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authoritarian, or permissive parenting, all parents fall either under one category or more than one
category. In our society today, many children are left to raise themselves because of working
parents or simply parents that do not care. Some parents believe in different types of discipline.
about what parenting style may or may not be most effective. Enclosed are the interview
questions:
Her answer: Emily said she was a mix between brick wall and backbone parenting. Her ultimate
goal is to eliminate any type of power struggle, giving the opportunity for her son, Christopher,
to express his feelings. She only implements punishment when needed or when is necessary. She
believes that talking about feelings and situations is important. She thinks that understanding
situations from Christophers point of view is important, because his feelings are important and
valued. Everything is based on negotiation. She does not get mad over things such as if
Question 2: What is the most challenging time of day for you and your child/children regarding
behavior issues and what are the most difficult behaviour issues? Describe using examples.
Her answer: The most challenging time of day for her with Christopher is leaving for school. It
requires a lot of repetition to get him motivated. He is a busy boy and he currently has difficulty
putting on his shoes. She believes it is more of a personal issue instead of a behavioural issue.
She tries to encourage him to stay motivated and on track. If he feels like he cant achieve, he
will easily give up on something. To assist him with this difficulty, she turns the challenges for
him into a song to help and encourage him to achieve his task. She said he rarely ever does talk
back, and when he does she reminds him of respect, and the importance of it.
Question 3: Describe a discipline measure that you like to use with your child/children. Why do
Her answer: She does use time out. But, she believes in cooling down, and when he is calm she
will come back and talk to Christopher about the situation. It takes time to cool down and talk
things through by both acknowledging each others feelings. She has only ever used corporal
punishment twice. She does not believe spanking is an effective way to deal with a situation. She
does not use it as a form of discipline. She is also a strong believer in the emergent curriculum
aspect.
Child development is an important area in a childs life. It is the point where they begin to
explore their world, problem solve, be able to take risks, and most of all, build relationships with
peers and teachers. It is a time where they are able to express themselves in all aspects and where
they begin to experience challenging situations. They begin to explore emotions and start to
develop their own identities as well. However, child development can have an impact on
problem solving. By conducting research, the findings have provided different points of view on
Question 1: According to Hartz and Williford (2014), they believed that a childs
development with their teachers and also with their mothers plays a role in behaviour with
children. Their findings stated that the environment children developed in, and their temperament
were crucial in determining behavioural problems in children. They also found that children that
had difficult temperaments were more likely to have negative emotions and reactions, and those
with easy temperaments were more likely to have more positive emotions and reactions (Hartz
and Williford, 2014). This could affect problem solving in preschoolers and kindergarteners
because different children will handle situations and conflicts in different ways. From the
information gathered, my thoughts on this issue is that a childs development comes from both
the parents and teacher influence. If the teacher influence is bad or negative, and then the child
goes home and the relationship with the parent (s) is bad or negative, then the child will feel as if
they are not loved, capable of solving their own problem, and that they have no control over
themselves or their emotions. They feel unimportant, and I do not believe that is a way for a
child to feel.
Many children do not know the first thing about problem solving because they are so
egocentric, and many of them have problems expressing themselves with language as well.
Many children just have a flood of emotions and are unable to understand words such as
problem, solve, or solution. They may feel overwhelmed by those words (Evans, 2002).
From experience, it can be said that many children at the toddler and preschool level, are just
beginning how to learn to problem solve. They are still in the pre-operational stage of
development, which means they need to see what the root cause of the problem is, in order to
come up with a possible solution (Evans, 2002). My thoughts on the issue of problem solving
come from the research that was done. Children need to be able to have healthy development,
with their home caregivers, and school caregivers. Broken relationships with either of those
aspects can make the issue of problem solving a lot more complicated. I believe that children
who have broken relationships with their families can have a harder time problem solving, and
problems with compliance. Many children have families that are divorced, and that is a hard
adjustment to deal with. Their behaviour and problem solving skills become more difficult.
Problem solving is important in child development, but the right amount of caregiving in the
home and outside of the home are required in order for those problem solving skills to become
stronger.
