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activities. They are the skillful and efficient ways of doing or achieving something.
When it applies to personality development, a person has to look into all possible
approaches and then choose one or more methods for the development of
It is the process of programming the mind. All the human beings have
two minds- Conscious and sub-conscious. The conscious mind is governed by the
When one wants to do something, the conscious mind consults the subconscious
mind. The subconscious mind approves the proposal if similar work has been done
in the past. Thus it has a relationship with the past. The personality of an individual
depends upon the state of subconscious mind, which can be given suggestions or
registered and remain inside all time and the subconscious mind guide the
conscious mind which in turn activates to do the work accordingly. Some of the
are as follows:
I am a capable person
I am a disciplined person
I have a great future
I will achieve great success
I will keep my body physically fit
I am an active person
I will become a famous person
I will use my time usefully the whole day today
I am a fortunate person
Napoleon Hill says Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can
then the results will be unpleasant, and a person will keep suffering with all kinds of
I am useless
I am an unlucky person
I cannot understand much
I cannot work in these circumstances
I cannot do well
My job is very taxing
Life is very boring
registered by the subconscious mind and will attract conditions and circumstances
which will make things to happen as per the thoughts. Hence it is suggested that
the programming of the mind should always be done in positivity. It is also desirable
that a person who wants to shape a good personality should keep company of
Many people have heard about the Law of Attraction. It is the principle
of attracting things into reality using power of mind. The Law refers to the field of
psychology. It states that Like attracts Like. In order to understand this Law one
should know that this universe consists of energy field. In these field things of
similar vibration patterns attract each other. Everything whether of physical or
abstract form including human beings and their thoughts are in the form of energy.
Hence the similar energy fields attract each other. The laws of attraction works just
like the law of gravity in physics. Positive vibrations of one energy field get aligned
to the positive vibrations of other. Similarly negative vibrations get aligned with
Most of the people are confused about this law due to the fact that
they know opposite poles of two magnets attract each other. They may say if like
attracts like, then north poles of two magnets should attract each other which is not
true. The truth is that they repel each other. This confusion is due to lack of proper
understanding. It is true that the same sides of two magnets repel each other and
the opposing sides attract. But if we look at the Figure 11.1, it is seen that in the
two magnets, like flow of magnetic energy is attracted by the like flow of it in other
magnet.
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Figure -11.1
In both the magnets shown in figure the flow of energy is from south to North Pole.
Thus, viewing the whole picture, like is being attracted by like. There are many
schools of thought on how to benefit from the Law of Attraction (LOA). The following
is a very simple approach to make use of this law in three steps Desire, Visualise
and Emotionalise.
Desire: In order that LOA works powerfully, one should feel the desire for what one
wants to attract. The desire must be strong enough so that it becomes a burning
Visualise: Having strong desire, visualization that it has been already achieved,
and the things desired have been received, use of sensory perceptions to realize
that the desire has been fulfilled, and will continue to remain fulfilled in future as
Emotionalise: While having the strong desire and clear visualization of things
already having received, one should call upon his emotions to become grateful for
Incorporating the above three steps in mind and doing this everyday
for as long as possible, the results will follow. The practice should be done with
complete faith until the desires are realized. For quick results, more time need to be
invested every day. Since the entire process is mental, the success depends upon
then intensity of the thoughts created about each of the above steps. The law of
attraction works by the principle that whatever is thought in mind, will be projected
into the universe and the universe will cause those thoughts to attract the events
the cause i.e. thinking. Use of law of attraction is simple - we get what we wish,
think good and get good. If one thinks bad, he will get bad things.
