Carlos and Rosa in Remansito

ISBN: 978-99967-

Material developed within the framework of the Tava tesi oiko

Carlos y Rosa en Remansito vyapavpe project. (2016)
Executed by Global Infancia, financed by the Christian Childrens
ISBN: 978-99967- Fund of Canada (CCFC).

Material elaborado en el marco del proyecto Tava tesi oiko vyapavpe. (2016)
Ejecutado por Global Infancia con la financiacin del Fondo Cristiano Canadiense para la Niez
(CCFC, por sus siglas en ingls).
Redaccin del cuento: Lourdes Gmez Sanjurjo
Sugerencia de contenido: Gregoria Martnez, Mara Anglica de Simbrn, Dominga Fernndez, Vilma Beatriz
Ayala, Elvira Snchez Galeano, Rosa Gonzlez de Cceres, Mirian Bentez Bogado, Mirian Estela Contreras, Nor-
ma Beatriz Ferreira, Josefina Escobar Cceres, Eusebia Florentn, Natacha Mendoza Snchez, Anglica Cardozo,
Mirian Cardozo Chena, Miguela Ramona Pando, Narciza Eusebia Lpez.
Revisin final: Lilian Alfonso Palacios, Johanna Walder y Carolina Fernndez - Global Infancia
Story writing: Lourdes Gmez Sanjurjo
Content suggestion: Gregoria Martnez, Mara Anglica de Sim-
brn, Dominga Fernndez, Vilma Beatriz
Ayala, Elvira Snchez Galeano, Rosa Gonzlez de Cceres, Mirian
Bentez Bogado, Mirian Estela Contreras, Norma Beatriz Ferreira,
Josefina Escobar Cceres, Eusebia Florentn, Natacha Mendoza
Snchez, Anglica Cardozo, Mirian Cardozo Chena, Miguela Ra-
mona Pando, Narciza Eusebia Lpez.
Final Revision: Lilian Alfonso Palacios, Johanna Walder and Caroli-
na Fernndez - Global Infancia

