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 filter NEWS AND VIEWS FROM AROUND THE WORLD

INDONESIA

THE VIRGIN CONFLICT

Hopeful FEMALE SOLDIERS must still prove their VIRGINITY

S
ince International Women’s Day in March, activists have
renewed their efforts to stop the Indonesian government
forcing women to prove their virginity before joining the
country’s armed forces. It was reported by Human Rights Watch
in Indonesia that since the ’60s, women wanting to enlist have
been undergoing traumatic virginity tests, including the barbaric
(and scientifically inaccurate) ‘two-finger test’ to determine
whether or not a woman’s hymen is intact.

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 INDIA
On track for empowerment
At first sight, Gandhinagar Station in Rajasthan doesn’t seem out of the ordinary. Except for one thing: it’s the only interstate train
station in India staffed solely by women, from conductors and ticket sellers to the station master herself. That’s quite significant
in this conservative country, where, in some rural areas, women are still seldom seen outdoors. Today, India has one of the fastest
growing economies, but women have been largely excluded from it. However, over the last year, Indian women have made major
strides in empowering themselves. From the first female fighter-jet pilots recently being inducted into the country’s armed forces,
to an all-female sailing crew circumnavigating the world, it seems there’s nothing stopping India’s women now.

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PAKISTAN
PA K I S TA N W E L C O M E S I T S F I R S T
TRANSGENDER NEWS ANCHOR
In a landmark moment for marginalised identities
in Pakistan, Marvia Malik has become the country’s
first transgender news anchor. In March, Pakistan’s
Senate voted in favour of a bill that will protect the
rights of transgender people, and allow its citizens
to choose their own gender. Marvia is a journalism
graduate who was working as a model before she
received the good news from private broadcaster
Kohenoor that she had landed the job. Although
transgender people are still severely discriminated
against in the country, this massive step forward
will hopefully begin changing perceptions. 
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LEADING AFRICA IN

RWANDA
R E P R E S E N TAT I O N ,
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Africa’s most powerful nations,
including South Africa and
Nigeria, are still struggling to
make progress in closing the
gender gap on the continent.
Instead, Rwanda has taken the
lead. According to the Global
Competitiveness Report, the East
African country is the best place
in Africa to be a woman in terms
of gender equality in industry and
government. Rwanda was also
one of the first countries in the
world to have more than half of its
government run by women, with
64% of Parliament made up of
women by 2015. Representation
in government has meant that
women are also more visible
in other sectors in the country,
including education and business.

GLOBAL
Mattel honours
some of history’s
most important
women
Mattel, the manufacturer of
Barbie, has released a series
of dolls celebrating some of
history’s most remarkable
women. The 14 new dolls form
a part of the ‘Shero’ collection
and, among others, you can
now get your very own Amelia
Earhart, Frida Kahlo and
Katherine Johnson. Modern
women are also celebrated,
with Ava DuVernay and Misty
Copeland forming part of the
range, too. We’ve officially
decided you’re never too old
to start collecting dolls.

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Korean Beauty, or K-Beauty, refers to
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range of benefits, from removing impurities
and reducing the appearance of fine lines,
to offering intense hydration.

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glazed
O V ER
Also referred to as glass skin,
SKIN GLAZING is the new
trend that replaces make-up
with multiple layers of skincare

F
orget finicky contouring and sculpted features
using a litany of products. This new trend is
pared-down and bare. Skin glazing focuses
on showing off healthy skin, rather than covering up
imperfections, by substituting make-up for layered
skincare. The result is a glossy, glass-like finish.

H E R E ’ S H O W T O D O I T:

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DERMALOGICA Precleanse Balm R660. Massage
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with DERMALOGICA Special Cleansing Gel R850,
which will remove any lingering impurities without
stripping or drying the skin.

2 The next non-negotiable step involves seven

layers of toner. Try Korean brand [2] KLAIRS
Supple Preparation Facial Toner R420. Using your
fingers, pat on the first layer. Then massage the
product gently into your skin and wait until it’s dry.
Repeat this process another six times until all seven
layers have been applied.

3 The secret to effective glazing is hydration, and

when it comes to looking ‘lit from within’ there’s
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facial mist like [3] MARIO BADESCU Facial Spray
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follow with a rich, collagen-boosting moisturiser
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alpha hydroxy acids (AHAs), which
loosen dead skin cells and refine
pores without irritation. Use it two
to three times a week on damp skin.
Try BIODERMA Sébium Exfoliating
Purifying Gel R170. Using circular
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IN SALON AT H O M E
DERMAPLANING DERMA ROLLING
A new technique The process of
in exfoliating, derma rolling
dermaplaning, or stimulates collagen
skin shaving, requires production in the
the use of a scalpel skin’s epidermis.
to gently remove The rollers contain
dead skin cells and hundreds of tiny
fine hair from the needles ranging
face. The procedure from 0.5 to 1.5mm
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repor t age

The CiTy
of WidoWs
Bere ave d th e n ca s t out o f t h e i r f a m i l y
h om e s, th ousand s of o s t ra c i s e d
w id o ws i n i n d i a are f o r c e d t o b e g
or becom e se x worke rs to s u r vi ve . Ma ny
t r avel t o v r i n dava n ’ s h o l y
a sh ram s se e k i ng f ood a n d s h e l t e r.
what th e y fi nd i s saf e ty a n d s i s t e r h o o d…

W
words andrea thoMpson
P h o t o g r a P h s sa r a h y lt o n

hen she first visited India in 2010,

photographer Sara Hylton was
shocked to discover women – young
and old – dressed in white, begging
on the streets. ‘When I looked into
these women’s faces, I saw my own
mother and felt compelled to explore
them through my lens. They seemed
so beautiful, and yet so ostracised,
existing on the outskirts of society.’
Sara learned that each of these
women was a widow who, on the
day of her husband’s death, had given
up wearing colour to signify a life
of devotion to her late spouse and
to God. Due to the cultural tradition
of marrying off teenage girls to men in their forties and older, it’s not
unusual to find women in their twenties destined to live for decades
under the shadow of widowhood, alone. The treatment of widows in
parts of India is a topic that the government and many parts of society
would rather ignore.
Widows, sometimes at the hands of their own children, are
immediately cast out of their homes after the death of their
husbands, because of various Hindu superstitions that associate
widowhood with bad luck (seeing a shadow of a widow in the Widowed women from Vrindavan
celebrate the festival of Durga Puja in
street is believed to wreak havoc on your fortunes). Considering Kolkata, West Bengal. For the first time
the central role they play in raising children and looking after since becoming widowed, around 60
the extended family as wives, this seems particularly unjust. women participated in the celebration.
Elsewhere, widowed women living
Furthermore, a widow can never remarry; she must eat only in traditional Hindu communities are
small portions of bland food, live modestly and dress in white, banned from participating in any
so that she is easily recognisable as a woman in mourning. religious ceremonies or celebrations.
Educated Indians largely dismiss such rules as relics of another
century, but they are still very much alive in many villages and
conservative families.

32 marieclaire.co.za may 2018

 ‘THROUGH MY
PICTURES
I WANT TO
HELP INDIAN
SOCIETY
ACCEPT THESE
WOMEN JUST
AS THEY ARE:
HUMAN
BEINGS’

above
A room at the Chaitanya
Vihar ashram in Vrindavan,
where dozens of widows
sleep, eat and live together.
Residents store belongings
under their beds and use
the space beside them as
cooking stations.
right (middle)
Mayarani Dasi, 80 at the
time, sits for a portrait at the
Meera Sahabhagini ashram,
home to more than 200
widowed women, mostly
from the state of West
Bengal. Dasi has lived at the
ashram for over a decade
and feels at peace there.
right (below)
Residents of the Meera
Sahabhagini ashram
for widowed women in
Vrindavan learn how to sew
with the help of Sulabh
International. The items that
are made within the ashram
are sold to local markets,
providing the mostly illiterate
widows a valuable skill and
a small wage.
‘To me, the most sacred person
on Earth is my mother,’ says Sara.
‘I kept imagining her enduring the
abuse and neglect that many of these
women experience at every level.’
Many widows, traumatised
by the humiliation of being cast
out from the communities and
families they love, are forced into
sex work to survive. ‘Through
my pictures I want to help
reduce the stigma associated with
widowhood, so that Indian society
could accept these women just
as they are: human beings.’
A two-year project followed,
capturing the widows’ struggles
as well as their humanity and sense
of sisterhood, as they share their
lives together in government-
or charity-run ashrams.
Many of the women in Sara’s
photographs had sought refuge
in a holy town called Vrindavan,
in the state of Uttar Pradesh, where
traditionally exiled widows travel
thousands of miles to gather,
following expulsion from their
families. The city, considered holy
by Hindus, is known as the ‘city
of widows’ for its population of
20 000 bereaved women. ‘These
women have nowhere else to go
and come together initially due
to terrible circumstances, but they
find love and acceptance among
one another,’ says Sara.
‘I will never forget their bravery
and resilience in the face of such
adversity and rejection. They live
together, pray together and, most
importantly, they survive together.
In many ways they have created a
safe haven where they exist in this
somewhat surreal world bonded by
strength, hope and solace in their
yearning for peace.’
Sara is working with local
organisations, such as Maitri and
Sulabh International (an NGO
introducing 200 of Vrindavan’s
illiterate widows to education),
to help bring women’s rights
and the welfare of widows to the
forefront of India’s political agenda.
‘My hope is that all widows
will receive equal rights, free from
victimisation or abuse. Theirs is
a story about the resilience and
strength of sisterhood, but it’s also
a story about how far we need to go
in our drive for female equality.’ mc
 repor t age

‘They live
TogeTher,
pray TogeTher
and, mosT
imporTanTly,
They survive
TogeTher…
bonded by
sTrengTh,
hope and
solace in Their
yearning
for peace’

A widowed woman performs her

daily prayers at sunset at the Meera
Sahabhagini ashram. Widows live
communally in ashram temples. They
are expected to renounce all earthly
pleasures, wearing white as the symbol
of death, and subsisting on little food.
Girls as young as 11 and women as old
as 107 are shunned by society, evicted
from their homes, abused, neglected,
sexually exploited and considered
inauspicious. The majority of widows
journey to Vrindavan to live out the
remainder of their days with God.

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 THE MAKING OF A
MODERN PRINCESS
WINDSOR CASTLE AWAITS, AND AS PRINCE
HARRY PREPARES TO USHER IN A NEW, MODERN
ERA FOR THE ROYAL FAMILY, ALL EYES ARE ON
HIS GLAMOROUS BRIDE-TO-BE. ANDREW
MORTON, THE FAMED BIOGRAPHER OF DIANA,
PRINCESS OF WALES, REVEALS THE LIFE STORY
OF MEGHAN MARKLE – FROM HOLLYWOOD
TO HER ROYAL HIGHNESS

