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1 What is the typical American family like? If today consist of married couples without
Americans are asked to name the members children, single parents and their children,
of their families, family structure becomes or unrelated people living together. Perhaps
clear. Married American adults will name most surprising, 2 7 percent of Americans
their husband or wife and their children, if live alone. About one-third of those living
they have any, as their immediate family. If alone are 65 years or older. Many of them
they mention their father, mother, sisters, or live in small towns in the upper Midwest
brothers, they part of the country, where more people
will define them as separate units, usually
\
prefer to stay in their own homes as they
living in separate households. Aunts, age. Others who live alone are younger
uncles, cousins, and grandparents are people who move to places such as Atlanta
considered extended family. and northern Virginia (the Washington,
2 Traditionally, the American family has been D.C. area) in search of job opportunities.
a nuclear family, consisting of a husband,
wife, and their children, living in a house or 4 What has happened to the traditional
apartment. Grandparents rarely live in the American family of the 19 50s, and why?
same home with their married sons and Some of the explanation is demographic. 1
daughters, and uncles and aunts almost In the 1950s, men who had fought in World
never do. In the 1950s, the majority of the War II had returned home, married, and
American households were the classic were starting their families. There was a
traditional American family-a husband, substantial increase (or boom) in the
wife, and two children. The father was the birthrate, producing the "baby boomers." A
"breadwinner" (the one who earned the second demographic factor is that today
money to support the family), the mother young people are marrying and having
was a "homemaker" (the one who took care children later in life. Some couples now
of the children, managed the household, and choose not to have children at all. A third
did not work outside the home), and they factor is that people are living longer after
had two children under the age of eighteen. their children are grown, and they often end
up alone. And, of course, there is a fourth
If you said the word family to Americans a factor-the high rate of divorce.
generation or two ago, this is the traditional
picture that probably came to their minds.
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But numbers alone cannot account for would he best for the family is not usually
the dramatic changes in the family. considered to be as important as what
Understanding the values at work in the would be best for the individual.
family will provide some important
insights. Marriage and Divorce
sociologists are still studying the long-term desires of the child than on the child's social and family responsibilities. In
consequences of divorce. the years after World War II, much stress was placed on the psychological
divorce on children as trey grow up. In her counselors, 4 and social workers were
book The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce: A 25 employed to help children with problems
Year Landmark Study, she notes that by the
year 2000, almost half of the American adults
under the age of forty
4 counselors: people whose job is to help and support people with personal problems
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their child, thinking about what he [or she]
needs from them and from the community,
instead of thinking about what the world,
the neighborhood, the family will be
needing from the child and then making
sure that he [or she] will grow up to meet
such obligations."
16 Today's parents seem more concerned about
teaching their children responsibility.
Although Americans may not agree on
how best to nurture6 and discipline their
children, most still hold the basic belief
that the major purpose of the family is the
development and welfare of each of its
members as individuals.
Ready to go trick-or-treating on Halloween
* Scanzoni, Letha, and John Scanzoni, Men, Women, and Change. New York: McGraw-Hill, Inc., 1981.
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equality with their husbands and have 24 This increase in equality of women in
gained more power within the family. marriages reflected increased status for
women in the society at large and led to
21 Stage I: Wife as Servant to Husband During
women gaining the right to vote in the early
the nineteenth century, American wives were
twentieth century. Today, the husband-head,
expected to be completely
wife-helper marriage is still found in the
obedient8 to their husbands. As late as 1850,
United States. Economic conditions in the
wife-beating was legal in almost all the states
twentieth century, however, carried most
of the United States. Although both husbands
marriages into different stages.
and wives had family duties, the wife had no
power in family matters other than that which
her husband allowed her. Her possessions and 25 Stage III: Husband-Senior Partner, Wife-
any of her earnings belonged to her husband. Junior Partner During the tvventieth century,
During the nineteenth century, women were more and more wives took jobs outside the
not allowed to vote, a restriction that in part home. In 1940, for example, only 14 percent
reflected women's status as servant to the of married women in the United States held
family. jobs outside the home. By the 2000s, more
than 60 percent were employed. When
married women take this step, according to the
22 Stage II: Husband-Head, Wife-Helper
Scanzonis, their power relative to that of their
During the late nineteenth and early
husbands increases still further. The wife's
twentieth centuries opportunities for· women
income becomes important
to work outside the household increased.
