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Free Yourself From Anxiety When All Eyes Are On You.

DEAL WITH PUBLIC ATTENTION Free Yourself From Anxiety When All Eyes Are On You. In Association

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When the attention is on us, our thoughts are consumed by the fear of others opinions, criticisms and judgements. It is a common worry that causes anxiety and prevents us from doing most things by avoiding them.

We have to wonder: If we didn’t worry about the attention from others, what kind of things would we do? How often would we risk, try, fail and persist?

- Brendan Corbett








You may not have consciously thought about ‘Public Attention’ preventing you from doing certain things, so here is a thought provoking section for you to step back and see what feelings and behaviours it causes you to do.



It doesn’t matter where you are at, what is important is how do you want to be? Imagine how your life would be if you could do whatever you wanted without much thought about public or social consequences.



Is there something physical holding you back? If the chance to do something is right there in front of you, then it’s a case of you getting in your own way and convincing yourself not to do it. We need to change that.





Whether it is extreme social anxiety, an average person, or a performer who struggles in other contexts- it is all the same process inside their minds. Sometimes understanding is enough to override the reactions.




If you didn’t have language, you would still have feelings. This section focuses on the evolutionary instincts within us that cause us to feel some discomfort or anxiety in certain public contexts.



Now that you have a better understanding, you can start to question where you are holding back. We can all feel okay in certain situations until something extra is involved. Why is that? And what is yours? Start to contrast situations and realise the differences.



‘Part One’ and ‘Part Two’ were all about theory and understanding. It can sometimes be hard to take in a lot of content and take notes. So here is a brief overview so that you can recap at any time after you have read the chapters.





You understand the cycle, and you know we can’t possibly go through each context one by one- it would be too time consuming. Let’s take a look at how you see yourself and how that affects your anxiety and thinking.



You would assume there is a huge list of ways to help. Well, in actual fact, there are only a few real ways to change your thinking processes and perception of self. Here is a brief description of them and how they work.



You know the feelings and behaviours, and you also know the strategies on how to not have ‘Public Attention’ be an issue for you. Here is a summary and model of how it should all fit together. Then in Part Fouryou will can apply it.





There is no point trying to do something unless you know you really want to do it. How do you get motivated? It’s different for everybody, but when the vision and feeling is there it compels us to go do anything we need to.



It is often down to an inner issue. That means you can do these in the comfort of your own home. Start to believe in other possibilities and results. Learn to use your imagination, but in the right way.



Everybody on some level is apprehensive about being criticised, challenged, judged, looking stupid etc. We can’t avoid these happening, so it is up to us to be able to securely handle any attention when they occur.



Take a list and see how far you are willing to forget public attention and negative feelings to do what you want to do. How many things



Before You Begin

Before You Begin

What is Public Attention?

You probably assume this book is focussed on learning how to conquer stage fright and give a kick-ass presentation without any fear or anxiety. After all, up on stage is where you get the mass exposure to public attention.

However, being able to get up on stage with ease is not the primary focus of this book, although it is something you will be able to achieve.

My focus in this book is to help those who feel anxious and uncomfortable in their day- to-day lives. Anxiety doesn’t only happen up on a stage in front of an audience. People can experience it and have it as a recurring feeling in multiple scenarios.

Think about the possible situations: starting a college class for the first time; going on a date; having an interview; eating in public; showing your creativity; going shopping; talking to new people and groups; doing something new. These are all scenarios that involve public attention. That is they are exposed to people and are open to judgement and potential embarrassment.

We all have varying degrees of anxiety in these kinds of public and social situations. You may even feel that it doesn’t bother you. It ranges from the person with extreme social anxiety, to the average person who feels anxious in certain contexts, and beyond to the performers who you would think are extremely confident, but they too have some form of anxiety in other contexts.


I don’t want you to think I am suggesting we fear people. We don’t. We only fear their

perceptions of us.

I have always used a common example based on attraction. We can talk to somebody we are not attracted too fairly easily. But with somebody we actually find attractive, suddenly we start to get these feelings. We get the queasy stomach and the nerves. We feel anxious about risking messing it up and saying/doing the wrong thing.

Before You Begin

The reason we feel this way is because something is on the line- us. People can feel this way regularly, in many of the above situations, if they always think in a negative way. We start to experience all of the physical symptoms that go along with anxiety.

So, the anxiety seems to be us trying to not have others perceive us in a negative way. We want to put on our best show. That explains how you can talk to your friend you have known for years with ease, but with a stranger you can become hesitant and reserved.

