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Forward
My
Story
RedpoleQ
What
is
This?
Value
and
Social
Skills,
Not
Lines
Your
Journey
The
Joy
of
Asian
Women
An
Introduction
to
Asian
Culture
Head
Spinning
First
Dates
Culture
Shock
Masking
Reality
Interracial
Dating
and
You
The
Quest
for
Value
Laying
the
Groundwork
Frames,
and
the
People
Who
Use
Them
Is
Your
Girl
a
Dirty
Slut?
Deny
Deny
Deny
Logistically
Clueless
Location,
location,
location.
Next
Steps
Post
Script
About
the
Author
Forward
Its
been
years
now
since
I
started
the
process
of
becoming
better
with
women.
Looking
back,
its
hard
to
believe
where
I
started
out.
I
was
a
pudgy,
balding,
20
something
with
a
serious
lack
of
social
skills
and
essentially
no
luck
with
women.
On
top
of
that,
I
had
a
crippling
lack
of
confidence
and
self
esteem.
When
I
see
other
guys
begin
the
process
of
improvement,
I
have
to
admit
that
Im
jealous
of
where
theyre
usually
starting.
The
people
who
approach
us
about
learning
how
to
better
their
love
lives
come
from
all
walks
of
life
and
have
all
sorts
of
defining
characteristics:
students,
filthy
rich
trust
fund
babies,
businessmen,
IT
professionals,
teachers,
tall
and
thin,
short
and
fat,
incredibly
good
looking,
incredibly
socially
awkward,
chill,
normal,
cool
guys...
The
one
thing
that
they
all
have
in
common,
though,
is
that
they
dont
think
theyre
getting
the
type
of
girls
they
should
be
getting
and
theyve
finally
found
the
courage
to
change
that.
Good
for
them.
This
book
is
the
jumping
off
point
for
a
much
more
in-
depth
and
thorough
developmental
process,
a
process
that
will
take
you
from
where
you
are
right
now,
today,
to
wherever
you
want
to
be.
That
sounds
very
salesy,
but
its
absolutely
true
-
achieving
the
success
that
you
want
to
achieve
comes
down
to
how
much
work
youre
willing
to
put
in.
You
can
take
this
as
far
as
you
want
to
take
it.
Im
My
Story
Early
one
sweltering
summer
evening,
I
made
my
way
down
a
long
stretch
of
sidewalk
towards
Sinchon
station,
in
Seoul.
As
my
shoes
reached
across
slabs
of
warm
concrete,
I
could
just
barely
make
out
a
figure
standing
next
to
the
subway
entrance,
head
down,
looking
at
her
phone.
She
had
long
brown
chestnut
hair
that
reached
towards
the
small
of
her
back,
and
her
tall
hourglass
figure
had
been
perfectly
tucked
into
a
seductively
simple
sea
foam
dress.
It
hugged
her
body
closely,
curving
around
two
perfectly
sized
breasts,
cutting
in
tightly
around
her
waist,
then
flaring
out
at
her
hips,
as
if
she
were
a
1950
varsity
girl.
When
I
got
closer,
she
looked
up
with
two
large
brown
eyes
and
a
smile
spanned
across
her
face.
Stepping
towards
her,
I
began
to
feel
the
youthful
radiance
of
her
perfect
almond
skin.
Was
she
really
waiting
for
me?
Hi!
She
was.
Somewhere
on
the
Seoul
subway
a
week
before,
I
tugged
open
a
door
connecting
my
train
car
to
the
next,
and
then
stepped
through
the
threshold.
The
car
was
packed.
People
were
planted
down
in
every
seat,
and
hanging
off
of
every
available
handgrip.
She
stood
leaning
up
against
a
car
door
on
the
far
side
of
the
train,
just
past
a
group
of
Koreans
nattering
loudly
at
each
other.
Her
glittery
nails
were
busily
punching
away
at
the
keys
on
her
iPhone.
From
the
far
side
of
the
car
I
could
make
out
a
pair
of
pouty
red
lips
planted
perfectly
between
two
softly
curving
cheeks.
She
was
alone,
but
completely
absorbed
by
the
text
message
conversation
she
was
having.
