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Volume 51 Article 21
February 2017
Recommended Citation
Schmersal, Cindy (2017) "An Avenue to Transformation: Five Attributes of Fruitful Conversation," Conversations on Jesuit Higher
Education: Vol. 51 , Article 21.
Available at: http://epublications.marquette.edu/conversations/vol51/iss1/21
Schmersal: An Avenue to Transformation: Five Attributes of Fruitful Conversa
“It
should be presupposed that every good
Christian ought to be more eager to put a
good interpretation on a neighbor’s state-
ment than to condemn it.”
Saint Ignatius (Sp.Ex. 22)
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Five Attributes of Fruitful Conversation
By Cindy Schmersal
As educators, we frequently invite students to em- supposition of the Spiritual Exercises, he offers the di-
brace discomfort, an invitation evidenced in service- rector guidance on how to approach the directee’s shar-
immersion experiences, challenging new ideas ing, guidance that can inform our own engagement with
introduced in the classroom, and encounters with oth- others in challenging conversations. He writes:
ers whose realities and worldviews differ from their It should be presupposed that every good
own. We encourage such discomfort knowing that it Christian ought to be more eager to put a good
proves fertile ground for transformation, an essential interpretation on a neighbor’s statement than
aim of Jesuit education. to condemn it. Further, if one cannot interpret
We are likewise called to continually invite our own it favorably, one should ask how the other
transformation, to embrace discomfort and welcome the means it. If that meaning is wrong, one should
growth it promises. In my experience, such discomfort correct the person with love; and if this is not
is most readily present in the difficult exchanges that are enough, one should search out every appro-
an unavoidable aspect of my ministry. Accompanying priate means through which, by understand-
students as they navigate life’s messiness, engaging with ing the statement in a good way, it may be
colleagues whose perspectives and preferences on how saved. (Sp.Ex. 22)
to proceed differ from my own, and managing a depart- In short, he advises to first and foremost assume
ment all present endless opportunities to grapple with the best, to inquire further as necessary, and always to
discomfort and to engage with others in honesty, humil- engage with love.
ity, and vulnerability. From this presupposition, the Rockhurst Univer-
I am a quintessential nine on the personality de- sity Office of Mission and Ministry derived five attrib-
scribing Enneagram – “the peacemaker.” Admittedly, utes that mark a fruitful Ignatian conversation. I share
my instinctual reaction to conflict is often to withdraw, these attributes knowing the value they continue to
ignoring it in the hopes that it may magically resolve offer me in my ministry and in the hope that they may
itself. (Spoiler alert: it does not.) I do not willingly wel- benefit the difficult conversations that are an inevitable
come challenging encounters. Perhaps you can relate. aspect of the work of each of us.
When faced with such circumstances, I frequently
have to remind myself to embrace the discomfort it of- Be slow to speak. In the most difficult of conversa-
fers, knowing that past experience has proven it a tions, it is often easy to be overly reactionary, allowing
space in which God’s grace and my resultant growth hurt, anger, or frustration to fuel my approach. And
can abound. so, I am reminded to pause, even if only momentarily,
In approaching difficult encounters, I am encour- and to invite the Spirit’s guidance and wisdom before
aged by the wisdom of St. Ignatius of Loyola. In the pre- engaging the conversation.
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