It is the same action of conversation, only the change of context changes how you feel.

Another example

Let’s say somebody has been thinking of joining a class for a while- maybe a dance class. What are their first thoughts? They can be, “I can’t wait to join that class. It will be so much fun!” But the majority of people may not think about the dancing at all. They put a negative spin on it and think, “I can’t do that, I’ll completely embarrass myself. I’ve never done it before. I probably won’t get it right anyway.”

But then they can quite easily head home, buy a dance DVD, and practice the steps in

their own living room. Why can’t they do it in front of other people?

Another option would be to wait around and convince yourself not to bother until you have a friend who is willing to come and support you. Why can’t we just get up and go? What

holds us back?

It can reach a point where we feel embarrassed with photos and being on film. Why do

we feel so self-conscious? How can we hate our image so much and not allow others to see us for what we are?

This is the fear and anxiety associated to Public Attention.


I want to help you reach a point where you don’t feel anxious on a regular basis. We can all try our best to avoid uncomfortable situations, but that is not a fulfilling life to lead.

I do not know where you are personally with your life. I do not know if you are the extreme case of being nervous ordering food, to the more sociable average person who gets on with life but still cannot do the things they want to do.

Personally, I believe the level of where you are at is irrelevant.

Before You Begin

Anxiety with public attention has a pattern, and I believe it all starts with:

- The perception you have of yourself; - And the beliefs of what you think others will perceive of you.

I noticed that people have differing contexts in which they feel anxious. But it would be ridiculous to try and cover every single context where people say, “I feel comfortable here, but not here”.

So I took a different approach. I wanted to understand the underlying source and pattern rather than breaking down the multiple contexts.

What causes these differing levels of discomfort and avoidance in people? How can a celebrity wow us in front of millions and yet be shy one-on-one? How can somebody probably be extrovert in life or work, but still not go attend a class and do something new? How can somebody talk to strangers and clients at work, but not even go up to a stranger they fancy?

The more I thought about it, the more I realised there has to be some pattern in all of these scenarios.

There can’t possibly be this many individual problems. It has to come from a similar patterned way of thinking that determines our confidence and anxiety.

Anxiety and discomfort is a mental process. It slowly builds within you the more you think

about it. You could be fine chatting away with your group of friends until somebody whips out a camera. That stimulus of seeing the camera made you feel and react a certain way. You could sit in the back of the class feeling fine until the tutor says; “Now I’ll go around the class individually”. These moments can fill us with dread- but why?

I believe the best way to understand these feelings is by focussing on how public and social attention affects us. You can disguise it whatever way you want to and label it as

is what you truly are

fearful of exposing.

other fears, but at the core of all this anxiety is your self-image


When the attention is on you- it is quite easy to feel naked and vulnerable. That is when we start thinking about failing or embarrassing ourselves.

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You can’t feel embarrassed without the company of others, unless you sit there thinking in a certain way about something.

And the anxiety comes from this struggle to always try and show our best self.

That is the common factor in most, if not all, of the situations involved with feeling
















So, this book works towards helping you with your self-image, thus allowing you to feel comfortable and less anxious when you are involved in public/social situations.

At least then you won’t let the feelings of anxiety hold you back. You won’t have consistent behaviours like avoiding situations, sabotaging your efforts, and shying away from exposure and attention.


I have to offer you this word of warning. Because this book is for feeling comfortable with public attention, I wouldn’t want you to go to the extreme and think, “I’m free! Woohoo! Let’s

go streaking!”

It doesn’t have to go to the extreme just to prove a point. As long as you achieve comfort through everyday circumstances and situations, and you can easily do the things you want to do, then you will have accomplished the goal this book has set out for you.


Uncomfortable feelings may be something you wish to completely go away, but unfortunately that is never the case. The body uses feelings as action signals for us. I’ll discuss this further in Chapter 2.2.

Your focus should not be to get rid of them entirely. Your focus is to see them in a different light. Think of the performer stood at the side of the stage who you think is an idiot for calling his feelings ‘excitement’ instead of ‘nerves’. They are similar feelings, only the perception and belief of what they are changes.

In some situations you will not be as comfortable as others, and these ACTION SIGNALS will happen. In ‘Part Two’ I will explain to you exactly why they happen. Most people hope ”

game, but we have

or wish for the perfect scenarios to happen and they play the “if only to be realistic.

