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Jiarong Huang

ESL 33B - Project 3

Dr. Carlisi

12 June 2018

Thesis Statement:

Although Chinese parents and their young children have different thoughts in making life

decisions because of the generation gaps, ultimately, the children make decisions for themselves

so that they don't have regrets.

Detailed Outline

I. Introduction of generation gap

A. There are many Chinese immigrants in the U.S.

1. The number of Chinese immigrants population is faster to increase in the

United States (Wang 186).

2.The Chinese immigrant group is the fourth-largest group in the U.S.

(Wang 186).

B. Some relationship between Chinese parents and children about cultural generation

gap are common situation in many families.

1.The cultural conflicts is a major factor to cause stress on relationship

between parents and children (Schmidt 24).

2.Parents think their children need to be concerned about carefully and treat

them like a kid (Schmidt 24).

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C. Thesis: Although Chinese parents and their young children have different

thoughts in making life decisions because of the generation gaps, ultimately, the

children make decisions for themselves so that they don't have regrets.

II. Chinese parents have different attitudes and values because of Chinese old cultures which

they received in the past and have been influenced for a long time.

A. Chinese past cultures are Confucian values of filial piety which emphasizes that

children need to respect and obey for parents (Boutakidis and Chao 130).

1.Chinese parents really emphasize this traditional values on children's

education (Wang 186).

2.In traditional culture, the negative emotion is harm for relationship so that

it expected to be controlled and restricted by children themselves (Wang

185).

B. Chinese parents use the traditional Chinese methods to raise and teach children.

1.Chinese parents restrict children's friendship and free time management.

a. Christine Guan's dad didn't let her make friend with the black who

he thought they are bad ("Chinese kids struggle with racist parents

and high expectations").

b. Christine was asked to learn algebra instead of playing with other

kids at home when she was a kid ("Chinese kids struggle with

racist parents and high expectations").

2. Chinese parents often help children to develop right behaviors instead of

the discussion of emotion (Wang 186).

III. Immigrant children acculturate faster than parents (Boutakidis and Chao 129).
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A. Chinese children who are growing in the U.S. have complete different attitudes

and values from parents.

1.In the U.S., parents give more freedom to children to make their own

decisions and understand themselves.

a. Euro-American mothers often explain what the children's

happening feeling so that they can understand their own feeling

(Wang 186).

b. In western culture, it embraces that individuality emotion should

be regarded (Wang 186).

c. The Euro-American parents try their best to support children

opportunity to express their own emotions and feelings so that they

can get what they needs and in order to raise an "emotionally

intelligent" child (Wang 186).

2.The educational system also support more freedom to children to be more

independent.

B. Children have their own thoughts.

1.They think they grows up and have ability to make own decision which

they like and want.

2.They are independent and want to leave home and struggle for their own

life and dreams.

IV. There are some methods to solve the problems about the cultural generation gap in

Chinese-American families.
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A. The cultural gaps affect parents and children to understand with each other on the

communication and their relationship (Boutakidis and Chao 129).

B. They should stand in different position for each other to think about.

C. Native fluent can help children to understand parents values and perspectives

about native cultures (Boutakidis and Chao 129).

V. Conclusion

Because of the cultural generation gap, Chinese parents and children have different

cultural background and thoughts on making life-change decisions. However, it is no

regret that children make decisions by themselves and struggle for their dreams. Parents

should trust their children can do well by themselves and give more freedom to them to

be more independent. They need more communication to understand for each other.
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Introduction

"It is cold today. You should put on the sweater." "The weather is 65 Fahrenheit degree and

it isn't cold." These similar communication are always happened between Chinese parents and

children. So in China, many teenagers say that there is a cold weather which your parents think

you are cold. We can see some deep thoughts from these common situations. Parents think their

children need to be careful concerned about and treat them like a kid (Schmidt 24). They always

want to care about everything and make some decisions for their children. Maybe these are

parents' love for the children. However, the children have grown up that they have ability to

make decisions for themselves and they can care about themselves. So parents need to give more

freedom to the children. In fact, because Chinese parents and children who are growing up in the

U.S. receive the different cultures, they will have these problems. Cultural conflict is a major

cause of stress in relationships between parents and children (Schmidt 24). Especially, these

situation always happen in Chinese immigrant families in the U.S.

The Chinese immigrant group is the fourth-largest group in the U.S.(Wang 186). There

are many Chinese immigrants in this country. Also, the number of Chinese immigrant population

is faster to increase in the United State(Wang 186). As a result, it is a common situation in

Chinese immigrant families in the U.S. Chinese parents care about everything and make

decisions for the children because they love the children and they think they need to do that for

them who are kids in parents' eyes always. In contrast, children don't want their parents to restrict

their freedom in everything and on making decisions. In a word, although Chinese parents and

their young children have different thoughts in making life decisions because of generation gaps,

ultimately, the children make decisions for themselves so that they don't have regrets.
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Body Paragraphs: Outline Section II. A.

Fig.1 The diversity of Asian Americans

Fig.2 Educational Attainment, by Generation

From Fig. 1, we can see that there are many Asian immigrants in the U.S. Also, 24.5% of

Asian immigrants are Chinese. When the Chinese immigrants move to the new city in the U.S.,

they may meet many problems because of the different cultures. The figure 2 shows that the first

generation of immigrants have the lower educational achievement than the second generation. 28%

of first generation's educational level is less than high school. The Chinese parents are the first

generation immigrants. Many of them complete their education in their own country and never

attend to the school in the U.S. They have learned their own country's cultures for many years so

that the past cultures can influence them deeply in attitudes and values. In the contrast, when
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their children are born and grow up in the U.S., they are the second generation immigrants. They

go to school in the new city and learn the new cultures which are different from their immigrant

parents'.36% of the second generation graduate from the college. They get the new cultures

which will affect them in many ways. As a result, the Chinese parents and their children have

different thoughts on everything of life because of the cultural generation gaps.

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