n 6 September 1997, Meghan
Markle, 16, and her friends watched
the funeral of Diana, Princess of
Wales, tears coursing down their
cheeks at the poignant moment
when the camera zoomed in on
the royal coffin. Perched among
the white flowers was an
envelope bearing the word
‘Mummy’, containing Prince
Harry’s last note to his mother.
Diana’s death was a topic of
debate during a philosophy class
at Meghan’s high school, Immaculate
Heart, in Los Angeles. The discussion
centred on the paradox of a young
mother, a glamorous humanitarian in the
prime of life, dying in the cruel banality of
a car accident.
After the discussion, Meghan and her friend,
Suzy Ardakani, sat and watched old videos of the 1981
wedding of Prince Charles and Lady Diana Spencer. According
to family friends, Meghan was intrigued by Diana not just for
her style but also for her independent humanitarian mission.
She saw her as a role model. Inspired by the Princess, she
and Suzy collected clothes and toys for less privileged
children. In fact, such was Meghan’s interest that Suzy’s
mother Sonia even gave her a copy of my biography, Diana:
Her True Story, which remained on her bookshelves for the
next few years. As her childhood friend Ninaki Priddy
observed: ‘She was always fascinated by the royal family.
She wants to be Princess Diana 2.0.’
Meghan was born on 4 August 1981. Her parents, Tom
Markle and Doria Ragland, met on the set of the ABC drama
General Hospital, where Doria was training as a make-up
artist and Tom was well established as the show’s lighting
director. Tom had been married once before and had two
children, Tom Jnr and Yvonne. And in spite of the 12-year
age gap – Doria was closer in age to his daughter than she
was to him – the pair quickly fell for one another.
For Yvonne, it was indifference, not dislike, at first sight.
She resented the fact that Doria was taking her father’s
focus away from her. When her friends came over to the
house, she dismissed the presence of her father’s African-
American girlfriend, referring to her, according to her
brother, as ‘the maid’.
When Doria arrived, everyone in the family was used to
going their own way. Tom Snr worked every hour of the
day and night, Yvonne was out clubbing with her friends, while
Tom Jnr was smoking weed with his own crowd. Doria brought
them together as a family. ‘The best way I can describe Doria is
that she was like a warm hug,’ said a neighbour.
When Doria found herself pregnant just a year after tying
the knot, she and Tom couldn’t wait for the birth. The arrival
of Rachel Meghan Markle transformed her father’s life. ‘He
was just so, so happy,’ Tom Jnr recalls. ‘He spent every single
minute he could with her. My dad was more in love with her
than anyone else in the world, and that included Doria.
She became his whole life, his little princess.’
cover st or y
Tom, in his own quirky fashion, tried to impose a little
discipline on the somewhat laissez-faire household in order to
protect his little ‘Flower’. He had always said to his son that if
he and his friends wanted to smoke weed, they should do so
only in the house, but this instruction changed with the
arrival of the baby. On one occasion, Tom Jnr and his friends
were smoking a spliff in the lounge while Meghan was in the
nursery crying. His father announced loudly that he was
going up to change her. Shortly afterwards, he reappeared
carrying a full nappy. He joined the boys on the couch, took
a spoon out of his pocket, and started to eat the ‘contents’.
Grossed out, the boys fled the house. Only later did he reveal
that he had substituted chocolate pudding into a fresh nappy.
It was his way of stopping the boys smoking weed when
Meghan was around.
That was about as far as discipline went. From the outside,
it seemed to be one big happy family, but bickering between
Tom and Doria had started.
Tom was a workaholic and thought nothing of spending
80 or 90 hours a week on set. Doria had not signed up for
this, dealing with his children, raising her own and kick-
starting a career. And they were also living in a predominantly
white neighbourhood where, because of her dark skin and
Meghan’s light skin, people often thought Doria was the
nanny. They often stopped her and asked, quite innocently,
where the baby’s mother lived.
There came a point when Doria decided that enough was
enough and went back home to her mother, Jeannette. As
a family friend observed: ‘Doria is not a doormat, that much
I know. She spoke up for herself, protected herself and her
daughter fiercely.’
The couple split up when Meghan was just two years old,
but did not divorce for another five years. Some people
remarked on Tom’s bewilderment, not to say bitterness, that
Doria had given their union so little time to prove itself.
In 1983, Doria and Tom enrolled two-year-old Meghan at
a crèche in Little Red School House, an exclusive institution
favoured by the sons and daughters of LA’s showbiz elite.
The school’s stage shows, watched by proud parents, were
a regular feature of the curriculum.
In one, Meghan shared the lead in How The Grinch Stole
Christmas. Unfortunately, her co-star came down with stomach
flu hours before the show began, leaving her trying to
memorise both parts. ‘That was the worst experience of my
life, trying to learn your lines,’ Meghan told her co-star
afterwards. Ironically, no one gave a thought to promote a
little girl with an unkempt mane of blonde hair, thick glasses
and an awkward manner lurking in the chorus. Her name was
Scarlett Johansson, now one of the world’s highest-paid actors.
By the time she was 10, Meghan was fiercely switched on
and loved to debate an issue, taking part in discussions about
racism in America, most notably after the notorious beating of
Rodney King by LA cops in 1991. After school, Meghan often
sat on the floor of the studio waiting for her father to finish
work on the raunchy comedy show Married… With Children.
As she sat quietly studying, all kinds of ribald scenes were
played out on set, some involving semi-nudity – hardly the
normal after-school fare for a young schoolgirl. Around this
time, unbeknown to Meghan, her father enjoyed a slice
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of luck that meant he no longer had to work such a brutal
schedule. In 1990, he won the California State Lottery,
scooping $750 000 with five numbers, which included
Meghan’s birth date.
As he still had outstanding financial matters concerning his
divorce from Doria, he kept the win secret. But this duplicity
proved to be his undoing. In order to avoid registering his
name with the authorities, he sent an old friend from Chicago
to pick up his winnings. The plan, according to Tom Jnr,
backfired when his pal ended up swindling him out of the
lion’s share of his fortune in a failed jewellery business.
It was clear that Meghan’s dysfunctional family background
and her parents’ subsequent divorce troubled her. ‘I know
that was difficult for her,’ recalls a former teacher from her
high school. ‘One parent over here, one parent over there,
neither particularly fond of each other.’ The role of skilled
diplomat, mediating between warring factions, taught Meghan
a valuable lesson: how to control her emotions. ‘She is very
poised,’ a school friend observes. ‘It could be hard for her.
Sometimes she felt she had to pick sides.’
There were other issues too, though she did not discuss
them publicly at the time. Fitting in was a constant concern.
‘We only ever saw her with Tom, never with the mum,’ said
a school photographer. Meghan was living with her father
during the week, as his home was within walking distance
of the school. And so it came as a mild shock to members
of faculty when they finally got to meet Doria. ‘Everyone
thought Meghan was Italian because she was so light-skinned,’
one former teacher recalls. ‘Then we met her mother and
realised she was biracial.’
At school, when she was rehearsing for a play, her father
was always around. As an Emmy winner, he was roped into
becoming the technical director for every school production
Meghan was involved in. On 28 March 1996, she made her
first solo singing performance, playing the secretary in the
school’s production of the musical Annie. As one teacher
recalls: ‘Meghan was a standout. She had charisma, no doubt.’
And then in 1998, she was made homecoming queen.
The orthodontics she had during her high-school years had
gradually adjusted her bucked gap-tooth grin, and now she
was smiling widely without feeling self-conscious. She had
some headshots taken to send out for auditions. As she was
leaving for University in Chicago in the autumn, the best she
could hope for was a day or two’s work on one of the music
videos being shot around town.
At Northwestern University, Meghan worked hard at
making new friends. Now that she wasn’t under the watchful
gaze of her mother, she started wearing heavier make-up and
experimented with highlighting her hair. She joined the
Kappa Kappa Gamma sorority, which was full of girls who
were considered ‘intelligent hot messes’. The sorority
embraced her warmly and Meghan was eventually elected as
its recruitment chair, responsible for bringing new girls into
the fold. Of course, all the socialising did have a focus – the
search for a boyfriend. More sophisticated and put-together than
most of her contemporaries, Meghan was seen as a cool catch.
At Northwestern her first boyfriend was Steve, a chiselled,
white, six-foot-five basketball player from Ohio. Her KKG
sorority sisters were ‘impressed she’d snared a hottie’.
‘They made quite the pair,’ recalls a former classmate.
But the relationship was short-lived. Steve was committed to
his sporting ambitions, while Meghan was a party animal
who enjoyed staying out late.
Meghan was working towards a double major in theatre and
international studies, and in the summer she took an internship
at the American Embassy in Buenos Aires. She knew that her
uncle Mick Markle was employed as a specialist in
communication systems for the US government – the talk in
the family was that he worked for the CIA – so she approached
him for help. Uncle Mick pulled a few strings, and even
though she was late filing her application, her excellent
academic record and her uncle’s influence got her in. In the
Buenos Aires office, her day-to-day work was mundane
– filing, answering phones and drafting letters. But on
4 August 2002, the day of her 21st birthday, she was given
permission to travel in the convoy that would pick up US
finance secretary Paul O’Neill, who was making a whistle-
stop tour to South America. It was a treat, but it rapidly
turned into a terrifying ordeal. Argentina had recently
defaulted on a $141-billion debt and neither the International
Monetary Fund nor the American government was in any
mood to bail the country out. Though O’Neill was expecting
a bumpy ride, even he was perturbed when banner-waving
demonstrators surrounded the convoy. ‘I remember the arrival
because protestors banged on my limo with their placards.
It was a memorable event,’ he later deadpanned.
The US Embassy was already on orange alert, not only
because of the impending anniversary of 9/11, but also
because of intelligence reports suggesting that Islamic
militants could be setting up a network in South America.
It’s easy to imagine how frightening Meghan would have
found an angry mob of protestors attacking her car. The
incident aside, she was committed enough to a career with
the State Department to take the three-hour Foreign Service
Officer Test while in Argentina. It proved a stretch too far and
Meghan failed. In any case, fate was pushing her into the
world of entertainment.
Not long after graduating in 2003, she got a call from
Lindsay Jill Roth, her best friend from college, who was
working in casting for a film called A Lot Like Love, starring
Ashton Kutcher. She had snagged Meghan an audition for
a one-word role.
‘Can you say “Hi”?’ asked the director.
‘Yes I can,’ Meghan replied. ‘But I read the script and I
really respond to this other character and I would love to
read for that.’ Naturally, the other character had a bigger role.
Meghan didn’t get the role she pitched for, but she did get the
smaller part. It was her start in acting. From there, it was
a scratchy hand-to-mouth existence, one experienced by
thousands of Hollywood hopefuls. Throughout, her motto
was, ‘I choose happiness’, and she made a point to stay
happy, getting together with friends over pizza and wine,
taking yoga classes and going out as much as her budget
permitted. One night, that budget took her to a dive bar in
West Hollywood. A loud voice, tinged with a New York
accent, caught her attention. More than six-feet tall, with
reddish-blonde hair and blue eyes, Trevor Engelson had the
air of a Matthew McConaughey-lite, although he was raised
in New York and worked as a Hollywood producer and actor.
He was a guy with an aphorism for every occasion. ‘Hope

is the greatest currency we have in this business,’ he told the
wide-eyed wannabe. True or not, it’s a great pick-up line.
Meghan’s career was slowly chugging along. She had
bagged a brief appearance on a sitcom, though to pay the
bills she worked as a hostess at a Beverly Hills restaurant
and as a calligrapher. Like other girls doing the audition
rounds, she had a gym bag containing the essential
wardrobe for every possible part she may be called for.
In 2006, she joined the US version of Deal or No Deal as
a ‘briefcase girl’ – one of 26 women holding cash ranging
from one cent to $1 million. The pay was $800 an episode
and the show regularly recorded seven episodes a day. The
day began at 5:30am, as Meghan and the other briefcase
girls gathered for hair, make-up and the final fitting for
their skimpy outfits. A rack of matching ballgowns would
arrive to be unceremoniously hacked to pieces so that the
girls’ legs and décolletage were on full display.
Meanwhile, Trevor had a film, License to Wed,
in production, starring Robin Williams
and Mandy Moore. Meghan secretly
hoped that there would be a role for
her. It was to become a source of THE MARRIAGE
ENDED SO ABRUPTLY
conflict for the couple, with Meghan
disappointed that Trevor didn’t try
harder to include her in some of his
productions. A few years later, in 2009,
when he was named in the Hollywood THAT MEGHAN SENT
HER WEDDING AND
Reporter as one of the ‘Next Gen 35
Under 35’, he could finally afford to
give Meghan a few crumbs from his
ENGAGEMENT RINGS
groaning pile of scripts. He found her
a small role in Remember Me, a
BACK TO TREVOR BY
9/11-themed melodrama, starring the
British heart-throb Robert Pattinson.
REGISTERED POST
She was still taking auditions in 2011,
when she received a call from her
agent, telling her that she had been cast
in the pilot for the series Suits, and
would begin filming in New York that
autumn. By now, Meghan was engaged to Trevor. With the
pilot and talk of a TV series, the omens were looking good.
As her half-brother, Tom Jnr, told me: ‘Meg was on her way
up.’ The only downside was that she would have to take a
five-hour flight if she were to see her Hollywood-based
fiancé. But as she and Trevor caught planes like others hailed
taxis, the sacrifice was going to be worth it. A month before
their nuptials in Jamaica, Meghan knew Suits had been
picked up for a second season, a cause for celebration but
also uncertainty as, once more, the newlyweds would be
long-distance commuters. They would see each other only
every two or three weeks when she could come back from
the set in Canada. The wedding would be
a rare opportunity to let their hair down. With the ocean as a
backdrop, the couple recited vows they had written themselves,
promising to love and care for each other. ‘It was such a
moving wedding,’ recalled one of the bridesmaids. ‘I started
crying the moment I saw her in her dress.’ The celebration
ended with a rousing chorus of the traditional Jewish Hava
Nagila, sung while the bride and groom were lifted up in
chairs above their guests’ heads. There were also numerous
cover st or y
parties and beach wheelbarrow races. After the wedding,
Meghan flew to Toronto to settle back into her life, filming
for nine months. Of course, the couple kept in touch over
FaceTime and Skype, but it was wearing being apart,
especially through the long, grey Canadian winter. All too
soon, cracks began to appear in their marriage. What once
endeared now irritated. A self-confessed perfectionist, Meghan
had tolerated Trevor’s scattered approach to life for years.
He was notorious for arriving late, his clothes rumpled, his
hair dishevelled. Meghan, who once said she couldn’t imagine
life without Trevor by her side, was now building a new
world for herself alone. While she saw her star rising, her
husband’s career was treading water. With no new projects
in sight and with Suits on hiatus, Trevor took Meghan on
a cycling trip to Vietnam. It didn’t help that he became sick
with food poisoning. Their escape to exotic locales, which
once provided a backdrop for their love, only served to
highlight the distance between them. He was not the only
one experiencing the Meghan chill.
Her friends in LA noticed the change
in her now that she was on her way
up. She no longer had the time for
mates she had known for years,
cancelling lunches at short notice or
expecting them to rework their own
schedules to accommodate the busy
life of a rising star. A networker to
her fingertips, she seemed to be
recalibrating her life, forging new
friendships with those who could
develop her career.
Nevertheless, everyone expected
Trevor to keep her feet planted on the
ground. So her Californian friends
were shocked when she announced
the end of their two-year marriage in
2013. It was such a bolt from the blue
for Trevor that, even at a distance of
five years, he can barely contain his
anger. ‘I have zero to say about her,’ he has said to inquirers.
Trevor went from cherishing Meghan to, as one friend observed,
‘feeling like he was a piece of something stuck to the bottom
of her shoe’. A wealthy entrepreneur friend claimed the
marriage ended so abruptly that Meghan sent her wedding
and engagement rings back to Trevor by registered post.
Another confirmed that the decision to end the marriage was
made by Meghan and that it had come ‘totally out of the blue’.
Meghan’s stock and standing were rising with each season
of Suits, which was now the highest-rated American television
show for viewers aged 18 to 49. She was invited to film
premieres and to host Hollywood charity galas, she launched
a clothing line and became friends with a host of celebrities,
including the tennis ace Serena Williams. She advocated for
the UN and undertook meetings at the World Bank and the
Clinton Foundation. As her celebrity status rose, so did her
price tag. She was learning that she could charge a fee just
for turning up. Meghan’s rate? Upwards of $20 000.
Meghan was also now the central character in a novel,
What Pretty Girls Are Made Of, written by her ‘bestie from the
westie’, Lindsay Roth. It had taken her five years to pen the
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jaunty novel based on the exploits of her heroine, Alison Kraft,
who grows up wanting to be an actress and struggles to nail
auditions. It was, of course, a thinly disguised portrait of
Meghan during her lean years in the Noughties. Lindsay sent
a copy of her amusing trifle to Kate Middleton at Kensington
Palace, her accompanying card informing the Duchess of
Cambridge that, in her eyes, she was the definition of ‘prettiness’.
Lindsay then proudly posted the pro forma thank-you note
from the Duchess’s office online.
Sometimes timing is everything. As Meghan nestled back in
her seat in preparation for landing at Heathrow Airport in
June 2016, she had love and marriage on her mind. The
actress was returning from a hen weekend for Lindsay on the
Greek island of Hydra. She had a week’s work in London
– promoting Suits and attending Wimbledon as a Ralph
Lauren brand ambassador. On 1 July, at Soho House, Meghan
and Harry met, reportedly introduced on a blind date by
Violet von Westenholz, a Ralph Lauren PR executive and
friend of the princes. As they say in the movies, they had each
other at ‘Hello’. She was immediately sensitive to him, aware
that this was a man who, beneath the banter and surface
chatter, was looking for a safe harbour. The question she
asked herself after that first intoxicating meeting was could
she provide it – and all that entailed. The couple enjoyed
back-to-back dates before she had to fly back to Toronto.
Meghan’s Instagram account gave away just a little: on 3 July,
she posted a picture of two Love Hearts sweets that bore the
message ‘Kiss me’. Next to the photograph, Meghan posted:
PhotograPhs Christian BlanChard / the liCensing ProjeCt
‘Love Hearts in London’. When Harry asked if she would be
interested in joining him on safari for a few days in August
– mere weeks after their first meeting – she found herself
saying: ‘Yes, please.’ Diaries were consulted, days were
agreed, plans were made.
The last full day she had in London she spent at Wimbledon,
where she sat in the players box with Vogue editor Anna
Wintour and her niece. As she was watching her friend
Serena Williams thrash the Russian Svetlana Kuznetsova, it
began to rain. Meghan was wearing a simple but expensive
black suede Ralph Lauren dress. Anna offered the actress her
woollen cardigan to protect the suede from the rain. Once
play resumed, Anna recovered her cardigan and Serena eased
her way through to the last eight. Though she was nursing
the biggest secret of her life, Meghan was focused on the
action, standing to applaud her friend’s masterful play.

