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Autoethnography
Indianapolis, Indiana. These are just a few of the characteristics I would never want to change
about myself because they essentially make me who I am and identifiable by others who dont
know me. I was born March 25, 1992 into a middle class family of my mother and father who
are also both African American. By blood I am the only child in my family as both my mother
and father have children from other families making our family what is known as a blended
family. The question of who am I can be a very difficult question to answer as we are all
continually growing and developing our beliefs about the world around us. Throughout this
paper I will try to describe several different aspects about who I am now in this stage of my life.
I try to live my life based on six core values which are: faith, career/professional growth,
diversity and inclusion, self-confidence, financial stability, and the hustle. These six values are
in my opinion the most important aspects of my life. For me, faith is a big part of my life.
For a very long time I didnt enjoy going to church because I felt like my religious beliefs were
being chosen for me by my mother. I also never really understood most of what the preacher was
talking about except that there was a heaven, a hell, and when we died we would eventually end
up in either place. I would see people jumping around, shouting, and dancing and I thought that
thats what I was supposed to look like if I was a Christian. As I grew older and finally left for
college I began to create my own ideas about religion. I chose to attend a different Christian
church that was predominantly White, but their members were all around the same age as me.
For my own personal faith I felt like this was the best decision I couldve made. I was able to
understand the message being taught, people around me were all in college or young
professionals, and although everyone wasnt all the same color as me no one seemed to care. I
appreciate growing up in the traditional black church because it taught me a lot about myself and
As a kid my career and professional growth werent always on my list of values. For a
very long time I never paid much attention to how many hours my parents spent working and
how hard they worked to take care of my family. As I grew older I started to notice the hard work
my parents, particularly my father poured into his career. My dad was always early, made sure
that he didnt miss very many days of work, and tried to be the best at everything he did.
Watching my father helped me to develop the same respect for my potential career and
professional growth and has helped me to give a lot more of my time and energy to developing
this aspect of my life. Another reason I have acquired this value is because as I move more
toward the position I eventually want to hold I see the lack of African American women.
Researchers believe that there is a small number of African American Athletic Directors because
we dont want to be in a high pressure and high risk positions of authority. I want to be a part of
the small elite group of people who have defied the odds and move into these positions.
Like most of my values diversity/inclusion has not always been on my personal list. It
wasnt until I started playing college athletics that I learned about diversity and inclusion. I
strongly value diversity and inclusion because I feel like all people should be given the same
rights and be treated equally. This topic is most important to me because of my own diverse
lifestyle. I not only identify as an African American female, but also as bisexual. If this isnt
diverse enough, I also have a Caucasian girlfriend. Diversity and inclusion is important to me
because I want to be extended the same rights and opportunities as people who others consider
live a normal lifestyle. Culturally for me this is totally opposite of how many of the people in
my family see things, especially the older members of my family. For example, a lot of people in
my family still feel like we are going against our race by dating people outside of our race. I too
for a very long time thought that I wasnt supposed to date people who werent just like me. It
wasnt until I attended a predominantly white college near Chicago that I learned about diversity
and inclusion and that its ok to be different. In college I made friendships with all types of
people and it really opened my eyes to the world outside of what I was used to.
Growing up I was never taught much about financial literacy. My parents didnt pay their
bills on time, they didnt have an emergency fund and they never spoke about preparing for
retirement or 401k. None of the friends that I hung out with were financial literate either. It
wasnt until I had a college coach that constantly asked me about my bank account and if I was
preparing for the future financially that I started to think about the importance of financial
literacy. My coach taught me that money comes with power, stability, and choices. Being the
richest person has never been one of my personal goals, but having financial stability has been.
