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Suicide
Ella M. Signs
uncomfortable looks and responses. But it has been gaining media attention and
deserves to be talked about openly. Suicide is a life-changing event that impacts not
only the person who attempts, not only the family of the person who attempts, but a
whole community of people who love and care for that person. With recent national
coverage over events like rockstar Chris Cornells self-inflicted death and the
controversy surrounding the Netflix series Thirteen Reasons Why, a show revolving
around one teens suicide, the topic has been sneaking its way into conversations more
than usual. But with so much talk about such an issue, a false stigma tends to be
created about people with not only suicidal thoughts, but with mental illnesses in
general. I wanted to uncover the truth about why people decide to end their own life,
what drives them to do so, how survivors feel after living through their attempt, and how
such a tragic event affects the people so close to the victim. So I did some research,
found some statistics, talked personally to multiple people who have been impacted by
decisions, and discovering ones identity, so its no wonder teenagers are the most
2013, it was reported that teens stress levels clocked in at 5.8 on a 10 point scale and
surpassed adults stress levels, which sat at a 5.1 (2013). This amount of stress may
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be linked to the overwhelming fact that suicide is the second leading cause of death for
Americans aged 10-24. In 2014, suicide resulted in 17.4% of the total deaths of people
in this age group. (Heron, 2016). However, according to the American Foundation for
Suicide Prevention (AFSP), the population of Americans with the highest rate of suicide
is actually middle aged white men, with 19.6% of their deaths resulting from suicide
(2015). These statistics prove that suicide doesnt pick a gender, age, or race. It can
affect anyone. The AFSP also states that in America, about 44,193 people die from
suicide each year. And this number only accounts for the ones who didnt survive. Its
estimated that for every suicide, 25 people attempt, so if I did my math correctly,
approximately 1,104,825 people in America alone try to end their life each year. And of
But what leads people to pull the trigger? To feel their breaths shorten and heart
stop and mind fade and eyes shut and have the whole world suddenly fade from their
memory until that is all that they are - a memory? Do they not realize the
permanentness of death? That once youre gone, youre dead? Gone forever.
According to one survivor, when you are suicidal you dont really think about that. You
just think of ending the pain. Out of all of the survivors whose stories I listened to, not
one of them lived without pain. An individual will not die by suicide unless s/he has both
the desire to die by suicide and the ability to do so. This desire stems from the
sense of low belongingness or social alienation. Suicidal people are said to have the
ability to commit suicide when they are no longer fearful of pain, injury, and death - a
suicide. She prefers to remain anonymous, so well call her Emma. Emmas boyfriend
grew up with no father and was the first to see his own mother lying lifeless on his
kitchen floor after an accident. He tried to revive her but was unsuccessful. He feels as
though her death is his fault, and carries this guilt with him everyday. Because he had
no parents, he moved from house to house to find new guardians, and all of this moving
made him feel burdensome. All of these events, coupled with substance abuse,
cheating, and breakups drove him into a depression. This was his pain. To suppress
his pain he experimented with drugs, cut, and eventually overdosed by swallowing 40
Ibuprofen pills. Miraculously, Emma felt something wasnt right and contacted his
guardian who was able to take him to the hospital and get his stomach pumped,
I was fortunate enough to speak with a suicide attempt survivor himself. Again,
white male, meaning hes coincidently part of the group of Americans with the highest
suicide rate. However, his attempt at 40 years old wasnt the first time he had thoughts
of killing himself. He explained to me that his first thoughts of suicide were at only six
years old. He had plans of shooting himself with his dads guns - which were thankfully
locked up. He had suicidal thoughts again his senior year of high school. He carried
around a bottle of Aspirin in his backpack that he had plans of downing after his end-of-
year senior party. He had a change of heart after watching the sunrise the next morning
with his friends. Carlos said for some reason he suddenly felt at peace.
