2017-03-09

FHS 2400 Marriage & Family Relationships

Cristan Quijano

REASONS FOR DIVORCE

When people get married today, they dont need to make commitment because it is so easy to get a

divorce. Sounds like a dismayed assertion by a conservative america and I think its worth looking

at the actual math. The US has a population of 318.9 million and annually 6.8 in 1000 get married

each year which comes out to about 2,168,520 people getting married annually. Of those, half get a

divorce, or 1,084,260 getting divorced from ALL marriages from the 120 year old couple to the 1 year

newlyweds. Now the average cost of a divorce is $28,000 according to a Forbes article while annual

health insurance is $18,142 so to me it seems very unlikely that people are getting divorced because

they go into a marriage knowing they can easily divorce their partner if they dont like them. My

thought is that divorce should be easier to get simply because it is a contract thats agreed on by

both so if either stops wanting to be in that contract that it should be easy to get out of it.

The factors for getting a divorces are wide and varied but I think that the most impactful first

is intergenerationally transmitted divorce and that may be because Ive grown up with divorced

parents but for me it makes sense that the source of so much of who we are can also be the source

of the behaviors and values or mindsets detrimental to a long-lasting marriage.

I think that falling out of love is essentially a bad reason to get a divorce since it's essentially

a symptom of immaturity by unrealistic expectations which questions why the person even got in the

marriage in the first place. Even then, though I think it's a bad reason to get a marriage I think that if

one really feels that being in that eros-like love is as important as to break marriage that they should

seek marriage and in general shouldnt have children until they are ready to settle down.

For me, the only way I would get in a marriage would be if my partner wanted one or for

adoptive reasons were I receptive to adopting children with my partner since I personally dont get

marriage in any sense besides legally. Its just a word attached to a relationship always in motion like

are relationships are. Conflating marriage and husband or wife to fundamentally mean anything
forgets that marriage and husband and wife means various things to many peoples, and to me, it

means nothing but a legal partnership between two people. If I got in a marriage, the only reason I

would get out of it would be if the legal partnership affected my interest (that presumably at the point

arent the same as my spouse's interest though they could be) and the cost of staying outweighed

leaving which depending on various factors could come to cost $28,000.