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Reflection Paper:
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Submitted by:
Darwin D. Clemente
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As a person, I tend to remember more the negative experiences rather than the
good ones although I may confidently say that I really have a lot of good experiences in
life. My reason from remembering more the negative ones is that it helps me avoid
committing the same mistake/s in the future. Through my 28 years of existence, there is
always one incident that I will always remember. It was on one morning back in
September 1987 when I woke up hearing some shouting and banging outside our house
which is located within the family compound of my father’s family. I went out of my room
seeing that my grandmother and grandfather was having and argument with my parents.
Upon hearing their loud conversation, I realized that my grandparents want us out of the
family compound for no clear reason at all and that we have to vacate our house
immediately that day. I can vividly remember the cry of my younger brother who was
then only five years old. Through the mediation of my dad’s siblings, we were still
allowed by my grandparents to stay. However, things only got worst leaving us without a
choice but to vacate our house. It was fortunate that my parents, through God’s grace
and hard work, were able to save enough money to allow us to buy a lot and build a
Since then, I didn’t have the same respect to the people who are supposed to
Analyze
In what way was your family system challenged to change to adjust to this event
Though the event was very unusual that grandparents would cause such
inappropriate conducts, I have no regrets that such event took place. The said incident
made our family much closer to each other believing that with perseverance and faith in
God, all will turn out well. Fortunately it did, because of what has happened to us, we
started to dream big things as a family bearing in mind that we will not let such thing to
happen again to us. Letting go of our hard feelings to those who have caused us such
hardship early in our family life, we set out to prove that we can accomplish many things
What stage of the family life cycle was your family in at the time? What impact
did the timing of this event in your family’s life cycle have on the family?
Our family was barely taking off during the time when the said incident took place.
Theoretically, my parents are only in their “parenting babies through adolescence stage”
of the family life cycle during that time. My mother was just starting a career with her new
employer that time since she used to teach in a public school in Manila prior to teaching
employee that time prior to his early retirement to start up a business since he realized
that our family won’t go far with his salary as a government employee. My brother and I
are then both in elementary studying at the same school where my mom is teaching
since it was part of her benefits to have her children to study at the university at no cost
at all.
Faced with such challenge and uncertainty early in our family’s life, we had the
realization that we will only be able to face up to the situation if we work together. Since
that incident took place, my father started contemplating on retiring from government
service in order to start up his own business. Fortunately, his decision to retire allowed
him to successfully start up a small business. Knowing that I will soon be helping out my
father as his business expands, I started exposing my self to the business early.
Currently, I am now handling most of the business’ operations concerns, with my brother
and my brother. Apart from the usual situation where grandparents are taking so much
care of their grandchildren to the point of spoiling them, our experience is a lot more
different. With this, we had a lot of confusion going on our mind. Good thing that our
parents took time to still build a good image of our grandparents despite the hardships
they have caused us. Through prayer, we have overcome the hatred and worked
towards reconciliation. However, true reconciliation only took place during the dying
moments of my grandfather who apologized for the mistakes they have committed
against us. It was amazing that God used that moment to even allow me to find the
person who will soon become my lifelong love. If given the opportunity, I would be more
What vulnerabilities and resiliencies did your family system and its members
One thing we realized instantly that time is that it would be very important for a
family to be financially stable. Having without much means that time; we were left
without a choice but to stay in our grandparent’s compound despite the growing
differences, something that has become very traumatic for me and my brother since my
grandparents would often say negative things about my parents and at times would do
other things that would inconvenient us like locking the gate at night in order to prevent
us from getting inside the compound. I remember the many instances that I have to
climb over the fence just to get the gate opened. Because of the importance we give in
our dignity as a person, my parents worked doubly hard just for us to have the means to
your family life today – either in your family of procreation or in your family – of
– origin today?
