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What is true love and how do you know when

you have found it?


“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is
not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it
keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight inevil but rejoices with
the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails.” —I Corinthians 13:4-8a (NIV)

This verse describes the characteristics of true love. These qualities can
certainly be found in the person of Jesus Christ, and they can be found in all
truly loving relationships. The problem with trying to “find” love in our
dating lives, is that too often we don't look for these characteristics. Rather
we look at physical appearance, popularity, or wealth. These are not the
qualities that God looks at and neither should we.

But the LORD said to Samuel, “…The LORD does not look at the things
man looks at. Man looks at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at
the heart.”
—I Samuel 16:7b (NIV)

Love is best seen as devotion and action, not an emotion. Love is not
exclusively based on how we feel. Certainly our emotions are involved, but
they cannot be our only criteria for love. True devotion will always lead to
action—true love.

Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with ACTIONS and
in truth.
I John 3:18 (NIV)

Christ was devoted to us enough to give his own life for us (Romans 5:8),
even when he didn't feel like it (Matthew 26:39).

Sex is not love! Our culture has taught us that sex and love are one in the
same. This is a lie. Sex is a beautiful God-given activity that is wonderful
when practiced within the boundaries of a Biblical marriage.Sex is the
completion of the binding of two people within Biblical marriage; it is a
God-given gift.
Pre-marital sex
Because premarital sex is not love, it only leads to pain and disappointment
for those who are seeking that love. The Bible says that when two people
are married, they become one flesh (Ephesians 5:31). Sex is consummation
of that union. When two people break off their relationship after having sex,
it is like ripping apart flesh. This is why two teenagers will struggle so much
and become so dependent on those they give their bodies to. In light of I
Corinthians 13:4-8 (above), it is easy to see that premarital sex is not patient,
it is not kind, it does not protect, it is self-seeking. It is not love!

Identifying true love


We can only identify true love and know when we have found it, based on
the Word of God. When we match our relationships up to what the Bible
says that love is—and we are honestly prepared to make a life-
long commitment to that person—then we can say that we are truly “in
love.” The three keys to that statement are:

We have to…

1. …look at the Word of God


2. …be completely honest with ourselves
3. …understand the level of commitment that comes with true love

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true love
Love. Love is the greatest gift God ever gave man. Love is not wanting to go anywhere
without her. Love is not caring what other people think about the two of you. Love is
when you feel depressed and sickly when you're not with her. You feel like your life has
no meaning or purpose without her. And that if she wasn't holding your hand you would
float away to heaven from where she came. Love is caring for her physically and
emotionally. It's telling her everyday, anytime, anywhere, anyhow, for no just reason
that you love her. Love is telling her u want to spend the rest of your life with her. Love
is wanting to marry her even tho ya'll haven't been dating that long. That you would do
anything and everything for her. It's the feeling that you would give up everything just
to see her smile or look into her beautiful eyes or hear her soft, soothing voice. Love is
pure happiness. Love is the feeling you get when all you have to do is think of her and
it brings a smile to your face and a yourning to your heart. Love is not being able to
think about nething but her. Love is having the sweetest dreams about her and waking
up with a smile on ur face. Love is an overwelming feeling of pure bliss when the 2 of u
kiss. Love is wanting to hold her in ur arms till the end of time. Love is wishing ur time
with her never ends, that your lips would be locked together forever, that she'd be in ur
arms till the end of time, that u could cuddle with her for all of eternity. Love is being
helplessy and deeply in love with her and knowing your love for her and your feelings
for her will never change/end. Love is the world, the world is love, and she is the world
to me...

I Love Elizabeth L. With All My Heart And Soul From Now To The End Of Time. I Love
You Elizabeth! Will You Marry Me? I Never Wanna Lose You SweetHeart. I Am Soooo
Deeply In Love With You!!!!
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What Is Love?
Defining True Love for Those Wondering If What They Feel is Real
Poets and authors have tried to define love for centuries, whereas scientists have only recently started. Many of us know
intuitively that love is a major purpose for living; that connection is inherent in all that we do, and without love, we cannot
survive as a species.

But what is love, and how do we know when we're in it? First, let's start off with what love isn't.

What Is Love? It Definitely Isn't...

 Manipulation. "If you loved me, then you would..." isn't love, but rather infatuation.
 Compromising who you are. If someone asks you to do or say something that isn't in your nature, that isn't true love.
Although love does involve compromises between partners, someone who is in love with you will never ask you to change
who you are in order to be loved.
 Violent. Passions can definitely become inflamed with someone you love, but a relationship with physical or emotional
violence isn't true love. (More:Dating Violence)
 Just lust. Yes, chemistry and physical attraction are important, but true love also includes commitment, trust and respect.
(More: Is It Lust... Or Love?, Test Your Chemistry)

So then, what exactly is love?

True Love Is...

 Caring: The ancient Greeks had many different names for different forms of love: passion, virtuous, affection for the family,
desire, and general affection. But no matter how love is defined, they all hold a common trait: caring.
 Attractive: Attraction and chemistry form the bond that allows people to mate. Without this romantic desire for another
individual, a relationship is nothing more than lust or infatuation.
 Attached: Like the mother-child bond, attachment comes after the initial attraction. Attachment is the long term love that
appears anywhere from one to three years into a romantic relationship (sometimes sooner and very rarely after), and you'll
know you've found it when you can honestly say, "I've seen the worst and the best you have to offer, and I still love you,"
while your partner feels the same way.
 Commited: When it comes to true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. Its the knowledge that your partner cares
for you and has your back, no matter what the circumstances. People who are strongly committed to one another will, when
faced with seemingly negative information about their partner, see only the positive. For example, a friend comments that
your partner doesn't say a lot. "Ah yes, he's the strong, silent type," you reply. People with less commitment to their partner
would instead say something like, "Yeah, I can never have conversation with him. Its annoying."
 Intimate: Intimacy is a crucial component of all relationships, regardless of their nature. In order to know another, you need
to share parts of yourself. This self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated, forms an emotional bond. Over time this bond
strengthens and even evolves, so that two people merge closer and closer together. Intimacy by itself if is a greatfriendship,
but compiled with the other things in this list, it forms an equation for true love.

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