Before You Begin

It also seems that people feel less anxious in areas where they are confident. Of course, confidence can be seen as the cure to anxiety, but how do we achieve that?

We cannot always depend on having done something before to feel confident. Sometimes we just have to start from the beginning and learn as we go, but the anxiety can cause us to turn away from stepping up and having that first experience.

Regardless of the context, it is the common ways of thinking that allow us to do one thing and not another; to feel comfortable in one situation and not the other.

The attention will always exist. You can try live a sheltered life and avoid any form of embarrassment; public failure; public rejection; public criticism and judgement, but that will never free you from yourself.

Don’t depend on trying to achieve confidence in something first. You should be able to dive in and do whatever it is you want, and comfortably handle the attention.

Once you feel secure within yourself- then it doesn’t matter who is looking, who is around, what has been said, or who challenged you, or what stupid thing you think you did.

You will feel confident in what people see in you, and that alone can rid you of a lot of anxiety and discomfort in the presence of others.

I imagine we would get on with doing a lot more if we knew nobody could see us.


I do not know your specific situation. I do not know what previous history you have had; any medical issues/treatment; your personality and character; or the experiences you have been through.

I have written this book in a generalised way. The same principles will apply for anybody, except the methods and the strategies may be different to achieve the same outcome.

With that in mind, I would like you to approach reading this book with the idea that you are responsible for overcoming whatever feelings you have in regards to public attention/social anxiety. Some people may require an individual approach and a personal helping hand. However, it will always be the same prime method, which is learning to change how you think- and only you can do that for yourself.

The Two Books Explained

The Two Books Explained

When you purchased this book, Learn How To Deal With Public Attention, you should have also downloaded a workbook along with it.


This books purpose is to outline theory and some practical ideas for you to apply. It is designed to reframe your thinking and encourage you to understand how fear and anxiety works, especially when we shy away from public and social attention.

By reading it you will be given ideas and examples to draw your attention to one significant factor that is the underlying reason for your anxiety and fight or flightfeelings.

Because the majority of it is theory, I suggest that you do not disregard it. It is there to help change your perception and have you believe that you can change.


The Workbookis a compilation of strategies and techniques to make a shift in our internal world. They are the techniques that help you in changing your perspective; habitual ways of thinking; your feelings; and your behaviours.

By reading the first book, you will be able to apply the Workbooktechniques with confidence. You know that their intention is to change your internal world and self-image, and you will notice how they make a dramatic change to your responses and you as a person.

Read through this first book in its entirety, so that it plants the seeds and beliefs you need to feel motivated and compelled to take action and apply what is in the Workbook

The two books combined are a strategy to relieve you of the anxiety; panic; worry; stress; doubt or fear, caused by social and public attention when all eyes are on you.

I hope you enjoy them both.

Brendan Corbett



PART ONE SELF-ANALY SIS  Know Where You Are Right Now  Define How You Would

Know Where You Are Right Now

Define How You Would Like To Be

Discover What Is Stopping You

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

I would like you to approach this chapter with an open mind. It is quite easy to draw a

discreet veil over certain things, but here you may find some examples you can relate to,

including some behaviours it can cause us to do without even realising it.

Anxiety is the term which includes states of panic, stress, fear, doubt and worry. It is the result of the anticipation of something negative. If these are recurring themes for you, then this book will outline the strategies to overcome them.


I mentioned in the introduction this book is about dealing with Public Attention’ and NOT

Public Speaking’. Many people fear public speaking, but I believe the same feelings people feel when called upon to do a speech or presentation are also felt in every day situations.

But why does public speaking always hit the top 10 list of things most feared? It’s not because of the mechanics behind it. Anybody can prepare a speech or presentation if they took the time to learn how. So it is not a fear of the speaking itself, but more about the consequences of speaking in front of an audience. That is the underlying fear.

We can agree that we all do embarrassing things and mess up. For example, if you drop the tomato sauce at home you would probably have a giggle to yourself and clean up the mess. But if you drop it in a public place where the entire restaurant turns around and looks at you, you are suddenly overwhelmed with multiple physical symptoms. You get the reddening of the face; the queasy stomach, the feeling of shrinking down; the sweaty palms; the tension in your throat; the amplified sound of the smash.

stomach, the feeling of shrinking down; the sweaty palms; the tension in your throat; the amplified

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

That torrent of symptoms is similar to what would be felt if you stumbled over your words in front of an audience. Even just the anticipation of it can cause the symptoms, purely through imagination alone.