However, courtside photographers were more focused on
Anna Wintour than Meghan. One photographic agency
placed her under the heading ‘incidental people’. Not for
much longer.
There may have been a slight raising of eyebrows inside
the royal palaces when the news percolated through that
Prince Harry was taking yet another girlfriend on a safari
holiday to Botswana. Those who monitor these things would
have noted that this was his seventh holiday in Botswana
with the fourth female companion to join him. The problem
with these romances was that once he arrived back in Britain,
the HRH tag got in the way of building an honest, workable
commitment. Harry’s previous serious relationships with
Chelsy Davy and Cressida Bonas floundered because they
couldn’t cope with being in the spotlight. Meghan and Harry
needed their romance to be private, at least long enough for
them to decide if their relationship was going to succeed in
the long run. Meghan had to ask herself if she was in love
with the man or the position, and if she loved the man could
she cope with the position? For his part, Harry had fallen for
a (slightly) older, biracial divorcee from
California. He didn’t need any reminding
of the chaos and bitterness caused by
the last American to marry a member Harry didn’t need
any reminding of
of the royal family. The trick was in
planning and timing. Jet lag – not the
paparazzi – became their main enemy.
When they compared diaries it was
clear that, if anything, Meghan was the tHe bitterness
caused by tHe last
busier of the pair. Even before Harry
came into her life she was often up till
the small hours scouring the internet for
inspiration for her lifestyle blog. Now
she was going to be stretched even american to marry
a member of tHe
further – Meghan would often arrive in
Toronto and go straight to the Suits set
royal family
to start filming.
Upon his return to London, Harry was
soon back in the royal routine. In the last
weekend in September, Meghan travelled
to Ottawa, the Canadian capital, to attend
her second One Young World Summit. Speaking without
notes, she told a women’s equality forum about the time she
had confronted the creator of Suits concerning the fact that
there were too many scenes that opened with her character,
Rachel Zane, emerging naked from a shower dressed only in
a towel. It was sexist, it was unnecessary, it was stopped. Her
complaint came years before the rebellion about the way
women were treated by Hollywood in the light of the Harvey
Weinstein scandal and the subsequent #MeToo campaign.
Meghan’s exposure at the conference was a reminder to
Harry, if any were needed, that he was dating a very special
woman. She arrived in London shortly afterwards for a
reunion with the Prince. As the watchword was privacy, they
stayed at his modest grace-and-favour home, in the grounds
of Kensington Palace. Best remembered now as the place
where thousands of people laid flowers in 1997 in memory
of Diana, the Palace is probably the most exclusive village in
Britain, home to an assortment of royals, including the Duke
and Duchess of Cambridge and their children, courtiers and
cover st or y
retired staff. Like any village, it feeds on a diet of gossip and
rumour, but for the most part what happens in Kensington
Palace stays inside Kensington Palace.
If Meghan was expecting to be sleeping in a palace, she
was sadly disappointed; Harry’s home of Nottingham Cottage
was smaller than her own place in Toronto – and with lower
ceilings. In summer, it has the feel of being in the heart of the
English country village, which perhaps explains why the first
thing Harry did when he moved in was to install a hammock
in the garden. It had the virtue, also, of being private and
secure. It is here, as schedules permitted, that they began
living together, quietly, secretly, unobtrusively.
Eighteen unconventional months of courtship later, and it
was time to take things to the next level. But first Harry had
to ask the head of state for her permission. If he had come to
see Granny a few years ago, when he had an unenviable
reputation as an angry drunk with poor judgement, it would
have been doubtful that the Queen would have agreed to him
marrying a mixed-race divorced American actress. ‘It would
have been a grim, unhappy, confrontation,’ a former senior
royal official told me. Just as it was
when she had to put her foot down in
1995 over her sister, Margaret, marrying
the divorced Group Captain Peter
Townsend. If anything, Harry’s
transformation over the past few years
has, together with the union between
Prince William and Kate Middleton,
secured the future of the monarchy.
Harry’s impeccable behaviour when
representing the Queen abroad and his
commitment to the Invictus Games
have been noted by the sovereign. As a
courtier told me: ‘The Queen trusts her
grandsons. She has confidence in them
in a way that she never has had with
her eldest son. They have established
themselves as being in touch with the
public. William and Harry have star
quality, and are believable and authentic
heirs to the monarchy.’
In November 2017, the couple arrived at Buckingham
Palace. They were escorted along the seeming miles of red
carpet to the Queen’s sitting room. Meghan had quietly
anticipated this moment. A few months before, she had made
secret excursions to Rose Tree Cottage, a little slice of England
in the suburbs of LA. It sells a plethora of British goodies, but
the centrepiece of the emporium is the serving of afternoon
tea. Meghan was there not only to buy gifts, but also, perhaps,
for a rehearsal. It is where she learnt to crook her finger as
she held her cup and saucer and sipped her earl grey.
During their one-hour meeting with Her Majesty, Meghan
witnessed first hand the genuine respect and love Harry feels
for his grandmother. ‘She is an incredible woman,’ she said
afterwards. With a flurry of barks from the Queens corgis
and a final curtsy, Harry and Meghan bade their farewells.
Not long after, their engagement was announced. mc
Extracted from Meghan: A Hollywood Princess
by Andrew Morton.
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G AC Y
Kim K, Tyra Banks, SJP and
Lucy Liu have all used SURROGATES
to have babies. But beyond the glitz
and glamour of Hollywood,
what’s the REAL DEAL WITH
THIS PROCESS, and what are the
outcomes for all those involved?
AFIKA JADEZWENI investigates
MAY 2018 MARIECLAIRE.CO.ZA
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ne of the most
biologically
fascinating things
about women is
our ability to carry
new life – to bring
another human being into
the world. However, not
every woman can share
in this experience. For
some, pregnancy is not
an option. Aside from the
nausea, fatigue and non-
negotiable cravings that
come with the nine-month
task of growing a human,
there are other, far more
severe physical downsides
to being an expectant
mother. Reproductive
health complications can
be so severe as to become
life-threatening – for both
the mother and baby.
The good news is, those
who have aspirations of
becoming parents shouldn’t
be deterred just because
biology isn’t on their side.
The first successful
surrogacy was documented
in the US in 1986, resulting
in the birth of Melissa
Stern, aka Baby M. Within
the past decade, celebs
including Kim Kardashian,
Tyra Banks, Nicole Kidman
and Sarah Jessica Parker
have brought surrogacy
into the spotlight as a
saving grace for those
who want to reproduce
but are unable to. Their
involvement has helped to
normalise a process that
was once so taboo; women
expecting a child via a
surrogate would often fake
their own pregnancy. We’ve
also come a long way since
the time when any celeb
who did choose to go the
surrogacy route would be
lambasted by tabloids as
too vain and superficial to
put their own body through
the strain of pregnancy.
Today, there is greater
sensitivity around the issue,
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and someone like Kim K –
who suffered from placenta
accreta during her first
pregnancies, a condition
that involves the placenta
growing too deeply into
the uterine wall, making
it difficult and dangerous
to shed after birth, as it
could potentially lead to
fatal haemorrhaging – was
celebrated for her decision
rather than attacked.
But surrogacy isn’t just
for A-listers; there are many
South African women who
have experienced success
with surrogacy too. The
first local case was in
1987, when 48-year-old
Pat Anthony acted as a
surrogate for her 25-year-
old daughter, Karen
Ferreira-Jorge. Karen had
had a hysterectomy after
complications during the
birth of her first son. Four
of her eggs, fertilised using
her husband’s sperm in a
lab, were implanted into
Pat’s uterus, who went
on to give birth to triplets
– two boys and a girl.
C A l i s TA H A R d w i C k ,
THe mARkeTinG
mAnAGeR Of
JObuRG feRTiliTy
C l i n i C V i TA l A b ,
GiVes us THe full
lOw-dOwn:
Can I be a surrogate?
In order to be considered a
viable surrogate for Vitalab,
you must be a South
African citizen between the
ages of 21 and 45 years old.
Secondly, you have to be
employed, as surety that
you are not undertaking
the process for financial
gain. Once you have ticked
these boxes, the clinic will
conduct a full medical
screening to ensure that:
• Your uterus is capable
of carrying a pregnancy
to term
• Your BMI is within a
healthy range (no higher
than 29)
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• You lead a healthy
lifestyle in keeping with
that of a mother-to-be
• You are not HIV+ and do
not have any other STDs
Do surrogates
get paID?
In South Africa, only
so-called ‘altruistic
surrogacy’ is allowed.
According to Section 301
of the Children’s Act of
2005, a surrogate is not
permitted to receive
payment for the process,
except for reasonable
compensation for medical
expenses and any related
loss of income.
What legal steps
Do I neeD to take?
Extensive legal agreements
need to be in place in
a surrogacy situation, to
protect all parties involved.
In fact, legally, no
fertilisation is allowed to
be carried out before a
surrogate agreement has
been confirmed by the
High Court of South Africa.
Extensive psychological
evaluations of both the
surrogate and the
commissioning couple
are required by the court.
If you would like
some more detailed
information on the entire
legal procedure, contact
Adele van der Walt via
Medicallaw.co.za. She
specialises in medical
negligence and surrogacy
agreements.
we asked you
Would you be a surrogate?
for a close Yes, for aNYoNe
frieNd or iN Need
Who Can use
a surrogate?
On paper, anyone who can
prove their medical need
to use a surrogate may
embark on the process.
However, it is also stated
in South African law that
any child resulting from a
surrogacy procedure must
have a direct genetic link to
one of the commissioning
parents. This law has come
under fire recently as
being unconstitutional, as
it precludes certain people
from achieving parenthood
via surrogacy. For example,
one woman who brought
her case to the Pretoria
High Court is single and
unable to fall pregnant by
IVF due to the poor quality
of her eggs. She wishes
to use a donor egg and
sperm, and have a child
via a surrogate. The Pretoria
High Court ruled in her
favour, agreeing that the
law as it stands violates her
right to equality and human
dignity. However, the
Constitutional Court ruled
against her.
We’re lookIng for a
surrogate, noW What?
Vitalab does not recruit
surrogate mothers, so
the woman carrying your
child must be a family
member, friend or even a
colleague – so long as it is
someone who has your best
interests at heart. Calista
reiterates the fact that this
is not a pecuniary process,
for a celebritY
so it’s important that your
surrogate is someone who
has some sort of emotional
investment in you. This
also makes sharing in the
emotional journey of a
pregnancy more accessible.
Can I afforD thIs?
The procedure is not paid
for all at once, as various
costs are allocated for
different services over the
period. In total, according
to Calista, you’re looking
at between R200 000 and
R250 000. This includes all
clinic fees, psychological
testing and counselling,
expenses incurred by the
surrogate (paid by the
commissioning couple)
and attorney fees. mc
Find
out
more
If you have been
considering a
surrogacy
programme, or
have any other
fertility-related
questions, then
visit Vitalab in
Sandton,
Johannesburg.
Alternatively, you
can visit the
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Infertility
Awareness
Association of
South Africa’s
website,
Ifaasa.co.za.
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B R I T TA N Y L E E , 2 1 , B A R B E R
‘I was young when I started dating boys, and I chose each
one for his car or bank account. They were always much
older than me, but I’d lie about my age. I didn’t really care

1
about them, but I liked being bought things. Sex seemed
like a fair trade to get what I needed from them. But not
love. Growing up in a chaotic family, I learned that if you
love, you have a weakness.
‘Things changed when girls started to notice me. I
realised I was a lesbian at about 16, although I’ve never
labelled myself as gay or straight. Women brought my
defences crumbling down, in friendships and relationships.
My first meaningful relationship was with a girl. We lived
and worked together for three years, but the spark died.
My second lasted only weeks, but my love for her was
incomparable. I was 21 and it was the first time my heart
was completely broken.
‘Since then, I’ve had many short-term relationships with
women – I’ve now slept with double the number of women
that I have men. It’s been a roller coaster, never being able
to find just what I’m looking for. I’m still learning who I
am and who I want to be. I’m dating a woman now, and
it feels like a fire has been lit underneath my soul. I don’t
think I could ever recover from this one.’
K AT H RY N N A I R , 3 6 , M OT I VAT I O N A L S P E A K E R
‘After my mother passed away, my father, younger brother
and I moved countries. It was a massive culture shock for a
16-year-old. While my new peers were like typical teenagers,
I had an old-fashioned attitude to sex and relationships that
was already deeply embedded: nothing sexual happens before
you’re married. Unless you’re a guy – then it’s a judgement-free
zone when it comes to your sexual exploits.
‘My family is originally from Fiji. In our culture, parents are
blamed for a child’s bad behaviour. After we lost my mother,
I was determined to be a good girl for my dad. I considered
him my best friend. I was 18 when I met my future husband.
He was the first person I kissed and within three months we
were married. Our sex life was great, even after having four

100
daughters in quick succession. Every few months, we’d treat
ourselves to a hotel for a sex date. It didn’t even occur to
me that I was missing out by only sleeping with one person.
Emotionally, though, I knew we were drifting apart, and he
was becoming more controlling.
‘We separated last year. I’m single now, but I still hold the same
values I did as a teenager. I won’t have sex until I’m married again.
It’s just the way I’ve been brought up. I don’t judge anybody who
has sex out of wedlock but, personally, I don’t want to be used
by a man for sex. I couldn’t imagine opening up my feelings
or showing my body to a man I wasn’t married to. At this rate,
I’ll be single for a long time.’

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‘When I have sex with
a man, there needs to be
an intellectual and emotional
connection but the relationship
doesn’t necessarily have to
be monogamous. With the
majority of my lovers, apart
from one, commitment hasn’t
been a factor, but we’ve shared
a profound level of intimacy
with each other, and I have
trusted them. I’m not in any way
polyamorous, I just haven’t met
the person I want to settle down
with and commit to yet. Just
because I haven’t met the right
person, I don’t feel I should
have to miss out on making
love. Casual sex doesn’t appeal
to me, as I’m too paranoid about
STDs. I’ve met lovers through
friends or out and about. I have to feel a real connection with
a man to want to go to bed with him, but I have to fall in love
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to imagine a future with someone.

‘My parents divorced early. I think that made me realise
I wanted to be with someone who was good for me, as well as
right for me. I want to make the right decision and not slip into KRISTY ROBERTSON,
a relationship for the sake of it. While there may be a perception 2 2 , R E TA I L W O R K E R
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that because I’m not committed, there must be something wrong ‘I didn’t have friends in high school; kids
with me, it’s not true. I’ve been in a relationship and I’ve been in bullied me about my weight. Even my father
love, so I know what it feels like to invest every ounce into bettering made derogatory comments about my body.
yourself and shaping your life to fit with another person. That’s I had zero confidence. Then, when I was
why I’m prepared to wait for the right person to come along.’ almost 18, I lost my virginity. The sex was
mediocre, but surprisingly, it gave me a
jolt of new-found self-confidence. I started
REBECCA CHANDLER, 35, WRITER to think that I should love myself a little
‘I don’t believe my body is just a vessel for procreation. I haven’t been lucky bit more. It motivated me to start eating
enough to find the person I’m going to settle down with, but why should healthier and exercising, and I started losing
I have to abstain from pleasure because I’m single? I’m still young, and I’m a bit of weight. I hadn’t ever had a boyfriend,
free, so why not? I deserve intimacy and affection just as much as the next and then suddenly, guys were interested in
person. Outside of three long-term relationships, I’ve averaged only eight me. Sex made me more confident in myself.
lovers per year. I’ve never been beholden to sex, or to the people with whom ‘It was overwhelming at the start, and then
I have experienced it. Sex is often looked upon as this taboo, or comes with I started hooking up with a few people. The
an expectation of what should happen after you’ve made love. I’m all for more I did it, the better I felt about myself.
dropping that expectation and just enjoying each other. Sex should be a fun, It gave me the body confidence I needed.
positive interaction between healthy, consenting adults who respect each other. Some people go to the gym or for a run to
‘I’ve travelled the world alone three times and met people I wouldn’t ordinarily; feel good. Sex was what made me feel good.
people with whom I was open to making a connection with, when perhaps I loved the endorphins – they cleared my
I wouldn’t have in a more conventional lifestyle. I explore intimacy with people head of negative self-talk. I was labelled a
I find beautiful, attractive and alluring – mentally and/or physically – and if “slut” in my small town, but I owned the title.
that was then to develop into a more meaningful relationship, then wonderful. Having sex isn’t something that I should be
If not, that’s fine, too. I am driven by love just as much as the next person. But ashamed of. The double standard – that it’s
that’s not always possible. fine for men but not women – annoys me.
‘I’ve had sex with a number of my already close male friends, and have had ‘I’ve come to love my body, and I’m now
sex with people who have become close friends. There have been rare and sexually confident. I’ve had two long-term
notable exceptions, but ultimately the only reason for awkwardness is if there relationships, and when I’m dating someone
were different expectations. Sometimes you need to have the uncomfortable I’m completely monogamous. I recently
adult conversations to develop a deeper understanding of one another and started a new relationship and I’m happily
move into the next phase of your relationship with love and respect.’ exclusive again.’ mc

