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Personality problems
Learning
Previously, we reviewed the two types of bullies that you or someone you care
about, such as your girlfriend or kid, will most likely encounter. Here, we return
to this topic for an in-depth exploration of the factors that create and maintain
a bully. So, read on to figure out whats going on inside the head of the bully in
your life and what exactly you can do to put an end to the bullys behavior.
Personality problems
Studies of adult bullying provide converging evidence that bullies tend to have
certain personality traits in common, including authoritarianism, a strong need
for control and a desire to dominate. Other research has suggested a small
but consistent relationship between bullying and narcissistic personality
disorder, which is characterized by a perception of oneself as a special, elite
person deserving VIP treatment, a lack of empathy toward others and a
tendency to be exploitative.
Learning
Some bullies simply learn early on that this behavior is the No. 1 way to get
what they want. In these cases, bullying behaviors may not be generalized to
all spheres of the bullys life, meaning that he or she may only be a bully in
certain situations but act like a regular person everywhere else.
Among coworkers at the office, for instance, bullying behavior could be used
as an attempt to climb the corporate ladder by preventing competitors from
doing the same. Or, bullying tactics can be employed by management in an
attempt to make subordinates take on heavy workloads. Unfortunately,
however, wherever it takes place, complying with a bullys request only
reinforces their learned tendency to behave aggressively in order to get their
way.
The good news is that this destructive cycle can be broken. While it requires
less work to nip bullying in the bud when it first occurs, it can be stopped even
if it has been going on for a while, so its never too late to take a stand against
an aggressor. Essentially, you need to take action to show the bully that his or
her attempt to dominate you simply wont work. How you do so will depend on
your particular situation, but what is crucial is that you demonstrate that you
respect yourself enough not to tolerate the bullys behavior.
Bullying wreaks havoc on the lives of those who experience it. Now you know,
however, that bullying actually has very little to do with the victim in particular,
and much more to do with the bullys own personal difficulties arising from
personality problems, self-esteem issues, poor emotional control, and learned
tendencies. Mustering the courage to stand up to a bully can be tough, but it
must be done because the behavior wont go away if one endures it -- and
everyone deserves to be treated with dignity.
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