I
advanced.
When
she
looked
up
from
her
iPhone,
my
hormones
leaped.
In
two
and
a
half
years
of
living
in
South
Korea,
a
country
home
to
some
of
the
most
exceptionally
beautiful
women
in
the
world,
I
had
never
seen
anything
like
her.
She
was
truly
stunning.
Im
a
model,
she
would
later
tell
me
with
that
innocent
look
only
someone
with
a
playfully
naughty
side
can
give.
I
teased
her
for
a
bit,
asking
if
she
was
a
hand
model,
if
she
spent
her
summer
farming,
or,
after
feeling
her
muscles,
if
she
was
a
taekwondo
champion.
Somehow,
at
the
end
of
it,
I
walked
out
of
the
train
car
with
her
number
and
plans
to
meet
her
the
following
week. Now
she
was
standing
on
the
sidewalk
in
front
of
me,
on
a
pair
of
tall
red
heels,
with
an
excited,
expectant
look.
I
couldnt
believe
just
how
gorgeous
this
girl
was,
and
that
I
was
actually
going
to
spend
time
with
her.
I
couldnt
believe
that
she
was
actually
here
for
me.
I
smiled
and
waved,
telling
her
it
was
great
to
see
her.
Then,
quickly
my
expression
changed
to
shock,
and
I
pointed
behind
her.
Whats
that?!
As
she
turned
to
look,
I
went
in
and
scooped
her
up,
twirling
her
in
the
air.
She
shrieked
loudly
and
her
long
red
10
11
down
shirt
and
got
set
to
meet
her.
With
my
hair
flopping
down
to
one
side,
I
looked
like
a
nerdier
version
of
Doug
McKenzie.
My
friends
truck
pulled
up
at
her
house.
We
hopped
out
and
made
our
way
single
file
up
to
the
front
door.
My
legs
were
trembling
beneath
me
and
my
chest
was
beginning
to
tighten.
Moments
later
the
door
opened
and
through
the
threshold
I
could
just
make
out
a
dark
silhouette
on
the
far
side
of
the
room.
My
heart
skipped
a
beat...
then
another...
and
then
stopped
altogether.
She
leaned
back
on
an
old
wooden
computer
chair
and
smiled,
her
rippled
stomach
hanging
out
from
under
a
shirt
3
sizes
too
small
like
a
large
cellulite
donut.
Sitting
there,
in
the
corner
of
the
downstairs
living
room,
was
a
woman
that
reminded
me
of
a
younger
version
of
Jabba
the
Hutt
-
beastly,
with
an
odor
that
punched
through
walls.
I
was
so
desperate
and
down,
however,
that
a
few
months
later
I
went
for
it
anyways.
In
2009
everything
changed.
Sick
of
my
dim
job
prospects
in
the
West,
I
headed
to
Asia
with
thousands
of
other
migrant
workers.
It
was
there
that
I
met
an
intrepid
little
Canadian
girl
as
wide
as
she
was
tall,
but
with
a
decent
sarcastic
wit.
As
the
gods
of
love
would
have
it,
her
apartment
was
only
two
doors
down
from
mine.
We
spent
nearly
every
day
together;
I
really
pushed
myself
to
open
up,
and
we
grew
incredibly
close.
One
day,
while
I
was
lying
on
her
couch,
she
leaned
over
and
whispered
to
me
that
she
was
going
to
go
back
to
Canada.
Just
for
a
couple
months,
she
said.
I
was
reassured
that
she
was
coming
back
to
Korea
for
at
least
another
year,
but
the
thought
of
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RedpoleQ
That
all
changed
when
I
met
RedpoleQ.
Stuck
in
Asia
for
the
last
9
years,
RedpoleQ
developed
a
keen
ability
to
navigate
Asian
cultures
and
relationships.
His
knowledge
and
coaching
helped
me
understand
why
so
many
girls
would
talk
to
me,
giggle
a
bit,
and
then
never
talk
to
me
again.
Using
his
advice,
I
started
to
make
fundamental
changes
to
how
I
talked
to
Asian
women,
and
the
goals
I
had
when
talking
to
them.