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 Stop making
negative
assumptions
about others
(including what
they think
of you), says
CHARLOT TE
PHILBY

Time for a

J U D G Edetox
ME

A 
m I judgemental?
Of course not. I’m
an open-minded,
self-confident
and modern woman with
respect for other people
and myself. But look again.
Note the way I flick through
my social media feeds and
subconsciously decide
whether or not a post is
worthy of my validation;
see how I absentmindedly
scan my phone for articles
I might click on or dismiss.
We have become a society
that decides within seconds
whether to swipe left (yes
please) or right (no thanks).
Our fast-paced, hyper-
connected world means
all of us are making ever-
more – and ever-faster
– judgement calls, online and
IRL. But what is this doing
to our emotional health and
the quality of our decision-
making? Because of the
volume of choices we have
to make, clinical psychologist
Dr Jessamy Hibberd says we
simply can’t do everything
with our full attention. ‘We
have to be on autopilot for
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much of our daily routines,’
she says. ‘Otherwise,
our mind would go into
overdrive.’ The important
thing, she explains, is to
make informed decisions
NT
about where to focus your
attention. ‘Finding ways to
pre-filter information, be
it signing up to specific,
filtered news stories or
limiting time on social
media (or not using it),
can be really useful.’
Hardly a week rolls
by without new research
cropping up that shows
the damaging effects our
addiction to smartphones is
having on our mental health.
The Huffington Post has
declared that ‘smartphones
are ‘the new cigarettes’, and
while statistics for South
Africa aren’t available,
around two-thirds of people
polled in the UK have
admitted they would feel
lost, unhappy or anxious
without their phones.
But, while our constant
connectedness encourages
judgement – internal and
external – the tendency
to compare ourselves to
others is nothing new. Terri
Apter is an acclaimed UK
psychologist and author. She
explores the toxic impact
of blame in her new book,
Passing Judgement: The
Power Of Praise And Blame
In Everyday Life. Terri says,
‘In the ’50s, [American social
psychologist] Leon Festinger
realised that comparison was
an important measure of self
appraisal. We ask ourselves,
“How do I measure up to
the people around me?”’
In order to make ourselves
more resilient when
responding emotionally to
other people’s seemingly
perfect lives on social
media, Terri reminds us,
‘This perfection is linked
not to reality, but to highly
selective user profiles that
would never stand up to
face-to-face scrutiny. When
the information we have
is corrupted by brevity,
glamour and pretence, our
judgements are not only
wrong, they are worthless.’
NO MORE
N E G AT I V I T Y
Chartered psychologist
Gill Bond explains how to
kick old habits and ditch
judgement for good:
1  Do some life planning.
Think about when you
have made constructive
judgements in the past, as
opposed to purely negative
ones. How can you use
this information to ensure
you don’t make snap
judgements in future.
2  Do you need to declutter
your social group?
As you reduce negative
influences, positive ones
will arrive because the
space has been created for
them. Start by streamlining
your social media and
unfollowing the accounts
that make you feel bad.
3 
Make a list starting
with ‘I am’, then look
at which statements are
positive and which are
negative. Where do the
negative ones come from?
Are they realistic? Can
you use the positive ones
to practise a little more
self-love?
Social media has also
been the hub of movements
such as #nojudgement,
#metoo and #solidaritea in
recent months, calling for
more honest conversations
around everything from
mental health to sexual
abuse, and the rise of
parenting movements
that preach solidarity over
polarity. While the current
mood is all about saluting
our differences and finding
unity within them, Gabrielle
Bernstein, a motivational
speaker and life coach, and
the author of Judgement
Detox, argues that we still
have a long way to go.
‘I struggle with judgement
every day. I judge strangers
ps ycholog y
for divergent political views,
acquaintances on social
media for the comments
they make, and I judge the
way people discipline their
children. I also judge myself
for just about everything.’
In her book, Gabrielle
defines judgement as
‘separation from love’.
‘Judgement is the number-
one reason we feel
blocked, sad and alone.
Our popular culture and
media place enormous
value on social status,
looks, racial and religious
separation, and material
wealth. We are made to
feel less than, separate and
not good enough, so we
use judgement to insulate
ourselves from the pain of
feeling inadequate, insecure
or unworthy,’ she says.
Low self-esteem, argues
chartered psychologist
Gill Bond, is hazardous in
terms of our ability to make
meaningful decisions. ‘The
lower the self-esteem you
have, the more clouded
your thinking is, and the
more you will be unable
to judge situations and
people in order to make
good decisions for yourself,’
she says.
Comedian Lizzie Allan
suffered years of feeling
inadequate, before taking
radical steps to change her
life. ‘Throughout my teens,
I felt all kinds of wrong,’
she says. ‘I unconsciously
rejected myself. It was
painful to always try to
see myself through other
people’s eyes and what
they might think about
me.’ Lizzie took the time
to forgive herself for past
misdemeanours, and to
focus on self-love, living
a fulfilled, contented life.
‘When I’m connected in a
place of inner peace and
love, I know in my heart we
are all equal. In this place,
judgement falls away.’ mc
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PARED
DOWN
From capsule wardrobes to
the KonMari method and
the tiny-house movement,
MiniMalisM is one of
the prevailing moods of our
time. taylor roberts
finds out whether having
less is the key to a
more fulfilling life

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M
ention ‘minimalism’
and most people’s first
thought is of a sleek,
Scandi-inspired living
space, or some Pinterest
image of a vintage clothing rail offering
a dizzying choice of three identical white
shirts and one shift dress.
Yes, minimalism can encapsulate decor
and fashion, but as a concept it goes far
deeper than aesthetics. At its heart,
minimalism is about prioritising. It’s not
a process of stripping away for the sake
of stripping away, but about removing
the extraneous in order to create space
(literally and figuratively) for those
things you really want in your life.
‘Minimalism is intentionality,’
says Joshua Becker, the founder of
Becomingminimalist.com and the author
of several books on the topic, including
The More of Less: Finding the Life You
Want Under Everything You Own.
‘It is marked by clarity [and] purpose.
Minimalism is the intentional promotion of
the things we most value and the removal
of everything that distracts us from [those
things]. As a result, it forces improvements
in almost all aspects of your life.’
So, ironically, minimalism is about
having more, not less: more time, more
space, more money, more travel, more
friends over for dinner – in short, more of
whatever brings meaning into your life.
And therein lies the other important aspect
about minimalism: it’s about you. While
certain tenets (owning less stuff, for
example) are universal, the end result of
minimalism looks different for everyone.
There is no one-size-fits-all minimalist
living space, no prescription for what you
should do with your resources once you’ve
jettisoned all the physical and emotional
ballast. You get to decide what living your
best life looks like, which is what the
philosophy is all about.
Minimalism is about consciously
building a life with only those things you
love and need, and letting go of everything
that no longer serves you. It can be a
deeply personal process, as only you know
how to apply the idea of living with less to
your own context in a way that works for
you. Living minimally is not about
deprivation but rather freedom, happiness
and, ultimately, creativity, as a simplified
life gives your inner creative the time and
space to really flourish. The most liberating
aspect of minimalism is that you can apply
the philosophy of quality over quantity to
social commitments, friendships, tech Become a
habits, goals and even your thoughts.
‘A place for everything, and everything
minimalist
in its place’ may sound like the home of a There is no shortcut:
Stepford wife, but you wouldn’t scoff at it before you can start
when you’re running 15 minutes late and your minimalist journey,
can’t find your keys. Minimalists don’t
you have to declutter.
waste time looking for things, and aren’t
slaves to their environment. For instance,
We drank the KonMari
there should be a word for that specific Kool-Aid on this one
irritation you feel when you’re vacuuming and found that it
a room and have to stop every 30 seconds actually works.
1
to move something. Less stuff means fewer
Declutter in the
hours spent cleaning, dusting, shifting,
washing, folding and organising, and more
following order:
time actually enjoying your home. There’s clothes, books,
a reason galleries are generally quite spare papers, komono
spaces; it puts the focus squarely on the (basically miscellaneous
art. The same goes for a minimalist home. items that don’t fit into
A decluttered aesthetic lends weight to the other categories,
everything that is there, allowing your taste from your stapler to
or passions to shine through. your garden hose) and
Minimalists never suffer from CHAOS, sentimental items.
AKA, Can’t Have Anyone Over Syndrome.
2
If your secret dream is to entertain more, Sort one category
start by curating a home that doesn’t at a time. Gather
make you cringe when someone drops every item in the
by unexpectedly. category you’re working
One way to embrace minimalism is to on from every room in
avoid buying into the ‘storage myth’ – an the house and make a
expensive fix for a problem that started
big pile. Don’t cheat
with our being too good at buying things
in the first place. Stop worshipping at the and go room by room;
altar of storage ‘solutions’. By carefully you need to be
squirrelling away your stuff, you easily confronted with how
forget about the things you have. You may much stuff you have.
3
end up buying duplicates, or never using
or getting any joy from an item. No matter
Hold each item in
how neat your storage, you’re still just your hands and
rearranging excess stuff rather than engage with it
simplifying your possessions. emotionally. Does it
‘When I downsized to a smaller living spark any feelings of
space, I moved the things I didn’t joy? Yes? Keep it. No?
immediately need but felt I couldn’t part Thank it for its service
with into a storage facility,’ says Jade (we’re not kidding) then
Cooke, a Cape Town writer. ‘A year and toss or donate it. Keep
a half later, I emptied it, and ended up your focus on the items
donating or selling everything that was in
you’re keeping, and the
there. I didn’t miss or need any of it, but
sacrificed nearly R1 000 a month for 18
life they’re helping you
months, just holding on to it all. I could build, rather than on
have gone on holiday with that money.’ the things you are
Minimalism can extend to your discarding.
4
wardrobe too. Stick to high-quality,
Find a place for
co-ordinating basics. When you limit
what you wear to only those items that everything you’ve
you feel comfortable and confident in, decided to keep,
getting dressed becomes an exercise in and make sure each
self-love. It also saves you money: capsule item returns to its home
dressing – like minimalism in general – is after you use it.
life
intended to break the cycle of
mindless consumerism. Quality over
quantity means you know what you
have, you actually wear everything in
your closet, and you’re less likely to
crave that short-term dopamine hit
of handing over your credit card in
exchange for something new. It also
makes it easier to pinpoint your
personal style, which means you’re
dressed an exercise
unlikely to fork out for an outfit that
you decide you hate a week later, and
never wear again. A minimalist’s closet
I N S P I R AT I O N I S A C L I C K AWAY
Project 333
‘Simple is the new black’,
according to devotees of this
website. Project 333 is a
community of capsule dressers
living in 33 items each for three
months at a time.
Bemorewithless.com/project-333
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limiting what you
wear to items you
feel comfortable
in makes getting
in self-love
jessica rose williams
British lifestyle and travel blogger
Jessica knows all about the pros
of living with less. Her home is an
homage to minimalism, and her
carry-on capsules alone are
worth the click.
Jessicarosewilliams.com
has breathing room, allowing you
to ‘page through’ clothes easily – no
more standing in front of your clothes
complaining that you have ‘nothing to
wear’. Decision fatigue is a real thing;
having a limited number of options
makes getting dressed every morning
much, much easier. Plus, fewer clothes
result in less laundry.
Caroline Rector has been dressing
with less since 2014, and helps others
to do the same through her blog,
Un-Fancy.com. She advises readers to
pare down their wardrobe to 37 items.
She’s talking strictly clothes and shoes
here – your 37 items don’t have to
include jewellery, workout-wear,
accessories, handbags, swimsuits,
pyjamas, items you wear when
lounging around the house, or
underwear. (Of course, less is more
with these items too.) ‘It’s not about
getting obsessed with a number
though,’ says Caroline. ‘If 37 isn’t your
thing, then find a number that’s right
for you.’
If, during the sorting stage, you
come across something that you love
but it doesn’t fit into the season you’re
dressing for, like a Melton coat in
summer, store it for a future capsule.
The same goes for something that’s on
your ‘maybe’ pile but you can’t part
with. Box it up and revisit it in three
months. If it doesn’t go into your next
capsule, say goodbye. Wear only those
37 items for three months (a season).
Don’t go shopping again until the final
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two weeks of the three months, during
which you’re allowed to plan your
next capsule and shop for anything
you need that’s missing. mc
style Bee
Lee Vosburgh popularised the
10x10 challenge – wearing 10
items for 10 days. She’s big
on using capsule dressing to
encourage her readers to shop
with careful consideration.
Stylebee.ca
the
happiness
myth
Is our relentless
pursuit of happIness
makIng us miser able?
Ja d e Ta y l o r C o o k e
fInds out why
we need to stop
chasing the big h
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repor t

105
South Africa was ranked

out of 156 countries in the UN’s

World Happiness Report 2018.
Finland, Norway and Denmark are the
top three happiest countries in the world,
with the USA at number 18, UK at 19 and
our neighbours Namibia, Mozambique,
Zimbabwe and Botswana at 119,
123, 144 and 146 respectively.

‘E
ver since happiness
heard your name,’
wrote the 14th-
century Persian poet
Hafez, ‘it has been
running through
the streets trying
to find you.’
What a delightful image, and what a
reassuring thought – that we as humans
could simply go about our lives, safe in the
knowledge that somewhere out of sight,
happiness is about to catch up and introduce
itself. Of course, Hafez didn’t know what
the world would be like 628 years after his
death. Could he ever have imagined that
we’d become so impatient, we’d turn the
tables on happiness and chase it through
the streets instead?
Because that’s basically what we’re
doing. Happiness – that wholly subjective,
completely abstract concept – has become
the goal of the modern age. Suddenly, it’s no
longer enough to be financially successful,
healthy, and socially, spiritually and sexually
fulfilled. We’re now also constantly asking
ourselves, ‘But am I happy?’ If the answer
isn’t a resounding yes, we begin to hunt
happiness, as though it’s an achievement
– a loyalty tier we reach after completing
a certain number of hours of yoga and
gratitude journalling, something we can
attain and then sit back and enjoy for the
rest of our lives. (Spoiler alert: it’s not.)
Ruth Whippman, a Brit who relocated
to California, was so taken aback by the
US’s obsession with ‘achieving’ happiness,
she began researching this phenomenon
and published her 2016 bestseller, The
Pursuit of Happiness: Why are we driving

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int er nat iona l
repor t
ourselves crazy and how can we stop?. Myth #2 HOW TO FEEL
‘Happiness has become the overachiever’s Happiness is as simple as ‘feeling good’. BETTER
ultimate trophy,’ she writes. ‘A modern trump If this is your notion of being happy, then
card, it outranks professional achievement,
social success, friendship, family and even
there’s no such thing as lasting happiness,
‘because how long does a good feeling last?’ 1 Stop interacting
with your
happiness like a five-
love. Its invocation deftly minimises others’ says Russ. ‘Think of the happiest day of
achievements (“Well, I suppose she has the your life. How long did a state of pleasure year-old asking ‘Are
we there yet?’ on
perfect job and a gorgeous husband, but is or contentment last before there was some
a road trip.
she really happy?”) and takes the shine off frustration, disappointment, anxiety or
our own.’
The cruel joke of the modern human
irritation?’ He believes we need to throw
out the idea of ‘feeling good’ and redefine 2 Sketch out what
a ‘rich, full and
meaningful’ life
condition is that the more we probe our own happiness as living a life that is ‘rich, full and
personal happiness levels, the less happy meaningful’ – which includes the full gamut would look like for
you, then begin
we’re likely to feel. The great 19th century of human emotion.
taking practical steps
philosopher John Stuart Mill probably said towards living that
it best: ‘Ask yourself whether you are happy,
and you cease to be so.’ Myth #3 way. Happiness will
come and go as a
‘It’s one of the key aspects I work on If you’re not happy, you’re defective. by-product of that
with my clients – to stop chasing the idea If we’re being honest, who hasn’t kind of life, along
of happiness,’ says Kerstin Waddell of Be entertained a mental picture of their ideal with all the emotions
Happy Life Coaching in Cape Town. ‘The happier self, sailing through life calm and that inhabit a well-
constant striving, accumulating, comparing, collected, never feeling stressed, angry, hurt, rounded existence.