Ilustraciones: Sofa Machuca Gmez Sanjurjo. Illustrations: Sofa Machuca

Edicin y armado: Pedro Gonzlez Cano Editing and assembly: Pedro Gonzlez Cano

Agradecimientos especiales Special Thanks

CCFC, Global Infancia CCFC, Global Infancia

Remansito, Noviembre 2016. Remansito, November 2016

CARLOS AND ROSA IN REMANSITO
 Esta es la historia de Carlos y Rosa,
ellos se instalaron en Remansito hace
un tiempo,
estn juntos hace 7 aos.
Ambos tienen 25 aos.
Tienen 3 hijos, el mayor, Ral de 8 es
hijo de Rosa
y juntos le tuvieron a Luca, que ahora
tiene 5 y Josecito de 2.
This is the story of Carlos and Rosa,
they settled up in Remansito some time
ago,
they have been together for seven
years.
Both of them are 25 years old.
They have 3 children. The eldest kid,
Ral, an 8 year-old boy, is Rosas son,
and together they had two more
children: Luca, who is 5 and Josecito,
who is 2 years old.
 Ahora Rosa est terminando el Colegio en el turno noche
eso le molesta a Carlos, pero se calla.
A veces, cuando l llega de sus viajes largos de trabajo,
se sienta a tomar cerveza
Che kaneo ekaygui tengo derecho a sentarme
con mi cervecita, ac tranquilo dice, pero se le va la mano,
y le grita cosas a Rosa, enojadoy ella le responde de la
misma manera Encima que estoy sola ac todo
el da con el trabajo de la casa y las criaturas!
Es lo nico que no le gusta a Ral de su padrastro.
Cuando eso pasa sus hermanitos corren asustados
a meterse con l debajo del poivy
les da miedo escuchar los gritos
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Hay algo que les parece familiar en esta parte de la historia?
Qu es lo que suele pasar si tomamos de mas?
En la pareja, es bueno callarse cuando algo no te gusta o te
molesta del otro?
La crianza, responsabilidad de quin es?
Las tareas realizadas en la casa es tambin trabajo?
Rosa is about to graduate from Junior High. She attends to
School at nighttime.
This bothers Carlos, but he doesnt talk about it
Sometimes, when he arrives from his long-lasting work trips,
He sits down and drinks a beer.
I am tired, leave me alone I have the right to sit here, relax,
and have some beers he says, but sometimes he exaggerates
with the drinking and he gets very angry, he yells at Rosa and
she answers the same way Do you realize that I am alone
every day with the home duties and the kids?
That is the only thing Ral doesnt like about his stepfather.
When these fights happen his siblings run scared and they
sneak together under the poivy They are afraid of hearing
all those yells.
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
Is there anything that you find familiar in this part of the story?
What is that usually happens when we overdrink?
When you are on a couple relationship, is it good to remain quiet
when you dont like something or when something about the
other person bothers you?
Whose responsibility is raising the children?
Can the chores at home be considered a job?
 As, en una noche de sas Ral escuch:
Nambrna, vos, con tu colegio pyhare! Quin sabe
luego con quin te mets ah!.
Che jema!... Ajepa nde rova ata!... Nde katu!...
Seguro que con esas traileras te hacs hina
el pobrecito para alzarle
Y vos? No necesits luego tomar para ser argel
Dios mo!... Todo el da ko te plagues!... Che jukta!
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Cul sera el resultado de sta conversacin?
Cmo deberamos conversar?
Just like this, one of those nights Raul heard:
Oh please, what about you and your night school? Who
knows who you are meeting with there!
So its all on me! Seriously? What about you?
Im sure you manage to find an excuse playing your victim
role to pick those girls on the roads
And you? You dont even need to drink to be on a bad mood.
For Gods love, you complain all day long! You will kill me!
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
What could the result of this conversation be?
How are we supposed to hold a dialogue?
 Algunas noches Carlos y Rosa se amigan ms tarde
pero sus hijos no entienden qu pasa,
se sienten inseguros, y sin darse cuenta empiezan
a gritarse entre ellos tambin
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Qu creen que pasa con las nias y los nios cuando viven estas
situaciones?
Por qu creen que los hijos de Carlos y Rosa estaban inseguros?
Es importante conversar en la familia?
Cul sera una manera adecuada de vincularnos con las hijas e hijos?
Some nights Carlos and Rosa make amends after the
arguments, but their children dont understand what goes
on, they feel insecure and without even realizing, they start
yelling each other, too
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
What do you think that happens with boys and girls when they go
through these situations?
Why do you think that Carlos and Rosas kids were feeling insecure?
Is it important to dialogue in family?
What would be an appropriate way to connect to our children?
 La otra noche lleg un to a tomar con Carlos
y en un momento entr a la pieza,
se sent en la cama de Luca
y empez a hacerle bromas pesadas.
Enseguida Ral le llam a su pap:
Pap!!!... ac to es pesado con Luca!... Carlos came running, very scared, he lifted Lucia up and he
Pyae eju!!!
Carlos lleg corriendo, asustado,
le alz a Luca y le dijo al to que se vaya
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Si pasa algo en nuestra casa, en nuestra familia, con
alguno de nuestros hijos, Cmo reaccionaramos?
Sabramos a quin recurrir?
Cules seran otras formas de pedir ayuda?
Saben de qu se trata el autocuidado?
Escucharon hablar de la Percepcin del riesgo?
The other night an uncle came by to share a drink with
Carlos. Suddenly, he went into the bedroom, he sat on
Lucias bed and he started teasing and bothering her with
jokes that made her feel uncomfortable.
Right away, Raul called his father:
Dad! Our uncle is bothering Lucia! Come quickly!!!
asked their uncle to leave
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
How would we react if something happened in our house,
with our family, to one of our children?
Would we know who to turn for help?
Which other ways of asking for help do you know?
Do you know what self-care is about?
Have you ever heard about risk perception?
 sa noche Ral se qued muy preocupado,
guard la cerveza y le dijo a Rosa:
Vamos a quedarnos un rato con las criaturas
hasta que duerman
No sabemos cmo fue,
pero sa fue la primera de muchas noches especiales
antes de dormir, cada vez ms seguido, se encontraba toda
la familia en la pieza y aunque sea un ratito conversaban,
se rean Y eso empez a dar buen resultado
Carlos tomaba menos y cuidaba
los amigos y parientes que traa a la casa.
Rosa trataba tambin de gritar menos
y as, de esa manera, empezaron a respetarse ms.
A veces hasta ya podan conversar de sus cosas, hablar
de lo que no les gusta y de lo que les gusta del otro
Empezaban a conocerse.
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Qu cuidados debemos tener con las personas que llegan a nuestra casa?
Solemos conversar en nuestra familia? Nos escuchamos? Qu sabemos
el uno del otro?
Qu recuerdos les gustara que sus hijas e hijos tengan de ustedes?
Qu tiempo le dedicamos a la crianza de nuestras nias y nios?
Cmo podramos prevenir situaciones de violencia en nuestro entorno?
Qu hicieron ustedes que les result?
Ral was really concerned that night. He put the beer away
and he told Rosa: Lets stay with the kids for a while, until
they fall asleep.
We dont really know how this happened, but that was the
first of many special nights that came after The family
started meeting in the bedroom before going to bed,
increasingly followed, even if it was just for a moment, they
talked, they laughed and these meetings started to give
good results Carlos was drinking less and he was more
careful with the friends and relatives that he invited to
their home.
Rosa was trying to scream less and that way, they started
respecting each other more and more.
Sometimes they could even talk about their things, what
they liked and they didnt like about each other They felt
they were knowing each other for the first time.
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
What precautions should we have with people that come to our house?
Do we usually converse with our family? Do we listen each other? What
do we know about each other?
What memories would you like that your children conserve from you?
How much time do we spend on raising our children?
How could we prevent violent situations in our surrounding?
Did you already try something that worked out well for you?
 Rosa empez a asistir a las reuniones
del Centro Comunitario.
Ah le ensean a cuidar su cuerpo y el de su pareja,
la importancia de cuidar su salud y la de sus hijos,
usando proteccin, practicando la higiene
Cuando Carlos vuelve de sus viajes
Rosa le cuenta lo que escuch, comparti y aprendi
Hasta ahora, si l no se va de viaje participa tambin de las re-
uniones.
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Es importante aprender a cuidar nuestro cuerpo y el de nuestra pareja?
Habitualmente, usan preservativos para el cuidado de su salud y la de
su pareja?
Cmo educamos a nuestros hijos en este cuidado del cuerpo?
Escucharon hablar del VIH/SIDA? Se transmite por picaduras de
mosquitos o por tomar terer?
Existen otras infecciones de transmisin sexual?
Podran identificar los sntomas?
Rosa started to attend to the meetings at the Community
Center.
They teach her how to take care of her body and her
couples body, how to look after her and her childrens
health, by using protection and practicing hygienic habits
When Carlos comes back from his trips, Rosa tells him about
what she listened, learned and shared So far, if he is not
on a trip, he also participates from the meetings.
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
Is it important to learn how to take care of our body and our partners
body?
Do you usually use condoms for your and your partners health care?
How do we educate our children in this area of self-caring?
Have you ever heard about HIV/AIDS? Is it transmitted by mosquito
bites or by sharing terer?
Are there any others sexual transmitted diseases?
Could you identify the symptoms?
 Una tarde, volvan de la reunin a su casa
y Carlos le dijo a Rosa:
Haba sido da gusto en la reunin...
todos hablan de sus cosas y podemos preguntar tambin,
montn de cosas no sabamos, ajepa?
Cierto! Y ese Don Sixto!...
Qu kachii que es!... Pero ivale!...
Sabe mucho, da demasiado gusto escucharle contest Rosa.
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Les parece til compartir experiencias con los dems? Por qu?
One evening, when they were walking home after a
meeting, Carlos said to Rosa: It turns out I really enjoy
these meetings Everybody talks about their things and
we can make questions too, there are so many things we
didnt know, right?
Youre right! And this man, Mr. Sixto He is so funny!
And such a hardworking person! He is very wise, too. It is a
pleasure to listen him talking answered Rosa.
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
Do you find it useful to share your experiences with others? Why?
 Y casi sin darse cuenta al compartir
las cosas en su casa tambin iban mejorando despacito
porque se hablaban y se escuchaban ms, se respetaban
entonces sus hijos empezaban a sentirse ms seguros
aprendan cosas nuevas, muy importantes que Carlos y Rosa
les enseaban.
En una tarde de esas dijo Carlos:
Ral, pods sacar cebollita de la huerta?...
Voy a preparar tortilla para la cena
No te olvides que de lavar bien
Como Luca estaba siempre detrs de su hermano,
al ver la lechuga dijo en voz alta:
Mam!... Ya podemos comer la lechuga?...
Rosa se ri y le contest: Le falta un poquito Lu!...
Los chicos estaban aprendiendo a comer verduras
gracias a la pequea huerta que todos cuidaban
Comer sano se convirti en tarea de todos!
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Les parece posible tener una pequea huerta en sus casas?
Cmo sera una alimentacin saludable? Es posible?
Nos lavamos las manos antes de preparar los alimentos? Las nias y
los nios tambin se lavan las manos? En qu momentos?
Siempre tienen agua potable? Qu hacen cuando no tienen?
Barely noticing, by sharing things at home were
progressively improving, too. Because they talked and
heard more, they respected each other.
Then their kids began to feel safer, more confident. They
were learning new and very important things that Carlos
and Rosa taught them
One afternoon, Carlos said: Raul, could you get some
onions from the orchard? I will fry some tortillas for
dinner dont forget to wash the veggies carefully!
Lucia used to follow her brother everywhere, so when she
saw the lettuce plants she exclaimed aloud: Mom! Can we
eat some lettuce already? Rosa laughed and answered:
The plants are not ready yet, Lu!
The children were learning to eat vegetables thanks to the
little orchard they were all taking care of.
A healthy diet became everybodys duty!
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
Do you think it is possible to grow a little orchard at home?
How would a healthy diet be? Is it possible?
Do we wash our hands before cooking? Do our children wash their
hands too? In which moments?
Do you always have clean water? What do you do when you run out
of it?
Mejoraron tambin el cuidado del cuerpo y la higiene de todos
los das
Se lavaron bien los dientes antes de acostarse?
Dijo Rosa al entrar en la pieza
S mam! Dijo Luca Y vos?...
Rosa se puso un poco colorada Todava Lu, le contest
Todos cuidaban el bao diario, tener siempre la cabeza limpia
y el cabello bien peinado, cepillarse los dientes, lavarse las ma-
nos antes de comer,
o al volver de la calle o despus de jugar con el perro
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Qu hbito de higiene se practica en nuestra casa?
Cules les parecen ms importantes?
Los padres y madres, damos el ejemplo con los hbitos de higiene?
Conocen sobre el cuerpo y los cuidados? Acuden al puesto de salud
cuando tienen alguna necesidad o para controles rutinarios?
Things like body-care and their everyday hygiene became
very important
Did you brush your teeth properly before laying down?
asked Rosa while walking inside the bedroom.
Yes we did, mom! replied Lucia Did you?
Rosa blushed a little Not yet, Lu she said.
They all began to care about the daily shower, they tried
to keep their heads clean and their hair well-groomed, to
brush their teeth regularly, to wash their hands before
eating or when arriving home or after playing with the
dog
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
What hygiene habits are practiced in our house?
Which of them are the most important for you?
Do you know about the human body and its caring? Do you go to the
health post when you are in need or for routine checks?
 Una de las cosas que aprendieron en las reuniones
es que tienen que conversar claramente con sus hijos y ense-
arles
Por eso, una maanita de domingo en que Carlos y Rosa
estaban tomando mate, apareci Luca
y contenta se sent en el regazo de su mam
Como estaban los tres solos aprovecharon para conversar
sobre lo que pas aquella noche con el to en la pieza
Queremos decirte que NADIE puede tocarte si vos no quers
Lu,
si eso pasa tens que llamarnos enseguida, gritar
as como tu hermano me llam esa vez
nunca quedarte callada y siempre contarle a pap o a mam o
a la abuela
lo que pas. Dijo Carlos
Luca les miraba con sus enormes ojos
y asenta con la cabeza Bueno pap!
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Tienen sus hijos la confianza y la prctica de conversar con sus padres?
Por qu si? Por qu no?
One of the things they have learnt at the meetings is that
they have to talk clearly with their kids and teach them
On a Sunday morning, when Carlos and Rosa were sharing
some mate, Lucia showed up and she sat on her mothers
lap
As they were alone, they took advantage and started
talking about what happened that night with the uncle in
their bedroom.
We want you to know that ANYONE can touch you if
you dont want it, Lu. If that happens you have to call
us immediately, scream just like your brother did that
night never stay quiet, you should always tell dad, mom,
or grandma what is going on said Carlos.
Lucia looked at them with her big eyes while she nodded,
Got it, daddy!
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
Do your children have the confidence and the habit to talk to their
parents? Why do they? Or why not?
 As Carlos y Rosa iban mejorando como pareja
y creciendo como padres tambin...
Todos se hallaban cada vez ms en su casa
y se divertan: ahora, si se peleaban enseguida
buscaban estar juntos otra vez
El respeto empez a salvar
la dignidad y el amor entre ellos
FIN
Preguntas sugeridas para el dilogo:
Cules fueron los cambios que notaron en la familia de Carlos y Rosa?
A partir de la historia que cosas incorporaran a su familia?
Qu necesitan para lograrlo?
Carlos and Rosa were doing better as a couple and growing
as parents, too.
They all were feeling more comfortable at home and
having more fun! If there was a fight, they tried to find a
way to get along again
Respect began to save the dignity and the love among
them
THE END
Suggested questions for the dialogue:
What changes did you notice on Carlos and Rosas family?
Based on this story, what things would you like to incorporate to
your family?
What do you need to accomplish these things?