Why is it okay to drop the tomato sauce when nobody is


Why would it be okay to stumble over your words in the

mirror practicing at home, but not in front of an audience?

By contrasting the situations in this way, it makes you realise speaking wasn’t the actual root cause of the anxiety. The fear comes from the anticipation of potential disaster, but that only happens when people are looking.

So, if you asked me to define ‘Why do people fear public speaking?” I would answer that the fear is not about being up on stage or giving the speech. We can all stand on a stage without an audience. We can all practice a speech with nobody around. The fear comes from the PUBLIC ATTENTION we receive. It is only when you know all eyes are fixated on you that you become vulnerable. You are open to all of the opinions, judgements and scrutiny.

But it becomes even more intense for you if you believe that all of the opinions and judgements will be negative and exaggerated.

Some other fears to hit the Top Ten list are fears such as REJECTION, FAILURE and INTIMACY- all of which involve other people.

Do you really fear rejection and failure? You can send in for a competition and get rejected/lose without any real concern. Nobody saw or knew about it. It’s completely different though if you get rejected face-to-face by somebody else with others around you.

You see, attention happens to us all of the time. That is why I decided not to draw my efforts on public speaking alone. I wanted to tackle the issue whereby people can comfortably handle ANY public attention, whether it is dropping a plate in a restaurant; going on a first date; dealing with failure of rejection; attending an interview; giving a speech at a gathering. We break the patterned cycle that causes it to become exaggerated and overwhelming discomfort.

All of the above cause attention from others. We should be

able to feel comfortable regardless of how many people

have their eyes on us.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?


Not many people would associate (or admit) their avoidance is due to the discomfort of public attention.

With public speaking it is obvious the number of people is a fear factor, but even then people can disguise it in ways such as: “What if I don’t know what to say?” “I can’t give a speech. I’ve never done one before!” “I know I’m going to mess it up.”

Why would “messing it up” be such a bad thing? You probably messed it up a lot of times in

the mirror practicing at home. On the surface level this appears to be the reason for their panic, but the real reason behind it is they really don’t want to embarrass themselves during all that attention. That is what it really the true concern and worry.

If the speech really is going to be too unbearable for you, then you may find yourself trying any means to get out of it. This is known as sabotage. It’s amazing how creative we can be when the situation calls for it. We can think of many excuses on the spot. If you can’t get out of it, then you may write your speech word for word and bury yourself into the paper you’ve written it on. You would sabotage your efforts to play it safe and rush through it. Then you would rationalise, “It wasn’t that important anyway.” Just to soften the blow.

These behaviours are similar to what people do in other situations without realising it. Approaching somebody you fancy is another perfect example. A friend may encourage you to go do it, but you say things like: “What do I say?” In this instance the discomfort for you is the potential public rejection. Even if it is only between the two of you, it could still feel like the whole world is watching.

But you can argue the actual act of talking to somebody is relatively easy, only it changes when there is something on the line (i.e. being rejected by somebody you are showing an interest in). That alone changes the context of the situation, yet I am sure you can talk to your friends completely fine, right?

So ask yourself: What situations or contexts do you avoid or feel anxious in? What situations cause you to behave in this way?

Both the date and speech examples are enough evidence to

suggest it is not the actual doing them that worries us. It is

the potential public consequences and attention drawn on

us that triggers our feelings.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

I have been emphasising the avoidance behaviour up until now, but you may be thinking to yourself that you do not avoid many things. Even though you do not avoid certain situations, you could be going through experiences by merely tolerating the feelings.

But is tolerance really a good way to live?

Say for instance you have joined a gym. It was a struggle at first to even step through the door, but you knew it was something you had to do. It doesn’t end there for you. The ways in which you think about yourself causes you to feel like people in there are judging you in a negative way. Now, as a result, you feel if people are looking at you, you have to put on a good image. While you are on the treadmill you try your best to not show your sweat or that you are out of breath after only five minutes. You may even sabotage it and cut the session short or miss out a few until you get the motivation to get involved again.

So yes, you are at the gym and you haven’t avoided it, but it still feels like an uncomfortable struggle for you, regardless of how many times you have gone and done it. This is why sometimes practice and repetition does not make us confident. We need to handle the psychology behind it.

Tolerance is difficult to observe in yourself because you are

still moving forward and getting on with things. So ask

yourself, how often do you feel insecure and anxious but

you just face it”?