3
and seeking of external validation is only cynical or irritated? But blocking out what Tap into your dark
adding to their unhappiness.’ internationally acclaimed psychotherapist emotions, rather
Kerstin cites the work of Dr Russ Harris, Miriam Greenspan dubs ‘dark’ emotions is than blocking them
whose book The Happiness Trap shows definitely not the path to happiness. out. What in your life
the ways in which misleading pop-psych ‘People think there is something wrong is causing you to feel
ideas of happiness are contributing to stress, with them when they don’t feel happy,’ the dark emotion?
‘How we interpret
anxiety and depression. According to Russ, says Kerstin. ‘Miriam talks about “emotion
experiences can
we get stuck in the happiness trap as a result phobia” – the way dark emotions not only either be liberating or
of three major myths: feel bad, but we have also come to think we add more suffering
are bad to feel them, that they are signs of to your life,’ says
spiritual inferiority or personal inadequacy. Kerstin Waddell of Be
Myth #1 Dark emotions have become pathologised, Happy Life Coaching
Happiness is the natural state for human shaming those who feel anything but happy in Cape Town. ‘It’s
beings. ‘The normal state for a human as ill and defective. But every emotion fulfils not a matter of
being is an ever-changing flow of emotions. a positive purpose. What if they’re just a “everything happens
Emotions are like the weather. You wouldn’t different language we’re misinterpreting? for a reason” but
rather “Things
say the natural state for the weather is a What if they’re trying to teach us something?
happen. Let’s try to
warm, spring, sunny afternoon. It’s natural ‘When we avoid dark emotions, they pile make sense of
that in winter it’s going to be colder, and in up and become ever more intrusive, until them in a way that
summer it’s going to be hotter. And so it is you respond. If you try to numb them, you is liberating”.’
with our emotions,’ says Russ. end up numbing the light emotions too, and
‘Life is a mixed bag of experiences,’ adds
Kerstin. ‘Loss and pain are inevitable. They’re
turn yourself into a robot. Therefore you
may as well invite them to tea and listen
4 Forget about ‘as
soon as’ thinking.
We’ve all been
part of our humanness.’ to what they’re trying to tell you.’ mc there – the high from
getting the promotion
or losing those five
kilos doesn’t last,
THE POLITICS OF HAPPINESS and you’re soon
waiting around for
PHOTOGRAPHs the lICeNSING PROJeCt

In 2012, the UN began publishing its annual World Happiness Report, the idea the next ‘as soon as’.
‘What we’re actually
being that governments and organisations can use insights from the report to inform
doing is pushing
policy-making decisions. ‘Increasingly, happiness is considered to be the proper our happiness into
measure of social progress and the goal of public policy,’ say researchers. the future. And so,
we will always find
It’s not a new idea though. The UN’s seemingly forward-thinking report has its roots ourselves wanting
nearly half a century ago in the Kingdom of Bhutan. In 1971, that tiny Buddhist and never satisfied,’
nation pioneered the idea of using Gross National Happiness (GNH), rather than says Kerstin.
GDP, as an indicator for a country’s success.

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S
hirley Zinn commands
a room. She knows the
ins and outs of business
but, most importantly,
she really knows people.
Shirley has been a
trailblazer in the human
resources space for more than 10
years and continues to be one of the
most insightful experts in the industry.
She’s the author of the acclaimed book
Swimming Upstream: A Story of Grit
and Determination to Succeed, and
sits on the board of several companies,
including Sygnia and Woolworths.
With the economy still struggling to
recover after the slump of 2017 and
the political upheaval of the beginning
of 2018, we caught up with Shirley to
speak about weathering the storms, and
implementing new rules for success. 
‘In the workplace, we’re facing a
lot of change at the moment,’ Shirley
tells me, ‘and because of the current
economy, we’re facing uncertainty
too. These challenges require us to
continue upskilling, learn to influence
our outcomes, make informed
decisions and make compelling
cases for a course of action.
We need to execute and
implement our actions on
time and within budget, all
while continually adapting to

‘NOW IT’S
a changing environment. This And on the other side of the court?
is the new normal.’  Shirley says that your employer has

A lot of people are still set in
their ways. After all, most of us were
taught at the beginning of our careers
that experience is the most important
thing on your CV. Shirley agrees to
an extent, but warns against being
ALL ABOUT
to meet you halfway, especially these
days, as more and more Millennials
enter the workplace. Millennials bring
a whole new dynamic to the workplace
PROBLEM-SOLVING, and this has to be taken into account
if companies wish to stay relevant

CRITICAL THINKING,
constrained by old rules: ‘The way we and competitive.
used to do things simply won’t work ‘There’s no space for archaic rules,’

COMMUNICATION
anymore. These days, we have to go she says. ‘Companies need to embrace
even further than upskilling; now it’s all new ideas of what an employee is.

about problem-solving, critical thinking,
communication and innovation.’
Growing up in the Cape Flats, Shirley
saw how difficult life was for most of
the people around her. She was pushed
by teachers and mentors who inspired
in her a desire to succeed, and as a
result she encourages women to find
similar influences.   in all that you do and never spend time
‘We all have a story, with adversity,
setbacks, tragedy and disappointments,
but we have to pick ourselves up and
continue to climb the many hills that
AND INNOVATION’
– SHIRLEY ZINN
make up life. Make excellence a habit
talking about your work – rather let the
quality of your work speak for itself.
Along the way, find mentors and learn
from them. Never, ever stop learning.’
Banning social media at work, giving
people outdated job titles and boxing
people into contrived organisational
charts will lead to losing talent.
Companies need to have a social
conscience, with ethical behaviour and
transformational leadership.’ 
Most importantly, Shirley urges the
importance of living an integrated
life. ‘Your professional performance
is determined by your health and
wellbeing. Be mindful of your body;
listen to it.’ mc

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K AT L E H O M A G WA Z A
Fi tn e ss c oa c h /b log g e r
Katleho’s fitness journey is one of the
most inspirational out there and her
Instagram is filled with encouraging
videos and insightful fitness tips.
With tens of thousands of men and
women following her, she’s kept a
cool head but says that the road to
this point hasn’t always been easy.
‘Gender bias is a huge issue in my
industry. Male coaches are preferred
over females for sponsorships or
endorsements. Women are just not
supported enough.’ This instilled
in her a sense of determination.
‘I’ve allowed myself to be a lifelong
learner, and I surround myself with
a small circle of people who truly
encourage me.’ 
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became tired of the bureaucracy
she was experiencing in the working
world, and knew it was only a matter
of time before she would strike out
on her own. ‘Running your own
business is emotional,’ says Barbara.
‘I can’t count the number of times
I’ve considered packing it all in.’ But
driven by the best advice she’s ever
got – ‘if it’s not scary, it’s not worth
doing’ – Barbara has grown Obami
to be one of the frontrunners in online
education. ‘As clichéd as it sounds, J A N E R A P H A E LY
it takes blood, sweat and tears,’ she Pu b lish e r /e n tr e p r e n e u r 
says. ‘If it wasn’t for that, I would be ‘ At every turn in your life, don’t take
in a very different place right now.’ the easiest option, but the most
barbsMall exciting and challenging.’ These are
the words that Jane has kept close
to her heart throughout her career.
It was her tutor at the London School
of Economics who gave her this
golden advice, and she follows it to
this day. ‘The way lies upward, not
just onward,’ she says. 
JaneRaphaely
JADE HÜBNER
Mo d e l/a cto r
Jade has always been motivated
by a love of acting, singing and
presenting, but in one of the toughest
industries in the country, it takes
balance to keep it all together.

She says that she’s worked on

BARBARA MALLINSON
Fo u n d e r of o n lin e e d u c a t ion
pl a tfor m O b a m i
Barbara says her decision to open her
own business was a process going
back as far as childhood. ‘There
was a series of events, like selling
lemonade and Christmas cards as
being patient and kind, especially
when everyone looks for faults in
your work, and above all to respect
yourself. ‘One of the biggest
challenges in the industry is weight,’
Jade says. ‘They kept telling me
I was too fat or too muscular, but
I knew I was healthy and I was not
willing to compromise on that.
It’s important to respect your body,
and to know your worth.’ The best
piece of advice she’s ever received?
‘Don’t expect everything to be
handed to you, and never take
anything personally.’
jadehubner  sechabag
SECHABA G
Pr e se n te r /DJ 
Working towards a place of emotional
wellbeing is important to Sechaba G.
‘I spend as much time as I can with
my husband and my son; they’re my
therapy! I’ve also tried working from
home more.’ Seeking a mentor when
you’re ready to transition in your
career is important, she says. ‘Having
a mentor is never a bad idea.’ She
counts consistency and the ability
to adapt as two of the most valuable
keys to success.

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a firm favourite
on the Instagram
scene because
of its wearability.
Plus you don’t
need a steady
hand for this
style of nail art
– while it can
be delicate and
precise, you don’t
necessarily need
to follow a
strict pattern.
Left
Top R659, TRouseRs
R879 boTh Zara;
blazeR R869 topshop;
TRench R3 760
KLûK CGDt; bag R499
Country roaD; shoes
R250 Mrp

riGht
shiRT R249 h&M

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 SHEER + STROBING
Strobing has
been reinvented
with metallic,
kaleidoscopic
finishes that
present a
youthful and
edgy twist to
the trend.
Keep it modern
by blending the
colour across
the ear into
the hairline.
TRY Huda
Beauty 3D
Highlighter
Palette in
Summer Solstice
R1 250
BLOUSE R23 350,
SKIRT R20 150,
SOCKS R3 200,
SHOES R23 350
ALL PRADA

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 VINTAGE + SHAPED FRO

Inspired by
the late ’80s
and early ’90s,
structured Afro
cuts have made
a comeback.
Working with
your texture and
length, you can
either shape your
Afro into soft
round domes or
change it up with
sharp edges.
DRESS R39 000,
SUNGLASSES
R33 690, EARRINGS
R11 000,
BAG R37 000
ALL DOLCE&GABBANA

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 Red
Inspired by
celebrated
catwalk make-
up artist Pat
McGrath’s love
affair with glitter,
this twinkling-
red cat eye is a
statement look.
Make it work best
by priming your
lids so the glitter
doesn’t shift, and
wearing nude
skin and lips.
Try NYX
Professional
Makeup Face &
Body Glitter in
Red R240
jacket R1 199 H&M;
blazeR R9 800,
tRouseRs R4 600 both
Max Mara; jeRsey
R1 499 Country
road; belt bag R699
aldo; tights R49
Falke; Public DesiR
shoes R579 zando

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 CheCk + Big Curls

Curls are big

– and getting
even bigger.
A mid-length cut
makes defining
curls easier,
giving them the
right amount of
bounce. Avoid
heat, and work
a curl definer
into wet hair,
allowing it to air
dry. Finger-comb
or shake out your
curls to loosen
them and create
extra volume.
Try Moroccanoil
Curl Defining
Cream R510
Left
blazer r1 699,
boots r659 both
Zara; trench r1 999
topshop; jersey r529
h&M; skirt r3 200
NichoLas coutts;
belt r150 GLitterati

riGht
pullover por Zara;
jersey r529 h&M

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 Hot pink
When Pucci’s
lead make-
up artist Inge
Grognard layered
lashes with
green, white,
blue, pink and
orange mascara,
everyone
followed suit.
This season, it’s
our favourite
way to wear pink
– dramatically
layered on to
the lashes for
a full, thick
finish, and best
complemented
with a hint of
pink on the lips.
Try MAC
In Extreme
Dimension
Mascara in Work
It Out R162
left
scarf r339 Zara

right
Dress r19 190
BurBerry

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 Floral + liner
Get creative
with your
liner with this
flower-petal
inspired look. We
channelled Anna
Sui and her love
of florals for this
pretty, abstract
eyeline. Sweep
on a bold colour
in two short
strokes across
your lid. Dust
the same shade
in the middle
of your lips for
a touch of colour
on your pout.
Try 3INA
The Cream
Eyeshadow
R160 in 316

Dress r899 H&M;

Project bomber
jacket r160 MRP

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 Denim + wrapping

Inspired by
natural hair guru
Charlotte Mensah
and by Afro
hair threading,
a wrapped gold
thread allows you
to create a three-
dimensional
look right from
the scalp. The
length of the
hair or ponytail
determines the
simplicity or
complexity of
the style.
Daberechi wears
shirt POr, jeans POr
bOth calvin Klein
Jeans; jersey r439
Zara; bOOts r1 999
Green cross

anyon wears
cOat r1 099 Zara;
jacket r3 299
G-star raw; jeans
r1 699 calvin Klein
Jeans; shOes r1 099
superGa

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 PRODUCTION ASSISTANTS
DANIELLE VILJOEN, NCUMISA
MAKHONJWA, AHLUME MONESE,
MORGANE BOURGEOIS
MAKE-UP RENEE DE WIT/GLOSS
HAIR ALET VILJOEN/SNCM
POLKA DOT MANICURE MINELL/
MINELLIART USING GELLYFIT
MODELS ANYON/FUSION,
MARIAMA/FUSION, DAILI/TWENTY,
OLIVIA/BOSS, DABERECHI/BOSS
STOCKISTS SEE P126
Boho + Braids

Intricately
braided hair
graced the
runways
this season.
The key is
to embrace
individuality in
texture, colour
and shape.
We added
length, texture
and colour by
braiding wool
and thread into
the hair from
the root.
left
Olivia wears
jacket
R1 499 tOpshOp;
ShiRt R8 795
versace; SkiRt
R2 400 ted Baker;
bag R779 Zara;
bootS R2 299
steve Madden

daili wears
jacket R13 599
scOtch & sOda;
ShiRt R799
tOpshOp;
tRouSeRS R799
h&M

right
jacket R1 699 Zara

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fa shion 101

CLOSE KNIT
E a se in t o t he s e a s o n i n B R I G H T
and PAS T E L H U E S, e x ag ge rat e d k ni t s
an d f luid s i l h o u e tte s
ST YLING DANIELLE VIL JOEN
P H O T O G R A P H S I A N E N G E L B R E C H T / O N E L E A G U E C R E AT I V E M A N A G E M E N T

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T h e k nit t e d d res s
INVEST IN A SIMPLE, SLEEK
SILHOUETTE, THEN DOUBLE
UP ON PRINTS BY LAYERING
IT UNDER A CHECK COAT

COAT R1 499, DRESS R779 BOTH

ZARA; SCARF R699 COUNTRY ROAD;
RING POR FAMKE; SOCKS FROM R90 FALKE;
BOOTS R1 199 CHARLES & KEITH
fa shion 101

T h e c re w n ec k
LAYER YOUR CREW OVER AN ALTERNATE
NECKLINE, AND PAIR WITH COMPLEMENTARY
TEXTURES SUCH AS SUEDE AND FAUX FUR

JACKET R1 299, SKIRT R439 BOTH ZARA; POLO NECK R479 TOPSHOP; CREW NECK
R599 POETRY; RING POR FAMKE; SOCKS FROM R90 FALKE; BOOTS R629 TALLY WEIJL