More wives were now able
in maintaining the family's standard of living.
to support themselves, if necessary, and
Her power to affect the outcome of family
therefore were less likely to accept the
decisions is greater than when her duties were
traditional idea that wives were servants who
entirely in the home.
must obey their husbands. Even though the
great majority of wives chose not to work 26 Although she has become a partner,
outside the home, the fact that they might do however, in this stage the wife is still not an
so increased their power in the marriage. The equal partner with her husband, since in
husband could no longer make family these marriages the husband's job or career
decisions alone and demand that the wife still provides more of the family income. He
follow them. The wife was freer to disagree sees himself as the senior partner, and she is
with her husband and to insist that her views the junior partner of the family enterprise.
be taken into account in family decisions. Even though she has a job, it has a lower
priority than her husband's. If, for example,
the husband is asked to move to advance his
23 Even though the wife's power increased, the
career, she will give up her job and seek
husband remained the head of the family. The
another in a new location.
wife became his full-time helper by taking
care of his house and raising his children. She
might argue with him and sometimes change 27 In the United States today, there are still a
his mind, but his decision on family matters number of marriages that are the senior-
was usually final. partner/junior-partner type. However, the
majority of women have jobs outside the
home and some of them earn more money
8 obedient: always doing what you are told to do by your parents or by someone in authority
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The Role of the Family in Society
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anothe0 and also elsewhere, connected to they are generally happy with their family
wherever we want to be . We want to life. In Values and Public Policy, Daniel
customize our lives. We want to move in and Yankelovich reports on surveys done on
out of where we are because the thing we
family values. There are eleven points that
value most is control over where we focus our
attention.
a majority of Americans agree are family
values. Yankelovich classifies six of them
39 In reality, people cannot truly customize as .. clearly traditional":
their lives. Successful adults must be able o Respecting one's parents
to respond to a variety of people in a
o Being responsible for one's actions
variety of unpredictable situations that
require good social skills. And developing o Having faith in God
good communication and social skills o Respecting authority
should start in the family. Unfortunately, o Remaining married to the same person
children may find that their parents are for life
unavailable to guide them, and parents may
o Leaving the world in better shape
not understand what help kids need. For
example, parents may not realize that their The other five are .. a blend of traditional
teenagers are not learning some important and newer, more expressive values":
social skills while they are spending time in o Giving emotional support to other
virtual reality. Increasingly, teenagers are members of the family
using tl;J.eir smartphones for texting o Respecting people for themselves
instead of talking. Consequently, kids are
not learning the social skills that o Developing greater skill in
conversation teaches: understanding non- communicating one's feelings
verbal cues, figuring out emotions, having o Respecting one's children
the patience needed for a conversation to o Living up to one's potential as an
develop, a11:d how individual
to make .. small talk." Surprisingly, New
41 The ideal of the American family is group
York University recently offered incoming
cooperation to help achieve the fulfillment
students a class in how to make small talk.
of each individual member and shared
The students knew each other on Facebook
affection to renew each member's emotional
but had no idea how to talk to start a
strength. Families can be viewed as similar
conversation and get to know each other in
to churches in this regard. Both are seen by
person.
Americans as places where the human spirit
40 Today, the state of the American family is can find refuge from the highly competitive
frequently discussed, not only by the world outside and gain renewed resources to
experts, but also by the press, elected continue the effort. Although in a number of
officials, and the general public. Some cases families do not succeed in the task of
Americans believe that the institution of providing mutual support and renewing the
the family and family values are both in spirit, for many Americans this remains the
trouble. But lf you ask Americans how ideal of family life.
their own families are, most will tell you
Working with a partner, discuss how the six traditional basic American values affect
the American family. Fill in the chart with the value, the advantages and
disadvantages to the individual, and the advantages and disadvantages to the family.
Value: _______________
Va lue: ---------------
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