Question 2: (Research) For years, the debate about corporal punishment has been a
growing issue. Some parents believe in it and some dont. It has been an issue about whether it is
right or wrong. According to Taillieu and Brownridge (2013), some parents believe that corporal
punishment is an effective way to discipline a child. Parents who use corporal punishment are
more likely to be less warm and responsive vs. parents that do not use corporal punishment
(Taillieu and Brownridge, 2013). Taillieu and Brownridge (2013), stated that parenting style and
disciplinary techniques contribute to the developmental outcomes of children, both positive and
negative. Positive development was associated with authoritative parenting, and the idea of
corporal punishment was used in a way that was child-centered. This is the whole issue, that
corporal punishment is okay to use in some cases as long as it is used as a child centered
A) I think that some parents, teachers, and Early Childhood Educators punish children
because some of them do not know what else to do, or some grew up with their
parents punishing them. Some believe that if they punish, the child will most likely
never do what they did again, but really it ends up being the opposite. The more you
punish them, the more they are likely to act out. From a handout that was handed out
to us in class about discipline vs. punishment by Elaine M. Gibson, Gibson states that
the belief behind punishment is that pain must be felt for learning to take place. It also
states that punishment teaches children to: be afraid of authority, resent authority, how
to lie, and how to do things without getting caught. I agree with the statement that
punishment is meant to inflict pain (Gibson, 2006). Punishing a child is not going to
get them to solve the problem faster, if anything it will make them resent you, want
revenge, rebel, and eventually retreat (The 4 Rs). This leads to low-self- esteem
(Gibson, 2006). I think that some teachers and Early Childhood Educators use it as
an easy way out because they do not want to deal with the situation anymore.
think that teachers and parents do it because they think it will be a way for the child to
really see what they did wrong, which again, is not the case. For example, if you
put a child on time out and tell them to think about what they did they are not going
to do that. The only thing that they are going to be thinking about is the fact that they
are sitting down and not having the opportunity to play, and then the problem is still
not solved. They are going through a flood of emotions, and while all their peers get
to play, they are being centered out. I believe that this is cruel and wrong. You dont
teach a child a lesson by putting them in a corner and expecting them to think about
what they did wrong, when really, most of the time, they dont know what they have
done, because you havent told them. There are more effective ways to deal with
problems and conflicts that arise among children. Punishment is not one of them.
B) The following information is from notes that were taken in class.
The differences between the adult problem solving for the child and the child
lion). This approach basically means that adults solve childrens problems by
Approach (ostrich, turtle, mice). This approach means that adults avoid
conflict because conflicts are upsetting. Adults in this approach walk away or
tell children how to fix their problem. 3. Permissive Approach: this approach
means that there are few rules or standards of behaviour. It is known as the
jellyfish approach. If there are rules, they are often very inconsistent. Adults
may use bribery such as toys, gifts, and food as a means to get a child to
behave.
b. Child Centered: problem solving teaches children to take responsibility for
their actions and show respect to other people. With child centered
approaches, the idea is to use strategies that enable and allow the child to feel
that they are capable of solving their own problem. 3 important things to
There really are not any pros to the adult solving the problem for the child. I think it
degrades the child, and basically gives them the idea that the teachers ideas matter most. One
pro is that if the problem is not solved using the child-centered approach, and the child is at risk
of harming his or herself or others, then the teacher will step in. But I think the adult-centered
approaches are more about rules and authority, versus equal control and respect. There are more
cons to adult centered than pros. Cons are that authoritarian adults want order, control, and
obedience. Children are controlled and manipulated and made to mind. There is power and
control. Very little warmth is displayed with adult centered approaches. Permissive adults have
no backbone, they either smother or abandon children, and children are either obnoxious and
spoiled, or scared and vindictive. Children end up being afraid and do not know how to express
themselves. When you implement these adult problem solving approaches, the child does not
have the opportunity to know that their feelings and emotions are valued. You are basically
telling them that its your way or the highway, and they are not allowed to have a say in a
solution to the problem. In contrast, the approach we as ECEs need to strive to follow is the
authoritative approach (Backbone approach). When you are this type of educator, you do not
demand respect, you demonstrate and teach it. Children learn that they can say no, that they
can listen and be listened to, that they can be respectful and be respected. Children are taught
empathy and love for themselves and others (compassion). You are consistent, firm, and fair.
There is a calm and peaceful structure, and most of all, children are empowered. This is what a
child-centered problem solving approach is about. You are giving enough control so that the
child has the opportunity to work together with you to come up with a solution to the problem.
You are listening to each childs point of view, rather than dismissing or disregarding their
feelings.
C) The approach that I will use as an educator will be the child-centered approach to
problem solving. I am a firm believer in the fact that children need to be given time,
and given a chance to have the opportunity to solve their own problems, without
being told how and what to feel or what to think. I believe that there is a such thing as
learning from your mistakes, and that should be applied to young children as well. As
an educator, and when I become a parent, I want to make sure that my children
(inside and outside of the home) have equal opportunity to be respected and valued as
a human being. I will use the active listening strategies and the conflict resolution and
adult child interaction strategies frequently when working with and helping children
to problem solve.
As an Early Childhood Educator, it is our job to shape children and their future. If we
implement positive strategies and ways of dealing with problems, and allow them to be valued as
human beings, we will make the process of entering into a school setting easier for them. This
will avoid problems in adolescence and adulthood. One thing to always remember is that
children have a voice, and they have a right to know that they are respected, just as they respect
us.
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