Th e turtl e neck
UP THE ANTE ON THIS CLASSIC BY PAIRING IT
WITH A TREND PIECE LIKE CHECK TROUSERS

TURTLE NECK R529, EARRINGS (BOTTOM) R99 BOTH

H&M; TROUSERS R799 TOPSHOP; EARRINGS (TOP) R700
PICHULIK; NECKLACE R450 FAMKE; SOCKS FROM R90
FALKE; BOOTS R1 199 CHARLES & KEITH

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 T he
h o o d ed
knit
LET THIS SEASONAL
ITEM SPEAK FOR
ITSELF BY LAYERING
IT UNDER THE MUST-
HAVE JACKET OF
THE SEASON

JACKET R1 499 TOPSHOP;

KNIT R659 ZARA;
EARRINGS R99 H&M
 Th e
k ni t

SKIRT R429 H&M

SLEEVES WITH
A PENCIL SKIRT
NECKLINES AND
LONGER-LENGTH

KNIT R1 499 COUNTRY ROAD;

BALANCE DRAMATIC
o v ersi z ed
PRODUCTION DANIELLE VILJOEN PHOTOGRAPHER’S ASSISTANT THEODORE
HAIR & MAKE-UP KELLY PAITAKI/GLOSS ARTIST MANAGEMENT USING CHANEL MAKE-UP
AND KEVIN.MURPHY FOR HAIR MODEL JANKE DU TOIT/BOSS MODELS STOCKISTS SEE P126
 fa shion 101

Th e c a bl e knit
A CLASSIC REINVENTED...
OPT FOR FRINGED AND
CABLE DETAILING PAIRED
WITH TROUSERS IN
A ROOMY SILHOUETTE
KNIT R659 ZARA; TROUSERS R899 H&M;
EARRINGS R99 H&M; BOOTS R629 TALLY WEIJL

T h e s t r ip e d k n i t
TAKE ORDINARY TO
EXTRAORDINARY BY LAYERING
A STRIPED JERSEY OVER
ANOTHER WITH SIMILAR HUES

KNIT R550 OLD KHAKI; KNIT R279 (UNDERNEATH)

FOREVER 21; VOGUE SUNGLASSES R1 590 SUNGLASS HUT

MAY 2018 MARIECLAIRE.CO.ZA 91

DARK

ROMA

SAINT L AURENT
C R E AT I V E D I R E C T O R
A N T H O N Y VA C C A R E L L O
TA L K S T O M A R I E C L A I R E
A B O U T ‘ B A D TA S T E ’ , T H E
ROMANCE OF BL ACK,
A N D W H Y S H O RT S K I RT S
NCE
DON’ T SPELL SEX
fa shion insider
W
hen Anthony
Vaccarello,
35, arrived at
the helm of
Saint Laurent
in early 2016,
he had huge
shoes to fill
– and several pairs. Not only is Monsieur
Yves Saint Laurent one of the sainted icons
of French fashion, but Anthony’s predecessor
at the house, Hedi Slimane, had built a
feverish following all of his own, with his
grungy, alt take on glamour infused with
indie-music inspirations. The Italian-Belgian
Anthony ran his own label for eight years
(currently on hiatus) following a stint at
Fendi. He later designed the Versus line for
Versace, between 2014 and 2016, before
taking up the reins at Saint Laurent. He’s
known for a purer form of straight-up
sexiness – still rock ’n’ roll, but Champagne
to Slimane’s tequila shot, if you will. Two
seasons later, and his fierce, spotlight-craving
woman is carving out a new era for Saint
Laurent with her slouchy, crystal-encrusted
boots and 80s-influenced swagger.
What was your first reaction when you
were asked to be the creative director
of Saint Laurent?
I had turned down offers over the past few
years, but this one was just impossible to say
no to. The odd thing is, while working on
the first collection, I didn’t feel any pressure
at all. It’s only when I arrived at the venue
and saw the giant YSL neon logo hanging
from the crane in the middle of Paris that
I finally realised what kind of icon I now
have in my hands.
What’s your first memory of Yves Saint
Laurent?
I’m a kid from the MTV generation, so
music and video clips were my first
education – no grandmother dressed in
Saint Laurent for me. My first memory
of Yves was his iconic collaboration with
[photographer] Helmut Newton.
What are the similarities and the differences
between you and Yves Saint Laurent?
I love Monsieur Saint Laurent’s subversive
approach to clothes, his dark romanticism
with a hint of perversity. Through his work
and images, you can feel how much he
loved and respected women. That could
be seen as a similarity I guess… But I can’t
think about myself in comparison with him;
I’m listening to my instinct.
‘Fashion is not art, but it takes an artist for it
to move forward,’ said Saint Laurent. What
do you think about that?
For me, fashion is an escapist fantasia.
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fa shion insider

‘PEOPLE WILL
CLOCKWISE FROM LEFT
What is considered to be
a raunchy, provocative Saint

ALWAYS TALK ABOUT

Laurent SS17 ad campaign;
the iconic crystal-encrusted
boots from the FW18

SAINT LAURENT.
collection; another image from
the SS17 ad campaign.

THIS IS THE
POWER OF
THIS BRAND’
Even if you cannot afford something, you want
to have it. Sometimes, I prefer that to being
realistic and answering to commercial demands.
It’s good to have both. If fashion’s only about
commerce and realness, it becomes narrow.
Was it a difficult decision to give up your
own label?
This is the only brand for which I would
have given up my own label. I wanted to be
completely focused on Saint Laurent, and put
myself fully into it, so it was a natural decision.
Saint Laurent was an innovator who was never
afraid of causing a scandal. Are you like that?
I am not looking for any scandal. I am doing
what I believe in and I think Saint Laurent was
doing the same. What has been defined as a
‘scandal’ could be considered a public reaction
to what was new and unusual for that time. I am really embracing it because
I have noticed now that whatever you do or it helps me to pursue the
don’t do, people will always talk about Saint tradition of strong images that
Laurent. This is the power of this brand. is part of the Saint Laurent
‘There is not one black but many blacks,’ DNA. Think about the incredible
said Saint Laurent. Why do you both share this pictures by Helmut Newton
obsession for a non-colour colour? and Guy Bourdin, for example.
Black is just perfect. I will change black only Your ad campaigns focus a lot on sex. Do you agree?
when they invent a new black. I don’t see my campaigns as sexual. It is not a tactic,
How did you cope with the legacy of the many there’s no marketing. It’s my expression of freedom.
creative directors who have preceded you? As I said, strong images are part of the Saint Laurent
I grew up admiring all those designers. To me, their work culture. This house has had its fair share of controversy,
is also part of the history of the house. I am not going to like the launch of Opium perfume [featuring naked images
ignore their bodies of work, but I am not here to imitate of the designer himself] and the 1971 couture collection
WORDS JESS WOOD PHOTOGRAPHS GALLO/GETTY

them, either.
Your style is often described as ‘sexy’. Do you think that’s
reductive or do you like it?
I never deliberately design a dress to be sexy. To me, a
short dress is more about freedom and personality than
being attractive. It’s a modern way of dressing; it can be
androgynous but never vulgar. The truth is, fashion has
become quite a sexless territory; it’s as if sex is dirty or
a threat, which it’s not.
What’s your attitude to social media?
It can be overwhelming sometimes, but it has brought
great changes in the way we see beauty or humanity.
that was branded a ‘[sex worker] wardrobe’. Add the sexless
tendencies of the fashion industry and the increasingly
intolerant time we live in – it’s the perfect recipe for trouble
at the slightest bit of flesh.
What’s the borderline between ‘good’ and ‘bad’ taste?
I like carefully walking the line between good taste and bad
taste. I don’t think Saint Laurent himself liked the idea of
‘good taste’. It has to have a twist somehow. You can wear
something that could be wrong and still be chic. The failure,
that crack that shows emotion, that’s where the real chic lies.
What are your plans for the future?
Who knows! Life is unpredictable. mc

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 wellness

DID YOU
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WELL,
KNOW?
It takes 90 minutes
for your metabolism to
return to normal after

WELL,
a stress-related fight-
or-flight response*.

WELL
Your holistic guide
to new-age wellbeing
wel lne ss

who wants to live

forever? words meaghen broWn

W
hat if you could hit the pause button
From blood on ageing? Or live to 120 without feeling
a day over 80? More radical still, what if
transFusions to you could cheat death? Would you do it?
‘Life extensionists’ would. That’s the
experimental name modern immortality seekers go by, and devotees range
from those who’d like to live cognitively and physically

nootropics, healthier lives into old age, to the more extreme, who
ardently believe humans can, and should, overcome death

‘life extensionists’ the same way we’ve overcome, say, smallpox or tooth decay.
Overall, the movement is growing – especially among the

Will stop at
tech set and Goop enthusiasts. The pitch for immortality is
everywhere: from supplement brands spieling nootropics
(‘brain drugs’) to Ambrosia, a Silicon Valley start-up charging
nothing to hack baby boomers [around R96 000] for blood transfusions from
under-25s. It’s all part of the booming wellness industry,
the code oF liFe – which has become a roughly US$3.7-trillion market.
The field of ageing research has advanced significantly.

all to reach the Scientists have discovered specific longevity genes that select
for long lives, lifestyle adjustments that statistically improve

end goal: living your chances of living longer, and new ways in which existing
drugs – the diabetes medication Metformin, for instance – can

Way past 100,

influence rates of ageing. At the forefront, Australian expat
scientist David Sinclair, of Harvard and the University of New
South Wales, is on track to deliver an anti-ageing drug by 2023.
or even Forever The breakthrough comes with the finding that a boost of a
vitamin called NMN, a precursor to the essential coenzyme
NAD, resulted in much younger-looking mice with repaired
DNA. ‘It takes hundreds of millions of dollars to make a drug
and prove that it works safely,’ says David, who is currently
running human clinical trials for the molecule. With a lesser
burden of proof, biohackers have been quick to piggyback
the science with companies such as Elysium spruiking
NAD+ supplements as a contemporary holy grail.
 ‘i do
everything
it takes to
be here
forever’
wel lne ss
‘Living a Long Life whiLe
preserving the mind is possibLe’
Infinite wealth
Those discoveries require financial
support to make an impact – and the
movement has a lot of money behind
it. Physician and Silicon Valley investor
Joon Yun has offered prizes totalling
US$1 million to whoever can ‘hack the
code’ of ageing. Peter Thiel, billionaire
venture capitalist and founder of the
Thiel Fellowship, has spent millions
funding start-ups devoted to reverse-
engineering death.
Perhaps it was inevitable that Google
would join the party, launching an
independent biotech firm called Calico,
short for California Life Company, to
‘increase our understanding of the
biology that controls life span’, as its
cryptic website explains. In 2014, the
company lured molecular biologist
and ageing expert Cynthia Kenyon
away from her professorship at the
University of California to serve as
vice president of Aging Research. The
company recently partnered with C4
Therapeutics, which studies proteins,
to develop drugs for age-related
diseases. It all sounds a bit like science
fiction and, at this point, some of it is.
Bodies of evidence
There isn’t much that Brittany
Bejarano, a 30-year-old sports
nutritionist and personal trainer,
does that is not focused on living
forever. She is a member of People
Unlimited, an American organisation
that ‘promotes unlimited life’ and
charges [around R35 000] per year
in membership fees. Brittany takes
a range of supplements – Pycnogenol
for vein and blood vessel strength,
vitamin D to regulate her brain health
and hormones, L-Glutamine for enzyme
production, and omega-3 fish oil.
Brittany has taken part in next-level
physicals to determine the foods that
would provide her with the most
100 marieclaire.co.za may 2018
nutritional benefits, and undergoes
annual blood tests to maintain hormone
levels. In Australia, Nutrigenomix offers
a Health & Wellness test, where DNA is
sampled and tested to inform lifestyle
choices, including the personal benefits
of going gluten free, for [about R4 600]
a pop. ‘I want to make sure I am giving
my organs the right kind of nutrients,’
Brittany explains. ‘I do everything it
takes to be here forever.’
She’s not alone in her quest. In 2016,
Dave Asprey, founder of the Bulletproof
buttered coffee empire, announced his
goal was to live to 180. ‘More than 15
years and hundreds of thousands of
dollars have gone into hacking my
body, brain and performance on a
cellular level,’ says Dave. ‘This has
involved years of my own research
[and] self-experimentation.’ His latest
venture, FATwater – an energy drink
composed of deionised water, B
vitamins and something called Brain
Octane Oil sourced from coconut oil
– hit the US market earlier this year.
Living to infinity and beyond isn’t for
everyone. ‘That’s a pretty broad thing,
to be able to claim that you’re going
to live forever,’ says Rachel Perlman,
48, who works as a distributor for
a nutrient company called LifeVantage.
‘But there are things out there that
are really going to change longevity.’
Rachel is more interested in living to,
maybe, 100 – as long as she’s healthy
for the whole time. In addition to
taking her company’s products, she
uses a R23 300 infrared sauna every
day to ‘detox her cells’. ‘[Cell detox] is a
big part of extending our life,’ she says.
This has yet to be proved, but the
idea, an extension of the juice-and-
colon-cleanse movement, is catching
on – yoga studios have started using
them in place of heaters for hot classes.
Kristen Willeumier, a 45-year-old
neuroscientist, is currently working
on a book about longevity and the
brain, and has taken part in research
that demonstrates a slowdown in the
ageing process in the brain. ‘Living a
long life while preserving the mind is
possible,’ she says. For her, this means
a routine centred on mindfulness and
physical health. Her daily nutrient
regimen: ‘Vitamin B to support the
central nervous system, vitamin C to
support immune health, vitamin D
to support brain function, magnesium
to relax the nervous system, spirulina
as a superfood and vegan source of
omega-3 fatty acids, and probiotics
to support microbe health,’ she says.
She also uses intermittent fasting to
support cellular and mitochondrial
health. The end result will, she hopes,
be a long life with vitality, a sense
of purpose and lasting mental and
physical health. ‘My great-grandfather
lived to 101,’ Kristen says. ‘I aspire to
live to that age but with grace and ease.’
The science of ageing
Professor David Le Couteur of the
University of Sydney’s Centre for
Education and Research on Ageing
advocates a life-extending diet. ‘We
know caloric restriction, a fasting-
mimicking diet and low-protein, high-
carb diets have a positive impact on
ageing.’ He’s not one for fads. ‘I don’t
smoke, I exercise regularly and I am
largely vegetarian to improve my
health and quality of life now.’
David Sinclair is more daring, taking
his own experimental medicines and
the odd glass of pinot (before working
on the NMN anti-ageing pill, he found
success with resveratrol, the age-defying
antioxidant in red wine). He also plies
PHOTOGRAPHs gallo/getty
his own father with NMN drugs: ‘He’s
almost 80 and feels 30.’ As for the
immediate future, David predicts a large
increase in life span. ‘By the end of this
century, it is foreseeable that people
will live active, healthy lives up to 150.’
Until then, live long and prosper. mc
he a lth

