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Becoming A
Positive Listener
What is listening?
Hearing = Listening?
Listening
Mindfulness
Physically receiving messages
Selecting and organizing messages
Interpreting Communication
Responding
Remembering
Mindfulness
Mindfulness Is
u
u
Mindfulness is a choice
Hearing
u
u
A physiological activity
Sound waves hit our eardrums, hence we
beware of noises
A prerequisite of listening
Interfered by environmental factors e.g.
noise or fatigue
Some gender differences on content of
listening
Our interest
Expectations
Culture etc.
Interpreting Communication
To
be person-centered
Engage in dual perspective with the speaker
Dont impose our meanings on others, or trying to
correct or argue with them.
u Understand others perspective on her/his terms
u Make an earnest effort to understand, even though
you may not agree with her or him
u
Responding
Communicating
Remembering
OBSTACLES TO MINDFUL
LISTENING
EXTERNAL OBSTACLES
1. Message overload
To decide when to listen carefully or superficially
(Todorov, Chaiken, & Henderson, 2002)
2. Message complexity
Summon up extra energy
Taking notes, asking questions for clarification etc.
3. Noise
Move away from a noisy area
Turn off mobile phone
OBSTACLES TO MINDFUL
LISTENING
INTERNAL
OBSTACLES
1. Preoccupation
u
2. Prejudgment
u
OBSTACLES TO MINDFUL
LISTENING
4. Lack of effort
u
Forms of Nonlistening
1.
Pseudolistening
u
u
2.
Pretend to listen
Tangential or irrelevant responses delivered
Monopolizing
u
Forms of Nonlistening
3. Selective listening
u
4. Defensive Listening
u
5. Ambushing
u
6. Literal Listening
u
Adapting listening to
communication goals
1.
2.
Mindful
Control distractions
Adapting listening to
communication goals
3. Listening for supporting others
u
Minimal encouragers:
Verbal: mmh uh-huh Really? Im with you, go
on I see.
Nonverbal: head nod, widened eyes, maintain a steady
eye contact
Paraphrasing
Reflecting the content or meaning
Expressing support
Conclusion
Be mindful;
Adapt listening appropriately;
Listen actively
Listening is never an easy task.
Keep learning how to improve it
throughout your life!
References
Adler, R., & Proctor, R. (2014). Looking out/ looking in (14th
ed.). Boston, MA: Belmont.
Corey, G., Corey, M. S., Wood, J.T., Weiten, W., Dunn, D. S.,
& Hammer, E.Y. (2016). Intra- and interpersonal
competencies. HK: Cengage Learning.