Having these conversations with my coach has taught me to begin preparing for the future,
unknown events, and to spend money towards experiences rather than material things. I believe
in many middle class African American households parents arent having these types of
conversations with their children. I never had a college fund or money in an account waiting for
me after college graduation. I was always taught to just wait for the next check from work to
come in. These experiences have taught me to look at money differently and to want something
different for not only my own life, but my own familys life. I have friends who in college were
meeting with their parents financial advisors and who were putting their money towards
investments. I dont want to continue the cycle of living paycheck to paycheck or not being able
Lastly, I value what is known to me as the hustle. The hustle is all about work ethic,
determination, and hard work. Ive never wanted things to be given to me. Instead I want to earn
it and outwork everyone else around me. I learned this concept from watching my dad and how
he worked his way up in the ranks of the military. I also believe this concept comes from not
seeing too many people who resemble me in the positions that I want to be in. I am very aware
that I am an African American female and that we statistically work in caregiving positions. I
also am aware that statistically women dont make as much money as men holding the same
position. I believe that because of my culture and because I am aware of the statistics about
African American people that it has naturally motivated me to want more for myself and for all
of us as a culture.
Who am I can be a difficult question for a 23 year old. In my opinion, who are you is
more about your values, beliefs, and what you stand rather than your race and ethnicity. These
characteristics help make up who you are, but doesnt define who you are. Drake, one of my
favorite musical artists created a song titled You & The 6 which was a song that was written to
talk about the different struggles he experienced growing up and the things he used to help him
cope during these times. In one of the verses on the song Drake says I used to get teased for
being black and now Im here and Im not black enough, cause Im not acting tough or making
up stories about where Im actually from. When thinking about this quote I thought it was an
identical reflection of my life and how culture affects me each and everyday.
Growing up I viewed the world as black and white. I attended public schools in the city
of Indianapolis that were largely populated with African American students. In most of these
schools there was a form of segregation in which students who were of similar color all normally
hung out and spent time together. I on the other hand was the outlier. Starting in middle school I
took several honors classes that always seemed to be filled with predominantly white students.
The other black students who were in these classes seemed to have more money and parents who
were well educated themselves. Even though I considered many of these students as my friends I
always felt like an outcast in these classes because I was black, my family was in no way rich,
and neither my mother or father finished college and earned their degree. It seemed as if in these
classes I would always hear black jokes or get asked questions that people only think that black
people would know the answer to. It was never unusual for people to ask if they can touch my
hair or if I could get my mom to make the chicken for the class gathering. Midway through high
school I wanted so badly to fit in with the other black students, so I quit taking honors classes
Soon after this time I accepted a full ride scholarship to Northern Illinois University
(NIU), a predominantly white institution (PWI) located just outside of the city of Chicago. When
I arrived I was a minority on campus, but the majority on our basketball team. In fact, there were
only three girls on our team who werent African American and one of them was my roommate.
At first, I tried to be someone that I wasnt. I spent most of my time with my black teammates
and only tried building a relationship with our black coach, essentially ostracizing everyone else
that I didnt think I had anything in common with. It wasnt until one of my white coaches pulled
me to the side one day and cursed me out for not exceeding expectations and living up to my
potential that I realized I was trying to be somebody I wasnt and living by societys expectations
of African Americans instead. After this day I began venturing out and becoming friends with
people who were similar to me based on things such as common goals, interests, and hobbies
instead of solely based on the color of someones skin. Overtime I found that I had the most in
common with the people who looked nothing like me. I soon became really good friends with a
lot of white students and one of my white coaches became not only my coach but also what I
From here on out in college and still to this day I am known as the black person who
wants to be white. Even my family members will joke about how I switched teams and became
one of them. I enjoy country music, drink beer, love spending time at the lake things that many
of my black friends would say only white people do. Since college I have began to look at
cultural identity differently than what I did when I was younger. When I was younger I saw color
and that was what I thought about when I thought of culture or identity. Today I think of culture
as the different values, expectations, and beliefs that make up someones character. I try to see
everyone as a person rather than a black or white person. Although, this doesnt mean that I am
blind to the differences that exist in our society today, but instead of complaining or rioting over
these differences, I choose to try and join forces with people who are different than myself to not
only learn, but to change the perspective of others, and gain an advantage for myself.
