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Leisure is social engagement and social support; time with loved ones, friends and family
filled with healing banter and laughter.
Leisure is designated time. Camping weekends and annual beach holidays come to mind,
replete with anticipation, shared memories and important time for reflection.
Leisure is distractions like lunch with friends and jokes around the office coffee pot,
times that foster positive emotions, improve mood, encourage optimism and help us cope
with daily hassles.
Leisure is ritualized and life affirming, like a wedding or college graduation. And leisure
is years of life satisfaction from collecting memorabilia, training dogs or perfecting a fly-
fishing cast.
Most important, leisure is a lifelong font of mental, physical and social health; time to
foster wellness, to protect from lifes bumps and bruises and to contribute to quality of
life. And, if this does not convince of leisures merits, leisure is big business by some
measures the worlds largest industry.
5. It is generally accepted that families are not as closed as they used to be. Give some
reasons why this change has happened and suggest how families could be brought closer
together.
The reasons for the dissolution of the central family are many: Work: families once sustained
themselves by farming, keeping the family unit in one piece, home together. Industrialization
caused the creation of cities, where manufacturing required central distribution. Family members
left for work in these cities for the money and opportunities available that cities provided to
accommodate the needs of the large population there to work and prosper. Fewer led agrarian
lives.
Eventually transportation advances led to manufacturing closer to home, but creating that
infrastructure also both required travel, and beckoned with travel. As money supplanted labor
and goods as the direct medium of exchange, people gained the desire to explore, outfit with
cash-bought goods and transportation. The social systems supporting families began to dissolve
with the advent of the industrial revolution.
Advances in communication technology made the world smaller in the sense that
communication was easier further away and faster. It also transferred knowledge, of facts and
opportunities, which led people farther afield. In short, families have lost closeness because the
protections, learning, and safety they offered were now also available in the outer world, which
was easier and faster to get to.
This process has progressed beyond anyone's comprehension at the onset of the Industrial
Revolution, and put us where we are today. The frameworks of family, both social and moral,
still remain important to well-adjusted people, but our societies' advances, like those of
medicine, have advanced far faster than our social, scrupulous, and emotional abilities to deal
with them. This invariably leads to a longing for the nuclear family unit. We've gained so much,
though, we can't go back. All we can do is reconcile what we have, what we want, what we are
offered, and what we are capable of achieving with the feelings of expected love and and
nurturing we may have lost.
I believe the immediate answer is, wherever we are, to lavish lots of attention on family and
friends; extra attention. We are in charge of dispensing love and happiness, all of us. If we keep
this firmly in our mind as essential, we will have simply gained a larger, more healthy family.
If only there was a single, definitive parenting handbook. Even a thick textbook full of lengthy
chapters would be easier to handle than the hands-on demands of actual parenting. Since families
come from all different cultures, parenting is truly a learn-as-you-go process that cant be
standardized to fit everyones needs. No one ever said parenting was easy, but parents who are
skilled in a few special areas may find their journey to be at least slightly easier.
Financial Awareness
When people find out they are going to become parents, money becomes more of an issue than
ever before. From the expense of doctors appointments, to the cost of the birth and hospital stay,
the baby food, diapers, toys, clothes and a college education, having children is pricey. Couples
who have the luxury of planning out every pregnancy will be able to establish some financial
decisions -- such as whos going to stay with baby during the day -- in advance, but even those
couples arent guaranteed future financial security. A big part of family planning -- whether
planned far in advance or a surprise change of plans -- should involve writing down financial
goals. These should include goals for the near and distant future, as well as backup plans in case
life throws in some curve balls.
Communication Skills
Parents are the first people who shape a childs relationship with the world. They determine who
the child is in contact with, they show the child--whether intentionally or inadvertently--how to
speak and be spoken to, and they teach the child how to understand himself and others around
him. Parents with good communication skills should respect and encourage a childs uniqueness,
interact regularly with the child from birth through adolescence, encourage socialization with
others and show their child how to act in a courteous manner towards others. For example, using
polite language, making eye contact and taking turns in conversations.
Patience
While self-interest is an innate human trait, patience is a virtue that is learned over a lifetime. It
isnt always easy for a child to understand why she needs to take a bath when she would rather
be watching her favorite television show. To function in society, she will need to learn that she
wont get everything she wants unless she puts in some effort. Parents should initiate games that
require their child to take turns, give their child a small allowance so that she may earn some of
her toys, and occasionally take their child away from the gotta have it now culture of modern
technology by taking her fishing or waiting to see a shooting star. Teaching children patience can
often be a big test of patience for parents as well. They should show her what patience looks like
by politely waiting for her to throw her impatient tantrums rather than instantly screaming at her.
Discipline
Children are constantly testing their boundaries and parents need to be the ones to respond
appropriately to this testing. A 2-year-old flushing jewelry down the toilet and a teenager taking
Dads car without permission should receive age-appropriate punishments. Consistent
punishments will give them a direct understanding of consequences and allow them to set their
own boundaries as adults.
Ability to Multitask
Being a parent means becoming a Jack or Jill-of-all-trades. Parents will have to play doctor or
nurse when it comes to helping heal boo-boos and knowing when to take a child to an actual
health-care professional. Parents will also need to play the role of manager or life coach to
schedule a childs wake-up times, nap times, mealtimes, extracurricular activities and sleep
times. Parents are also teachers from day one, whether they teach their child how to count or sing
their ABCs. Children watch their parents and, in turn, parents help to teach children how to
interact with other people.
These 10, listed in order from most to least important, predict a strong parent-child bond
and children's happiness, health, and success:
1. Love and affection. "You support and accept the child, are physically affectionate, and
spend quality one-on-one time together."
2. Stress Management. "You take steps to reduce stress for yourself and your child,
practice relaxation techniques, and promote positive interpretations of events."
3. Relationship skills. "You maintain a healthy relationship with your spouse, significant o
ther, or co-parent and model effective relationship skills with others."
4. Autonomy and Independence. "You treat your child with respect and encourage him or
her to become self-sufficient and self-reliant."
5. Education and learning. "You promote and model learning and provide educational
opportunities for your child."
6. Life skills. "You provide for your child, have a steady income, and plan for the future."
7. Behavior management. "You make extensive use of positive reinforcement and punish
only when other methods of managing behavior have failed."
8. Health. "You model a healthy lifestyle and good habits, such as regular exercise and
proper nutrition."
9. Religion. "You support spiritual or religious development and participate in spiritual or
religious activities."
10. Safety. "You take precautions to protect your child and maintain awareness of the child's
activities and friends."