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Men are Believed to be Bold in Difficulties Compared to Women

Since back in the medieval period, men are believed to be capable handling difficult and

stressing situations in life. In the past, men were primarily involved in war and hunting in

dangerous places. The community tends to believe that men are powerful and less affected

emotionally. As a result of misconceptions, numerous men have perished from depression due to

cases such as post-traumatic disorders. The society discourages men from expressing their

emotions publicly. The paper discusses the issue of gender over-expectations regarding men and

ways of enabling men to express their emotions in the community without the fear of being

disgraced.

As discussed by Joan Morgan, hip-hop music is one way in which women and men

relieve their stress, especially the African Americas (Colombo, Cullen and Lisle P. 535). As

indicated by the following statement, much content in the hip-hip music is about chemical

dependence, substance abuse, and alcoholism," shows that singers composed their songs to

console themselves out of depression. As exhibited by Morgan, hip-hop singers who are

especially men tend to utilize words such as hos and bitches which is a sign of low self-esteem.

For instances, the Africans Americans have experienced discrimination and grueling situations

such as unjust killings and long jail terms (Colombo, Cullen and Lisle p. 534). Due to the

limited advocacy to counsel and help men heal their current and past wounds, a majority have

shifted to hip-hop songs, not to educate the mass, but to entertain and drive away their thoughts.
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According to the views of Morgan, due to the choice of words used in hip-hop music, many men

who are African American rarely attain the maturity level (Colombo, Cullen and Lisle p. 534).

Her statement is showed by the sentence that mens expression in the music makes them appear

less powerful, instead of confronting the evils affecting their community directly. The book

shows that the community encourages men to utilize harsh methods including bloodshed to solve

key issues. Moreover, the author exposes some of the regrets uttered by the black individuals

who have been jailed for involving in violent activities. Although I admit that the charges

leveled against me are unfair, I believe I should not have paid with my life" statement shows that

confrontation is a dangerous way of solving key problems in the society (Colombo, Cullen and

Lisle P. 538).

As discussed by Michael Kimmel there are specific codes that govern mens behavior

(Colombo, Cullen and Lisle P. 540). The society has conditioned men to believe that men should

never cry, not show bitterness, to be aggressive in the accumulation of wealthy, to be muscular

and not to be polite in order to establish themselves easily. The discussed men's codes by

Kimmel showed how the society encourages men to deny their weaknesses as well as feign their

emotion. Men are expected to pretend and be tough upon discovery. The discussed codes

increase competition among men, and after continuous failures without success, most men turn

to options such as committing suicide (Colombo, Cullen and Lisle P.541). Men are advised not

to consult or to be a deep relationship with the opposite sex but to stand on their own. It is

considered unmanly for one to stay with his mother for an extended period. The discussion by

Kimmel is similar to the thesis statement in the paper.

Due to gender classification, men are expected to watch particular programs, which is

prevalent in the current culture. For instance, men are expected to watch action movie the display
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violence and recklessness. On the other hand, women watch movies such as Soap Operas the

shown the values of showing one's emotions while solving family issues. Consequently, men

learn to converse their bitter emotions, making them uncontrollable in future.

Robin William who despite being a comedian committed suicide amazed Jessica. In her

statement, "individuals who spent their lives cracking hilarious jokes should make themselves

happy, " but William's suicide confirmed her perception to be false (Deevoy Para. 4). Jessica

was disturbed on how a seasoned comedian became desperate to the point of preferring death.

The statement by Jessica expresses how the society less expects men to be overwhelmed by

emotions. Men in most instances tend to feign emotions in order to appear bold and reliable.

Thoughts if not managed properly are detrimental. All human beings are relatively the same and

require counseling during difficult times to express their fears. The society has neglected the

emotional concerns of men, which jeopardizes their lives leading to cases such as drug overdose,

murders, fights, and even suicide as committed by Robin. Consequently, during difficulties men

can turn out to be less overbearing compared to men. Statistics exhibit that more men commit

suicide compared to men. As described in the article by Jessica, "people expect me to show a

high degree of aggression," which mean the women display their pressing issues to the public

easily (Deevoy Para. 22). As a result, they are able to obtain assistance to eliminate negative

thinking.

As discussed by Reiner, men have to be honest with their emotions order to succeed in

life (Reiner Para.3). In addition, they should be open concerning their challenging experiences to

obtain help. Reiner witnessed that the number of school dropouts among men is increasing

compared to women. Research by Harvard University indicated that boys who are about 4 years

of age tend to be more emotive compared to girls, a trend that declines significantly due to the
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societal influence (Reiner Para.3). Consequently, the society should encourage men to avoid

feigning their emotions.

In conclusion, men tend to be affected extensively by emotions compared to women.

Most women are able to discuss depression issues, which make them relieved. The belief that

men are bold and should never show their emotions is damaging and likely to claim lives of

individuals.
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Works Cited

Deevoy Andrian. I can be a bad girl but I'm not going to punch you. Sunday Post, 2014.

Gary Colombo, Cullen Robert and Lisle Bonnie. Rereading America: Cultural contexts for

critical thinking and writing. Bedford (688), 2016.

Reiner Andrew. Teaching man to be emotionally honest. Education life. The New York Times,

2016. https://www.nytimes.com/2016/04/10/education/edlife/teaching-men-to-be-

emotionally-honest.html?_r=0