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Dana Alkoby
Professor Ditch
English 115
4 October 2017
In a gendered society, there is a need to limit each gender through expectations and fixed
images of one's sex. However, sex is simply a biological ideal of male and female whereas
Renzetti and Daniel Curran, scholars of sociology, there is an impact of parental influence over
their children since birth to act as the sex they were born as. Aaron Devor, professor of sociology
with a focus on gender studies, believes that society has developed a system to guide our minds
into one of two neatly assigned categories of gender. Similarly, Ruth Hubbard, scholar of
biology, argues that men and women are physically capable of completing the same tasks but,
are discouraged by society's insistence that their gender is unfit for the course they would like to
pursue. Society reconstructs gender to the point of self doubt and conformity to cisgender, where
behaving as one may feel comfortable within masculinity and femininity is uncharacteristic and
improper. Women have a difficult time dealing with societal expectations because they are
instilled with ideals of femininity and different treatment for being female from a young age.
ideal of gender were reinforced upon them when they were younger. This tradition of passing
down social stigmas directly reinforces the concept of gender that despite it developing into a
controversial topic, people rather be insensitive to those who struggle with their gender identity
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because it doesnt impact them personally. Society has a tendency to impose age-old stereotypes
and beliefs on children from such a young age that there is a unique pressure weighed upon the
To make the matter simple, the debacle of gender begins during infancy when the babys
gender is assigned by the parents in order to further enforce societal norms. In Claire Renzetti
and Daniel Curran's article, From Women, Men, and Society, they discuss the influence that
parents have on their children's view of themselves within society. Their theory states: "research
shows that parents do have different expectations of their babies and treat them differently,
simply on the basis of sex" (76). From infancy, kids are talked to and disciplined differently by
their parents because of the stereotypes known for their gender. Parents dress their children
differently based off their biological gender to make it apparent to others of the child's
orientation. Most parents believe that a child should identify as cisgender, in other words, one's
identification with the gender they are given at birth. By treating kids differently based off their
biological assignment of physical differences being either male or female can result in
insecurities in their capabilities. It is widely known that men are more valued than women in
society and are placed at the top of the social hierarchy while women are seen as inferior.
Children are rewarded and encouraged to act in accordance to societal values and passively or
actively punished for going against the norms set for their gender; society holds each gender to a
list of rules that they must follow and breaking the rules deems them as an outcast or abnormal.
It can be discouraging when a brother and sister are expected to do different things and
disheartened when their accomplishments may be seen as too masculine for a girl or too
feminine for a boy. I have a family friend who was born female and dressed like a girl until she
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turned five years old, then her mother let her pick out her own clothes and style her own hair.
Now, she only dresses masculine except she keeps her hair long so people dont confuse her for a
boy; I think she fears that our close-knit religious community will judge and condemn her for
identifying as anything other than her cisgender. However, giving a child their own
independence and ability to express and explore themselves is a gift but it should be a norm
instead of categorizing and pressuring a child from the age of three or four to conform to
From a young age, girls are taught to play with dolls while boys are encouraged to play
with trucks; society sets up a child's mentality according to their biological gender status to learn
either maternal instincts or develop a drive for action through the toys they play with. Renzetti
and Curran illustrate the distinction of gender that parents inflict on their kids by comparing
children's bedrooms. In their article, they explain, "Girls' rooms reflected traditional conceptions
of femininity, especially in forms of domesticity and motherhood.. Few of these items were
found in boys' rooms, where, instead, there were military toys and athletic equipment" (80).
Everything that is exposed to children through the media, television, games, even people walking
down the street, is absorbed in their brain as knowledge for how they should act in accordance to
their gender. Not only do parents equip their children with expectations for their gender but
society further establishes social limitations based on gender. For all of elementary school, I was
in co-ed classes but, in middle school I was in classes of the same sex. All my classes and the
people I interacted with at school were all girls; however, I didn't get along with a lot of the girls,
so all my best friends outside of school were boys. With my guy friends we would go swimming,
play basketball, or play video games, but with my girlfriends we would bake, watch movies, or
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have sleepovers. I never realized the difference in activities because that was what felt normal; it
is normal to do active things with boys and do domestic things with girls yet the activities are
never flipped or mixed unless it is a masculine sport or activity. There is evident social laws that
claim what is acceptable for boys and girls whether it is games, clothes, or even how the sit or
stand.
A few weeks ago, I was working on a project in a co-ed space. I had to grid a board
which required me to stand rather than sit. My legs were a bit more than shoulder-width apart
which may have looked masculine but at the same time leaning on a table could be seen as
provocative. So, almost the entire time that I was trying to complete my project, I had to monitor
if I was behaving "too masculine" or "provocative." Society is given the authority to evaluate our
genders and train us into believing that this is our only option. Aaron Devor says in his paper,
Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of Gender, "As we move through our lives,
society demands different gender performances from us and rewards, tolerates, or punishes us
differently for conformity to, or depression from, social norms" (35). I view this is as an analogy
of a pet being conditioned into a behavior until it follows the path instructed without guidance
because of the reinforcements, penalties, and associations the brain makes. Devor explains that
When my girl friends ask me what I want my major to be in college or what career I want
to pursue, and I answer in a whisper stating that I don't know, they respond with a laugh and an
attempted line of comfort, "It's ok. Just get married." As much as I understand that it is a joke
and although they may say it out of humor, I do want more for myself than what society expects
of me. Society claims that women by default are wired to be more nurturing than men thus more
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fitting to be wives and mothers. Contrary to popular belief, women are physically and mentally
as capable as men are to accomplish certain jobs. According to Ruth Hubbard in Rethinking
Women's Biology, she advocates, "But to try to find the biological basis for our social roles or to
sort people by sex when it comes to strength, ability to do math, or other intellectual or to social
attributes is a political exercise, not a scientific one" (50). Society builds a seemingly
unbreakable idea that it is more challenging for women to pursue important jobs because they are
perceived as emotional, fragile, or weak. People develop an association that women's sensitivity
is too frail for the workplace where they are incapable of being independent, however, they have
When I was a child I looked up to my parents more than anyone and respected them
immensely that whatever they told me I always agreed and listened; I never questioned my
parents abilities to decide for my wellbeing. Children are extremely trusting to the extent that
both parents and society have the ability to manipulate kids into their gender category
disregarding their feelings and ingraining a value of social acceptance and normality. The
underlying issue is that children who have no conceptual understanding in how the world works
regarding emotions, sex, and sexual orientation, have a disadvantage because they have no say in
their gender identity until they reach adulthood. From a young age of merely a few months old
and growing into adolescence, children are taught by their parents how to dress, talk, sit, walk,
eat, and act, in compliance with their cisgender. Parents even sneakily teach their kids gender
roles through the toys they play with on a daily basis. It amazes me how much of a hassle parents
go through in order not to push societal boundaries. Society coaches its' players to follow the
rules and act as their biological sex without allowing individuals to figure it out for themselves.
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Everyone is pre exposed to gender stereotypes from one's early stages of life, which in turn,
impacts their view of themselves, the people around them, and is even passed down to their own
children without realizing. People are deeply afraid and trembling at the thought of questioning
the concept of gender when it can actually be very troubling for a lot of people for not being
"normal" in society's eyes. At the end of the day, unless society's followers rebel against the
unjust regulations, people will never be allowed to pick their own outfits because society lays it
Works Cited
Curran, Daniel, and Renzetti, Claire. "Women, Men, and Society" Composing Gender: a
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Devon, Aaron. "Becoming Members of Society: The Social Meanings of Gender" Composing