With
a
lot
of
work,
dates
started
flooding
in
and
the
quality
of
the
girls
who
would
actually
show
up
grew
rapidly.
This
past
summer
has
been
one
of
the
most
satisfying
summers
of
my
life.
When
I
look
back
two
or
three
years
ago,
I
never
would
have
thought
that
I
could
talk
to,
never
mind
attract
and
date,
the
kind
of
girls
Ive
dated
this
summer.
Where
I
used
to
look
at
women
with
confusion
and
fear,
I
now
see
them
as
unique
opportunities
to
discover
the
person
behind
the
initial
icy
glance.
I
see
a
chance
to
warm
her
up,
and
allow
her
to
discover
that,
if
she
plays
her
cards
just
right,
she
may
have
the
chance
to
be
with
me.
What
is
This?
Good
question.
I
wondered
that
myself
when
I
just
began
to
learn
how
to
be
successful
with
women.
To
be
honest
with
you,
I
didnt
know
that
a
person
could
learn
how
to
be
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They
allow
their
guy
to
carry
out
his
role
as
man,
by
letting
him
lead
the
interaction
and
love
all
those
chivalrous
actions
women
in
the
West
seem
to
have
shunned.
Amazing.
People
being
people,
not
all
women
in
the
East
or
in
the
West
are
as
I
have
described
them
above.
Spend
enough
time
in
Asia,
though,
and
youll
quickly
notice
the
striking
cultural
trends
above.
An
Introduction
to
Asian
Culture
When
I
first
came
to
Asia
I
heard
that
Asian
women
totally
loved
White
guys,
and
that
getting
a
hot
Asian
girl
was
inevitable.
That
seems
to
be
the
perception
of
a
lot
of
westerners,
and
I
was
no
different.
Coming
to
South
Korea
and
seeing
Starbucks,
KFC,
Quiznos,
McDonalds,
and
Gucci,
not
to
mention
the
world-class
transit
system,
night
clubs,
and
massive
buildings
towering
over
Seoul,
I
just
assumed
that
things
were
pretty
much
the
same
here
as
they
were
back
home.
I
thought
it
was
obvious
that
if
things
were
this
much
alike
then
dating
would
be
pretty
much
the
same
as
well.
Since,
I
assumed,
Asian
women
were
so
into
foreigners,
being
successful
with
Korean
women
would
be
a
cinch.
I
still
remember
my
first
day
trip
with
coworkers
from
my
very
first
English
language
school.
One
Wednesday
afternoon
in
late
fall
we
headed
to
a
large
mountain
that
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bars
and
girls
who
wear
leather
jackets
and
smoke,
theres
casual
sex
and
highly
sexual
music
videos,
but
social
traditions
are
well
guarded
and
theres
huge
pressure
from
most
of
society
to
keep
them
alive.
Places
like
Hong
Kong
and
Singapore
might
be
more
open
to
new
ideas
and
methods
due
to
their
strong
capitalist
ethos
but,
on
the
whole,
Asian
culture
is
substantially
more
conservative
than
cultures
that
make
up
Western
Civilization.
Take
marriage
for
instance.
Marriages
throughout
East
Asia
used
to
be
arranged,
just
like
they
were
hundreds
of
years
ago
in
the
West
and
still
are
in
India.
In
East
Asia,
though,
arranged
marriage
in
a
few
countries,
such
as
Korea,
has
only
been
recently
overturned
in
favor
of
modern
marriage
based
on
love.
Despite
that,
families
still
exercise
a
lot
of
control
over
a
daughters
choice
of
marriage
partner,
and
the
consequences
that
can
result
from
ignoring
parental
expectations
can
be
large.
A
lot
of
parents
are
flatly
against
dating
outside
of
the
race,
or
even
dating
someone
of
lower
social
status.
While
in
the
West
this
is
usually
no
big
deal,
in
East
Asia
dating
serves
one
purpose,
and
that
purpose
is
not
to
have
fun
-
its
to
find
someone
to
marry.
Like
most
other
conservative
countries
that
have
strict
controls
-
whether
social
or
legal
-
over
marriage,
women
in
Korea
and
China
are
not
supposed
to
have
premarital
sex.
