management, and
responsibility resistance behaviors. Next well begin a new series on the tools
people need to employ not only to be impervious to such ploys but also to
generally empower themselves in relationships with others and avoid victimization
by disordered characters.
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