development. However, it works only when ones mind vibrations match with his
desire. For example, one may desire to become a pilot yet deep inside, is afraid of
aero plane crashes - this situation will create a tug of war inside the person and the
The word attitude has originated from Latin words Opto and Acto which mean fitness
and pastures of body respectively. Therefore the word attitude used to be referred to the physical
orientation of body to a frame of reference. Now attitude is considered to be an expression of body and
mind reaction towards a person, place, thing, activity or event. It is a kind of mental state based on ones
values, emotions and tendency to act in a certain manner. William James has said The greatest
discovery my generation is that a human being can alter his life by changing his attitude . Since
attitude is a kind of response, this can be positive, negative or neutral. It consists of three components
Affective (emotional), Behavioural and Cognitive (Informational) also known as ABC of attitude where A
stands for affective, B for behavior and C for Cognition. Attitude is formed on the basis of mainly
values, emotions and perceptions. This impact can be positive, negative or neutral.
Thus the attitude is formed and a person is characterized by either positive or
Table 11.1
S.N.
Attitude Personality
1. Outcome based on genetic
Perception based on environment, history, values and
education and experience education
2.
Relatively lasting feelings, beliefs and Personal characteristics
behavior towards people. that lead to consistent
pattern of behavior.
3. Attitude depends on who you are Personality is who I am.
depending upon the perception of situation. In a society, people can be seen with
The table 11.2 shows the characteristics of negative and neutral attitude. It is
observed that while the positive attitude makes a pleasing personality, the negative
attitude makes repulsive personality. The neutral attitude makes unnoticeable, non-
significant personality. The table 11.3 shows the difference between persons of
positive and negative attitude. It is seen from the table that persons having positive
those who possess negative attitude. The persons of negative attitude are usually
Table 11.2
Characteristics of Positive, Negative and Neutral Attitude
Table 11.3
3. Shows that I can do for you. Shows that This is not my job.
From the above, it becomes very obvious that by changing to positive attitude, one
developing the positive attitude. In order to develop a positive attitude one needs to
learn the basics of it. Daily positive affirmations help towards development of a
positive attitude. Winston Churchil has said Attitude is a little thing that makes
that he wants to develop a positive attitude. Such a person will feel confident and
confident and optimistic. Following are the example of some of the positive
body and worry free mind makes an impressive personality. In the present days of
work pressure, anxieties, expectations and cut throat competitions the life has
become full of stress. The stress is unavoidable but if it is managed properly, one
condition of body and mind to respond to the stimuli or situation , which may result
in either facing the challenging situation or running away from it .Stress has been
those demands. Dr. Hans Selye, one of the authorities on stress described stress
as The rate of all wear and tear caused by life. The stress management
stressful situation. The term stress originates from Latin Stringere which means To
draw tight. It has long been used in physics to refer to the internal forces in a
material body as a consequence of the external force applied on it, resulting in the
deformation of the material body, known as strain. We live in an era, full of stress. It
is one of the biggest issues which need to be addressed. Stress can cause physical
and mental disturbances which reduce physical well being and create mental
depression. Todays working environment is such that most of the people get
therefore necessary to learn the skills by which stress may be managed properly.
11.4.2 Causes of Stress: Different things can cause stress to different people.
They may vary from physical to emotional depending on the situation. The source of
stress may be from workplace, society, environment, family and friends. The
making conflicts.
XIX. Researches have shown that some amount of stress for sometime increases
the self confidence and capacity to cope up the stressful situations. Broadly
XXI. This is short period stress and does not result in to any bad effect
difficult but got it by putting extra efforts. Eustresses are present in every
work place and are the result of arousal which is important in bringing about
XXII. Psychologists Robert M.Yerkes and John Dodson in 1908 indicated that there
as Yerkes- Dodson Law and states that the performance increases with
decreases. Yerkes and Dodson found that this is applicable to difficult tasks.
The law is stated graphically in the Figure-11.2. It is observed that for difficult
tasks the relationship between performance and arousal is bell shaped curve.
first increases rapidly with the increase of arousal and then remains constant.
of thrill and excitement which causes arousal. When a person works on a new
XXIV.
Simple
XXV. Strong tasks
XXVI.
XXVII.