Sexual
permissibility
differs
from
country
to
country,
throughout
Asia,
however.
In
Korea,
grown
women
still
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Hold
on,
wait
just
a
minute,
you
say.
What
about
rich
guys?
Those
finance
nerds
will
grow
up
and
get
great
jobs
and
become
really
wealthy...
and
be
able
to
get
a
lot
of
women
because
of
that,
right?
Sure.
When
you
look
around
you
can
probably
see
a
lot
of
examples
of
ugly
guys,
weak
guys,
nerdy
guys
who
have
a
lot
of
money
and
dont
seem
to
have
any
problem
attracting
some
great
looking
women.
This
is
especially
true
in
South
East
Asia.
When
I
travel
throughout
South
East
Asia,
it
is
very
easy
to
spot
a
hot
20-something
Asian
woman
with
a
skinny
looking
white
man
that
is
clearly
past
his
mid-life
point
and
who
likely
doesnt
have
a
bank
account
flush
with
cash.
Beautiful
women
date
skinny,
ugly,
weak,
or
nerdy
guys
and
that
is
just
a
fact
of
life.
In
those
situations,
though,
you
have
to
ask
whether
the
woman
is
really
attracted
to
the
man,
his
money,
or
the
lifestyle
he
can
provide.
My
bet
is
that
she
is
not
attracted
to
him,
like
she
is
attracted
to
other
guys
who
conform
to
the
ideal
of
the
Neolithic
Man.
My
bet
is
that
she
got
with
him
because
of
his
wealth,
or
the
lifestyle
he
can
provide
her
with.
Those
two
things
are
important
to
distinguish.
In
the
case
of
the
high
school
hunk,
the
girls
are
attracted
to
his
innate
potential
to
become
an
influential
guy
who
can
provide
her
and
her
offspring
with
the
best
chance
of
survival
in
the
future.
The
traits
he
possesses
are
innate
to
him,
they
dont
come
from
any
other
place,
and
she
is
attracted
to
him
because
for
tens
of
thousands
of
years
before
the
industrial
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for
your
life
going
forward.
At
the
end,
a
woman
should
feel
that
she
occupies
a
very
special
place
when
it
comes
to
how
you
assess
the
women
you
have
come
across
in
your
life.
If
a
woman
feels
that
she
occupies
a
special
place
in
your
life
then
she
is
more
likely
to
meet
you
again.
To
develop
a
special
relationship
with
her
and
move
the
interaction
towards
sex,
however,
she
must
feel
comfortable
with
you.
With
comfort,
you
really
have
to
focus
on
achieving
a
few
different
things.
One
of
those
things
is
allowing
her
to
trust
you
more
and
more.
If
a
woman
doesnt
trust
you,
she
may
not
allow
you
to
take
the
interaction
any
further,
or
she
might
not
even
want
to
spend
any
time
alone
with
you.
A
woman
must
trust
you
in
multiple
ways.
She
must
feel
that
you
are
not
a
danger
to
her
physical
safety,
of
course,
but
also
that
youre
not
a
danger
to
her
psychological
safety
or
reputation.
It
is
vitally
important
that
a
woman
does
not
feel
that
you
are
some
sort
of
manipulator
-
and
you
shouldnt
be
-
that
will
just
leave
her
after
she
becomes
fully
invested
emotionally.
Qualification
partly
helps
achieve
this,
but
so
does
framing
the
interaction
in
a
way
that
makes
her
see
the
two
of
you
together
in
a
close
relationship
in
the
future.
She
has
to
trust
that
youre
going
to
be
there
to
protect
her
and
to
help
her
when
she
needs
it.
As
a
man
and
potential
partner,
being
her
protector
when
times
get
tough
is
exactly
what
shes
looking
for,
at
least
on
a
level
below
conscious
awareness.
Key
to
this
is
developing
a
proper
emotional
connection.
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the
techniques
that
will
allow
you
to
have
the
best
possible
results
every
time
you
walk
up
to
talk
to
a
woman.
While
a
detailed
discussion
of
how
to
first
talk
to
a
woman
is
beyond
the
scope
of
this
book,
it
will
be
a
main
point
of
focus
in
future
volumes.
