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heaven...
not hell
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What is a healthy relationship?
A healthy relationship is
Having fun together
When both people are committed and honest with each
other
Being able to spend time with your friends and on your
own
Sharing responsibilities
Taking each day as it comes and not planning every
thing in your life
Keeping your own individual self
Feeling safe and comfortable with each other, and
knowing that your partner wont harm you
Showing your partner that they can trust you by trusting
them
Respecting your partners decisions, feelings, thoughts
and ideas
Being kind to yourself and your partner
Seeing each other as equals
Expressing what you feel
Understanding each others differences
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What is an unhealthy relationship?
An unhealthy relationship is
You are not to blame for someone elses behavior, but you
are responsible for your own.
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When and how to say no
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What you can do, and
How you can end it
You can
Talk to someone and let him or her know how you feel
Find someone that you can trust
Try talking to friends and family
Talk to your partner if you can
Try talking to your partner over the phone, rather than in
person
Try not to be alone with your partner, make sure that
there are other people around
Think of ways to stay in control
Trust your gut feelings
Contact places for support
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How to make friends
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Good things you can do for:
yourself
Trust your instincts/ gut feelings
Stand up for your beliefs
Think for yourself
Be responsible for your own actions
Feel safe before taking the next step
Look and focus on positives
Have time for yourself and your friends
If you are in an abusive relationship you should seek help
from one of the many support agencies listed at the end of this
book. No matter how respectful you are, or how communicative
you are you cannot make an abusive person change unless
they choose to.
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Types of abuse
There are many types of abuse and they are ALL equally
harmful.
Physical abuse is
Hitting
Punching
Slapping
Pushing
Kicking
Pulling hair
Choking
Threatening to harm you in any way
You cannot make someone else violent, it is not your fault and
you cannot change his or her behavior.
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Emotional, social & psychological abuse is when
someone
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What is Date Rape?
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Drink Spiking some stuff you
might like to know
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Some hints to help
you stay safe
Remember friends and acquaintances also spike drinks, even
water can be spiked.
It happens at parties, pubs and clubs, anywhere where people
gather.
Be aware that because these drugs may be tasteless and/or
colourless, you may not immediately be aware that anything
unusual has been added to your drink.
Have your drink with you atall times and keep an eye on your
own and your friends drinks.
Watch your drink being poured,and only drink rf om unopened
cans and bottles.
Avoid sharing drinks and be wary of accepting drinks from
people you dont know very well, however remember that
people have their drink spiked by people they know.
If you feel dizzy or ill, ask a friend or someone you trust to
take you to a safe place.
Try to stick with your group. Potential of fenders may try to
isolate you.
If someone is acting out of character or is too drunk for the
amount consumed, get them to a safe place and stay with
them.
If you know of a drink spiker , or a high-risk venue, alert
your friends. You can even ring Crime Stoppers and stay
anonymous.
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How can I help a friend
if something bad has or is
happening to them?
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Where you can get help
Anglicare Glenorchy (03) 6273 5855
Hobart (03) 6213 3 555 or Free Call: 1800 243 232
9am 4pm weekdays
Provides relationship and family counselling. Youth
shelter, crisis accommodation and medium to long-
term accommodation and housing.
Provides free and confidential support service for
young people, parents and families, to talk about
issues at home.
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Bethlehem House (03) 62 344 594
Provides accommodation to men.
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Colony 47: Reconnect (03) 62 319 022
Reconnect is for 12 to 18 year old people who
are at risk of homelessness or who are homeless.
Reconnect aims to re-connect young people with their
family members. They also offer a mobile service
so they can visit at home and also an after-hours
appointment service.
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Holyoake 127 Davey Street Hobart (03) 62 241 777
Provides counselling for families and others affected
by alcohol or other addictions.
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Pulse Youth Health Centre 2 Terry Street Glenorchy
(03) 62 338 900
A safe, friendly place for all young people to get
together for entertainment, activities and support.
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Tasmanian Aboriginal Centre (03) 62 348 311
The Tasmanian Aboriginal Centre offers family
counselling, support and referral programs, also health
programs, youth worker, an emotional and social well-
being program and a registered nurse. Clinics open all
day Monday and half day Tuesday to Friday.
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Sexual Assault Support Service - SASS
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Services on the internet
www.aboutdaterape.nsw.gov.au
Heaps of information about dating, drink spiking and being
safe when going out.
www.beyondblue.org.au
Support for when you are feeling blue
www.burstingthebubble.com
A great site if things arent ok in the family. Quizzes
stories help ideas.
www.domesticviolence.org/content.html
Domestic Violence handbook. American site with a range of
information.
www.kidshelp.com.au
Information about supports available
www.reachout.asn.au/home.asp
Information about sorting stuff out, finding help and
chilling out.
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www.relationships.com.au
Information about services offered by Relationships
Australia, including relationship issues, gambling issues
and contact numbers in each state.
www.sass.org.au
Lots of information about sexual assault and links to other
supports
www.she.org.au
Tasmanian site. Lots of information about domestic violence
including lesbian abuse, dating abuse, as well as booklets
and reports.
www.vicnet.net.au
Go to fast find and click on family When love hurts.
One of the best guides for girls on love, respect and abuse
in relationships.
Good stories and information on healthy relationships for
women.
www.youthabuse.dhhs.tas.gov.au
Great Tasmanian information for anyone wanting to know
and recognise healthy and unhealthy relationships. Case
studies and good links.
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Emergency numbers
Police 000
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If you are in an abusive relationship
Always remember:
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Thanks
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This booklet was prepared by S.H.E.
(Support, Help and Empowerment Inc.)
www.she.org.au
A project funded by the Tasmanian Government through the
Community Support Levy
October 2000
Updated and reprinted April 2004
This project was assisted by the State Government through the
Of.ce of Youth Affairs from the Youth Advisory Services Funding
Program 2003/2004.
Updated and reprinted May 2008
This project was assisted through a grant from the Tasmanian
Community Fund Board Women in Prison Health, Art and
Education Project
Auspice SASS (Sexual Assault Support Service Inc.)
www.sass.org.au