Choosing to have an open mind and see beyond peoples color and instead viewing them
as people has been one of the biggest things that I feel has helped me propel personally and
professionally. My beliefs about culture and diversity have helped me to gain various types of
mentors who are black, white, Indian, male and female. In my opinion this has been one of the
things that has opened me up to different opportunities and viewpoints so far in life. For
with a masters degree. This helped me because it impressed upon me the importance of
education and how being educated can help knock down many barriers that particularly people of
Although my education has been one of the greatest things that I have earned and value I
think it has also created barriers between myself and some of the people I love. After earning my
bachelor degree many of my family members were happy and so were my friends, it was
something that everyone expected I would do. Then a few years later when I earned my masters
degree everyone was really impressed. My family would talk about how I was one of the first in
our entire family to earn this type of degree and would brag about my achievements. Now that I
am working on my second masters degree I can tell that many of my family are worried that my
education will in many ways change me. Ive heard people say to me oh youre trying to sit
with the white men, or if you continue to go any further youre going to experience a lot of
racism because white people dont want to see anyone other than themselves as educated as you
are. This has been one of my biggest struggles because I battle achieving the goals that I have
for myself and also being able to relate to the people who are closest to me who didnt choose the
One of my favorite quotes about diversity says diversity may be the hardest thing for a
society to live with, and perhaps the most dangerous thing for a society to be without. Prior to
college I would say that my level of understanding about diversity was very low. When thinking
about diversity I never used to think of all the different things that are included in something or
someone being diverse such as age, race, sexual orientation, socioeconomic status, education, or
people with disabilities. I thought in order for something to be considered diverse there only
For myself, I think my level of understanding about diversity increased when I really
realized my own differences and wanted to feel accepted like everyone else. My level of
understanding grew even stronger when I started to think about diversity and how it affected me
when I began researching the type of jobs that I wanted. When I first began looking up jobs in
college athletics I saw that many of the people who hold the positions that I aspire to one-day
hold are all males. As I continued to research I saw that the majority of those people in those
positions were also white. To some extent this was disheartening to discover because it meant
that not only are my chances slim because Im a female, but also because Im an African
American.
In my opinion one advantage/disadvantage that I have is that many employers are putting
in place a rule that says companies must interview both minority candidates and female
candidates for positions. This is an advantage because at the core it gives myself and others the
chance that every other qualified person has in getting the position. This could also be seen as a
disadvantage as well though because employers might only be interviewing someone because
they must do so as a requirement, but not necessarily because they want to see what this person
One earned advantage that I have as both a female and African American is that there are
groups specifically targeted for these two demographic groups of people. These groups and
organizations come together to build comradery and inclusion of people who experience similar
specifically help minorities network with one another and build the skills necessary to succeed in
high profile positions within college athletics. Another example that I am apart of, would be the
organization is dedicated specifically for women who want to work in intercollegiate athletics.
NACWAA sets women up with mentors in college athletics and teaches us how to break down
barriers and be champions in the workplace. These opportunities can often times be overlooked
because we dont realize that although we arent the majority, we do have access to these types of
because it can give the impression that minorities must stick together and team up with only
people who are like themselves. I believe that in order to truly be successful we must step out of
our comfort zone and team up with all different types of people and organizations basically
Diversity is often times a difficult topic to discuss especially when you are
talking about it with someone who is different from yourself. Although diversity can be a
difficult and touchy subject to talk about I believe that having a conversation about diversity can
often times tell you a lot about someone. For this portion of my auto-ethnography I had the
opportunity to talk about diversity with several different people, one group of people who I know
really well and the other who I know but not as well.