We can no doubt get through life without much call for speeches and being up on stage. I mean, who in their right mind would step up to get in front of an audience? But in every day life we are still faced with social and public situations. We shouldn’t have to tolerate them.

Be honest- Do some situations make you feel more anxious than others?



People with social anxiety will be able to tell you more about this level of tolerance and avoidance. Say for example they go to a public place to do some shopping. Even walking through the isles they are thinking, “I look like an idiot. The store person is looking at me. I bet they think I’ve stolen something! Oh God, they are going to see what I’ve bought. They will laugh at me”.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

Even with that level of anxiety, they know they still have to go and do the shopping. All they can do is tolerate it, or avoid it in some way by asking somebody else to go instead.

For me, Social Anxiety is really the extreme of what this book is designed for. It’s the mental process where you believe that attention is on you in a negative way, so you do your damn best to not make a fool of yourself, or you avoid most situations. It is an internal pressure.

But this does not explain how some people can feel embarrassed in a positive light. For example, receiving a reward at a ceremony or winning in competition. Some would much rather receive their recognition on the quiet and not draw attention to themselves. You can sometimes see how sheepish performers can be on TV when having to go up and make their acceptance speech. This is summed up with this statement:

Any attention can be bad attention, depending on the way

you think about yourself.

People who have Social Anxiety will find it hard to discuss their problem because that in itself is embarrassing. It often reaches a point where avoiding most if not all social situations is the only solution, unless they are motivated enough to tolerate their anxiety and just try to get on with it.

But we have to look at a person with social anxiety to understand the behaviours to an extreme.

In our own little heads we can be brilliant at rationalising our behaviours. You may have fleeting thoughts such as, “Do I really have to go on that date tonight? This dinner party is going to be a pain anyway. That presentation won’t matter much. I’ll just get out of it”.

We can be flippant with our excuses, but we have to look at the underlying behaviours. With that kind of doubtful thinking we are drawing a discreet veil over the fact we are trying to get away with something. We do this because we know it is going to be an uncomfortable experience. So we need to stop conjuring up these excuses and mentally stroking ourselves by saying “It is okay. It is not so bad if I don’t do it”.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?


I use Social Anxiety to give extreme examples of public attention because for those who suffer with it- even walking through a street can be difficult.

Walking down the street is not the most taxing of activities, so why then can it be a nervous experience for some?

In the same way for the average person, going into a class or workshop is no difficult task, yet why would some hold back from doing it without some degree of anxiety?

We have all had to go through this experience when starting a new school or college. Some can wander into the classroom with no anxiety at all, while some tend to stay reserved and sit back so they do not (you guessed it) draw attention to themselves. What’s the difference?

The Public Attention Discomfort Scale(which I believe is fictional because I just made it up) would probably range from something as simple as shopping or walking down the street, to being up on stage in front of a huge audience. Somewhere in between you have your everyday social and public occurrences. It would be hard to pin point or list everything in between.

Instead, you could use ‘Being by yourselfas a starting point to contrast and compare situations. Then you judge how you feel in different social and public situations that could involve attention on you

What behaviours do you take? What thoughts do you think?

This approach shows you how the added factor of being around people changes how you feel, and to what extent.

It is only a basic example because other factors could play a role in what causes you to feel anxious and uncomfortable. I understand that it is not only ‘Public Attention’ and ‘Social Phobia’ that causes anxiety. We can feel it for a number of reasons, so the lines between what is the actual root and cause can sometimes be a bit blurred.

However, to keep it simple, let us focus on this area. Let’s see what changes when we no longer have it as an issue and we take it out of the equation. As you progress through this book you will become to understand on a deeper level what I am referring to.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

1.1 How Does It Affect You? You will notice when you are alone you feel little

You will notice when you are alone you feel little anxiety or no uncomfortable feelings, unless you are thinking and anticipating something, like an interview or a date or an event etc.

It’s this added factor that can trigger off our fears of everything else. It’s hard to feel anxious when you are alone, in the same way it’s often hard to laugh when we do not have company. Ironically, a laugh is a natural response for us when we feel uncomfortable and nervous. Our bodies are just wired this way, but more of this in another chapter.

You know what the anxiety feels like. Therefore, I ask you now to think back and remember times when you were anxious in your own personal life. What contexts does it occur for you? Can you rate the levels? What were you thinking and anticipating to happen to cause it?

I do not expect a huge list where you mentally exhaust yourself. Just use it to become aware of it.