Performance
XXVIII.
XXIX.
XXX. Difficulty
tasks
XXXI. Weak
XXXII.
XXXVI.
XXXVIII. It is caused in the form of the response of the body and mind to the
work pressure for a long period of time during which an individual feels no
control over the situation. Chronic stress is also known as Distress. Under
such condition, the human body releases corticosteroids hormones also
known as stress hormones to meet the situation. Long term exposure to the
constantly and raises the glucose level in the blood. Glucose being the main
energy source for human cells, the required amount of energy for meeting
continuation of such condition for long periods, the ardinal glands release
created. The prolonged duration affects neuro system and causes impairment
in working memory. The chronic stress gives rise to anxiety, depression, lack
of sleep, body pain and cardiovascular diseases. Studies have shown that
there is a strong link between insomnia (absence of sleep) and chronic stress.
An American survey says that 40% of adult Americans lie awake at night
because of stress. Studies have also shown that when stress hormones are
too high, ones ability to learn and retain information gets disrupted.
XL. The Table 11.4 shows a comparison between acute (eustress) and chronic
stress (Distress):
harms when persist for a long period. In todays world, the people are
constantly confronted with the challenges at the work place, society and even
continuous basis. The level of stress developed may be allowed only to such
an extent that it enhances the performance. The Figure 11.3 shows the
LXXIII.
LXXIV.
Performance
LXXV.
LXXVIII.
LXXIX.
LXXXII.
LXXXV. It is observed that the performance first increases with the level of
stress, reaches maximum and then falls down. The various states of mind and
body from the calmness to burnout occur from low level to high level of
stress. The term Burn-out refers to the condition of a person who has
become physically and emotionally completely tired after doing a difficult job
for a long period of time. The fatigue and exhaustion are the precursors of
LXXXVII. Depending upon the type of stress produced, the reactions on the body
and mind will occur. During the period of eustress the reactions will be
unfavorable to body and mind. It means that stress is experienced in the form
have found that there are broadly two types of reactions. These are
(i) Fight or Flight: Famous Psychologist Walter Cannon identified the Fight or Flight
response as early as in the year 1932. It is a natural short- term response which
occurs when one experiences a threat or shock out of a situation. The brain
releases stress hormones that prompt a person either to fight with the situation
or fly away from it. Such experiences occur in day to day life in meeting short
LXXXVIII. (ii) General Adaption Syndrome (GAS)-This term was given by the
exposure to stress. Selye found that people normally deal with stress in following
three phases-
If, one cannot keep up the resistance continuously, the physical and mental
LXXXIX. Both the reactions namely Fight or Flight and General Adaptation
System GAS can occur simultaneously. The exhaustion phase of GAS may
XCI. As stated earlier, the distress occurs due to prolonged work pressures
mind. The following are some of the common symptoms which are seen in
such condition.
Constant exhaustion
Difficulty in concentrating
Incapability in achieving targets
Obsessive or compulsive behaviours
Feeling of isolation
Frequent headaches
Cold sweaty hands and feet
Muscular pain
Frequent heartburn or nausea
Excessive sleeping or insomnia
of the body that is not affected. The institute has published a list of 50
XCIII.
XCIV.
XCVI. In order to manage the stress so that it does not become distress it is
to stress for analysis and management. The stress diary helps one to
XCVII. The following template may be used for maintaining the stress diary:
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CVIII.
CXV.
CXVI. Maintaining the stress diary will enable a person to draw the stress
management plan that will enable oneself to take necessary steps to realize
that stress is a fact of life but it does not have to be a part of life. Thus
keeping a stress diary is an objective way to cope stress and set workable
CXVII. First of all it is to be realized that not all stress is bad. In fact, it is due
to positive aspects of the stress that the best achievements are made in life.
a job interview, the performance depends largely on the level of stress which
has been developed at that point of time. High stress level may stop oneself
from performing the best. Complete absence of stress may bring laxity and
stress which makes one realize that the occasion requires more amount of
CXIX. An individual in order to cope up with stress can adopt ones own
following are some of the suggested strategies that are focused on work,
surrounding and the self. It will differ from person to person. The ultimate
objective is to lead a healthy and happy life. The following parable will
CXXI. Parable:
raised a glass of water from the table in the front. Everyone expected that
the trainer will ask whether the glass of water is half empty or half full?
