The Parent Adult-Child Relationship Questionnaire

This form contains a number of statements about relationships between adults and
their parents. Please read each statement carefully, and decide how well it describes
your relationship with your mother and your father as it has been over the last year.
Please circle the most appropriate response of the four possible responses.
Very true
Tick if you feel that the statement describes your relationship with your parent
accurately.
Moderately true
Tick if you feel that the statement describes your relationship with your parent for the
most part.
Somewhat true
Tick if you feel that the statement describes your relationship with your parent to a
small extent.
Not true at all
Tick if you feel that the statement does not describe your relationship with your parent
at all.
Relationship with Mother
(PACQM)

Very true Moderately Somewhat

true
true

Not true at
all

1. I look forward to seeing my mother (3)

(2)
(1)
2. I feel responsible for my mothers happiness. (III) (II)
(I)
3. I feel that I should take care of my mother because she
has suffered so much in her life.
(III)
(II)
(I)
4. My mother is my best friend.
(3)
(2)
(1)
5. My mothers difficulty in making decisions has been a
burden on me.
(III)
(II)
(I)
6. My mother shows her appreciation of me. (3) (2) (I) (0)
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7. I am the only one my mother can rely on. (III) (II) (I) (0)
8. My mother thinks I am good in a crisis so she calls on
me all the time.
(III) (II) (I) (0)
9. I respect my mothers opinion. (3) (2) (1) (0)
10. I feel that I have to protect my mother. (III) (II) (I) (0)
11. My mother relies on me too much. (III) (II) (I) (0)
12. I am glad to be able to repay my mother for all the love
and care she gave me as a child.
(3) (2) (1) (0)
13. I feel like I parent my mother. (III) (II) (I) (0)
Scoring: Regard Scale Arabic numerals

(0)
(0)
(0)
(0)
(0)

Responsibility Scale Roman numerals

Relationship with Father (PACQF) Very true Moderately
true
Somewhat
true
Not true at
all
1. If I don t do things my fathers way he will nag me. (3) (2) (1) (0)
2. I respect my fathers opinion. (3) (2) (1) (0)
3. Something will happen to my father if I don t take care
of him.
(III) (II) (I) (0)
4. I feel that my father tries to manipulate me. (3) (2) (1) (0)
5. I look forward to seeing my father. (3) (2) (1) (0)
6. I feel responsible for my fathers happiness. (III) (II) (I) (0)
7. My father tries to dominate me. (3) (2) (1) (0)
8. I feel that my father makes too many demands on me. (3) (2) (1) (0)
9. I know I can rely on my father to help me if I need
him.
(3) (2) (1) (0)
10. If I don t see my father for a week I feel guilty. (III) (II) (I) (0)
11. I don t discuss much with my father because Im afraid
of being criticized.
(3) (2) (1) (0)
12. I don t mind putting myself out for my father. (3) (2) (1) (0)
13. My father thinks Im good in a crisis so he calls on me
all the time.
(III) (II) (I) (0)
Scoring:
Regard Scale
Arabic numerals
Responsibility Scale Roman numerals
Control scale Italic Arabic numerals