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Contents
5 Things Every Man Needs in a Relationship.................................................... 4
1. Appreciation .................................................................................................. 5
Why Is It So Hard to Appreciate? .................................................................. 7
2. Give Him Space When He Needs It ............................................................. 10
When a Guy is Stressed ................................................................................11
3. Respect ........................................................................................................ 14
4. Support ........................................................................................................ 16
5. Feeling Like a Winner.................................................................................. 18
Final Thoughts ............................................................................................... 20
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5 Things Every Man Needs in a Relationship
One key difference between men and women is that women seem
to be much more aware of what they want and need in a
relationshipand arent afraid to express it. Men, for various
reasons, arent always so in tune with what they really need in
order to feel loved and fulfilled in a relationship, and the ones who
are aware will seldom come right out and say it.
A guy generally wont ask for what he needs because a lot of the
time, he doesnt even know what it is. But then when you give it to
him, it feels amazing. He feels appreciated and loved, and he
comes to love you even more.
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1. Appreciation
Everyone likes appreciation; we all want to be seen and
acknowledged for what we do. But appreciation hits different notes
for men and women. Typically, women want to feel adored and
cherished above anything else in order to feel happy in a
relationship. Men need to feel appreciated and acknowledged. If a
man doesnt feel that, he will either leave the relationship or stay in
it and feel miserable.
Most women don't realize how starved men are for appreciation.
The problem is that we usually love others the way we like to be
loved, and women typically feel loved when a man is being giving
and attentive to her and her needs. Because of that, many women
will be extra giving to their man. While this is very nice and
appreciated, it's not what men really crave.
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The more appreciative you are of him, the more connected he will
feel to you and the more he will come to love you. Thats not to say
youre never allowed to be disappointed or upset with him, but
there is a difference between disapproving of an action and
disapproving of a person.
You can express your discontent in a loving way that still conveys
an appreciation for his character, as opposed to conveying it in a
punishing and blaming way that makes him feel bad or guilty. For
example, I know you didnt mean it, I know you were only trying
to be helpful, but sometimes I just need you to hear me out and
give me a hug when Im venting about something upsetting that
happened. This is a much more effective way to express your
feelings than saying, Why do you always have to try and solve my
problems? Why cant you ever just hear me out and be
compassionate? When you take the second approach, he feels
attacked and blamed and he will be even less likely to do what you
want. A little benefit of the doubt can go a long way in
relationships.
The fact is, he really isnt trying to hurt you, but sometimes things
he does will make you upset. And sometimes things you do will
make him upset. When addressing a problem, its best to keep in
mind that neither person is intentionally trying to upset the other.
(And if you are in a situation where you intentionally try to hurt
each otherthen this sounds like a toxic relationship and that is an
entirely different discussion.)
When a woman really sees and appreciates her man, it makes him
feel like the ultimate winner and makes him want to do anything to
keep her happy.
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No one is perfect and no matter how great your relationship, there
will be times when he isn't doing something exactly the way you'd
like him to. You'll get a lot further, and do a huge service to your
relationship, if you focus on what he is doing right rather than
focusing on what he isn't.
When both people in a relationship see the good in one another and
feel appreciative, the relationship is filled with love, connection, and
harmony. When one or both partners focus on what the other isnt
doing and take each other for granted, the relationship is filled with
resentment, frustration, and bitterness.
If you want your life and your relationship to improve, you can't
blame circumstances or your partner. Instead, you need to take
responsibility and make internal changes that lead to external ones.
And the most important lesson is to see the good and learn to be
an appreciator.
Try to adjust your filter and see the good. You can take it a step
further and write down the things youre grateful for. Try picking
two things youre grateful for every day, and pick different things
every day. Bonus points if you do this for your guy. You dont even
have to show it to him. Just privately record things you appreciate
about him. When you focus on these things internally, it will radiate
outward and he will feel inspired and uplifted in your presence and
this will make your relationship even better and stronger.
If you want more love from your man, you need to make him feel
loved. The way to do this is to show genuine appreciation for the
things he does and for who he is. Look at the intention, not the
action. He's not going to get it right every single timethat just
isn't possible. But the majority of the time, his intentions are good.
He set out to make you happy, and that deserves to be
appreciated. You don't need to give him anything in return; just
you being happy with who he is and what he does is all he needs
from you.
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Here are some examples of emotional hot phrases for a man
(obviously they will vary depending on the man):
- I love that you can walk into a room and be best friends with
total strangers, its such a unique gift.
- Thank you for being so helpful around the house, you really go
above and beyond and I dont know what I would do without
you.
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2. Give Him Space When He Needs It
Most guys are notoriously bad at multitasking and are very goal-
driven, so give him the benefit of the doubt when he needs space,
and dont take it personally when he only has the ability to focus on
the immediate task at hand. If you give your guy the space he
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needs, hell have more energy when hes with you and he wont
resent the time he spends with you.
If your guy seems stressed out and begins to withdraw, just let him
be. Don't coddle him or offer unsolicited advice or get on his case
about why he isn't confiding in you. If he wants to talk about it with
you, he will. If he doesn't and you continue to push him, you will
just be another source of stress in his life that he needs to deal
with, and he'll withdraw even further.
Men intuitively know that it isn't easy for women to give them
space when they need it, so if you can do it without feeling angry or
resentful, you'll be the woman who touches him more deeply than
any other.
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Here's the thing that's important to realize: men are not women.