I
assure
you
that
talking
to
women
you
dont
know
is
both
easier
and
more
difficult
than
you
think.
Frames,
and
the
People
Who
Use
Them
Notice
how
each
of
these
elements
sits
within
a
more
general
context.
Stop
reading
at
the
end
of
this
sentence,
then
go
back
to
the
beginning
of
the
last
section
and
try
to
figure
out
what
the
overall
context
is.
What
we
have
are
three
different
parts
that
fit
into
a
whole.
We
have
the
initial
few
words,
the
stage
where
the
woman
becomes
attracted
to
us,
the
part
where
she
realizes
that
we
like
her
as
well
because
she
fits
into
our
life,
and
finally
the
stage
where
enough
comfort
is
built
to
develop
a
sexual
relationship.
All
of
this
fits
into
the
general
context,
or
frame,
of
serendipitously
starting
a
romantic
relationship.
Thats
the
frame
in
which
it
all
takes
place.
Frames
are
very
important.
We
use
them
every
day.
Frames
are
the
overall
context
in
which
something
happens,
and
the
context
always
gives
meaning
to
specific
actions.
Think
about
the
shopping
scene
above.
In
the
example,
I
joked
about
the
man
picking
up
his
regular
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with
her.
If
you
approach
her,
the
context
that
she
places
you
in
is
the
one
that
says,
Guys
who
approach
me
want
to
sleep
with
me...
and
since
this
is
a
guy
who
is
approaching
me
he
must
want
to
sleep
with
me.
Because
she
interprets
the
actions
of
guys
in
this
way,
she
adjusts
her
behavior
to
effectively
deal
with
the
situation.
A
girl
can
only
get
asked
out
so
many
times
in
one
day
without
losing
her
mind,
after
all.
The
above
case
is
a
case
of
mistaken
framing.
After
all,
if
you
seriously
want
directions
and
you
walk
up
to
ask
her
for
directions
then
her
assuming
you
want
to
sleep
with
her
is
an
inaccurate
assessment
of
the
situation.
At
other
times,
though,
women
use
frames
to
control
a
situation
to
achieve
a
certain
outcome.
If
she
started
talking
to
a
guy
who
was
initially
cool
and
she
spent
a
good
amount
of
time
with
him
but
has
started
losing
interest
then
she
might
purposefully
misinterpret
his
words
so
she
can
get
angry
at
him
and
leave.
In
other
words,
she
might
just
adopt
the
this
guy
is
being
a
jerk
frame
so
that
she
can
take
the
steps
needed
to
leave
the
situation.
If
she
hasnt
made
up
her
mind
about
the
guy
yet,
but
has
her
suspicions
that
hes
not
all
he
presents
himself
to
be,
then
she
might
use
this
frame
to
goad
the
guy
into
saying
the
wrong
thing,
showing
too
much
interest,
being
defensive,
or
any
number
of
other
things
that
might
expose
his
true
character.
Women
are
sneaky
when
it
comes
to
setting
up
tests
and
structure
them
in
such
as
way
as
to
screen
out
a
large
number
of
guys.
Girls
might
not
even
be
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happens
far
too
often.
Cases
where
women
you
are
not
close
to
ask
you
to
do
things
for
them
are
usually
cases
where
a
woman
is
trying
to
frame
you
as
weak
or
someone
willing
to
supplicate
to
gain
favor.
Thats
not
the
type
of
guy
a
girl
wants
to
be
with,
but
making
him
grovel
or
try
to
impress,
will
boost
her
self-
esteem.
What
would
you
do
in
these
situations
to
keep
from
looking
like
a
tool
and
to
be
able
to
date
these
girls
later?
Mastering
an
awareness
of
when
women
are
testing
you,
and
what
to
do
about
it
when
they
are,
is
a
key
social
skill
and
vital
for
becoming
an
attractive
guy.
As
guys
we
can
control
the
overall
frame
as
well.
In
fact,
we
need
to
control
the
understood
context
in
which
our
actions
take
place
to
have
the
desired
results
from
interactions
like
these.
In
the
test
above,
the
right
answer
is
to
re-frame
her
test.