WHAT

With the barrage of information out there, it’s easy to get

confused about what exactly we should be putting into our
bodies. Helen Wallace tries to find some clarity
the health should we be eating?
W
e are living, and eating, in the information
age, and we’re constantly bombarded with
‘facts’ about our food that can make enjoying
it difficult. With new diets being popularised
regularly, and many of them calling for the elimination of
entire food groups, it’s difficult to know what we should and
shouldn’t be eating to be the healthiest version of ourselves.
Here, we separate fact from fiction, so you can eat and drink
with peace of mind.  should be avoided wherever possible is industrial-made trans
‘ c a r b s a r e t h e d e v i l’
The TruTh ‘The idea that carbs make you fat has been
around for a long time,’ says Kim Hofmann, a Cape Town-
based dietitian and nutritionist. ‘That being said, our bodies
have evolved to be able to digest carbs, and some types of
carbs are potentially beneficial, even important, in our diets.’
These types are known as complex carbs and are found in
foods such as starchy vegetables, legumes and whole grains.
What makes them healthy is the fact that they contain longer
sugar-molecule chains, which take longer to break down in
your body, providing you with slow-release sustained energy
– exactly what you need to get through the day.
read iT Good Carbs, Bad Carbs by Johanna Burani
R197 Loot.co.za
‘a l c o h o l i s p o i s o n ’
The TruTh Many of us like to wind down at the end of a
busy day with our favourite tipple – it’s a socially acceptable
crutch. But alcohol, when used in excess, carries the risk
factors of liver damage and potential alcoholism. It is
recommended that women consume no more than one unit
of alcohol a day, which works out to roughly 90ml of wine
(and there’s no cheating and saving all seven units for the
weekend, either).
However, there’s no need to feel guilty about that one drink
a day – moderate alcohol consumption has, according to
more than 100 studies conducted by the Harvard School of
Public Health, been shown to lower the risk of cardiovascular
disease. According to a report in Neuropsychiatric Disease
and Treatment, a daily drink can also decrease your chances
of developing dementia and, according to a report published
in Diabetes Care, lower your chances of developing diabetes.
*Pours a glass of wine*
WaTch iT The Truth About Alcohol, available on Netflix
‘ F at i s a c t u a l ly g o o d F o r y o u ’
The TruTh Yes and no. Despite what many people adhering
to low-carb-high-fat diets like to tell you, not all fats are good
for your health. Eliminating fat altogether isn’t a good idea
either, as we need the energy we get from it to power us
during the day. ‘If you are going to go with a high-fat diet,
plant-based fats are the best choice,’ explains Kim. ‘Animal
fat, especially in high quantities, is not good for us.’ Fat that
fat, which is present in most fast food. So, where can we find
these healthy, plant-based fats? Avocados, nuts and seeds are
chock-full of them, so make some room for them in your
pantry – stat!
Obsessed with coconut oil? It might not be as good for
you as you think, as it is still high in saturated fat. The best
choice? Olive oil is where it’s at.
read iT The Big Fat Surprise by Nina Teicholz
R299 Takealot.com
‘ o u r s e a F o o d c o n ta i n s t o x i c l e v e l s
oF mercury’
The TruTh Fish is one of the best sources of the healthy fatty
acid omega-3, which helps optimise brain functioning. But as
we continue to pollute our oceans, the levels of mercury
present in our marine life are rising, which can be dangerous
not just to them but to us as well. If we as humans consume
large doses of mercury over extended periods of time, it can
lead to neurological and chromosonal issues, such as vision
and memory problems, skin numbness, tremors and seizures.
Pregnant women and young children are most at risk.
Swordfish, king mackerel and shellfish often have the highest
levels of mercury, but all fish contain at least a trace dose.
You don’t have to eliminate seafood from your diet entirely
though. According to the Southern African Sustainable
Seafood Initiative (SASSI), eating seafood once a week will do
you no harm whatsoever. Hake, which is the most commonly
consumed fish in South Africa, can be safely consumed up to
six times a month. That’s a decent amount of fish ’n’ chips!
What we should be more concerned about is making sure
that the fish we do eat is on the SASSI green list. Because
eating sustainably is good for the environment, which is
ultimately good for us.
doWnload iT WWF SASSI mobile app, free on App Store
and Google Play
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‘GMOs and pesticides
a r e M a k i n G u s i l l’
The TruTh ‘Pesticides and GMOs
[in moderation] cause minimal risk
to our health and the environment,’
says Kim. ‘There are, however, some
concerns of health risks related to
excessive exposure to them. It is
therefore important to eat organic
food where possible and to consume
animal products that are free-range
and not full of hormones.’ Also bear
in mind that local fruit and vegetables
are mostly free from genetic
modification, which is mainly used
in maize and soya crops. Products
sold in South Africa that are more
than five percent GMO have to be
labelled as such, giving consumers
the choice to opt for something else.
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‘ n at u r a l s u G a r s
are better than
the refined stuff’
The TruTh ‘One thing that fads such
as Banting did right was creating more
awareness around our sugar intake,’
says Kim. While some food companies
try to convince us that natural sugars
are more easily digested by our bodies
than highly processed versions, this is
not true. What is true however, is that
natural sweeteners such as honey, and
naturally sweet food like fruit, have
other health benefits that corn syrup
just doesn’t. ‘While the occasional
sugary indulgence is okay, learn to
enjoy fruit as a sweet treat,’ advises
Kim. As the old adage goes, an apple
a day keeps the doctor away – and
hopefully the sugar cravings at bay!
read iT I Quit Sugar by Sarah Wilson
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t h e w ay f O r w a r d ’
The TruTh While there are no official
stats on how many vegans there are in
SA, local Google Trends findings have
shown that interest in this lifestyle has
more than doubled over the last two
years. ‘We should ideally all be moving
to a more plant-based diet, but it is not
strictly necessary to go to the extent
of veganism,’ say Kim. ‘It can be a
difficult diet to follow, as more food
needs to be prepared at home since
less ready-made food is available to
you.’ Something else to consider when
deciding whether or not to forgo
animal by-products altogether is that
animal fats contain unique nutrients
that, while also present in some plants
and seeds, are not as easily absorbed
as they are in their fleshy counterparts.
There are also some vitamins, such as
B12, which are only present in animal
by-products, so vegans would need to
take supplements to ensure they get
enough of these.
WaTch iT Forks Over Knives,
available on Netflix
‘ w h at w O r k e d f O r M y
sister / a cO-wOrker
/ t h at c e l e b r i t y w i l l
wOrk fOr Me’
The TruTh There is no one-size-fits-
all when it comes to what we eat.
This is because we are all individuals
with different lifestyles, activity
levels and food preferences. ‘Any
type of diet can be healthy or
unhealthy depending on the types
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learn is to stop dieting and find a
way to eat forever. To find it, we
need to be more in tune with our
bodies and know what foods and
patterns of eating work for each
of us. The key to this is to listen to
your body’s needs and signals, and
learn how to eat more mindfully.’
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WITH
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HAS BECOME
A BUZZ

GUT
PHRASE
IN THE
WELLNESS
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BUT IS
THERE ANY
S U B S TA N C E
TO THIS
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B
eing a health nut must be mentally
exhausting. Every day, we’re bombarded
with new information about what’s good
for us and what could, at worst, potentially
kill us. Luckily, I’m not a health nut, but one
of the latest wellness trends – gut health
– is one that even I can get behind.
Our ‘guts’ are the central part of of our bodies, the living
room of our organs, if you will. The term refers to the entire
gastrointestinal system, but specifically your stomach, small
intestine and colon. The gut plays such an important role
and so much happens in there that, when there is some kind
of disruption, it can really ruin your day (as anyone who has
ever had food poisoning can attest). But our guts also have
a profound impact on our general wellbeing.
A WORLD WITHIN
There are colonies of good bacteria that live in our guts that,
if thrown out of balance, can affect our health in a big way.
‘The contents of the gut are part of what is known as our
microbiome, or gut flora – the tiny inner world of cells and
their molecular function that contribute
to a healthy body and mind,’ says
integrative medical doctor Arien van
der Merwe. ‘Very few microbes actually SEROTONIN,
cause disease. In fact, many are essential
for internal balance and are key to a OUR FEEL-GOOD
NEUROTRANSMITTER,
healthy immune and digestive system.’
The hype around our gut being
IS LARGELY
central to our general wellbeing may
be a recent phenomenon, but the
principle is an ancient one. The
MANUFACTURED
Ancient Greeks were big on looking
after their guts; Hippocrates wrote that
‘all diseases begin in the gut’ and,
IN THE GUT
more famously, ‘let medicine be thy
food and food thy medicine’. The
Greeks were also some of the first
to note the link between the gut
and emotional and brain health.
SMART STOMACH
Our guts are smarter than we give them credit for. Also known
in the integrative health field as ‘the second brain’, our guts
react to stress, whether psychological or physiological.
‘More and more research shows the possible connections
between the human microbiome, microbial imbalances and
chronic diseases,’ says Arien. ‘These include gum disease,
arthritis, obesity and cardiovascular disease – all of which
have renegade inflammation at their core. Autoimmune
diseases, such as irritable bowel syndrome, Crohn’s disease,
ulcerative colitis and food intolerances, which have been
thought to be purely genetic, are directly linked to a microbial
imbalance or maladaptation inside the digestive tract. And
what is it that triggers them, exactly? Evidence is pointing
to the microbiome and imbalance in gut microbes, as well
as an imbalance in lifestyle, with chronically high levels of
stress and, especially, anxiety.’
hea lth
And just in case you thought that an imbalance of gut flora
impacts only how we feel physically, think again. ‘Serotonin,
our feel-good neurotransmitter, has receptors for, and is also
largely manufactured, in the gut,’ says Arien. This means that
if our digestive system is sad, so are we.
If this research is anything to go by, it means that our gut
health, or lack thereof, is pretty much responsible for most
of the ailments we succumb to. So what should we be doing
to ensure that our microbiome – and, consequently, our entire
being – is happy?
A HEALTHY WHOLE
As with most things in life, taking a holistic approach
to your gut health is going to yield the best results. Arien
recommends managing your stress levels, which can
wreak havoc on your digestive tract; exercising for at
least 15 minutes a day, as this can change the composition
of your gut microbiome; and drinking plenty of water, in
particular at mealtimes, as this aids the digestive process
and helps food move through your system more efficiently.
Following a healthy, balanced diet is, unsurprisingly, one
of the most important things you can do. ‘People should be
eating fresh fruit and vegetables with
enough greens, wholegrain products,
beans, seeds, pulses and nuts,’ says
Arien. ‘Use garlic, onion, ginger and
herbs to prepare tasty and healthy
food. Avoid preservatives, pesticides
and chemicals as far as possible, and
use monounsaturated and unsaturated
fats such as grape seed, olive and
coconut oil, in moderation.’
Seems doable. But what should be
eliminated from our diets? ‘Avoid fried
foods, white sugar, white flour, and
saturated and trans fatty acids, such as
animal fats and block margarine. Beware
of an excessive intake of caffeine and
alcohol, and avoid unnecessary
medication as far as possible.’
One of the cornerstones of cultivating
a healthy microbiome is to maintain the healthy bacteria in
our systems. ‘Scientific studies over the last 50 years show
that probiotic organisms can improve the nutritional quality
of foods, and produce natural antibiotics, anti-carcinogens
and substances that break down and assist in the excretion
of toxins inside their human host,’ says Arien.
Adding a daily dose of these ‘friendly bugs’ to your diet is
a surefire way to get you on the road to a healthier gut and,
in turn, a happier you. You could do so by popping probiotics
every day, but another way is to introduce yoghurt, kombucha
and fermented foods (like sauerkraut, kimchi and kefir) into
your weekly diet. Everyday foods like green bananas, garlic
(preferably raw if you can stomach it) and cold potatoes
(boiled, cooled and eaten), are also known to be effective
in improving your gut health and bacteria – and don’t
require a trip to the pharmacy.
As the old adage goes, it’s what’s on the the inside that
counts. When it comes to your gut health, this couldn’t be
more true. mc
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How to win
friends and
influence people
by Dale C a r n e g ie
Businessman extraordinaire
Warren Buffet credits Dale
Carnegie’s teachings with
transforming his life.
Originally published in
1936, this book has sold
over 30 million copies
globally, making it one of
the best sellers of all time.
Best For: People who
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influence, in life and in
their careers. Inside, you’ll
find guidance on how to
get yourself out of a mental
rut, make friends quickly
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things done in less time.
tHe seven
spiritual laws
of success
by D e e p a k C h o pra
The ‘Practical Guide to
the Fulfilment of Your
Dreams’ teaches that
desperate striving isn’t
necessary or desirable.
In the natural world, understand what is best
creation comes forth for you in that moment.’
with ease. He notes, Best For: Starting off a
‘Everything is based on new chapter in your life.
choice. After praise or It encourages you to look
criticism, you must choose at the same situation in a
at that moment how you very different way.
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are conditioned to have tHe five love
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but before you just A New York Times
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you think is best, be times since 1995, this book
sure to take a pause to draws on the author’s own

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life experiences, as well as
over 35 years of pastoring
and marriage counselling.
Offering the ‘secrets to love
that lasts’, this book has
been touted as a ‘marriage
[and relationship] saviour’.
Best for: Anyone who
feels their partner needs
help with ‘getting’ them.
The Power
of Now
by E ckh ar t To lle
The best-selling book of its
generation (published in
1997), The Power of Now
is intended to be a spiritual
guide, and stresses the
importance of living
in the present moment
and avoiding thoughts
of the past or future.
The author combines
ancient teachings with
modern, practical advice
to show you how to
move past pain, anxiety
and mental blocks to
move forward, yet
remain present.
Best for: Anyone who
is feeling anxious about
the past or future.
The road Less
TraveLLed
by M . S c ot t P e ck
Drawing on his
professional life as a
practising psychiatrist,
M. Scott Peck teaches you
how to confront and solve
problems, on the road
to spiritual growth. The
legendary introduction
states, ‘Life is a set of
problems. With some
discipline you can solve
some problems. With total
discipline you can solve
all problems.’ After that
come plenty of fascinating
individual examples from
PhoToGraPhs scope images
his real-life patients. The
book is both a classic
and highly effective.
Best for: Those times
when you feel life is
difficult, and you need
it to be easy.
Special
mentionS
you may not have read
these, but you’ve definitely
heard of them. These are
some of the best-sellers
of all time – and they line the
bookshelves of many a
bibliophile, for good reason.
maybe worth packing one
on your next holiday?
The SecreT
by rhonda Byrne
eaT Pray Love
by elizabeth Gilbert
The monk who
SoLd hiS Ferrari
by robin Sharma
men are From
marS, women are
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The Seven haBiTS
oF hiGhLy
eFFecTive PeoPLe
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T he n e w bie s
The Year of Yes:
how To daNce
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The suN aNd Be
Your owN PersoN
by S ho nda Rhi me s
Written by the inimitable
Shonda Rhimes (who
brought us Grey’s
Anatomy, How to get away
with murder, The Fixer
and many others), this
book is a poignant and
funny account of how the
author overcame anxiety
and self-doubt by learning
to say ‘yes’ to all the things
that scared her in life. She
notes, ‘Everyone’s got some
greatness in them. You do.
The girl over there does.
That guy on the left has
some. But in order to really
mine it, you have to own it.
You have to grab hold of it.
You have to believe it.’
Get this book stat.
Best for: The power
woman inside each of us.
The suBTLe arT
of NoT GIvING
a fuck
by M a r k M a nso n
How could you not want
to read a book with a
title like this? This one is
about taking back your
power and owning it. In
a nutshell: ‘I know for
myself, quitting my day job
in finance after only six
weeks and telling my boss
that I was going to start
selling dating advice online
ranks pretty high up there
in my own “didn’t give a
fuck” hall of fame. Same
with deciding to sell most
of my possessions and
move to South America.
Fucks given? None. Just
went and did it.’ And you
can too.
Best for: Learning
how to take responsibility
for your life and
circumstances, and cutting
through the social-media
anxiety bullshit.
fINd Your whY: a
PracTIcaL GuIde
To dIscoverING
PurPose for You
or Your Team
b y S i mo n S i ne k
Following his extremely
successful TED talk on
‘finding your why’, Simon
Sinek penned this book,
published in 2017. In it
he explains that ‘everyone
has a WHY. Your WHY
is the purpose, cause or
belief that inspires you.
Knowing your WHY
gives you a filter to make
choices, at work and at
home, that will help you
find greater fulfilment in
all that you do. It is one
of life’s greatest joys to
wake up in the morning,
every morning, with a
clear sense of why that day
matters, why every day
matters. This is what
it means to find your WHY.
This is the start of an
inspiring journey… your
inspiring journey.’
Best for: When you
feel slightly lost and need
to affirm what your life is
all about.
ThINk YourseLf
rIch: a sTeP-
B Y- s T e P G u I d e
To fINaNcIaL
INdePeNdeNce
by M o r o k a M o di ba
Aimed at first-time
earners who want to put
themselves on the path to
financial independence,
this recently-launched
South African book
provides easy-to-
understand advice and
explains in clear terms
how to consciously choose
and plan for a debt-free
lifestyle and not only
survive, but thrive, on the
long-term journey towards
financial freedom.
Best for: Anyone
starting out on the path
to financial freedom. mc
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went on to complete a Bachelor
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is daring to say the least, and
the collaborations spot-on. ‘The
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T U R N E R

