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Annalisa Pena
Mr. Janosch
12/ 2/ 2015
Class 3
Domestic Violence
He grew red with anger when she disobeyed him again. With his blood boiling and hands
hot with enmity he tried to kill her. “Roia was hospitalised for three months after her then
husband doused her in turpentine and set her on fire. She suffered horrific injuries-” (Melissa
Davey). Rioa was married at age 14 in Afghanistan. Her husband verbally abused her for years
and started physically abusing her after their first child. She didn’t leave sooner because she
didn’t think anyone would care. “Every 9 seconds in the US, a woman is assaulted or beaten”
and “... 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by an intimate partner
within their lifetime” (NCADV). Domestic violence is a worldwide dilemma that affects people
of all genders, races, sexuality, social class and age. Domestic violence is more than just bruises
and scrapes on a person, it's a form of cruel manipulation that ruins the victim inside and out.
So, first things first, what is domestic violence? According to Justice.gov, domestic
violence is ¨a pattern of abusive behavior in any relationship that is used by one partner to gain
or maintain power and control over another intimate partner.¨ Domestic violence is a cruel and
brutal form of manipulation. The abuser manipulates their partner into doing things that they
don't want to do. This could be things like staying in the relationship, losing contact with loved
ones or performing sexual favors. Domestic violence isn't just physical abuse, it could be
effective because it plays with the victim's trust and isolates them. The victims feel as if there is
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no way out of the situation due to fear of their partner. This form of manipulation combines
One of the first thing people speculate when they hear about these horrible stories of
domestic abuse is, what is going on in the abusers head? There are numerous things that
contribute to the abuser hurting their victim. “Some abusers learned to abuse from their parents.
Their early history consisted of receiving abuse themselves and/or seeing others abused”
(Kathryn Patricelli). In other words, if the abuser grew up in an abusive household or in a violent
environment, they can turn into an abuser because that's all they know. In other cases, “Abusive
behavior can also result from mental health issues or disorders. For example, someone with
problem may easily get out of control during arguments” (Kathryn Patricelli). It is especially
common for people with drinking problems or drug abuse to be violent towards their partner or
child. “Abusers who treat people in this manner are very likely psychologically ill, and possibly
medically ill as well. They may have an antisocial (sociopathic, psychopathic) or narcissistic
personality disorder, and they may have anger or impulse control issues and substance abuse
issues on top of that!” (Kathryn Patricelli). Therefore, there are so many components that can go
into why the abuser abuse. Regardless of why the abuser damages their victim, it is still a cruel
Now that you know what’s going on in the abusers head, what's happening to the victim?
You may be surprised by that fact that sometimes the victim gets arrested instead of the abuser.
The victim's word will often not be trusted if the abuser is a trusted person by the public, like a
cop or government employee. This type of manipulation teares the victim apart from the inside
out. It’s no surprise that domestic violence damages the victim severely if the case is very bad.
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Some effects of domestic violence could be, PTSD, depression, and/or dissociation. According to
joyfufoundation.org PTSD or Post Tramatic Stress Disorder is “is a mental health condition that
is triggered by a terrifying event.” The website also mentions that “Some common symptoms
associated with PTSD are flashbacks, nightmares, severe anxiety and uncontrollable thoughts
about the event.” PTSD can make a person so terrified, unexplainably scared and that is a cruel
thing to do to a person. Depression can also result from domestic violence, like I mentioned.
Depression is “is more than common feelings of temporary sadness.” Symptoms can be
significant weight loss or gain, loss of energy or loss of interest and pleasure in activities
previously enjoyed.” (Joyfufoundation.org). Lastly, dissociation, which is “feeling like one has
“checked out” or is not present. In some instances of dissociation, people may find themselves
daydreaming … more complex it may impair an individual's ability … to focus on work related
“1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men have been victims of [some form of] physical violence by
an intimate partner within their lifetime” (NCADV). If you don’t want to be that statistic, you
can avoid this. For example, if you suspect any unusual behavior in your partner break it off. If
you decide to stay and he/she hurts you then you have a few options. One, you can file a
restraining order which is “a legal injunction that is often requested in order to help people to
obtain protection” (yourdictionary.com). This will keep the abuser far, far away from you and if
they come to you then they’ll be arrested on the spot. Another option, is to call the police of
course. This immediately can eliminate the problem and get the abuser arrested. These two
options can go hand and hand. Get the abuser arrested then get a restraining order against them.
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So many cases can be avoided this way. For example, in Shakespeare's “Othello” when othello
hit desdemona in front of a few people, if the witnesses or desdemona herself called the police
than nothing further would have happened. There are ways to get out of this and avoid the key is
worse is that it is fairly common and most cases don’t even get reported. What you should take
away from this essay is that domestic violence is an issue that needs to be treated with as much
respect as any other crime. If you are a victim speak up and if you are an abuser, you deserve to
face the consequences of your actions. Domestic violence is more than just bruises and scrapes
on a person, it's a form of cruel manipulation that ruins the victim inside and out.
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Sources:
<http://www.ncadv.org/learn/statistics>.
<http://www.theguardian.com/society/ng-interactive/2015/jun/02/domestic-violence-five-
women-tell-their-stories-of-leaving-the-most-dangerous-time>. waaaa
<http://www.justice.gov/ovw/domestic-violence>.
violence/effects-domestic-violence>.
<http://www.yourdictionary.com/restraining-order>.