Epitome

Of
The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
By- Anshumaan Saxena
Basics

We are working on the 7 habits which are further divided into 2 categories as Private
and Public Victory.
In Private Victory mentioned habits are for self-improvement. This will increase our
personal Effectiveness.
In Public Victory mentioned habits are for Building and Improving the Relationships with
people. This will increase our effectiveness for teamwork and Leadership.
Paradigm Shift = making of the lens to see the world (differently).
Types of States:o Dependence- the paradigm of You- You.
Ex- You cook for me; You take care of me.
o Independent- the paradigm of .
Ex- I can do it; I can achieve it.
o Interdependent- the paradigm of We-We.
Ex- We can do it; lets do it together.
Interdependent people have valuable than Independent.
In order to achieve interdependence, we need to be better independent.
Shortage of anything creates Motivation.

Habit 1:- Be Proactive

Principles of Personal Vision

Anybody who takes initiative and is responsible for the whole process is proactive.
Our behavior is a function of our decisions, not conditions.
Dont blame on Circumstances, Conditions, and Conditioning of behavior.
People who are affected by the social environment are reactive people.
Proactive people carry their own weather.
If reactive people are treated well they feel well, if not then they will be defensive or
protective.
Reactive people are driven by- feelings, circumstances, conditions, and the
environment.
Proactive people are driven by- selected and internalized values.
Types of problem:o Direct problems, which can only be solved by changing our habits.
o Indirect problems, which can only be solved by changing in methods of influence.
o No Control problems, which can only be solved by changing the perspective to
see the problem (Paradigm Shift).
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Our Response in admitting mistakes helps to improve the quality of next moment.
Strong character is strong enough to make commitments, promises, setting goals and
being true to them.
Increase proactivity by Imagination + Conscience.
Proactivity is the king of all habits.
Effectiveness = Commitments.
Habit = desires + Skills + Knowledge.

Habit 2:- Begin with the end in mind

Principles of Personal Leadership

Imagine ending of the situation/condition then perform the task.

Busy people achieve surely but they need direction for being busy.
First think & Act.
Effectiveness is directly related to End in mind.
According to Habit-1 You are the Creator and Acc. To habit-2 You need to write your
own Script with desire Endings. Script Stands for Personal Mission Statement.
Self Awareness is the key to writing your own Script.
With the personal mission statement, we dont need prejudice for everything.
Personal Mission Statements Goal reflects your deepest values and your uniqueness.
People avoid changes in their life because of their personality centeredness. They cant
live with changes if there is not a changeless core inside them.
Different types of personality Centeredness areo Spouse
o Family
o Money
o Work
o Possession
o Pleasure
o Friend/enemy
o Religion
o Self
Be Principle Centered : Self Aware
Knowledgeable
Proactive Individual
Unrestricted by attitudes
No environmental influences
More you learn than more your paradigm will shift.
Brain Dominance Theory- According to this theory human brains left and right side have
different functions and specialty. LikeRight side- Creative, Intuitive, Artistic, Time Free.
Left side- Logical, Use Words & Measurements, Time Bound.
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Visualization of Conditions removes Terror and prepares to respond better.

Harmony with correct principles + natural laws gives you the power to achieve success.
Leadership is an art perform by the right side of brain and Management is perform by
the left side of the brain. So, it concludes that leadership is Psychological activity.
LogoTherapy- The Philosophy that eliminates the emptiness by detecting one's unique
meaning and his mission in life,

Habit 3:- Put First Things First

Principles of Personal Management

This is the practical fulfillment of previous two habits.

Revision in Computer Metaphor.
o Habit-1 states You are the Programmer.
o Habit-2 states Write your program.
o Habit-3 states Run/Live the program.
This habit is practicing Effective self- management.
In addition to Self-awareness, imagination, and conscience,
Independent Will play a major role in this habit.
Leaders decide what First Things are, but
Managers put Them First.
For People
Effectiveness
For Things
Efficiency
This habit Teach us to use Compass, Instead of Road Map.
Management is to do things right, but leadership is to do the right things.
According to author E.M Gray, habit-3 is the Common denominator shared by all
successful people. He observed that Successful people have a clear sense of direction
and value, and having a big burning YES! inside that makes it possible to say NO to
other things.
Four Generations of Time Management
o First Generation these types of people use notes and checklists to meet the
demands placed on specific time and energy.
o Second Generation These types of People use calendars and appointment
books to look ahead to schedule events and activities in future.
o Third Generation This is the present situation of Time management, adding
prioritization, focusing on setting goals (specific long, intermediate and shortterm targets) toward which time and energy would be directed by harmony.
o Fourth Generation In this we need to manage ourselves rather than time, it
mainly focuses on preserving and enhancing Relationships and on accomplishing
Results (maintaining P/PC balance).