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moved out to live with a friend when he was in high school. He got married to his first
wife with whom he had a daughter. At around 16-17 years old his daughter stabbed
herself in a suicide attempt. Luckily, in the words of Carlos, she didnt realize how
much stronger her sternum was than the knife. His daughter is now well and getting
married this summer. Carlos and his first wife ended up getting a divorce, but he found
a new person to share his love with. However, this relationship started to weaken as
well as his second wife began distancing herself from him and instead spent more time
with Carloss best friend. Carlos explained that at the time, all he wanted to do was hold
onto his marriage, so he tried all he could. As an effort to reconnect, he planned a trip
to Cedar Point with a group of friends. Cedar Point itself was really fun, he said, but a
few drinks past midnight a fight between him and his wife broke out and ultimately
ended with his wife leaving him. He was in a state of pure despair. He said that this
depression was different. It was worse than any of the other times he felt depressed.
He said he truly believed that everyone would be better without him. That his kids
would get over it. That by killing himself, hed be doing everyone else a favor.
Thats the thing about depression: the brain is diseased. If any other part of our
body wasnt functioning properly - say our arm was broken or we were blind - no one
would think anything of it. We would be treated with the proper care. But when the
brain isnt functioning properly and is feeding a person so many negative, false
statements, no one else notices and it is many times left untreated. That was the case
with Carlos. He was so convinced that killing himself would better everyone elses lives
that after the fight he purchased a bottle of Aspirin and a Gatorade, sat in his car in his
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hotel parking lot, and began to swallow pill after pill. He told me that after almost 100
tablets were beginning to dissolve in his stomach, he felt the worst pain hes ever felt in
his whole life. The pain was so excruciating that he stopped taking more medication
and instead staggered up to his wifes hotel room, where his best friend also just so
happened to be sleeping. I asked why he went to the room. He said the pain was too
unbearable. He just wanted it to stop. He said it also may have been a subconscious
chance for him to guilt his wife. To say look at what you drove me to do. He doesnt
remember any more of this experience until about a day and a half later when he woke
up alone in a hospital bed in Ohio. Carlos said that he feels this attempt has kind of
knocked any future feelings of wanting to end his life out of his system. Its like it got the
urge out of him and made him realize how beautiful life really is (personal
Another friend was willing to talk to me about how suicide has impacted his life
too. Cleo, now a junior in high school, told me his grandmother passed away from
suicide. He was only 10 or 11 at the time. He explained that the day started as a
normal school morning. His grandmother came to his house to help him and his
siblings get onto the bus and gave each of them a piece of jewelry. When handing the
trinkets to her grandchildren she said she wanted to give them one good thing before
she goes. Cleo said he didnt think much of it at the time. His grandmother ended up
passing away shortly after, though Cleo didnt learn it was because of suicide until this
past winter. She had overdosed on Morphine by three times the lethal amount. It put
me in a really bad place for a while and I felt like I had lost part of me, he explained as
feeling after learning how she really died. When I asked why he thinks she no longer
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felt like living, Cleo speculated it was because she missed her husband who had
passed away years earlier from overdose. Her pain was the loss of her husband (C.
guilt or denial. For Emma, she felt guilt. She felt as though she couldve helped her
friend or even fully prevented the attempt from happening. After talking with her
parents, she now realizes she did all she could to help, though the event continues to
impact her every day. It was the scariest thing that Ive experienced. She has
become a leader in a school wide anti-bullying project with the slogan words matter.
Her class is hoping to expand the project to a national level. Carloss friends and family
reacted in different ways. He said some reacted negatively and have since lost contact
with him. Others have shown extensive support and continue to check in with him to
make sure all is well. Cleo told me his dad, whose mother was lost, feels both guilt and
denial. He feels guilty for his fathers death. He feels as though he couldve prevented
the overdose. As for his mothers, Cleos dad denies it was a suicide. Cleo himself has
began to take his friends more seriously when they mention feelings of depression and
has since stopped taking part in jokes with his friends that could be seen as insensitive
Is it because one persons decision to end their own life has an impact on
everyone who knew them that suicide has a stigma of being selfish or that the victim is
was ungrateful for everything in his life, but rather his mind just kept focusing on all the
negative. He compared it to watching the news and seeing third-world problems. Its
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easy to say wow that sucks but not actually feel the pain of the people on our TV
screen. Similarly, he was so consumed with everything his brain was telling him was
wrong that the negatives seemed to outweigh the positives. When I asked Carlos how
he felt about the selfish connotation surrounding suicide, he said simply, people just
dont understand. They might be scared or not want to get involved. They might think
youre crazy.