My first conversation about diversity was with my immediate family. I wasnt quite sure
how to bring up this topic with them because I know that many things regarding diversity we do
not exactly see eye to eye on. I found the perfect opportunity to start the conversation when my
brother was telling us a story about how he was stopped by a police officer for not having his dog
on a leash at the park. My brother was really upset about it and was convinced that the only
reason why the police officer said something to him was because he was a white police officer
and my brother is African American. Hearing the story actually made me pretty frustrated
because my entire family was agreeing with my brother and talking very badly about White
people. No one in my family even thought to ask why my brother didnt have his dog on the
leash anyway. So I asked why didnt you have your dog on the leash in the first place, arent
those the rules at the park? Everyone in the room stopped and just stared at me as if I had said
Talking to my family is one of the hardest conversations for me to have with them. This
is the very reason that I chose to talk with my entire family because I thought that even though I
would feel uncomfortable that I would actually have the opportunity to talk about something that
is very important to me. Often times I struggle because I know that my family are good people
and for the most part have good intentions but I feel like many times they are so focused on
African Americans not receiving equal treatment that they overlook other people in the world
that go through everyday not receiving equal treatment as well. Also I feel as if my family thinks
that if something happens to them and it involves someone of a different race primarily
Caucasian people then my family thinks it only happened because it was a white person. After
talking about various aspects of diversity with my family it sort of scared me for where our
country is in terms of diversity. It makes me think that if my family, who are good people, can
think the way they do, then what are other people thinking.
The conversation then began to go deeper into diversity and how it affects the workplace,
mainly corporate America. I asked questions about their outlook on working in corporate
America and how it affected diversity. Like the other conversation their main focus was on
whites and blacks in corporate America and how African Americans are never fully given the
same benefits as whites are. No one seemed to think about women in corporate America or
people with disabilities who work in corporate America. For me the most interesting thing about
our entire conversation was what my family thought diversity meant. Many people, like my
family, think of diversity in terms of only color. This is very similar to how many people think
that the equality symbol only represents equality for sexual orientation. This frustrates me
because it could very well be the reason why our society isnt taking larger steps in the direction
of diversity and inclusion of all people. Are we only looking at diversity in terms of color and
I also had the opportunity to talk about diversity with one of my coworkers. Let me start
by saying this conversation was much different. My coworker is a Caucasian female from
Minnesota and I met her when I first started working at the University of Memphis. Shockingly
the conversation I had with my coworker was a lot more comfortable than the conversation I had
with my family. I think this is majorly because my coworker is the same age as me and has had a
lot of different experiences in her life just like I have. Growing up my coworker went to a
Christian school and then went to a small private college. I would argue that going off to college
really helps people to become more aware of diversity because they are around all types of
people. I started off the conversation with my coworker by asking her how it is when she goes
out with her boyfriend, who is African American, in public. She responded by saying that there
are times that she does feel uncomfortable because people look at her as if to say why is she
dating outside of her race, but that for the most part she hasnt had too many bad experiences.
I chose to talk to this specific coworker because after working with her I was able to
notice that we often times have the same outlook on diversity issues and equality. Before I met
this coworker I never thought that she would have an African American boyfriend, but I was
quick to make assumptions. I think this conversation was a lot more comfortable because we
have both been through similar experiences such as interracial dating and being women in a male
dominated profession. After talking with her it was clear that we share some of the same ideas
and thoughts about diversity and how we can help make our society a more inclusive place.
I approached the conversation with my family very differently than I did with my co-
worker. Although I still felt in many ways restricted with my family I also thought that I could be
a little more transparent with them than I could my co-worker. Talking about diversity can often
times make people feel uncomfortable because everyone has different viewpoints and opinions
on the topic. This could be a sensitive topic for many people because of past experiences that
people have gone through. One thing that could really impact how the conversation goes is the
age of the person that youre talking to. When I was talking to my family I was in a room filled
with people of all different age groups ranging from 21- 60. People who are much older could
have a certain outlook on life because they remember when their family members dealt with
issues such as civil rights. While many younger people may share in the frustration of people not
receiving civil rights I believe it can be somewhat difficult to understand if they have never
actually experienced mistreatment because of their color, age, gender etc. I think it is important
for people to make sure they develop their own thoughts and ideas about diversity and not take
Overall, Im really glad that I had the opportunity to have these conversations, most
importantly the conversation that I was able to have with my family. For me especially I think
that it is important to have these conversations because it can create change. Before this
assignment I would always try to ignore the rants my family would go on about the differences
between blacks and whites. Although now I think that its important that I speak up when they
have these conversations and give my input. I also think its important that I talk to them about
diversity and how it includes a lot of different things other than just race. I want my family to be
informed about diversity and the importance of it in our society, work place, and in our family.