Do you avoid talking to the person you fancy and let the opportunity slip by?

Do the time leading up to an important interview get more excruciating, causing you to put everything else off as you thought about it over and over?

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

Have you avoided doing something you may enjoy- like a class or experience?

Do you find yourself choosing to be more reserved and out of the way? Why is that?

Do you feel uncomfortable being in public?












Only you know how you feel. I don’t think anybody should spend their days having to avoid certain things or tolerate them while inside it feels like torture. It shouldn’t reach a point where it restrains you from having a fulfilled life where you always err on the side of feeling anxious. You can already see how anxiety or how disguising anxiety manipulates your decision making and choices.

And it takes self-honesty when you are thinking about how this has been affecting you because as I mentioned earlier- on the surface the real reasons are often disguised. Nobody would ever consciously say, “I’m nervous because I don’t want people looking at me. I’m nervous because I think X will happen and people will think X of me”.

In Part Twoyou will understand the real reasons behind why these feelings exist. It is a natural feeling; only some have it more under control than others.

You are using the beginning of this book to assess the point where you are at now. You are drawing attention to it and thinking about how different your life would be if public attention was not an issue.

Just remember the definition of what public attention is. It is the belief that you are being observed, and that leads you to conjure up possible negative consequences, depending on how you think of yourself.

These consequences take on many forms, such as:

I am going to be rejected.

I will look stupid and embarrass myself.

People are wondering what the hell I am doing.

Nobody likes me or wants me here.

I am being boring. I can just tell.

I am going to screw up and everybody will stare at me thinking “ugh”.

I am wasting everybody’s time.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?

Everybody can see I’m struggling. This is so embarrassing.

If you believe in consequences like these, then it is no wonder you feel uncomfortable and would rather avoid/tolerate situations. Nobody would want to go through that by choice.

However, you may not consciously think that way. You may think passively to try and disguise the real reasons. You soften it with thoughts like:

I don’t really need to go to that class anyway. I can leave it.

We probably wouldn’t be right for each other anyway. Plenty more fish in the sea.

I’ll just write up the speech and get it over with. Nobody will care much.

I didn’t really like going to the gym. I’ll just go jogging instead

in the dark.

Try not to be too passive and live in denial when thinking about this. Use the public attention as your primary cause of your avoidance or sabotage. The feeling is more common than you think; only people choose to not express it in that way.

And remember, anxiety is a patterned response by the way we think and anticipate something. We don’t feel it unless we notice something. So it doesn’t matter how big your list is. You shouldn’t think to yourself, “Oh My God this is huge!!” and become overwhelmed.

Once you understand the process that causes anxiety, it will

apply to every situation you feel it in.



More Leverage And A Vision Of How You Would Like To Be.

1.1 How Does It Affect You?


Define situations where you feel anxious or the thought of doing it makes you feel uncomfortable, in ways such as: worry, panic, stress, doubt and fear.

Also, think of situations where it has caused you to avoid them, or you have sabotaged it and “softened the blow” of it to yourself.

Get an idea of how has been affecting you but without you even realising it.


Feelings: Worry, Panic, Doubt, Stress, Fear Physical Symptoms (examples) Shaking, Tension, Hard Breathing, Flushing of the face Behaviours: Avoidance, Sabotage, and Tolerance

You should not focus solely on situations and choices you have avoided. We can still get on with life with the anxiety, only we try to tolerate it. That can sometimes become a struggle.

Define where and when you have these recurring thoughts and feelings. It is in our biology to avoid anything which may be uncomfortable, so how has it been causing you to behave?

Regardless of what you say, the reason for your discomfort (more often than not) happens because other people are involved. We can all mess up when nobody is watching and feel totally fine about it.

It doesn’t have to always be negative attention that feels uncomfortable. Any attention can be bad depending on how you think about yourself.

Have a reality check, step back, and really be honest about how it has been affecting your life.

Questions & Purchase

Questions & Purchase


Upon purchasing this book, you also get a ‘Workbook’ which is a compilation of all the methods, strategies and techniques to deal with ‘public attention’.


If you have any personal questions or feedback, then you can send me an e-mail through The Contact Page on the website. Just scroll to ‘Brendan Corbett’ in the form box.


If you have problems with the book, then you can also go to The Contact Page and scroll the ‘Send To’ box down to PRODUCT QUESTIONS.

You can also go to the website page to read more detail about this book: Purchase Page

Thank You

Brendan Corbett