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WANTED TO KNOW
ABOUT
FLIRTING
Why do we flirt ?
Basic Instinct
If we do not initiate
contact and show
Interest in the
Opposite Sex, our
species would
become extinct.
The problem
FLIRTING IS
• Governed by a complex
set of unwritten laws
• Sometimes inappropriate
• Many men experience
difficulties in interpreting
women’s body-language
Where to flirt ?
• At parties, social occa-
sions and celebrations
• In schools, colleges,
universities ,…
• At work
sexual flirting
• Avoid sending
ambiguous signals
Who to pick ?
1. People with roughly
the same level of attrac-
tiveness as yourself
• Men are inclined to
overestimate their
attractiveness.
You have to
experience it in
order to become
good at it
Mind your body
language
In the initial stages,
how you say things is
more important than
what you say.
• Palm rubbing
• Display of anxie-
ty or nervosity
• Blank, unexpres-
sive face
• Closed, near-to-
body movements
DO WE TOUCH ?
YES,
DO TOUCH
BUT
BE VERY
CAREFUL
TOUCH
Touching is a subtle,
Powerful and complex
Form of communication.
Just a light, brief touch on the arm during a
short social encounter may have immediate
and lasting positive effects.
Correct touching helps to advance the relation-
ship. But inappropriate use of touching could
ruin your chances for ever!
ARM TOUCH
If a light touch on the
arm to draw attention
or express support
produces a negative
reaction, you might
as well give up now !
Some degree of
intimacy is required
before proceeding to
a brief hand touch
ASK PERMISSION
Do not proceed without prior
positive reaction !
Perform each touch at least
twice before progressing to
the next level :
This tells your companion the
touch was not accidental and
is a non verbal way for
asking for permission.
THE NEXT
STAGES
Repeat each kind of
touch before moving
on to a next stage :
• Hand squeeze
• Holding hands
• Brief knee touch
• Arm over shoulder
Yeah, o.k.
she’s looking
my way.
Now: WHAT
DO I SAY
TO HER ?
ma tter
WH AT you sa y
It ’s HO W yo u say
it
that is
imp ort ant !
An y f rie ndly in vi tatio n
An y f rie ndly in vi tatio n
to a conve rsa tio n is
The thing is: your opening lines are
not about starting a flirtation, but
about starting a conversation !
Just make a
general comment
on some aspect of
the event or sur-
roundings, with a
rising intonation
or 'isn't it?' type of
ending
GOOD OPENING LINES
• Nice day, isn’t it ?
• Bit crowded, isn’t it ?
• Not very lively here
tonight, isn’t it ?
COMPLIMENTS ARE O.K.
• That’s a nice jacket !
• Wow, You look lovely !
80% of women think
that they are too fat.
“You’ve lost
weight!” is a
compliment that
is likely to
please almost
any woman that
you have known
for some time.
GOOD
CONVERSATION
PARAPHRASE:
“So you were stranded at
the station … How did
you get home?”
TURN OFFS
• OVER-SERIOUSNESS
• NEGATIVITY
• PASSIVITY
• SELF-PREOCCUPATION
• BANALITY
• LACK OF ENTHUSIASM
• OVER-EXCITEMENT
• RUDE BEHAVIOUR
ACTIVE
LISTENING
good listening is not
just about shutting up
and letting the other
person talk.
Good listening is about
giving good 'feedback‘.
This involves giving
both verbal and non-
verbal signals to show
that you are paying
attention, and that you
are interested.
IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO BECOME JUST ANOTHER GOOD FRIEND
guide to succesful
flirting
Thank you for reading the
presentation. May it bring you
many happy hours !
You may think she’s too beautiful for you, but unless you try,
How will you ever know how she thinks about you ?