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BEFORE MARRIAGE
In decades past cohabitation was a taboo especially for women. The social
stigma around living with a man before marriage was heavy. As times
changed the social stigma and relaxation of religious morals has changed
and now cohabitation before marriage is common place. There are many
pros and cons to cohabitating and some can swing both ways.
4. Save Money
Another reason people cohabitate prior to marriage is for financial reasons. If
the couple is spending all their time together and sleeping together it
doesnt make sense to maintain two homes. Financially cohabitating takes a
major stress off both partners by being able to split the costs of maintaining
a home.
5. Put Your Relationship to the Test
The next most common pro to cohabitating before marriage is relationship
viability. While divorce is almost as common as marriage, studies have shown
people fear divorce more than marriage and opt to live with someone to see
if they are compatible in the long run. Studies have also indicated that after
the age of 23, the chance of divorce drops to 30% vs. 60% of those who
cohabitated between 18 and 23 years old. This means that 70% of those
cohabitating after the age of 23 go on to become married and stay married.
6. More Probability of Future Success
Further studies show that 40% of cohabitating couples do marry within three
years of living together. The studies go on to show that those who are
engaged prior to living together marry sooner and they report fewer
difficulties in the relationship.
7. Dont Believe in Marriage
There are those who simply dont believe in the state of marriage. This gives
those who choose to live together without legally marrying the benefit of
being married without the pressure of a legally binding document although
many states have common-law marriage laws in place that state those who
cohabitate are entitled to the same rights as those who are married after a
certain amount of time.
8. What if Failure Happens?
Many choose to live together because they believe it is easier to leave a
relationship than a marriage. Despite the advances in womens liberation,
there is still a social stigma attached to being divorced and women prefer to
test run the situation before committing. Studies have shown that 75% of
women under 30 have cohabitated with a partner and find it much more
of the cohabitates feel smothered by the other and mourn the loss of their
freedom to go and do what they wanted prior to cohabitation.
4. Unexpected Pregnancy
Unexpected pregnancy during cohabitation can force couples to marry when
they are neither committed to the relationship or having children. These
situations can create far more stress for those who arent fully committed
than those who are committed and on a marriage track.
5. Poor Financial Management
Finally as in all relationships money management problems are common. The
con of living together is that one partner may be responsible and good about
paying bills while the other is poor with money management making joint
living very difficult, especially when it comes to large purchases like a car or
home. One person may find themselves buying all the items in their name
with their credit because the other is not stable financially and this creates a
distinct amount of tension and distrust in any relationship but more so when
cohabitating.
Times have changed and it is now common to live together before getting
married. This has both positive and negative effects that need to be
considered prior to making the move. Those who are committed to a
relationship with plans to marry have a much higher success rate than those
who slide into cohabitation due to convenience.
Underneath this and due in part to womens liberation, women want to be
sure they are marrying the right one because there is still stigma around
being divorced, therefore they are more likely to live with someone as a test
run for marriage. Either way, it is an individual choice and a common
practice in the 21st century.