Instead
of
responding
to
Are
you
calling
me
fat?!
with
No!
...I
just
said
I
like
how
you
dont
wear....
you
could
respond
with,
You
better
behave
yourself,
Kiddo,
then
shake
your
finger
at
her
with
playful
patronization.
In
one
line
you
have
taken
her
test
and
flipped
it
on
its
head,
making
her
look
like
someone
who
is
playing
games
and
trying
to
goad
you
into
saying
something
you
shouldnt.
You
frame
her
as
someone
who
is
a
troublemaker,
yourself
as
someone
who
is
socially
savvy,
and
your
value
as
being
higher
than
hers.
Not
bad,
eh?
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and
stepped
into
the
kitchen.
I
heard
the
door
close
with
a
series
of
beeps,
then
some
ruffled
sounds,
and
boots
falling
to
the
floor.
She
was
definitely
taking
her
sweet
time.
Out
of
the
corner
of
my
eye
I
could
see
her
peek
her
head
around
the
corner,
just
enough
to
get
a
glimpse
of
my
apartment.
She
stood
on
the
far
side
of
the
room,
back
pressed
up
against
the
wall,
inching
her
way
along
into
the
room
as
if
she
were
pressed
against
the
face
of
a
terrifyingly
high
rock
ledge.
I
smiled,
telling
her
that
it
wasnt
a
huge
apartment,
but
it
had
a
great
view
of
the
river;
then,
I
swung
open
an
egg-
white
cabinet
door
and
pulled
down
two
wine
glasses.
Before
planting
them
down
on
the
counter
and
going
for
the
wine
I
heard
a
clunk,
and
then
another
series
of
beeps.
I
paused.
The
girl
wasnt
inching
along
the
wall
anymore.
I
laid
the
glasses
on
the
counter
and
took
a
few
steps
towards
the
entranceway.
It
was
empty.
The
door
to
the
bathroom
was
halfway
open
and
the
lights
were
off.
I
looked
over
at
where
she
had
left
her
boots
and
only
saw
my
pair
of
red
converse
sitting
there.
Could
she
have
just
taken
off?
Just
left?
I
hurried
to
the
big
bay
windows
of
my
apartment,
which
overlooked
the
river.
Along
the
river
ran
the
small
street
that
we
had
walked
down
after
the
bar,
and
the
entrance
to
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Its
no
secret
that
women
have
casual
sex
in
the
West,
wear
sexually
suggestive
clothing,
strip,
or
even
become
porn
actresses;
but,
even
in
the
most
permissive
liberal
democracies
women
are
confined
to
acceptable
roles
when
it
comes
to
sexuality.
Wearing
sexually
suggestive
clothing
might
be
the
least
taboo
but
even
women
who
dress
this
way
can
be
labeled
dirty,
or
sluts,
by
a
large
portion
of
western
society.
Labeling
only
gets
worse
for
women
who
chose
to
be
more
open
with
their
sexuality.
Women
who
have
casual
sex
or
become
strippers
suffer
a
greater
stigma
by
a
larger
proportion
of
society,
while
porn
actresses
are
nearly
untouchable
due
to
the
extent
to
which
they
step
outside
of
socially
acceptable
sexual
roles.
For
women,
being
labeled
a
slut
may
be
a
fate
worse
than
death.
Its
a
tag
that
all
women
try
very
hard
to
avoid
-
the
sooner
that
you
realize
this,
the
better
off
you
will
be.
A
good
number
of
the
tactics
guys
skilled
with
women
use
to
sleep
with
women
aim
to
keep
the
girl
from
feeling
like
a
slut,
or
feeling
that
she
could
be
labeled
a
slut.
While
women
try
hard
to
keep
other
people
from
seeing
them
as
a
slut,
sometimes
just
feeling
like
they
are
acting
slutty
is
enough
to
keep
a
woman
from
fulfilling
her
own
sexual
needs.
I
think
this
is
really
interesting
-
a
woman
will
actually
internalize
her
own
repression
and
self-monitor
her
own
behavior
so
that
it
conforms
to
social
expectations
even
when
there
is
no
risk
of
getting
caught.