Instead, they were asked the question How heavy is this glass of water? The
answers came about the weight ranging from 600 gms to 800 gms. The
trainer said the absolute weight does not matter, what is important is how
long the glass of water can be held. If it is held for a minute, it is now heavy. If
I told for a day, my arm will become numb and feel paralysed. In each case
the weight of glass of water does not change, but the longer I hold it the
heavier it becomes. The trainer continued saying the stresses and worries in
life are like this glass of water. If one takes then for a while, nothing happens.
If taken for a long time, they begin to affect adversely and can cause serious
CXXIII. The moral of the story is that put your emotional burdens down to let go of
your stress.
direction to move. As the saying goes If you do not know where you are
going any road will take you there. Well defined goal can prove to be
the greatest motivation for action. The goal should be meaningful and
consistent with the values and life-skills. As the personality depends upon the
values and life-skills, the goals should clearly define the outcome of adopting
the values and practicing the life-skills. It is advisable that the goals should
be explicit and well structured. Hence they ought to be in the form of written
CXXVI. Specific: Detailed and precise understanding of where one wants to go.
CXXVII. Measurable: One should be able to see step by step progress in quantifiable
terms.
CXXXI. The goal should be written in the positive instead of negative words.
The reason for writing the goal is to create a set of instructions for the
between right and wrong. It simply carries out the instructions. If the goal is
subconscious mind for clear outcomes. Goal should be set slightly higher than
the capacity. The goal should be reviewed frequently. One may be required to
powerful tool one can make use of for the development of personality.
CXXXIII. Swami Vivekanand has said Arise, awake, stop not till goal is
may be done in the prime areas of life namely Health, Education, Career,
CXXXV. Following are some of the tips one should always keep in mind while
Know Yourself: Aristotle has said Knowing your self is the beginning of
all wisdom. Before developing personality, one needs to know about himself,
and weakness.
Bring Positivity: Ones thoughts and actions both need to be positive in
order to have an attractive personality. The way one thinks has a lot of effect
highs and lows, but in order to adopt a positive outlook towards life, one
needs to look at the brighter side of everything. A person can alter his life by
altering thinking.
Have an Opinion: Having an opinion and being able to confidently put it
healthy step towards broadening ones vision and enhancing the awareness.
By meeting the people one gets an opportunity to know more about other
cultures and life styles. When one seeks to discover the best in others, he
if one has developed hobbies for himself, he can attract and interact with
to the sounds that enter ones ears. Listening means hearing and paying
attention to what is being told, how it is being told, what is the body language
towards developing likable personality. For being a good listener, one needs
makes an attractive personality. Help of others will come as a help for the
self.
Work on Body Language: Body language is a kind of non verbal
movement, touch and use of space. A good body language is one of the most
important requisite for good personality. It tells a lot about oneself and
enables others to make a good conjecture about the person. The way in
which one sits, walks, talks or eats leave an impact in the people around.
for the occasion. Dressing in a decent manner does not mean wearing clothes
of flashy colours. Neat, clean, and ironed clothes make one presentable.
Be yourself: There is a saying that An original is always worth
more than a copy. Though one can always look upto other people to get
inspired, but he should not copy others and remain unique self because God
has created every human being with uniqueness. Imitation may be
loud. Being confident about oneself is the most important tip for personality
one needs to work upon, then all the efforts should be made so that the fear
only the confidence but self esteem as well. The confidence gets eroded
CXXXVII. The following 20 points will empower a person to develop his personality:
22.
23.