This event opened up many realizations for me as an individual and for my family
as well. As a person, I realized that whatever blessing that God have given us should
only be used for the good of others for we can never tell what lies ahead. As the
one will be there to help them in time of emergencies. Later on, when most of their
properties have been already sold out, some of the financial support for their medical
needs has come from us. Little did I know that my parents are trying to teach us
something then about life; and that is no matter what happens, your parents will always
be your parents and that caring for those who have caused you harm is the best way of
As a family, the experience have brought us closer to God knowing that every
success, failure, and challenge in life is His own way of bringing us closer to Him. The
said experience also taught us how a family, working together to achieve a common
goal, can be a source of inspiration for each and every member. Though the road to our
family’s success has not been easy, our support for each other and dedication to what
we hope to achieve has made us able to weather off the challenges and set backs that
has come our way. It is very true that a family, who puts God at its center by praying
Meanings
Recalling the event that I have narrated provides me new insights as to the
reason why God allowed it to happen to our family. Personally, I may say that our family
could have not gone to where we are right now if not for such difficult times that we went
through early on in our family life. I myself can say that because of such event, I was
forced to make big dreams not only for myself but for my family as well. Along the way, I
learned the value of making personal sacrifices by taking responsibilities at home and
taking charge of most of the responsibilities in our family business even at a young age.
Enact
Thinking about the successes and trials that our family has gone through, I have
learned to make concrete steps in order to realize my personal dreams and the dreams I
have for my family. Now that I will soon be getting married, I have made some concrete
plans for my family which I hope to accomplish. First of all, I tried to find a woman who
can understand my responsibilities at home and one who also shares the same dreams
that I have. Fortunately, God gave me one the first time around and spared me of the
livelihood was the next thing I worked on after I have graduated. Now, my fiancé and I
are both busy preparing for our wedding after ten years in our boyfriend-girlfriend
relationship. What we had vowed is to make a family that is well centered on God by
living a Christian way of life and making sure that our children will not undergo the same
hardships.
A.
Being the eldest in a brood of two, my career choice was not only anchored on
my personal preference but on my family role as well. As a child, I have always wanted
to become lawyer. This came to my mind because of the admiration I had with the
younger brother of my mom who is a well known lawyer in the City of Malolos and later
on became the second highest government official in the city. I developed this interest in
going to law school because I used to stay in his law office after school since no one
would look after me in our house during the time that both of my parents are still at work.
Because of my special interest in legal matters, I would often read law books and ask my
uncle if I was able to understand what I have read correctly. This interest became handy
in the family business. Later on, after finishing my undergraduate study (Business
– Diliman which enlightened me about the legal concerns of HR. Taking up the said
course has proven to be very useful for it allowed me to confidently handle the
future jobs.
At work, I may say that my parents, most especially my mother had the most
influence on my attitude. Being low profile and result oriented is one thing that I surely
got from my mother. As a teacher, she makes sure that her students are well disciplined,
deadlines are met, and that there is no compromise when it comes to grades. As a
teacher, she had held various positions in the city schools organization of Malolos which
shows the level of credibility and respectability that she is maintaining. She was
work that allowed me to handle the pressures of my work while at the same time having
Though all of us in the family have a very busy schedule, we always make sure
that we attend Sunday mass together and have the time to at least go to an out of town
vacation twice a year. If finances permit, we sometimes go on an out of the country tour
in order for us to be relieved of the daily pressures of work while at the same time
discussing some family matters. Generally, I may say that our family is living a well
balanced family life; having enough time for work, church and community service, and
B.
If there is one thing that I would like to leave behind that I have experienced in
my family of origin is our inability to discuss things without raising our voice. Though we
are basically not fighting or in a conflict, we often end up raising our voice when differing
opinions are being put forward, most especially when making decisions. Another is the
too much formality in the family which is an overspill of my mom’s being a disciplinarian.
One negative effect of such situation is that we were not able to develop openness with
each other. It is rarely that we have light discussions in the family about personal
concerns. Ordinarily, I would only discuss my personal concerns with my girlfriend and
peers.
On the other hand, there are many things which I have learned from my family
that I would want to continue when I start my own family. One is the importance we give
in prayer and going to mass together. I find it important because I believe that much of
our family’s success was achieved by praying together most especially during Sunday’s.
Another is the decision sharing in the family. Through such practice, me and my brother
has become well aware of what’s going on in the family as regards our business and
decision-making even at a young age. Lastly, I want to develop the same discipline and
respect that my parents taught us when time comes that I will be starting my own family.
In all, I am thankful to God for giving us a strong family that has withstood many
trials over the years. Through time, it is my family that has been my source of inspiration