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Arranged Marriage
Harold Lakeman
20th December, 2017
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Introduction
The following pages will cover my personal distaste for arranged marriage, not due to any
inherent cultural bias, but most explainable by my own internal convictions. This paper is
applicable to one published by Aimi Aqilah Mohd Zulkifli in 2011 [1], however, my ideas can be
Argument
In Aimi Aqilah Mohd Zulkiflis 2011 paper, Arranged marriage ( argumentative essay), the
author admits that although reluctant to the idea of arranged marriage at first, based on personal
observance, they changed their mind once hearing testimony from others. This transitional period
from the authors initial opinion to the one they developed later on was brought on not by
internal motives, but by those of society. In this, lies an issue. One should never shift opinions
based on traditionalism, however, this shift sadly often occurs, not only in this context.
Even western marriages, which generally occur out of love, are not natural. Marriage by itself
is nothing more than a cultural practice. If controlled, it can be healthfully executed, but often
isnt in modern society. Another argument this author purports to hold is that arranged marriage
leads to both a guaranteed mate and guaranteed satisfaction, the second of which is wildly
untrue. Only certain humans are able to benefit from arranged marriage, notably those who dont
prioritize emotional connection in a relationship, but rather social conformity. For most, arranged
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marriages are brutally unfair, suffocatingly forced, and extremely lonesome. I, and many alike,
would agree that a life of solitude would be exceedingly preferable in comparison to the
Due to innate personality characteristics that clash with each other, arranged marriages
somewhat random matchups tend towards incompatible relationships. The patriarchies of India,
Pakistan, and regions of the Middle East are what I believe to be the sole beneficiaries of
arranged marriage, pressuring young women and men into the traditions of a destructive time. A
Multiple studies have been done on the topic of arranged marriage[2], with the general
consensus agreeing that arranged marriages have lower divorce rates than love marriages, thus
these arranged marriages are somehow considered successes. The notion of these low divorce
rates as successes is laughable considering that the same factor that promotes arranged marriages
is the one that causes lower divorce rates: Social Claustrophobia. Because societal expectations
in regions practicing arranged marriages are based considerably around being perceived as
stable, traditional, and successful, the victims of these marriages are more likely to accept a life
Conclusion
There is no greater threat to the furtherance of romantic happiness than the proposition of
arranged marriage. This practice has led to the destruction of the youths happiness, and more
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subconscious sexual factors[3], one can even make the argument that a nation under the
influence of arranged marriage (and similar patriarchal ideals), will be theoretically less
influential in creative and intellectual spheres. Of course, cultural practices should be allowed to
be retained, so long as they dont cause any severe harm, and Im not necessarily claiming that
arranged marriages should be banished completely, but Im making the argument that they are
less fulfilling than sexual choice, and sometimes, less fulfilling than total lifetime solitude.
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References
[1]Aimi Aqilah Mohd Zulkifli. Arranged Marriage ( Argumentative Essay). Scribd, Scribd, 16
Jan. 2011, www.scribd.com/doc/46942970/Arranged-marriage-argumentative-essay.
[2]Dholakia, Utpal M. Why Are So Many Indian Arranged Marriages Successful? Psychology
Today, Sussex Publishers, 24 Nov. 2015,
www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-science-behind-behavior/201511/why-are-so-many-indian-
arranged-marriages-successful
[3]https://www.psychologytoday.com/sites/default/files/attachments/95822/sexual-selection-crea
tivity-and-humor.pdf