Your
chance
at
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to
trek
from
their
house
to
a
bus
stop,
wait
for
the
bus,
and
then
take
the
bus
for
up
to
an
hour
to
see
me.
You
can
imagine
how
appealing
this
was.
My
new
place,
though,
added
to
the
skills
that
I
had
already
been
able
to
develop
by
planting
me
down
in
a
location
women
would
actually
want
to
visit.
Location,
location,
location.
In
business,
the
ability
of
a
little
shop
whether
coffee
shop
or
corner
store
-
to
survive
often
comes
down
to
where
the
shop
is
located.
If
the
shop
is
located
in
a
busy
intersection,
the
shop
can
thrive
even
if
it
lacks
the
quality,
prices,
or
service
that
better
shops
have.
Take
that
same
shop
and
tuck
it
a
mile
down
the
road
next
to
a
Wal-Mart,
however,
and
youll
have
an
entirely
new
scenario.
Dating
works
the
same
way.
Finding
a
location
that
women
frequently
visit
will
ensure
that
you
maximize
your
own
offerings
and
increase
the
number
of
dates
you
get.
So
what
is
the
best
location?
Obviously,
that
really
comes
down
to
your
own
city,
but
it
also
comes
down
to
the
type
of
women
you
want
to
date.
First,
decide
on
the
type
of
women
you
like,
and
that
will
help
inform
the
locations
you
should
be
looking
at.
If
youre
into
business
women,
the
type
of
woman
at
home
in
a
power-suit,
then
you
should
be
looking
at
finding
an
apartment
in
yuppy,
or
ritzy,
areas,
places
in
your
city
that
have
classy
bars
serving
high
priced
cocktails.
If
college
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Once
you
have
your
place
picked
out,
and
youre
all
moved
in,
think
about
the
feelings
that
your
apartments
atmosphere
would
give
a
girl
who
was
visiting
for
the
first
time.
Is
there
harsh
lighting?
What
color
is
the
interior?
Staying
away
from
fluorescent
lighting
in
favor
of
warmer
lighting
can
have
a
big
impact
on
the
mood
florescent
lighting
is
a
little
harsh,
and
reminiscent
of
office
work,
while
warm,
soft
lighting
provides
a
more
sensual
atmosphere.
Adding
some
plants
or
interesting
pieces
of
artwork
especially
if
you
produced
them
yourself
can
also
go
a
long
way
to
creating
an
attractive
atmosphere.
None
of
that
will
matter
if
your
place
is
not
clean,
however.
My
suburb
apartment
was
spotless,
really
a
joy
to
look
at,
while
the
apartment
I
moved
into
in
the
college
area
in
Seoul
looked
like
it
hadnt
been
cleaned
for
an
entire
year
before
I
moved
in.
I
spent
3
days
cleaning
it,
removing
the
mold
from
the
bathroom
tiles,
picking
up
the
needles
off
the
ground,
and
patching
up
holes
in
the
walls.
In
the
end,
it
never
looked
as
good
as
my
apartment
in
the
countryside,
but
it
was
phenomenally
better
than
it
was
when
I
first
moved
in.
I
knew
that
if
I
left
it
in
the
state
that
it
was
in
when
I
first
arrived,
girls
would
be
thoroughly
unsettled,
and
that
could
put
a
huge
dent
in
my
sex-life.
Next
Steps
If
you've
read
this
far
you're
well
on
your
way
to
becoming
better
with
East
Asian
women
-
Congrats!
A
lot
of
guys
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A
lot
of
guys
say
they
cant
move
because
they
cant
afford
it,
or
because
they
would
have
to
live
too
far
away
from
work
or
school.
While
you
might
not
want
to,
it
is
possible
to
find
a
few
extra
shifts
at
work
or
even
pick
up
a
part
time
job
that
only
has
you
working
a
few
hours
a
week.
Another
alternative
is
to
map
out
your
own
spending
habits
and
cut
the
waste
out
of
your
lifestyle.
On
the
other
hand,
if
distance
is
your
concern,
remember
that
a
lot
of
the
guys
I
know
in
Seoul,
guys
who
are
really
successful
with
women,
are
willing
to
travel
an
hour
to
work
and
an
hour
back
from
work
each
day.