Advances of Fourth Generations :o Principle Centeredness creates a central paradigm to judge what is important
and effective.
o Conscience Direction Increase your ability to organize your life in harmony with
deepest values.
o Mission Achieving Gives direction and purpose to the way you spend your days
towards goals.
Time Management MatrixURGENT
NOT URGENT
Important 1
Crises
Deadline Driven Projects

2
Relationship building
Planning, recreation
Grab new opportunities
4
Busy works, Trivia
Time wasters
Some calls, emails

Not
3
Important Interruptions
Calls, emails, reports
Some meetings
Popular activities
In the above matrix, the best quadrant is second.
2nd quadrant focuses on
- Identifying Roles list your roles as a family member and in the interesting field
of your work in which you want to invest your time and energy on a regular
basis.
- Selecting Goals now think of one or more important results which you want to
accomplish in next targeted days.
- Scheduling Strategize your time according to each goal according to your
priorities.
- Daily Adapting - Now repeat this process every morning within a couple of
minutes to schedule your whole day.

Paradigms of Interdependence:

You cannot be successful with other people if you havent paid the price of success with
yourself
Self-mastery and self-discipline are the foundations of good relations with other.
Interdependence is a choice only independent people can make.
Emotional Bank Accounts and their withdraws play a major role in trust and
relationships.
6 major deposits in Emotional Bank Accounts Understanding the Individual.
Attending to little things (kindness or Courtesies).
Keeping Commitments/ Promises.
Clarifying Expectations.
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Showing personal integrity (Integrity is beyond honesty, Honesty is telling

the truth but integrity is conforming reality to our words.) ex- Loyal to
those who are not present.
Apologies sincerely when you make a withdraw (mistake).

Habit 4:- Think Win/Win:Principles of Personal Leadership

Paradigms of human interaction

o Win/Win In this paradigm we think about the mutual benefits and better
decisions for all parties.
o Win/Lose In this paradigm, if one wins then other Loose. The race is the perfect
example for this. This leadership style is not so effective because of most results
you want to depend on cooperation between you and others. And the Win/Lose
mentality is dysfunctional to that cooperation.
o Lose/Win In this paradigm, people have no demands, no vision, and no
expectations. They dont have the courage to express their feelings and
convictions and are easily intimated by the ego strength of others. Win/Lose
people love Lose/Win people because they can feed on them. They love their
weaknesses. Such weaknesses complement their strengths. But both paradigms
are of weak positions.
o Lose/Lose when two Win/Lose people get together- then they both lose
because they are determined, stubborn, ego-invested individuals. Then both
become vindictive.
o Win This is the most common paradigm of thinking about to win. People with
this paradigm dont necessarily want someone else to lose. No sense of
competition.
o No deal or Win/Win - Here No deal means that if we cant find the solution for
mutual benefits. And both agree that our goal is in opposite direction- No deal,
No expectations have been created, No performance contracts establishment.

Five Dimensions of Win/Win:o Character Integrity, Maturity, Abundance Mentality.

o Relationship Dealing with Win/Lose is the real test of Win/Win.
o Agreements performance agreement- desired results, guidelines, resources,
accountability, and consequences.
o Systems character + relationships + agreements. Good people in the bad
system cant produce desired results.
o Processes attitude of solving a particular problem.

Habit 5:- Seek first to understand, then to be understood.

Principles of Empathic Listening

To open up someone in front of you, you first need to understand his/her. If you use
some technique without knowing then it reflects duplicity and can be manipulative.
Empathic Listening Listening in order to understand not to reply (or preparing speech
in mind)
Empathy makes people Interdependent and sympathy dependent.
Empathic listening gets inside another persons frame of reference (paradigm-sharing),
While Sympathy is a form of agreement and judgment
Dont apply your autobiography to anyone you listen/deal.
DONT use Autobiographical Responses:o Evaluate - Agree or Disagree.
o Probe - asking questions without knowing the point of references.
o Advise Counsel based on self-experiences.
o Interpret Try to solve & motivate based on our motives.
Seek to be understood
o Ethos Character, Integrity, Competency, Credibility.
o Pathos Feelings, Relationships.
o Logos Logics.
For any good presentation or Elaboration, these 3 factors are major keys.
When we really, deeply understand each other, we open the door to creative solutions
and third alternatives. Our differences are no longer stumbling blocks to the
communication and progress.

Habit 6:- Synergize

Principles of Creative Cooperation

The exercise of all habits prepares us for Synergy.

More internal Security is directly related to the spirit of discovery, creativity, and
adventure.
The essence of synergy to value the differences.
Defensiveness, protectiveness, and legalistic language destroy communication and
produce Win/Lose and Lose/Lose.
By compromise, we can produce results but by cooperation, results can be 1000 times
more.
Synergy = Seek first to understand + Win/Win + High Emotional Bank Account.
Highly dependent people are trying to succeed in an interdependent reality.
o Dependent on borrowing strength.
o Highly manipulative people.
Sameness among peoples is uncreative and boring.
Value for other perceptions, not disagree.
Value the differences by realizing that all people see the world, not as it is, but as they
are.
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Habit 7:- Sharpen the Saw

Principles of Balanced Self-Renewal

According to this habit We are the tools of our own performance, and to be effective,
we need to recognize the importance of taking time regularly to sharpen the saw in the
following ways :o Physical Exercise, Nutrition.
o Mental Reading, Planning, Writing, Listening.
o Social/Emotional Empathy, Synergy.
o Spiritual - Unique Value, Commitment, Meditation.