‘MY LEGACY
IS THAT
I STAYED
THE
COURSE,
FROM
BEGINNING
TO END,
BECAUSE I
BELIEVED IN
SOMETHING
INSIDE ME’
W O R D S M I C H E L L E D AV I E S
 life st or y

WHEN A NEIGHBOUR INVITED SCHOOLGIRL TINA TURNER TO HER

HOUSE TO WATCH TELEVISION BECAUSE TINA’S FAMILY DIDN’T
OWN ONE, SHE WAS OVERJOYED. Not only was the invitation
itself momentous (this was the ’40s in America’s Deep South,
where black people were still segregated and her neighbour
was white) but it opened her eyes to a world she never knew
existed. ‘I didn’t know anything about being a star until the
white people allowed us to come down and watch their
television once a week,’ Tina later recalled. ‘That’s when
I saw Loretta Young [who was nominated for two Best
Actress Oscars in the ’40s, winning one of them in 1948]
on TV. I thought that some day I’d have a star on my
dressing-room door.’
As history proved, she got her star. Tina grew up to
become one of the 20th century’s most successful recording
artists, earning eight Grammys and breaking records as one
of the highest grossing female concert performers. She is also
the woman who famously clawed her way back to the top
after fleeing an abusive marriage with only 36 cents to her
name, an inspiring story that is now
being immortalised in a new West End
stage show, Tina: The Musical.
Tina was born Anna Mae Bullock
on 26 November 1939 in Nutbush,
Tennessee. Her father, Floyd, was ABOVE
a crop workers’ supervisor, and her Ike and Tina Turner with
mother, Zelma, a housewife. It wasn’t their back-up dancers,
The Ikettes, in 1971.
a happy home: Zelma hadn’t wanted LEFT
a second child after having their first Ike and Tina pose for
daughter, Ailline, so Tina, born two a portrait in 1972.
years later, became the focus of her
unhappiness. ‘My mother didn’t love

‘PEOPLE THINK
me; it was as simple as that. Even
as a little girl, I knew she didn’t love

MY LIFE HAS BEEN

me,’ Tina later said. ‘When I was
born, she felt trapped into staying

TOUGH, BUT I
with my father.’
By 16, Tina was living in St Louis,
Illinois, with relatives. One Saturday
night, Ailline sneaked her underage
sister into a club to see Ike Turner play THINK IT’S BEEN
A WONDERFUL
with his band, Kings of Rhythm. Ike,
a major recording star locally, made an

impression on Tina, although not in the
way he hoped. ‘His music charged me
[but] I was never attracted to him,’ she
said. Tina started going to watch Ike’s
band play, and aspired to a musical career herself, but her
own dreams were set back significantly when, at 18, she fell
pregnant while dating Ike’s bandmate, Raymond Hill. Their
partnership was short-lived and, following the birth of their
son, Craig, in 1958, they split, making Tina even more
determined to make it. Her big chance came when, during
one performance, the band’s drummer passed Tina the mic
and told her to sing. ‘Ike said, “Girl, I didn’t know you could
sing!” I was so happy,’ she later recalled of her stage debut.
‘That’s when I learned I was truly talented. Before I met Ike,
I was singing at church and at picnics.’
Initially, Tina’s relationship with Ike was platonic, she told
her close friend Oprah Winfrey in a 2005 interview. ‘We were
close, like brother and sister. We had so much fun,’ she said.
JOURNEY’
‘On his nights off, we’d drive around town and he would tell
me about his life, his dreams.’ But Ike soon laid sexual claim
to Tina – against her wishes. ‘I didn’t like it, but I didn’t know
what to do or say,’ she said. ‘In those days, everybody did
what Ike said. He had the power.’ The pair recorded their first
hit, ‘A Fool In Love’, in 1960, when Tina was 21, and the band
was renamed The Ike & Tina Turner Revue (Ike chose ‘Tina’
as her stage name because it sounded like Sheena, the Queen
of the Jungle cartoon character popular at the time).
Despite her misgivings about the partnership, Tina
continued the relationship and their son, Ronnie, was born
that same year. They married two years later in Mexico. Tina
knew Ike was volatile – she’d seen him beat other girlfriends
– but it wasn’t until she tried to leave the band over

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a financial dispute that he attacked her for the first time. Below
Afterwards, he raped her – a pattern he would repeat Ike and Tina Turner
throughout their marriage. ‘I’d know when a beating was pose for a family portrait
with their son and
coming,’ she said in her 1986 bestselling memoir I, Tina. step-sons in 1972.
‘He’d walk around biting his lip and working himself up. left to right
Later, he’d hit me in the ribs and then always try to give Backstage in Rio de
Janeiro in 1988; Tina Turner
me a black eye. He wanted his abuse to be seen.’ and actor Mel Gibson on
Musically, however, the pair could do no wrong. Their the set of Mad Max Beyond
electrifying stage performances were compared to James Thunderdome in 1985; Paul
McCartney, Tina Turner and
Brown’s and, in 1962, they were nominated for a Grammy Rick Parfitt performing on
for their second single, ‘It’s Gonna Work Out Fine’. It was stage at The Prince’s Trust
because Ike had made her a star that Tina felt 10th Birthday Party in 1986.
obliged to stay. ‘I felt loyal to him,’ she
admitted. But those around her could see the
influence of Ike on his wife. In 1966, producer
Phil Spector paid Ike $20 000 to stay away
from the studio so Tina could record ‘River
Deep, Mountain High’. The track reached
number three in the UK charts, giving her a
taste of what she could achieve as a solo artist.
Off the back of it, she and Ike were booked to
open for The Rolling Stones during a stadium
tour of the US. In 1968, when it seemed she
was on the cusp of greatness, and just prior
to the tour, Tina hit rock bottom. Ike was
addicted to crack cocaine and his beatings
became merciless. Tina tried to overdose on Lee Kramer. He put her in touch
Valium, but was found and rushed to hospital. with his business partner, Roger
Again, she stayed with Ike, too bowed by fear Davies – the man who would
to make her escape. reignite her career. As Tina
In 1972, they won a Grammy for their cover began touring again, Rod
of Creedence Clearwater Revival’s ‘Proud Stewart had her perform with
Mary’, then followed it up a year later with him on Saturday Night Live,
the even more successful ‘Nutbush City Limits’. while Mick Jagger invited her

‘I dIdn’t lIke It,

In 1974, Tina released her first solo album, to duet ‘Honky Tonk Woman’
Tina Turns the Country On!, and made her with him on another Stones tour.

but In those days,

acclaimed film debut as The Acid Queen in Jagger once credited her with
rock musical Tommy. These solo forays away teaching him how to move on
from Ike convinced her she should leave him. stage, saying: ‘I learned a lot
She’d also been introduced to Buddhism and
was finding both solace and strength in daily everybody dId of things from Tina.’
Then, in December 1982,

what Ike saId.

chanting. But it wasn’t until 1976, after Ike EMI/Capitol threw a party
beat her up in the back of a limo in Texas on in New York to launch David

he had the power’

the way to a gig, that Tina finally found the
courage to walk out. Leaving their children
in the safe care of her housekeeper, she fled
across a freeway with only 36 cents in her
pocket. Friends helped her return to LA,
where she filed for divorce and fought for custody of their
sons. ‘For anyone who’s in an abusive relationship, I say this:
go. Nothing can be worse than where you are now. You have
to take care of yourself first – then you take care of your
children,’ she said.
Unfortunately, leaving Ike didn’t immediately signal
Bowie’s Let’s Dance album.
Midway through, Bowie
announced he was off to watch
his favourite female singer
perform at The Ritz – Tina Turner.
Suddenly, Roger Davies received a request to add 63 names to
the guest list, all EMI/Capitol executives, and that night Tina
landed a new record contract. In 1984, her album Private
Dancer became a worldwide hit. Tina was then 45 years old
and having the comeback of her life. Her subsequent albums,
Break Every Rule and Foreign Affair, were also chart-toppers,
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a brilliant new phase in her life. She spent eight years
struggling to make ends meet, forced to sing in cheesy
lounge clubs or appear on quiz shows such as Hollywood
Squares to pay off her debts. Ultimately, it was her famous
friends who saved her. In 1979, Olivia Newton-John invited
her to appear on a TV special with her, after which Tina
was introduced to Newton-John’s boyfriend and manager,
the latter including the anthemic hit ‘The Best’. She toured
extensively on the back of their successes and became known
for her high-energy performances, rocking out in minidresses
that showed off her enviable legs. Oprah Winfrey believed
every performance was symbolic. ‘Each electrifying swing of
her miniskirt, every slide of her three-inch Manolos, sends a
message: “I am here. I have triumphed. I will not be broken”.’
 In 1985, Tina earned rave reviews when she starred Angela Bassett and Laurence Fishburne, was a critical and
opposite Mel Gibson in Mad Max Beyond Thunderdome. box-office success and earned Oscar nominations for both
As her career continued to soar, she was introduced to leads, keeping Tina in the headlines.
German music executive Erwin Bach at a party that same Ike reacted badly to the film, saying, ‘They assassinated
year. He was 16 years her junior and they were friends my career with that damn movie.’ Though the star, who died
for a year before they began in 2007, did admit that the abuse portrayed in the
dating. While the details of her film had happened, he tried to downplay it. ‘Yeah,
marriage to Ike were widely I hit her, but I didn’t hit her more than the average
known thanks to her memoir, guy beats his wife,’ he told Spin magazine.
I, Tina, the 1993 release of a film In 1999, at the age of 60 and at the most
based on her life brought them successful point in her career, Tina surprised
into sharp focus again. What’s everyone by announcing that her tour that year
Love Got To Do With It, starring was to be her last and she was retiring. ‘She wants
to go out on top, while she’s at her best. She doesn’t
want to become a faded caricature of herself,’ said
her friend and long-time publicist Bernard Doherty
at the time. Since then, Tina has lived a life of
blissful peace and quiet in Zurich, Switzerland,
with Bach, who she married in July 2013 (long-time
friend Bowie serenaded them at the ceremony).
Despite her retirement, she hasn’t been able to
completely resist the lure of the stage. She caused
ABOVE a sensation when she popped up at the 2008
Tina with husband Grammys to perform the most incredible version of ‘Proud
Erwin Bach in 2005.
lEft
Mary’ with Beyoncé. ‘When the person you admire the most
Tina performs with likes you enough to perform with you, it’s amazing,’ said
Beyoncé at the 2008 a starstruck Beyoncé afterwards. ‘I have to watch it in order
Grammy Awards.
to digest it because I can’t believe that just happened.’
Now, in the spotlight once more with Tina: The Musical,
Tina has no qualms about the brutal side of her life being
depicted on stage, because she’s made her peace with it.
‘People think my life has been tough but I think it’s been
a wonderful journey,’ she said. ‘The older you get, the
more you realise it’s not what happens, it’s how you
deal with it.’ mc

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TIPS FOR
DRIVING LONG
D I S TA N C E S
There’s nothing quite like
hitting the open road and
leaving all your stress
behind. But if you don’t
plan properly, you could
end up meeting more
troubles on the road...

BEFORE yOu GO

StatuS update
The new generation of SUVs and crossovers prove that
bigger is better in the style stakes. JULIET McGUIRE
recommends three of the latest to arrive in South Africa
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Don’t wait until that first
rest stop to think about
things like tyre tread. At
least a week before
heading out, check your
lights (including hazard
and brake lights), your
tyres, your wipers, and
water and coolant levels.
Take your car to a service
station and have them
check your brakes,
battery, belts, filters
and warning lights.
ON THE ROAD
• Use your GPS to avoid
traffic issues and to work
M a s e r at i L e va n t e s out your pit stops.
The Levante S, the highly anticipated petrol version of Maserati’s • Keep a safe following
SUV, is now available locally. This vehicle boasts outstanding power, distance – do not tailgate.
amplifying the brand’s signature roar. Until now, the Maserati • Be conscious of other
Levante has been available in South Africa as a V6 turbo diesel drivers. Avoid erratic
engine; the new twin turbo V6 petrol Levante S gets you from movements, always
0 to 100km/h in just 5.2 seconds – making it a true performance signal early, be patient
machine. ‘The arrival of the Levante S cements Maserati’s position and overtake only when
as one of the country’s leaders in the niche vehicle segment, including safe and legal to do so.
luxury SUVs,’ says Brad Graaff, operations manager for European • Heavy vehicles need a
Automotive Imports South Africa. ‘Maserati is committed to the South long distance to stop, so
African market, as the Levante S follows a range of vehicle updates don’t cut in front of them.
introduced earlier this year. Maserati South Africa has two showrooms, • Don’t allow yourself to be
in Joburg and Cape Town, with a third opening in Durban soon.’ distracted. Let someone
else change the music.
If you’re driving alone,
plan a playlist in advance.
• Rest! The driver should
get at least seven hours
sleep before a long drive.
• Avoid travelling during
your body’s downtime
(between 2am and 6am).

• Take breaks, but avoid

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Rather drink lots of water
range rover veLar BMW X2 and eat healthy foods to
The fourth member of the Range Rover family Style doesn’t have to cost nearly keep your energy levels up.
sits smack-bang in between the Evoque and a million rand. Having just launched
Sport models. It’s a new type of Range Rover, in South Africa in March, this is the newest For more road-trip tips, go
giving customers an additional offering, and model in the BMW X range. It’s sporty, to Womenonwheels.co.za
a fresh take on the luxury SUV. it’s unique and it’s definitely stylish.

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LINDIWE
IN MY
BATHROOM
MÜLLER-
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AT WORK I MUST
have my Nespresso
coffee Indriya. I’m writing
my first feature film and
ON MY BEDSIDE
TABLE IS

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it requires many hours in
front of my laptop. always a book by a
female writer – I love to
be inspired by others in
my field. I just finished
Purple Hibiscus
by Chimamanda
Ngozi Adichie,
and I’m currently
reading Homegoing
by Yaa Gyasi.

MY FAVOURITE
CITY IS
Berlin, although I’d like to
travel to Woodstock, New
York to make a country-
blues album next.

THE PEOPLE I CAN’T

LIVE WITHOUT
are my husband, Marius, and my sister,
Zani. Marius keeps me grounded, reminds
me to trust my instincts with my writing,
and fills me with love. Sisterhood is a
special bond. Zani is my best friend; we
are inseparable and speak every day.
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