MALE AND FEMALE COMMUNICATION

Effect of Male and Female Communication in a Relationship

Chelsy Millet
HSP3U1
Ms. Knebel
May 2, 2016

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Effect of Male and Female Communication in a Relationship

Communication is the human basic need to be understood by others. It is the process of
sharing ideas, information and messages with other. But gender is the trait that can greatly
influence the way people communicate (Stewart 2015). Males and female have great difference
with how they talk and receive information. Including relationship, communication is very vital,
too, because it is the heart of it. But the variation of genders makes it hard for them to have an
understanding. Males and Females have factors that affect their relationship toward different
gender; their purpose, behaviour, body language, expression and their response. And these
factors lead to a problem such as misunderstanding, trust issue and confusion.
One of the reasons why male and female misunderstood each other is that they have
different purpose of communicating. According to Goldsmith, males and female see the purpose
of communication in different perspective. Women communicate because they want to share and
talk emotions and thoughts. However, male communicate because they want to share ideas,
suggestions and facts. The fact that these two genders view a different perspective, they cannot
meet a point where they can understand each other. Another, John Gray Ph.D. mention in his
book Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus, that female uses conversation to think
through a problem and work toward a solution. And men think when women talk, they are asking
for an advice or assistance. But the truth is, women are just figuring things out. Thus,
misunderstanding is an effect of male and female different perspective that cause a problem to a
relationship.
Moreover, experts believe that body language have a great influence on the difference of
male and female. According to the author of article 10 Ways Men and Women Communicate
Differently, Susan Sherwood Ph.D., women use abundance of non-verbal communication such

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as making eye contact gesturing and animated facial expressions. Also, they raise their eyebrows,
inclined their head and shrug their shoulder during the conversation. However, men keep their
body gestures and their facial expressions contained. Women tend to be better at receiving body
language messages, especially when it comes to noticing inconsistencies between body language
and verbal language. However, men tend to be less skilled at using body language to influence
communication without seeming to be doing so at all (Amos 2015). This is why when the couple
are conversing, women cannot ensure if me are telling the truth or not. Women want to make
sure that what men say are the same as their action. And without confirmation can lead to trust
issue.
Last, both genders have different way of showing their response during conversation.
Women use more words to make a point and express more feelings while men use fewer words
and express fewer feelings (Gray, 2015). This also explains that most conversations, women talk
more than men that women build assumptions that male are not paying attention since they there
quietly and focused on what is being said. It also includes the fact that male shows very little of
their facial expression and gestures. Women give feedback with tact, tenderness and sensitivity to
others persons feeling while men give feedback directly and bluntness, without intention that it
should be taken personally, Gray added. With the lack of sensitivity of men, they do not realize
often that they are offending other people that give them confusion to sudden change of attitude
and mood of that person. This is often the reason why relationship fight gets worst; the women
try to express with tenderness but men just say whatever on their mind.
In conclusion, males and females difference in terms of communication lead to
relationship problems such as miscomprehending each other, doubting each actions and not
understanding the situation. Purposes, Behaviour, Body Language, Expression and Response are

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the factors that makes male and female different. But regardless to the differences, a relationship
will overcome these when both of them try to adapt a style that match the partner.

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