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How to Raise
Successful Kids
Advice From a Stanford Dean, a
Navy SEAL Commander, and
Mark Zuckerbergs Dad (Among
Others)
by Bill Murphy Jr.
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Introduction
We all want to be successful and happy. You
know what we want even more? For our kids
to be successful and happy.
Thats my experience as a relatively new father
anywayand its whats led me to write a lot
about this subject for Inc.com and elsewhere.
On the pages that follow, Ive brought together
some of the best advice I could find in my
columns on the subjectsmart people
weighing in on how to raise happy, successful,
resilient, entrepreneurial kids.
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Table of Contents
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1.!Advice!From!a!Navy!SEAL!Commander!
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2.!Advice!From!Mark!Zuckerberg's!Dad!
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3.!Advice!From!a!Former!Stanford!
University!Dean!!
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4.!Teach!Your!Kids!to!Ask!This!Simple!
Question!
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5.!7!Things!to!Do!Each!Day!
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6.!9!Things!Moms!Say!That!Can!Make!You!
Really!Successful!in!Business!
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7.!7!Questions!to!Ask!Every!Day!
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8.!6!Secret!Habits!of!Highly!Successful!
Millennials!
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9.!17!Daily!Habits!My!Dad!Insists!Will!Make! 63
You!Happier!and!More!Successful!
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10.!11!Habits!of!Highly!Effective!Leaders:!A! 74
U.S.!Marine!Corps!Officer!Shares!the!
Secrets!
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11.!7!Amazing!Kid!Entrepreneurs!Who!Will! 81
Make!You!Think,!Man!What!Was!I!Doing!at!
Their!Age?!
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12.!The!Most!Important!Success!and!
Happiness!Rules!You!Can!Learn!From!My!
Mom!
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13.!Want!to!Raise!Super!Wealthy!Kids?!
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14.!This!Man!Retired!and!Gave!Up!$13!
Million!Because!He!Can't!Bring!His!Son!to!
Work!All!the!Time!
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16.!Emotional!Resilience!in!Kids!
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Want to Raise Resilient
Kids? A Navy SEAL
Says Always Do This
Resilience is defined as "the capacity to recover
quickly from difficulties; toughness."
There's no surprise that it's a characteristic of
some of the world's most successful people. It's
also a required trait to endure and succeed in
some of the toughest specialties in the U.S.
military.
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Want to Raise
Entrepreneurial Kids?
Mark Zuckerberg's Dad
Says Do These Things
Life changes when you have kids. It's a clich,
but I've experienced it myself. You still aspire
to great things--but you think more about the
life you want for your child(ren), too.
One thing I want for my daughter is the chance
(if she wants it) to be an entrepreneur. Having
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Want to Raise Successful
Kids? A Former Stanford
Dean Says Please Stop
Doing This
If there's one thing many parents want more
than to lead happy, successful lives, it's
to make sure their kids lead happy, successful
lives.
Now a former dean of Stanford University says
many parents' hearts may be in the right place!
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Want to Raise Happy
and Successful Kids?
Teach Them to Ask This
Simple Question
What do you want to be when you grow up?
Wait, don't answer. It's a trick question. In fact,
it might be the trickiest question there is, at
least if you want to be happy. (Yet adults ask
kids that all the time.)
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7 Things to Do Each Day
If You Want to Raise
Happy and Successful
Kids
I'm like, a dozen years away from being dad to
a teenager, but I was drawn to Christie
Halverson's piece about raising teenagers-published a couple of years ago on her
blog and more recently on Upworthy.
(Plus, I work for what's probably the most
influential parenting brand on digital media,
and I know a good story when I read it.)
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9 Things Moms Say That
Can Make You Really
Successful in Business
Want to know who knows a lot about what it
takes to be successful? Your mom.
My company runs Scary Mommy, one of the
most successful and popular digital properties
for American moms. I've worked with some
truly incredible mom entrepreneurs as a result.
Among them: Galyn Bernard and Christina
Carbonell, cofounders of startup kids clothing
company Primary.
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"Be yourself."
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"Play nice."
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"Work hard."
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"Kick ass."
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How to Raise Highly
Successful Kids: 7
Questions to Ask Every
Day
You want to be successful and independent.
We all do.
When you have kids, though, it's funny how
quickly your aspirations become all about
them. What will they do in life? Will they be
happy and successful?
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6 Secret Habits of Highly
Successful Millennials
Nine hours of sleep per night.
It sounds like a lot--like a dream, no pun
intended.
But according to the U.S. Census Bureau, it's
par for the course for Millennials.
The folks at SelfStorage.com were intrigued by
that statistic and a few others that set the
current generation apart from GenXers and
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17 Daily Habits My Dad
Insists Will Make You
Happier and More
Successful
The other day my dad sent me an email with
the subject line, "YOUR COLUMN." (My dad is
sometimes big on all-caps.) It began:
Bill:
In the tradition of 12 step programs and
your excellent columns, I offer the following
for your use, adaptation, or rejection.
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4. Work hard.
You can't always determine what you get out
of something, but you can often control what
you put into it.
When I was growing up and I'd be anxious
over some school assignment or other project,
my dad would usually ask me the same
question afterward: "Did you give it your best
shot? Then forget about it."
5. At the end of the day, go home.
This one seems simple, until you start to
realize how most of us are almost 100% on and
accessible all the time now. Now, I'm not going
to pretend that either my dad or I truly live up
to this advice, but it's a good goal to have.
6. Later, go to bed.
"Get the rest you need. Your body needs sleepnot just 'rest and relaxation'-for it to work
well," my dad insists. He's right of course-and
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11 Habits of Highly
Effective Leaders: A U.S.
Marine Corps Officer
Shares the Secrets
My brother Jim Murphy was in college when
he announced he was joining the U.S. Marine
Corps. He went to officer candidate school,
and became an infantry officer and a platoon
and company commander. Ultimately, he led
Marines during the invasion of Iraq.
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7 Amazing Kid
Entrepreneurs Who Will
Make You Think, Man
What Was I Doing at
Their Age?
One of the recurring themes you find when
you interview thousands of entrepreneurs is
that many of them started as little kids.
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The Most Important
Success and Happiness
Rules You Can Learn
From My Mom
Recently, my column 17 Daily Habits My Dad
Insists Will Make You Happier and More
Successful was one of the most popular articles
on Inc. This was very gratifying both to me and
to my dad, whose words of wisdom inspired
the article.
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Want to Raise Super
Wealthy Kids? Conceive
Them Before May 14.
We've talked before about how to raise
resilient kids, and even how Mark
Zuckerberg's father says he raised a supersuccessful entrepreneur.
But this advice about raising successful kids is
on another level entirely.
A British website called Gocompare,
which offers a tool to compare insurance
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This Man Retired and
Gave Up $13 Million
Because He Can't Bring
His Son to Work All the
Time
Is Adam LaRoche a hero for putting his family
first, or a fool?
Almost every day last year, LaRoche, a first
baseman and designated hitter for the Chicago
White Sox, took his then 13-year-old son,
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7 Science-Backed
Things You Must
Do to Raise
Successful Kids
Recently, we explored how wealthy parents give their
kids a giant advantage, simply by raising them in
more privileged neighborhoods. (Not every reader
loved that idea. Some on Facebook called it a recipe for
snobbishness or insecurity. Others bemoaned wealth
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How to Raise
Emotionally Resilient
Kids: 7 Important Things
to Teach Them
We all want our kids to be happy and
successful, so it makes sense to work
backward and figure out how to make that
happen.
Step 1: To be happy and successful, they need to
develop great relationships.
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