This
even
gives
them
a
great
opportunity
to
talk
to
women
while
in
transit.
Why
not?
Its
impossible
to
overstate
just
how
valuable
it
is
to
have
a
great
living
situation.
A
great
living
situation
can
actually
make
up
for
a
lot
of
the
shortcomings
you
might
have
when
it
comes
to
interacting
with
women.
2.
Think
back
to
the
section
we
covered
on
frames
and
social
scripts.
You'll
recall
that
I
mentioned
that
girls
love
social
guys,
and
that
being
a
social
guy
is
a
good
way
to
talk
to
just
about
anybody,
including
really
hot
women.
In
fact,
it's
so
good
that
it
can
even
give
you
plausible
deniability
when
it
comes
to
talking
to
attractive
women
-
you're
not
"hitting
on
her,
you
just
like
to
talk
to
people.
Developing
into
this
social
guy
will
help
you
a
lot.
I've
already
mentioned
that
girls
love
social
guys
and
that
it
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that
are
enjoyable,
or
make
the
other
person
feel
good.
This
can
be
as
easy
as
giving
a
compliment.
Try
different
one
or
two
line
jokes
that
you
can
use
on
a
wide
range
of
people,
and
see
what
gets
a
laugh.
You
will
be
doing
this
a
lot
when
you
develop
your
approach
skills
in
the
near
future,
so
it
would
really
help
you
to
start
now.
3.
Finally,
limiting
beliefs
hold
everyone
back.
A
limiting
belief
is
any
belief
that
you
have
that
says,
"no,"
"I
can't,"
or
"it
won't
work
because..."
These
types
of
beliefs
are
limiting
beliefs
because
they
limit
how
much
effort
you
put
into
achieving
a
certain
outcome,
they
limit
the
goals
you
aim
for,
and
they
limit
your
ultimate
success.
Limiting
beliefs
are
something
that
I
have
been
fighting
against
for
years
and,
while
I
have
killed
a
lot
of
them,
other
ones
still
creep
into
my
thoughts
on
a
regular
basis.
While
youll
never
be
free
of
them
all,
you
can
definitely
slay
a
lot
of
these
beliefs
in
specific
areas
of
your
life.
Everyone
has
limiting
beliefs
-
it's
just
a
natural
part
of
being
human.
While
you
shouldn't
feel
bad
about
having
them
you
should
also
try
hard
to
recognize
when
you
have
them
and
then
eliminate
the
ones
that
are
holding
you
back
from
reaching
your
goals.
A
lot
of
the
time,
just
hacking
through
your
limiting
beliefs
will
be
enough
to
push
you
towards
higher
levels
of
success,
and
it
is
always
the
case
that
the
degree
to
which
you
dissolve
your
limiting
beliefs
will
determine
just
how
far
you
can
go.
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their
situation,
and
are
taking
the
steps
to
do
it.
How
far
you
go
totally
depends
on
how
far
youre
willing
to
push
yourself.
While
a
lot
of
guys
can
make
drastic
improvements
after
just
changing
a
few
key
things,
guys
who
want
to
date
some
of
the
hottest
women
East
Asia
has
to
offer
need
to
push
themselves
further.
They
have
to
dedicate
themselves
to
constant
change
and
growth.
Thats
the
path
that
Im
currently
on.
The
changes
that
Ive
made
so
far
have
been
dramatic,
and
the
results
that
Ive
had
have
been
worth
every
sleepless
night.
This
year,
Ive
been
able
to
date
some
exceptionally
good
looking
women.
Given
how
far
Ive
come
as
of
now,
I
can
only
imagine
just
how
good
the
future
will
be.
You
can
get
here,
as
well.
Trust
me
when
I
say
that
if
a
hard
case,
like
me,
can
achieve
the
results
that
Ive
gotten
then
you
can,
too.
Youve
already
developed
a
decent
understanding
of
the
cultural
backdrop
youll
be
working
in,
as
well
as
the
basic
foundations
you
need
to
build
solid
dating
skills,
and
the
initial
steps
have
been
laid
out
for
you.
Its
time
to
get
to
work.
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