Emma feels that social media is partially to blame for the stigma surrounding
suicide and mental health, I think that we kind of tend to glorify the whole mental illness
and suicide stigma, mostly because of social media. Though she does see the pros of
social media as well, I think it can be helpful in ways - by sharing others stories and
also making everyone feel like they are not alone in this (before social media) it was
so uncomfortable to talk about how many people are dealing with this. She reinstates
the point I made in my introduction - suicide is uncomfortable to talk about. But without
Cleo also feels the necessity to talk about such an issue, I wouldnt be able to
So what can we do? Why did I feel the need to share these strangers stories? I
wanted to open up a conversation, because if no one starts one, no one will talk, and
communication is the most powerful tool we have in literally saving lives. Not only will
communication spread awareness and hopefully show loved ones that they have
someone willing to listen to them and care about them, but it can also be used as a
stalling tactic when someone has a set plan to kill themselves. It helps buy time, and in
a life or death situation, every second counts. Communication can be verbal or written.
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In the case of one website, titled If You Are Thinking About Suicide Read This First by
Metanoia, there are pages and pages of rather filler information for the viewers to read
through. The information is completely relevant to suicide and is intended to help the
reader, but serves a greater purpose of distracting the individual and stalling his/her
attempt, hopefully buying enough time for him/her to have a change of heart. Not only
is this information applicable to people free of suicidal thoughts hoping to help someone
who isnt, but it is also relevant to those who may be feeling suicidal themselves. To
those people: talk to someone. Communicate your feelings. Get help, because your
life is unique and precious and deserves to be lived. Its okay to not be okay, but its not
If you ever have thoughts of ending your life, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline
Works Cited
http://www.apa.org/science/about/psa/2009/06/sci-brief.aspx.
Heron, M. (2016). Deaths: Leading Causes for 2014 (Vol. 65, pp. 1-96, Rep. No. 5).
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Hyattsville, MD: National Center for Health Statistics. Retrieved June 5, 2017,
from https://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nvsr/nvsr65/nvsr65_05.pdf.
Metanoia. (n.d.). Suicide: Read This First. Retrieved May 26, 2017, from
https://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
Stress in America 2013 Highlights: Are Teens Adopting Adults Stress Habits? (n.d.).
http://www.apa.org/news/press/releases/stress/2013/highlights.aspx/
https://afsp.org/about-suicide/suicide-statistics/
such a big part of my life. Ive had to deal with anxiety for as long as I can remember.
In first grade I missed the coolest day of the year when a chicken was brought into our
class because I had to leave school early for one of my weekly therapy sessions. Ive
been to four different therapists in my life and even have a scheduled appointment with
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one right now. I started taking Zoloft, an anti-anxiety medication, around sixth grade.
Ive experienced panic attacks in public and have not eaten for days at a time due to
stomach aches caused by my anxiety. Ive also heard the cruel words that come out of
kids mouths at school and have not only seen the effect those words have on other
kids, but have felt that pain myself. I know what it feels like to not want to get out of bed
in the morning -- a feeling different than my daily struggle at 6:10 am! I guess I just
wanted to spread awareness. And learn. Learn how survivors feel. Learn how
friends/family of victims feel. Learn what can be done to stop future suicides.
I not only gained a wealth of knowledge and have since become even more
aware of my words and actions towards others, but I also feel that this project has
helped me with my social skills. I can promise you, freshman year Ella would have
NEVER gone to a Biggby by herself to talk one on one with someone she didnt know
for a school interview. Im pretty sure Ella from six months ago would have tried to
come up with some sort of excuse as to why verbal interview wouldnt have worked out.
But this project forced me to step outside of my comfort zone and have that interaction,
will find necessary throughout my whole life. All in all, Im so glad I got to put so much
time into a subject that really matters to me. Hopefully this paper will serve a greater