So who am I really? Its a question that many young professionals are continually asking
themselves as they graduate college and begin to navigate their way through the real world.
Before taking this course I would say that I was aware of multiculturalism on college campuses,
but never really thought about how it would affect me as both a student and student affair
professional. Taking the course really shed light on how diverse college campuses are and the
importance of being knowledgeable about other cultures when working with students. Im the
type of person who never really wants to talk or discuss peoples differences because I think
everyone needs to be treated equally, but after this class I was able to see how important it is to
not only be aware of peoples differences, but also to talk about them so that we can better serve
our students.
Through the immersion project I was able to study a population of students that I
encounter every day at work. Before I assumed that the reason why a majority of our African
American males werent graduating and succeeding like everyone else is because they were lazy
and didnt care about academics. Instead I found out that some of the blame is on our culture and
how we raise our African American males. Our culture tells us to enroll our children in athletics
at a very young age to keep them busy, occupied, and out of trouble. Athletics can be a very good
tool to help young children develop and teach them lessons, but we as a culture need to find a
way to also send the message that athletics is not the only way that they can succeed in life.
When we see parents yelling at referees or allowing their son/daughter to miss school in order to
travel for basketball games it sends a strong message to our youth. I also learned that in college
athletics we need to find ways to be more sensitive towards our student athletes when they
encounter change. When the Memphis football coach left for Virginia Tech I wasnt sensitive at
all towards our football players, I in fact told them that they should be used to it. Then later on
after speaking with one of the student athletes for my immersion project they brought up how
having so many coaches during their time in college has affected them. In an environment where
there is so much change I think its important for me as a student affairs professional to help
provide some type of stability for our students and a place where they feel like their voices are
being heard.
Through discussions in class I also learned how important it is to students to see that we
as student affairs professionals are involved on campus as well. For example, one of my
classmates talked about LGBTQ students and the different experiences they have on campuses.
Although I dont think its necessary for administrators to discuss their own personal life I do
think its important for us to show that we understand some of the things they are dealing with.
Hearing my classmate share her immersion project on this subject made me think about when I
was a freshman in college and my athletic academic advisor had a rainbow flag in his office. I
asked him why he had that flag if he didnt identify with LGBTQ and he told me that it was for
his students. The reason he had that flag was to show that he was supportive of all of his students
and the fact that he was comfortable enough with himself to have that flag in his office spoke
volumes to me as a student. One thing I need to do better at is being more comfortable with
myself so that I can help other students. I could do this by getting involved with Safe zone on
campus or helping out in other organizations. Changing the culture on campuses specifically
with faculty regarding this topic will help our students have an overall better experience.
In the future one thing that I believe I will need to do to be an effective multiculturally
competent student affairs professional is learn more about other cultures that I dont directly
interact with every day. Athletics has a lot of foreign student athletes and being knowledgeable
about their culture could really help me excel in this field. Also, I would like to learn more about
how to help international students transition into life here on a college campus. This would really
help me with advising international students later on down the road because I will be aware of
the different challenges and struggles that these student athletes experience.
This class really made me begin to think deeper into the question of who am I. It forced
me to think about my own insecurities, challenges, and culture and how that could affect the
students that I have the opportunity to interact with. This class helped me realize that I cant sit
back and think because something doesnt directly impact me that I dont need to worry about it
or get involved. African American male student athletes statistically are graduating at much
lower rates than everyone else, this is a known fact. I need to play a role in helping cultivate
change in this area instead of just thinking that this is the way it has been and always will be.
Overall this class really helped to put a lot into perspective. Multiculturalism on college
campuses is constantly changing and evolving. As a student affair professional it is my job to not
only be knowledgeable, but to also help initiate and create change on college campuses. My next
steps will be to narrow down areas that I can help and begin a plan of action. Activities such as
the immersion project, auto-ethnography, and visiting the Civil Rights Museum really helped me
to become more multiculturally competent and find out where I can make the biggest impact.