Why some people succeed and why others envy them

Ever heard the saying it is lonely at the top? 99% of the worlds population believes that they are
incapable of doing great things, so they settle for the middle ground where mediocrity strives. Even
though a lot of people are afraid to reach for the top, they hate it when their friends become
successful. Theres a blatant jealousy when someone gets something we want. We are consumed
with feelings of envy When an old friend appears looking more successful all areas.
The question is why is, why are successful people always the point of envy when they find
themselves among the less successful? Why does the average person begin to hate when someone
around them becomes more successful, happier, healthier, fitter and more contented?
Elizabeth Albright attributes it to three reasons:

Success reminds them that they could be in the league of the successful if only they didn t
give in to fear, uncertainty and pressure.

Have you ever run into a friend from high school ten years after graduation and your friend now
owns a business empire that is doing very well? He calls the shots in the lives of other people. He
doesnt have to obey the 9-5 rule unless he wants to. He goes on vacations at will and travels
whenever he wants to because he has no one to answer to but himself. You on the other hand,
have to obey the 9-5 rule. You cant make plans that will affect your performance at work
negatively. You cant go on vacations at will. Heck! You cant even afford one on your measly salary.
How did you feel?
Now a lot of people would feel pangs of envy and ask questions like, what on earth did he do right
that I did wrong. How come he gets to be his own boss and I cant? Rather than feel inspired or
motivated to face those fears that have held them back, they become resentful and full of excuses.

It reminds them that they still have dreams but they are doing little or nothing to make their
dreams come true.

Sometimes when faced with a successful project, people do suddenly realize suddenly that theyve
been foot dragging on their own progress.
Think about losing that extra weight. Other people may be supportive at first but the moment you
begin to look great and gain the admiration of others, they begin to dislike y ou. That is when you
start to hear statements like, you look too thin. Dont you think you should eat more? Must you
spend all day at the gym?
They admire you deep inside and want to be like you. But still, they try to make you feel bad about
your decision to lose weight just because they couldnt bring themselves to take a step in that
direction. This about applies to every facet of human existence.

It reminds people that there is no fulfillment in living an average life.

A successful person instinctively reminds others that they are doing very little to change
anything about their lives. The truth is, the way most of us are living, though not our own
making, outrightly produces unhappiness and unfulfilled dreams. So, when we meet
someone who is living a fulfilling life away from the bandwagon, we become hurt and
dissatisfied. For some people, that dissatisfaction serves as a stepping stone to breaking
down the barriers limiting them from success. Sadly, such people make up a very few out of
several who would snort their noses and make excuses for why they are still in the dumps.
Want to hear the raw truth? We have all been there. Either health wise or financially. But the
difference between the successful person and the average person is that, while the successful face
their fears and break barriers, average people are comfortable at making excuses for why they are
where they are. In other words, a successful person does what the average person is unwilling to
do. So, instead of the hate and the envy, pick a leaf or two from the lives of successful people
around you. Inculcate the lessons learnt in your life consistently and well be on your way to success.