The way they process and experience things is different. Taking
space is a natural coping mechanism for most men, just as seeking
out support from friends and loved ones is a natural coping
mechanism for most women.
Even though your intentions are pure, when you offer up solutions
he feels emasculated. Men need to feel like they are in charge of
their lives, like they are capable of solving whatever comes up. He
prides himself on being able to solve things, and when you try to do
it for him he gets the message that you dont trust that hell be able
to figure it out on his own, and it makes him feel even worse.
When hes under stress, just give him space and try not to take it
personally. If you get angry or frustrated with him, hell just see
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you as another source of stress in his life, and it will put more
strain on the relationship.
Why is this so hard? Even though most women know about the
man cave, they still have a hard time accepting it because women
cope with stress very differently. When a woman is upset, she will
typically want to talk about it with those she feels closest to.
Talking about it is therapeutic, and a solution isnt necessary.
If he does come to you, don't try to solve the problem for him. Just
listen. You can offer advice if he asks, but only if he asks.
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3. Respect
It may sound archaic, but men need to feel respected in a
relationship. This doesnt mean you bow down to him and cater to
every whim. It means you respect him as a person. You respect his
needs, his wishes, his aspiration, his opinions, etc.
So let's say your guy is having a hard time and needs some time
alone, but you really want him to be open and honest with you and
to share his feelings. Respecting him entails putting what's best for
him above what you want. In this case, it would be giving him the
space to work through his issues even though you would prefer that
he talk to you about it, because that's what's going to be most
beneficial for him.
It also means respecting who he is, how he lives his life, and what
his opinions are. Respect does not look like rolling your eyes when
he says something you dont agree with (or think is the dumbest
thing youve ever heard) and it doesnt look like not at least hearing
him out and validating his opinion.
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Its never nice or fair to make someone feel like an idiot just
because you dont quite see where theyre coming from, and a
really important skill is being able to listen to and respect another
persons point of view.
Guys have opinions and they want to be heard. Guys want to feel
as though they matter in this world, that their ideas are respected.
Guys are programmed to need to feel respected in order to feel
good about themselves.
When you show a guy that you value his opinion, he automatically
thinks you respect him. If you nonchalantly dismiss his opinions as
elementary or even worse, stupid, youre going to crush him, and
relationship problems will ensue.
Now, were not saying dont disagree with your guy because you
should when appropriate just show him that at least in your eyes,
his thoughts, opinions, and emotions are valid and worthy of
respect.
When guys feel respected they feel valued, and the better a guy
feels about himself the more energy and vitality he can bring to
your relationship.
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4. Support
One of the greatest feelings to a man in a relationship is feeling like
he has a woman in his corner, someone who believes in him no
matter what and sees him for the great man he is and the amazing
man he could be.
There is comfort in knowing that you will be there for him even if
he fails, especially since failure is the hardest thing for men to deal
with.
When you support him and believe in him, and it comes from a true
and genuine place, he feels on top of the world, like he can do
anything. Most women don't realize the enormous impact their
approval has on men. The truth is, your guy is starving for your
approval. When you're proud of him, its a huge driving force that
makes him feel like a winner. Conversely, when you're disappointed
in him, it's crippling and makes him feel like a worthless loser.
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Often women get caught up in trying to turn a guy into what they
want rather than accepting him as he is and encouraging him to
become his best self.
Men can sense when women are trying to change or control them,
and it isn't motivatingits crippling and defeating. It makes men
feel like failures and spurs them do the opposite of what you
wanted.
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5. Feeling Like a Winner
One of the core understandings about men that we drill into our
readers is that men need to feel like winners in the world. When
you can truly understand this concept, you will fully understand
your man and what he needs.
When a man feels like hes winning at making you happy, he goes
out of his way to make you happy.
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Resentment is poison for a relationship. Maybe youre mad at him
and maybe its justified, but harshly criticizing him or focusing on
the negative will only make him feel like a loser. Once he feels like
a loser, hell start resenting you, which will in turn cause him to do
things that make you resent him, and the cycle will continue.
Someone needs to be the one to put a stop to it. While it isnt
always easy, it is so worth it and will make such an incredible
difference in your relationship. Being compassionate and loving is
always the solution. Being negative and critical always causes more
problems than it solves.
When you understand where the other side is coming from, it melts
the resentment away and you are able to tune into them from a
more compassionate place. When a man feels like a winner, he is
the man of your dreams. He is the loving, attentive, giving partner
who makes you feel amazing. When he feels like a loser, he causes
you nothing by grief. Hes withdrawn, sullen, and stuck in his own
head. As a woman, you have enormous power over your man at
your disposal, more than you even realize. Just empower him and
help him win, and he will be everything you want him to be!
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Final Thoughts
The purpose of this book is not to place blame or to encourage you
to bend over backwards to please a man. You are doing yourself an
enormous disservice if you interpret our advice like this. The gift
were aiming to give you is that of understanding and knowledge.
And as they say knowledge is power.
Now you have the power to know what it takes to truly connect to a
man and create an amazing, happy, loving relationship. Men dont
always know what they want or need in a relationship, but when
those hidden needs get met they feel amazingthey feel like they
finally found that special woman who just gets them.
At the end of the day, all of the things we discussed in this book
will come effortlessly and naturally to you if you are in a healthy
place emotionally.
When you are able to understand the other person a little more,
and tap into what they really need in order to feel happy and
fulfilled, then you are at a major advantage and will be well on your
way to finding that rare and amazing lasting sort of love.
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